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Hypnosis to Break Emotional Eating that Started in Childhood · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here now if you've ever felt a real craving to eat
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  certain foods at certain times of days.
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  It might. Be caused by emotional eating or
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  childhood conditioning. I was working with a client that
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  when they were growing up, their mother loved to cook and would
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  love to bake and make cakes and desserts and for her it was not
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  only a hobby but it was a way of showing love and affection.
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  Now back at that particular time, there was less knowledge
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  about the consequences of having too much sugar in the diets of
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  children and childhood obesity. It was just doing something that
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  she enjoyed and her child would also enjoy.
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  It didn't feel like there was any harm involved.
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  It was a very good intention. But that good intention meant
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  that that child would consistently have more calories
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  than they needed. It meant that they became the
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  biggest person in their school classroom and they got taunted
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  and abused. As a result of that.
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  And that's evidence to demonstrate that someone can
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  have a wonderful intention, but that one of an intention can
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  have undesirable consequences. That's also true if an adult is
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  emotionally eating to keep themselves comfortable, to make
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  themselves feel connected, and then it leads to a future stroke
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  or a heart attack or type 2 diabetes.
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  The intention is good, but it can have undesirable
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  consequences. This uses a different metaphor
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  that uses two different timelines.
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  So there's a photo album where they get to observe what
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  happened in their childhood. So it makes sense why they've
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  got this certain relationship with food at a particular time
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  of the day. But then we introduce a
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  different idea that what if their mother, instead of cooking
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  and baking as their hobby, was reading and reading was their
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  hobby and a way of demonstrating and showing affection and love
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  was reading to their children. Well, their whole future would
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  take a different trajectory. And what that does is it
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  highlights that food is not the only way to show affection and
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  love, and it's not the only way to do some expression of self
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  love, which is what I think this client was doing.
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  Because they were feeding themselves the kind of food that
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  their mother used to give them at around the same time of day,
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  which is in the evening just before they were sleeping.
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  So there's a. Few different things here that
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  encourage them to do good things for themselves that would
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  completely change their relationship with food.
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  And at the end of this, it utilizes that idea that you can
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  have a relationship with food and their relationship with
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  fruit and vegetables might be the kind of relationship of a
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  good, reliable, loyal friend. But the kind of relationship
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  with refined carbohydrates, takeaways and let's say hyper
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  processed food might be the kind of relationship.
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  And and everyone's got a friend like this that they've had in
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  the past of someone that is quite self-centered, quite
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  selfish. They're there if it makes sense
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  for them to be there on their terms, but they're not there for
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  difficult times. Fast food and processed food
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  could almost be like they're just there for the fun times and
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  not there for anything else. In which case, seeing that kind
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  of relationship is that kind of 1 sided relationship can be
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  quite empowering to make a change.
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  So if you emotionally eat, if you feel like you're having too
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  much of takeaways and hyper processed food and refined carbs
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  like biscuits and bread and things like that, you might get
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  some value from this session. Just be aware though that it was
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  calibrated to the client that I was working with.
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  They had a mother that would feed them lots of cakes and
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  desserts. That might not be your
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  situation. So extract the value that is
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  useful for you. Disregard anything that isn't,
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  and if you like the idea of working with me directly, there
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  will be a link in the actual description of this episode that
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  you can find a link to. Book a free consultation call or
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  you can visit my website adamcox.co.uk.
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  Book the consultation call there.
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  We'll have a chat, and who knows, we might end up working
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  together one-on-one rather than you just listening to my
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  recordings. For now, though, you might get
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  some real value from this session.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place, The kind of place that
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  you're not going to be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe in, breathe in that feeling of calm relaxation, and
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  as you exhale, feel a wonderful feeling of release, as if any
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  tension, stress and worries. The gradually, incrementally
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  leaving your body in your outward breath.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And allow your mind to take you to the kind of place where that
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  first minute after you awake, or the three minutes before you
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  drift after sleep, where imagination blends with reality.
