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From Bracing for the Worst to Expecting the Best | EP 316 · Confident and Empowered Women

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  Real
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  quick
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  before
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  we
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  get
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  into
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  this
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  episode,
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  I
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  need
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  to
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  tell
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  you
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  why
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  I
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  made
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  it.
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  I
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  went
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  from
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  being
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  a
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  single
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  mom
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  who
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  handled
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  every
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  single
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  thing
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  on
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  my
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  own
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  for
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  years
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  to
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  being
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  a
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  married
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  woman
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  with
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  a
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  man
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  who
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  genuinely
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  wanted
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  to
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  show
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  up
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  for
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  me,
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  and
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  I
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  almost
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  could
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  not
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  let
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  him.
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  Because
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  I
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  had
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  been
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  bracing
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  for
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  the
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  worst
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  for
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  so
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  long,
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  I
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  forgot
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  good
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  things
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  were
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  even
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  an
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  option
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  for
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  me.
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  And
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  if
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  any
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  part
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  of
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  that
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  is
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  you,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  for
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  us.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  Ooh,
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  and
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  before
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  we
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  get
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  started,
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  welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women.
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  If
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  you're
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  new
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  here,
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  that
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  you
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  found
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  this
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  space.
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  Make
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  sure
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  you
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  hit
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  subscribe
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  so
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  you
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  don't
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  miss
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  a
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  single
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  conversation
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  because
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  we
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  do
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  not
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  do
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  surface
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  level
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  around
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  here.
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  We
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  go
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  all
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  the
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  way
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  in,
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  and
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  if
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  you
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  have
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  been
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  here
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  for
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  a
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  while,
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  you
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  already
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  know,
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  okay?
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  Let's
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  really
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  get
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  into
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  it
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  I
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  wanna
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  talk
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  to
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  the
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  woman
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  who
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  has
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  been
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  called
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  strong
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  her
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  whole
• 1:11
  life,
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  and
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  not
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  just
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  called
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  it,
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  she
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  earned
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  it.
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  She
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  showed
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  up,
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  she
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  handled
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  everything,
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  figured
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  it
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  out.
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  Nobody
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  had
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  to
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  ask
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  twice.
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  Nobody
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  had
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  to
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  follow
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  up.
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  Whatever
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  came
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  her
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  way,
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  she
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  dealt
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  with
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  it,
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  filed
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  it
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  away,
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  and
• 1:28
  moved
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  on
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  to
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  the
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  next
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  thing.
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  And
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  somewhere
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  within
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  all
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  of
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  that,
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  she
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  stopped
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  expecting
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  good
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  things.
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  Not
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  all
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  at
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  once.
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  She
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  didn't
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  just
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  wake
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  up
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  one
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  day
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  and
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  decide
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  she
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  was
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  done
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  hoping.
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  It
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  was
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  quieter
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  than
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  that.
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  More
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  like
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  she
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  just
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  stopped
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  letting
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  herself
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  lean
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  in.
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  She
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  stopped
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  getting
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  excited.
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  She
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  started
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  arriving
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  at
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  every
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  situation
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  with
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  her
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  expectations
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  already
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  managed
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  and
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  her
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  defenses
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  already
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  up.
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  Okay?
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  Because
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  every
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  time
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  she
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  leaned
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  in,
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  life
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  had
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  other
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  ideas.
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  Every
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  time
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  she
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  planned
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  for
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  the
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  best,
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  the
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  rug
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  came
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  right
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  from
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  somewhere
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  she
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  was
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  not
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  watching.
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  So
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  she
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  got
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  smart,
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  strategic.
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  She
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  started
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  preparing
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  for
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  disappointment
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  in
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  advance
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  just
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  to
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  take
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  the
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  sting
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  out
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  of
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  it.
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  She
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  would
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  say
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  things
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  like,
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  "I'm
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  just
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  being
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  realistic.
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  I'm
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  not
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  negative.
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  I
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  just
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  know
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  how
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  things
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  tend
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  to
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  go."
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  Listen,
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  and
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  when
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  I
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  say
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  we,
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  I
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  mean
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  the
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  old
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  me,
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  and
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  plus
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  probably
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  you,
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  okay?
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  We
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  been
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  out
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  here
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  waiting
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  for
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  the
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  other
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  shoe
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  to
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  drop
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  so
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  hard.
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  we
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  have
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  the
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  whole
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  closet
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  on
• 2:41
  standby,
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  okay?
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  I'm
• 2:44
  talking
• 2:44
  Carrie
• 2:45
  Bradshaw's
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  entire
• 2:46
  collection,
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  okay?
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  Friend,
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  no
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  matter
• 2:52
  how
• 2:52
  cute
• 2:53
  or
• 2:53
  expensive
• 2:54
  they
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  are,
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  that
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  is
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  not
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  realism.
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  That
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  is
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  a
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  woman
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  who
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  learned
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  to
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  brace
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  herself
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  so
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  well
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  she
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  forgot
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  she
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  didn't
• 3:03
  have
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  to
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  anymore,
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  And
• 3:05
  we
• 3:05
  gotta
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  talk
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  about
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  it,
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  friend
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  Because
• 3:07
  I
• 3:07
  spent
• 3:08
  years,
• 3:09
  heavy
• 3:10
  on
• 3:10
  the
• 3:10
  years,
• 3:11
  as
• 3:11
  a
• 3:11
  single
• 3:11
  mom,
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  and
• 3:12
  I
• 3:12
  wanna
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  be
• 3:13
  clear,
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  I'm
• 3:14
  not
• 3:14
  saying
• 3:14
  this
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  with
• 3:15
  bitterness.
• 3:15
  I'm
• 3:16
  saying
• 3:16
  it
• 3:16
  with
• 3:16
  full
• 3:17
  recognition
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  of
• 3:18
  what
• 3:19
  that
• 3:19
  identity
• 3:20
  required
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  me.
