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147. Mindset Makeover · Your Enriched Self

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So back in March, I joined a six week boot camp, and I
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have to say I had a lot of great results. I met a lot
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of great people, and I've learned more about what I need to do on
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my fitness journey. That said, I decided to join the next fitness boot
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camp, and now I'm in the middle of another six week boot camp.
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And here's what I will say. If you are serious about fitness, if
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you're serious about healthy living, you cannot stop when you see the results.
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You cannot stop when you get to a number on the scale. You cannot
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stop when you've achieved some of the goals that you once thought were unattainable.
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I know, for me, one of the areas that I see a lot
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of change is my run journey. And I started running back in I believe
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two thousand and eight, two thousand and nine. Since then, you know,
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there's been changes in my life, changes in my body, changes in
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my strem structure, and therefore changes in how I run, how fast I
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run, how I can maintain my breathing, all of the things that go
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into the run journey. And since being in this boot camp, I've seen
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some of those things that were once kind of stale and stagnant. When it
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comes to my run journey turn around. I'm finding myself stronger, I'm finding
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myself more resilient, I'm finding myself breathing better, and I'm improving my time,
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which is also a great thing as well. And so what I'm saying
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here is when you get to that number, when you see the progress,
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it becomes a continuum. Not just because you've got to that personal record and
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you've seen some of your best results come about that you stop. I mean
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truly if you want to be the best version, the healthiest version of yourself.
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This journey of fitness, this journey of mindset, this journey of career,
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this journey of entrepreneurship, this journey of money management, it is a
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lifestyle journey. You never hear of someone who achieves millionaire status stop there.
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They want to continue growing, to see how far can I go? Can
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I get to multimillionaire status? And then you see multimillionaires say can I get
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to billionaire status? And some might think, oh, that's greed or whatever.
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I see that as what else can I do? What if I applied
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the same principles I applied to get to this point, which is what I'm
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doing now on my fitness journey. I did a six week thing. I
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saw some changes because I made changes. See that's the thing. You see
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changes because you make changes. I was doing things intentionally. I wasn't just
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doing things because right, I mean, I'm not going to say that I've
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not been serious about my fitness journey. But now I have intention I'm paying
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attention to the things that i want changed. And what I realize and I
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want to what I want you to realize is that change is sustained because you
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continue to grow on that journey. So in order for me to contain and
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maintain the changes that I'm making, I need to continue my growth on this
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journey. My fitness journey is not just a destination of I achieved a goal
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on the scale or I'm improving on a run. It is a continuum,
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and that's what life is all about. It is a lifelong journey to whatever
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it is that you're attaining. Whether for me in this case, it's fitness
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and a healthy living. And if I continue these things, They're just going
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to be part of my lifestyle. It's not going to be a one shot
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goal, a two shot goal. It's going to be lifestyle living and appreciating
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where I am, where I've been, and where I'm going. Hello,
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my friends are all across the globe and welcome to the Urine Rettel Podcast.
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I am your host, Smiley Noir, Iami Mindset Coach and your mindset Advocate
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and all that means in this world where there's so much that requires your attention.
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I want you to be the best version of yourself, and it starts
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with your mindset. And that's what we talk about here on the podcast,
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because your thoughts inspire your words, the words you speak into this world and
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the words you speak over your life, and those words then become the action
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and the activity, and that's how you show up in the world. And
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I know if you're listening to this podcast, you want to show up as
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the best version of yourself. And that's what we do each and every week.
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We talk about mindset, fusion topics, self care, soul care,
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and everything in between so that you can become more of your enriched self.
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So, if you are a first time listener to the podcast, I want
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to welcome you. I want to thank you for being here. I know
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that you were brought here on purpose for a purpose and if you are a
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repeat listener, listen. We are at episode one hundred and forty seven.