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  All those times when you've been lost in a good book, turning
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  pages without realizing. Or perhaps when your eyes
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  defocus and you drift off into a world of daydreaming as you
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  breathe in and breathe out and drift to that place where words
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  become images, images becomes meanings.
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  And I wonder, as your body relaxes, just how your
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  imagination can enhance and amplify.
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  And I want you to imagine one of those old fashioned photo albums
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  you remember the ones big thick books, often leather bound, and
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  on each page maybe four or five pictures, photos printed from
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  long ago. And I want you to imagine that
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  this doesn't have to be a real photo album.
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  It's a photo album in your imagination.
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  That means that you're able to collapse time, able to see
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  trends that took place over years.
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  When a tree is growing in your own garden, you don't see it
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  grow, but someone that visits perhaps once a year notices the
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  growth of that tree. As you flick through the pages
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  of this photo album, see yourself perhaps three or four
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  years old, perhaps notice just how early in your life that food
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  was used as an expression of love.
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  Maybe they were birthday parties with a big cake, lots of
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  chocolates, biscuits. Maybe there's a photo that you
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  can connect to a memory of seeing your mother cooking,
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  baking, preparing food, and as you turn the pages you see a
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  pattern emerging. Your mother's hobby was cooking.
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  She felt good when she cooked, but she felt even better seeing
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  the reaction, those people eating the food that she had
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  cooked for. She felt good in the moment and
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  good after, and maybe it even linked to her identity.
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  She wasn't just cooking, she was a cook.
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  And notice all of these are wonderful intentions to get good
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  at something, to learn a recipe, to share something with the
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  people that she loved. All of it was wonderful
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  intentions. But I want you to see that you
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  as a child having these desserts, these foods that were
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  rich and heavy, started meaning that that younger version of you
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  was consuming more calories than you could expend.
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  And as you turn the pages of the photo album, see how you were
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  getting bigger, not just taller, but bigger, and then see the
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  impact that that had. And children can be cruel and
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  unfair. And I want you to observe, like
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  pictures coming alive, turning into short movies of the taunts,
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  shaming, mocking. I want you to see how a
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  wonderful intention can lead to an undesirable consequence.
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  I want you to keep going through the photos and see how this
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  continued. You may even see a pattern where
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  some days returning from school, maybe there was sadness or
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  rejection, feeling low or anxious.
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  Perhaps you can see a relationship forming with food,
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  where food became self medication, a way to change how
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  you felt, not because you were hungry, but because you wanted
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  to change how you feel. And if you can record memories
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  like that, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. The intention is wonderful to
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  make you feel better by using food as a way to make you feel
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  better. What if that is like throwing
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  gasoline on a fire to put it down?
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  The intention could be good. The consequence can be
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  undesirable. So let's imagine a different
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  reality. Put that photo album down and
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  imagine a different photo album, where when your mother was
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  young, she learned that reading was a wonderful hobby, not
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  cooking. She would read things for
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  herself, but she would also read to you.
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  And imagine observing that after meal time, she would read you a
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  story instead of preparing a dessert.
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  In this different reality, telling you stories was her
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  primary act of love and affection.
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  And I want you to see how the timeline changes if day after
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  day, there was just a different story rather than a different
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  dessert. What impact did that have on
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  your body, your body shape? One change ripples through time
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  and suddenly means that as an adult, there's a craving at
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  around 9:00 PM to read something in the same way that your mother
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  would have read to you at 9:00 PM.
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  Imagine reading to yourself an act of self love.
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  Eating a delicious dessert right before you sleep ensures all of
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  that glycogen there in your blood has nowhere to go.
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  Your body is forced to release insulin to turn the excess into
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  body fat. But reading doesn't create a
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  spike in glycogen, doesn't create a need for your body to
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  produce more insulin, doesn't mean that you're accumulating
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  stored energy in body fat cells. I want you to imagine, as you
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  flick through this different reality, how your body shape
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  would have looked when you were five, and then seven and then 10
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  years old. How would you have looked 13 and
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  then 15? And maybe in this parallel
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  universe some devastating issue, perhaps caused by lots of sugar,
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  fats or refined carbohydrates doesn't happen.
