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- 1:38SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome to today's episode of the Healing Her Story Podcast.
- 1:45SPEAKER_00: As always, so delighted and honored to be here with you today.
- 1:51SPEAKER_00: And today, I'm really excited to explore one of my favorite phases in the cycle.
- 1:59SPEAKER_00: So we'll be diving in here shortly.
- 2:02SPEAKER_00: If you are new, welcome.
- 2:05SPEAKER_00: It's all wonderful to have you in this space, in this community.
- 2:09SPEAKER_00: May this be a place where you can softly land.
- 2:15SPEAKER_00: It's so challenging being a human first and foremost in this modern world, yes.
- 2:23SPEAKER_00: And also then to be a human who lives in a marginalized body in this modern world.
- 2:30SPEAKER_00: And specifically, what we focus on here are the marginalized bodies of women.
- 2:36SPEAKER_00: And all of the things that we have to go through that we get to sometimes also grow through.
- 3:00SPEAKER_00: And how women really do make the world go round.
- 3:06SPEAKER_00: Even if we aren't holding as much of the power as maybe men are, cis white men, to be perfectly honest, we're still the ones really actually making the world go round.
- 3:23SPEAKER_00: We are the ones birthing and creating all of the humans.
- 3:29SPEAKER_00: We are doing most of the caretaking.
- 3:32SPEAKER_00: You know, I work part-time for the school district locally here where I live, and most of the teachers are women.
- 4:02SPEAKER_00: They're already beginning to be so aware of other people and how their actions maybe influence other people.
- 4:19SPEAKER_00: And I just find that so fascinating that it starts at such an early age.
- 4:24SPEAKER_00: I'm like, wow, we're we're not wasting any time, are we?
- 4:30SPEAKER_00: Obviously, these little young girls are receiving modeling, likely from their own mothers that makes them feel like they need to take care of and manage everything, things that are not their responsibility.
- 4:52SPEAKER_00: So my intention here is to really have a place where women can softly land and feel seen and feel heard and feel validated.
- 5:04SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna be doing that a lot today.
- 5:08SPEAKER_00: So again, if you're new here, may this be the right place for you.
- 5:15SPEAKER_00: And if you are returning, it must be that this is maybe a right place for you.
- 5:22SPEAKER_00: So thank you so much for being here and for tuning into these episodes week after week.
- 5:30SPEAKER_00: I put so much love and thought and energy into these episodes and into this show because I believe in this mission so deeply.
- 5:45SPEAKER_00: On one hand, while yes, women are doing a lot of the caretaking and taking on a lot of the responsibility, part of me feels like it's for a reason.
- 6:00SPEAKER_00: I've been in breath work journeys and I've heard so clearly women will save the world.
- 6:09SPEAKER_00: And I 100% believe this.
- 6:12SPEAKER_00: What would a world be like?
- 6:17SPEAKER_00: A world where women women have full access to power.
- 6:26SPEAKER_00: We would be living in a completely different world, and also it's not just about women, it's also about feminine values like care and compassion and empathy and intuition and gentleness and going with the flow and being and receiving community, collaboration.
- 6:58SPEAKER_00: What would a world look like where we prioritize those those values?
- 7:06SPEAKER_00: I truly believe we would live in a much more harmonious, balanced world, and so that is why I show up week after week, episode after episode, to really empower you with education, with wisdom.
- 7:26SPEAKER_00: And as I've said before, I'm I'm really not teaching you anything, I'm helping you to remember all of that which you already know that lives inside of you.
- 7:39SPEAKER_00: So I know it's kind of a big intro, but that's what's feeling on my heart today.
- 7:46SPEAKER_00: And I just do not take your time and your energy and your being here.
- 7:52SPEAKER_00: I do not take that for granted.
- 7:55SPEAKER_00: So let's be intentional with our time here together today.
- 7:59SPEAKER_00: We've got a bit of a juicier episode because I think that for me at least, this cycle, there's so much here.
- 8:11SPEAKER_00: This could be like a whole hour-long episode, and maybe down the road I will do some longer episodes on each of the individual phases.
- 8:20SPEAKER_00: And for today, let's begin with our minute of silence, as we always do here on the show.
