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Where Focus Goes Energy Flows - Using Attention to Avoid Annoyance · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, Adam here. And you're about to listen to a
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  hypnosis session all about triggers.
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  And the client that I was working with had certain
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  triggers that would make them annoyed, make them frustrated.
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  And a lot of these triggers were noise, so loud sounds like
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  sirens and big heavy trucks, but also things that were like
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  clutter, mess that would really kind of annoy them.
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  So what you're going to hear in this particular hypnosis session
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  is the ability to shift their ability to choose what they
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  focus on. And you get this weird paradox
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  sometimes that for some people that are triggered by certain
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  things, they end U looking for those things unconsciously
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  because they don't like them. And this happens more than you
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  would think. You know I work with phobics all
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  the time. If someone is afraid of birds
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  or. Afraid of dogs?
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  They end up scanning everywhere looking for birds and dogs
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  wherever they go, even though in their mind that's the thing that
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  makes them on edge or anxious. Now for this client, it wasn't
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  about anxiety, it was about annoyance and in particular
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  noises. But the interesting thing about
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  the human mind is that you can only focus on about 7 chunks of
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  information there or thereabouts at any one point in time.
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  And you've probably met someone who lives near a motorway or a
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  railway line and you're noticing the traffic or the trains all
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  the time. But for them, it's become
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  background noise. It's become invisible to them.
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  So the ability to focus on things that actually can change
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  your state is a very useful skill.
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  And there's even a metaphor in here about how it would be more
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  impressive for a monk to meditate in a noisy environment
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  than it would be in a very quiet, peaceful environment.
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  But actually the challenge is what leads to the skill in that
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  particular area. So if there are things that
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  annoy you, and it may not be things like sirens and noises
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  like traffic, but replace whatever the triggers are in
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  this hypnosis session for whatever specifically triggers
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  you. And almost treat this hypnosis
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  session like brain training that you're putting yourself in a
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  situation that we're inviting the annoying triggers to come
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  up, but for you to stay in that calm, relaxed, composed state.
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  So enjoy this session, but equally, if you do want
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  something a bit more bespoke to your specific circumstances,
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  have a look in the description for a link where you can either
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  do a suitability test to figure out if you would be a good
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  candidate for hypnotherapy or to book a free consultation call to
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  explore working with me. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that long, slow, relaxing breath, and
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  as you exhale, feel a wonderful sense of release as it feels
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  like any sensation of tension or worry.
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  It's starting to feel like it's leaving your body in your
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  outward breath, breathing in, relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  Each breath takes you deeper and deeper, relaxed, and maybe if
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  you scan your body, there might be an echo of tension or even an
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  annoyance manifesting itself somewhere in your body, and that
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  may be a tightness in the neck or the shoulders in the jaw.
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  I want you to get a sense then. Sometimes all it takes to
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  release is to notice. So almost.
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  Imagine scanning your body, the tips of your toes to the top of
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  your head, and if you could identify a clue, a physical echo
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  of an unpleasant emotion, Unnecessary.
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  Just imagine that the moment you find it, you give it permission
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  to be released so that sensation melts away.
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  And you could imagine each time you release a sensation of
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  feeling, you create a wonderful opportunity for a more
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  resourceful feeling to take its place.
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  What if you replace tension with relaxation, stress with calm?
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  I wonder what would happen if a worry is replaced with a
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  wonderful feeling of optimism. Just imagine the best yawn
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  you've ever had. There's something about even
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  imagining a yawn that seems to feel drowsy and relaxed, calm
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  and effortless. So as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens, and I want you to imagine.
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  I want you to imagine a a field, a field under blue skies,
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  surrounded by trees. And I want you to imagine.
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  Off in the distance you can see the steeple of a church and I
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  want you to focus. Focus on the sensation of a
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  breeze naturally and in a relaxed way, giving you the
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  sensation of that breeze on your skin.
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  Maybe there's sunshine and you can feel the warmth of that
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  sunshine on your skin. But I want you to focus your
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  attention on the sound of that breeze as it goes through leaves
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  and the surrounding trees. The sound of the breeze in the
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  trees. It almost has a magical effect,
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  like a spell on you, melting away tension and enabling you to
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  feel even deeper, relaxed and in the same trees where the leaves
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  are making that particular sound.
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  I want you to imagine there is different species of songbird
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  and they sound cheerful and playful and just imagine the
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  songbirds and the leaves and the breeze and then imagine hearing
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  church bells there in the distance.
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  And all of these sounds take you deeper and and deep or relaxed.
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  And I want you to get a sense that sometimes it could be a
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  sound or a smell or just the way something looks that triggers a
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  feeling and emotion within you. And that just means you're
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  human. For many people, the smell of a
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  flower makes them feel cozy and warm, and sometimes the sound of
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  certain music helps them drift into a place of pure relaxation
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  and imagination. But sometimes what may trigger
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  an emotion for you creates a different emotion for someone
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  else. And just because something
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  happens to create that feeling doesn't mean that it can't
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  change. And as you look out on this
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  field of grass under the sunshine, there in the middle of
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  that breeze, I want you to imagine seeing a small rabbit.
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  The rabbit has seen you, and you've seen the rabbit, but I
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  want you to imagine that the rabbit has a strategy.
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  The rabbit accepts there is an intruder on the field that it
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  calls home, but the rabbit has learned that no one stays on the
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  field for too long. You are like a cloud blowing
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  through the sky or a leaf on a stream.
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  You are temporary, so the rabbit accepts that even though it may
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  not want you there, you are there.
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  But very soon you will not be. So all the rabbit needs to do is
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  nothing at all. Just wait, and before long
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  you'll be gone and the rabbit gets to return to doing whatever
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  it wants to do. But if the rabbit was furious,
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  but someone else was on the field that it calls home, that
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  wouldn't change anything for the rabbit other than its own
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  emotions. The rabbit would just be
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  stressed and annoyed and upset and maybe even furious.
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  But the rabbit isn't that way. The rabbit is just patiently
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  waiting for you to go, and in doing so teaches you a very
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  valuable lesson in acceptance. Because if you can become
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  annoyed, you are giving your power away.
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  The rabbit didn't give its power away to you, so why would you
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  give your power to a siren? To a truck?
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  Why would you give your power away to some crying baby?
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  You being annoyed doesn't change anything for the baby.
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  A siren won't suddenly go silent because you're annoyed by the
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  sound. And I want you to get a sense
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  then you've been playing the wrong game.
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  You've been feeding the flames of your annoyance rather than
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  shifting your attention elsewhere.
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  And what if the sounds that used to annoy you become a training
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  ground, a boot camp, a way to make you feel even more patient
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  and accepting than ever before? I want you to imagine there you
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  are on that field, surrounded by the breeze and the trees and the
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  songbirds and the church bells. But I want you to imagine, for
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  some reason, a police car approaches a nearby Rd. with a
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  siren and now you have a choice. You can focus your attention on
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  the siren and become annoyed. Where you could choose to make
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  the siren background noise, the focus instead on the breeze, the
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  trees, the birds and the bells. And I wonder if you can do that
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  now to accept that the siren is there, but choose to focus your
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  attention on something else and then keep the siren there.
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  And then I want you to introduce a fleet of trucks noisily
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  intruding on this peaceful sound surrounding the field.
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  There is now a police siren and loud heavy trucks, but you can
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  choose to focus your attention on the heavy trucks and the
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  siren, or hone in on the sound of those church bells, those
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  birds, or the leaves rustling in the trees.
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  You can focus on the breeze and your skin or the warmth of the
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  sun, or even imagine putting your fingers on your temple or
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  your wrist and noticing the sound and rhythm of your own
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  pulse. I want you to feel that
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  annoyance is a choice, and every time you choose to focus your
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  attention on something else of your choosing, you are saying
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  yes to more peace, yes to more empowerment, and yes to more
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  patience. Allow yourself to feel like it's
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  a choice. What if every one of those
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  annoying sounds of your past becomes a teacher teaching you
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  to become more patient, more accepting, and more in control
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  of your own emotions? I want you to think of someone
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  that was addicted to pastries and cakes.
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  I want you to wonder how disciplined they are if they
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  never ever see a cake or a pastry.
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  True discipline is seeing the cake or the pastry and choosing
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  not to eat it even though they could.
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  And if that's possible for someone to choose not to eat a
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  pastry, then it's possible for you not to choose.
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  To allow a sound to annoy you, I want you to imagine now, on this
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  large field, seeing one of those big trucks dump a pile of
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  rubbish right there on that field, surrounded by nature.
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  The pile of rubbish represents 1% of that field, and if you
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  only focused on the pile of rubbish, you could feel annoyed.
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  Or you could accept that it's there and choose to look at the
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  endless grass and trees and plants and flowers around you.
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  I want you to feel like you are unlocking a new ability, a new
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  level of resilience, patience and mental fortitude.
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  That the sounds that used to annoy you will empower you to be
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  more peaceful and patient than ever before.
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  Because what is more impressive? The monk meditating in a quiet
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  temple, or the monk that can meditate in the middle of a
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  heavy metal concert. The more impressive thing is the
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  one that requires more control over focus, attention and to
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  choose to claim the power rather than give it away.
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  I want you to imagine now, in addition to the siren and the
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  traffic noise, there is now 10 babies and toddlers crying and
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  whining and that could annoy almost anyone.
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  But for you, you trust that the parents of these children will
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  take them away. Like the rabbit, you deem any of
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  these sounds as temporary and manageable.
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  You bide your time and choose to focus on things that make you
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  feel spacious and liberated and not restricted and confined.
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  And from this point onwards, annoying sounds become training
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  at altitude, a way to increase your patience, increase your
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  peace and increase your resilience.
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  You no longer are bothered by them, you are strengthened and
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  empowered by them because you have the power of choice, the
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  choice of what things mean, what to focus on, but also what to do
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  with your time and your energy. Because if you really didn't
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  want to hear these sirens and traffic and children, why not
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  use those legs and just walk somewhere else?
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  Not in an annoyed, frustrated, bothered way, but from the
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  perspective of a game of chess moves and countermoves.
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  If, knowing what you now know, you would rather be somewhere
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  else, choose to be somewhere else.
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  Because you choose it. This isn't annoyed reaction, it
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  is a measured response, an empowered choice that moves you
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  forward, not chains you to something that will disturb your
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  peace. So imagine all of those sounds
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  around you and choose to focus on the church bells, the breeze,
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  the birds, and the branches. And in doing so, you figured it
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  out. Where focus goes, energy flows,
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  and the only one in control of your focus is you.
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  And as you hold that thought, take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count. 123 waking up 456, more alert. 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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