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You Are Allowed to Want More Than This | EP 313 · Confident and Empowered Women

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  You
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  worked
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  hard
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  for
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  the
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  dream.
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  You
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  prayed
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  for
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  it,
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  planned
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  for
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  it,
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  sacrificed
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  for
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  it,
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  and
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  then
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  you
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  got
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  it.
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  And
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  now
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  there's
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  this
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  quiet
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  ache
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  underneath
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  all
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  of
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  it
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  that
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  sounds
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  like,
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  "But
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  what
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  about
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  more?"
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  And
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  instead
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  of
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  honoring
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  what
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  you
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  feel,
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  You've
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  been
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  making
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  yourself
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  feel
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  guilty
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  for
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  having
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  it.
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  Wanting
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  more
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  is
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  not
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  ingratitude
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  or
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  greed,
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  and
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  it's
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  not
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  you
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  being
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  impossible
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  to
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  satisfy.
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  It's
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  your
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  next
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  level
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  knocking
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  at
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  the
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  door.
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  So
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  let's
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  conversate
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  about
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  what
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  happens
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  when
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  you
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  keep
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  pretending
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  You
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  cannot
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  hear
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  her
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  loud
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  and
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  clear.
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  Hey
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  friend,
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  let
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  me
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  formally
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  welcome
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  you.
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  You
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  just
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  found
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  your
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  new
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  favorite
• 0:53
  podcast.
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  This
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  is
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  Confident
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  and
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  Empowered
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  Women,
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  And
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  we're
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  here
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  step
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  into
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  your
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  main
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  character
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  era.
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  So
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  hit
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  subscribe
• 1:02
  so
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  you
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  are
• 1:03
  always
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  in
• 1:04
  the
• 1:04
  room
• 1:07
  Hey,
• 1:07
  hey,
• 1:07
  hey.
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  Welcome
• 1:08
  back.
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  Okay,
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  let's
• 1:09
  think
• 1:10
  about
• 1:10
  this
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  for
• 1:10
  a
• 1:10
  second.
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  Do
• 1:11
  you
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  remember
• 1:12
  what
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  it
• 1:13
  felt
• 1:13
  like
• 1:13
  to
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  want
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  the
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  thing
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  you
• 1:15
  have
• 1:15
  right
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  now?
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  Like,
• 1:17
  really
• 1:18
  want
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  it,
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  whether
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  it
• 1:19
  was
• 1:20
  the
• 1:20
  house,
• 1:21
  the
• 1:21
  career,
• 1:22
  the
• 1:22
  body.
• 1:23
  The
• 1:23
  version
• 1:24
  of
• 1:24
  you
• 1:25
  that
• 1:25
  was
• 1:25
  just
• 1:25
  working
• 1:26
  towards
• 1:27
  it,
• 1:27
  praying
• 1:27
  over
• 1:28
  it.
• 1:28
  You
• 1:28
  had
• 1:29
  the
• 1:29
  vision
• 1:29
  board,
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  staying
• 1:30
  up
• 1:30
  late
• 1:31
  for
• 1:31
  it,
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  telling
• 1:32
  yourself,
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  "Hold
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  on
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  just
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  a
• 1:33
  little
• 1:33
  bit
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  longer,"
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  "just
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  a
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  little
• 1:36
  bit
• 1:36
  more,
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  and
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  then
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  you'll
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  have
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  it."
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  That
• 1:39
  woman
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  was
• 1:40
  so
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  clear,
• 1:41
  convicted,
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  honey,
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  So
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  certain
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  that
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  if
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  she
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  could
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  just
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  get
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  there,
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  the
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  title,
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  that
• 1:47
  relationship,
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  the
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  number
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  in
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  the
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  account,
• 1:50
  the
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  baby
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  in
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  your
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  arms,
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  that
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  version
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  of
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  your
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  life,
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  she
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  would
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  feel
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  it,
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  that
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  deep,
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  settled,
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  peaceful
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  feeling
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  of,
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  "I
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  made
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  it.
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  I
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  am
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  here."
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  And
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  whole
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  time
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  you
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  were
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  thinking,
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  that's
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  when
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  I'll
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  finally
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  feel
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  like
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  enough
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  because
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  I'll
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  finally
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  have
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  enough.
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  Well,
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  friend,
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  then
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  you
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  got
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  there,
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  and
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  it
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  was
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  good.
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  It
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  really
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  was.
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  You
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  celebrated,
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  you
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  exhaled,
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  you
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  looked
• 2:20
  around
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  at
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  everything
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  you
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  had
• 2:21
  built
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  and
• 2:22
  felt
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  genuinely
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  proud.
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  And
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  then
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  maybe
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  slowly
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  or
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  perhaps
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  faster
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  than
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  you
• 2:29
  expected,
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  that
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  subtle
• 2:31
  ache
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  showed
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  up.
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  Just
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  a
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  quiet
• 2:34
  hum
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  underneath
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  everything
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  that
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  questioned,
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  is
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  this
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  it
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  or
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  is
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  there
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  more?
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  And
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  instead
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  of
• 2:43
  getting
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  curious
• 2:44
  about
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  that
• 2:45
  feeling,
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  you
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  got
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  guilty
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  about
• 2:47
  it
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  instead.
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  So
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  let's
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  rework
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  that,
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  shall
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  we?
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  First
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  and
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  foremost,
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  let's
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  talk
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  about
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  that
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  guilt
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  because
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  we
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  are
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  so
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  good
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  at
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  feeling
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  guilty
• 2:58
  for
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  something
• 2:59
  that's
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  really
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  just
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  a
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  natural
• 3:00
  phase
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  of
• 3:01
  life.
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  Guilt
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  is
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  really
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  misunderstood
• 3:07
  feelings
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  a
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  woman
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  can
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  carry.
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  The
• 3:10
  guilt
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  might
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  sound
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  like,
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  "Who
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  am
• 3:12
  I
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  to
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  even
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  want
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  more?
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  So
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  many
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  people
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  would
• 3:15
  trade
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  places
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  with
• 3:16
  me
• 3:16
  in
• 3:16
  a
• 3:16
  heartbeat,"
• 3:17
  or,
• 3:18
  "I
• 3:18
  should
• 3:20
  be
• 3:20
  grateful
• 3:21
  for
• 3:21
  what
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  have."
• 3:22
  Or
• 3:22
  you're
• 3:23
  wondering,
• 3:24
  "What's
• 3:24
  wrong
• 3:25
  with
• 3:25
  me
• 3:25
  that
• 3:26
  this
• 3:26
  is
• 3:26
  not
• 3:27
  enough?"
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  Friend,
• 3:29
  please
• 3:29
  hear
• 3:29
  me
• 3:29
  with
• 3:30
  your
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  whole
• 3:30
  heart
• 3:31
  when
• 3:31
  I
• 3:31
  say
• 3:31
  this
• 3:32
  I
• 3:32
  really
• 3:33
  need
• 3:33
  you
• 3:34
  to
• 3:34
  actually
• 3:34
  receive
• 3:35
  it.
• 3:36
  There
• 3:36
  is
• 3:37
  absolutely
• 3:38
  nothing
• 3:39
  wrong
• 3:39
  with
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  you.
• 3:40
  In
• 3:41
  fact,
• 3:41
  that
• 3:42
  wanting,
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  desire
• 3:43
  that
• 3:43
  you
• 3:44
  feel,
• 3:44
  it's
• 3:45
  one
• 3:45
  of
• 3:45
  the
• 3:45
  most
• 3:46
  right
• 3:46
  things
• 3:46
  about
• 3:47
  you.