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  was
• 3:22
  the
• 3:22
  one
• 3:23
  who
• 3:23
  handled
• 3:23
  everything
• 3:25
  The
• 3:25
  bills,
• 3:26
  the
• 3:26
  school
• 3:26
  pickup,
• 3:27
  the
• 3:27
  2:00
• 3:27
  AM
• 3:28
  emergency,
• 3:29
  the
• 3:29
  doctor's
• 3:30
  appointment
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  nobody
• 3:30
  else
• 3:31
  was
• 3:31
  gonna
• 3:31
  drive
• 3:31
  to,
• 3:32
  the
• 3:32
  decisions
• 3:33
  that
• 3:33
  had
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  be
• 3:33
  made
• 3:34
  with
• 3:34
  no
• 3:34
  one
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  consult
• 3:35
  because
• 3:36
  I
• 3:36
  was
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  one
• 3:37
  on
• 3:37
  duty.
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  did
• 3:39
  not
• 3:39
  have
• 3:39
  the
• 3:39
  luxury
• 3:40
  of
• 3:40
  waiting
• 3:41
  on
• 3:41
  someone
• 3:41
  else
• 3:41
  to
• 3:41
  show
• 3:42
  up.
• 3:42
  So
• 3:43
  I
• 3:43
  became
• 3:44
  someone
• 3:44
  who
• 3:45
  shows
• 3:45
  up
• 3:46
  for
• 3:46
  everybody.
• 3:47
  And
• 3:47
  that's
• 3:47
  not
• 3:48
  just
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  small
• 3:48
  thing
• 3:49
  to
• 3:49
  carry.
• 3:50
  That's
• 3:50
  a
• 3:50
  whole
• 3:51
  identity,
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  self-concept
• 3:53
  that
• 3:53
  gets
• 3:54
  built
• 3:54
  year
• 3:55
  after
• 3:56
  year,
• 3:56
  one
• 3:57
  I'll
• 3:57
  handle
• 3:58
  it
• 3:58
  at
• 3:58
  a
• 3:58
  time.
• 3:59
  And
• 3:59
  when
• 3:59
  you
• 4:00
  have
• 4:00
  been
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  one
• 4:00
  who
• 4:01
  handles
• 4:01
  it
• 4:01
  for
• 4:01
  long
• 4:02
  enough,
• 4:03
  that
• 4:03
  just
• 4:04
  becomes
• 4:05
  who
• 4:05
  you
• 4:05
  believe
• 4:06
  you
• 4:06
  are.
• 4:08
  And
• 4:08
  then,
• 4:08
  friend,
• 4:09
  I
• 4:09
  messed
• 4:10
  around
• 4:10
  not
• 4:11
  only
• 4:11
  did
• 4:11
  I
• 4:11
  get
• 4:11
  remarried
• 4:12
  to
• 4:12
  a
• 4:12
  man
• 4:13
  who
• 4:13
  actually
• 4:14
  wanted
• 4:14
  to
• 4:14
  show
• 4:15
  up
• 4:15
  for
• 4:15
  me,
• 4:16
  but
• 4:16
  even
• 4:16
  before
• 4:17
  we
• 4:17
  got
• 4:17
  married,
• 4:18
  he
• 4:18
  wanted
• 4:19
  to
• 4:19
  carry
• 4:20
  things
• 4:20
  with
• 4:21
  me.
• 4:21
  He'd
• 4:22
  walk
• 4:22
  into
• 4:23
  a
• 4:23
  situation
• 4:24
  and
• 4:24
  say,
• 4:25
  "I
• 4:25
  got
• 4:25
  it,
• 4:25
  babe,"
• 4:26
  and
• 4:26
  genuinely
• 4:27
  mean
• 4:28
  it.
• 4:29
  And
• 4:29
  do
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  know
• 4:29
  what
• 4:30
  my
• 4:30
  first
• 4:30
  instinct
• 4:31
  was
• 4:31
  every
• 4:32
  single
• 4:32
  time
• 4:32
  for
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  longest
• 4:33
  time?
• 4:34
  It
• 4:34
  was
• 4:34
  to
• 4:35
  question
• 4:38
  it.
• 4:39
  Not
• 4:40
  him
• 4:40
  necessarily,
• 4:41
  but
• 4:42
  the
• 4:42
  ease,
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  help,
• 4:44
  the
• 4:45
  not
• 4:45
  having
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  be
• 4:46
  the
• 4:46
  only
• 4:46
  one
• 4:47
  who
• 4:47
  figures
• 4:47
  it
• 4:48
  out.
• 4:48
  My
• 4:49
  whole
• 4:49
  nervous
• 4:50
  system
• 4:50
  was
• 4:50
  like
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  smoke
• 4:51
  alarm,
• 4:51
  okay,
• 4:52
  that
• 4:52
  had
• 4:52
  been
• 4:52
  going
• 4:53
  off
• 4:53
  for
• 4:53
  so
• 4:54
  long
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  could
• 4:55
  have
• 4:55
  cooked
• 4:56
  outside
• 4:57
  just
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  keep
• 4:57
  the
• 4:57
  peace.
• 5:01
  Especially
• 5:02
  when
• 5:02
  I
• 5:02
  came
• 5:03
  to
• 5:03
  my
• 5:03
  senses
• 5:04
  and
• 5:04
  realized
• 5:06
  there
• 5:06
  was
• 5:06
  no
• 5:06
  fire
• 5:07
  anymore.
• 5:08
  I
• 5:08
  just
• 5:09
  had
• 5:09
  never
• 5:09
  told
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  alarm
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  stand
• 5:11
  down.
• 5:12
  I
• 5:13
  had
• 5:13
  been
• 5:13
  so
• 5:13
  trained
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  brace
• 5:15
  for
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  worst
• 5:16
  that
• 5:16
  when
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  best
• 5:17
  arrived,
• 5:18
  and
• 5:19
  I
• 5:19
  mean
• 5:19
  the
• 5:20
  absolute
• 5:21
  best,
• 5:21
  a
• 5:22
  partner,
• 5:22
  a
• 5:22
  teammate,
• 5:23
  someone
• 5:24
  who
• 5:24
  genuinely
• 5:25
  wanted
• 5:25
  to
• 5:25
  be
• 5:26
  the
• 5:26
  co-pilot,
• 5:27
  I
• 5:28
  almost
• 5:28
  refused
• 5:28
  the
• 5:28
  seat
• 5:29
  because
• 5:30
  somewhere
• 5:30
  in
• 5:30
  all
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  years
• 5:31
  of
• 5:31
  handling
• 5:32
  everything
• 5:33
  alone,
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  had
• 5:34
  built
• 5:35
  a
• 5:35
  wall
• 5:35
  called
• 5:36
  capability,
• 5:37
  and
• 5:37
  it
• 5:38
  looked
• 5:38
  like
• 5:38
  strength
• 5:39
  from
• 5:39
  the
• 5:39
  outside,
• 5:40
  but
• 5:40
  on
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  inside
• 5:41
  it
• 5:41
  was
• 5:41
  keeping
• 5:42
  out
• 5:42
  everything
• 5:43
  I
• 5:43
  said
• 5:43
  I
• 5:44
  wanted.
• 5:45
  And
• 5:45
  friend,
• 5:45
  I
• 5:46
  really
• 5:46
  need
• 5:46
  you
• 5:46
  to
• 5:46
  hear
• 5:47
  this.
• 5:48
  Bracing
• 5:48
  is
• 5:49
  not
• 5:49
  a
• 5:49
  habit
• 5:50
  you
• 5:50
  just
• 5:50
  picked
• 5:51
  up
• 5:51
  and
• 5:51
  reinforced.
• 5:53
  It's
• 5:53
  an
• 5:53
  identity.
• 5:54
  There's
• 5:55
  a
• 5:55
  difference
• 5:55
  between
• 5:56
  a
• 5:56
  woman
• 5:56
  who
• 5:57
  sometimes
• 5:57
  worries
• 5:58
  and
• 5:59
  a
• 5:59
  woman
• 5:59
  who
• 5:59
  has
• 5:59
  become
• 6:00
  the
• 6:00
  one
• 6:00
  who
• 6:00
  expects
• 6:01
  the
• 6:02
  worst.
• 6:02
  One
• 6:03
  is
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  thought
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  have,
• 6:05
  the
• 6:05
  other
• 6:06
  is
• 6:06
  who
• 6:06
  you
• 6:06
  believe
• 6:07
  you
• 6:07
  are.
• 6:08
  And
• 6:09
  I
• 6:09
  was
• 6:09
  not
• 6:09
  just
• 6:10
  bracing
• 6:11
  against
• 6:11
  bad
• 6:12
  news,
• 6:12
  I
• 6:12
  was
• 6:13
  bracing
• 6:13
  against
• 6:14
  good
• 6:14
  things
• 6:14
  too,
• 6:15
  against
• 6:15
  people
• 6:16
  who
• 6:16
  wanted
• 6:16
  to
• 6:16
  help,
• 6:17
  against
• 6:17
  ease,
• 6:18
  against
• 6:19
  receiving.
• 6:20
  Now
• 6:21
  friend,
• 6:21
  let
• 6:21
  me
• 6:21
  remind
• 6:22
  you,
• 6:23
  women
• 6:23
  are
• 6:23
  natural
• 6:24
  receivers.
• 6:25
  We
• 6:26
  are
• 6:26
  literally
• 6:27
  designed
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  receive.
• 6:29
  That
• 6:30
  capacity
• 6:31
  is
• 6:31
  in
• 6:31
  all
• 6:32
  of
• 6:32
  us
• 6:33
  But
• 6:33
  when
• 6:33
  life
• 6:34
  requires
• 6:34
  you
• 6:35
  to
• 6:35
  be
• 6:35
  the
• 6:35
  one
• 6:35
  who
• 6:36
  does
• 6:36
  it
• 6:36
  all,
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  strong
• 6:38
  one,
• 6:38
  the
• 6:38
  single
• 6:38
  mom,
• 6:39
  the
• 6:39
  one
• 6:40
  who
• 6:40
  holds
• 6:40
  everything
• 6:41
  together,
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  do
• 6:42
  not
• 6:42
  just
• 6:43
  set
• 6:43
  receiving
• 6:44
  aside
• 6:44
  temporarily.
• 6:46
  You
• 6:46
  start
• 6:46
  to
• 6:46
  believe
• 6:47
  you
• 6:48
  are
• 6:48
  not
• 6:48
  someone
• 6:49
  who
• 6:49
  receives.
• 6:50
  That
• 6:50
  must
• 6:51
  be
• 6:51
  for
• 6:52
  other
• 6:52
  women,
• 6:53
  softer
• 6:54
  women,
• 6:55
  women
• 6:55
  whose
• 6:56
  lives
• 6:56
  look
• 6:56
  different
• 6:58
  than
• 6:58
  mine.
• 6:59
  And
• 6:59
  then
• 7:00
  something
• 7:00
  good
• 7:01
  arrives,
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  person,
• 7:03
  a
• 7:03
  gesture,
• 7:04
  a
• 7:04
  season
• 7:04
  of
• 7:05
  rest,
• 7:05
  an
• 7:06
  opportunity
• 7:07
  that
• 7:07
  wants
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  give
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  you
• 7:08
  for
• 7:08
  once
• 7:09
  instead
• 7:10
  of
• 7:10
  take
• 7:10
  from
• 7:11
  you,
• 7:11
  and
• 7:12
  you
• 7:12
  don't
• 7:12
  know
• 7:13
  what
• 7:13
  to
• 7:13
  do
• 7:13
  with
• 7:13
  your
• 7:14
  hands.
• 7:17
  Yes,
• 7:18
  friend,
• 7:18
  it
• 7:18
  is
• 7:19
  very
• 7:19
  much
• 7:19
  giving
• 7:20
  awkward
• 7:20
  pose
• 7:21
  with
• 7:21
  the
• 7:21
  smile
• 7:22
  that
• 7:22
  looks
• 7:23
  painful.
• 7:27
  You
• 7:27
  know
• 7:27
  when
• 7:28
  you've
• 7:28
  been
• 7:28
  carrying
• 7:28
  groceries
• 7:29
  alone
• 7:30
  for
• 7:30
  so
• 7:30
  long,
• 7:31
  and
• 7:31
  finally
• 7:32
  someone
• 7:32
  offers
• 7:32
  to
• 7:33
  take
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  bag,
• 7:34
  and
• 7:34
  your
• 7:34
  first
• 7:34
  instinct
• 7:35
  is
• 7:35
  to
• 7:35
  hold
• 7:35
  on
• 7:36
  tighter?
