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Nervous System Stuck in Survival Mode? Do These 3 Things · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: For years, my nervous system was stuck in constant survival mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I tried everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Breathing exercises, supplements, therapy, but no matter what I did, my symptoms kept coming back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Once I recovered, I realized that the issue wasn't these tools, that I was using the tools to make my symptoms go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And ironically, it was that exact same tool that was keeping the symptoms alive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in this video, I'm going to share with you the three things you need to do to convey safety to your nervous system and exit survival mode permanently.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number one is stop chasing relief.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Every time we feel a symptom, a sensation, of feeling we don't like, we naturally try to find relief in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's through distraction, a grounding technique, or an escape plan, and while we might feel temporary comfort in the moment,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're indirectly telling your nervous system that this symptom or sensation is a threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're telling your nervous system that when you feel a certain way, you need to do something to make a go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you do this enough times, your nervous system begins to fire the alarms more and more.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system develops a habit of being on constant survival mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: A good analogy is to think of this as getting a mosquito bite when you get bit the bite itches.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your instinct is to scratch it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in the moment, scratching feels like relief.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what's actually happening underneath is that every scratch irritates the skin.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It releases more of the chemicals that cause it to itch in the first place.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The itch comes back
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what started off as one small bite turns into a raw inflamed area that it is for days.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Chasing relief in the moment works the exact same way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you try to use these coping tools as a way to feel better, you're scratching the itch.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the more you do that, the more inflamed the nervous system becomes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Over time, your nervous system gets so used to firing these alarms that it fires it all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even when it's just a regular symptom or sensation, the nervous system responds to it like it's a life or death situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, I know what you might be thinking, and no, it's not that you need to avoid these tools.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But before you use these tools, you need to focus on learning to convey safety to your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Safety to your nervous system means letting the symptom be there without trying to fix it or make it go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about it this way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're always asking yourself, is this normal?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What if this comes back?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Am I back to square one?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're still viewing your symptoms through the lens of danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you're viewing these symptoms as dangerous, your nervous system is going to stay on high alert.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So safety starts with understanding that the symptom is a result of a nervous system that's stuck on protection mode, not from real life danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now you might be thinking how do I convey safety, Sean?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, the first step is to understand why you're experiencing the sensations in the first place.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can have all the tools in the world, but if you don't know why you're experiencing these symptoms, it doesn't matter.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You will still view the symptoms as dangerous as something wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Understanding why you're experiencing the symptom allows the nervous system to recognize that this isn't a threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I call this understanding the mechanics of your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The moment you understand why the symptom is happening, your nervous system stops labeling it as a threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you know that a racing heart during a panic attack is adrenaline doing exactly what it's designed to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The racing heart stops being evidence of a heart attack and becomes evidence of an overactive alarm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When you recognize that the symptoms aren't dangerous and just signs of a stress nervous system, you'll naturally begin to lose fear of the sensations over time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, understanding why you have symptoms is often the hardest part.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's really hard to know why you're having symptoms or sensations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it from some chemical imbalance?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it from some childhood trauma?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Depending on who you ask, you'll get different answers.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But fundamentally, what's happening is that your nervous system is stuck on protection mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system has become sensitized.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And in order to go deeper into this, I've created a free nervous system assessment tool to help explain how your nervous system creates certain symptoms and what's keeping it on high alert.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can get that free nervous system assessment in the description box.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, once you begin conveying safety to your body, now you can use these tools like breathing exercises, supplements, because you're not using them as a way to make the symptoms go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Think about deep breathing during a panic attack.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have been doing deep breathing as a way to avoid or circumvent the panic attack.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But once you realize a panic attack is just adrenaline burning itself off, you can use deep breathing as a way to get through the panic attack.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What often happens is that the panic attacks shorten in duration as you lose the fear and as the adrenaline begins to burn itself off.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, here's something that I wish someone would have told me, just because you understand that the symptoms aren't dangerous doesn't mean your nervous system will automatically exit survival mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This leads me to the most important point of all, which is healing happens through experience, not understanding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Once I understood why I was having these symptoms and sensations, the symptoms didn't go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptoms were very uncomfortable and I was still a little bit scared of them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what had happened is that my relationship to the symptoms had changed.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I recognize that the work I had to do was to retrain my nervous system that these symptoms weren't dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the way I had to do this was by the way I responded to them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So instead of avoiding the symptoms or avoiding the things I would do if I didn't have these symptoms, I would allow the symptoms to be there without resisting them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even though I was a little bit scared of him, even though I'd get frustrated by them, I would still continue to let the symptoms be there and focus on living my life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It didn't matter if I was doing a breathing exercise or not because I wasn't using these tools to feel better in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as I was doing this, I was retraining my nervous system that these symptoms weren't dangerous.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My nervous system looked at me and said, hey, Sean doesn't seem to be reacting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe these alarms are false.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe we can turn down the volume knob.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this part is the most difficult part of the journey because you can intellectually understand that there is no threat, but your nervous system will still react like you're in danger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the best way I like to view this is to understand that there are three ceilings in your healing journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first ceiling is understanding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The truth is that most people don't even know why they're experiencing these symptoms or sensations.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They use breathing exercises, distraction, grounding techniques as a way to feel better in the moment, but they never find long-term relief because no one's explained to them what's happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the first ceiling is understanding what's going on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Once you understand that this is a nervous system issue, the second ceiling is experiential.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: your nervous system doesn't understand intellectually.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It needs to learn experientially.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So what this means is that you're living your life, letting the symptoms be there, going to your kid's soccer games, going to travel, doing those things you avoided, living your life with this their side by side is teaching your nervous system experientially that there is nothing wrong, that Sean always manages to survive this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that Sean is not reacting.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: He's choosing to move forward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system begins to learn through living.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is what I call experiential learning.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you do this, the nervous system will naturally learn that there is no threat.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you do this, your nervous system will start working with you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will start turning the volume knob down.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It won't do it overnight, and it'll actually try to test you first.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But once you've passed the test, your nervous system will begin working with you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The symptoms will subside.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You won't experience such an intense, emotional roller coaster over time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, as you do this experientially, this leads me to the third and final ceiling, which is embodiment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is where your nervous system had so much reference experience that it begins to naturally turn off the alarms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It realizes that the symptoms aren't dangerous and the volume knob just begins to go quiet.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You no longer need to consciously respond or teach your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system already knows.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It stops hyper-focusing on the sensations and the sensations
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, somewhere along the way, your symptoms became the main character of your life, every plan got built around them, every decision got filtered through them, your morning started with the same question, how am I going to get through today?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But that doesn't have to be the rest of your story.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system that's running you right now was built through experience, but it can be rebuilt the same way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you don't get there by becoming someone who never feels discomfort again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You get there by becoming somebody who doesn't let the symptoms stop them from living their life.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you move forward and as you gain that confidence, your body, your nervous system, your mind will begin working with you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will see that Sean is retraining it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It will see that these symptoms and sensations are false alarm.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Over time, you'll begin exiting the survival mode and you'll begin to thrive once again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching.