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Holiday Bonus Episode 3: Permission to Pause - Prioritize Holiday Joy Over Perfection · JOY LOVING HOME - SAHM, Productivity, Home Organization, Declutter, ADHD Mom, ADHD SAHM, ADHD Brain

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  Welcome to the Joy Loving Home podcast. If you are joining me in the midst of
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  this holiday bonus series, we are doing our five golden rings,
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  the procrastinator's essentials to get us through the Christmas season and feel like,
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  the important stuff got done. So today we're on episode three of this and we're
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  going to just chat events a minute.
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  If we haven't already missed some, that's okay if we have. They are going to
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  be happening in the next two weeks for sure.
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  So take a moment either right after this episode ends or pause if you need that
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  accountability and do this now and then play and listen to the rest.
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  But I I want you to stop and look through the calendars, the emails that have
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  come in recently, your kids' school websites, whatever you need to do to get
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  all of the parties down on your calendars,
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  bonus points if you also put them in your phone with alerts.
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  I want you to highlight anything that you need to know that's special about
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  what you might have to wear or what you might have to bring.
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  I want you to create a list just for those things and snap a photo of it on
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  your phone so it is front of mind if you are running any other errands that
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  you can keep note of the fact that,
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  oh, I have to grab that for this party. I have to grab that for this event.
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  Let's get this knocked out so that we can have a little bit less stress about
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  all the events that seem to happen this time of year.
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  Now, I want to share that I recently saw a mom come across my feed who said
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  she was so tired of the advice to stressed out moms to do less at the holidays
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  as some sort of solution.
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  Because she's like, the stuff at the holidays is the stuff I want to do.
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  I want to bake cookies with my kids. I want to decorate my house.
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  I want to attend all the fun events that make the traditions and this season magical.
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  What I want to have happen is all of the normal stuff that we carry to just take a pause.
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  And I thought, you know what, that's really good advice because it is the stuff we want to do.
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  And so we're stretching ourselves then doing all the things.
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  So I'm going to give some controversial advice right now.
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  If you will not be hosting anything at your house.
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  Then maybe actually pause all of that stuff that you normally do.
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  Your family will not go into toxic existence if you quit cleaning the bathrooms for the next two weeks,
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  if you don't change the sheets for the next two weeks, if you only do essential
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  laundry that might happen to come up, if all you all eat on nights that you're
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  not at an event is cereal or a can of soup.
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  Keep that stuff at the
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  bare minimum so that you can pour any
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  energy you have into the stuff you really want to
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  do because I promise you with the level of
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  attention span and the level of memory anybody has for
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  anything these days all of that will be forgotten within two weeks of the holidays
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  being over and the other thing to note is when our battery is highest for really
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  digging in and getting our homes clean and organized is January.
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  I am telling you, if you look at the arc of when the most organizing and cleaning
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  things are sold, it is in January.
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  When you are taking those Christmas returns back, you will see front and center
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  in every single store are the storage items, the organizing items.
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  All of that goes on sale then because everybody gets this burst of energy that
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  they want to turn this new leaf over in the new year.
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  So we're going to, quote unquote, punish future us because we know future us
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  in January is going to have a full battery.
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  And right now we don't. And that's okay to share a little bit of the load.
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  Her. It's really okay.
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  So if that's what you needed the permission for to take a pause on the regular
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  stuff you always do so that you can pour your energy into the fun stuff, awesome.
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  There's no need to dust or vacuum when every surface is covered with Christmas
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  decor anyway, or toys are strewn all over the floor because they're brand new
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  and they're being played with actively.
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  It's really okay. So I just, I want us to have the permission to be like, you know what?
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  It's time of the year. I'm going to kick this down the road.
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  I am going to kick the regular stuff down the road and we're all going to be okay.
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  And if by chance you are also hosting, then still only concentrate on the stuff
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  that anybody's going to see.
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  If you have a guest bedroom and a guest bathroom, and that's all they're going
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  to see, don't worry about your kids' bathrooms. Don't worry about your bathroom.
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  Don't worry about your bedroom. Shut the door if you have to. It's okay.
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  So just want to say that in this energy to do these events that we've now laid out.
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  If that's the stuff you're craving
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  for the holiday, then lean all in and don't apologize for the rest.
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  I also want to say, however, if you are looking at this list of events and you're
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  like, some of them I did want to do, but these others, I just feel like I'm supposed to.
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  If you're feeling a tug of I'm supposed to, I'll also give you permission to
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  say, oh no, we already had some conflict on that date.
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  Can't be coming this year. I'm so, so sorry. You don't have to explain what the conflict is.
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  If that makes you feel like you're lying, then I'm going to tell you that scheduling
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  in peace and margin is an event.
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  So if you have decided to schedule in peace on a night that there is an event
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  that you are supposed to attend, but honestly, nobody's going to miss you,
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  it's okay I had a RSVP no on that.
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  So I just want to drop in that little piece of advice.
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  Okay, so now that we have the things in front of us, we've made the decisions
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  about the things we're going to do, we see what's needed for those events,
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  I want us to have that picture.
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  And if you are out running errands anyway, because you've started your gift
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  shopping, you're starting to look around, or maybe you just say between dropping the kids off.
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  Tomorrow morning and pick up, I'm going to see how many of these things I can
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  knock out so that in one fell swoop, I am set.
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  Because that's going to take a huge load off because normally we're seeing these
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  things about an hour before we actually have to be somewhere.
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  And we're going to know we already have them in place.
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  So I hope that's helpful. I have
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  been popping into my free community group at 2 p.m. the last two days.
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  I'll pop in today. I want to share with you another little piece of something
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  that could make your Christmas day a little more enjoyable.
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  So if you want to see that and set that up with me, I will be in there live today at 2 sharing that.
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  I just want to say that if you are not already a member of my free community
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  and you want to jump in for this little series I'm doing,
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  you just go to bit.ly slash joylovinghomecommunity and you will arrive there.
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  I will put the link in the show notes as well. So until next time,
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  which is tomorrow, continue to choose joy.