- 8:27SPEAKER_00: In this minute of silence, you are invited to come into a place of more presence with yourself, whatever that looks like today, whether you're driving or doing some chores or got something going on in the background, seeing what it would be like to slow down, even if it's just a little bit, and to check in with yourself and notice how you're feeling, notice your energy level, notice your mood.
- 8:57SPEAKER_00: If you've been here for a while, maybe you can begin to sense that rhythm, right?
- 9:03SPEAKER_00: Whether you're in that springtime or that summertime or that fall or that winter.
- 9:10SPEAKER_00: And if you're not sure, that's totally fine too.
- 9:12SPEAKER_00: We're gonna explore more as we go on, but for now, maybe connecting with your breath, your body in some way, and taking some time here to just be taking notice and tune in.
- 10:53SPEAKER_00: Today I am cycle day eighteen, and I'll be honest, this is kind of a tricky time to really hone in as to where I am because I do feel like I'm on the tail end of my inner summer.
- 11:16SPEAKER_00: I'm not really feeling that pre-mentrum energy quite yet.
- 11:21SPEAKER_00: And I know that it is coming.
- 11:25SPEAKER_00: And as I've kind of spoke to in our last episode, the actual time of ovulation can be quite nuanced and difficult to track.
- 11:36SPEAKER_00: And there's really only a few things that let us know ovulation has occurred, one of those being temperature, which I have not really tracked much.
- 11:48SPEAKER_00: I did attempt at one point and I found it difficult to track the temperature at the same time every day.
- 11:56SPEAKER_00: So I kind of gave up on it for a little bit.
- 11:59SPEAKER_00: And now that I am really getting into these more nuanced pieces of my cyclical tracking, and as I'm starting to feel my way into having a baby, I've I'm realizing that this is more important for me to actually know, or at least had to have a better idea.
- 12:23SPEAKER_00: So I'm not just guessing when ovulation happens.
- 12:28SPEAKER_00: And so I thought I was kind of on the other side of it today, and maybe I am, right?
- 12:34SPEAKER_00: Because I'm not tracking my temperature.
- 12:35SPEAKER_00: I don't actually know.
- 12:37SPEAKER_00: And then when I went to the restroom today, I tracked my cervical mucus and it was very wet and slippery and sticky and juicy, and I was like, oh, well, maybe it's happening right around now or it's getting ready to.
- 12:58SPEAKER_00: And the reason why I'm so focused on it this week, which I won't get into too depth, in depth today because I'm still kind of moving through it.
- 13:07SPEAKER_00: I'll share more on the other side.
- 13:10SPEAKER_00: But as I was enjoying my weekend over the weekend, I had some intimate time with my partner, and we got a little heated in the moment, and things happened.
- 13:25SPEAKER_00: And yeah, there was uh there is potential that, you know, maybe there's a chance I get pregnant, which was not my intention at all.
- 13:39SPEAKER_00: And so I chose to take emergency contraceptive literally just a few hours before recording this episode.
- 13:48SPEAKER_00: And that was why the cervical mucus was so it stood out to me a lot because I was really trying to discern if I actually wanted to take the plan B or the emergency contraceptive.
- 14:00SPEAKER_00: It's not actually plan B, because plan B is a brand.
- 14:05SPEAKER_00: Um, because fun fact for anyone out there who's ever finds themselves in this position, from what I understand from what I've read online, is that emergency contraceptive, it what it does is it prevents ovulation from happening.
- 14:23SPEAKER_00: So if you go to use it and ovulation has already happened, then from my understanding, I don't think that it works.
- 14:34SPEAKER_00: I was like, wow, that would be so great to know.
- 14:39SPEAKER_00: I had to do some digging to really find these answers.
- 14:42SPEAKER_00: And so I actually wasn't going to take it today because I would prefer not to have synthetic hormones inside my body.
- 14:51SPEAKER_00: And when I went to the restroom, I was like, oh, okay, well, there's a chance that I maybe haven't yet.
- 15:00SPEAKER_00: So I went ahead and took the emergency contraceptive, and I really had an intentional moment with myself and my body in front of my altar before I did, because I did really focus this cycle on dedicating my egg to, I chose to dedicate it, dedicate it to me and my health and my vitality.