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We are narrowing that one hundred and fifty eight episode. It is a great
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milestone and I'm so thrilled that you've been on this journey for one hundred and
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forty seven weeks. Hang in there. We are getting ready to celebrate episode
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one hundred and fifty and I could not have done it without you, So
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I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Now, if
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you know, you know, before we get into this week's topic, and
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it's going to be a good one, I make sure each and every week
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that I make a deposit in the bank of you, and I do that
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by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day,
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fill up your bank and your tank, and to command your morning. And
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this week's affirmation is, as I express more gratitude, I attract more good
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in my life. As I express more gratitude, I attract more good in
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my life. As I express more gratitude, I attract more good in my
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life. Life. Now, let's get ready for this week's episode of the
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Your Enriched Self podcast. Last week we started the conversation about mindset shifts,
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and I really want to take this series to a new level this week.
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I want to introduce this idea of a mindset remodel or a mindset renovation.
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I'm sure you've seen the home makeover shows on HGTV where folks are interested in
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renovating their homes. They are interested in maybe flipping a home that's in bad
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construction, or reimagining what a space can be that's in the home. A
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lot of restructuring, a lot of reorganization. And we need to think about
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our mindset as a home renovation because your thoughts, the home of your thoughts,
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live in your mind. Depending on what that house has in it and
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how it's designed, that design can be skewing how you think about things,
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how you see things, how you experience things. And so that's why it's
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important to have this mindset makeover. The current design may not fit how you
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want to live your life, or it may not be purposeful for what it
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is you want to do in your life. And again, think about the
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home renovation where someone has a kitchen that doesn't have enough counter space. They
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want to make their kitchen more purposeful. They maybe want to add an island.
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People you see a lot of times they don't have enough storage. That's
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one of the things I struggle with in my kitchen. Actually, both of
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those things, not enough countertop space and not enough areas to store things.
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And so when I do my home renovation, when I do my kitchen makeover,
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it's going to have more space to store things. But it's also going
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to have have more countertop space. And that is because I am being intentional
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about making my space purposeful. And I want you today to be intentional about
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stretching your mind. And stretching your mind is going to require you to let
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go of some things, abandon the way you've seen things, reimagine and reconstruct
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how you see and do things in your life. The mindset remodel I want
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you to think about is going from havel to to want to. And there's
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a step in between right where we get to and we'll talk a little bit
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about that. The one thing I want us to kind of level set on
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is when we're shifting our mindset. Oftentimes we get caught up in things as
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obligations and it feels forced. For example, the alarm goes off in the
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morning, maybe you have an alarm set to go to work. Look at
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it. Oh my god, I have to get up and go to work.
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Key phrase, I have to get up to go to work today.
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And so what I'm saying to you is let that foundation of the obligation of
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the opportunity, let that go, remove that design. Start thinking more about
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embracing what you get to do and less about what you have to do.
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So now in the morning, when you get up, first of all,
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you get to be here, You get to be on this side of life,
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and then you get to go provide a means for yourself and your family.
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And that's essentially what it is. It is literally redesigning how we think,
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how we discuss our mindset. So if you think of the state of
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your current mindset, you may in fact be in a place you feel forced
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and you feel a resistance. You feel like it's too much, feel like
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it's too forced, You feel like you're obligated to this thing. Those obligations
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start to mount up when you think of the multitude of daily tasks that you
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have to do. But it starts in the mind. The discussion is happening
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in that space that you want to make over. And so we need to
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change the space. Think about my kitchen, change the space to find more
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purposeful opportunities. Knowing the state of your current mindset. Most of us are
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in the mindset of this is what I have to do. What I'm saying
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to you is, let's transition. Let's start finding space. Let's start renovating
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to a get to mindset. And I want to highlight the get to mindset
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because we're going from being forced to go to work. Think about the example
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of going to work or maybe even going to the gym right where you feel
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forced, you feel like you have to go to them. I have to
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go to the gym today. And I'll be honest with you. I've said
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this before and I say it again. I get up every day most days
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at four am so I can be at the gym at five. It is
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a challenge. It is a challenge to get up. But even thinking about
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going to the gym, it's I have to write I'm in a boot camp.
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I have to be there on time, I have to do these workouts.
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I have to get enough sleep as opposed to I get to go to
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the gym in the morning and work out. It is really a privilege when
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you think about what you were able to do. I mean, even as
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I mentioned at the onset of the podcast, what I've been able to do
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when I first started and where I am today starting to look like a night
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and day difference. And that is because of the work I'm putting in.