• 7:36
  Like,
• 7:37
  "Wait
• 7:37
  a
• 7:37
  minute,
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  have
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  system.
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  know
• 7:39
  exactly
• 7:39
  how
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  distribute
• 7:40
  the
• 7:40
  weight.
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  have
• 7:42
  been
• 7:42
  managing
• 7:42
  this."
• 7:43
  And
• 7:44
  then
• 7:44
  you
• 7:44
  realize
• 7:45
  you're
• 7:46
  literally
• 7:46
  arguing
• 7:47
  with
• 7:47
  someone
• 7:48
  who
• 7:48
  just
• 7:48
  wants
• 7:49
  to
• 7:49
  help
• 7:49
  you
• 7:50
  get
• 7:51
  to
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  door.
• 7:52
  Friend,
• 7:53
  that
• 7:53
  was
• 7:54
  me.
• 7:56
  And
• 7:56
  that
• 7:57
  might
• 7:57
  be
• 7:57
  you
• 7:58
  too,
• 7:58
  okay?
• 7:59
  We
• 8:00
  deflect,
• 8:01
  we
• 8:01
  minimize,
• 8:02
  we
• 8:02
  manage,
• 8:03
  or
• 8:04
  dare
• 8:04
  I
• 8:04
  even
• 8:05
  say
• 8:05
  micromanage
• 8:07
  the
• 8:07
  good
• 8:07
  thing
• 8:08
  before
• 8:08
  it
• 8:09
  can
• 8:09
  fully
• 8:09
  land.
• 8:11
  "Oh,
• 8:11
  you
• 8:11
  don't
• 8:11
  have
• 8:11
  to.
• 8:12
  I'm
• 8:12
  fine.
• 8:13
  I
• 8:13
  got
• 8:13
  it.
• 8:14
  Don't
• 8:14
  worry
• 8:14
  about
• 8:14
  me."
• 8:15
  Listen,
• 8:16
  I
• 8:16
  just
• 8:16
  called
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  old
• 8:17
  me
• 8:17
  out,
• 8:18
  and
• 8:18
  probably
• 8:18
  you
• 8:19
  too.
• 8:21
  But
• 8:21
  no
• 8:21
  shade,
• 8:22
  no
• 8:22
  shame,
• 8:22
  and
• 8:23
  no
• 8:23
  judgment
• 8:23
  because
• 8:24
  we
• 8:24
  learned
• 8:25
  this.
• 8:26
  This
• 8:27
  life
• 8:27
  chose
• 8:28
  us,
• 8:28
  friend,
• 8:29
  but
• 8:29
  now
• 8:30
  we
• 8:30
  can
• 8:30
  see
• 8:31
  it,
• 8:31
  we
• 8:32
  can
• 8:32
  change
• 8:32
  it.
• 8:33
  So
• 8:33
  let's
• 8:34
  talk
• 8:34
  about
• 8:34
  signals
• 8:35
  because
• 8:35
  this
• 8:36
  is
• 8:36
  where
• 8:36
  it
• 8:37
  all
• 8:37
  connects.
• 8:38
  Any
• 8:39
  signal,
• 8:39
  I'm
• 8:39
  talking
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  empty
• 8:41
  feeling,
• 8:41
  the
• 8:41
  restlessness,
• 8:42
  something
• 8:43
  new,
• 8:43
  the
• 8:43
  sense
• 8:44
  that
• 8:44
  something
• 8:45
  is
• 8:45
  shifting.
• 8:46
  We
• 8:46
  run
• 8:47
  all
• 8:47
  of
• 8:47
  it
• 8:47
  through
• 8:48
  a
• 8:48
  worst-case
• 8:49
  scenario
• 8:49
  filter.
• 8:50
  We
• 8:50
  read
• 8:51
  every
• 8:51
  message
• 8:52
  as
• 8:52
  a
• 8:52
  warning,
• 8:53
  every
• 8:53
  change
• 8:54
  as
• 8:54
  a
• 8:54
  threat,
• 8:55
  every
• 8:55
  feeling
• 8:56
  as
• 8:56
  something
• 8:57
  to
• 8:57
  brace
• 8:58
  against.
• 8:59
  But
• 8:59
  what
• 9:00
  if
• 9:00
  the
• 9:00
  signal
• 9:01
  isn't
• 9:01
  a
• 9:01
  warning?
• 9:02
  What
• 9:03
  if
• 9:03
  it's
• 9:03
  an
• 9:03
  invitation?
• 9:05
  What
• 9:05
  if
• 9:05
  the
• 9:06
  empty
• 9:06
  feeling
• 9:07
  is
• 9:07
  not
• 9:07
  something
• 9:08
  dying?
• 9:09
  What
• 9:09
  if
• 9:09
  it's
• 9:10
  space
• 9:11
  being
• 9:11
  cleared
• 9:12
  for
• 9:12
  something
• 9:12
  new?
• 9:13
  What
• 9:14
  if
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  restlessness
• 9:15
  is
• 9:16
  not
• 9:16
  a
• 9:16
  problem?
• 9:17
  What
• 9:17
  if
• 9:18
  it's
• 9:18
  a
• 9:18
  pointer
• 9:19
  pointing
• 9:20
  you
• 9:20
  in
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  positive
• 9:21
  direction?
• 9:22
  The
• 9:22
  woman
• 9:23
  who
• 9:23
  braces
• 9:24
  can't
• 9:24
  hear.
• 9:25
  She
• 9:25
  already
• 9:26
  decided
• 9:27
  what
• 9:27
  the
• 9:27
  signal
• 9:28
  means,
• 9:28
  and
• 9:29
  it's
• 9:29
  heavy
• 9:30
  on
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  negative.
• 9:32
  But
• 9:32
  the
• 9:32
  woman
• 9:33
  you're
• 9:33
  becoming,
• 9:34
  she
• 9:34
  can
• 9:35
  hold
• 9:35
  both
• 9:36
  possibilities.
• 9:37
  She
• 9:37
  can
• 9:38
  look
• 9:38
  at
• 9:38
  a
• 9:38
  signal
• 9:39
  and
• 9:39
  ask,
• 9:39
  "Wait,
• 9:40
  what
• 9:40
  if
• 9:41
  this
• 9:41
  is
• 9:41
  pointing
• 9:42
  me
• 9:42
  somewhere
• 9:43
  wonderful?"
