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EP 262. The Identity Detox — Releasing the Version of You Built for Survival, Not Success · Confident and Empowered Women

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  I've
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  been
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  doing
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  a
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  lot
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  of
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  looking
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  back
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  lately,
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  tis
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  the
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  season,
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  not
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  the
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  what
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  went
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  wrong,
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  kind,
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  but
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  the
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  how
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  did
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  that
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  actually
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  happen,
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  kind.
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  And
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  when
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  I
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  really
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  sat
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  with
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  it,
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  I
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  realized
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  something
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  surprising.
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  So
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  many
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  of
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  the
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  things
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  that
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  once
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  felt
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  out
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  of
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  reach.
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  Actually
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  happened.
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  Dreams
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  that
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  used
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  to
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  feel
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  impossible
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  became
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  normal
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  life,
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  and
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  it
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  wasn't
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  because
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  I
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  finally
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  worked
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  harder.
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  and
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  it
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  wasn't
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  because
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  I
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  figured
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  out
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  the
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  perfect
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  strategy.
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  It.
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  Was
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  identity.
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  Somewhere
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  along
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  the
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  way,
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  the
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  version
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  of
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  me
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  living
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  my
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  life
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  changed,
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  and
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  once
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  that
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  shifted,
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  the
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  doors
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  that
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  felt
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  locked.
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  Suddenly
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  opened,
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  you
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  to
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  pause
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  for
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  a
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  second
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  and
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  do
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  the
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  same
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  thing.
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  Think
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  about
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  your
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  life
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  five
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  years
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  ago,
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  three
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  years
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  ago,
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  even
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  last
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  year.
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  There
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  are
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  prayers
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  you
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  are
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  living
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  inside
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  of
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  right
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  now
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  that
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  maybe
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  you
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  don't
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  even
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  call
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  miracles
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  anymore.
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  So
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  what?
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  Flip
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  the
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  switch.
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  That's
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  what
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  we're
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  unpacking
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  today,
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  because
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  if
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  you've
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  been
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  trying
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  to
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  reinvent
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  yourself
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  or
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  letting
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  go
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  of
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  an
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  old
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  identity
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  without
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  realizing
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  how
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  powerful
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  that
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  shift
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  already
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  is,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  gonna
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  help
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  you
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  name
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  it
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  not
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  as
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  a
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  breakdown,
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  not
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  as
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  a
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  crisis,
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  but
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  as
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  an
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  identity
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  detox,
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  the
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  quiet,
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  sacred
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  process
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  that
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  turns
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  survival.
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  Into
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  success,
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  and
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  once
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  you
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  see
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  it,
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  you'll
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  realize
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  you've
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  done
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  this
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  before.
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  You
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  just
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  didn't
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  know
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  what
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  to
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  call
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  it.
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  A
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  friend.
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  Transformation
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  isn't
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  a
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  one-time
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  moment.
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  It's
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  found
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  even
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  in
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  those
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  smalls.
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  Steady
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  shifts
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  that
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  rewire
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  your
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  identity
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  over
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  time,
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  if
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  something
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  in
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  you
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  is
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  already
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  cracking
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  open,
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  if
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  you
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  feel
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  that,
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  oh
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  wow,
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  this
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  episode
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  is
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  speaking
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  directly
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  to
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  me,
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  then
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  hit
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  subscribe
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  so
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  we
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  can
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  keep
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  doing
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  this
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  heart
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  work
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  together.
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  Your
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  healing
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  deserves
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  consistency
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  and
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  subscribing
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  is
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  like
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  a
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  vote
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  for
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  the
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  woman
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  you
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  are
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  already
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  becoming.
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  Hey
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  friend.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  podcast,
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  or
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  if
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  it's
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  your
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  first
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  time,
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  welcome,
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  welcome.
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  This
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  those,
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  pull
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  your
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  chair
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  in
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  closer
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  kind
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  of
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  conversations.
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  No
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  rushing,
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  no
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  performing,
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  no
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  pretending.
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  We're
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  not
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  mid
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  becoming.
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  Just
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  honesty,
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  warmth,
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  and
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  a
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  little
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  spiritual
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  sas.
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  You
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  know
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  what
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  I
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  mean?
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  So
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  wherever
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  you
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  are,
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  whether
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  it's
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  driving,
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  folding
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  laundry,
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  or
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  sitting
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  in
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  silence,
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  let
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  this
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  episode
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  sit
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  with
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  you
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  because
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  I
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  believe
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  this
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  might
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  explain
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  why
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  some
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  of
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  your
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  dreams
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  feel
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  ready,
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  but
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  you
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  are
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  not
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  feeling
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  the
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  Tiffany
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  Haddish.
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  She
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  ready?
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  Okay,
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  so
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  story
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  time
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  real
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  quick.
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  There
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  was
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  a
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  time
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  I
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  realized
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  something
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  super
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  uncomfortable.
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  I
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  had
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  the
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  vision,
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  I
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  had
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  the
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  healed
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  dreams,
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  and
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  I
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  even
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  had
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  the
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  strategy,
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  but
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  my
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  identity,
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  she
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  was
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  still
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  operating
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  like
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  we
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  were
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  in
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  survival
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  mode.
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  That's
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  when
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  it
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  hit
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  me.
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  You
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  can't
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  reinvent
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  yourself
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  if
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  the
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  version
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  of
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  you
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  running
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  the
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  show
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  was
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  built
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  for
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  emergency
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  purposes
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  only.
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  Okay.
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  She
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  was
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  built
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  for
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  emergencies,
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  not
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  expansion,
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  so
• 3:26
  if
• 3:26
  you've
• 3:26
  been
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  searching,
• 3:27
  how
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  do
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  reinvent
• 3:28
  myself
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  or
• 3:29
  letting
• 3:30
  go
• 3:30
  of
• 3:30
  who
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  used
• 3:31
  to
• 3:31
  be
• 3:31
  at
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  2:17
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  AM
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  and
• 3:33
  secretly
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  wondering
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  why
• 3:35
  growth
• 3:35
  feels
• 3:35
  heavier
• 3:36
  than
• 3:36
  it
• 3:36
  should.
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  Friend,
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  this
• 3:38
  episode
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  is
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  for
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  you
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  because
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  today
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  we're
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  not
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  talking
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  about
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  identity
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  like
• 3:44
  it's
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  a
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  crisis.
• 3:45
  We're
• 3:46
  talking
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  about
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  identity
• 3:47
  detoxing
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  as
• 3:48
  a
• 3:49
  sacred
• 3:49
  practice,
• 3:50
  and
• 3:51
  once
• 3:51
  you
• 3:51
  see
• 3:51
  this,
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  won't
• 3:52
  be
• 3:53
  able
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  unsee
• 3:53
  it.