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  And
• 3:48
  this
• 3:48
  is
• 3:49
  where
• 3:49
  I'm
• 3:49
  gonna
• 3:49
  queue
• 3:50
  Ciara,
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  okay?
• 3:51
  This
• 3:51
  is
• 3:51
  where
• 3:51
  she
• 3:52
  comes
• 3:52
  in
• 3:52
  because
• 3:52
  I
• 3:52
  need
• 3:53
  you
• 3:53
  to
• 3:53
  have
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  full
• 3:54
  picture,
• 3:55
  okay?
• 3:55
  Do
• 3:56
  you
• 3:56
  remember
• 3:56
  when
• 3:56
  Ciara
• 3:57
  dropped
• 3:57
  Level
• 3:58
  Up
• 3:58
  and
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  was
• 3:59
  like,
• 3:59
  "Level
• 4:00
  up,
• 4:00
  level
• 4:01
  up,
• 4:01
  level
• 4:02
  up,
• 4:02
  level
• 4:02
  up,
• 4:02
  level
• 4:02
  up,"
• 4:03
  bow?
• 4:07
  Because
• 4:08
  that
• 4:08
  song
• 4:08
  did
• 4:09
  not
• 4:09
  come
• 4:09
  from
• 4:10
  a
• 4:10
  woman
• 4:10
  who
• 4:10
  had
• 4:10
  it
• 4:11
  all
• 4:11
  figured
• 4:11
  out,
• 4:11
  okay?
• 4:12
  It
• 4:12
  came
• 4:13
  from
• 4:13
  a
• 4:13
  woman
• 4:14
  who
• 4:14
  had
• 4:14
  been
• 4:15
  through
• 4:15
  it
• 4:16
  publicly,
• 4:17
  painfully.
• 4:18
  The
• 4:18
  whole
• 4:19
  world
• 4:19
  had
• 4:20
  an
• 4:20
  opinion
• 4:20
  about
• 4:20
  her
• 4:21
  life,
• 4:21
  her
• 4:21
  choices,
• 4:22
  and
• 4:22
  what
• 4:23
  she
• 4:23
  deserved
• 4:24
  Classic,
• 4:25
  right?
• 4:25
  And
• 4:26
  instead
• 4:26
  of
• 4:26
  shrinking
• 4:27
  or
• 4:27
  waiting
• 4:28
  until
• 4:29
  everything
• 4:29
  looked
• 4:29
  perfect
• 4:30
  from
• 4:30
  the
• 4:30
  outside
• 4:31
  before
• 4:32
  she
• 4:32
  declared
• 4:33
  her
• 4:33
  next
• 4:34
  chapter,
• 4:35
  she
• 4:35
  put
• 4:35
  on
• 4:35
  that
• 4:36
  outfit,
• 4:36
  stepped
• 4:37
  out
• 4:37
  on
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  stage,
• 4:38
  and
• 4:38
  said,
• 4:39
  "I
• 4:39
  am
• 4:39
  leveling
• 4:40
  up,
• 4:41
  and
• 4:41
  I'm
• 4:42
  not
• 4:42
  explaining
• 4:43
  myself
• 4:43
  to
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  single
• 4:44
  soul."
• 4:45
  No
• 4:45
  apology,
• 4:46
  no
• 4:46
  disclaimer,
• 4:47
  no,
• 4:48
  "But
• 4:48
  should
• 4:48
  I
• 4:48
  be
• 4:48
  grateful
• 4:49
  for
• 4:49
  where
• 4:49
  I
• 4:50
  am
• 4:50
  first?"
• 4:51
  No.
• 4:51
  Just
• 4:52
  level
• 4:52
  up,
• 4:53
  watch
• 4:53
  me.
• 4:55
  And
• 4:56
  baby,
• 4:57
  that
• 4:57
  is
• 4:58
  the
• 4:58
  energy
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  need
• 4:59
  you
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  bring
• 4:59
  to
• 5:00
  your
• 5:00
  own
• 5:01
  desires
• 5:02
  because
• 5:03
  here
• 5:03
  is
• 5:03
  what
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  know
• 5:04
  about
• 5:04
  you.
• 5:05
  You
• 5:05
  have
• 5:05
  already
• 5:06
  built
• 5:07
  something
• 5:07
  real,
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  career,
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  life,
• 5:10
  the
• 5:11
  accomplishments
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  were
• 5:12
  supposed
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  feel
• 5:14
  like
• 5:14
  enough,
• 5:15
  and
• 5:15
  there's
• 5:16
  something
• 5:16
  more
• 5:17
  calling
• 5:18
  you
• 5:18
  forward,
• 5:19
  a
• 5:19
  next
• 5:20
  level,
• 5:20
  a
• 5:20
  new
• 5:21
  chapter,
• 5:21
  maybe
• 5:22
  something
• 5:22
  completely
• 5:23
  different
• 5:24
  or
• 5:24
  deeper
• 5:25
  altogether.
• 5:27
  And
• 5:27
  instead
• 5:27
  of
• 5:28
  stepping
• 5:28
  toward
• 5:29
  it,
• 5:29
  you've
• 5:29
  been
• 5:30
  standing
• 5:30
  at
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  edge
• 5:31
  of
• 5:32
  it,
• 5:32
  feeling
• 5:32
  guilty
• 5:33
  for
• 5:33
  even
• 5:34
  wanting
• 5:34
  more
• 5:35
  in
• 5:35
  the
• 5:35
  first
• 5:35
  place.
• 5:36
  Well,
• 5:37
  listen,
• 5:37
  that
• 5:38
  stops
• 5:39
  today.
• 5:43
  Let
• 5:43
  me
• 5:44
  reframe
• 5:44
  this
• 5:44
  whole
• 5:45
  thing
• 5:45
  because
• 5:46
  there's
• 5:46
  a
• 5:47
  very
• 5:47
  high
• 5:47
  percentage
• 5:48
  chance
• 5:48
  that
• 5:49
  we've
• 5:49
  been
• 5:49
  looking
• 5:50
  at
• 5:50
  it
• 5:50
  wrong.
• 5:51
  Gratitude
• 5:52
  and
• 5:52
  desire
• 5:53
  are
• 5:53
  not
• 5:53
  opposites.
• 5:55
  You
• 5:55
  can
• 5:55
  be
• 5:55
  deeply,
• 5:56
  genuinely
• 5:57
  bone-deep
• 5:58
  grateful
• 5:59
  for
• 5:59
  everything
• 6:00
  that
• 6:00
  you
• 6:01
  have,
• 6:01
  everything
• 6:02
  that
• 6:02
  you've
• 6:02
  built,
• 6:03
  and
• 6:04
  also
• 6:05
  feel
• 6:05
  the
• 6:05
  pull
• 6:06
  towards
• 6:07
  something
• 6:07
  more
• 6:08
  at
• 6:08
  the
• 6:08
  exact
• 6:09
  same
• 6:09
  time.
• 6:10
  Both
• 6:11
  things
• 6:11
  can
• 6:11
  be
• 6:11
  true.
• 6:12
  One
• 6:12
  does
• 6:13
  not
• 6:13
  have
• 6:13
  to
• 6:14
  cancel
• 6:14
  out
• 6:14
  the
• 6:15
  other.
• 6:15
  And
• 6:16
  here's
• 6:16
  the
• 6:16
  beauty
• 6:17
  about
• 6:17
  desire.
