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10 Everyday Habits Keeping Your Nervous System Hypersensitive · Bye Bye Panic

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  [SPEAKER_00]: When we're trying to heal a hypersensitive nervous system, we think that we need to do something to make the chronic symptoms go away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But what if what's keeping your symptoms alive isn't what you aren't doing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's what you're doing already.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's fueling your symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And chances are you're doing this every day without even realizing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So in this video, I want to share with you the 10 everyday habits you are doing that's keeping your nervous system
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Number one is checking if the symptom is still there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is something all of us did.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Myself included.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what people don't realize is that you have developed a habit of checking in on your symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have been told that checking in on your symptoms doesn't help.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's true, checking on the symptoms is like having a magnifying glass.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you're looking at the symptom, the symptom naturally grows.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you might realize that I shouldn't be doing this, but what people don't understand is that you've developed a habit of checking in.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you might notice that you're trying not to check in, but your brain is always checking in.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is this symptom there?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Is it not?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, it's better today.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's not better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And people get very frustrated by this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so if you're dealing with this,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The first thing you need to acknowledge is that you've developed a habit of this, and because you've developed this habit, this habit is going to go away overnight.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your role in this healing journey is when your brain starts focusing on the symptom, you just help it refocus back to something else.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's really that simple because think about it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You did not develop a habit of trying to check in on your symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That happened on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so the habit formed on its own, breaking that habit is gonna be the same.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All you need to do is when your mind focuses on the symptom, you just refocus it, that's it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And over time, that new habit will form.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not telling you to ignore your symptom or avoid it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: acknowledge the elephant in the room, but then choose to refocus on something else.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is one of the steps we focus on when we're helping people overcome their symptoms.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so if you want to learn more about how that works, check out the link in the description.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As you refocus from the symptom into external things or whatever you want, you'll notice the brain just reorient itself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It just focuses on other things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now this is what you might be doing internally, but the second thing that's keeping your nervous system hypersensitive is being on your phone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now look, being on your phone is not good or bad.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your phone is a tool.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It can be a very powerful tool.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when you're using your phone unconsciously, it can be rewiring your brain.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Social media specifically is designed to keep you hooked on the apps.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It shows you content that makes you activated.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So it might show you things that create anxiety, that create anger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the algorithm's known that if it can provoke a response from you, you will be more likely to be on your phone.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is that this flood of adrenaline,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: becomes addictive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you start reaching for your phone all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so a huge part of healing a hypersensitive nervous system is not having your nervous system activated with these things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What determines whether your phone is useful or not is your intentions behind it, how will wear are you?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you're having social media and undate you with all these things,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's going to keep your nervous system wired and research about this is now just coming out to the point where countries are now Banning social media and being on your phone for kids at a certain age now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: One of the things that's really common in our culture That might be keeping your nervous system hypersensitive is caffeine drinking coffee drinking teas
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  [SPEAKER_00]: drinking sodas, and it's not that like caffeine's bad.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, I love coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just that it mimics adrenaline.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when your nervous system is high-percensative, when you're in this survival mode, your body is naturally producing more adrenaline.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And adrenaline is a stimulant.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the reality is is that you don't really need more coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're pretty wired as it is.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And by no means, I'm saying avoid coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can choose to have coffee, but just be aware that it's a stimulant.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And even though you choose not to have coffee right now, as your nervous system heals, as your nervous system desensitizes, you can go back to drinking coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: When I was on my healing journey, I stayed away from coffee and I loved coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Actually, I still love coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to go make a coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to be right back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So all this coffee talk made me want to get some coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But when I was dealing with symptoms, I had stopped drinking coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But as I got better, I just went back to drinking coffee.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes the coffee would flare up my symptoms, sometimes it wouldn't.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Over time, as I just lived my life, as I focused on the principles of healing my nervous system, really coffee became normal again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The biggest mistake I think people make is that they make coffee in absolute.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I shouldn't have this or I should have it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The truth is is that it's a choice and just because you have a hypersensitive nervous system right now and doesn't mean you can never have coffee and you can choose not to have coffee just as a personal choice there's no wrong answer here I'm going to just have another said