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That is because I get to work out in the morning to I'm starting to
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change how I see that. I'm grateful that I get to do this because
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that means I'm a alive and I can thank God that I have life in
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my body. B I have the means to get to the gym, so
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I have transportation. See, I now have community, so I'm with like
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minded people. That's a great way to start your day. So I get
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to be around like minded people. We're all there for the same things.
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We want a good workout, we want to learn how to do some new
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things, and we want to stay on our fitness journey not just for the
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day, not just for the boot camp, but for our lifetime. And
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it's going to take consistent activity, but it's also going to take this renovation
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of how we think about it. We have to move away from again what
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you have to do and the obligation of being fit and taking care of yourself
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to saying I get to take care of myself. I get to choose to
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do that every day, and I'm grateful that I have movement. My limbs
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are moving. They might hurt after the workout, but they certainly are moving.
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So it is absolutely an opportunity to really begin to transition to this space
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of gratitude. So you move from this obligation to the space of gratitude,
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and you start to shift your perception towards the workouts. Now the workouts are
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more of opportunities to get fit, to be fit, to do great things,
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to challenge myself, as opposed to a burden to do those things.
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When you start to emphasize that viewpoint, you go to a space of empowerment,
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you go to a space of productivity, and you begin to shift your
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mindset. And that's what this is all about, right, this is an
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ongoing experience. Just as I mentioned, my fitness journey is ongoing. Right,
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It's not gonna stop. I don't just get to the goal and it
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stops. Similarly, this evolution of my said, we'll go from have to
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to get to to finally get into a space and evolve to want to and
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that's like the highest level of this evolution that you want to be in is
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the evolution of I want to go to the gym. Some of you have
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friends like that. You have people that you know that say, oh,
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I can't start my day when I go into the gym. I want to
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go. When you talk to them about the gym, they don't have that
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conversation of obligation. They have a conversation of this is amazing, I get
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to go to the gym in the morning. I want to go to the
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gym in the morning. Right. And that's that next level, and that's
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what you want to get to, because that's where you see interest levels.
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That's where you see genuine enthusiasm about the activity and the task. And I
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know there are some activities and tasks around the house that will never feel like
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you're going to be enthusiastic about it. But let me give you an example.
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And I think I've talked about this before. I remember reading this book.
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It was written by a monk piece at every step the book, there
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was a mindset shift that I took away from the book. And it talked
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about something as simple as washing dishes, and when you wash dishes, it
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for a long time, or I got so upset about dishes being left in
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the sink and people not putting dishes up. And after I read that book,
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there was a section in that book that had me really rethink how I
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saw that. And I don't think I'm at the I want to wash the
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dishes level of my evolution in this mindset shift, but I'm certainly I get
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to I'm at the get to a mindset piece of it. And how it
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was framed is if you're washing dishes, especially a lot of dishes, it's
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because there are people in your life that you are breaking bread with. You're
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actually in a home, sitting at a table breaking bread with loved ones,
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with people that you want to spend time with, with people that you love
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and love you back. And so when you look at the dishes, it
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represents that opportunity for gathering, that opportunity for family time, that opportunity for
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fellowship, that opportunity to get to be around the people you love on purpose.
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And so it took the obligation about, oh my god, I have
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to go wash these dishes too. Wow, this was a great meal.
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While I'm so grateful that they planned this wonderful meal for me, or that
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I had a chance to sit with my family. We've been so busy and
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this was the first time in a long time we get to do this.
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That's how you evolve your thinking. It's those simple things. And I really
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appreciate that book because it really took away the sting of when I had to
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go wash the dishes. And I really use that and I've used that for
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a number of years now as a way to evolve my mindset. Now I'm
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in a place of just gratitude that the reason why I'm having to wash this
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dishload is because there are people around me that I genuinely love and love me
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back, and just for a second, I want to go back to I
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get to I was actually driving home the other day and the path that I
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took had me in front of a church, and next to the church was
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a church graveyard site right and the graveyard start was like right near the roadside,
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and the traffic had backed up in such a way that I was now
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able to look across to the right of me, and I could see all
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the different graves, you know, the artificial flowers that were decorated on some
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the fresh flowers on others, the different you know, designs of the graves
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and all the different things. I was able to read some of the names,
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and I just thought, Wow, look at this field of concrete and
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these people, not knowing how they died or who these people were, they
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will never get to do what I'm doing now. I'm in this world.