• 6:18
  It's
• 6:18
  not
• 6:19
  a
• 6:19
  sign
• 6:19
  that
• 6:19
  something
• 6:20
  is
• 6:20
  wrong
• 6:20
  with
• 6:20
  you
• 6:21
  or
• 6:21
  your
• 6:21
  life.
• 6:22
  It's
• 6:22
  a
• 6:23
  sign
• 6:23
  that
• 6:23
  something
• 6:24
  within
• 6:24
  you
• 6:25
  is
• 6:25
  calling
• 6:26
  you
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  grow.
• 6:28
  Because
• 6:28
  listen,
• 6:29
  we
• 6:29
  are
• 6:30
  not
• 6:30
  designed
• 6:31
  to
• 6:31
  arrive
• 6:32
  and
• 6:32
  stop.
• 6:33
  We
• 6:33
  are
• 6:33
  designed
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  grow
• 6:35
  continuously
• 6:37
  from
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  very
• 6:38
  beginning.
• 6:39
  The
• 6:39
  desire
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  evolve,
• 6:41
  expand,
• 6:42
  to
• 6:42
  reach
• 6:42
  for
• 6:43
  the
• 6:43
  next
• 6:43
  version
• 6:43
  of
• 6:44
  yourself,
• 6:45
  the
• 6:45
  restlessness
• 6:46
  is
• 6:46
  a
• 6:46
  sign.
• 6:47
  We
• 6:48
  often
• 6:48
  misinterpret
• 6:49
  that
• 6:49
  sign
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  mean
• 6:51
  something
• 6:51
  negative,
• 6:52
  and
• 6:53
  low-key,
• 6:54
  it's
• 6:54
  usually
• 6:55
  something
• 6:55
  negative
• 6:55
  about
• 6:56
  ourselves.
• 6:58
  When
• 6:58
  in
• 6:59
  fact,
• 6:59
  it's
• 7:00
  just
• 7:00
  your
• 7:01
  sign
• 7:01
  that
• 7:02
  your
• 7:02
  next
• 7:03
  level
• 7:03
  self
• 7:04
  is
• 7:04
  calling
• 7:05
  you
• 7:05
  towards
• 7:06
  the
• 7:06
  desires
• 7:07
  of
• 7:07
  your
• 7:07
  heart.
• 7:09
  That
• 7:09
  is
• 7:09
  your
• 7:09
  God-given
• 7:10
  wiring
• 7:12
  doing
• 7:12
  exactly
• 7:14
  what
• 7:14
  it
• 7:14
  was
• 7:14
  created
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  do.
• 7:16
  And
• 7:16
  if
• 7:16
  God
• 7:16
  is
• 7:17
  not
• 7:17
  your
• 7:17
  jam,
• 7:18
  feel
• 7:18
  free
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  insert
• 7:19
  the
• 7:19
  source,
• 7:20
  the
• 7:20
  universe,
• 7:21
  or
• 7:21
  whom
• 7:21
  it
• 7:21
  is
• 7:22
  that
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  believe
• 7:22
  in.
• 7:23
  Just
• 7:24
  think
• 7:24
  about
• 7:24
  it
• 7:24
  like
• 7:25
  this.
• 7:25
  When
• 7:26
  a
• 7:26
  plant
• 7:26
  stops
• 7:27
  growing,
• 7:28
  we
• 7:28
  don't
• 7:28
  say
• 7:29
  that
• 7:29
  it
• 7:29
  has
• 7:30
  finally
• 7:30
  found
• 7:31
  contentment.
• 7:34
  Ciara
• 8:10
  did
• 8:10
  not
• 8:10
  declare
• 8:11
  level
• 8:11
  up
• 8:12
  because
• 8:12
  she
• 8:12
  had
• 8:12
  nothing
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  be
• 8:13
  grateful
• 8:13
  for.
• 8:14
  She
• 8:14
  declared
• 8:15
  it
• 8:15
  because
• 8:15
  she
• 8:16
  was
• 8:16
  still
• 8:16
  alive,
• 8:18
  still
• 8:18
  growing,
• 8:19
  still
• 8:20
  being
• 8:20
  called
• 8:20
  to
• 8:21
  something
• 8:21
  more,
• 8:22
  and
• 8:23
  she
• 8:23
  refused
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  let
• 8:24
  the
• 8:24
  opinion
• 8:25
  of
• 8:25
  the
• 8:25
  room
• 8:26
  or
• 8:26
  her
• 8:26
  own
• 8:27
  guilt
• 8:28
  be
• 8:28
  the
• 8:28
  thing
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  kept
• 8:29
  her
• 8:30
  from
• 8:30
  answering
• 8:31
  that
• 8:32
  call.
• 8:32
  That
• 8:33
  is
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  move.
• 8:34
  That's
• 8:34
  what
• 8:35
  I
• 8:35
  need
• 8:35
  from
• 8:35
  you,
• 8:35
  friend.
• 8:36
  That's
• 8:37
  what
• 8:37
  your
• 8:37
  future
• 8:38
  needs
• 8:39
  from
• 8:39
  you.
• 8:40
  Ooh,
• 8:41
  did
• 8:41
  you
• 8:41
  hear
• 8:41
  that
• 8:41
  pun
• 8:42
  right
• 8:42
  there?
• 8:42
  Okay,
• 8:42
  that
• 8:43
  was
• 8:43
  unintended,
• 8:43
  but
• 8:44
  ooh,
• 8:44
  that
• 8:44
  was
• 8:44
  lovely
• 8:45
  right
• 8:45
  there.
• 8:50
  okay,
• 8:50
  so
• 8:50
  next
• 8:51
  let's
• 8:51
  explore
• 8:52
  what
• 8:53
  it
• 8:53
  actually
• 8:54
  costs
• 8:54
  you
• 8:55
  when
• 8:55
  you
• 8:55
  don't
• 8:56
  honor
• 8:56
  this
• 8:57
  because
• 8:57
  listen,
• 8:57
  you
• 8:58
  know
• 8:58
  we
• 8:58
  good
• 8:58
  at
• 8:58
  some
• 8:58
  denial
• 8:59
  now.
• 9:01
  It's
• 9:02
  so
• 9:02
  easy
• 9:03
  to
• 9:03
  be
• 9:03
  consumed
• 9:04
  with
• 9:04
  managing
• 9:04
  the
• 9:05
  guilt
• 9:05
  of
• 9:05
  wanting
• 9:06
  more
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  you
• 9:07
  haven't
• 9:08
  even
• 9:08
  had
• 9:08
  an
• 9:08
  honest
• 9:09
  conversation
• 9:10
  about
• 9:10
  what
• 9:11
  happens
• 9:11
  when
• 9:11
  you
• 9:11
  suppress
• 9:12
  it
• 9:13
  because
• 9:13
  you
• 9:14
  take
• 9:14
  that
• 9:15
  real
• 9:15
  legitimate
• 9:16
  God-placed
• 9:17
  desire
• 9:18
  for
• 9:18
  more
• 9:19
  and
• 9:20
  you
• 9:20
  stuff
• 9:21
  it
• 9:21
  down,
• 9:22
  cover
• 9:22
  it
• 9:22
  up,
• 9:22
  or
• 9:23
  call
• 9:23
  it
• 9:23
  ungrateful
• 9:24
  and
• 9:24
  tell
• 9:24
  it
• 9:24
  to
• 9:24
  be
• 9:24
  quiet,
• 9:25
  and
• 9:26
  it
• 9:27
  does
• 9:27
  not
• 9:27
  go
• 9:27
  away,
• 9:28
  okay?
