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145. From Mess to Mastery · Your Enriched Self

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So, what was the last time you updated your resume. I know for
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me it's been years. I've been with my company for twenty seven years.
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Building a resume or refreshing a resume is not always top of mind. Now.
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I have done the activity of managing my resume over the years, but
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nothing recently. I think the recommendation for resume refreshes is every year you should
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look at your resume and look at your experience and pen that down and update
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your resume and keep it fresh at all times. And I think that's a
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great practice. But there's a resume that I think we often miss is that
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resume of your life of all the not just accomplishes, but the blessings that
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you've gotten. And I had a revelation. I was going through my actual
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resume and I saw some of the things that I was able to achieve,
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and I recognize that those were some of the things I had prayed for,
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I had prayed about. And then I started looking across my life. Right,
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once you open one door to gratitude, like I said, it opens
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momultiple doors. Multiple spaces of your life start to open, and I recognize
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where I had been blessed and Oftentimes we pray or we are asking for a
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blessing and we don't see anything happening. And I remember, in particular,
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there was one thing I had been praying for for a long time and it
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almost felt impossible, but I believed enough to know that it would happen.
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The crazy thing is it happened, and I didn't even recognize that it happened.
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Life gets busy, life gets overwhelming. We forget sometimes what we pray
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for. And I'm encouraging you today to thank God for the things that he's
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been doing in the background. Oftentimes, when we don't see the answer,
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we don't hear the answer, we don't see the tangible thing in front of
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us. We believe that nothing is happening. Well, everything is happening,
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and I want you to take time today to recognize the unseen, recognize the
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intangible, because I challenge you to do this. Look at your life right
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now. There are many experiences that you are having in your life that you
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once prayed for. So this is your reminder to update your resume of life,
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find moments of gratitude, and remember always pray because your prayers can change
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how you live in your life. Friends from all across the globe and welcome
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to the Urine Rissil Podcast. I am your host, my Lene Noir.
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I am a mindset coach and your mindset advocate. And what that means is,
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I know that you're busy. I know that you have been prioritizing everything
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on your to do list, but I don't believe that you have made yourself
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a priority. And so that's what this podcast is all about. I spend
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time each and every week curating topics to help you become more of your enriched
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self. Because if you are more enriched, you can be more and do
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more for the people that you are supporting, the communities that you support,
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the everyday things that you participating, and you show up as the best version
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of yourself. And if you're listening to this episode, I know that you
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want to show up as the best version of yourself. And so in order
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to do that, you have to be intentional about your thinking, because your
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thoughts inspire the words you speak over your life, and those words then become
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the action and the activity you take in your life to become more enriched.
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And so each and every week that's what we do here on the podcast.
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So if you are new to this podcast, I want to welcome you and
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thank you for being here. I know that you are brought here on purpose,
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for a purpose with purpose, Okay, and if you are a repeat
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listener, that means for one hundred and forty five weeks. That's what I
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said. You have been part of this experience and because of you, we
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have this space, this safe space. So I want to thank you from
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the bottom of my heart now before we get into this week's episode. If
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you know you know, one of the things that I do each and every
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week is I make a deposit in the bank of you, and I do
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that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your day
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and to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I can prepare for
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joy and heal from hurt at the same time. I can prepare for joy
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and heal from hurt at the same time. I can prepare for joy and
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heal from hurt at the same time. Now, let's get ready for this
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week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. I don't know if anybody remembers
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the Oprah's masterclass. I believe she still has that. I'm not quite sure,
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but I'm sure it's out there in the world. With the Oprah's Masterclass.
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I was always impressed by the caliber of people that were brought on her
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stage, her platform, inspirational leaders, celebrities, experts, and these people
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really started to dig into their lives. They started to reveal parts of themselves
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with insight, with candor. They started bringing forward their experiences, sharing their
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successes, discuss the things, the people, the places that shape their lives
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and the many, many lessons that they learned along the way. But not
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only did they talk about these successes, they also talked about the failures.