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  So
• 3:54
  let
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  me
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  say
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  this
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  slowly
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  connecting
• 3:57
  heart
• 3:57
  to
• 3:57
  heart.
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  The
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  old
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  version
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  of
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  you,
• 4:00
  she
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  wasn't
• 4:01
  toxic.
• 4:02
  She
• 4:02
  wasn't
• 4:03
  weak,
• 4:04
  and
• 4:04
  she
• 4:04
  wasn't
• 4:05
  doing
• 4:05
  it
• 4:05
  wrong.
• 4:06
  She
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  was
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  doing
• 4:07
  what
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  worked.
• 4:09
  She
• 4:09
  learned
• 4:10
  how
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  to
• 4:11
  stay
• 4:11
  alert.
• 4:12
  She
• 4:12
  learned
• 4:13
  how
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  to
• 4:13
  be
• 4:13
  needed,
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  how
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  to
• 4:15
  keep
• 4:15
  things
• 4:15
  moving,
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  so
• 4:16
  nothing
• 4:17
  fell
• 4:17
  apart
• 4:18
  that
• 4:18
  identity.
• 4:19
  Kept
• 4:20
  you
• 4:20
  alive.
• 4:21
  But
• 4:21
  here's
• 4:22
  the
• 4:22
  part
• 4:22
  that
• 4:23
  nobody
• 4:23
  tells
• 4:23
  you
• 4:24
  when
• 4:24
  you're
• 4:24
  trying
• 4:25
  to
• 4:25
  reinvent
• 4:25
  yourself.
• 4:26
  What
• 4:27
  saved
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  once
• 4:28
  can
• 4:28
  sabotage
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  later.
• 4:30
  You
• 4:30
  don't
• 4:30
  burn
• 4:31
  the
• 4:31
  old
• 4:31
  identity.
• 4:32
  You
• 4:33
  bless
• 4:33
  her
• 4:34
  and
• 4:34
  let
• 4:35
  her
• 4:36
  rest.
• 4:37
  It's
• 4:37
  hard
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  move
• 4:38
  forward
• 4:39
  when
• 4:39
  you're
• 4:39
  still
• 4:39
  blaming
• 4:40
  yourself
• 4:41
  for
• 4:41
  what
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  didn't
• 4:41
  do
• 4:42
  right,
• 4:42
  what
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  didn't
• 4:43
  do
• 4:43
  enough
• 4:44
  of,
• 4:44
  or
• 4:45
  even
• 4:45
  what
• 4:45
  you
• 4:45
  think
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  should
• 4:46
  have
• 4:46
  done
• 4:47
  instead.
• 4:48
  The
• 4:48
  old
• 4:48
  you
• 4:49
  wasn't
• 4:49
  wrong.
• 4:50
  She
• 4:51
  was
• 4:51
  necessary.
• 4:52
  So
• 4:53
  no
• 4:53
  shame,
• 4:54
  no
• 4:54
  shade
• 4:55
  and
• 4:55
  no
• 4:56
  judgment.
• 4:57
  Give
• 4:57
  her
• 4:57
  an
• 4:58
  extra
• 4:58
  dose
• 4:58
  of
• 4:59
  love
• 5:00
  because
• 5:00
  she
• 5:00
  often
• 5:01
  did
• 5:02
  what
• 5:02
  had
• 5:02
  to
• 5:02
  be
• 5:02
  done.
• 5:03
  So
• 5:03
  grant
• 5:04
  yourself
• 5:04
  some
• 5:05
  grace.
• 5:06
  And
• 5:06
  now
• 5:07
  from
• 5:07
  that
• 5:08
  place
• 5:09
  of
• 5:09
  compassion,
• 5:10
  understanding,
• 5:11
  and
• 5:12
  love,
• 5:12
  recognize
• 5:14
  success
• 5:15
  requires
• 5:16
  a
• 5:16
  different
• 5:16
  operating
• 5:17
  system
• 5:18
  than
• 5:18
  survival.
• 5:19
  And
• 5:20
  friend,
• 5:20
  I
• 5:20
  get
• 5:20
  it
• 5:20
  because
• 5:21
  nobody
• 5:21
  prepares
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  for
• 5:22
  this
• 5:22
  part.
• 5:23
  Identity
• 5:23
  detoxing
• 5:24
  doesn't
• 5:25
  start
• 5:25
  with
• 5:25
  fireworks.
• 5:27
  It
• 5:27
  starts
• 5:28
  with
• 5:28
  awkward
• 5:28
  silence.
• 5:29
  You
• 5:30
  stop
• 5:30
  explaining
• 5:31
  yourself,
• 5:31
  reacting
• 5:32
  so
• 5:32
  fast,
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  even
• 5:34
  stop
• 5:34
  saying
• 5:34
  yes
• 5:35
  just
• 5:36
  to
• 5:36
  feel
• 5:36
  secure,
• 5:37
  and
• 5:37
  suddenly
• 5:38
  it
• 5:38
  feels
• 5:39
  like,
• 5:39
  who
• 5:39
  am
• 5:40
  I
• 5:40
  without
• 5:41
  all
• 5:41
  of
• 5:41
  that.
• 5:42
  But
• 5:42
  this
• 5:43
  isn't
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  collapse,
• 5:44
  it's
• 5:45
  the
• 5:45
  clearing.
• 5:46
  If
• 5:46
  you
• 5:46
  are
• 5:47
  letting
• 5:47
  go
• 5:47
  of
• 5:48
  who
• 5:48
  you
• 5:48
  used
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  be
• 5:49
  and
• 5:49
  it
• 5:49
  feels
• 5:49
  slow,
• 5:50
  strange,
• 5:51
  or
• 5:51
  lonely,
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  are
• 5:52
  not
• 5:52
  lost.
• 5:53
  Ooh,
• 5:54
  friend,
• 5:55
  this
• 5:55
  is
• 5:55
  when
• 5:55
  it
• 5:55
  gets
• 5:56
  good,
• 5:56
  you
• 5:58
  are
• 5:58
  being
• 5:58
  reintroduced
• 5:58
  to
• 5:59
  yourself.
• 5:59
  Somebody
• 6:00
  cue
• 6:00
  some
• 6:01
  Jay-Z.
• 6:07
  Okay,
• 6:07
  friend,
• 6:08
  let
• 6:08
  me
• 6:08
  paint
• 6:08
  this
• 6:08
  picture
• 6:09
  for
• 6:09
  you.
• 6:09
  Imagine
• 6:10
  sitting
• 6:11
  down
• 6:11
  at
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  end
• 6:11
  of
• 6:11
  your
• 6:12
  day
• 6:12
  tea
• 6:13
  or
• 6:13
  your
• 6:13
  favorite
• 6:13
  drink
• 6:14
  in
• 6:14
  hand.
• 6:14
  Soft
• 6:15
  music
• 6:15
  on
• 6:16
  the
• 6:16
  world.
• 6:17
  Quiet
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  instead
• 6:19
  of
• 6:19
  spiraling
• 6:20
  or
• 6:20
  replaying
• 6:21
  old
• 6:21
  moments,
• 6:22
  you
• 6:22
  open
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  journal
• 6:23
  that
• 6:23
  guides
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  into
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  most
• 6:25
  elevated,
• 6:26
  grounded,
• 6:26
  powerful
• 6:27
  version
• 6:27
  of
• 6:28
  you.
• 6:28
  The
• 6:28
  Main
• 6:29
  Character
• 6:29
  Energy
• 6:30
  Journal
• 6:30
  is
• 6:30
  not
• 6:31
  a
• 6:31
  diary.
• 6:32
  It's
• 6:32
  a
• 6:32
  transformation
• 6:33
  tool.
• 6:34
  Every
• 6:34
  page
• 6:35
  pulls
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  deeper
• 6:36
  into
• 6:36
  self-awareness,
• 6:38
  self-respect,
• 6:39
  self-trust,
• 6:40
  identity
• 6:41
  alignment,
• 6:42
  and
• 6:42
  emotional
• 6:42
  clarity.
• 6:43
  These
• 6:43
  journal
• 6:44
  prompts
• 6:44
  help
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  hear
• 6:45
  your
• 6:46
  intuition
• 6:47
  louder.
• 6:48
  It
• 6:48
  helps
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  see
• 6:49
  your
• 6:49
  patterns
• 6:49
  clearly,
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  helps
• 6:50
  you
• 6:51
  shift
• 6:51
  your
• 6:51
  energy
• 6:52
  intentionally.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:53
  on
• 6:54
  the
• 6:54
  other
• 6:54
  side,
• 6:55
  you
• 6:55
  become
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  woman
• 6:56
  who
• 6:56
  no
• 6:56
  longer
• 6:57
  questions
• 6:57
  her
• 6:57
  worth
• 6:58
  because
• 6:59
  she's
• 6:59
  been
• 6:59
  sitting
• 7:00
  with
• 7:00
  it.
• 7:00
  Daily
• 7:01
  pouring
• 7:02
  into
• 7:02
  it,
• 7:02
  strengthening
• 7:03
  it,
• 7:03
  returning
• 7:04
  to
• 7:05
  it.
• 7:06
  Imagine
• 7:06
  flipping
• 7:06
  through
• 7:07
  the
• 7:07
  pages
• 7:07
  months
• 7:08
  from
• 7:08
  now
• 7:08
  and
• 7:08
  realizing
• 7:10
  I
• 7:10
  became
• 7:11
  her.
• 7:12
  I
• 7:12
  became
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  woman
• 7:12
  I
• 7:13
  was
• 7:13
  writing
• 7:13
  about
• 7:14
  for
• 7:14
  friend.
• 7:15
  That's
• 7:15
  the
• 7:15
  magic
• 7:16
  waiting
• 7:16
  for
• 7:17
  you.
• 7:17
  So
• 7:17
  grab
• 7:18
  your
• 7:18
  journal
• 7:18
  prompts
• 7:19
  at
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  link
• 7:20
  in
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  show
• 7:20
  notes.
• 7:21
  Let's
• 7:21
  make
• 7:22
  it
• 7:22
  official
• 7:22
  and
• 7:23
  put
• 7:23
  your
• 7:23
  evolution
• 7:24
  in
• 7:24
  ink.
• 7:28
  Okay,
• 7:28
  friend.
• 7:29
  Now
• 7:29
  here
• 7:29
  is
• 7:29
  where
• 7:30
  it
• 7:30
  gets
• 7:31
  real,
• 7:31
  your
• 7:32
  mind
• 7:32
  might
• 7:33
  be
• 7:33
  ready
• 7:33
  for
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  new
• 7:34
  identity,
• 7:35
  but
• 7:35
  your
• 7:35
  nervous
• 7:35
  system.
• 7:36
  She's
• 7:36
  like,
• 7:37
  girl,
• 7:37
  who
• 7:37
  told
• 7:38
  you
• 7:38
  we
• 7:38
  was
• 7:38
  safe?
• 7:42
  And
• 7:42
  you're
• 7:42
  trying
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  pull
• 7:42
  her
• 7:43
  along,
• 7:43
  you're
• 7:43
  like,
• 7:43
  Alexa,
• 7:44
  cue
• 7:44
  Cardi
• 7:45
  B
• 7:45
  and
• 7:45
  play
• 7:46
  safe.
• 7:49
  So
• 7:50
  when
• 7:50
  you
• 7:50
  rest
• 7:51
  instead
• 7:51
  of
• 7:51
  hustle,
• 7:52
  receive
• 7:53
  instead
• 7:53
  of
• 7:53
  chase,
• 7:54
  pause
• 7:55
  instead
• 7:55
  of
• 7:55
  over
• 7:56
  perform,
• 7:57
  that's
• 7:57
  you
• 7:58
  choosing
• 7:58
  not
• 7:59
  to
• 7:59
  be
• 7:59
  in
• 8:00
  survival
• 8:00
  mode.
• 8:01
  And
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  get
• 8:01
  it,
• 8:01
  friend,
• 8:02
  you've
• 8:02
  gotten
• 8:03
  so
• 8:03
  used
• 8:03
  to
• 8:04
  functioning
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  chaos.
• 8:05
  It's
• 8:05
  hard
• 8:05
  to
• 8:06
  relax
• 8:06
  when
• 8:06
  it's
• 8:06
  calm.
• 8:07
  Or
• 8:07
  maybe
• 8:08
  you've
• 8:08
  just
• 8:08
  gotten
• 8:08
  so
• 8:09
  used
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  settling
• 8:09
  for
• 8:10
  crumbs
• 8:10
  that
• 8:10
  when
• 8:10
  you
• 8:11
  finally
• 8:11
  get
• 8:12
  a
• 8:12
  full
• 8:12
  course
• 8:12
  meal,
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  wonder
• 8:14
  why
• 8:14
  suddenly
• 8:15
  you
• 8:15
  don't
• 8:15
  have
• 8:15
  an
• 8:15
  appetite.
• 8:16
  Or
• 8:17
  maybe
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  just
• 8:17
  became
• 8:18
  accustomed
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  being
• 8:19
  the
• 8:20
  one
• 8:20
  who
• 8:20
  initiates
• 8:21
  everything,
• 8:22
  that
• 8:22
  when
• 8:23
  someone
• 8:23
  finally
• 8:24
  takes
• 8:24
  the
• 8:24
  lead,
• 8:25
  you
• 8:25
  start
• 8:26
  feeling
• 8:26
  some
• 8:26
  type
• 8:26
  of
• 8:26
  way
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  question
• 8:27
  if
• 8:28
  it's
• 8:28
  even
• 8:28
  genuine.
• 8:29
  So
• 8:30
  your
• 8:30
  body
• 8:31
  panics.
• 8:32
  That
• 8:32
  doesn't
• 8:33
  mean
• 8:33
  you're
• 8:33
  doing
• 8:33
  it
• 8:33
  wrong.
• 8:34
  It
• 8:34
  means
• 8:35
  you
• 8:35
  are
• 8:35
  doing
• 8:35
  something
• 8:36
  unfamiliar.
• 8:38
  Success
• 8:38
  can
• 8:39
  feel
• 8:39
  scarier
• 8:40
  than
• 8:40
  struggle
• 8:41
  when
• 8:41
  your
• 8:41
  body
• 8:42
  only
• 8:42
  knows
• 8:42
  survival.
• 8:43
  So
• 8:44
  be
• 8:44
  gentle.
• 8:45
  You
• 8:45
  are
• 8:45
  not
• 8:46
  becoming
• 8:46
  someone
• 8:47
  else.
• 8:48
  You
• 8:48
  are
• 8:48
  teaching
• 8:49
  your
• 8:49
  body
• 8:50
  that
• 8:50
  peace
• 8:50
  is
• 8:51
  allowed
• 8:52
  Now.
• 8:53
  And
• 8:53
  can
• 8:53
  we
• 8:53
  normalize
• 8:54
  this
• 8:54
  part?
• 8:55
  You
• 8:55
  can
• 8:55
  want
• 8:56
  the
• 8:56
  new
• 8:56
  life
• 8:57
  and
• 8:57
  still
• 8:58
  miss
• 8:58
  the
• 8:58
  old
• 8:59
  version
• 8:59
  of
• 8:59
  you.
• 9:00
  The
• 9:00
  one
• 9:01
  who
• 9:01
  knew
• 9:01
  how
• 9:02
  to
• 9:02
  navigate
• 9:02
  chaos.
• 9:03
  The
• 9:03
  one
• 9:04
  people
• 9:04
  depended
• 9:05
  on
• 9:05
  the
• 9:05
  one
• 9:06
  who
• 9:06
  felt
• 9:06
  needed.
• 9:07
  All
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  time.
• 9:09
  Often
• 9:09
  when
• 9:10
  we
• 9:10
  talk
• 9:10
  about
• 9:10
  grief,
• 9:11
  it's
• 9:12
  because
• 9:12
  someone
• 9:12
  passed
• 9:13
  away,
• 9:13
  but
• 9:14
  what
• 9:14
  we
• 9:14
  don't
• 9:14
  talk
• 9:15
  about
• 9:15
  is
• 9:15
  the
• 9:16
  grief
• 9:16
  that
• 9:16
  comes
• 9:17
  from
• 9:17
  going
• 9:17
  from
• 9:18
  an
• 9:18
  independent
• 9:19
  woman
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  wife
• 9:21
  or
• 9:21
  a
• 9:21
  mom.
• 9:22
  We
• 9:22
  don't
• 9:22
  talk
• 9:23
  about
• 9:23
  the
• 9:23
  person
• 9:24
  who
• 9:24
  goes
• 9:24
  from
• 9:24
  barely
• 9:25
  getting
• 9:25
  by
• 9:26
  to
• 9:26
  signing
• 9:27
  a
• 9:27
  contract
• 9:28
  worth
• 9:28
  millions
• 9:29
  of
• 9:29
  dollars.
• 9:30
  Like
• 9:30
  so
• 9:30
  many
• 9:30
  athletes,
• 9:31
  we
• 9:31
  don't
• 9:32
  talk
• 9:32
  about
• 9:32
  what
• 9:33
  it
• 9:33
  means
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  have
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  leave
• 9:34
  behind
• 9:35
  friends
• 9:35
  because
• 9:36
  your
• 9:36
  journey
• 9:36
  requires
• 9:37
  evolution.
• 9:38
  Now,
• 9:39
  in
• 9:39
  all
• 9:39
  those
• 9:39
  scenarios,
• 9:41
  there
• 9:41
  was
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  version
• 9:41
  of
• 9:41
  you
• 9:42
  that
• 9:42
  was
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  vibe,
• 9:43
  but
• 9:44
  when
• 9:44
  it's
• 9:44
  time
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  move
• 9:45
  on.
• 9:46
  Even
• 9:47
  when
• 9:47
  it's
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  very
• 9:48
  blessings
• 9:49
  you've
• 9:49
  been
• 9:49
  praying
• 9:50
  for,
• 9:50
  not
• 9:51
  only
• 9:51
  does
• 9:51
  it
• 9:51
  require
• 9:52
  you
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  relocate,
• 9:53
  it
• 9:54
  requires
• 9:54
  you
• 9:55
  to
• 9:55
  shed
• 9:55
  a
• 9:56
  version
• 9:56
  of
• 9:56
  you
• 9:57
  that
• 9:57
  doesn't
• 9:57
  live
• 9:58
  in
• 9:58
  this
• 9:59
  next
• 9:59
  phase
• 9:59
  of
• 9:59
  life.
• 10:00
  Grief
• 10:01
  doesn't
• 10:01
  mean
• 10:02
  you
• 10:02
  are
• 10:02
  regressing,
• 10:03
  it
• 10:04
  means
• 10:04
  you're
• 10:05
  honest.
• 10:06
  Letting
• 10:06
  go
• 10:07
  of
• 10:07
  who
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  used
• 10:08
  to
• 10:08
  be
• 10:08
  doesn't
• 10:09
  require
• 10:10
  closure.
• 10:11
  It
• 10:11
  requires
• 10:12
  compassion.
• 10:13
  You
• 10:13
  can
• 10:14
  love
• 10:14
  who
• 10:14
  you
• 10:14
  are
• 10:14
  becoming
• 10:15
  and
• 10:16
  still
• 10:16
  miss
• 10:17
  who
• 10:17
  you
• 10:17
  had
• 10:17
  to
• 10:18
  be.
