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Breaking the Silence: Get Help for Your Sex Life · Doing Marriage Well

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  Doing Marriage Well for May 8, 2026 Breaking the Silence While Your Sex Life
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  Deserves Support Getting third-party help for sexual issues is possible,
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  but it can feel scary or embarrassing.
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  However, if your sex life has any real ongoing problems, I want to encourage you to find help.
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  My first suggestion is the Marriage Bed Form. Link in the show notes.
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  For 27 years, we have offered a safe place for Christians to talk about sex.
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  There are likely things discussed there that you don't even want to know about,
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  but you can pick and choose what you read We debate the rightness or wrongness of various issues,
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  but clear sin is not okay The forums are a great place to look for answers or
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  ask for a bit of help What about friends?
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  Are they a valid resource for sex help?
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  They can be, but be careful Your sex life with your spouse should be private
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  and sharing it with your friend is tricky Would your spouse be upset or embarrassed
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  if they knew what you talked about?
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  Beyond that, your friends have living an experience. Sex is very individual,
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  and what Chris and Sam think is amazing might not be for you and your spouse.
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  Church-based help is iffy. A lot of churches won't even acknowledge married couples have sex.
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  When Lori and I sought help for our sex life at church 40 years ago,
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  we were told, it will work itself out. It didn't.
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  If there is someone who is willing to help, a lack of experience may be an issue here, too.
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  See what is said as one of many valid ways to make sex good.
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  Professional help deals with a lack of experience if the individual has been
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  trained about sexuality. This is one place where having a Christian is vital.
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  You don't want suggestions to use porn or to try an open marriage.
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  I've talked to people who have gone years without intercourse,
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  which they both wanted, because of an issue that could have been easily fixed. I hate that.
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  Sex is not just sex. It's an important part of marriage.
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  I've heard both men and women talk about how their relationship suffered in
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  non-sexual ways When they were unable to have sex for a protracted time There
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  is help Please don't suffer in silence This is Paul And doing sex well helps you do marriage well.