• 9:28
  It
• 9:29
  just
• 9:29
  goes
• 9:29
  underground,
• 9:30
  and
• 9:31
  underground
• 9:32
  it
• 9:32
  becomes
• 9:33
  something
• 9:33
  else
• 9:33
  entirely.
• 9:35
  It
• 9:35
  becomes
• 9:35
  that
• 9:36
  low-level
• 9:36
  dissatisfaction
• 9:38
  you
• 9:38
  can't
• 9:38
  quite
• 9:39
  name
• 9:40
  The
• 9:40
  restlessness
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  shows
• 9:42
  up
• 9:42
  at
• 9:42
  random
• 9:43
  moments,
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  scrolling
• 9:44
  at
• 9:44
  midnight
• 9:45
  looking
• 9:45
  for
• 9:46
  something
• 9:46
  you
• 9:46
  can't
• 9:47
  quite
• 9:47
  put
• 9:47
  words
• 9:47
  to,
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  feeling
• 9:49
  of
• 9:49
  watching
• 9:49
  your
• 9:50
  own
• 9:50
  life
• 9:50
  from
• 9:50
  a
• 9:51
  silent
• 9:51
  distance
• 9:52
  like
• 9:53
  you're
• 9:53
  present
• 9:54
  but
• 9:54
  not
• 9:54
  quite
• 9:55
  in
• 9:55
  it,
• 9:55
  in
• 9:56
  it.
• 9:56
  You
• 9:56
  know
• 9:56
  what
• 9:56
  I
• 9:56
  mean?
• 10:00
  And
• 10:00
  that's
• 10:00
  not
• 10:00
  a
• 10:01
  contentment
• 10:01
  problem,
• 10:02
  It's
• 10:03
  a
• 10:03
  suppressed
• 10:03
  desire
• 10:04
  problem.
• 10:05
  And
• 10:06
  here's
• 10:06
  the
• 10:06
  part
• 10:07
  that
• 10:07
  really
• 10:07
  gets
• 10:08
  me.
• 10:08
  Friend,
• 10:09
  you're
• 10:09
  suffering,
• 10:10
  not
• 10:11
  from
• 10:11
  wanting
• 10:12
  or
• 10:12
  the
• 10:13
  desire
• 10:13
  itself,
• 10:14
  but
• 10:15
  from
• 10:16
  denying
• 10:16
  it.
• 10:17
  That
• 10:18
  desire
• 10:18
  was
• 10:19
  never
• 10:19
  a
• 10:19
  problem.
• 10:20
  The
• 10:20
  problem
• 10:21
  is
• 10:21
  the
• 10:21
  story
• 10:21
  you
• 10:21
  built
• 10:22
  around
• 10:22
  it
• 10:23
  that
• 10:23
  said
• 10:24
  that
• 10:24
  wanting
• 10:24
  more
• 10:25
  was
• 10:25
  wrong.
• 10:26
  This
• 10:27
  creates
• 10:27
  self-suffering
• 10:29
  by
• 10:29
  pretending
• 10:30
  to
• 10:30
  be
• 10:31
  someone
• 10:31
  who
• 10:32
  doesn't
• 10:32
  want
• 10:33
  what
• 10:34
  she
• 10:34
  wants,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  that
• 10:36
  is
• 10:36
  way
• 10:36
  too
• 10:37
  expensive
• 10:37
  of
• 10:37
  a
• 10:38
  price
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  pay.
• 10:39
  Imagine
• 10:40
  if
• 10:40
  Ciara
• 10:40
  had
• 10:41
  looked
• 10:41
  at
• 10:41
  that
• 10:41
  moment,
• 10:44
  I
• 10:45
  am
• 10:45
  not
• 10:45
  the
• 10:46
  same
• 10:46
  woman
• 10:47
  I
• 10:47
  was,"
• 10:48
  type
• 10:48
  moment,
• 10:49
  and
• 10:49
  talked
• 10:49
  herself
• 10:50
  out
• 10:50
  of
• 10:50
  it.
• 10:51
  told
• 10:51
  herself,
• 10:52
  "Just
• 10:52
  be
• 10:52
  grateful,"
• 10:53
  decide
• 10:54
  the
• 10:54
  world
• 10:55
  was
• 10:55
  not
• 10:55
  ready
• 10:56
  and
• 10:56
  neither
• 10:57
  was
• 10:57
  she.
• 10:58
  We
• 10:58
  would
• 10:58
  have
• 10:59
  been
• 10:59
  robbed
• 11:00
  of
• 11:00
  that
• 11:00
  anthem,
• 11:01
  and
• 11:01
  so
• 11:01
  would
• 11:02
  she.
• 11:02
  When
• 11:03
  you
• 11:03
  deny
• 11:04
  the
• 11:04
  desire,
• 11:05
  the
• 11:06
  world
• 11:06
  gets
• 11:06
  robbed
• 11:07
  of
• 11:07
  what
• 11:08
  comes
• 11:08
  next
• 11:09
  for
• 11:09
  you
• 11:10
  Especially
• 11:11
  you.
• 11:12
  Listen,
• 11:13
  I've
• 11:13
  helped
• 11:13
  so
• 11:14
  many
• 11:14
  clients
• 11:15
  work
• 11:15
  through
• 11:15
  this
• 11:15
  because
• 11:16
  it
• 11:16
  creates
• 11:16
  this
• 11:17
  deep
• 11:17
  feeling
• 11:18
  of
• 11:19
  being
• 11:19
  unfulfilled.
• 11:21
  The
• 11:21
  meaning
• 11:22
  of
• 11:22
  life
• 11:23
  and
• 11:23
  what
• 11:23
  this
• 11:24
  season
• 11:24
  is
• 11:25
  for
• 11:25
  you,
• 11:26
  it
• 11:26
  gets
• 11:26
  lost
• 11:26
  in
• 11:27
  translation
• 11:27
  all
• 11:28
  because
• 11:28
  you've
• 11:28
  denied
• 11:29
  yourself
• 11:30
  the
• 11:30
  beauty
• 11:31
  of
• 11:31
  what's
• 11:32
  next
• 11:33
  Because
• 11:34
  your
• 11:34
  desires
• 11:35
  are
• 11:35
  not
• 11:36
  just
• 11:36
  about
• 11:36
  wanting.
• 11:38
  It
• 11:38
  is
• 11:38
  really
• 11:39
  calling
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  towards
• 11:40
  what's
• 11:41
  next
• 11:42
  Ooh,
• 11:42
  and
• 11:43
  now
• 11:43
  we
• 11:43
  at
• 11:43
  the
• 11:43
  good
• 11:44
  part
• 11:44
  that
• 11:44
  we've
• 11:44
  all
• 11:44
  been
• 11:44
  waiting
• 11:45
  for.
• 11:45
  Yes,
• 11:46
  this
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  where
• 11:47
  we
• 11:47
  shift
• 11:48
  from
• 11:49
  guilt
• 11:50
  to
• 11:50
  expectancy.
• 11:52
  I
• 11:52
  wanna
• 11:52
  give
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  a
• 11:52
  mantra
• 11:53
  for
• 11:53
  you
• 11:54
  to
• 11:54
  start
• 11:54
  saying.
• 11:55
  Seven
• 11:56
  simple
• 11:56
  words,
• 11:57
  "Show
• 11:58
  me
• 11:58
  how
• 11:59
  great
• 12:00
  it
• 12:00
  gets
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  be."
• 12:01
  Not
• 12:02
  show
• 12:02
  me
• 12:02
  how
• 12:02
  much
• 12:03
  I
• 12:03
  gotta
• 12:03
  hustle
• 12:03
  for,
• 12:04
  what
• 12:04
  I
• 12:04
  gotta
• 12:05
  sacrifice
• 12:05
  next,
• 12:06
  earn,
• 12:07
  prove,
• 12:07
  or
• 12:07
  justify
• 12:09
  before
• 12:09
  I'm
• 12:09
  allowed
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  want
• 12:10
  this.
• 12:11
  Just
• 12:12
  show
• 12:13
  me
• 12:13
  how
• 12:13
  great
• 12:14
  it
• 12:15
  gets
• 12:15
  to
• 12:15
  be,
• 12:16
  because
• 12:17
  that
• 12:17
  is
• 12:17
  an
• 12:18
  act
• 12:18
  of
• 12:18
  faith,
• 12:19
  and
• 12:20
  it's
• 12:20
  an
• 12:20
  open
• 12:21
  hand
• 12:21
  instead
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  a
• 12:22
  clenched
• 12:22
  fist.
• 12:23
  This
• 12:24
  is
• 12:24
  being
• 12:24
  open
• 12:25
  to
• 12:25
  receive
• 12:27
  Listen,
• 12:27
  high-achieving
• 12:28
  women
• 12:29
  have
• 12:29
  mastered
• 12:30
  how
• 12:30
  to
• 12:30
  achieve,
• 12:31
  and
• 12:31
  now
• 12:32
  I
• 12:32
  invite
• 12:33
  you
• 12:33
  to
• 12:33
  master
• 12:34
  how
• 12:35
  to
• 12:35
  receive.
• 12:36
  It
• 12:36
  is
• 12:37
  God,
• 12:37
  source,
• 12:38
  universe
• 12:39
  saying
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  you,
• 12:40
  your
• 12:41
  own
• 12:41
  next
• 12:41
  level
• 12:42
  self,
• 12:43
  "I'm
• 12:43
  not
• 12:43
  done
• 12:44
  yet.
• 12:44
  I'm
• 12:44
  not
• 12:45
  putting
• 12:45
  the
• 12:45
  lid
• 12:46
  on
• 12:46
  this
• 12:46
  life.
• 12:47
  I'm
• 12:48
  no
• 12:48
  longer
• 12:48
  blocking
• 12:49
  or
• 12:49
  closing
• 12:49
  myself
• 12:50
  off.
• 12:51
  I
• 12:51
  believe
• 12:52
  there's
• 12:53
  more,
• 12:53
  and
• 12:54
  I'm
• 12:54
  making
• 12:54
  myself
• 12:55
  available
• 12:56
  to
• 12:56
  receive
• 12:56
  it."
• 12:57
  This
• 12:57
  has
• 12:57
  nothing
• 12:58
  to
• 12:58
  do
• 12:59
  with
• 12:59
  greed.
• 13:00
  This
• 13:00
  is
• 13:00
  expectancy,
• 13:02
  and
• 13:03
  expectancy
• 13:04
  is
• 13:04
  one
• 13:04
  of
• 13:04
  the
• 13:04
  most
• 13:04
  beautiful,
• 13:05
  powerful
• 13:06
  energies.
• 13:07
  You
• 13:07
  can
• 13:08
  walk
• 13:08
  in
• 13:09
  no
• 13:09
  longer
• 13:09
  expecting
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  worst-case
• 13:11
  scenario,
• 13:12
  the
• 13:12
  other
• 13:12
  shoe
• 13:13
  to
• 13:13
  drop,
• 13:13
  or
• 13:14
  the
• 13:14
  bare
• 13:15
  minimum,
• 13:15
  okay?
• 13:16
  Those
• 13:16
  days
• 13:17
  are
• 13:17
  over
• 13:18
  This
• 13:18
  is
• 13:18
  being
• 13:19
  open
• 13:19
  to
• 13:19
  receive
• 13:20
  the
• 13:20
  maximum.
• 13:21
  Yes.
• 13:23
  So
• 13:23
  here's
• 13:24
  what
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  want
• 13:24
  you
• 13:24
  to
• 13:24
  do
• 13:24
  with
• 13:25
  that
• 13:25
  wanting,
• 13:26
  those
• 13:26
  wonderful
• 13:27
  desires
• 13:27
  of
• 13:27
  your
• 13:28
  heart.
• 13:29
  Instead
• 13:29
  of
• 13:29
  suppressing
• 13:30
  it,
• 13:31
  get
• 13:31
  curious
• 13:32
  about
• 13:33
  it.
• 13:33
  This
• 13:34
  is
• 13:34
  where
• 13:34
  it
• 13:34
  gets
• 13:35
  fun.
• 13:36
  You
• 13:36
  do
• 13:37
  remember
• 13:37
  that
• 13:37
  word,
• 13:38
  right?
• 13:38
  You
• 13:38
  remember
• 13:39
  those
• 13:39
  three
• 13:39
  letters,
• 13:40
  you
• 13:40
  get
• 13:40
  to
• 13:40
  experience
• 13:41
  it
• 13:41
  in
• 13:41
  this
• 13:41
  life.
• 13:45
  Get
• 13:45
  curious
• 13:46
  and
• 13:46
  have
• 13:46
  fun
• 13:47
  with
• 13:47
  it.
• 13:48
  What
• 13:48
  is
• 13:48
  it
• 13:48
  actually
• 13:49
  pointing
• 13:49
  you
• 13:50
  to?
• 13:50
  Not
• 13:51
  just
• 13:51
  the
• 13:51
  surface
• 13:52
  version,
• 13:53
  not
• 13:53
  just
• 13:53
  the
• 13:54
  bigger
• 13:54
  number
• 13:54
  or
• 13:55
  the
• 13:55
  next
• 13:55
  title,
• 13:56
  but
• 13:57
  what's
• 13:57
  underneath
• 13:58
  it?
• 13:59
  What
• 13:59
  does
• 14:00
  this
• 14:01
  desire
• 14:02
  represent?
• 14:03
  Is
• 14:03
  it
• 14:04
  more
• 14:04
  freedom,
• 14:05
  creativity,
• 14:06
  more
• 14:06
  alignment,
• 14:07
  more
• 14:08
  of
• 14:08
  yourself
• 14:09
  actually
• 14:09
  showing
• 14:10
  up
• 14:10
  in
• 14:10
  your
• 14:10
  own
• 14:11
  life?
• 14:12
  Because
• 14:13
  the
• 14:13
  desire
• 14:13
  is
• 14:13
  always
• 14:14
  pointing
• 14:15
  somewhere
• 14:15
  real.
• 14:16
  It's
• 14:17
  always
• 14:17
  a
• 14:17
  signpost
• 14:19
  towards
• 14:19
  the
• 14:19
  next
• 14:20
  version
• 14:21
  of
• 14:21
  you
• 14:21
  that's
• 14:21
  trying
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  come
• 14:22
  through.
• 14:23
  So
• 14:24
  honor
• 14:24
  it,
• 14:25
  write
• 14:25
  it
• 14:25
  down,
• 14:26
  say
• 14:26
  it
• 14:26
  out
• 14:26
  loud,
• 14:27
  tell
• 14:27
  somebody.
• 14:28
  Share
• 14:29
  it
• 14:29
  with
• 14:29
  a
• 14:29
  trusted
• 14:30
  friend.
• 14:31
  Listen,
• 14:31
  I
• 14:31
  am
• 14:32
  so
• 14:32
  serious
• 14:32
  about
• 14:33
  this.
• 14:34
  Give
• 14:34
  voice
• 14:36
  to
• 14:36
  your
• 14:36
  dreams
• 14:37
  and
• 14:37
  your
• 14:37
  desires.
• 14:39
  Breathe
• 14:39
  life
• 14:40
  into
• 14:40
  them.
• 14:41
  Sharing
• 14:42
  your
• 14:42
  dreams
• 14:42
  and
• 14:43
  desires
• 14:43
  with
• 14:44
  someone
• 14:44
  is
• 14:44
  so
• 14:45
  powerful
• 14:46
  because
• 14:47
  now
• 14:47
  it's
• 14:47
  not
• 14:47
  just
• 14:48
  your
• 14:48
  energy
• 14:49
  going
• 14:49
  into
• 14:49
  it.
• 14:50
  This
• 14:50
  is
• 14:50
  co-creation
• 14:52
  happening
• 14:52
  in
• 14:52
  real
• 14:53
  time
• 14:54
  But
• 14:54
  make
• 14:54
  sure
• 14:54
  it's
• 14:55
  with
• 14:55
  someone
• 14:55
  you
• 14:55
  trust,
• 14:56
  someone
• 14:57
  who
• 14:57
  can
• 14:57
  also
• 14:58
  hold
• 14:59
  your
• 14:59
  dream,
• 15:00
  because
• 15:00
  not
• 15:01
  everybody
• 15:02
  is
• 15:02
  in
• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
  place
• 15:03
  to
• 15:03
  be
• 15:03
  able
• 15:03
  to
• 15:04
  do
• 15:04
  that.
• 15:05
  And
• 15:05
  you
• 15:05
  gotta
• 15:05
  protect
• 15:05
  them
• 15:06
  dreams,
• 15:06
  okay?
• 15:09
  And
• 15:09
  listen,
• 15:09
  if
• 15:10
  you
• 15:10
  are
• 15:10
  sitting
• 15:10
  there
• 15:10
  right
• 15:11
  now
• 15:11
  and
• 15:11
  you
• 15:11
  are
• 15:11
  like,
• 15:12
  "Girl,
• 15:13
  I
• 15:13
  ain't
• 15:13
  got
• 15:13
  nobody
• 15:13
  to
• 15:13
  share
• 15:14
  these
• 15:14
  dreams
• 15:14
  with,"
• 15:18
  no
• 15:19
  worries,
• 15:19
  I
• 15:20
  got
• 15:20
  you.
• 15:21
  I
• 15:22
  love
• 15:23
  talking
• 15:23
  about
• 15:23
  dreams.
• 15:24
  Love,
• 15:25
  love,
• 15:25
  love
• 15:25
  it.
• 15:26
  So
• 15:26
  if
• 15:27
  you
• 15:27
  need
• 15:27
  a
• 15:27
  safe
• 15:27
  space
• 15:28
  to
• 15:28
  share
• 15:28
  your
• 15:29
  dreams,
• 15:29
  friend,
• 15:30
  holla
• 15:30
  at
• 15:30
  your
• 15:31
  girl.
• 15:35
  Holla
• 15:35
  at
• 15:35
  me
• 15:35
  on
• 15:36
  YouTube
• 15:37
  or
• 15:37
  even
• 15:38
  reply
• 15:39
  to
• 15:39
  one
• 15:40
  of
• 15:40
  the
• 15:40
  weekly
• 15:41
  Love
• 15:41
  Notes
• 15:41
  newsletters
• 15:42
  that
• 15:42
  goes
• 15:42
  out.
• 15:43
  I
• 15:43
  love
• 15:44
  replying
• 15:45
  to
• 15:45
  you
• 15:45
  there
• 15:46
  You
• 15:46
  are
• 15:46
  not
• 15:46
  alone
• 15:47
  in
• 15:47
  this,
• 15:47
  friend.
• 15:48
  I
• 15:48
  got
• 15:48
  you.
• 15:49
  So
• 15:49
  stop
• 15:49
  treating
• 15:50
  your
• 15:50
  desires
• 15:51
  like
• 15:51
  secrets
• 15:52
  you
• 15:52
  have
• 15:52
  to
• 15:52
  apologize
• 15:53
  for,
• 15:54
  and
• 15:54
  start
• 15:54
  treating
• 15:55
  them
• 15:55
  like
• 15:55
  the
• 15:55
  divine
• 15:56
  assignments
• 15:57
  they
• 15:58
  actually
• 15:59
  are.
• 15:59
  And
• 16:00
  then
• 16:00
  this
• 16:01
  one
• 16:01
  right
• 16:02
  here,
• 16:02
  this
• 16:03
  one
• 16:03
  right
• 16:03
  here,
• 16:05
  this
• 16:05
  takes
• 16:05
  the
• 16:05
  most
• 16:05
  courage,
• 16:06
  okay?
• 16:07
  Give
• 16:07
  yourself
• 16:08
  permission
• 16:09
  to
• 16:09
  pursue
• 16:10
  it
• 16:11
  without
• 16:11
  having
• 16:12
  all
• 16:12
  the
• 16:13
  answers
• 16:13
  first,
• 16:14
  okay?
• 16:15
  You
• 16:15
  do
• 16:15
  not
• 16:16
  need
• 16:16
  the
• 16:16
  whole
• 16:16
  entire
• 16:17
  plan.
• 16:18
  You
• 16:18
  don't
• 16:18
  need
• 16:18
  to
• 16:19
  justify
• 16:20
  it
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  anyone.
• 16:21
  You
• 16:21
  don't
• 16:21
  even
• 16:21
  need
• 16:22
  to
• 16:22
  earn
• 16:22
  the
• 16:22
  right
• 16:23
  to
• 16:23
  want
• 16:24
  what
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  want.
• 16:26
  Level
• 16:26
  up
• 16:27
  does
• 16:27
  not
• 16:27
  come
• 16:28
  with
• 16:28
  a
• 16:28
  permission
• 16:29
  slip
• 16:29
  from
• 16:29
  other
• 16:29
  people,
• 16:30
  friend.
• 16:31
  It
• 16:31
  comes
• 16:31
  from
• 16:32
  you
• 16:32
  deciding,
• 16:33
  ready
• 16:33
  or
• 16:34
  not,
• 16:34
  here
• 16:35
  you
• 16:35
  come.
• 16:39
  Wanting
• 16:40
  more
• 16:41
  is
• 16:42
  not
• 16:42
  the
• 16:42
  problem.
• 16:43
  It's
• 16:43
  just
• 16:44
  the
• 16:44
  beginning
• 16:48
  And
• 16:48
  friend,
• 16:49
  I
• 16:49
  put
• 16:49
  together
• 16:50
  some
• 16:50
  journal
• 16:50
  prompts
• 16:50
  to
• 16:51
  go
• 16:51
  deeper
• 16:52
  on
• 16:52
  this
• 16:52
  episode
• 16:53
  and
• 16:53
  you're
• 16:53
  gonna
• 16:53
  wanna
• 16:53
  get
• 16:54
  them.
• 16:54
  So
• 16:54
  head
• 16:54
  to
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  show
• 16:55
  notes
• 16:55
  and
• 16:55
  grab
• 16:56
  them
• 16:56
  because
• 16:56
  this
• 16:57
  conversation
• 16:57
  does
• 16:58
  not
• 16:58
  end
• 16:58
  here.