• 10:18
  You
• 10:19
  are
• 10:19
  not
• 10:19
  betraying
• 10:20
  your
• 10:20
  past.
• 10:21
  You
• 10:21
  are
• 10:22
  honoring
• 10:22
  it
• 10:23
  by
• 10:23
  not
• 10:23
  living
• 10:24
  there
• 10:24
  anymore.
• 10:27
  Friend,
• 10:27
  if
• 10:28
  you've
• 10:28
  been
• 10:28
  navigating
• 10:29
  life,
• 10:29
  feeling
• 10:29
  a
• 10:30
  little
• 10:30
  disconnected
• 10:31
  from
• 10:31
  who
• 10:31
  you
• 10:31
  are
• 10:31
  meant
• 10:31
  to
• 10:32
  be,
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  Main
• 10:33
  Character
• 10:33
  Checklist
• 10:35
  is
• 10:35
  your
• 10:35
  guide
• 10:36
  back
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  yourself.
• 10:37
  It
• 10:37
  brings
• 10:38
  you
• 10:38
  back
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  your
• 10:39
  standards,
• 10:39
  your
• 10:39
  values,
• 10:40
  your
• 10:41
  center,
• 10:42
  the
• 10:42
  parts
• 10:42
  of
• 10:42
  you
• 10:43
  that
• 10:43
  get
• 10:43
  lost
• 10:44
  when
• 10:44
  life
• 10:45
  gets
• 10:45
  loud.
• 10:46
  Download
• 10:47
  it
• 10:47
  now
• 10:47
  for
• 10:47
  free
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  let
• 10:48
  this
• 10:48
  be
• 10:49
  the
• 10:49
  daily
• 10:49
  reminder
• 10:50
  that
• 10:50
  you
• 10:50
  are
• 10:50
  allowed
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  take
• 10:52
  up
• 10:52
  space,
• 10:53
  honor
• 10:53
  your
• 10:53
  worth,
• 10:54
  and
• 10:54
  live
• 10:54
  like
• 10:55
  the
• 10:55
  main
• 10:55
  character
• 10:56
  you
• 10:57
  truly
• 10:57
  are.
• 11:01
  Okay,
• 11:01
  queen.
• 11:02
  Next,
• 11:03
  let
• 11:03
  me
• 11:03
  invite
• 11:04
  you
• 11:04
  into
• 11:04
  a
• 11:05
  moment
• 11:05
  of
• 11:05
  self-love
• 11:06
  that
• 11:07
  meets
• 11:07
  you
• 11:07
  right
• 11:08
  where
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  are.
• 11:09
  Tender,
• 11:10
  evolving,
• 11:10
  and
• 11:11
  so
• 11:11
  very
• 11:12
  worthy.
• 11:13
  Let's
• 11:13
  get
• 11:13
  into
• 11:14
  today's
• 11:14
  self-love
• 11:15
  two
• 11:15
  step
• 11:16
  because
• 11:16
  it's
• 11:16
  simple.
• 11:17
  Everyone
• 11:18
  can
• 11:18
  do
• 11:18
  it,
• 11:18
  and
• 11:19
  it.
• 11:19
  Always
• 11:20
  gets
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  party
• 11:20
  started.
• 11:21
  Okay,
• 11:24
  this
• 11:24
  one
• 11:25
  is
• 11:25
  the
• 11:25
  Identity
• 11:26
  Detox
• 11:26
  reset.
• 11:27
  Step
• 11:28
  one,
• 11:28
  name
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  identity.
• 11:30
  I
• 11:30
  want
• 11:31
  you
• 11:31
  to
• 11:31
  ask
• 11:31
  yourself
• 11:32
  this
• 11:32
  gently,
• 11:33
  not
• 11:34
  like
• 11:34
  an
• 11:34
  interrogation,
• 11:36
  but
• 11:36
  like
• 11:37
  a
• 11:37
  check-in.
• 11:38
  Who
• 11:38
  did
• 11:38
  I
• 11:39
  have
• 11:39
  to
• 11:39
  be
• 11:40
  to
• 11:40
  survive?
• 11:42
  And
• 11:42
  who
• 11:42
  do
• 11:42
  I
• 11:42
  get
• 11:43
  to
• 11:43
  be?
• 11:43
  Now,
• 11:44
  who
• 11:45
  did
• 11:45
  you
• 11:45
  have
• 11:45
  to
• 11:45
  become
• 11:46
  when
• 11:46
  things
• 11:46
  were
• 11:47
  uncertain?
• 11:48
  Who
• 11:48
  did
• 11:48
  you
• 11:48
  have
• 11:49
  to
• 11:49
  be
• 11:50
  when
• 11:50
  you
• 11:50
  couldn't
• 11:51
  rest?
• 11:52
  Couldn't
• 11:52
  rely,
• 11:53
  or
• 11:53
  couldn't
• 11:54
  even
• 11:54
  slow
• 11:54
  down.
• 11:55
  And
• 11:56
  then
• 11:56
  without
• 11:56
  rushing,
• 11:57
  ask
• 11:58
  the
• 11:58
  second
• 11:59
  part.
• 11:59
  Who
• 11:59
  are
• 12:00
  you
• 12:00
  allowed
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  be
• 12:01
  now
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  threat
• 12:03
  is
• 12:03
  gone,
• 12:04
  or
• 12:04
  at
• 12:04
  least
• 12:05
  quieter?
• 12:06
  Write
• 12:06
  it
• 12:06
  down.
• 12:07
  Not
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  solve
• 12:08
  it.
• 12:08
  Not
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  improve
• 12:09
  it
• 12:09
  just
• 12:10
  to
• 12:11
  the
• 12:11
  truth,
• 12:12
  because
• 12:12
  naming
• 12:12
  the
• 12:13
  identity
• 12:13
  isn't
• 12:14
  about
• 12:14
  releasing
• 12:15
  it.
• 12:16
  It's
• 12:16
  about
• 12:16
  honoring
• 12:17
  the
• 12:17
  role
• 12:18
  it
• 12:18
  played.
• 12:19
  Step
• 12:19
  two,
• 12:20
  practice
• 12:21
  one
• 12:21
  detox
• 12:22
  moment.
• 12:23
  Now,
• 12:23
  this
• 12:24
  is
• 12:24
  where
• 12:24
  it
• 12:25
  becomes
• 12:25
  embodied
• 12:27
  This
• 12:27
  week.