- 15:26SPEAKER_00: So it was really interesting to like had this beautiful weekend where I like really dove in and like listened to some really great podcasts about women's health and how to take care of women's bodies.
- 15:39SPEAKER_00: And I had these really beautiful moments of connection with my ancestors, and I slept in and I took a bath and I had this amazing weekend.
- 15:48SPEAKER_00: And I felt like I was really starting to settle into the fullness and the full fruition of my dedication to that egg, that dedication to me, to my health, to my vitality.
- 16:02SPEAKER_00: And then bamps.
- 16:07SPEAKER_00: So anyway, it'll be an interesting couple of weeks to see how it all unfolds, if the emergency contraceptive will affect my cycle, because that's potential too.
- 16:18SPEAKER_00: It could push it out a week.
- 16:20SPEAKER_00: Um, it could also make my bleed heavier and could cause some extra clotting and a lot of like could maybe if right now.
- 16:32SPEAKER_00: So I'm just gonna hang out in the unknown for um, yeah, for a couple weeks, and I'll definitely share more as as things move along.
- 16:42SPEAKER_00: But for today, that's just kind of where I'm at.
- 16:47SPEAKER_00: Um, but for today, like I said, the week of November 11th, we are tuning to the energy of the waning moon.
- 16:57SPEAKER_00: And remember, for this lunar cycle, which moves through Scorpio season, we're focusing on the four phases of the menstrual cycle.
- 17:05SPEAKER_00: Usually I center our conversations around the moon and the seasons because these are collective energies.
- 17:12SPEAKER_00: We all feel them moving through us together, at least if you're living in the northern hemisphere, because that's where I'm living and that's what I'm sharing here.
- 17:24SPEAKER_00: And if um, or rather, your menstrual cycle is a more personal rhythm.
- 17:31SPEAKER_00: It's more of your own internal moon cycle, if you will.
- 17:37SPEAKER_00: And so I don't always focus on that so much because, like I said, the moon and the seasons are more of a collective energy that we can all tap into together.
- 17:47SPEAKER_00: And since Scorpio rules the reproductive organs, and we are in Scorpio season, and the process of transformation, this felt like a perfect time to focus on the body's cyclical wisdom and the menstrual cycle specifically.
- 18:03SPEAKER_00: I honestly still meet and talk to so many women who were never taught what's actually happening in their bodies each month.
- 18:11SPEAKER_00: And honestly, this is what should have been taught in Sex Ed.
- 18:15SPEAKER_00: So listen up if you're listening and maybe you want to take some notes on this.
- 18:22SPEAKER_00: So, because of that, this month I'm walking us through the menstrual cycle week by week, phase by phase.
- 18:29SPEAKER_00: And because the moon is waning right now, the light is decreasing, energy is slowing down, we're tuning into the pre-menstrual phase, which is also known as the inner autumn.
- 18:43SPEAKER_00: And the inner autumn is associated with the waning moon and also the season of autumn, hence inner autumn.
- 18:54SPEAKER_00: Now, when people think about the menstrual cycle, I feel like this is often the phase they recognize, and it's for a good reason.
- 19:02SPEAKER_00: It's the time when everything we've done or avoided throughout the month starts to show up.
- 19:10SPEAKER_00: If we'd honored rest, nourishment, and boundaries earlier in the cycle, this time can feel grounding and introspective.
- 19:20SPEAKER_00: Or if we've overextended ourselves, it can sometimes feel like everything is catching up all at once.
- 19:28SPEAKER_00: This is also a time when old emotions or trauma imprints can rise to the surface, and there's a real biological reason for this, which we'll explore more today.
- 19:38SPEAKER_00: This is also a time where many women experience PMS or PMDD.
- 19:44SPEAKER_00: And this is also a time when we feel more sensitive, reactive, or inwardly drawn.
- 19:50SPEAKER_00: And again, there are biological reasons for this, so keep listening because I'm gonna explain it.
- 19:58SPEAKER_00: After ovulation, estrogen levels drop sharply, and progesterone, the hormone that supports implantation and pregnancy, becomes dominant.
- 20:11SPEAKER_00: Progesterone is naturally calming and sedative, promoting rest and introspection.
- 20:20SPEAKER_00: But when it fluctuates or drops too quickly, it can trigger anxiety, irritability, or low mood.