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They spoke on their disappointments, their heartbreaks, and many of the negative experiences
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that they had throughout the years of their life. Some happened in childhood,
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some happen in adulthood, and everything in between. And oftentimes, when we
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look at people outside of us explaining their life mastery and providing this quote unquote
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master class, we often feel small. We don't feel like we have a
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space to teach or share a master class because in fact, it feels like
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the master class is difficult to reach because we're comparing ourselves to these grand personalities,
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these celebrities, these people that are again out of our reach, and
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that makes the mastery of our own lives then feel out of reach. It
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feels like we're stretching just to get to it. It feels like it's towering
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over us to reach it. But a what if I told you that your
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mastery doesn't begin when you are on the platform telling your story in front of
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Oprah and the rest of the world, But in fact, your mastery begins
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in the valley, in the place of chaos, of disaster. That's where
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your mastery begins. And for many of you, you may be in a
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mastery season right now. You have encounter difficulties, challenges, issues, and
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may I remind you I said it before on this podcast and I'll say it
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again, don't forget to document the difficult, document the season that you're in.
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I know I talk about journaling, talked about it on this podcast.
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Journaling plays an important role. When you document the difficult you document the season,
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you're giving yourself insight, the very same insight that some of these celebrities
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sharing. It's because they documented that difficult season, They documented the challenges that
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they faced. Because you learning to document those will someday be in fact,
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a way for somebody to unlock a difficult season that they're going through. I
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mean, think about some of the things you've experienced. You've gleaned and leaned
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on someone else, maybe an elder, a parent, someone in community,
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maybe even a celebrity or somebody that you are under their tutelage as a coach.
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You are leaning on them and you're getting the same levels of unlock that
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you can now and someday even provide to someone else. And that's what this
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topic is all about today. I want you to understand that through your mess,
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and some of you look at your life as a mess, your life
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isn't a mess. They're messy moments in your life. But those messy moments,
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that's the chaotic space where your character is built. That is a space
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where you, in fact get to learn how to become master of your mess.
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Here's the thing experience brings forth learning. My mother would always say to
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us as children, experience is your best teacher. I totally agree. But
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the more you learn, the more you go through that experience of life,
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the more suffering you're prone to. You're gonna have falls, you're gonna have
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slips, you're gonna have mishaps, that's going to be some painful experiences.
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The experience ultimately brings forth suffering. So the question might be for you,
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how do I develop mastery through the chaos, through the mess, through these
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very tumultuous seasons. The first thing I would say is embrace the chaos.
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So tempting to say I'm gonna become master of my life by planning it all
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out, by sitting down and planning it out and having a perfect plan with
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a perfect execution, that's not real because life is gonna life. Things are
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gonna happen. You're gonna have to balance, you're gonna have to compromise.
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There's gonna be a lot of discomfort that you will experience. So perfect execution
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and perfect planning isn't real. It sounds nice and fluffy, it sounds sugary,
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but sometimes life is a little sour. It's not always sweet, and
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so embracing the chaos is saying I'm gonna embrace, Yes, some of the
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sweet things that are gonna come with life, but I also know that there's
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some sour patches that are out there. True mastery, when you start to
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master your life, it's going to be you embracing the chaos that's within you.
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You may have one into your life with baggage as a child, from
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your high school, from wherever walk of life you've been, and you gotta
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work within and you gotta work around the chaos of your life the many steps
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you've taken along the way. Think about your chaos as the raw materials that
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you are gonna use to skulp your life. You're gonna reframe your frame.
