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270. What's Anchoring You? · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: What is an anchor? There are two definitions of anchor
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  Speaker 1: that I want to focus on. One is the practical definition,
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  Speaker 1: which is a nautical tool, right? It's basically a metal
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  Speaker 1: object that's attached to a chain. Oftentimes you see it
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  Speaker 1: on a large ship or boat. What its job is,
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  Speaker 1: is the way it's designed, this metal object has a
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  Speaker 1: sharp hook that as it falls to the ocean floor
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  Speaker 1: or the sea or the river, it holds the vessel
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  Speaker 1: in place, okay? So that is the definition of what
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  Speaker 1: an anchor is when we think about the tool. Now, figuratively,
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  Speaker 1: an anchor can be a family member, a thing, whatever
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  Speaker 1: it is that Its intention for you is to provide stability,
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  Speaker 1: to provide safety, to provide emotional strength during a difficult time,
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  Speaker 1: a time where it's hard for you to steady yourself, right?
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  Speaker 1: Think about the boat. You're the boat. You need to
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  Speaker 1: be steadied and you need a person, a thing. You
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  Speaker 1: need that support to provide you that emotional strength. My
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  Speaker 1: question to you is, what is your anchor? What do
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  Speaker 1: you lean into when you are feeling that unsteadiness? When
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  Speaker 1: you are feeling the weight of life, the weight of
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  Speaker 1: the world? I want you to focus in on that. Hello,
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  Speaker 1: my friends from all across the globe and welcome to
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  Speaker 1: the Your Enriched Self podcast. I am your host, Mylene Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And what
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  Speaker 1: that means is I am here for you. I'm looking
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  Speaker 1: out for you. I want to make sure that in
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  Speaker 1: this season, in this life, that you are becoming more
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  Speaker 1: of your enriched self. And if I know what's happening
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  Speaker 1: in your world right now, in the world we live
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  Speaker 1: in right now, there's so many things vying for your attention.
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  Speaker 1: So many things are stealing you away from you connecting
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  Speaker 1: with you. And one of the things we miss the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to connect with are our own thoughts. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when you think about how you have been educated. There
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  Speaker 1: was little room to think and more room to do.
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  Speaker 1: On this podcast, I want to flip it and give
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  Speaker 1: you more room to think because your thoughts guide your life, right?
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  Speaker 1: Think about it for a second. The ideas that you have,
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  Speaker 1: the things you have accomplished in life started with a thought.
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  Speaker 1: That planted a seed, that seed with more thoughts and
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  Speaker 1: more works. You started to nurture it with new ideas,
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  Speaker 1: innovative thoughts, ways of thinking. And that then moved you
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  Speaker 1: into activity based on those thoughts. That action and activity
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  Speaker 1: led you down the path of whatever the journey was, right?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe saving some money. starting a business, writing a book.
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  Speaker 1: It started with your thoughts. So your thoughts are very
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  Speaker 1: important to your life. And that's what we do on
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  Speaker 1: this podcast. So if you are here, I know that
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  Speaker 1: you want to become more of your enriched self. So hey,
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  Speaker 1: if this is your first time on the podcast or
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  Speaker 1: listening to the podcast, welcome. I know that you were
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  Speaker 1: brought here on purpose, for a purpose. And I thank
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  Speaker 1: you for being here because there's so many podcasts streets
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  Speaker 1: and places you can be, but you chose to be
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  Speaker 1: here on this You're Enriched Up podcast platform. And if
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  Speaker 1: you are a repeat listener and you've been doing this
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  Speaker 1: for a while with me, we've been doing this together
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  Speaker 1: for five years. That's a long time to go together.
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  Speaker 1: And so you understand this journey. You understand whether you
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  Speaker 1: started five years ago or you're playing catch up. I
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  Speaker 1: want to thank you from the bottom of my heart
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  Speaker 1: for being here, for showing up, to become more of
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  Speaker 1: your enriched self and bringing people along for the journey, right?
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  Speaker 1: That's part of this journey is to help your friends
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  Speaker 1: and family connect the dots to their thoughts. Okay, now,
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  Speaker 1: if you know, you know, one of the things I
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  Speaker 1: do each and every week is I make a deposit
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  Speaker 1: into the bank of you and I do that by
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  Speaker 1: way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start
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  Speaker 1: your day and... to command your morning. And this week's
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  Speaker 1: episode is, I choose gratitude as my anchor. I choose
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  Speaker 1: gratitude as my anchor. I choose gratitude as my anchor. Now,
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  Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode. of the Your
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  Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. I want to begin this conversation before
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  Speaker 1: we jump into Thanksgiving. Around that time we get so
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  Speaker 1: busy and enamored with life and activities and family and
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  Speaker 1: all of the things that we're doing to prepare to
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  Speaker 1: gather people. and break bread with each other. So I
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  Speaker 1: want to bring this conversation early in the month of November.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the conversation about Thanksgiving, right? I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to wait for the day of Thanksgiving to give thanks.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're in this community, you know that Thanksgiving
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  Speaker 1: should be for you already a daily practice. Every day
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  Speaker 1: throughout the entire season you're in, whatever season you're in,
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  Speaker 1: this is the best way to anchor yourself. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's really important that Thanksgiving is what we bring forward
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  Speaker 1: because it's always been a reminder to me to come
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  Speaker 1: back to center. Like there can be so many things
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  Speaker 1: happening in my life. There can be so many things
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  Speaker 1: happening in the life around me, like my workplace, my community,
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  Speaker 1: the world that we live in, right? This year has
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  Speaker 1: been a very challenging year in households, listening to people's stories,
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  Speaker 1: it's been very challenging. And I think this is a
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  Speaker 1: great place with all of the chaos, the trauma, the drama,
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  Speaker 1: all the things that are pulling us in the many directions.
