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When Independence Becomes A Trauma Response | EP 288 · Confident and Empowered Women

• 0:05
  Friend.
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  What
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  if
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  the
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  very
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  thing
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  you've
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  been
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  most
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  proud
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  of
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  has
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  actually
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  been
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  the
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  thing
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  keeping
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  you
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  from
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  everything
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  you
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  want?
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  What
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  if
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  the
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  independence,
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  the
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  superpower
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  you
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  built,
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  the
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  armor
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  you
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  wore,
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  the
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  identity
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  you
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  claimed
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  was
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  never
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  really
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  strength
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  at
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  all?
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  What
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  if
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  it
• 0:25
  was
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  survival?
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  And
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  what
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  if
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  you
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  have
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  been
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  so
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  deep
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  in
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  survival
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  mode
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  for
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  so
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  long
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  that
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  you
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  genuinely
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  forgot
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  what
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  it
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  was
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  like
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  to
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  just
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  rest.
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  Friend,
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  today
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  we
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  are
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  going
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  there
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  and
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  I
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  promise
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  you
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  what's
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  waiting
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  on
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  the
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  other
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  side
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  of
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  this
• 0:41
  conversation
• 0:42
  is
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  going
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  to
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  change
• 0:43
  the
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  way
• 0:44
  you
• 0:44
  see
• 0:44
  everything
• 0:45
  you've
• 0:45
  been
• 0:46
  carrying.
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  Hey,
• 0:47
  hey,
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  hey,
• 0:48
  friend.
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  I
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  just
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  wanna
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  take
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  a
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  quick
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  second
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  to
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  invite
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  you
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  to
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  subscribe
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  the
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  if
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  podcast
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  made
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  seen,
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  heard,
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  or
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  even
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  just
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  a
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  little
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  bit
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  more
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  like
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  yourself,
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  I
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  would
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  be
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  so
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  incredibly
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  grateful
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  If
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  you
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  would
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  take
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  a
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  couple
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  of
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  minutes
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  to
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  leave
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  a
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  review
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  your
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  words,
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  help
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  other
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  women
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  find
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  this
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  podcast,
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  and
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  there
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  is
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  a
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  woman
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  out
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  there
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  right
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  now
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  who
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  needs
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  exactly
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  what
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  you
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  just
• 1:36
  heard.
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  Your
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  review
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  could
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  be
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  the
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  very
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  thing
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  that
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  leads
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  her
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  here.
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  So
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  subscribe,
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  leave
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  that
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  review,
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  and
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  let's
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  keep
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  growing
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  together.
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  I'm
• 1:46
  so
• 1:46
  happy
• 1:46
  you're
• 1:47
  here,
• 1:47
  friend.
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  Hey,
• 1:48
  let's
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  get
• 1:49
  into
• 1:49
  it.
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  A
• 1:52
  friend.
• 1:53
  I
• 1:53
  grew
• 1:54
  up
• 1:54
  watching
• 1:54
  strong
• 1:55
  women
• 1:55
  do
• 1:56
  it
• 1:56
  all
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  on
• 1:57
  their
• 1:57
  own.
• 1:58
  From
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  my
• 1:59
  mom
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  to
• 2:00
  her
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  friends,
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  to
• 2:01
  my
• 2:01
  friends,
• 2:02
  even
• 2:02
  their
• 2:02
  moms.
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  There
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  were
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  so
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  many
• 2:05
  women
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  all
• 2:06
  around
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  me,
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  single
• 2:08
  moms,
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  all
• 2:09
  of
• 2:09
  them
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  figuring
• 2:10
  it
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  out,
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  making
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  it
• 2:12
  work,
• 2:12
  doing
• 2:13
  whatever
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  had
• 2:14
  to
• 2:14
  be
• 2:15
  done
• 2:15
  without
• 2:15
  waiting
• 2:16
  for
• 2:16
  anybody
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  to
• 2:17
  come
• 2:17
  and
• 2:17
  do
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  it
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  for
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  them.
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  And
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  when
• 2:19
  I
• 2:19
  found
• 2:19
  myself
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  in
• 2:20
  that
• 2:20
  same
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  season,
• 2:22
  I
• 2:22
  knew
• 2:22
  exactly
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  what
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  I
• 2:23
  had
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  to
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  do
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  because
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  I'd
• 2:25
  seen
• 2:25
  it
• 2:25
  done
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  a
• 2:25
  thousand
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  times.
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  So
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  I
• 2:27
  did
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  it.
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  I
• 2:28
  figured
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  it
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  out.
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  I
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  built
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  my
• 2:30
  village.
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  I
• 2:31
  leaned
• 2:32
  on
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  my
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  specific
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  handful
• 2:33
  of
• 2:33
  people
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  for
• 2:34
  the
• 2:34
  things
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  that
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  I
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  needed
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  and
• 2:35
  everything
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  else.
• 2:37
  I
• 2:37
  handled
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  it
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  on
• 2:38
  my
• 2:38
  own,
• 2:39
  especially
• 2:39
  the
• 2:40
  heavy
• 2:40
  lifting
• 2:40
  part
• 2:41
  that
• 2:41
  was
• 2:42
  always
• 2:42
  mine
• 2:43
  and
• 2:43
  friend.
• 2:43
  For
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  long
• 2:44
  time.