• 9:45
  That
• 9:45
  is
• 9:45
  not
• 9:46
  being
• 9:46
  naive
• 9:47
  or
• 9:47
  ignoring
• 9:48
  reality.
• 9:49
  That's
• 9:49
  a
• 9:49
  woman
• 9:50
  who's
• 9:50
  done
• 9:51
  enough
• 9:51
  work
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  stop
• 9:52
  needing
• 9:53
  the
• 9:53
  armor
• 9:54
  all
• 9:54
  the
• 9:54
  time.
• 9:55
  You
• 9:55
  know
• 9:56
  those
• 9:56
  romantic
• 9:56
  comedies
• 9:57
  where
• 9:58
  he
• 9:58
  finally
• 9:59
  shows
• 9:59
  up
• 9:59
  at
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  door
• 10:00
  with
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  speech
• 10:01
  and
• 10:02
  she
• 10:02
  just
• 10:02
  stands
• 10:03
  there?
• 10:04
  It's
• 10:04
  because
• 10:04
  she
• 10:04
  had
• 10:05
  the
• 10:05
  whole
• 10:05
  script
• 10:05
  prepared
• 10:06
  for
• 10:06
  when
• 10:07
  it
• 10:07
  was
• 10:07
  gonna
• 10:07
  go
• 10:07
  wrong.
• 10:09
  She
• 10:09
  had
• 10:09
  the
• 10:10
  exit
• 10:10
  plan
• 10:11
  mapped
• 10:11
  out,
• 10:11
  and
• 10:12
  it's
• 10:12
  very
• 10:12
  much
• 10:12
  giving
• 10:13
  she's
• 10:13
  a
• 10:13
  runner,
• 10:14
  she's
• 10:14
  a
• 10:14
  track
• 10:14
  star.
• 10:18
  She
• 10:18
  just
• 10:18
  never
• 10:19
  wrote
• 10:19
  the
• 10:19
  scene
• 10:20
  where
• 10:20
  it
• 10:20
  actually
• 10:21
  went
• 10:22
  right.
• 10:23
  That
• 10:23
  was
• 10:23
  me,
• 10:23
  friend.
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  had
• 10:25
  rehearsed
• 10:25
  disappointment
• 10:26
  repeatedly,
• 10:28
  so
• 10:28
  much
• 10:28
  so
• 10:29
  it
• 10:29
  became
• 10:30
  my
• 10:30
  default.
• 10:31
  I
• 10:31
  had
• 10:32
  never
• 10:33
  rehearsed
• 10:34
  the
• 10:34
  blessing.
• 10:35
  So
• 10:35
  hear
• 10:36
  me
• 10:36
  with
• 10:36
  your
• 10:36
  whole
• 10:37
  heart
• 10:37
  when
• 10:37
  I
• 10:37
  say
• 10:38
  this.
• 10:39
  The
• 10:39
  woman
• 10:39
  on
• 10:39
  the
• 10:39
  other
• 10:40
  side
• 10:40
  of
• 10:40
  this
• 10:41
  does
• 10:41
  not
• 10:42
  stop
• 10:42
  being
• 10:42
  strong.
• 10:43
  She
• 10:44
  does
• 10:44
  not
• 10:44
  become
• 10:45
  helpless
• 10:45
  or
• 10:45
  naive.
• 10:47
  She
• 10:47
  becomes
• 10:48
  someone
• 10:48
  who
• 10:48
  knows
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  difference
• 10:50
  between
• 10:51
  when
• 10:51
  she
• 10:51
  needs
• 10:51
  her
• 10:52
  armor
• 10:52
  versus
• 10:53
  when
• 10:54
  she
• 10:54
  can
• 10:54
  take
• 10:54
  it
• 10:54
  off
• 10:55
  and
• 10:56
  set
• 10:57
  it
• 10:57
  down.
• 10:58
  She's
• 10:58
  no
• 10:58
  longer
• 10:59
  bracing
• 10:59
  for
• 11:00
  hurt
• 11:00
  or
• 11:00
  to
• 11:00
  be
• 11:01
  let
• 11:01
  down.
• 11:02
  She
• 11:02
  trusts
• 11:03
  herself
• 11:04
  enough
• 11:05
  to
• 11:05
  be
• 11:05
  in
• 11:05
  a
• 11:06
  receiving
• 11:06
  position.
• 11:08
  And
• 11:08
  here's
• 11:08
  what
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  know
• 11:09
  for
• 11:09
  sure.
• 11:10
  It's
• 11:11
  hard
• 11:11
  to
• 11:11
  fully
• 11:12
  receive
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  great
• 11:13
  love,
• 11:14
  a
• 11:14
  great
• 11:14
  opportunity,
• 11:16
  a
• 11:16
  great
• 11:16
  season
• 11:17
  of
• 11:17
  life
• 11:18
  if
• 11:18
  your
• 11:18
  hands
• 11:19
  are
• 11:19
  full
• 11:20
  trying
• 11:21
  to
• 11:21
  carry
• 11:21
  everything
• 11:22
  else.
• 11:23
  You
• 11:23
  have
• 11:23
  to
• 11:24
  put
• 11:24
  something
• 11:25
  down
• 11:26
  in
• 11:26
  order
• 11:27
  to
• 11:27
  pick
• 11:27
  something
• 11:28
  up
• 11:30
  Ooh,
• 11:31
  friend,
• 11:31
  listen,
• 11:32
  if
• 11:32
  you
• 11:33
  wanna
• 11:33
  take
• 11:33
  everything
• 11:34
  we
• 11:34
  just
• 11:34
  talked
• 11:34
  about
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  actually
• 11:36
  sit
• 11:36
  with
• 11:36
  it
• 11:36
  on
• 11:37
  paper,
• 11:38
  the
• 11:38
  main
• 11:38
  character
• 11:38
  energy
• 11:39
  journal
• 11:39
  prompts
• 11:40
  are
• 11:40
  just
• 11:41
  for
• 11:41
  you.
• 11:42
  These
• 11:42
  aren't
• 11:42
  your
• 11:42
  average
• 11:43
  think
• 11:43
  positive
• 11:44
  and
• 11:44
  write
• 11:44
  it
• 11:45
  down
• 11:45
  prompts,
• 11:45
  okay?
• 11:46
  These
• 11:47
  are
• 11:47
  designed
• 11:48
  to
• 11:48
  help
• 11:48
  you
• 11:48
  get
• 11:49
  radically
• 11:49
  honest
• 11:50
  about
• 11:51
  who
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  are,
• 11:52
  what
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  want,
• 11:53
  and
• 11:53
  who
• 11:53
  you're
• 11:54
  becoming.
• 11:55
  They're
• 11:55
  gonna
• 11:55
  walk
• 11:56
  you
• 11:56
  right
• 11:56
  into
• 11:57
  the
• 11:57
  identity
• 11:58
  shift
• 11:58
  we
• 11:59
  just
• 11:59
  did
• 11:59
  together,
• 12:00
  but
• 12:00
  deeper
• 12:01
  and
• 12:01
  on
• 12:01
  your
• 12:02
  terms,
• 12:02
  at
• 12:03
  your
• 12:03
  pace
• 12:04
  They're
• 12:04
  linked
• 12:04
  in
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  show
• 12:05
  notes
• 12:05
  right
• 12:06
  now.
• 12:06
  No
• 12:06
  more
• 12:07
  waiting
• 12:07
  for
• 12:07
  things
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  change.
• 12:09
  This
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  you
• 12:10
  being
• 12:11
  the
• 12:11
  change
• 12:12
  by
• 12:12
  taking
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  step
• 12:16
  And
• 12:16
  now
• 12:17
  here's
• 12:17
  your
• 12:17
  practice.
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  know,
• 12:19
  I'm
• 12:20
  calling
• 12:20
  it
• 12:20
  a
• 12:20
  practice
• 12:21
  on
• 12:21
  purpose
• 12:22
  because
• 12:22
  this
• 12:22
  is
• 12:23
  not
• 12:23
  just
• 12:24
  a
• 12:24
  switch
• 12:24
  that
• 12:24
  you
• 12:25
  flip.
• 12:25
  This
• 12:26
  is
• 12:26
  your
• 12:26
  self-love
• 12:27
  two-step
• 12:28
  with
• 12:28
  the
• 12:28
  remix
• 12:29
  to
• 12:29
  practice
• 12:30
  receiving,
• 12:32
  because
• 12:32
  receiving
• 12:33
  is
• 12:33
  a
• 12:33
  muscle
• 12:34
  and
• 12:35
  someone
• 12:36
  who
• 12:36
  shall
• 12:36
  remain
• 12:36
  nameless,
• 12:38
  has
• 12:39
  not
• 12:39
  worked
• 12:39
  the
• 12:39
  muscle
• 12:40
  since
• 12:40
  the
• 12:40
  last
• 12:41
  time
• 12:41
  someone
• 12:42
  did
• 12:42
  a
• 12:42
  kind
• 12:42
  thing
• 12:43
  for
• 12:43
  said
• 12:43
  someone
• 12:44
  who
• 12:45
  did
• 12:45
  not
• 12:46
  immediately
• 12:47
  look
• 12:47
  at
• 12:47
  the
• 12:47
  fine
• 12:47
  print.
• 12:51
  Okay,
• 12:51
  step
• 12:52
  one,
• 12:53
  learn
• 12:53
  who
• 12:54
  is
• 12:54
  safe
• 12:55
  to
• 12:55
  receive
• 12:55
  from.
• 12:56
  This
• 12:57
  is
• 12:57
  discernment,
• 12:58
  not
• 12:59
  defenselessness.
• 13:00
  You
• 13:00
  are
• 13:01
  not
• 13:01
  putting
• 13:01
  the
• 13:01
  shield
• 13:02
  down
• 13:02
  for
• 13:02
  everybody,
• 13:04
  okay?
• 13:04
  Drake
• 13:05
  said,
• 13:05
  "I
• 13:05
  gotta
• 13:06
  watch
• 13:06
  my
• 13:06
  back
• 13:06
  'cause
• 13:07
  I'm
• 13:07
  not
• 13:07
  just
• 13:08
  anybody."
• 13:12
  And
• 13:12
  that
• 13:12
  applies
• 13:12
  to
• 13:13
  you
• 13:13
  too,
• 13:13
  friend.
• 13:16
  You
• 13:17
  are
• 13:17
  learning
• 13:18
  to
• 13:18
  read
• 13:18
  the
• 13:19
  room.
• 13:20
  Who
• 13:20
  in
• 13:20
  your
• 13:20
  life
• 13:21
  is
• 13:21
  consistently
• 13:22
  showing
• 13:23
  up?
• 13:24
  Who
• 13:24
  keeps
• 13:24
  their
• 13:24
  word?
• 13:25
  Who
• 13:26
  has
• 13:26
  proven
• 13:26
  over
• 13:27
  time
• 13:28
  that
• 13:28
  they
• 13:28
  wanna
• 13:28
  give
• 13:29
  to
• 13:29
  you
• 13:30
  without
• 13:30
  a
• 13:30
  hidden
• 13:31
  agenda?
• 13:32
  Start
• 13:32
  there.
• 13:33
  That
• 13:34
  is
• 13:34
  your
• 13:34
  receiving
• 13:35
  practice
• 13:35
  ground.
• 13:36
  Step
• 13:37
  two,
• 13:38
  Let
• 13:38
  it
• 13:38
  land
• 13:38
  small
• 13:39
  before
• 13:40
  you
• 13:40
  let
• 13:40
  it
• 13:40
  land
• 13:41
  big
• 13:42
  You
• 13:42
  don't
• 13:42
  have
• 13:43
  to
• 13:43
  start
• 13:43
  with
• 13:43
  grand
• 13:44
  gestures
• 13:44
  here.
• 13:44
  You
• 13:45
  are
• 13:45
  just
• 13:45
  starting
• 13:46
  with
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  cup
• 13:46
  of
• 13:47
  coffee
• 13:47
  someone
• 13:48
  made
• 13:48
  for
• 13:48
  you
• 13:49
  and
• 13:49
  not
• 13:49
  saying,
• 13:50
  "Oh,
• 13:50
  you
• 13:50
  don't
• 13:50
  have
• 13:50
  to."
