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EP: 26 The Midweek Reset: 3 Ways to Make an Average Week Feel Abundant · Healthy Boundaries for Moms| Christian Life Coach

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  Have you ever noticed how easy it is to rush through your life as a mom?
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  We spend so much time managing schedules, thinking ahead, taking care of everyone around
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  us that eventually life can just feel emotionally flat.
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  And even when there are good things all around us, and especially moms going into summer
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  when our routines are changing, the house gets louder, busier, it's really important
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  that we learn how to create more space and peace and abundance in our everyday lives.
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  And if that's something you've been craving lately, you are in luck because I've got three
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  excellent ways for you to make this average week feel abundant.
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  If you're tired of people pleasing, caring too much, and wondering why peace still feels
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  so hard to hold on to, you're in the right place.
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  Hi, I'm Lori, mom, former people pleaser, and your boundaries coach.
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  Here we talk about how to protect your peace, set healthier boundaries, and get clear on
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  what actually matters so that you can build a life that feels lighter, calmer, and more
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  satisfying.
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  So let's stop the chaos for a minute, moms, catch our breath, and get into this next episode.
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  Welcome back to Healthy Boundaries for Moms.
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  This is your midweek reset.
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  Before we jump into today's episode, I wanted to let you know that I'm going to be opening
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  up five free one-on-one coaching sessions soon for moms who are feeling overwhelmed,
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  emotionally exhausted, stuck in the people pleasing loop, or just needing help creating
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  healthier rhythms, boundaries, and more peace in your everyday lives.
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  These spots are definitely going to fill up quickly, so be on the lookout for that announcement.
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  And I'll also have links down in the show notes, so be looking for that.
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  It will have a link for the Healthy Boundaries for Moms Facebook group and the weekly newsletter
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  so that you can stay connected and encouraged throughout the week.
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  So today we're talking about the three ways to make an average week feel abundant.
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  And honestly, I think this is something a lot of moms are craving right about now, because
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  I think many of us are living in survival mode without even realizing it.
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  We are just constantly mentally carrying things, rushing from one thing to another, and eventually
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  life can just feel flat, even when we have great things going on all around us.
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  So what is the first way that we can create this abundance?
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  We are going to look at creating space.
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  I think this is one of the biggest reasons life stops feeling abundant, is because we
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  stop leaving space for anything, right?
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  We have no space in our schedules, there's no space in our homes, no space in our minds.
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  Emotionally, again, no space.
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  We're just constantly mentally carrying things around.
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  We're thinking ahead, we're managing those schedules that our kids have, we're solving
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  problems left and right, and we're anticipating needs that haven't even shown up yet.
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  And we're just trying to keep everything running smoothly.
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  And eventually, even the good things start weighing us down, because there's no margin
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  left.
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  There's no room.
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  So here's a verse in Ecclesiastes 4.6 that says, better one handful with tranquility
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  than two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind.
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  And honestly, I think so many moms have two, three, four handfuls, but no peace.
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  We have those full schedules and full calendars, our brains are mentally full, but internally
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  we feel so exhausted and emotionally stretched thin.
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  And sometimes abundance starts by removing things instead of adding things.
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  We are so used to just adding more and more things.
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  Not every empty space needs to be filled.
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  I mean, there's a mom out there that I think really needs to hear this.
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  Not every empty space needs to be filled.
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  Not every summer activity has to be a yes, okay?
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  And not every moment needs a bunch of noise or productivity or stimulation, because I
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  don't know about you, sometimes abundance to me looks like a slower morning.
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  It's a quieter, peaceful evening.
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  It's when my schedule is less packed and it's when I can say no without guilt.
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  So this creates margin so your nervous system can actually breathe again.
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  And I think when we create this space externally, we start feeling spacious internally too.
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  They affect each other.
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  So here's the second thing we can do.
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  Let's increase the quality of our lives.
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  This is the second way we can take an average week and make it feel abundant, okay?
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  And I don't mean making your life more expensive or more impressive to other people.
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  I mean just more intentional, more rich, and more connected.
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  Because I think sometimes we confuse abundance with access, expense, when really abundance
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  is often just depth.