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I am able to move about. I still have life in my body.
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I can still make sound decisions about myself. I can still move about and
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take care of myself in a healthy manner. I have what it takes to
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get up in the morning and go to work and take care of my family.
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What that means that I get every you know, whenever you get paid
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and when you start. And it was just a moment of just a flashing
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of looking across at this field of concrete and understanding just how privileged I am.
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And I know that a lot of us aren't gonna get to that.
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I want to part of it yet that's probably gonna take a lot of time
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and a lot of finessing and a lot of embracing. But I want you
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to land squarely in this idea of you get to you get to be here,
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You're still here. The fact that you are still alive says a lot
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about your journey. It is not over. If there is something that you
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have even started to ideate about it's in your mind. I promise you you
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can do it. You are still here, you have the ideas. The
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people that are resting hopefully in peace at that gravesite can never ever, ever,
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ever. There's a lot of things I can't guarantee in this life,
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but I can tell you this, those people that were resting can never do
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what you can do. And it's not because you're better than them. It's
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only because you have opportunity and you get to so take your day own,
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your day, own, your life. Go into the day with this attitude
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of gratitude that you are alive and you have an opportunity that so many are
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not able to do it. So I want us to kind of sync into
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that space because I know we're going to say, oh my lad, it
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is really hard to go into the want to space about it, But think
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about what you get to do, the privileges you still have today that many
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others don't. Before we kind of wrap things up, I just want to
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help us kind of get into the steps of the mindset renovation. Right,
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So as we're reconstructing our mindset around the get to and the want to,
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because we've been talking about what we have to do. We know we're obligated,
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we know we're bogged down with all the things we have to do today.
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But now we want to get to a place where we're thinking about it
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from a get to mindset and eventually to a want to mindset. So here's
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how we're going to do it. First of all, in order to change,
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you have to recognize you need to change. That's the simple, honest,
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easiest way to look at it. So you need to emphasize to yourself
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the importance of acknowledging that you need to make this change. And for me,
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I was reminded when I looked across that grave site. It was just
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a flash moment. Traffic was backed up and all I could do was look
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over and I was like, Wow, I'm still here. I can still
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make a difference. I can still do the things, but I've got to
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change some of the things that I've been thinking about. Right, Because we
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all go through these seasons, these ebbs and flows, where our thoughts start
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to take over and we lose sight of how privileged and what we get to
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do. So first things, first, recognize there's a need for change.
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The next thing is you have to pay attention to your thoughts. Right,
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we are paying all kinds of things for streaming services, We're paying for coffee
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that's ridiculously priced, We're paying for all kinds of different things in and outside
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of our lives. I want you to start paying attention to your thoughts.
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I want you to listen to how you are feeling and or reacting towards certain
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tasks. Again, when I read the book, piece at every step,
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I started to think about after the conversation and the book started to flow into
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how do you see this particular task, which in that case was washing dishes?
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And I had to think about how I saw it. If you think
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about the home renovation, one of the first things these designers do when they
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start talking to the homeowner about the future state of their home is they ask
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them, how do you feel about this space that's on purpose because they want
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to know where that friction is. They want to know where that challenge is
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for the homeowner so they can start to bring more ease and more pace and
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provide the space that is more purposeful. So understanding and paying attention to those
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thoughts are going to help you get closer to how you feel, how you
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react, so that you can start to analyze that better. The next thing
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you want to do is to challenge the voice you hear. You are gonna
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hear some negative thoughts. The statistic goes at eighty percent of our thoughts are
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negative, and it's just how we're wired. Because of the environment, the
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communities, the things that are pumped into media, pumped into our lives.
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You're hearing all this negativity all day long. Of course, you're gonna have
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a residual effect, which is how you think about things. So it's important
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to challenge, challenge the negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. That's
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why I start the podcast episodes with an affirmation. It's a great way to
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start your day, but it's a great way to add to your life.
