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What Makes a Healthy Relationship: Key Traits and How to Cultivate Them · Stacked Intent: Your Guide to Authentic, Intentional Living

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, my name is Becca Stackhouse Morrison, and I am ready for you to tune in each episode with your ways to become you.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Stacked Intent Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to our Stacked Intent Podcast, and I am Becca, and we are going to be talking today about healthy relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're going to briefly cover the objectives of what is a healthy relationship, and we're going to talk about some traits that might even make up what that healthy relationship looks like.
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  SPEAKER_00: But one thing that I want you to think about is when you hear relationships, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of times that first thing that comes to our mind is the relationship of a romantic relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when I'm covering relationships, some of it will be romantic specific, but for the most part, healthy relationships exist in our friendships, our work relationships, our coworkers, our parents, our bosses, our children.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships exist every direction we have.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we're going to talk about what is a healthy relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: To you, what does it mean to have a healthy relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: So a healthy relationship is usually one that's got some honesty in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's got some trust, respect, and those three things sometimes are things that have to build over time.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also have an open communication line between the relationship that can be an effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um and it has to come with some compromise from both ends and both people.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is a respect that comes from each person in a relationship being independent.
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  SPEAKER_00: It also takes that communication and it being a commitment for having a healthy relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can't just have one person working for this healthy aspect.
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  SPEAKER_00: It has to come from both sides.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that second trait is what are things that even make up a healthy relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes if you look on our TV, listen to our music, the things that happen in our society, these healthy traits aren't necessarily something that always exists there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So as we talk about these traits, I'm gonna go through.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about a relationship, whether it be your partnership, your friendship, your relationship with your parents, think about a relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you got that relationship in mind, and as we talk about each of these topics, I want you to ask yourself this, these questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which of these describe that relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: Which of these are most important to you when you think about being respected?
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  SPEAKER_00: And which of these helps you handle a disagreement, but in a healthy way?
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  SPEAKER_00: So that first trait that we're going to kind of cover and talk about is accountability.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's holding you accountable for your responsibilities, your behaviors, and even the attitudes that you have?
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you able to admit your mistake when you're wrong?
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  SPEAKER_00: And then trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: Accepting each other's word.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is something that if you ever break that trust, you've got to find the aspects to build it back.
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  SPEAKER_00: It also may be giving your partner or your friendship or your parent that benefit of the doubt to keep that trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: So not untrusting them until they've given you a reason not to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Putting that trust first.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next one is safety.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's refusing to intimidate or manipulate that relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's respecting somebody's physical space.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's also expressing yourself in a nonviolent and an honest way within that safe environment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Honesty, communicating openly and truthful.
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  SPEAKER_00: One thing that I was always taught growing up is when you omit a piece of the truth, you're still not being honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: And not being honest, that's always gonna bite you in the butt.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some way, somewhere, even if it's five or six years down the road.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cooperation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cooperation is asking, but not expecting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find that in between.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's not one person always compromising themselves, it's you both finding that mutual compromise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then it's finding a mutual satisfaction resolution to solve that conflict.
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  SPEAKER_00: Resp support.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we have to have support within this aspect of wanting some respect.
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  SPEAKER_00: So support, it's supporting the choice that your partner, your parent, your friend makes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, you do have to think about this.
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  SPEAKER_00: That choice may have to come with some compromise, but it's never letting your values, which we'll hit on that another time, be things that you are compromising.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the support you give to a choice, it does look different when it's a parent, when it's a sibling, when it's a friend, or when it's a partner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because those really affect different aspects of your circle.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to think about it that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: It may be finding an understanding, or simply just offering some encouragement.
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  SPEAKER_00: It also may be listening non-judgmentally, so listening not just to respond, but really listening to listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one way that that can be practiced is paraphrasing back to the person that's talking to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's telling them, hey, this is what I heard you say, and letting them say, Yeah, that's what I said, or nope, not what I said at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: So these traits all kind of lead us to finding some respect and their mutual respect in a relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you are in a relationship that's healthy and balanced, and both individuals are equals in this relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it may be sometimes you're giving 60 and your partner's giving 40, sometimes they're giving 60 and you're giving 40, or in a friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's just finding what that healthy balance of equality is within your friendships or relationships or partnerships or parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then this is sometimes flexibility within different roles.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you might have a different expectation of support from your partner than you do from a friend or your parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's knowing that each role is not gonna be the same kind of friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each friendship, each friend is not gonna have the same kind of role in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's being okay that those are different and letting them each have their own beauty.
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  SPEAKER_00: So each person has to avoid assuming an attitude of ownership towards the other person.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each must avoid manipulating, exploiting, or using the other person.
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  SPEAKER_00: These two people encourage each other to become all that they are capable of becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we recap with why what is the healthy relationship?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just having a healthy balance of living life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's those traits having respect, support, cooperation, honesty, safety, trust, and accountability that all happen within the relationship you started out thinking of at the beginning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I encourage you to write that down and think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, here's your challenge for this episode of Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you putting the effort in to have a healthy relationship or are you the one causing unhealthy traits to happen?
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's learning to look at that relationship and yourself and really examine what might be causing an unhealthy trait to happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I challenge you to write that down, have that conversation, and if you would like more, reach out to me on your social media platforms or through my website at Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you guys for tuning in to this week's episode of Stacked Intent Podcast on some healthy relationships, tips and tricks.
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  SPEAKER_00: That brings us to the end of this episode of Stacked Intent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Until then, this is Becca, and don't forget, enrich your life by being intentional.
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