• 16:59
  This
• 17:00
  is
• 17:00
  just
• 17:00
  the
• 17:00
  beginning,
• 17:01
  and
• 17:01
  a
• 17:01
  beautiful
• 17:02
  one
• 17:03
  it
• 17:03
  is
• 17:06
  Okay,
• 17:07
  and
• 17:07
  now
• 17:07
  it's
• 17:08
  time
• 17:08
  for
• 17:08
  our
• 17:08
  favorite
• 17:09
  part
• 17:09
  of
• 17:09
  the
• 17:09
  show.
• 17:10
  It's
• 17:10
  that
• 17:10
  self-love
• 17:11
  two-step
• 17:12
  with
• 17:12
  the
• 17:12
  remix.
• 17:15
  Okay,
• 17:15
  here
• 17:15
  we
• 17:16
  go.
• 17:16
  Step
• 17:17
  one,
• 17:18
  name
• 17:18
  the
• 17:18
  desire
• 17:19
  without
• 17:20
  an
• 17:20
  apology
• 17:21
  attached.
• 17:22
  Whatever
• 17:22
  you
• 17:23
  have
• 17:23
  been
• 17:23
  quietly
• 17:24
  wanting
• 17:24
  more
• 17:24
  of,
• 17:25
  more
• 17:26
  freedom,
• 17:26
  more
• 17:26
  love,
• 17:27
  creativity,
• 17:28
  alignment,
• 17:29
  more
• 17:29
  memories,
• 17:30
  more
• 17:31
  fun
• 17:31
  times
• 17:32
  and
• 17:32
  adventure,
• 17:33
  more
• 17:34
  of
• 17:34
  yourself
• 17:35
  showing
• 17:35
  up
• 17:35
  in
• 17:36
  your
• 17:36
  own
• 17:36
  life,
• 17:37
  write
• 17:37
  it
• 17:37
  down.
• 17:38
  No
• 17:38
  justification,
• 17:40
  no
• 17:40
  disclaimer.
• 17:41
  And
• 17:41
  don't
• 17:41
  try
• 17:42
  to
• 17:42
  figure
• 17:42
  out
• 17:42
  how,
• 17:43
  okay?
• 17:44
  Listen,
• 17:44
  quit
• 17:45
  trying
• 17:45
  to
• 17:45
  mind
• 17:45
  God's
• 17:46
  business,
• 17:47
  okay?
• 17:51
  The
• 17:52
  how,
• 17:52
  it
• 17:52
  is
• 17:53
  not
• 17:53
  for
• 17:53
  you,
• 17:54
  okay?
• 17:57
  And
• 17:57
  none
• 17:57
  of
• 17:57
  that,
• 17:58
  "But
• 17:58
  I
• 17:58
  should
• 17:59
  be
• 17:59
  grateful."
• 18:00
  Just
• 18:01
  the
• 18:01
  desire,
• 18:02
  plain
• 18:03
  and
• 18:03
  honest.
• 18:04
  Let
• 18:04
  it
• 18:04
  exist
• 18:05
  on
• 18:05
  the
• 18:05
  page
• 18:06
  without
• 18:07
  you
• 18:07
  immediately
• 18:08
  dialing
• 18:08
  it
• 18:09
  down.
• 18:09
  And
• 18:10
  step
• 18:10
  two,
• 18:11
  swap
• 18:11
  the
• 18:12
  guilt
• 18:13
  for
• 18:13
  getting
• 18:13
  curious.
• 18:14
  The
• 18:14
  next
• 18:15
  time
• 18:15
  guilt
• 18:15
  shows
• 18:16
  up
• 18:16
  for
• 18:16
  wanting
• 18:17
  more,
• 18:18
  replace
• 18:18
  it
• 18:18
  with
• 18:19
  asking
• 18:19
  yourself
• 18:19
  a
• 18:19
  question,
• 18:20
  "What
• 18:21
  is
• 18:21
  this
• 18:21
  desire
• 18:22
  pointing
• 18:22
  me
• 18:23
  towards?"
• 18:24
  And
• 18:24
  get
• 18:24
  curious
• 18:25
  instead
• 18:26
  of
• 18:26
  critical.
• 18:27
  Your
• 18:27
  desires
• 18:28
  are
• 18:28
  not
• 18:28
  problems
• 18:29
  to
• 18:29
  manage.
• 18:30
  They
• 18:30
  are
• 18:30
  signposts
• 18:32
  toward
• 18:32
  your
• 18:32
  next
• 18:33
  level.
• 18:34
  Let
• 18:34
  them
• 18:34
  lead
• 18:35
  you
• 18:35
  somewhere
• 18:36
  instead
• 18:36
  of
• 18:36
  letting
• 18:37
  guilt
• 18:37
  keep
• 18:37
  you
• 18:38
  stuck
• 18:39
  And
• 18:39
  step
• 18:39
  three
• 18:40
  is
• 18:40
  the
• 18:41
  you
• 18:41
  step.
• 18:42
  You
• 18:42
  get
• 18:42
  still,
• 18:43
  you
• 18:43
  get
• 18:43
  quiet,
• 18:44
  and
• 18:44
  you
• 18:44
  ask
• 18:44
  yourself,
• 18:45
  "What
• 18:45
  is
• 18:46
  my
• 18:46
  heart
• 18:47
  telling
• 18:47
  me
• 18:47
  to
• 18:48
  do
• 18:48
  next?"
• 18:49
  Whatever
• 18:49
  comes
• 18:50
  up,
• 18:50
  that
• 18:51
  is
• 18:51
  your
• 18:51
  next
• 18:52
  right
• 18:52
  aligned
• 18:53
  step.
• 18:54
  Not
• 18:54
  the
• 18:54
  whole
• 18:54
  plan,
• 18:55
  just
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  next
• 18:56
  move.
• 18:57
  Trust
• 18:58
  her.
• 18:58
  She
• 18:59
  already
• 18:59
  knows
• 19:00
  Now
• 19:01
  let
• 19:01
  me
• 19:01
  pour
• 19:02
  into
• 19:02
  you
• 19:02
  real
• 19:02
  quick.
• 19:03
  You
• 19:04
  worked
• 19:04
  for
• 19:05
  the
• 19:05
  dream
• 19:06
  and
• 19:06
  you
• 19:06
  got
• 19:06
  it,
• 19:07
  and
• 19:07
  now
• 19:08
  there
• 19:08
  is
• 19:09
  more
• 19:09
  calling
• 19:10
  you
• 19:10
  forward.
• 19:11
  This
• 19:11
  is
• 19:12
  not
• 19:12
  some
• 19:12
  character
• 19:13
  flaw,
• 19:13
  ingratitude,
• 19:14
  or
• 19:15
  you
• 19:15
  being
• 19:15
  impossible
• 19:16
  to
• 19:16
  please
• 19:17
  This
• 19:18
  is
• 19:18
  you
• 19:19
  being
• 19:19
  fully,
• 19:20
  completely,
• 19:21
  unapologetically
• 19:22
  alive.
• 19:24
  To
• 19:25
  be
• 19:25
  alive
• 19:26
  is
• 19:26
  to
• 19:26
  grow.
• 19:27
  Don't
• 19:28
  deny
• 19:28
  yourself
• 19:28
  the
• 19:29
  opportunity
• 19:30
  to
• 19:30
  get
• 19:30
  all
• 19:31
  of
• 19:31
  the
• 19:31
  life
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  can
• 19:33
  get
• 19:33
  out
• 19:33
  of
• 19:33
  this
• 19:34
  life.