- 20:29SPEAKER_00: At the same time, that dip in estrogen impacts our serotonin, that's our feel-good neurotransmitter.
- 20:37SPEAKER_00: Lower levels of serotonin can cause mood dips and cravings.
- 20:44SPEAKER_00: It also impacts our GAPA, that's our calming neurotransmitter.
- 20:49SPEAKER_00: And this can cause fluctuations that can affect sleep and anxiety.
- 20:54SPEAKER_00: And it also impacts our heart rate variability.
- 20:58SPEAKER_00: That's our HRV.
- 20:59SPEAKER_00: We talked about this a little bit last week.
- 21:02SPEAKER_00: This decreases slightly, showing that our nervous system is more reactive.
- 21:07SPEAKER_00: And this also is a sign that our capacity is smaller, meaning we can't handle as much.
- 21:16SPEAKER_00: So if you feel less resilient or more emotional, or you're just kind of done during this time, you are not broken.
- 21:25SPEAKER_00: You're simply responding to the real physiological changes that are happening in the female body.
- 21:32SPEAKER_00: I sometimes call this the truth-telling phase because with less estrogen buffering the nervous system, there's a rawness and an honesty that begins to surface here.
- 21:43SPEAKER_00: We can't hide behind performance or people-pleasing anymore.
- 21:48SPEAKER_00: And I don't really see that as a flaw.
- 21:50SPEAKER_00: I see that as an opportunity or feedback or something that we can really optimize during this time.
- 21:58SPEAKER_00: Now, before I share how I support myself through the four bodies, which, as we've been exploring in these last three episodes, or rather two, and this being the third, the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual bodies, I do want to take a moment to sort of debunk the myth of PMS.
- 22:17SPEAKER_00: We've been conditioned to believe that PMS is inevitable, something women just have to tolerate.
- 22:24SPEAKER_00: But in truth, PMS isn't a disease.
- 22:28SPEAKER_00: It's really a set of symptoms that reflect underlying imbalances in hormone, stress, nutrition, and nervous system regulation.
- 22:36SPEAKER_00: And because the medical industry can't take the time to figure out how and why all of these things are happening, when women come in with these symptoms, we just put a label on it of, oh, it's just PMS.
- 22:52SPEAKER_00: Because we don't actually want to get to the root of what's causing these symptoms.
- 22:55SPEAKER_00: So PMS is really just a collective of symptoms that cannot be explained.
- 23:05SPEAKER_00: When we work with our cycles instead of against them, when we rest, eat cyclically, manage our stress and process emotions, our symptoms during this time can soften or even disappear.
- 23:18SPEAKER_00: As been my experience, my pre menstrual time used to feel chaotic, but now it feels relatively steady, sometimes, most of the time, enjoyable.
- 23:29SPEAKER_00: Now I still have fluctuations, of course, because these biological changes are still happening in my body, and I no longer Experience to build dating cramps or mood swings.
- 23:40SPEAKER_00: And when it comes to PMDD, the more extreme brain-based version of premenstrual distress, if you will, I really like to hold it with curiosity.
- 23:55SPEAKER_00: Is it purely biochemical?
- 23:58SPEAKER_00: Or could it be trauma resurfacing, asking to be seen and healed?
- 24:04SPEAKER_00: The nervous system and hormonal system are deeply intertwined.
- 24:10SPEAKER_00: When estrogen drops, old wounds can become more visible because the body's natural buffer of estrogen is thinner.
- 24:18SPEAKER_00: I like to think of the body really inviting us into deeper intimacy with our truth.
- 24:26SPEAKER_00: And that's not to say that's easy.
- 24:30SPEAKER_00: As for some, it can be quite difficult and quite uncomfortable.
- 24:36SPEAKER_00: And I do believe it.
- 24:37SPEAKER_00: It is an opportunity that we have during this time, especially if there's a lot of things surfacing and happening in the mind and in the body here.
- 24:46SPEAKER_00: Now, let's shift gears a little bit.
- 24:49SPEAKER_00: I'll share with you the things that I like to do to support myself through these four bodies.
- 24:53SPEAKER_00: We may have to come back and do a whole episode on this phase specifically.