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  It's deeper conversations with our friends and our loved ones.
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  It's more intentional moments and being present, enjoying things slowly instead of rushing
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  through them and trying to get them knocked out.
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  Kids often remember connection more than constant entertainment.
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  And honestly, I think that this is moms too.
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  Maybe that's why putting your phone away during dinner can make for such good conversation.
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  Or how about when you plan a date night?
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  Or take a family walk?
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  We do that a lot in our family.
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  We go for walks in our neighborhood, and those are our best moments as a family.
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  How about just laughing out loud with a friend, like a good belly laugh?
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  Slowing down enough to realize that listening to your kids is really keying you in to what's
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  going on in their lives right now.
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  How about creating simple family traditions, like Taco Tuesday?
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  We've even done Taco Tuesday on a Monday in our family.
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  But these are fun family traditions.
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  Being emotionally present instead of mentally distracted.
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  Because abundance is often less about having more and doing more and experiencing more
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  things.
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  It's about being deeper in the moment and being present.
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  So number three, I want you to plan small escapes that restore you.
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  So we've all had a vacation on the books, and we've all been excited and looking forward
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  to it.
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  But I want you to learn that you can create these small escapes throughout your week to
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  look forward to.
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  This is going to really make it feel abundant to intentionally plan these small escapes
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  that are going to restore you.
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  And I don't mean you need to drop your life and get out.
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  I mean, just create moments that help you reconnect with yourself, to your peace and
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  to God.
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  Especially as moms, we are spending so much time pouring out of ourselves emotionally,
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  mentally, physically, relationally.
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  We leave ourselves drained and we never intentionally refill ourselves.
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  And eventually we start functioning completely depleted on empty tanks.
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  And that's why I think it's important to create something to look forward to every
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  single week.
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  And it doesn't have to be expensive or elaborate.
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  Maybe it's something simple like a hot bath after the kids go to bed or drive with worship
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  music in the windows down, sitting outside with your coffee on the porch or walking through
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  a bookstore with no agenda.
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  I personally love to grab a coffee at a coffee shop, at a library or a bookstore and just
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  grab a magazine or a book that I've been wanting to look at and just have time quietly
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  in that library or in that bookstore.
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  How about going to a park you've never been to before?
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  Listening to calming like meditation music.
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  You could go for a walk in your neighborhood or wherever that you would like to go for
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  a walk.
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  Go get your nails done or just create a peaceful evening at home, a dinner by candlelight.
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  Or maybe you're going to just read a book you haven't read at home.
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  Research actually shows that nature, music, beauty and calming environments help to lower
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  stress hormones and improve your mood.
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  So God designed our bodies to respond to beauty, quiet, rest, music and nature.
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  We see this in Psalm 23 where it says, he leads me beside quiet waters.
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  He restores my soul.
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  I think a lot of moms are spiritually and emotionally exhausted because we rarely slow
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  down long enough to let ourselves be restored.
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  Sometimes abundance is not about adding more responsibilities and more accomplishments.
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  Sometimes abundance just looks like creating moments where your soul can finally breathe
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  again.
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  So ladies, as we move into our summer and our routines begin shifting, I really want
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  to encourage you not to wait for some future version of life to finally feel peaceful or
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  abundant.
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  I want you to start creating it now.
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  I want you to create more space, increase the quality of your life and intentionally
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  create moments that are going to restore you.
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  I really believe abundance often comes from attention, from you noticing the sunset, your
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  kids are laughing, there's a peaceful moment, good music, a quiet drive and a conversation
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  with your spouse.
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  Sometimes we are praying for things that we are already living inside of, the family,
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  the home, the answered prayer, the slower season you once begged God for.
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  In 1 Timothy 6, 6 it says, but godliness with contentment is great gain.
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  Contentment is not complacency, okay?
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  It is learning how to recognize goodness that we are living every day in our lives.
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  Because maybe abundance isn't about building a bigger life.
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  Maybe it's finally learning how to fully live the one you have already.
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  Now go say no to something that's stealing your peace and say yes to something you actually
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  need and I'll meet you back here in the next episode.