• 19:34
  Hear
• 19:35
  me
• 19:35
  with
• 19:35
  your
• 19:35
  whole
• 19:36
  heart
• 19:36
  when
• 19:37
  I
• 19:37
  say
• 19:37
  this.
• 19:38
  The
• 19:38
  version
• 19:38
  of
• 19:39
  you
• 19:39
  that
• 19:39
  keeps
• 19:39
  playing
• 19:40
  small
• 19:41
  to
• 19:41
  manage
• 19:41
  the
• 19:41
  guilt
• 19:42
  of
• 19:42
  wanting
• 19:43
  more,
• 19:43
  she
• 19:44
  is
• 19:44
  not
• 19:44
  serving
• 19:45
  anyone.
• 19:46
  Not
• 19:46
  you,
• 19:47
  not
• 19:47
  the
• 19:47
  people
• 19:47
  who
• 19:48
  love
• 19:48
  you,
• 19:48
  not
• 19:49
  the
• 19:49
  world
• 19:49
  that
• 19:50
  needs
• 19:50
  what
• 19:50
  only
• 19:51
  you
• 19:51
  can
• 19:51
  bring
• 19:52
  The
• 19:52
  world
• 19:53
  does
• 19:53
  not
• 19:53
  need
• 19:54
  you
• 19:55
  to
• 19:55
  want
• 19:55
  less.
• 19:56
  It
• 19:57
  needs
• 19:57
  you
• 19:57
  to
• 19:57
  say
• 19:58
  yes
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  what
• 19:59
  is
• 19:59
  calling
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  forward.
• 20:01
  So
• 20:01
  stop
• 20:02
  apologizing
• 20:03
  for
• 20:03
  wanting.
• 20:03
  Stop
• 20:04
  shrinking
• 20:04
  the
• 20:05
  desires
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  make
• 20:06
  it
• 20:06
  more
• 20:07
  palatable.
• 20:08
  Stop
• 20:08
  waiting
• 20:09
  until
• 20:09
  you
• 20:09
  feel
• 20:10
  grateful
• 20:10
  enough
• 20:11
  to
• 20:11
  give
• 20:11
  yourself
• 20:12
  permission
• 20:12
  to
• 20:13
  grow.
• 20:14
  You
• 20:14
  are
• 20:14
  allowed
• 20:15
  to
• 20:16
  want
• 20:16
  more
• 20:17
  than
• 20:17
  this.
• 20:18
  Say
• 20:19
  it
• 20:19
  out
• 20:19
  loud
• 20:20
  if
• 20:20
  you
• 20:20
  have
• 20:21
  to.
• 20:21
  Seriously,
• 20:22
  say
• 20:22
  it.
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  am
• 20:23
  allowed
• 20:24
  to
• 20:24
  want
• 20:25
  more
• 20:25
  than
• 20:26
  this
• 20:26
  You're
• 20:27
  allowed
• 20:27
  to
• 20:27
  have
• 20:27
  more
• 20:28
  than
• 20:28
  one
• 20:28
  dream
• 20:29
  A
• 20:29
  life
• 20:30
  well-lived
• 20:31
  is
• 20:31
  one
• 20:32
  that
• 20:32
  is
• 20:32
  full
• 20:33
  of
• 20:33
  depth,
• 20:34
  color,
• 20:35
  an
• 20:35
  array
• 20:36
  of
• 20:36
  experiences.
• 20:38
  That
• 20:38
  is
• 20:38
  what
• 20:39
  makes
• 20:39
  life
• 20:39
  rich
• 20:41
  And
• 20:41
  now
• 20:41
  it's
• 20:42
  time
• 20:42
  for
• 20:42
  you
• 20:42
  to
• 20:42
  open
• 20:43
  your
• 20:43
  hands
• 20:44
  and
• 20:44
  say,
• 20:45
  "Show
• 20:45
  me
• 20:46
  how
• 20:46
  great
• 20:47
  it
• 20:47
  gets
• 20:48
  to
• 20:48
  be
• 20:48
  Because
• 20:49
  your
• 20:49
  next
• 20:49
  level,
• 20:50
  it's
• 20:51
  been
• 20:51
  waiting
• 20:51
  on
• 20:51
  you
• 20:53
  Ooh,
• 20:53
  ooh,
• 20:54
  ooh.
• 20:55
  Okay,
• 20:55
  friend,
• 20:56
  that
• 20:57
  is
• 20:57
  a
• 20:57
  wrap
• 20:58
  on
• 20:58
  this
• 20:59
  one.
• 20:59
  And
• 20:59
  if
• 21:00
  it
• 21:00
  landed
• 21:00
  with
• 21:01
  you,
• 21:01
  share
• 21:02
  it.
• 21:02
  Send
• 21:02
  it
• 21:03
  to
• 21:03
  a
• 21:03
  woman
• 21:04
  in
• 21:04
  your
• 21:04
  life
• 21:04
  who
• 21:05
  has
• 21:05
  everything
• 21:06
  that
• 21:06
  she
• 21:06
  prayed
• 21:06
  for
• 21:07
  And
• 21:07
  just
• 21:08
  might
• 21:08
  be
• 21:08
  quietly
• 21:09
  wondering
• 21:09
  if
• 21:10
  she's
• 21:11
  allowed
• 21:11
  to
• 21:11
  want
• 21:12
  what's
• 21:13
  next.
• 21:14
  She
• 21:14
  needs
• 21:15
  to
• 21:15
  hear
• 21:15
  this
• 21:15
  one
• 21:16
  And
• 21:16
  come
• 21:16
  and
• 21:16
  tell
• 21:17
  me
• 21:17
  what
• 21:17
  shifted
• 21:18
  for
• 21:18
  you.
• 21:19
  Drop
• 21:20
  a
• 21:20
  review,
• 21:20
  comment
• 21:21
  on
• 21:21
  a
• 21:21
  YouTube
• 21:22
  video,
• 21:22
  or
• 21:22
  hit
• 21:23
  reply
• 21:24
  on
• 21:24
  the
• 21:25
  weekly
• 21:25
  Love
• 21:26
  Notes
• 21:26
  newsletter.
• 21:27
  If
• 21:27
  you
• 21:27
  are
• 21:27
  not
• 21:28
  on
• 21:28
  the
• 21:28
  list,
• 21:28
  you
• 21:28
  can
• 21:29
  join
• 21:29
  at
• 21:29
  the
• 21:30
  link
• 21:30
  in
• 21:30
  the
• 21:30
  show
• 21:30
  notes.
• 21:31
  I
• 21:31
  love
• 21:32
  responding
• 21:33
  and
• 21:33
  celebrating
• 21:34
  you
• 21:34
  Friend,
• 21:35
  I'm
• 21:35
  so
• 21:35
  proud
• 21:36
  of
• 21:36
  you
• 21:36
  and
• 21:36
  so
• 21:36
  grateful
• 21:37
  for
• 21:37
  this
• 21:37
  time
• 21:38
  that
• 21:38
  we
• 21:38
  have
• 21:38
  shared
• 21:38
  together
• 21:39
  today.
• 21:39
  I'm
• 21:40
  cheering
• 21:40
  for
• 21:40
  you
• 21:41
  loud
• 21:41
  and
• 21:41
  obnoxiously
• 21:42
  always.
• 21:43
  Crown
• 21:44
  on,
• 21:44
  queen.
• 21:45
  All
• 21:45
  because
• 21:46
  together
• 21:46
  we
• 21:47
  can
• 21:47
  encourage
• 21:48
  over
• 21:49
  everything