• 12:28
  I
• 12:28
  want
• 12:28
  you
• 12:28
  to
• 12:28
  notice
• 12:29
  one
• 12:29
  moment,
• 12:30
  just
• 12:30
  one
• 12:30
  where
• 12:31
  you
• 12:31
  usually
• 12:32
  default
• 12:32
  to
• 12:32
  the
• 12:33
  old
• 12:33
  version
• 12:33
  of
• 12:33
  you.
• 12:34
  Maybe
• 12:35
  it's
• 12:35
  over
• 12:35
  explaining
• 12:36
  or
• 12:37
  saying
• 12:37
  yes
• 12:37
  too
• 12:37
  fast,
• 12:38
  or
• 12:38
  maybe
• 12:39
  it's
• 12:39
  just
• 12:39
  staying
• 12:40
  busy
• 12:41
  so
• 12:41
  you
• 12:41
  don't
• 12:41
  have
• 12:42
  to
• 12:42
  feel.
• 12:43
  And
• 12:43
  in
• 12:43
  that
• 12:44
  moment,
• 12:44
  choose
• 12:45
  one
• 12:46
  small
• 12:47
  interruption.
• 12:48
  One
• 12:48
  pause
• 12:49
  before
• 12:49
  you
• 12:50
  respond.
• 12:51
  One
• 12:51
  boundary
• 12:52
  that
• 12:52
  protects
• 12:52
  your
• 12:52
  energy.
• 12:53
  One
• 12:54
  breath
• 12:55
  that
• 12:55
  reminds
• 12:56
  your
• 12:56
  body.
• 12:57
  I'm
• 12:57
  safe
• 12:57
  now.
• 12:58
  That's
• 12:59
  it,
• 12:59
  because
• 13:00
  identity
• 13:00
  doesn't
• 13:01
  just
• 13:01
  change
• 13:02
  through
• 13:02
  the
• 13:02
  grand
• 13:03
  declarations.
• 13:04
  It
• 13:04
  also
• 13:05
  rewires
• 13:06
  through
• 13:06
  quiet,
• 13:07
  consistent
• 13:08
  moments
• 13:08
  of
• 13:08
  choice.
• 13:09
  That's
• 13:10
  how
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  new
• 13:10
  version
• 13:11
  of
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  takes
• 13:12
  up
• 13:12
  residence,
• 13:13
  not
• 13:13
  loudly,
• 13:14
  but
• 13:14
  permanently.
• 13:15
  Just
• 13:16
  really
• 13:16
  quick,
• 13:17
  here's
• 13:17
  the
• 13:17
  part
• 13:17
  about
• 13:18
  identity
• 13:18
  that
• 13:19
  changed
• 13:19
  everything
• 13:20
  for
• 13:20
  me.
• 13:21
  Identity
• 13:21
  isn't
• 13:22
  who
• 13:22
  you
• 13:22
  are
• 13:22
  trying
• 13:23
  to
• 13:23
  become
• 13:24
  someday.
• 13:25
  It's
• 13:25
  who
• 13:25
  you
• 13:26
  already
• 13:26
  believe
• 13:27
  yourself
• 13:27
  to
• 13:28
  be,
• 13:28
  even
• 13:29
  quietly,
• 13:30
  even
• 13:30
  subconsciously,
• 13:32
  because
• 13:32
  we
• 13:32
  don't
• 13:33
  desire
• 13:33
  things
• 13:34
  randomly.
• 13:35
  Your
• 13:35
  desires
• 13:36
  aren't
• 13:36
  just
• 13:37
  wishes.
• 13:38
  They
• 13:38
  are
• 13:38
  signals,
• 13:39
  they
• 13:40
  are
• 13:40
  evidence
• 13:41
  of
• 13:41
  recognition.
• 13:42
  You
• 13:42
  are
• 13:42
  drawn
• 13:43
  to
• 13:43
  certain
• 13:44
  lives,
• 13:44
  peace,
• 13:45
  certain
• 13:46
  rooms
• 13:46
  and
• 13:46
  responsibilities,
• 13:48
  not
• 13:48
  because
• 13:48
  you're
• 13:49
  lacking
• 13:49
  them,
• 13:50
  but
• 13:50
  because
• 13:50
  somewhere
• 13:51
  inside
• 13:51
  you,
• 13:52
  you
• 13:52
  already
• 13:53
  see
• 13:53
  yourself
• 13:54
  as
• 13:54
  the
• 13:54
  person
• 13:55
  who
• 13:55
  can
• 13:55
  hold
• 13:55
  them.
• 13:56
  Desire
• 13:57
  is
• 13:57
  the
• 13:57
  pull
• 13:58
  of
• 13:58
  identity
• 14:00
  catching
• 14:00
  up
• 14:00
  to
• 14:01
  reality.
• 14:02
  That's
• 14:02
  why
• 14:03
  some
• 14:03
  dreams
• 14:04
  don't
• 14:04
  feel
• 14:04
  foreign.
• 14:05
  They
• 14:05
  feel
• 14:05
  familiar
• 14:06
  like
• 14:07
  this
• 14:07
  makes
• 14:07
  sense
• 14:07
  for
• 14:07
  me.
• 14:09
  Even
• 14:09
  if
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  don't
• 14:09
  know
• 14:10
  how
• 14:10
  yet,
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  are
• 14:11
  not
• 14:12
  reaching
• 14:12
  for
• 14:12
  something
• 14:13
  that
• 14:13
  doesn't
• 14:14
  belong
• 14:14
  to
• 14:14
  you,
• 14:15
  you
• 14:15
  are
• 14:15
  responding
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  an
• 14:16
  identity
• 14:17
  that
• 14:17
  already
• 14:18
  exists
• 14:18
  within
• 14:19
  you.
• 14:19
  And
• 14:20
  this
• 14:20
  is
• 14:20
  why
• 14:21
  identity
• 14:21
  work
• 14:22
  matters
• 14:22
  so
• 14:22
  much,
• 14:23
  because
• 14:23
  when
• 14:24
  your
• 14:24
  identity
• 14:25
  says,
• 14:25
  I'm
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  kind
• 14:26
  of
• 14:26
  woman,
• 14:27
  your
• 14:27
  choices
• 14:28
  start
• 14:28
  lining
• 14:29
  up
• 14:29
  naturally.
• 14:30
  You
• 14:30
  stop
• 14:31
  forcing,
• 14:32
  proving
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  even
• 14:33
  stop
• 14:34
  chasing
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  begin
• 14:36
  recognizing,
• 14:37
  Ooh,
• 14:38
  you
• 14:38
  better
• 14:38
  recognize.