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  And we need to get a sense that it is is all cause and effect.
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  And sometimes there's a lag time between what's being done and
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  what the consequences of that thing is.
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  No judgement, no shame, just information.
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  And I want you to step into that photo album in this different
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  reality and imagine what it would be like where every
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  evening you were told a story instead of having a dessert.
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  How many days would it take until you looked forward to that
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  story? Maybe in that reality you
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  observe your mother spending less time in a kitchen and more
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  time reading a book that gave her pleasure, satisfaction, time
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  for herself, maybe leading to a different identity.
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  And imagine being in there, the younger version of you, and that
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  was your reality day after day. Imagine building the neural
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  pathways where being read a story or having a conversation
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  that was how you experienced love from your mother.
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  Imagine looking yourself in the mirror at 10 years old, seeing
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  how different your body shape was.
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  We need to get a feeling then. Food is just neutral fuel and
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  nutrients. It's the emotional attachments
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  we connect to it. It can mean that something
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  harmless in a small dose can become a problem if over
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  consumed. I want you to get a feeling
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  then. If that was your childhood, how
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  likely is it that at 9:00 PM you'd be craving something
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  processed or refined? Wouldn't it be more likely that
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  you would crave something then satiates you intellectually or
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  creatively or something else? Imagine putting that photo album
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  down and thinking about the relationship that you have with
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  food. Imagine yourself in your
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  kitchen. I want you to see a bowl of
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  fruit, a selection of vegetables, lean proteins like
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  meat or fish, and then processed food, refined carbohydrates,
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  takeaways. And I want you to think that if
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  that bowl of fruit was a relationship or a friendship,
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  what kind of friendship would it be?
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  And would you want to keep that friendship or invest more time
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  nurturing that friendship? And then look at the vegetables
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  and then imagine thinking to yourself if that was a
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  friendship, maybe it would be that more boring, predictable,
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  but loyal, reliable friend. The friend that really cares
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  about the quality of your life, your health.
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  And would you want that relationship?
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  To be even stronger and then look at the proteins.
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  And as you look at the proteins, maybe this is a friend that
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  wants you to be strong and lean and healthy to help your body
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  repair. And if these three friends or
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  relationships seem strong and desirable and helpful and loyal,
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  let me know by nodding your head.
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  And the final relationship there is with this processed food,
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  takeaways, refined carbohydrates.
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  And maybe this is just the kind of friend but is only there for
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  a good time while pleasure is there.
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  They're around, but if they don't get their way, they get
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  cranky, persuasive. Maybe they're selfish or
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  self-centered. Maybe they want things on their
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  terms. And sometimes with a friendship
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  like that, you need to re evaluate that friendship, maybe
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  have a boundary or only see them in very specific occasions.
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  I want you to imagine that if someone's primary relationship
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  with food is that good time Charlie with the processed food,
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  their body would be a reflection of that.
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  But if the primary relationships with food were with real, whole,
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  nutritious foods, the body would also be a reflection of that.
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  And what if now is a good time to re evaluate your
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  relationships that have more of what you want and less of what
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  you don't? You to imagine that around 9:00
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  PM you'll have a desire to do something that satiates you in a
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  way that food can never makes you feel good, proud,
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  accomplished or relaxed. Imagine having a real craving to
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  get ready to sleep not long after knowing that good sleep is
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  the most loving gift that you can give yourself.
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  I want you to imagine that these changes aren't about sacrifice
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  and not being allowed to do things.
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  It's about discernment, doing more of what you really want,
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  unless of just responding to echoes of your past or indulging
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  false friends. If your unconscious is ready to
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  go on a quest to explore the perfect balance of what you do
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  when you do it, let me know by nodding your head.
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  It's time to leave this place in your imagination with a sense of
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  clarity, optimism, perhaps even excitement.
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  The new quest that you are embarking on, knowing that when
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  you find those right relationships, rituals and
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  routines, it's just a ripple effect that will take your life
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  in a wonderful new direction. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I now count
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  from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes 910 Wide awake,
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  Wide awake. Wide awake.
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