- 24:59SPEAKER_00: And for today, again, I'll get into what I like to do for myself.
- 25:05SPEAKER_00: Now, physically, as estrogen decreases and progestrogen rises, the body wants to slow down and conserve energy.
- 25:14SPEAKER_00: I honor that by doing less, spending more time outdoors, and moving my body in gentler ways, like slower strength training, yoga, or nature walks.
- 25:27SPEAKER_00: I also really enjoy swimming during this time too.
- 25:30SPEAKER_00: For nourishment, I focus on warm grounding foods, roasted vegetables, soups, root vegetables, and grass-fred beef for iron or zinc.
- 25:42SPEAKER_00: I also limit sugar and processed foods during this time because they can increase inflammation and worsen cramps.
- 25:50SPEAKER_00: Sleep is sacred here.
- 25:52SPEAKER_00: Progesterone can make us sleepier, so I let myself rest more, naps included.
- 25:59SPEAKER_00: And my favorite ritual: a tea blend with rose hips, smug wart, red raspberry leaf, vitex, hibiscus, and skull cap, all of which supports hormone balance, liver detoxification, and emotional ease.
- 26:14SPEAKER_00: The skull cap especially helps soften anxiety spikes that can also happen during this time because of all of the reasons that I've already shared with you.
- 26:24SPEAKER_00: Now, mentally, things can feel a little less stable here for me, I won't lie.
- 26:29SPEAKER_00: Estrogen supports cognitive clarity.
- 26:31SPEAKER_00: So when it drops, our focus and our patience can drop too.
- 26:34SPEAKER_00: I notice sometimes I have a hard time speaking during this time.
- 26:40SPEAKER_00: I will forget words or like trip over words.
- 26:43SPEAKER_00: And maybe you've you've listened to an episode like that.
- 26:47SPEAKER_00: If you've been here for a while, or you know, maybe I felt a little off, or I couldn't find my words quite as easily as I normally do.
- 26:56SPEAKER_00: I was likely here.
- 26:58SPEAKER_00: I'm also taking a guitar class right now, and oh my goodness, learning guitar during this phase of my menstrual cycle is incredibly difficult.
- 27:08SPEAKER_00: Incredibly difficult.
- 27:10SPEAKER_00: And today it was great.
- 27:12SPEAKER_00: I had no problem.
- 27:13SPEAKER_00: I mean, I was still challenged and I was able to keep up more easily.
- 27:19SPEAKER_00: But when I'm in this pair of my cycle, oh my gosh, guitar classes is so hard.
- 27:26SPEAKER_00: And that's because there are some real shifts happening in our in our brain during this time that do affect our cognitive abilities.
- 27:33SPEAKER_00: I can find myself sometimes more irritable, more reactive.
- 27:39SPEAKER_00: But instead of fighting it, I try to just plan for it.
- 27:42SPEAKER_00: I try to create more space in my schedule.
- 27:45SPEAKER_00: I limit my social interactions.
- 27:47SPEAKER_00: Maybe I don't go out for as many social engagements around this time.
- 27:51SPEAKER_00: I also try to book therapy sessions around this time.
- 27:55SPEAKER_00: And I love doing parts work with myself and with my therapist as well during this time, too.
- 28:03SPEAKER_00: So rather than pushing through things as things arise, I will ask myself, okay, what is trying to get my attention here?
- 28:10SPEAKER_00: What is my body trying to tell me?
- 28:13SPEAKER_00: And just that process of slowing down and really needing myself and my experience, I feel like already can change and shift so much instead of ignoring it and pretending like it's not actually happening or that like it's just normal and we should just accept it.
- 28:32SPEAKER_00: Now, spiritually, this is a potent time for me.
- 28:35SPEAKER_00: The veil between the worlds is thin, much like we talked about for Sawin in our last Friday episode.
- 28:43SPEAKER_00: And so during this time, you might feel more intuitive.
- 28:46SPEAKER_00: Um, I know I usually do, and more connected to the deepest inner knowing, that deep well of wisdom that lives within.
- 28:56SPEAKER_00: I kind of like to lean into this sort of witchy energy with spiritual baths, candle rituals, journaling.
- 29:05SPEAKER_00: I also love microdosing across all of the phases, and I especially love it during this time.
