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The Hidden Cost of Drift · The Daily Reset Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: Happy Sunday, everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Laurel here on the Daily Reset podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, today we are going to be looking at the hidden cost of drift.
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  So that is the subject we're going to be looking at for
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  tomorrow's masterclass.
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  SPEAKER_00: What drift actually looks like, why it often goes unnoticed for years,
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  the hidden emotional physical and practical costs of staying
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  stuck and why
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  awareness is the first step towards change and so tomorrow
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  we're going to be
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  looking at where you are versus where you want to be and I find
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  this a super
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  interesting subject because for me there are really two major
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  things that keep us
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  SPEAKER_00: stuck
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  and you know people are not really conscious of of this and
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  it's all about the
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  psychology of drift and why smart people ending up living the
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  lives they didn't
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  design and one of these major things that I really think about
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  is the autopilot
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  SPEAKER_00: effect so your brain is literally
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  SPEAKER_00: Designed to conserve energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And once patterns become familiar, they move on to autopilot.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you'll wake up at the same time,
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  SPEAKER_00: you'll follow the same routines,
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  SPEAKER_00: you'll respond to the same pressures.
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  SPEAKER_00: And autopilot makes life efficient.
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  But what it also means is that we stop noticing when
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  something's no longer working.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is really how
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  Success or just living on autopilot can really hide that drift
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  and we're going to
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  dive into that in more detail tomorrow and the second thing
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  that is really a
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  massive thing as well is what I call the tolerance trap and
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  that's part of the what
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  SPEAKER_00: I call the two fears that quietly trap intelligent capable people so it's
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  the fear of change and the fear of staying the same so instead
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  of choosing we hover
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  and we tolerate and we drift somewhere in between
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  dissatisfaction and disruption
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  and the tolerance trap that's really most people don't fail
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  because they lack
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  ambition they fail because they're they lower their minimum
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  standards and this is
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  SPEAKER_00: not
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  something that people do consciously is gradually so just to
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  give you some examples
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  of that you might tolerate slightly worse sleep you might
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  tolerate slightly more
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  stress you start tolerating conversations that drain you more
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  or you tolerate work
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  SPEAKER_00: that no longer excites you and
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  you can tolerate relationships that feel fine so nothing
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  collapses dramatically it
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  just erodes and you don't rise to your goals you fall to your
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  standards so whatever
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  you're willing to tolerate becomes your life and that is how
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  high capacity people
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  get stuck it's not because they're lazy it's because they adapt
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  and we settle for
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  SPEAKER_00: less than we know we're capable of
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  SPEAKER_00: because of that powerful psychology.
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  SPEAKER_00: So stability feels safe and uncertainty feels threatening.
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  SPEAKER_00: And really that identity feels fragile.
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  SPEAKER_00: So,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: you've built that career,
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  SPEAKER_00: the reputation,
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  SPEAKER_00: the family lifestyle and that reinvention or recalibration feels risky,
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  SPEAKER_00: even if something inside you knows it's time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you
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  SPEAKER_00: You start negotiating with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, it's not that bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Other people have it worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is just adulthood.
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  SPEAKER_00: I should be grateful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And slowly, not that bad becomes your ceiling.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fear of change keeps you in discomfort.
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  SPEAKER_00: And fear of staying the same keeps you restless.
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  SPEAKER_00: And living in between those two fears is exhausting.
