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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Reframing, A Mental Trick That May Just Change Everything · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Emily Buddy checking in here for five Minute Friday,
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  Speaker 1: coming to you from the A G Studio. Man, this
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  Speaker 1: was a good week for me, and I was like
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  Speaker 1: sitting here as I was thinking about what I was
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  Speaker 1: going to say for this episode. I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: come off as like ungrateful or that like life has
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  Speaker 1: just been a series of like blaw lately, but it's
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  Speaker 1: been a long time since I've been able to take
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  Speaker 1: a step back and be like, I am so content
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  Speaker 1: at the conclusion of this week, Like I feel very
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  Speaker 1: fulfilled and excited, and I think it just goes hand
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  Speaker 1: in hand with all of the fun things that are
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  Speaker 1: coming down the pipe for me, both personally professionally in
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  Speaker 1: the next coming weeks. I feel like myself and that
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  Speaker 1: feels really really good. My word of the week this week,
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  Speaker 1: and it's what I want to talk about for today's
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  Speaker 1: installment of Five Minute Friday is reframe. I was having
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  Speaker 1: a chat with someone the other day and I was
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  Speaker 1: talking to them about a relationship in my life that
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  Speaker 1: wasn't exactly or is not exactly how I kind of
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  Speaker 1: wish that it could be. And I've said this on
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  Speaker 1: the show before, but it takes a big person to
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  Speaker 1: allow someone in your life to play a role that
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  Speaker 1: you wish that they wouldn't, whether that be because maybe
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  Speaker 1: you have, for example, feelings for someone but it's just
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  Speaker 1: a plotonic relationship, or perhaps you really dig someone's vibe
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  Speaker 1: and you hope that you can be close friends, but
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  Speaker 1: they have some stuff going on in their life and
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  Speaker 1: that is not really something that they are interested in
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  Speaker 1: pursuing at the moment, whatever the circumstance may be, I, myself,
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  Speaker 1: as i'm sure many of you do as well, have
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  Speaker 1: some of these relationships in my ecosystem. And the person
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  Speaker 1: that I was talking too about one of them in particular,
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  Speaker 1: was saying to me, well, she asked, how can you
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  Speaker 1: reframe that relationship in your life? Like, instead of focusing
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  Speaker 1: on the negatives about this particular situation, maybe you can
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  Speaker 1: think about what it is that that relationship can provide
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  Speaker 1: for you as it is now. And I stopped, and
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  Speaker 1: I thought about that. And I'm not saying that in
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  Speaker 1: every single situation. It is easy to reframe things and
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  Speaker 1: seek out the good, especially in a moment when you
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  Speaker 1: may be feeling hurt or frustrated or emotional or what
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  Speaker 1: have you. But what if you do choose to ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: how is this working for me? What can this situation
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  Speaker 1: do for me as it is now? Rather than being
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  Speaker 1: so wrapped up in changing things. I personally I identify as
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  Speaker 1: a fixer, so I know how that feels. But instead
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  Speaker 1: of focusing on how can this be different? Just find
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  Speaker 1: the joy in what it is right now, don't create
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  Speaker 1: that extra work for yourself, and see how that feels.
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  Speaker 1: It's something I've been thinking a lot about and maybe
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  Speaker 1: it's a strategy that can help you as well. The
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  Speaker 1: prompt for you this week it's super simple. What is
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  Speaker 1: one relationship in your life that maybe you need to
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  Speaker 1: think about a little bit differently that you could use
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  Speaker 1: some reframing on. What is one relationship in your life
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  Speaker 1: that maybe you need to look at through a different
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  Speaker 1: lens so that it can better serve you? And now
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  Speaker 1: a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, I know you still contribute writing pieces for
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  Speaker 2: other outlets, but what originally inspired you to transition from
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  Speaker 2: writing and editing over to podcasting for your main day
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  Speaker 2: to day gig? Hey?
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  Speaker 1: Hey, so I shed some light on this in the
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  Speaker 1: episode that I released, the bonus episode kind of detailing
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  Speaker 1: my story, my way loss, just you know, my life
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  Speaker 1: over the last decade or so, talking about career.
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  Speaker 2: Et cetera.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going to link to that in the show notes,
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  Speaker 1: but to put this in just to shed some light
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  Speaker 1: on this, I guess I decided to start a podcast
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  Speaker 1: because of what I felt was a craving and a
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  Speaker 1: need for another creative outlet. As a freelance journalist, it
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  Speaker 1: certainly can be a little exhausting to constantly be creating
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  Speaker 1: things based on what a particular brand needs, and I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to express myself. I wanted to have a corner
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  Speaker 1: of the Internet where I could just be me, a
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  Speaker 1: corner of the Internet where I got to make the
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  Speaker 1: calls and I wasn't feeling, you know, underpaid and undervalue.
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  Speaker 1: Did not just say that. Goodness. I love so many
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  Speaker 1: of the amazing editors and the teams and the brands
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  Speaker 1: that I've been able to work for over the last
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  Speaker 1: handful of years. But it just feels good to own something, right,
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  Speaker 1: to have my name on something, to have something that
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  Speaker 1: feels so special to me and every fiber in my being.
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  Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I throw into the
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  Speaker 1: mix here that hurdle and this show. I didn't start
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  Speaker 1: it thinking that it would be something that would become
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  Speaker 1: my career. I really just got into it looking for
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  Speaker 1: that creative outlet right it felt right for me at
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  Speaker 1: the time. Now, fast forward four years later, this show,
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  Speaker 1: this community, everything that goes along with Hurdle in person
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  Speaker 1: events like it's more than I ever dreamed of. And
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  Speaker 1: I do believe that there's just so much more for
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  Speaker 1: us to go on this runway. So you know, sometimes
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  Speaker 1: you just got to take a leap of faith and
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  Speaker 1: trust you and trust your gut and see what happens
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  Speaker 1: from there. And well, all of that is what led
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  Speaker 1: me to this spot. That's it for this week. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: a five minute Friday that's almost actually five minutes. Make
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  Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.