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Episode 601: Why Your Ex Is Still Silent Even Though They Have Feelings For You · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  Hi. This is Luke here with the art
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  of love. I'm a dating and relationship.
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  Experts specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex this week. I want to talk about, why your
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  ex is still silent. Even though they still have
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  feelings for you, isn't that annoying?
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  They have feelings for you, but they have not reached out.
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  Why? Oh, why?
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  Well, don't worry. I'm going to tell you.
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  But first, I want to welcome back my no contact Army and I
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  before purchasing the book. Okay?
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  So what are the reasons that your ex would not reach out with
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  still be silent, even though they have feelings for you?
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  Well, one reason is that they are still in the relief stage.
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  If you listen to my video about the stages that the jumper goes
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  through, and I'll put that in the upper right-hand corner on
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  YouTube. You'll see that one of the first
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  stages depending on The Break-Up is relief.
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  Which means that they are still enjoying being out of the
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  relationship as much as you hate to hear, I know you want them to
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  have a be having a miserable time.
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  Not yet. That hopefully comes later right
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  now, they're just relieved. So the best thing you can do is
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  to give them time and space so they can start to miss you.
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  They can't miss you unless you let time and space do its thing
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  and what do you know? I actually also did a video on
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  that and I'll put that link in the upper right-hand corner so
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  this is why no? It is so crucial when you are
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  first broken up with you have to go into another contact as soon
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  as possible. And it's very important also the
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  first month because you want to get them out of that relief
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  stage as soon as possible and we don't know how long they're
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  going to be in the relief stage because it depends on whether
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  they were triggered. They were triggered.
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  Then they might not be in there as long as if it was the last
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  straw. And they're like, no forget it.
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  No, it's over. So that might take longer, but
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  either way, you still have to stay in.
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  No contact, give them The Break-Up and let them get out of
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  that relief stage. Another reason they're still
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  silent is pride. People say it's because
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  stubbornness. No, it's not about stubbornness.
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  It's about more about pride in that they don't want to change
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  their mind, people hate to change their mind because
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  usually takes most people a long time, to make a decision,
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  especially a decision to break up with someone.
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  So, once they make that decision, they hate to go back
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  on that because they think it makes them look weak and
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  unstable SEC. Wait a minute, you just broke up
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  with me now. You owe me back and they feel
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  they're going to lose power if they come back especially.
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  They come back so quick because well, you just broke up with me
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  last week and now you're back then you they think you're not
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  going to take them seriously. So even though they have
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  feelings for you, they do want to stick with a decision.
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  And of course, the best way to get them change.
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  Their mind is to cause them to feel so much pain and anxiety
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  that they have no choice but to change their mind and that is of
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  course achieved by leaving them alone, so they can miss you.
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  Next is that they just do not see how it's going to work out,
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  maybe it's because this is the second or the third break up,
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  maybe there are extenuating circumstances that are not going
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  to change anytime soon. So they didn't break up with you
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  because of you and many saying you did or your personality, but
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  just because of the circumstances, maybe it's long
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  distance, maybe you have baby mama drama.
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  Maybe you have young kids and they don't want to be around
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  young kids or whatever. /. So again, the best course of
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  action is to let time do its thing.
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  So that they will at least begin to rethink the decision and see
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  if there's a way to possibly make it work.
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  Let their interest level go up and they will be more willing to
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  find a solution and see if they can make it work.
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  More people will find the video and we could help more people
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  find Find out why their ex hasn't reached out even though
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  they have feelings. Okay, another reason is that
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  they're just not ready. So they're still processing your
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  feelings and not enough time has passed since The Break-Up in
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  order for them to truly feel. The Break-Up And if your ex has
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  an anxious attachment style, well, lucky you, that means that
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  they're going to start to feel the break up a lot sooner than
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  if they're an avoidance. So if you take someone with an
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  anxious attachment style, a month of no contact for them to
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  reach out, then someone with an avoidant attachment style, it
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  might take two months and the secure attachment is somewhere
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  in between so doesn't mean they're not going to reach out
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  there. Just not ready yet.
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  And then finally, a final reason why your ex isn't reaching out
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  even though they have feelings is that you were too needy at
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  the end of the relationship, you chase them, you begged and
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  pleaded. You showed up at their house,
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  you wrote letters you that everything.
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  You shouldn't have done, you sent flowers, guys.
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  Stop sending flowers when you're broken up with.
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  It's not going to do anything, they don't care.
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  One of my clients sent flowers recently and she didn't even
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  respond. Can someone a guy please comment
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  in the The comments, leave a comment and tell me.
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  Why do you guys have this instinct to send flowers?
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  When they are broken up with? I don't understand it as a
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  woman, I don't understand it. I can try to understand it but
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  it makes zero sense. So, can someone please explain
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  this? To me?
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  I would really like to know Okay.
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  So you were too needy and so they figured that they can get
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  you back at any time even though they have feelings for you,
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  they're not experiencing enough anxiety and they're not missing
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  you. Because in the back of their
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  mind because of how you acted at the end of the relationship,
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  they saw they can probably get you back at any time.
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  So that's why they're taking their sweet time because you
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  didn't go immediately into no contact, okay?
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  That's why, as I said in the beginning, this video it's
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  crucial to go into no contact as soon as Possible and remember
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  that, you know, just because they're assignment, it doesn't
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  mean that they don't have any feelings for you.
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  It doesn't mean they've totally forgotten about you and moved
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  on. It doesn't mean they don't think
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  about you every day. You have no idea what's really
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  going on with them. Just like they have no idea
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  what's going on with you. Why don't you put yourself into
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  their shoes. What they see is that you're not
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  trying to get back with them and they may be thinking the same
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  thing about you like, wow, I thought he didn't want me to
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  break up with him. I thought she didn't want me to
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  break up with her. Her and now they've totally gone
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  silent. Wow, they're over me.
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  The answer is no, you did not get over them.
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  And therefore there's a good chance that they are.
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  No not over you and even though they're silent it doesn't mean
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  they're not going to reach out at some point.
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  Okay. So comment below and let me know
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  if your ex has been silent a lot longer than you expected.
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  And if you think that they'll be reaching out anytime soon,
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  sometimes we have an instinct that you know what I have a
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  feeling my ex is going to reach out or I know they still care
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  about me and they're going to reach out.
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  So let me know your thoughts on that and if you'd like my help
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  to get your ex back, contact me at the art of love dotnet and we
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