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so point number four is identifying as an anxious person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is one of those things that I find when I'm working with people as like a major red flag.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If someone says they're identified as an anxious person or even as a sensitive person, it becomes really risky.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because when they're trying to break through that, their identity is going to try to protect it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So whenever they're trying to overcome their anxiety symptoms or they're trying to overcome any symptoms,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: but they've developed an identity around it, they will consciously or unconsciously try to protect that identity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system works that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Once your nervous system has identified you as a certain person, whenever you've adopted a certain identity, I am this type of person, your nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: will orient itself to protect that identity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The loss of sense of self from an identity to your nervous system is similar to death.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Physical death and loss of identity, your nervous system looks at it the same way, which is a loss.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so whenever you're identified as an anxious person or someone that's hypersensitive or someone that's ill, your nervous system will try to protect that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And here's the ironic part about all this.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you will find in society people identify with the very thing they're avoiding.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So when someone cannot respond to anxiety or discomfort, they label themselves as an anxious person, now that becomes an identity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's one of the most dangerous things you can do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So letting go of this identity, of being an anxious person, or being a hypersensitive person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you are a person.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Period.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system responds to how you see yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now you might not identify as an anxious person, but you might be identified as I used to be someone that was like this and now I'm not like that anymore.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that leads me to point number five, which is waiting to feel like yourself again.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is a common trap people fall into because they just want to go back to being their old self.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They just want to go back to the way things were.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you're in this journey, you start looking at the past with like rose colored glasses.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We're like, you think the past was perfect and there was nothing going on and there was nothing wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But I wanna challenge you that that version of you was the same person that led you here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so it's not about going back to the way things were.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming a higher version of yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming a better version, a two point over version of yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What if you can be that person you used to be but a higher version, a better version of version that has more resiliency, that would never go through this again because you know the principles.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Do you wanna go back to the way things were or do you wanna be a higher version?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Healing your nervous system is not about going backwards.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about becoming somebody that has more capacity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll let you know personally, I went through this journey over a decade ago, and I remember thinking, I just wish I could go back to the way things were, and I'm telling you, my life, the most fun part of my life has happened after the journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In fact, some of it even happened during the journey, but my life got radically better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: after.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Can you imagine what it was like if I just went back to the old version, healing is not about going back to the past, it's about building something new.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this leads me to a point that might be kind of confronting, but one of the everyday habits that I see that keeps people stuck is that they complain.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now I want you to realize there's a difference between complaining and venting, venting you can express, but it can very easily turn into complaining.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I like to equate complaining very similar to assurance seeking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll notice when you're complaining it actually feels good in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just like assurance seeking.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It feels good in the moment, but it feels the cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The part about complaining is that it feels like a relief in the moment, but it's not.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the more you vocalize the problem, the more your brain realizes that there's a problem.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So sometimes vocalizing the problem in itself makes it feel like an actual problem in your mind.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So this isn't about like bottling anything up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about asking yourself, is the complaining serving me right now?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It is this help me or does this change anything about my journey?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: More often than not, you'll find the complaining doesn't do anything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just a catharsis in the moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But just like a assurance seeking, it can become a habit and it can actually fuel the cycle.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So you can feel however you feel.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and just keep moving forward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now, number seven is probably the foundation of everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is something that people should be focusing on first before even doing all these other habits, which is thinking that the doctors have missed something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is especially true if you're dealing with like physical symptoms, you know, whether it's heart palpitations, dizziness.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you've been diagnosed with dysononomia, pots, fiber mileage, all these different things, it's really easy to think, oh my god, the doctors have diagnosed me with something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's something wrong physically.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: or maybe the doctor's haven't diagnosed me with something and the doctors are missing something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're coming from that frame, no matter what you do, no matter how much you allow this sensation, it's not going to work.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because your diagnosis or your symptoms are the tiger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if a tiger's in the room, you can't just do breathing exercises to feel better.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is going to mobilize.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the solution here is so simple.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Get everything rolled up by your doctor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're unclear, get a second opinion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and recognize pots, fiber mileage, you know, health anxiety, all these different things, panic disorder, it's all just part of a hypersensitive nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can throw it under the umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you've gone to your doctor and gotten everything cleared up, that's a good sign.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Chances are,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you have probably done more tests than like an average human being.