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That's what chaos is. That's the messiness, right that you need to embrace
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because through that messiness you are gonna find the raw materials. You're gonna find
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the seeds that you need to start putting down on the ground so you can
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have growth and you can start seeing transformation after some time has elapsed. But
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it first starts with embracing the chaos. The other piece of becoming a master
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of your mess is looking at your life art and you are responsible to manage
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that art. And one of the art forms I think of when I think
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of the many things that you have to orchestrate in your life is in fact
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instruments. I remember when my daughter was in elementary school, she played the
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clarinet, and so when she got to middle school. She fell in love
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with the bass clarinet, and she became the first bass clarinet player at her
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middle school. And she was excited about that. It was a challenging instrument,
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it was something no one else had played, but it was something that
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her music instructor had encouraged her to take a chance and do something new,
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and she did that. And the beautiful thing about the bass clarinet is the
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instructor or the music teacher had to find pieces where this particular art form,
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this instrument would add depth and add deep richness to the music, to the
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band, to the orchestra. By itself, the bass clarinet is not going
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to do what it can do when it's brought together with the other pieces that
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make this a beautiful sound. And sometimes when you play all these instruments,
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I'm having a little bit of flashbacks when my daughter first started learning the clarinet.
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And if you've ever played an instrument or had somebody learning around you,
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it's not pretty at first. It's messy, it's chaotic, But after you
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start to cultivate that chaos, you start to develop harmony and that relationship starts
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to work with the other pieces of your life. Sometimes there's something new that
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comes in your life, like this instrument came in to this band and it
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didn't seem like it fit. But once you start finding the right pieces and
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you start cultivating that relationship with that thing, you start to master the mess
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and you start to orchestrate along with the various other elements of your life,
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of your life symphony, and so that's a really important piece of what is
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needed. When you become master, You're gonna have many pieces that when you
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play them individually and when you play them for the first time, it's not
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gonna sound right, it's not gonna make sense. But when you bring it
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all together, you walk away with harmonious sound. What harmony looks like in
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your life is decluttering your space. It's establishing routines. Right, Remember when
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you first started working at a particular place and you had to change your work
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routine. You had to change when you would work out because of the distance
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and how long it took for you to get to work. Everything starts to
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change because you brought this new piece in, but it in fact can work.
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So you're establishing routines, you're prioritizing you have to prioritize you in the
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middle of all of this, because it's not going to work without you.
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You. You are the common denominator to this beautiful orchestra, the symphony of
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your life. And the last piece that will help you or become master of
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your mess is to learn to navigate your mess with intentionality. I pride myself
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on in terms of this podcast, is making sure that we are you are
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intentional about the things you say, the things you do, and even what
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you think. It all starts in your mind, and so I want you
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to be intentional about how you think about yourself and how you think about your
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situation. Now. I know that when we think about the path to mastery,
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we think about this great destination. But the path to mastery is a
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journey. That's right, It is a journey. It's going to take multiple
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steps, multiple attempts, several tries, falling down nine times and getting up
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ten That's how it works. So, speaking of a fall, how many
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of you fell in twenty twenty three, I'm talking you fell off your workout
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routine, you fell off your business routine, you fell off your financial goals,
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you fell off, you fell into a mess, You got into a
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new mess. That's not even your mess. Here's the thing about the fall.
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You survived one hundred percent of your worst days. You are on the
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other side of that worst day. So I want you to remember that as
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you go through this path, this journey, is that even if I fall,
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even if I fall when I fall, I am going to survive that
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moment. Your journey is going to be marked with your growth, your resilience,
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and like I said, in that valley, in that wilderness is what
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I call it. That's where you get your self discovery, and your life
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is a continuum of self discovery. But along the way, while you're self
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discovering, you're gonna be set back. You're gonna be pushed back, you're
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gonna be challenged, You're gonna find obstacles that you didn't even think existed in
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the world. But all of those things are necessary for your mastery, for
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you to excel and be propelled into a space of growth and refinement. It's
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best to embrace the process, do it early, do it often, and
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repeat, trust yourself, and before you know it, you are gonna find
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yourself giving a masterclass. I don't know to whom, and I don't know
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when but I know there's a story about you that no one else can tell
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because there is no one like you. No one has your story, and
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no one can tell the story in the way you can. I hope you
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take what you can from this episode and do what you must in the next
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one hundred and sixty eight hours so that you can become more of your enriched
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self until we meet again.