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  Speaker 1: It is easy to spiral down a rabbit hole that
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  Speaker 1: becomes difficult to climb out of. sometimes we get so
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  Speaker 1: focused on what's going wrong. Oh my gosh, what's missing,
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  Speaker 1: what's difficult, you know, that thing that happened, the thing
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  Speaker 1: that didn't happen. We forget to acknowledge what's right, what's good,
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  Speaker 1: what's wholesome, what's healthy, where the gratitude is in the
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  Speaker 1: pockets of your life, the moments of Thanksgiving. And that's
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  Speaker 1: all I want to bring forward today in this conversation
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  Speaker 1: is is to offer you a simple Thanksgiving reminder. Not
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  Speaker 1: to allow the storm, maybe you're currently going through a storm,
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  Speaker 1: maybe you're coming out of a storm, and it's hard
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  Speaker 1: to not look back on, oh my gosh, what I've
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  Speaker 1: been through these last few months, these last few weeks,
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  Speaker 1: this last night. But I want you to recognize, even
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  Speaker 1: in that storm, that there are blessings that you've already experienced.
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  Speaker 1: And quite honestly, there are some blessings in the back,
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  Speaker 1: in the rear view mirror. I know that those challenging opportunities,
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  Speaker 1: those tumultuous terrain that you've walked through, it makes it
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  Speaker 1: difficult to see the blessings in the back because those
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  Speaker 1: things like to take center stage. They tend to take
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  Speaker 1: center stage because they're draining the resources out of you,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's emotional, social, financial, the resources are being drained.
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  Speaker 1: So it's hard to look back and see where you've
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  Speaker 1: been blessed when the big glaring sign on the billboard
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  Speaker 1: says hurt, pain, trauma, drama. So my invitation to you today,
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  Speaker 1: first of all, is to make gratitude your number one
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to come back to your center. Now, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to always talk about gratitude, but I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: be remiss that it doesn't mean life is perfect. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean your life is perfect. It doesn't mean you're
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  Speaker 1: not dealing with those challenging opportunities or you're not dealing
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  Speaker 1: with overwhelm or disappointment. Gratitude, even when the disappointment, the overwhelm,
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  Speaker 1: the whatever, it gives you a way in to shifting
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  Speaker 1: your perspective. And that's what I want you to do.
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  Speaker 1: I just want you to have that mini shift when
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  Speaker 1: everything seemingly is closing down on you. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to acknowledge that. that although life is difficult and difficulties
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  Speaker 1: have presented themselves, there are moments in life, there are
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  Speaker 1: things worth celebrating. That's why I make a big deal
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  Speaker 1: about my birthday every year, right? My birthday is in October.
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  Speaker 1: I call it my-tober because I just want to do
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  Speaker 1: a month takeover. I don't get to be this obnoxious
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  Speaker 1: about my birthday every Because it's only one month a year.
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  Speaker 1: So why not make it worth celebrating? Now, when that's happening,
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't mean everything is going perfect in my life.
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  Speaker 1: That means I'm being intentional about celebrating me, celebrating the
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  Speaker 1: people around me, celebrating life. I spent my birthday, the
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  Speaker 1: first couple hours after I did my morning run, I
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  Speaker 1: went to Stone Mountain because I wanted that first morning sunrise.
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  Speaker 1: That's something that I cherish, I value. I often feel
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  Speaker 1: like my slice of heaven is literally me walking into
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  Speaker 1: a sunrise or a sunset. I feel like that's what
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  Speaker 1: heaven is going to be like for me when I
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  Speaker 1: get there. I don't know what that is yet, but
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  Speaker 1: I can imagine it is such a beautiful space to
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  Speaker 1: be in. And as I felt that sun on my
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  Speaker 1: skin that morning with that sunrise, I felt gratitude. I
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  Speaker 1: felt grateful. I felt honored that I'm still here. I
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  Speaker 1: recognize that there are people that didn't make it that night, right?
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  Speaker 1: They didn't make it to their birthday. I just lost
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  Speaker 1: a loved one this year. I get it. I understand it.
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  Speaker 1: And that's where I want you to go. When you
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  Speaker 1: get there, it becomes a radical gratitude exercise and you
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  Speaker 1: can't stop. I danced in the sun. I smiled with
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  Speaker 1: the sun, in the sun, while dancing in it. I
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  Speaker 1: sat in it. I allowed myself to feel all the feels, right?
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  Speaker 1: To be in the moment, to be anchored, And that's
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  Speaker 1: my invitation to you is to get anchored in gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: to think about the moment. That moment, that day, as
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  Speaker 1: I think about it, I get all excited all over again, right?
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  Speaker 1: I want to go back and do it again because
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  Speaker 1: that moment deserved recognition. That moment of gratitude deserved recognition. Again,
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  Speaker 1: it didn't erase the storms. Listen, my day wasn't, my
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  Speaker 1: days haven't been perfect. But I made that day intentional
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  Speaker 1: to bring gratitude in, to remind me that whether I'm
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  Speaker 1: dealing with the storm or dealt with the storm, that's
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  Speaker 1: not the whole story. There is more story in your
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  Speaker 1: life to be told. And if you just focus on
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  Speaker 1: the stormy story, you're missing the opportunity to celebrate. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't want that for you, okay? I want you
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  Speaker 1: to remember simply that you have been blessed. Right. As
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  Speaker 1: we enter Thanksgiving, I want you to not just focus
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  Speaker 1: on the big things, but I want you to think
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  Speaker 1: about the little things, too. There are things that are
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  Speaker 1: happening all around you. Right. There's conversations that you had
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  Speaker 1: with a friend that might have made you smile or
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  Speaker 1: an opportunity that came around the corner that you didn't
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  Speaker 1: even expect. Right. Maybe for me, you know, working out
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  Speaker 1: at the gym and I'm finding that I'm getting stronger
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  Speaker 1: in areas. Right. Maybe it's a person that checked in
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  Speaker 1: on you or a person you checked in on and
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  Speaker 1: you learned something great was going on in their life.
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  Speaker 1: Lessons you've learned. There are so many little things. I
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  Speaker 1: know the big things that get all the clout and
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  Speaker 1: the confetti and the likes and the toasts and the comments. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's great. But there are little factors, little moments, little anchors, right,
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  Speaker 1: that keep you focused on what's important. And that is
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  Speaker 1: mostly me. to get to a simple point in your life,
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  Speaker 1: in your day, to show up for yourself and trust
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  Speaker 1: that the journey is worth it. I know that when
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  Speaker 1: you look ahead, especially as we get to the end
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  Speaker 1: of the year, you see busy ahead. You see signs
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  Speaker 1: and arrows and everything pointing, but I don't want you
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  Speaker 1: to forget when you're in that moment, and it's easy
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  Speaker 1: to forget the things because there's so much going on,
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  Speaker 1: to appreciate what you have. And that's You know, this
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  Speaker 1: time of year, as people are getting gifts and buying
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  Speaker 1: gifts and doing all the gifting things, it's so easy
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  Speaker 1: to start the comparison thing. It's so easy to say,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't get this and I didn't get that, or
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  Speaker 1: I wanted this thing, but I couldn't afford it. You know,
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  Speaker 1: don't worry about those things, right? You have life. And
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  Speaker 1: I know that sounds like, oh my gosh, everybody says that,
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  Speaker 1: or I've heard that before. It's so cliche. I'm telling you,
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  Speaker 1: you're focused on the wrong things. You're focused on the
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  Speaker 1: wrong things. Think about all the growth that you've had.
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  Speaker 1: And if you want something, listen, save up for it.
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  Speaker 1: Put it on your wish list. Plan for it. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: we want something that we didn't plan for because we
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  Speaker 1: have other priorities. But that's not the point. The point is,
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  Speaker 1: there's something really powerful when you recognize the blessings you
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  Speaker 1: already have. The things... that have already arrived. Not the
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  Speaker 1: things you're waiting on, not the things you want, but
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  Speaker 1: the things you have already arrived in your life, right?
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  Speaker 1: I want that to stay in your mind, right? And
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  Speaker 1: as you are thinking about the things that have already happened,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to think about the hope of what's ahead,
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  Speaker 1: what's to come, right? So listen, start your day with thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: Find a midday pause. This is your homework, by the way, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Be intentional about starting your day with thanksgiving, with gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: reminding yourself of how you've been blessed. Take that midday pause. Again,
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of the day, you get away from
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  Speaker 1: your computer, you go for a walk, whatever you do,
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  Speaker 1: make it an intentional moment to seek that thanksgiving. And
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  Speaker 1: then when you wind down at night, nothing more beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: nothing more precious than reminding yourself of the beauty, the gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: the good things that have occurred in the day, right?
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  Speaker 1: So think about it like this. This is the question
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  Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself. What is one thing
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  Speaker 1: you can be thankful for today? I don't want you
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  Speaker 1: to worry about getting a laundry list. Now, I can
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  Speaker 1: go on and on, and I'm sure you can too,
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  Speaker 1: but just think about the one thing. It doesn't need
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  Speaker 1: to be perfect. It doesn't need to be a big thing, right?
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  Speaker 1: Just the one moment, the one blessing, and the one reminder,
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  Speaker 1: and that's Thanksgiving. I hope you enjoyed this week's episode
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