• 13:51
  You
• 13:52
  are
• 13:52
  accepting
• 13:53
  the
• 13:53
  compliment
• 13:54
  without
• 13:55
  redirecting
• 13:56
  it.
• 13:56
  You're
• 13:57
  asking
• 13:57
  for
• 13:58
  help
• 13:58
  before
• 13:59
  you
• 14:00
  hit
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  bottom.
• 14:02
  While
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  still
• 14:03
  have
• 14:03
  some
• 14:04
  options.
• 14:05
  Let
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  small
• 14:06
  receives
• 14:07
  happen
• 14:08
  They're
• 14:08
  training
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  for
• 14:10
  the
• 14:10
  big
• 14:10
  ones.
• 14:11
  And
• 14:11
  step
• 14:12
  three,
• 14:13
  this
• 14:13
  one
• 14:13
  is
• 14:13
  a
• 14:14
  little
• 14:14
  bit
• 14:14
  different
• 14:14
  because
• 14:15
  we
• 14:15
  are
• 14:16
  practicing
• 14:17
  receiving.
• 14:18
  I
• 14:18
  want
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  to
• 14:20
  notice
• 14:21
  the
• 14:21
  brace
• 14:22
  and
• 14:22
  choose
• 14:23
  a
• 14:23
  different
• 14:23
  response.
• 14:25
  When
• 14:25
  a
• 14:25
  signal
• 14:25
  arrives,
• 14:26
  when
• 14:26
  you
• 14:27
  get
• 14:27
  that
• 14:27
  feeling
• 14:28
  or
• 14:29
  an
• 14:29
  opportunity
• 14:30
  or
• 14:30
  a
• 14:30
  person
• 14:31
  who
• 14:31
  wants
• 14:31
  to
• 14:31
  show
• 14:32
  up
• 14:32
  and
• 14:33
  your
• 14:33
  nervous
• 14:33
  system
• 14:34
  starts
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  slouch,
• 14:36
  catch
• 14:36
  it,
• 14:36
  name
• 14:37
  it.
• 14:38
  "I
• 14:38
  am
• 14:39
  bracing
• 14:39
  again."
• 14:41
  And
• 14:41
  then
• 14:41
  ask
• 14:42
  yourself,
• 14:42
  "What
• 14:43
  would
• 14:43
  the
• 14:43
  woman
• 14:44
  I'm
• 14:44
  becoming
• 14:45
  do
• 14:45
  here?"
• 14:46
  She
• 14:47
  would
• 14:47
  look
• 14:47
  at
• 14:47
  this
• 14:48
  and
• 14:48
  ask,
• 14:49
  "What
• 14:49
  if
• 14:50
  this
• 14:50
  is
• 14:50
  actually
• 14:51
  good?"
• 14:52
  And
• 14:53
  she
• 14:54
  would
• 14:54
  stay
• 14:54
  open
• 14:55
  long
• 14:55
  enough
• 14:56
  to
• 14:56
  find
• 14:56
  out.
• 14:57
  So
• 14:57
  friend,
• 14:58
  put
• 14:58
  it
• 14:58
  in
• 14:58
  practice
• 14:59
  because
• 15:00
  you
• 15:00
  were
• 15:00
  made
• 15:02
  to
• 15:02
  receive
• 15:04
  Now
• 15:04
  let
• 15:04
  me
• 15:05
  pour
• 15:05
  into
• 15:05
  you
• 15:06
  right
• 15:06
  quick.
• 15:07
  Before
• 15:07
  I
• 15:07
  let
• 15:08
  you
• 15:08
  go,
• 15:08
  I
• 15:09
  just
• 15:09
  need
• 15:09
  one
• 15:10
  more
• 15:10
  moment.
• 15:11
  I'm
• 15:11
  speaking
• 15:12
  to
• 15:12
  the
• 15:12
  heart
• 15:12
  of
• 15:13
  the
• 15:13
  woman
• 15:14
  who's
• 15:14
  been
• 15:14
  handling
• 15:15
  everything
• 15:15
  alone
• 15:16
  for
• 15:16
  so
• 15:16
  long
• 15:17
  she
• 15:18
  forgot
• 15:18
  that
• 15:19
  it's
• 15:19
  supposed
• 15:19
  to
• 15:20
  be
• 15:20
  different.
• 15:21
  I
• 15:21
  see
• 15:21
  you.
• 15:22
  I
• 15:23
  was
• 15:24
  you.
• 15:25
  And
• 15:25
  I
• 15:25
  need
• 15:26
  you
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  hear
• 15:26
  me
• 15:26
  with
• 15:26
  your
• 15:27
  whole
• 15:27
  heart
• 15:28
  when
• 15:28
  I
• 15:29
  say
• 15:29
  the
• 15:30
  version
• 15:30
  of
• 15:30
  you
• 15:30
  that
• 15:31
  learned
• 15:31
  to
• 15:31
  brace
• 15:32
  herself
• 15:33
  was
• 15:33
  not
• 15:34
  broken.
• 15:35
  She
• 15:35
  was
• 15:35
  brilliant.
• 15:37
  She
• 15:37
  did
• 15:38
  what
• 15:38
  she
• 15:38
  had
• 15:38
  to
• 15:39
  do
• 15:39
  to
• 15:39
  survive
• 15:40
  a
• 15:40
  season
• 15:41
  that
• 15:42
  asked
• 15:42
  everything
• 15:43
  of
• 15:43
  her.
• 15:44
  She
• 15:44
  kept
• 15:44
  herself
• 15:45
  safe.
• 15:46
  She
• 15:46
  kept
• 15:46
  everybody
• 15:47
  else
• 15:47
  safe.
• 15:48
  She
• 15:48
  showed
• 15:49
  up
• 15:50
  when
• 15:50
  showing
• 15:51
  up
• 15:51
  was
• 15:51
  the
• 15:51
  only
• 15:52
  option.
• 15:54
  And
• 15:54
  I
• 15:54
  say
• 15:54
  this
• 15:55
  with
• 15:55
  so
• 15:56
  much
• 15:56
  love,
• 15:57
  friend,
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  season
• 15:59
  is
• 16:00
  not
• 16:01
  your
• 16:01
  whole
• 16:01
  story
• 16:02
  You
• 16:03
  are
• 16:03
  not
• 16:03
  sentenced
• 16:04
  to
• 16:05
  the
• 16:05
  identity
• 16:05
  you
• 16:06
  built
• 16:07
  in
• 16:07
  your
• 16:07
  hardest
• 16:08
  chapter.
• 16:09
  The
• 16:09
  woman
• 16:09
  you're
• 16:09
  becoming,
• 16:10
  she's
• 16:11
  not
• 16:11
  far
• 16:11
  from
• 16:12
  where
• 16:12
  you're
• 16:12
  standing
• 16:13
  right
• 16:13
  now.
• 16:14
  She
• 16:14
  knows
• 16:14
  how
• 16:15
  to
• 16:15
  put
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  shield
• 16:15
  down
• 16:16
  without
• 16:17
  the
• 16:17
  world
• 16:18
  getting
• 16:18
  her.
• 16:19
  She
• 16:19
  can
• 16:19
  let
• 16:20
  someone
• 16:20
  show
• 16:21
  up
• 16:21
  for
• 16:21
  her
• 16:22
  without
• 16:22
  waiting
• 16:23
  for
• 16:23
  the
• 16:23
  catch.
• 16:24
  She
• 16:24
  can
• 16:25
  look
• 16:25
  at
• 16:25
  a
• 16:25
  signal
• 16:26
  and
• 16:26
  ask,
• 16:27
  "What
• 16:28
  if
• 16:28
  this
• 16:28
  is
• 16:29
  wonderful?"
• 16:30
  Instead
• 16:31
  of,
• 16:32
  "What
• 16:32
  if
• 16:32
  this
• 16:33
  is
• 16:33
  the
• 16:33
  end?"
• 16:34
  She
• 16:34
  can
• 16:34
  receive
• 16:35
  with
• 16:35
  open
• 16:36
  hands,
• 16:37
  and
• 16:38
  she's
• 16:38
  not
• 16:39
  waiting
• 16:39
  for
• 16:39
  you
• 16:39
  to
• 16:39
  be
• 16:40
  perfect
• 16:41
  before
• 16:41
  she
• 16:41
  steps
• 16:42
  forward.
• 16:43
  She's
• 16:43
  waiting
• 16:44
  for
• 16:44
  you
• 16:44
  to
• 16:44
  practice.
• 16:45
  So
• 16:45
  start
• 16:46
  small.
• 16:47
  Let
• 16:48
  something
• 16:48
  land
• 16:49
  today.
• 16:50
  Let
• 16:51
  someone
• 16:51
  support
• 16:52
  you.
• 16:53
  Let
• 16:53
  someone
• 16:53
  show
• 16:54
  you
• 16:54
  kindness,
• 16:55
  love,
• 16:55
  and
• 16:56
  care.
• 16:56
  You
• 16:57
  are
• 16:57
  safe
• 16:58
  to
• 16:59
  expect
• 16:59
  the
• 17:00
  best.
• 17:01
  You're
• 17:01
  safe
• 17:01
  to
• 17:02
  expect
• 17:02
  good
• 17:02
  things,
• 17:03
  great
• 17:03
  things,
• 17:04
  amazing
• 17:05
  things,
• 17:05
  incredibly
• 17:07
  awesome
• 17:07
  things.
• 17:08
  You
• 17:08
  were
• 17:09
  born
• 17:09
  deserving
• 17:10
  of
• 17:10
  all
• 17:11
  of
• 17:11
  it.
• 17:12
  Now,
• 17:13
  it's
• 17:13
  time
• 17:14
  to
• 17:14
  be
• 17:14
  the
• 17:14
  receiver
• 17:15
  you
• 17:16
  were
• 17:16
  made
• 17:16
  to
• 17:16
  be
• 17:17
  and
• 17:18
  let
• 17:18
  it
• 17:18
  in
• 17:22
  Friend,
• 17:22
  you
• 17:23
  deserve
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  fall
• 17:24
  in
• 17:25
  love
• 17:25
  with
• 17:25
  yourself,
• 17:26
  with
• 17:26
  your
• 17:26
  days
• 17:27
  and
• 17:27
  your
• 17:27
  life.
• 17:29
  Not
• 17:29
  someday,
• 17:30
  but
• 17:30
  right
• 17:30
  now.
• 17:31
  This
• 17:32
  conversation,
• 17:33
  this
• 17:33
  work
• 17:34
  you
• 17:34
  showed
• 17:34
  up
• 17:35
  for,
• 17:36
  this
• 17:36
  is
• 17:36
  how
• 17:37
  it
• 17:37
  happens,
• 17:38
  one
• 17:38
  layer
• 17:39
  at
• 17:39
  a
• 17:39
  time.
• 17:40
  And
• 17:40
  I'm
• 17:40
  gonna
• 17:41
  keep
• 17:41
  showing
• 17:41
  up
• 17:42
  in
• 17:42
  your
• 17:42
  earbuds
• 17:43
  every
• 17:43
  single
• 17:44
  week
• 17:44
  until
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  believe
• 17:45
  that.
• 17:46
  I
• 17:46
  do
• 17:46
  mean
• 17:47
  every
• 17:48
  week,
• 17:48
  so
• 17:49
  you
• 17:49
  might
• 17:49
  as
• 17:49
  well
• 17:49
  subscribe.
• 17:52
  I'm
• 17:52
  cheering
• 17:52
  for
• 17:52
  you
• 17:53
  loud
• 17:54
  and
• 17:54
  obnoxiously
• 17:55
  always.
• 17:56
  My
• 17:56
  family
• 17:57
  can
• 17:57
  confirm
• 17:58
  this
• 17:58
  is
• 17:58
  just
• 17:58
  how
• 17:58
  I
• 17:59
  am.
• 18:00
  And
• 18:00
  no
• 18:00
  matter
• 18:01
  what
• 18:01
  comes
• 18:01
  your
• 18:02
  way,
• 18:02
  together
• 18:03
  we
• 18:03
  can
• 18:04
  encourage
• 18:05
  over
• 18:05
  everything
• 18:06
  and
• 18:06
  I'll
• 18:06
  see
• 18:07
  you
• 18:07
  in
• 18:08
  the
• 18:08
  next
• 18:08
  episode