- 29:12SPEAKER_00: And I also really love sound baths during this time, too.
- 29:16SPEAKER_00: This is a natural time for release and for reflection.
- 29:21SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like that big exhale before menstruation.
- 29:28SPEAKER_00: Now, emotionally, I'm definitely more tender here.
- 29:31SPEAKER_00: I can cry more easily.
- 29:33SPEAKER_00: And I really come to see that tenderness as power.
- 29:37SPEAKER_00: It's a sensitivity being turned inward.
- 29:41SPEAKER_00: This is when I reach out to my closest friends or sisters for grounded emotional support.
- 29:47SPEAKER_00: Acupuncture has also helped regulate my mood and significantly reduced cramps.
- 29:53SPEAKER_00: There's growing research linking trauma history and premenstrual sensitivity, especially in women with early childhood adversity or attachment wounds.
- 30:02SPEAKER_00: These experiences can alter how stress and hormone systems communicate, making the phase feel more intense.
- 30:10SPEAKER_00: As I've healed and really tended to my nervous system and recalibrated my nervous system, this phase has become smoother and more spacious.
- 30:20SPEAKER_00: And the emotions that do arise are they're moving, they're they're touching, they're loving, they're nurturing.
- 30:31SPEAKER_00: And I quite really enjoy the emotions that come up during this time.
- 30:37SPEAKER_00: And I truly believe because as we digest our trauma that lives in the body and we begin to feel more safe, the cycle follows suit and energy begins to flow again and life begins to flow again, and things kind of smooth out.
- 31:01SPEAKER_00: So if this is um prickly time for you, I would get curious about how your history might be shaping your experience of the pre-menstrum time.
- 31:17SPEAKER_00: And it definitely feels like we need to explore this more.
- 31:20SPEAKER_00: There are a few more episodes on how trauma affects the nervous system, um, affects the nervous system, the female nervous system specifically.
- 31:28SPEAKER_00: So if this is speaks your curiosity uh piqued your curiosity, then would invite you to go back and listen to that episode.
- 31:36SPEAKER_00: It's a solo episode.
- 31:38SPEAKER_00: And if you just look for how trauma affects the menstrual cycle, I think you'll find it no problem.
- 31:46SPEAKER_00: So that's the pre-menstrual phase for today, the inner autumn of the cycle.
- 31:52SPEAKER_00: Next week we'll close this series with the menstrual phase, another one of my favorite phases, and this is a wonderful time to rest, to reflect, and renew.
- 32:02SPEAKER_00: And that aligns with the new moon that will be happening next week.
- 32:09SPEAKER_00: I'm recording a week ahead of time, so to catch myself there.
- 32:14SPEAKER_00: By the time you listen to this, it will be next week.
- 32:18SPEAKER_00: And I'll also remind you, too, we are in a Mercury retrograde.
- 32:22SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it just happened as of Sunday the 9th.
- 32:26SPEAKER_00: So things can be a bit messy over the next few weeks.
- 32:30SPEAKER_00: There can be miscommunications and tech issues and things just not working out the way that you thought they would.
- 32:41SPEAKER_00: I'm already experiencing that before Mercury has actually stationed retrograde.
- 32:47SPEAKER_00: So there is a rule here that I'll invite you to apply for the next three weeks, and you can really apply it during this phase as well, and that is the rule of re's.
- 33:00SPEAKER_00: So if you think of re words, recalibrate, restore, release, rest, reflect, review, reduce.
- 33:14SPEAKER_00: Those are all beautiful words to help guide you over the next week, specifically, as we're in this waning moon, and then for the next few weeks after that, because we'll be in a Mercury retrograde, and we'll continue to touch in on that in our weekly cycle episodes as they they go on as the weeks go by.
- 33:40SPEAKER_00: Thanks so much for staying for the whole episode today.
- 33:43SPEAKER_00: I know this was a juicy one.
- 33:45SPEAKER_00: Like I said, so much to share about this phase.
- 33:47SPEAKER_00: I could go on forever, but we'll close it out here for today.
- 33:52SPEAKER_00: And I look forward to connecting with you in the next episode.
- 33:57SPEAKER_00: If you're in need of some nervous system support over the next few days, you can find some links to my free meditations on Insight Timer in the show notes.