• 14:41
  Your
• 14:42
  desires
• 14:42
  aren't
• 14:43
  teasing
• 14:43
  you.
• 14:44
  They
• 14:44
  are
• 14:44
  calling
• 14:45
  you
• 14:45
  forward
• 14:46
  into
• 14:46
  the
• 14:46
  version
• 14:47
  of
• 14:47
  you
• 14:47
  that
• 14:48
  already
• 14:48
  knows
• 14:49
  how
• 14:49
  to
• 14:49
  live
• 14:49
  that
• 14:50
  life.
• 14:50
  Identity
• 14:51
  isn't
• 14:52
  about
• 14:52
  pretending.
• 14:53
  It's
• 14:53
  about
• 14:54
  granting
• 14:54
  yourself
• 14:55
  permission,
• 14:57
  and
• 14:57
  once
• 14:57
  you
• 14:57
  give
• 14:58
  yourself
• 14:58
  that
• 14:59
  the
• 14:59
  life
• 14:59
  you
• 14:59
  want
• 15:00
  stops
• 15:00
  feeling
• 15:01
  like
• 15:01
  a
• 15:01
  reach
• 15:02
  and
• 15:02
  starts
• 15:03
  feeling
• 15:04
  like
• 15:04
  a
• 15:04
  return,
• 15:05
  you
• 15:05
  don't
• 15:05
  rise
• 15:06
  to
• 15:06
  the
• 15:06
  level
• 15:07
  of
• 15:07
  your
• 15:07
  vision.
• 15:08
  You
• 15:08
  live
• 15:09
  at
• 15:09
  the
• 15:09
  level
• 15:10
  of
• 15:10
  your
• 15:10
  identity.
• 15:12
  Ooh,
• 15:13
  friend.
• 15:14
  Let
• 15:14
  that
• 15:14
  breathe
• 15:15
  for
• 15:15
  a
• 15:15
  second.
• 15:16
  Because
• 15:17
  vision
• 15:18
  is
• 15:18
  what
• 15:18
  you
• 15:19
  can
• 15:19
  imagine.
• 15:20
  Identity
• 15:21
  is
• 15:22
  what
• 15:22
  you'll
• 15:22
  allow
• 15:23
  yourself
• 15:24
  to
• 15:24
  normalize.
• 15:25
  You
• 15:25
  can
• 15:25
  see
• 15:26
  a
• 15:26
  bigger
• 15:26
  life.
• 15:27
  You
• 15:27
  can
• 15:27
  want
• 15:28
  more,
• 15:28
  more
• 15:29
  peace,
• 15:30
  more
• 15:30
  money,
• 15:31
  more
• 15:31
  love
• 15:32
  and
• 15:32
  ease.
• 15:33
  But
• 15:33
  if
• 15:33
  your
• 15:34
  identity
• 15:34
  is
• 15:35
  still
• 15:35
  saying,
• 15:37
  I
• 15:37
  have
• 15:37
  to
• 15:37
  struggle,
• 15:38
  you'll
• 15:39
  unconsciously
• 15:40
  pull
• 15:40
  yourself
• 15:40
  back
• 15:41
  to
• 15:41
  what
• 15:42
  feels
• 15:43
  familiar.
• 15:44
  And
• 15:44
  that's
• 15:44
  why
• 15:44
  some
• 15:45
  dreams
• 15:45
  don't
• 15:45
  feel
• 15:46
  out
• 15:46
  of
• 15:46
  reach.
• 15:47
  They
• 15:47
  feel
• 15:47
  unsafe.
• 15:48
  Vision
• 15:49
  will
• 15:50
  take
• 15:50
  you
• 15:50
  as
• 15:51
  far
• 15:51
  as
• 15:51
  inspiration
• 15:52
  can
• 15:52
  carry
• 15:53
  you.
• 15:54
  Identity
• 15:54
  determines
• 15:55
  what
• 15:56
  you
• 15:56
  can
• 15:56
  sustain.
• 15:57
  That's
• 15:58
  why
• 15:58
  some
• 15:58
  people
• 15:59
  touch
• 15:59
  success
• 16:00
  and
• 16:00
  then
• 16:00
  self-sabotage.
• 16:02
  It's
• 16:02
  not
• 16:02
  because
• 16:02
  they
• 16:03
  don't
• 16:03
  want
• 16:03
  it,
• 16:04
  it's
• 16:04
  because
• 16:04
  their
• 16:04
  identity
• 16:06
  hadn't
• 16:06
  been
• 16:06
  upgraded
• 16:07
  to
• 16:07
  hold
• 16:08
  onto
• 16:08
  it
• 16:08
  yet.
• 16:09
  When
• 16:09
  your
• 16:09
  identity
• 16:10
  shifts,
• 16:11
  things
• 16:11
  stop
• 16:12
  feeling
• 16:12
  like
• 16:12
  luck.
• 16:13
  They
• 16:13
  stop
• 16:14
  feeling
• 16:14
  like
• 16:14
  miracles.
• 16:15
  You
• 16:15
  have
• 16:15
  to
• 16:16
  outrun.
• 16:17
  They
• 16:17
  start
• 16:18
  feeling
• 16:18
  like.
• 16:19
  Your
• 16:19
  new
• 16:19
  normal.
• 16:20
  So
• 16:20
  if
• 16:21
  you're
• 16:21
  frustrated
• 16:22
  right
• 16:22
  now,
• 16:22
  it
• 16:23
  might
• 16:23
  be
• 16:23
  because
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  are
• 16:24
  dreaming
• 16:25
  too
• 16:25
  small.
• 16:26
  It
• 16:26
  might
• 16:26
  be
• 16:26
  because
• 16:27
  your
• 16:27
  identity
• 16:28
  hasn't
• 16:28
  been
• 16:28
  given
• 16:29
  permission
• 16:30
  to
• 16:30
  expand.
• 16:32
  You
• 16:32
  don't
• 16:32
  rise
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  the
• 16:33
  level
• 16:33
  of
• 16:33
  your
• 16:33
  vision.
• 16:34
  You
• 16:34
  live
• 16:35
  at
• 16:35
  the
• 16:36
  level
• 16:36
  of
• 16:36
  your
• 16:37
  identity.
• 16:38
  And
• 16:38
  once
• 16:38
  that
• 16:39
  changes,
• 16:40
  everything
• 16:40
  else
• 16:40
  follows.
• 16:42
  Ooh.
• 16:42
  Now
• 16:43
  lemme
• 16:43
  pour
• 16:43
  into
• 16:43
  you
• 16:44
  real
• 16:44
  quick.
