Latest / Just For Today / 168. Stopping Out
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- Cindy Marler: I am in this stage of life where my firstborn daughter is going to be going to college next year. Hard to believe, exciting, challenging, grieving. I am on a roller coaster of emotions this year. But one of the interesting statistics I find is that 40 to 50 percent of people who begin college don't finish. They call it stopping out, not dropping out. They call it stopping out. So let's say half. Half of the people that go to college, get to college, do all of the things to get there, are going to stop out. This has been the same statistic for a pretty long time. So it's not a new statistic, but what is new is it used to be the financial strain of college. That used to be the reason people stopped out. They weren't prepared for little minor emergencies like a car breakdown or someone getting sick. They weren't prepared to cover all of the expenses with books and living and all of that. But that is not even the issue anymore, especially with student loans, which I don't recommend. However, they that is less of the issue, financial strain. Now what they're citing is emotional, emotional stress and mental health issues, is why half of half of the kids that are stopping out, half of them are citing it was emotional stress and mental health. Well, we know this is true. We know we're suffering with this. But what do we all know about college? Those of us that went, it was emotional. It pushed you to your limits. Just when you were tired and exhausted and you stayed up too late, you had to get up and do it again. Or if you didn't, there were consequences. So what are we doing to prepare our kids prior to college for that level of emotional stress? Emotional and social exposure. Guys, for your kids that social isn't their strength, how much are you exposing them? Because of course, if they sit home and they're never being exposed to social environments and social environments cause them stress, then when they get to college and it's social, social, social, social, the stress level's through the roof. But what kind of exposure therapy are you doing to those kids sooner? What kind of exposure therapy are you doing for them with the grind? Or does your kid just live this really simple life that there's never that grind feeling? All of my kids go to sleepweight camp. It's this sweet, sweet sleepweight camp in in Black Mount, North Carolina. Called Camp Crest Ridge for Girls and Ridgecrest for Boys. And one of the things I want all of my daughters to do is to be a camp counselor there for a summer. Because I feel like it's boot camp for girls, where you are just giving of yourself all day, every day. You are giving of yourself at the highest level and you're exhausted and pushed to your limits, but all for the sake of fun and worship and games. But I believe that's going to prepare them for what that college life is like and then eventually leads into what family life is like. You can't like tuck yourself away from your family. So how are we preparing our kids for college so they don't become one of the stop out statistics because they simply can't handle the emotions that go with that sort of setup? Let's prepare them now. Let's be a part of changing this statistic. And if you're a student watching this, what are you doing to prepare yourself? Where are you pushing yourself past your limits? Let's, are you tired? I dare you to do it. Do it tired. Get up and go to school or study for the desk, tired. I promise your older self, your future self will thank you. I believe in you guys. I believe in you so much. I believe in you more than you believe in yourself. I promise. I'll talk to you tomorrow.