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You've done more testing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if there was something actually wrong that needed to be addressed, you'd be addressing it right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're feeling neglected or if you're feeling like there's nothing being done even though the symptoms are there, you can just throw this under the nervous system of Brahma and move forward.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because when you're doing medical testing, you're looking at, okay, what's there?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And should we evaluate further?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can't do medical testing saying, oh, there could be something there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That isn't infinite cycle that just never ends.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the answer is, okay, is there something rule out?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, everything's been ruled out, there's good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's no other test necessary.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is how your doctors think.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And even if that doesn't work on your journey, here's the frame.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If there is something, we'll address it when it shows up.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I will do the responsible thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll go to my doctor's.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll get a clean bill of health.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'll let them decide.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if they're saying there's nothing there, if there is something in the future, we're going to address it later.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But in the meantime, we're just going to throw it under the anxiety umbrella.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now point eight is about always trying to control something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whenever you're dealing with symptoms, you might notice you're trying to control the symptoms, you're trying to analyze it, you're trying to fix it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What happens is that when you're trying to fix the symptoms, it begins to permeate to the external world.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What this means is that you try to not just control how you're feeling internally, but you will notice you will also try to control external parts of the world.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might avoid certain places because you're not sure if there is like an exit, or you might avoid certain things because it makes you uncomfortable and you have the sense of
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You begin almost micromanaging reality and you're always trying to like focus on how you're feeling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so what happens is people develop this micromanaging tendency of trying to control everything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But that need for control is keeping your nervous system more sensitive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's telling your nervous system that we need to be on alert mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so, if this is happening, there's two things to focus on, learning to feel the discomfort of uncertainty.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I know it's uncomfortable.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, go through the journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Even after the journey, when you'll have moments where you feel uncertain, the discomfort's gonna be there, but it's not about resisting it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's a learning that whatever you resist the discomfort, it just generalizes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So the only way out is through it, feeling the discomfort and letting it pass.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The discomfort is just a feeling, and feelings,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Come and go, they're just emotions, they're energy in motion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is why a big part of healing the nervous system is having trust and having faith that whatever is happening is happening for the best for you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And having faith is a decision, it's a choice.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's not about waiting and saying, let me see what happens, then I'll believe it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's about believing, which is a choice, and then seeing what happens.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because trying to control everything doesn't work.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the reality is is that you have less control than you think.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And yet even though you have less control, everything is working in your favor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Things are happening for you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And when you can just learn to let go and just say, hey, whatever it is, we'll figure it out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you can sit with that uncertainty.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you can have that faith.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You'll see your nervous system just relaxes on its own.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And finally, the most important point to the point that I probably get here every day is thinking that a hard day has erased all your progress.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You might have a bad day, you might even have what we call a setback where it feels like all the symptoms have come back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you think I just need to start all over.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The habit in that moment is that people going to fix it mode.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They try to adjust their plan.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They try to change something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They try to find the next shiny object.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you do this, you will notice you will always have a glass ceiling.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Anytime you make a little bit of progress, you'll hit this glass ceiling where your symptoms will come back and you will fall back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the reason why is that the habit is, I need to change something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But the truth is is that setbacks are part of the journey.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And what you need to do in a setbacks is stay consistent.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Your nervous system is gonna tell you you need to adjust.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Or your mind will just say,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you cannot believe those stories.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're just stories.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You're just feeling, extra anxiety, your nervous system is a little bit more hypersensitive in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: All you need to do is let it pass.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's all you need to do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Stay the course of action.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And every set back ends, it always does.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Whether you fight it or whether you don't, it will end.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The only difference is that if you fight it, you will prolong it, and you'll probably reinforce it later.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you can just let it pass and show your nervous system everything's good, your nervous system will adjust.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These are the 10 habits.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let me know in the comments which one are you dealing with.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I will tell you I dealt with mostly all of these, maybe even all of them.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so, if you're going through this, don't have any shame, don't have any guilt.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just about becoming aware so that you can make these changes.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, if you want to learn more about the program, you can hit the link down below.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you want to know brutal truths about the healing journey, no holding back.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Make sure to check out this video right here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching.