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Note 71: Have The Confidence to Walk Away · Notes to Her

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  Hey,
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  girl.
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  Hey.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  Notes
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  to
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  Her,
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  the
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  daily
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  pep
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  talk.
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  I'm
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  Yaya,
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  your
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  confidence
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  and
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  mindset
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  coach,
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  and
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  I
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  am
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  popping
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  back
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  in
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  for
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  one
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  special
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  note
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  before
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  I
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  officially
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  come
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  back
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  for
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  season
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  two
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  in
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  September.
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  Now,
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  before
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  we
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  get
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  into
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  anything
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  else,
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  I
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  need
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  you
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  to
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  do
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  something
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  for
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  me.
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  And
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  if
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  you're
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  like,
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  wait,
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  you
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  just
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  got
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  here
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  and
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  you're
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  already
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  asking
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  for
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  something.
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  Yes,
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  I
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  am,
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  But
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  I
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  promise
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  you,
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  it's
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  something
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  small.
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  There's
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  a
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  survey
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  link
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  in
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  the
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  show
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  notes,
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  and
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  I
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  would
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  love
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  for
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  you
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  to
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  fill
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  it
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  out.
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  I
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  really
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  want
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  to
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  know
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  how
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  often
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  hear
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  this
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  podcast
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  in
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  season
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  two,
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  what
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  you
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  want
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  me
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  and
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  drop
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  your
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  email
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  address
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  so
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  that
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  we
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  can
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  stay
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  connected
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  instead
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  of
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  you.
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  Just
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  hoping
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  that
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  you
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  catch
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  me
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  whenever
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  I
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  post
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  or
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  I
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  catch
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  you
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  whenever
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  you
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  listen.
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  Okay,
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  so
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  And
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  fair
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  warning,
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  this
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  one
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  might
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  be
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  a
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  little
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  longer
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  than
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  you're
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  used
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  to,
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  but
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  I
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  don't
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  care
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  because
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  this
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  one
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  needed
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  room
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  to
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  breathe,
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  and
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  so
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  I
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  gave
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  it
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  that.
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  Today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  talking
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  about
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  confidence
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  and
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  relationships.
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  Not
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  the
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  cute
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  version,
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  not
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  the
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  just
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  love
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  yourself
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  and
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  he'll
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  come
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  version.
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  We're
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  talking
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  about
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  the
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  real
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  one,
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  the
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  one
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  where
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  getting
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  confident
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  actually
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  costs
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  you
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  something,
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  where
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  it
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  can
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  make
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  you
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  lonely
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  before
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  it
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  makes
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  you
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  happy,
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  where
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  you
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  will
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  lose
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  people
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  you
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  did
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  not
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  want
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  to
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  lose
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  simply
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  because
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  you
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  stop
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  settling.
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  That's
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  what
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  this
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  note
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  is
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  all
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  about.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  into
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  it.
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  Now.
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  I
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  think
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  we
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  can
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  both
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  admit
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  that
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  we
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  don't
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  walk
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  around
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  saying,
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  I'm
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  settling.
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  A
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  lot
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  of
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  times
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  we'll
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  say,
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  too
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  much.
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  nitpick.
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  He's
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  not
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  perfect,
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  but
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  nobody
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  is.
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  I
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  should
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  just
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  be
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  more
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  understanding.
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  Maybe
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  I'm
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  just
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  being
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  dramatic.
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  That
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  is
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  not
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  understanding.
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  That's
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  shrinking.
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  Settling
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  rarely
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  looks
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  like
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  a
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  woman
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  who's
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  lying
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  on
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  the
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  floor
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  crying,
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  I'm
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  settling.
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  It
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  looks
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  much
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  quieter
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  than
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  that.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  talking
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  yourself
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  out
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  of
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  your
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  own
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  discomfort.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  explaining
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  away
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  a
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  red
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  flag
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  before
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  anybody
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  asks
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  you
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  to.
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  It
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  looks
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  like
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  making
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  yourself
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  smaller
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  so
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  the
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  relationship
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  feels
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  bigger.
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  Low
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  confidence
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  doesn't
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  always
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  scream.
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  In
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  fact,
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  most
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  of
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  the
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  time
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  it
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  whispers.
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  It
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  whispers,
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  don't
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  ask
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  for
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  that.
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  You'll
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  see.
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  Needy.
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  It
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  whispers,
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  don't
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  bring
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  that
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  up
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  again.
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  You'll
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  seem
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  like
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  you're
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  nagging.
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  It
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  whispers,
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  just
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  let
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  it
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  go.
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  At
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  least
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  he's
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  here.
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  At
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  least
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  he's
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  here.
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  Listen
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  to
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  that.
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  That
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  is
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  not
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  a
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  standard,
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  and
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  that
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  is
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  a
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  survival
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  strategy.
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  And
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  we're
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  done
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  with
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  that.
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  So
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  if
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  you're
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  here
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  asking
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  how
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  you
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  got
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  here,
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  how
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  you
• 3:03
  got
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  to
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  the
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  place
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  where
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  you
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  were
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  settling
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  for
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  less,
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  I'm
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  here
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  to
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  let
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  you
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  know
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  that
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  you
• 3:07
  didn't
• 3:07
  just
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  wake
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  up
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  one
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  day
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  and
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  decide
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  to
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  accept
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  less
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  than
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  you
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  deserve.
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  You
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  learned
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  it.
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  Maybe
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  you
• 3:12
  learned
• 3:12
  it
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  from
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  watching
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  someone
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  you
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  love
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  stay
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  in
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  something
• 3:14
  that
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  clearly
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  wasn't
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  good
• 3:15
  for
• 3:15
  them,
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  and
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  you
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  absorbed
• 3:17
  the
• 3:17
  lesson
• 3:18
  that
• 3:18
  love
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  requires
• 3:19
  endurance.
• 3:20
  Maybe
• 3:21
  you
• 3:21
  learned
• 3:21
  it
• 3:21
  from
• 3:21
  a
• 3:22
  relationship
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  where
• 3:22
  you
• 3:22
  spoke
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  up
• 3:23
  once
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  and
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  fallout
• 3:25
  was
• 3:25
  so
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  bad,
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  so
• 3:26
  cold,
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  so
• 3:28
  punishing,
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  that
• 3:29
  you
• 3:29
  decided
• 3:30
  it
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  easier
• 3:30
  to
• 3:31
  just
• 3:31
  not
• 3:31
  speak
• 3:31
  up
• 3:31
  again.
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  Maybe
• 3:33
  you
• 3:33
  learned
• 3:34
  it
• 3:34
  in
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  way
• 3:35
  before
• 3:36
  any
• 3:36
  relationship.
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  Maybe
• 3:38
  it
• 3:38
  started
• 3:38
  with
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  parent
• 3:39
  whose
• 3:39
  love
• 3:40
  felt
• 3:40
  conditional.
• 3:41
  Maybe
• 3:41
  it
• 3:42
  started
• 3:42
  with
• 3:42
  being
• 3:42
  the
• 3:43
  easy
• 3:43
  kid,
• 3:43
  the
• 3:44
  one
• 3:44
  who
• 3:44
  didn't
• 3:44
  make
• 3:44
  waves
• 3:45
  because
• 3:45
  waves
• 3:45
  got
• 3:46
  you
• 3:46
  in
• 3:46
  trouble.
• 3:47
  So
• 3:47
  you
• 3:47
  got
• 3:48
  really
• 3:48
  good
• 3:48
  at
• 3:49
  one
• 3:51
  tolerating.
• 3:53
  And
• 3:53
  somewhere
• 3:53
  along
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  way,
• 3:54
  tolerating
• 3:55
  started
• 3:55
  masquerading
• 3:56
  as
• 3:56
  loyalty.
• 3:57
  Enduring
• 3:58
  started
• 3:59
  masquerading
• 3:59
  as
• 3:59
  love.
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  And
• 4:00
  the
• 4:01
  woman
• 4:01
  who
• 4:01
  can
• 4:01
  withstand
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  most
• 4:03
  became
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  woman
• 4:03
  everyone
• 4:04
  praised
• 4:04
  for
• 4:04
  being
• 4:06
  so
• 4:06
  understanding,
• 4:07
  so
• 4:08
  patient,
• 4:09
  such
• 4:09
  a
• 4:09
  good
• 4:10
  girlfriend
• 4:10
  or
• 4:10
  wife.
• 4:12
  Nobody
• 4:12
  tells
• 4:13
  you
• 4:13
  that
• 4:13
  what
• 4:13
  they're
• 4:14
  actually
• 4:14
  praising
• 4:15
  is
• 4:15
  your
• 4:15
  nervous
• 4:16
  system
• 4:17
  quietly
• 4:18
  agreeing
• 4:19
  to
• 4:19
  disappear.
• 4:22
  Now,
• 4:22
  I
• 4:22
  want
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  tell
• 4:22
  you
• 4:23
  this
• 4:23
  story
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  has
• 4:24
  been
• 4:25
  sitting
• 4:25
  on
• 4:25
  my
• 4:25
  chest
• 4:26
  since
• 4:26
  I
• 4:26
  heard
• 4:27
  it.
• 4:28
  And
• 4:28
  I
• 4:28
  knew
• 4:28
  it
• 4:28
  would
• 4:29
  be
• 4:29
  good
• 4:29
  to
• 4:29
  share
• 4:30
  in
• 4:30
  this
• 4:30
  note.
• 4:32
  So
• 4:32
  there's
• 4:32
  a
• 4:32
  woman.
• 4:33
  Her
• 4:33
  name
• 4:33
  is
• 4:33
  Dana.
• 4:34
  She
• 4:34
  has
• 4:34
  been
• 4:35
  dating
• 4:35
  this
• 4:35
  man
• 4:36
  for
• 4:36
  about
• 4:36
  10
• 4:36
  years
• 4:37
  now.
• 4:38
  They
• 4:38
  keep
• 4:38
  separate
• 4:38
  homes,
• 4:39
  but
• 4:39
  they
• 4:39
  have
• 4:39
  a
• 4:39
  whole
• 4:39
  life
• 4:40
  together.
• 4:41
  Somewhere
• 4:42
  in
• 4:42
  there,
• 4:42
  he
• 4:42
  started
• 4:42
  seeing
• 4:43
  someone
• 4:43
  else
• 4:43
  on
• 4:44
  the
• 4:44
  side
• 4:44
  without
• 4:44
  her
• 4:45
  knowledge.
• 4:45
  And
• 4:46
  he
• 4:46
  eventually
• 4:46
  got
• 4:47
  that
• 4:47
  woman
• 4:47
  pregnant.
• 4:48
  Now,
• 4:48
  when
• 4:49
  the
• 4:49
  woman
• 4:49
  told
• 4:49
  him
• 4:50
  that
• 4:50
  she
• 4:50
  was
• 4:50
  pregnant,
• 4:51
  you
• 4:51
  know
• 4:51
  what
• 4:51
  he
• 4:51
  said
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  her?
• 4:53
  Oh,
• 4:53
  and
• 4:53
  by
• 4:54
  the
• 4:54
  way,
• 4:54
  I'm
• 4:54
  in
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  relationship
• 4:55
  and
• 4:55
  I
• 4:55
  don't
• 4:56
  plan
• 4:56
  on
• 4:56
  leaving
• 4:56
  it.
• 4:58
  What?
• 4:58
  And
• 4:59
  then
• 4:59
  he
• 4:59
  went
• 4:59
  home
• 4:59
  and
• 4:59
  told
• 5:00
  Dana,
• 5:00
  I
• 5:01
  have
• 5:01
  a
• 5:01
  baby
• 5:01
  on
• 5:01
  the
• 5:01
  way.
• 5:03
  And
• 5:03
  what
• 5:04
  did
• 5:04
  Dana
• 5:04
  do?
• 5:05
  She
• 5:05
  stayed.
• 5:07
  She
• 5:08
  stayed.
• 5:11
  Recently,
• 5:11
  he
• 5:12
  told
• 5:12
  her
• 5:12
  a
• 5:12
  little
• 5:12
  bit
• 5:12
  more
• 5:13
  truth.
• 5:13
  He
• 5:13
  told
• 5:13
  her
• 5:14
  that
• 5:14
  he
• 5:15
  has
• 5:15
  slits
• 5:16
  and
• 5:17
  cheated
• 5:17
  on
• 5:17
  her
• 5:18
  with
• 5:18
  his
• 5:18
  baby's
• 5:19
  mother
• 5:20
  again.
• 5:22
  So
• 5:22
  now,
• 5:22
  without
• 5:23
  ever
• 5:23
  agreeing
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  it,
• 5:24
  without
• 5:25
  ever
• 5:25
  choosing
• 5:26
  it,
• 5:27
  Dana
• 5:27
  is
• 5:27
  in
• 5:27
  something
• 5:27
  like
• 5:28
  a
• 5:28
  potty
• 5:28
  relationship
• 5:29
  that
• 5:29
  she
• 5:29
  never
• 5:29
  signed
• 5:30
  up
• 5:30
  for
• 5:31
  because
• 5:31
  he
• 5:31
  ping
• 5:32
  pongs
• 5:32
  between
• 5:32
  the
• 5:32
  two
• 5:33
  women,
• 5:33
  between
• 5:34
  two
• 5:34
  homes.
• 5:35
  Two
• 5:35
  women
• 5:36
  who
• 5:36
  never
• 5:36
  consented
• 5:37
  to
• 5:37
  sharing
• 5:37
  him,
• 5:38
  but
• 5:38
  who
• 5:39
  are
• 5:39
  allowing
• 5:39
  it
• 5:40
  because
• 5:40
  the
• 5:40
  alternative
• 5:41
  feels
• 5:41
  like
• 5:41
  starting
• 5:42
  over,
• 5:42
  feels
• 5:43
  like
• 5:43
  being
• 5:43
  alone,
• 5:44
  or
• 5:45
  feels
• 5:45
  like
• 5:45
  admitting
• 5:46
  that
• 5:46
  being
• 5:47
  in
• 5:47
  a
• 5:47
  relationship
• 5:47
  for
• 5:48
  years
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  years
• 5:49
  brought
• 5:49
  them
• 5:50
  nothing.
• 5:51
  And
• 5:51
  I'm
• 5:51
  not
• 5:52
  telling
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  this
• 5:52
  story
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  drag
• 5:53
  him,
• 5:53
  although
• 5:53
  we
• 5:54
  know
• 5:54
  that
• 5:54
  I
• 5:54
  could.
• 5:55
  I
• 5:55
  am
• 5:55
  telling
• 5:55
  you
• 5:56
  this
• 5:56
  because
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  am
• 5:57
  so
• 5:58
  tired.
• 5:59
  I
• 6:00
  am
• 6:00
  tired
• 6:00
  of
• 6:00
  watching
• 6:01
  women
• 6:01
  get
• 6:01
  cheated
• 6:02
  on,
• 6:03
  lied
• 6:03
  to,
• 6:04
  disrespected
• 6:05
  in
• 6:05
  broad
• 6:06
  daylight
• 6:07
  and
• 6:07
  stay
• 6:08
  because
• 6:08
  they
• 6:09
  have
• 6:09
  already
• 6:09
  invested
• 6:10
  so
• 6:10
  much
• 6:11
  time
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  leaving
• 6:12
  feels
• 6:13
  like
• 6:13
  a
• 6:13
  loss
• 6:13
  instead
• 6:13
  of
• 6:14
  a
• 6:14
  rescue.
• 6:16
  If
• 6:16
  that
• 6:16
  man
• 6:16
  cheated
• 6:17
  on
• 6:17
  you,
• 6:17
  he
• 6:17
  does
• 6:18
  not
• 6:18
  respect
• 6:19
  you.
• 6:20
  That's
• 6:20
  not
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  hard
• 6:20
  sentence.
• 6:21
  That
• 6:21
  is
• 6:22
  not
• 6:22
  a
• 6:22
  complicated
• 6:23
  idea.
• 6:24
  But
• 6:24
  I
• 6:24
  watch
• 6:24
  women
• 6:24
  twist
• 6:25
  themselves
• 6:25
  into
• 6:25
  pretzels
• 6:26
  trying
• 6:26
  to
• 6:27
  explain
• 6:27
  it
• 6:27
  away,
• 6:28
  trying
• 6:28
  to
• 6:29
  find
• 6:29
  the
• 6:29
  version
• 6:29
  of
• 6:29
  the
• 6:30
  story
• 6:30
  where
• 6:30
  it's
• 6:30
  not
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  simple.
• 6:32
  Because
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  version
• 6:33
  where
• 6:33
  it
• 6:33
  is
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  simple
• 6:34
  means
• 6:34
  that
• 6:34
  they
• 6:34
  would
• 6:34
  actually
• 6:35
  have
• 6:35
  to
• 6:35
  do
• 6:35
  something
• 6:35
  about
• 6:36
  it.
• 6:37
  Men
• 6:37
  will
• 6:38
  only
• 6:38
  do
• 6:38
  what
• 6:38
  you
• 6:39
  allow
• 6:39
  them
• 6:39
  to
• 6:40
  do.
• 6:40
  So
• 6:40
  if
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  allow
• 6:41
  disrespect,
• 6:42
  you
• 6:43
  will
• 6:43
  keep
• 6:43
  receiving
• 6:43
  disrespect.
• 6:45
  That's
• 6:45
  not
• 6:45
  cynicism.
• 6:46
  That's
• 6:47
  just
• 6:47
  what
• 6:47
  happens
• 6:47
  when
• 6:47
  there
• 6:48
  is
• 6:48
  no
• 6:49
  standards
• 6:50
  in
• 6:50
  the
• 6:51
  room.
• 6:52
  Now
• 6:53
  let's
• 6:53
  talk
• 6:53
  about
• 6:53
  the
• 6:53
  bill.
• 6:54
  Because
• 6:54
  there
• 6:54
  is
• 6:55
  always
• 6:55
  a
• 6:55
  bill.
• 6:56
  When
• 6:56
  you
• 6:57
  settle,
• 6:57
  you
• 6:57
  don't
• 6:58
  just
• 6:58
  lose
• 6:58
  the
• 6:58
  relationship
• 6:59
  that
• 6:59
  could
• 6:59
  have
• 6:59
  been
• 6:59
  right.
• 7:00
  You
• 7:00
  lose
• 7:01
  access
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  yourself.
• 7:03
  You
• 7:03
  stop
• 7:03
  trusting
• 7:04
  your
• 7:04
  own
• 7:04
  gut
• 7:05
  because
• 7:05
  you've
• 7:05
  overridden
• 7:06
  it
• 7:06
  so
• 7:06
  many
• 7:06
  times
• 7:07
  to
• 7:07
  keep
• 7:07
  the
• 7:07
  peace.
• 7:08
  You
• 7:09
  stop
• 7:09
  voicing
• 7:09
  your
• 7:10
  needs
• 7:10
  because
• 7:10
  somewhere
• 7:11
  you
• 7:11
  decided
• 7:12
  your
• 7:12
  needs
• 7:12
  were
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  problem.
• 7:14
  You
• 7:14
  stopped
• 7:14
  performing
• 7:15
  ease
• 7:16
  performing.
• 7:16
  I'm
• 7:17
  not
• 7:17
  bothered
• 7:18
  performing.
• 7:18
  It's
• 7:19
  fine,
• 7:19
  really.
• 7:20
  When
• 7:20
  something
• 7:21
  inside
• 7:21
  of
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  quietly
• 7:22
  keeping
• 7:23
  score
• 7:23
  every
• 7:23
  time
• 7:24
  you've
• 7:24
  abandoned
• 7:24
  yourself
• 7:25
  to
• 7:25
  avoid
• 7:26
  abandoning
• 7:27
  him,
• 7:29
  that's
• 7:29
  the
• 7:30
  real
• 7:30
  cost
• 7:30
  of
• 7:30
  settling.
• 7:31
  Not
• 7:31
  just
• 7:32
  a
• 7:32
  so.
• 7:32
  So
• 7:32
  relationship
• 7:33
  is
• 7:33
  a
• 7:34
  slow
• 7:34
  erosion
• 7:35
  of
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  woman
• 7:35
  who
• 7:35
  used
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  know
• 7:36
  exactly
• 7:37
  what
• 7:37
  she
• 7:37
  wanted.
• 7:38
  And
• 7:39
  here's
• 7:39
  the
• 7:39
  part
• 7:39
  that
• 7:40
  really
• 7:40
  gets
• 7:40
  me.
• 7:41
  A
• 7:41
  woman
• 7:41
  with
• 7:41
  low
• 7:42
  confidence
• 7:42
  will
• 7:42
  often
• 7:43
  stay
• 7:43
  in
• 7:43
  something
• 7:44
  mediocre
• 7:44
  or
• 7:45
  something
• 7:45
  painful
• 7:46
  because
• 7:46
  she's
• 7:47
  terr
• 7:48
  that
• 7:48
  what's
• 7:49
  out
• 7:49
  there
• 7:49
  is
• 7:49
  worse.
• 7:50
  Not
• 7:50
  because
• 7:51
  she
• 7:51
  thinks
• 7:51
  that
• 7:51
  the
• 7:51
  relationship
• 7:52
  is
• 7:52
  good,
• 7:53
  but
• 7:53
  because
• 7:53
  she
• 7:53
  doesn't
• 7:54
  trust
• 7:54
  that
• 7:54
  she's
• 7:54
  worth
• 7:55
  something
• 7:55
  better
• 7:56
  or
• 7:56
  that
• 7:56
  something
• 7:56
  better
• 7:57
  even
• 7:57
  exists
• 7:58
  for
• 7:58
  her.
• 7:59
  That's
• 7:59
  not
• 7:59
  love
• 8:00
  keeping
• 8:00
  her
• 8:00
  there.
• 8:01
  That's
• 8:01
  fear.
• 8:04
  Now,
• 8:04
  here's
• 8:05
  something
• 8:05
  that
• 8:05
  I'm
• 8:05
  going
• 8:05
  to
• 8:05
  be
• 8:05
  really
• 8:06
  honest
• 8:06
  with
• 8:06
  you
• 8:06
  about.
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  don't
• 8:07
  want
• 8:07
  you
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  sit
• 8:08
  here
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  think
• 8:08
  that
• 8:09
  the
• 8:09
  second
• 8:09
  you
• 8:09
  build
• 8:09
  confidence
• 8:10
  and
• 8:10
  you
• 8:10
  stop
• 8:11
  settling,
• 8:11
  the
• 8:12
  universe
• 8:12
  is
• 8:12
  going
• 8:12
  to
• 8:12
  hand
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  a
• 8:13
  man
• 8:13
  who
• 8:13
  deserves
• 8:14
  you.
• 8:14
  When
• 8:14
  everything
• 8:14
  gets
• 8:15
  easy,
• 8:16
  that's
• 8:16
  not
• 8:16
  what
• 8:17
  happens.
• 8:17
  What
• 8:18
  actually
• 8:18
  happens
• 8:18
  is
• 8:19
  this.
• 8:19
  You
• 8:20
  raise
• 8:20
  your
• 8:20
  standard
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  some
• 8:21
  people
• 8:22
  will
• 8:22
  not
• 8:23
  meet
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  there.
• 8:24
  And
• 8:24
  it
• 8:24
  will
• 8:25
  hurt.
• 8:26
  And
• 8:26
  for
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  while,
• 8:27
  it
• 8:27
  might
• 8:27
  actually
• 8:27
  feel
• 8:28
  lonelier
• 8:28
  than
• 8:28
  when
• 8:28
  you
• 8:29
  were
• 8:29
  settling.
• 8:30
  Because
• 8:30
  when
• 8:30
  you
• 8:31
  stop
• 8:31
  tolerating,
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  stop
• 8:32
  accepting
• 8:33
  half
• 8:33
  effort.
• 8:34
  You
• 8:35
  stop
• 8:35
  accepting
• 8:36
  inconsistency,
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  stop
• 8:38
  accepting
• 8:39
  being
• 8:39
  someone's
• 8:39
  convenient
• 8:40
  option.
• 8:41
  Or
• 8:41
  someone's
• 8:41
  secret,
• 8:42
  or
• 8:42
  someone's.
• 8:43
  I'll
• 8:43
  leave
• 8:44
  eventually.
• 8:45
  And
• 8:45
  the
• 8:46
  people
• 8:46
  who
• 8:46
  only
• 8:47
  knew
• 8:47
  how
• 8:47
  to
• 8:47
  show
• 8:47
  up
• 8:47
  at
• 8:48
  that
• 8:48
  lower
• 8:48
  standard,
• 8:49
  they
• 8:49
  will
• 8:50
  not
• 8:50
  rise
• 8:50
  just
• 8:51
  because
• 8:51
  you
• 8:51
  asked
• 8:51
  them
• 8:51
  nicely.
• 8:53
  Some
• 8:53
  people
• 8:54
  will
• 8:54
  not
• 8:54
  respect
• 8:55
  the
• 8:55
  boundary
• 8:55
  the
• 8:56
  second
• 8:56
  it
• 8:57
  costs
• 8:57
  them
• 8:57
  something.
• 9:00
  Some
• 9:00
  people
• 9:00
  will
• 9:00
  look
• 9:01
  at
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  version
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  who
• 9:02
  finally
• 9:02
  knows
• 9:03
  her
• 9:03
  worth
• 9:03
  and
• 9:04
  decide
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  that
• 9:04
  version
• 9:05
  is
• 9:05
  too
• 9:06
  much,
• 9:07
  when
• 9:07
  really
• 9:07
  you're
• 9:08
  just
• 9:08
  no
• 9:08
  longer
• 9:09
  offering
• 9:09
  yourself
• 9:09
  at
• 9:09
  a
• 9:10
  discount.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:12
  some
• 9:12
  people,
• 9:12
  the
• 9:13
  hardest
• 9:13
  ones,
• 9:13
  are
• 9:14
  the
• 9:14
  people
• 9:14
  that
• 9:14
  you
• 9:14
  genuinely
• 9:15
  love,
• 9:15
  People
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  gave
• 9:16
  real
• 9:16
  time
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  real
• 9:17
  softness
• 9:18
  to.
• 9:19
  And
• 9:19
  you'll
• 9:19
  come
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  a
• 9:20
  devastating
• 9:20
  realization.
• 9:22
  They
• 9:22
  can't
• 9:22
  love
• 9:22
  you
• 9:23
  the
• 9:23
  way
• 9:23
  that
• 9:24
  you
• 9:24
  need
• 9:24
  to
• 9:24
  be
• 9:24
  loved.
• 9:25
  Not
• 9:25
  won't,
• 9:26
  in
• 9:26
  a
• 9:26
  cruel
• 9:27
  sense,
• 9:27
  can't.
• 9:29
  Some
• 9:29
  people
• 9:29
  simply
• 9:30
  are
• 9:30
  not
• 9:30
  capable
• 9:31
  of
• 9:31
  meeting
• 9:31
  the
• 9:31
  love
• 9:32
  you're
• 9:32
  offering.
• 9:33
  Not
• 9:33
  because
• 9:34
  you
• 9:34
  asked
• 9:34
  for
• 9:34
  too
• 9:34
  much,
• 9:35
  but
• 9:35
  because
• 9:35
  they
• 9:35
  don't
• 9:36
  have
• 9:36
  access
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  that
• 9:37
  depth
• 9:37
  yet,
• 9:38
  or
• 9:38
  maybe
• 9:39
  ever.
• 9:40
  And
• 9:40
  confidence
• 9:40
  means
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  you
• 9:41
  have
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  let
• 9:42
  that
• 9:42
  be
• 9:42
  true,
• 9:43
  even
• 9:44
  when
• 9:44
  it
• 9:44
  breaks
• 9:44
  your
• 9:45
  heart.
• 9:47
  Now,
• 9:48
  here's
• 9:48
  what
• 9:49
  I
• 9:49
  need
• 9:49
  you
• 9:49
  to
• 9:49
  really
• 9:50
  hear.
• 9:51
  The
• 9:51
  loneliness
• 9:52
  that
• 9:52
  you
• 9:52
  feel
• 9:53
  after
• 9:53
  walking
• 9:54
  away
• 9:54
  from
• 9:54
  somebody
• 9:54
  who
• 9:55
  couldn't
• 9:55
  meet
• 9:55
  you.
• 9:57
  That
• 9:57
  is
• 9:57
  not
• 9:58
  evidence
• 9:58
  that
• 9:58
  you
• 9:59
  did
• 9:59
  something
• 9:59
  wrong.
• 10:00
  It's
• 10:01
  evidence
• 10:01
  that
• 10:01
  your
• 10:01
  standards
• 10:02
  are
• 10:02
  finally
• 10:03
  real.
• 10:04
  For
• 10:05
  a
• 10:05
  long
• 10:05
  time,
• 10:05
  you
• 10:06
  didn't
• 10:06
  feel
• 10:06
  lonely.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:07
  mediocre
• 10:07
  relationships
• 10:08
  because
• 10:08
  you
• 10:08
  weren't
• 10:08
  asking
• 10:09
  enough
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  even
• 10:09
  notice
• 10:10
  the
• 10:10
  gap.
• 10:11
  Low
• 10:11
  confidence
• 10:12
  usually
• 10:12
  doesn't
• 10:12
  feel
• 10:13
  lonely.
• 10:13
  It
• 10:14
  feels
• 10:14
  familiar.
• 10:15
  It
• 10:15
  feels
• 10:16
  like
• 10:16
  that's
• 10:17
  just
• 10:17
  how
• 10:17
  it
• 10:17
  is.
• 10:18
  The
• 10:18
  loneliness
• 10:19
  shows
• 10:19
  up
• 10:19
  precisely
• 10:20
  because
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  started
• 10:21
  asking
• 10:22
  for
• 10:22
  more.
• 10:23
  The
• 10:24
  loneliness
• 10:24
  of
• 10:25
  standing
• 10:25
  in
• 10:25
  your
• 10:26
  own
• 10:26
  truth
• 10:26
  instead
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  bending
• 10:27
  yourself
• 10:28
  into
• 10:28
  someone
• 10:29
  else's
• 10:29
  comfort.
• 10:31
  It's
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  loneliness
• 10:32
  of
• 10:33
  finally
• 10:33
  knowing
• 10:33
  what
• 10:34
  you
• 10:34
  want
• 10:34
  and
• 10:35
  refusing
• 10:35
  to
• 10:36
  perform
• 10:36
  satisfaction
• 10:37
  with
• 10:37
  less
• 10:38
  than
• 10:38
  that.
• 10:39
  Even
• 10:39
  when
• 10:40
  less
• 10:40
  than
• 10:40
  that
• 10:40
  is
• 10:40
  available.
• 10:41
  Even
• 10:42
  when
• 10:42
  less
• 10:42
  than
• 10:42
  that
• 10:42
  is
• 10:43
  easier.
• 10:44
  Even
• 10:44
  when
• 10:44
  less
• 10:45
  than
• 10:45
  that
• 10:45
  is
• 10:45
  right,
• 10:46
  they're
• 10:46
  asking
• 10:46
  you
• 10:47
  to
• 10:47
  come
• 10:47
  back.
• 10:49
  That
• 10:49
  kind
• 10:49
  of
• 10:50
  lonely
• 10:50
  is
• 10:50
  not
• 10:50
  punishment.
• 10:51
  That
• 10:51
  kind
• 10:52
  of
• 10:52
  lonely
• 10:52
  is
• 10:52
  the
• 10:53
  price
• 10:53
  of
• 10:53
  integrity.
• 10:54
  And
• 10:55
  it's
• 10:55
  temporary
• 10:56
  in
• 10:56
  a
• 10:56
  way
• 10:56
  that
• 10:56
  suddenly
• 10:57
  never
• 10:57
  is.
• 10:59
  Because
• 10:59
  settling
• 10:59
  keeps
• 11:00
  costing
• 11:00
  you
• 11:00
  for
• 11:00
  as
• 11:00
  long
• 11:01
  as
• 11:01
  you
• 11:01
  stay.
• 11:02
  But
• 11:02
  the
• 11:03
  loneliness
• 11:03
  of
• 11:03
  standing
• 11:04
  firm,
• 11:05
  that
• 11:05
  has
• 11:05
  an
• 11:05
  expiration
• 11:06
  date.
• 11:07
  It
• 11:07
  ends
• 11:07
  the
• 11:08
  moment
• 11:08
  the
• 11:08
  right
• 11:08
  person,
• 11:09
  the
• 11:09
  right
• 11:09
  friendship,
• 11:11
  the
• 11:11
  right
• 11:11
  thing,
• 11:12
  finally
• 11:12
  meets
• 11:12
  you
• 11:13
  at
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  level
• 11:13
  that
• 11:14
  you've
• 11:14
  been
• 11:14
  holding.
• 11:17
  This
• 11:17
  is
• 11:18
  exactly
• 11:18
  why
• 11:18
  I
• 11:19
  do
• 11:19
  what
• 11:20
  I
• 11:20
  do.
• 11:21
  It's
• 11:21
  why
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  built
• 11:22
  my
• 11:22
  coaching
• 11:22
  practice.
• 11:23
  It's
• 11:23
  why
• 11:23
  I'm
• 11:23
  building
• 11:24
  a
• 11:24
  community
• 11:24
  for
• 11:25
  women
• 11:25
  who
• 11:25
  are
• 11:25
  on
• 11:26
  their
• 11:26
  confidence
• 11:26
  journey.
• 11:27
  It
• 11:28
  is
• 11:28
  why
• 11:28
  I
• 11:28
  will
• 11:28
  preach
• 11:29
  confidence
• 11:29
  until
• 11:30
  I
• 11:30
  am
• 11:30
  old
• 11:31
  and
• 11:31
  gray.
• 11:32
  Because
• 11:32
  it
• 11:32
  genuinely
• 11:33
  pains
• 11:34
  me
• 11:34
  when
• 11:35
  I
• 11:35
  watch
• 11:35
  a
• 11:36
  woman
• 11:36
  settling.
• 11:37
  This
• 11:38
  is
• 11:38
  not
• 11:38
  about
• 11:38
  bashing
• 11:39
  men
• 11:39
  so
• 11:39
  let
• 11:40
  me
• 11:40
  say
• 11:40
  that
• 11:40
  clearly
• 11:40
  so
• 11:41
  that
• 11:41
  nobody
• 11:41
  misunderstands
• 11:42
  me.
• 11:43
  This
• 11:43
  is
• 11:43
  about
• 11:44
  building
• 11:45
  women
• 11:45
  up.
• 11:46
  Because
• 11:46
  you
• 11:47
  are
• 11:47
  a
• 11:47
  queen.
• 11:48
  You
• 11:49
  are
• 11:49
  not
• 11:49
  an
• 11:49
  exaggeration
• 11:50
  when
• 11:50
  people
• 11:50
  say
• 11:51
  that
• 11:51
  you
• 11:52
  are
• 11:52
  the
• 11:53
  ones
• 11:53
  who
• 11:53
  are
• 11:53
  bringing
• 11:54
  life
• 11:54
  into
• 11:54
  this
• 11:55
  world.
• 11:55
  And
• 11:56
  somewhere
• 11:56
  along
• 11:56
  the
• 11:57
  way,
• 11:58
  so
• 11:58
  many
• 11:58
  of
• 11:58
  us
• 11:59
  have
• 11:59
  gotten
• 11:59
  convinced
• 12:00
  that
• 12:00
  we
• 12:00
  need
• 12:01
  to
• 12:01
  shrink
• 12:01
  in
• 12:01
  order
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  keep
• 12:02
  the
• 12:02
  peace,
• 12:03
  that
• 12:03
  we
• 12:03
  have
• 12:04
  to
• 12:04
  absorb
• 12:05
  discomfort
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  disrespect
• 12:07
  quietly
• 12:08
  that
• 12:09
  we
• 12:09
  had
• 12:09
  to
• 12:09
  be
• 12:09
  grateful
• 12:10
  for
• 12:10
  whatever
• 12:11
  attention
• 12:11
  showed
• 12:11
  up
• 12:12
  at
• 12:12
  our
• 12:12
  door.
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  genuinely
• 12:15
  wish
• 12:15
  women
• 12:16
  respected
• 12:16
  themselves
• 12:17
  enough
• 12:17
  to
• 12:17
  raise
• 12:18
  a
• 12:18
  standard
• 12:18
  and
• 12:19
  force
• 12:19
  people
• 12:19
  in
• 12:20
  their
• 12:20
  lives
• 12:20
  to
• 12:20
  meet
• 12:20
  it.
• 12:22
  I
• 12:23
  wish
• 12:23
  that
• 12:23
  we
• 12:23
  understood
• 12:24
  that
• 12:24
  we
• 12:24
  deserve
• 12:24
  better
• 12:26
  and
• 12:26
  meant
• 12:26
  it
• 12:26
  enough
• 12:27
  to
• 12:27
  refuse
• 12:27
  anything
• 12:28
  less.
• 12:29
  That's
• 12:30
  the
• 12:30
  whole
• 12:30
  point
• 12:31
  of
• 12:31
  my
• 12:31
  work.
• 12:32
  It's
• 12:32
  not
• 12:32
  about
• 12:33
  punishing
• 12:33
  men,
• 12:33
  and
• 12:34
  it
• 12:34
  is
• 12:34
  definitely
• 12:34
  not
• 12:35
  about
• 12:35
  becoming
• 12:35
  bitter,
• 12:36
  just
• 12:37
  refusing
• 12:38
  finally
• 12:39
  to
• 12:40
  disappear
• 12:40
  for
• 12:41
  anyone.
• 12:44
  Now,
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  want
• 12:45
  you
• 12:45
  to
• 12:45
  think
• 12:45
  about
• 12:45
  one
• 12:46
  relationship
• 12:46
  right
• 12:46
  now,
• 12:47
  romantic
• 12:47
  or
• 12:47
  not,
• 12:48
  where
• 12:48
  you've
• 12:48
  been
• 12:48
  shrinking
• 12:48
  to
• 12:49
  keep
• 12:49
  the
• 12:49
  peace.
• 12:51
  And
• 12:51
  ask
• 12:51
  yourself,
• 12:51
  honestly,
• 12:53
  is
• 12:53
  this
• 12:53
  person
• 12:54
  capable
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  loving
• 12:54
  me
• 12:55
  in
• 12:55
  a
• 12:55
  way
• 12:55
  where
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  need?
• 12:57
  Or
• 12:57
  have
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  just
• 12:58
  gotten
• 12:58
  really
• 12:58
  good
• 12:59
  at
• 12:59
  needing
• 12:59
  less
• 13:00
  so
• 13:00
  I
• 13:00
  don't
• 13:01
  have
• 13:01
  to
• 13:01
  find
• 13:01
  out?
• 13:03
  Would
• 13:04
  you
• 13:04
  tell
• 13:04
  your
• 13:04
  best
• 13:04
  friend
• 13:04
  to
• 13:05
  stay
• 13:05
  in
• 13:05
  this?
• 13:06
  If
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  answer
• 13:07
  is
• 13:07
  no,
• 13:08
  what
• 13:09
  is
• 13:09
  it
• 13:09
  costing
• 13:09
  you
• 13:10
  to
• 13:10
  stay?
• 13:13
  So
• 13:14
  if
• 13:14
  listening
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  this
• 13:15
  note
• 13:15
  stirred
• 13:16
  something
• 13:16
  up
• 13:16
  in
• 13:17
  you,
• 13:17
  I'm
• 13:18
  not
• 13:18
  sorry.
• 13:18
  Because
• 13:18
  you
• 13:18
  needed
• 13:19
  to
• 13:19
  hear
• 13:19
  it.
• 13:20
  You
• 13:20
  needed
• 13:20
  to
• 13:21
  hear
• 13:21
  that
• 13:21
  loneliness
• 13:22
  isn't
• 13:22
  proof
• 13:22
  that
• 13:23
  you're
• 13:23
  doing
• 13:23
  it
• 13:23
  wrong.
• 13:24
  It's
• 13:24
  proof
• 13:24
  that
• 13:25
  you
• 13:25
  finally
• 13:25
  stopped
• 13:26
  negotiating
• 13:26
  yourself
• 13:27
  down.
• 13:28
  Confidence
• 13:29
  in
• 13:30
  relationships
• 13:31
  doesn't
• 13:31
  mean
• 13:31
  that
• 13:32
  you
• 13:32
  will
• 13:32
  never
• 13:32
  lose
• 13:33
  anybody.
• 13:34
  Sometimes
• 13:35
  it
• 13:35
  means
• 13:35
  you
• 13:35
  will.
• 13:36
  You'll
• 13:37
  grieve
• 13:37
  them
• 13:37
  and
• 13:38
  you'll
• 13:38
  still
• 13:39
  choose
• 13:39
  you.
• 13:40
  You
• 13:41
  were
• 13:41
  not
• 13:41
  made
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  shrink
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  keep
• 13:42
  anybody
• 13:43
  comfortable.
• 13:44
  You
• 13:44
  were
• 13:44
  made
• 13:45
  to
• 13:45
  be
• 13:45
  met.
• 13:46
  And
• 13:46
  until
• 13:47
  you
• 13:47
  are
• 13:47
  met,
• 13:48
  choose
• 13:49
  yourself
• 13:50
  anyway.
• 13:51
  Lonely
• 13:52
  and
• 13:52
  whole
• 13:52
  is
• 13:53
  still
• 13:53
  better
• 13:53
  than
• 13:53
  shrinking
• 13:54
  it
• 13:54
  into
• 13:54
  somebody
• 13:55
  who
• 13:55
  cannot
• 13:56
  see
• 13:56
  you.
• 13:58
  Now,
• 13:58
  don't
• 13:59
  forget
• 13:59
  the
• 13:59
  survey
• 13:59
  link
• 14:00
  is
• 14:00
  in
• 14:00
  the
• 14:00
  show
• 14:00
  notes.
• 14:01
  I
• 14:01
  want
• 14:01
  to
• 14:02
  hear
• 14:02
  from
• 14:02
  you.
• 14:03
  I
• 14:03
  really
• 14:04
  want
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  know
• 14:04
  what
• 14:04
  season
• 14:04
  two
• 14:05
  needs
• 14:05
  to
• 14:05
  be.
• 14:06
  So
• 14:06
  until
• 14:07
  then,
• 14:07
  I'll
• 14:07
  see
• 14:08
  you
• 14:08
  in
• 14:08
  September.
• 14:14
  Sam.