Sexless Marriage: She Was the Sexual One for 20 Years. Then Perimenopause Hit.

Dad Starting Over · Oct 16, 2026 · 25m

A follower — I'll call him Grant — wrote to me three weeks after a coworker handed him her hotel room number on a business trip. He said no. He also told me it took everything he had, and that the number that kept running through his head while he sat on the edge of that hotel bed was eighteen months — as in, eighteen months since his own wife had touched him.

Here's the part that makes this different from most dead-bedroom stories: for the first 18 years of their marriage, she was the one who initiated. Constantly. He's not a man who married a low-desire woman and finally noticed. He's a man…