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Bank the bank of you. I call it the bank of you because so
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many of you go out and you are bankrupt your physically, you're emotionally,
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you're spiritually bankrupt because you're not investing anything into your life. It's the whole
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idea of pouring. You can't pour from an empty cup, and a lot
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of you are trying to help, but you don't have anything to help with,
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and so you give your last away, which is admirable and noble for
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some, but for me it doesn't make any sense because then I can't do
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anything for myself or anyone else after that. I've given my last. So
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it's important to replenish. And so when you hear those negative thoughts come up,
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replace it with something positive. Affirmation, scriptures, declarations. There's so
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much you can do to begin to emphasize what it is that you want to
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start to experience. So I will say writing it down and or saying these
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affirmations are going to help you remodel the internal dialogue that you have. And
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the last thing I will say is, man, this is a mindset shift
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in itself. You got a plan for the hard days. Hard days are
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going to come. Inevitably, you are going to be uncomfortable as you are
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going through those days, and that's just how it goes. So you have
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to plan to overcome the hard times because the hard times are gonna come.
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That doesn't that's not a bad thing. That's anticipating and bracing yourself and preparing
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for what it is that's coming. I was at the gym earlier this weekend.
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The trainer said something, and I'm paraphrasing it, but she said,
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you're going to be uncomfortable when you come here, Like as many times as
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you come to the gym, you're going to be uncomfortable because you're challenging yourself
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to do something new. We're not doing the same workouts every single day.
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We're doing different you know, physical challenges. When you are doing these tasks,
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when you are doing these things, you're challenging yourself. And when you
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challenge yourself, you're uncomfortable. So essentially she's saying, just got used to
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being on comfortable when you're here. I think a lot of people go to
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the gym or go wherever and they just want to feel comfortable. And I
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get that, like that's human nature too. We want to kind of relax
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into the thing. But if we're gonna have real change, it's going to
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require and it's going to show up as this comfort. So it's important to
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plan for the hard days. I say this, this is how I see
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it. The lifestyle of fitness, or the lifestyle of money manager, or
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the lifestyle of family or their lifestyle of marriage. Whatever it is that you
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are encountering, conquering, managing, missioning, ministering in your life, those
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things don't get easier. My marriage after twenty something years is not easier.
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I have gotten better as a person, so that, in fact, has
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helped my marriage get better. Me going to the gym each and every morning,
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I struggle with some of the exercises. Why because they're new. Why
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because my body is a experiencing something new and it's getting used to me challenging
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it. And so over time, what I've found is I've gotten better at
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some of the exercises I struggled with. I mentioned that earlier with my running.
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When I first started out, it was hard for me to catch my
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breath learning how to breathe, so I had to learn some of the fundamentals.
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So doing the actual run without the fundamentals, it wasn't fun, and
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I'm not gonna say it's fun now. But I'm certainly enjoying the journey and
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watching myself grow, and that is because I'm recognizing that the run isn't any
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easier. It's the same uphill and back uphill battle. But I've gotten better
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and those incremental betters matter. I want to reinforce this idea of renovating your
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mindset, because when you renovate your mindset, you are going to experience benefits
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across all the different aspects of your life. When you start to shift from
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this half to mindset to what you get to do and eventually evolve to that
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high level of want to do, you are really going to change the lens
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in which you see your life, the lens in which you experience life.
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It's going to feel different because you are experiencing it different from the inside out.
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And on this journey, I really want you this week as you go
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out into your week, your weekend, and come back to the podcast episode.
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As we continue this path of shifting the mindset, I want to encourage
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you to listen to your mindset. Listen and pay attention to the remodeling journey
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that you're on. Maybe you're still hardcore into oh my gosh, I have
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to get up. Maybe you're still there, but I'm telling you right now,
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when you start to put a little sprinkle of gratitude into your life every
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day, moment by moment, you are going to get into a space of
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you get to and as you do that over and over again, that remodeling
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journey of your mindset will make for you a more fulfilling life. I hope
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you enjoyed this week's episode of the Urine Ritsub podcast. And the only way
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body and spirit. I also want you to check out the show notes.
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In the show notes, we have the affirmation of the week, the
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quote of the week, and there you can also find my Amazon shop.
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The r Reself shop has two items right now, a journal which is the
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check those out in my Amazon shops. And finally, take what you can
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from this episode and do what you must in the next one hundred and sixty
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eight hours so that you can become more of your indigity self until we meet again.