• 16:44
  If
• 16:45
  this
• 16:45
  season
• 16:46
  feels
• 16:46
  tender,
• 16:47
  that
• 16:47
  makes
• 16:47
  sense.
• 16:48
  Your
• 16:48
  body
• 16:49
  resists
• 16:49
  change.
• 16:50
  Not
• 16:51
  because
• 16:51
  it's
• 16:51
  wrong,
• 16:52
  but
• 16:52
  because
• 16:52
  it's
• 16:53
  unfamiliar.
• 16:54
  You
• 16:54
  are
• 16:54
  not
• 16:55
  breaking
• 16:55
  down.
• 16:56
  You
• 16:56
  are
• 16:57
  breaking
• 16:57
  patterns.
• 16:59
  And
• 16:59
  yes,
• 17:00
  some
• 17:00
  people
• 17:00
  won't
• 17:00
  recognize
• 17:01
  you
• 17:01
  anymore.
• 17:02
  That's
• 17:02
  not
• 17:03
  a
• 17:03
  loss,
• 17:04
  that's
• 17:04
  alignment.
• 17:05
  You
• 17:05
  don't
• 17:06
  owe
• 17:06
  the
• 17:06
  world
• 17:06
  the
• 17:07
  version
• 17:07
  of
• 17:07
  you
• 17:08
  that's
• 17:08
  survived.
• 17:09
  You
• 17:09
  owe
• 17:09
  yourself
• 17:11
  the
• 17:11
  version
• 17:11
  of
• 17:11
  you
• 17:12
  that
• 17:12
  can
• 17:13
  finally
• 17:13
  live.
• 17:15
  Remember,
• 17:16
  you
• 17:16
  don't
• 17:16
  rise
• 17:17
  to
• 17:17
  the
• 17:17
  level
• 17:17
  of
• 17:18
  your
• 17:18
  vision.
• 17:19
  You
• 17:19
  live
• 17:19
  at
• 17:20
  the
• 17:20
  level
• 17:20
  of
• 17:20
  your
• 17:21
  identity.
• 17:22
  The
• 17:22
  new
• 17:22
  life
• 17:23
  requires
• 17:24
  a
• 17:24
  new
• 17:24
  way
• 17:25
  of
• 17:25
  being.
• 17:26
  This
• 17:26
  season
• 17:27
  isn't
• 17:27
  about
• 17:27
  doing
• 17:28
  more.
• 17:28
  It's
• 17:29
  about
• 17:29
  being.
• 17:30
  Different,
• 17:31
  making
• 17:31
  new
• 17:32
  choices
• 17:32
  that
• 17:32
  support
• 17:33
  the
• 17:33
  life
• 17:33
  you
• 17:33
  want
• 17:34
  to
• 17:34
  live.
• 17:35
  I
• 17:35
  can
• 17:35
  feel
• 17:36
  it
• 17:36
  friend,
• 17:36
  can
• 17:36
  you?
• 17:37
  Your
• 17:37
  new
• 17:38
  mantra
• 17:39
  is,
• 17:39
  I
• 17:39
  am
• 17:39
  becoming
• 17:40
  the
• 17:40
  version
• 17:40
  of
• 17:41
  me
• 17:41
  that
• 17:42
  can
• 17:42
  hold
• 17:42
  the
• 17:42
  life
• 17:43
  I
• 17:43
  prayed
• 17:44
  for.
• 17:44
  And
• 17:45
  when
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  look
• 17:45
  back
• 17:46
  at
• 17:46
  this
• 17:46
  season,
• 17:47
  you
• 17:47
  won't
• 17:47
  see
• 17:47
  luck.
• 17:48
  You'll
• 17:48
  see
• 17:49
  identity.
• 17:52
  Ooh,
• 17:52
  friend.
• 17:53
  If
• 17:54
  this
• 17:54
  episode
• 17:55
  felt
• 17:55
  like
• 17:55
  a
• 17:56
  mirror,
• 17:56
  a
• 17:56
  hug,
• 17:57
  or
• 17:57
  a
• 17:57
  holy
• 17:58
  nudge,
• 17:58
  make
• 17:59
  sure
• 17:59
  you
• 17:59
  subscribe
• 18:00
  so
• 18:00
  that
• 18:00
  you
• 18:00
  don't
• 18:01
  miss
• 18:01
  what's
• 18:01
  coming
• 18:01
  next.
• 18:02
  And
• 18:02
  if
• 18:02
  you
• 18:02
  feel
• 18:03
  led,
• 18:03
  please
• 18:04
  leave
• 18:04
  a
• 18:04
  five
• 18:04
  star
• 18:04
  review.
• 18:05
  It
• 18:05
  helps
• 18:06
  this
• 18:06
  message
• 18:06
  find
• 18:07
  the
• 18:07
  woman
• 18:07
  quietly.
• 18:08
  Googling.
• 18:09
  Old
• 18:09
  identity
• 18:10
  at
• 18:10
  midnight
• 18:11
  wondering
• 18:12
  if
• 18:12
  she's
• 18:12
  allowed
• 18:12
  to
• 18:12
  change.
• 18:13
  Trust
• 18:14
  me,
• 18:14
  you
• 18:15
  are.
• 18:16
  You
• 18:16
  are
• 18:16
  not
• 18:16
  losing
• 18:17
  yourself.
• 18:18
  You
• 18:18
  are
• 18:18
  shedding
• 18:19
  the
• 18:19
  version
• 18:19
  of
• 18:20
  you
• 18:20
  that
• 18:21
  had
• 18:21
  to
• 18:21
  be
• 18:21
  strong,
• 18:22
  so
• 18:22
  the
• 18:23
  real,
• 18:23
  you
• 18:24
  could
• 18:24
  be
• 18:24
  free.
• 18:27
  Until
• 18:27
  next
• 18:27
  time.
• 18:28
  Main
• 18:28
  character.
• 18:29
  Keep
• 18:29
  choosing
• 18:30
  the
• 18:30
  identity
• 18:30
  that
• 18:31
  can
• 18:31
  hold
• 18:31
  the
• 18:31
  life
• 18:32
  you
• 18:32
  are
• 18:33
  praying
• 18:33
  for.
• 18:34
  Remember,
• 18:34
  friend
• 18:35
  around
• 18:35
  here,
• 18:36
  we
• 18:36
  don't
• 18:36
  settle.
• 18:37
  We
• 18:37
  shine
• 18:37
  all
• 18:38
  because
• 18:38
  together
• 18:39
  we
• 18:39
  can
• 18:40
  encourage
• 18:41
  over
• 18:41
  everything.