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  so that's the real cost of staying stuck you know stuff doesn't
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  just doesn't affect
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  your career it impacts every pillar of your life your your mind
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  becomes noisier
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  your body becomes more depleted and your relationships become
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  more transactional as
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  you no longer show up as your best self your sense of purpose
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  becomes more distant
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  SPEAKER_00: and you start reacting instead of responding
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  and so you focus on what's wrong and you assign meaning that
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  reinforces limitation
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  so that in turn keeps you repeating the same actions and this
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  is where the patterns
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  start to lock in so we're going to be looking at that tomorrow
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  in a lot more detail
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  and I'm going to be going through 14 hidden costs of being fine
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  so we'll kind of go
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  SPEAKER_00: through that in more detail
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  and yeah it's going to be a really interesting week this week
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  we have got tomorrow
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  we're going to go through the hidden cost of drift you know
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  looking at the
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  tolerance trap and the autopilot effect and then on day two
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  which is Tuesday we're
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  SPEAKER_00: going to look at the
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  Understanding Yourself Before You Reset or Redesign so we'll be
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  looking at human
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  design so hopefully you have um filled in the details and sent
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  them to me so I can
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  create your human design report and um done the balance reset
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  at balance.ai slash
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  SPEAKER_00: reset so you can
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  you've got your archetype and your flow score and a bit more
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  insight into there so
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  that's what we have covered on the Friday session alongside the
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  future self letter
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  exercise so if you haven't done that write a letter from your
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  future self 10 years
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  SPEAKER_00: in the future and really kind of drilling into you know
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  SPEAKER_00: All the things that we discussed there,
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  SPEAKER_00: which are things like describing your life,
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  SPEAKER_00: your achievements,
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  SPEAKER_00: how you feel and the person you become.
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  SPEAKER_00: So make it a really heartfelt message from your present to your future,
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  SPEAKER_00: filled with love,
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  SPEAKER_00: dreams,
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  SPEAKER_00: encouragement and an understanding of who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're writing a letter to yourself 10 years from now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what would you tell your future self?
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  yeah describing your life your achievements how you feel and
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  the person you've
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  become so this is a really really good exercise to do because I
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  talk a lot about
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  awareness and you get what you think about whether you like it
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  or not and so
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  literally anything that you focus on given that your day
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  actually creates your life
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  SPEAKER_00: and
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  is what you're going to get so really becoming aware and
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  intentional and conscious
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  of what we're doing and how we're thinking and last night I
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  watched Marty Life is
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  Short which was a documentary on Netflix about Martin Short and
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  it really he is a
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  SPEAKER_00: great example of how to live
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  Even through all the hardships you know he lost his family his
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  mum and dad and his
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  brother before he was 20 and he just really chose to take life
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  by the horns or
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  however you want to describe it but he really made a wonderful
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  life for himself by
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  SPEAKER_00: just waking up and choosing what to focus on and
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  and focusing on how to be to live in that state of joy so we're
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  kind of going to
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  talk a bit about that as well when we get through um the week
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  and yeah I think it's
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  just incredible what you can do with focus and where you direct
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  your focus so that
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  SPEAKER_00: is kind of where we're going to be going um
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  This week on Wednesday,
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  we're going to have our AI and Substack Day.
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  So we're going to look at what parts of your life are
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  unnecessarily complicated and
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  SPEAKER_00: some of the opportunities and risks of AI,
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  how the world's changing and what remains uniquely human and
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  how technology can
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  support us rather than overwhelm us and why clarity matters
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  more than ever in an AI
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  SPEAKER_00: driven world.
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  SPEAKER_00: So looking at technology, what could technology help us simplify?
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  SPEAKER_00: What can we use AI for?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what skills and qualities will matter in the future?
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  And if you know anything about me,
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  I'm really passionate about AI safety and using AI ethically.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we'll kind of dive into that.
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  And then on Thursday,
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  we'll be looking at why you keep repeating the same patterns
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  and
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  SPEAKER_00: Burnout Overwhelm People Pleasing Perfectionism and just all those coping
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  strategies and why awareness alone isn't enough so we'll be
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  looking at kind of what
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  could become possible if those patterns changed what are the
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  patterns that keep
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  SPEAKER_00: showing up in your life and what are they protecting you from
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  And then on Friday,
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  we'll be going into designing your life intentionally.
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  So I'm really excited about that where we start looking at your
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  biggest gaps and
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  SPEAKER_00: what needs your attention first.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that is what we're going to be doing on the masterclass this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I look forward to seeing you in the next session tomorrow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Happy Sunday, everyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a great day.