• 2:45
  I
• 2:45
  wore
• 2:46
  that
• 2:46
  like
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  a
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  badge
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  of
• 2:47
  honor
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  because
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  that's
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  what
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  strong
• 2:49
  women
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  do,
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  right?
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  But
• 2:52
  here's
• 2:52
  what
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  nobody
• 2:53
  tells
• 2:53
  you
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  about
• 2:54
  carrying
• 2:55
  everything
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  on
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  your
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  own
• 2:56
  for
• 2:56
  long
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  enough.
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  One
• 2:58
  day
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  you're
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  gonna
• 2:59
  actually
• 2:59
  put
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  it
• 3:00
  down,
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  and
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  when
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  you
• 3:01
  do,
• 3:02
  when
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  you
• 3:02
  finally
• 3:03
  have
• 3:03
  enough
• 3:04
  distance
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  from
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  it
• 3:05
  to
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  really
• 3:06
  look
• 3:06
  at
• 3:06
  it
• 3:06
  clearly
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  you're
• 3:07
  gonna
• 3:08
  realize
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  something
• 3:09
  that
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  is
• 3:10
  probably
• 3:10
  gonna
• 3:10
  stop
• 3:10
  you
• 3:11
  in
• 3:11
  your
• 3:11
  tracks.
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  You
• 3:12
  weren't
• 3:12
  being
• 3:13
  strong
• 3:13
  friend.
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  You
• 3:14
  were
• 3:15
  surviving
• 3:16
  and
• 3:16
  there
• 3:17
  is
• 3:17
  a
• 3:17
  difference,
• 3:18
  a
• 3:18
  really
• 3:18
  big
• 3:18
  one,
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  and
• 3:20
  we're
• 3:20
  really
• 3:20
  gonna
• 3:20
  get
• 3:21
  into
• 3:21
  it
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  really
• 3:22
  want
• 3:23
  to
• 3:23
  say
• 3:23
  this
• 3:23
  with
• 3:24
  so
• 3:24
  much
• 3:24
  love
• 3:25
  and
• 3:26
  so
• 3:26
  much
• 3:26
  grace
• 3:27
  because
• 3:27
  this
• 3:28
  is
• 3:28
  not
• 3:28
  about
• 3:29
  pointing
• 3:29
  fingers
• 3:30
  or
• 3:30
  placing
• 3:31
  blame
• 3:31
  on
• 3:31
  anyone
• 3:32
  or
• 3:32
  even
• 3:32
  anything.
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  The
• 3:34
  truth
• 3:34
  is
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  a
• 3:35
  lot
• 3:35
  of
• 3:35
  us
• 3:36
  learned
• 3:36
  independence
• 3:38
  before
• 3:38
  we
• 3:38
  knew
• 3:39
  what
• 3:39
  it
• 3:39
  meant.
• 3:40
  We
• 3:40
  watched
• 3:41
  it,
• 3:41
  we
• 3:41
  absorbed
• 3:42
  it.
• 3:43
  We
• 3:43
  saw
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  women
• 3:44
  around
• 3:45
  us
• 3:45
  doing
• 3:46
  everything
• 3:46
  on
• 3:47
  their
• 3:47
  own,
• 3:47
  and
• 3:48
  we
• 3:48
  filed
• 3:49
  it
• 3:49
  away
• 3:49
  as.
• 3:50
  This
• 3:50
  is
• 3:51
  what
• 3:51
  strong
• 3:51
  looks
• 3:51
  like.
• 3:52
  This
• 3:52
  is
• 3:52
  what
• 3:53
  capable
• 3:54
  looks
• 3:54
  like.
• 3:55
  This
• 3:55
  is
• 3:55
  what
• 3:55
  it
• 3:55
  means
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  be
• 3:56
  a
• 3:57
  woman
• 3:57
  who
• 3:57
  has
• 3:58
  it
• 3:58
  together,
• 3:58
  and
• 3:59
  when
• 3:59
  life
• 3:59
  called
• 4:00
  us
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  step
• 4:01
  up
• 4:01
  into
• 4:01
  that
• 4:01
  same
• 4:02
  role
• 4:03
  in
• 4:03
  some
• 4:03
  way,
• 4:04
  shape
• 4:04
  or
• 4:04
  form,
• 4:05
  whether
• 4:05
  we
• 4:06
  chose
• 4:06
  it
• 4:07
  or
• 4:07
  it
• 4:07
  chose
• 4:07
  us.
• 4:10
  We
• 4:10
  already
• 4:11
  knew
• 4:11
  every
• 4:12
  single
• 4:12
  step
• 4:13
  of
• 4:13
  the
• 4:13
  dance
• 4:14
  because
• 4:15
  we'd
• 4:15
  been
• 4:15
  watching
• 4:16
  it
• 4:16
  our
• 4:16
  whole
• 4:16
  lives
• 4:17
  and
• 4:18
  friend.
• 4:18
  There
• 4:19
  is
• 4:19
  something
• 4:20
  genuinely
• 4:20
  beautiful
• 4:21
  about
• 4:21
  that.
• 4:22
  There
• 4:22
  is
• 4:23
  real
• 4:23
  strength
• 4:24
  knowing
• 4:25
  you
• 4:25
  can
• 4:25
  handle
• 4:26
  things.
• 4:27
  There
• 4:27
  is
• 4:27
  a
• 4:28
  power
• 4:29
  in
• 4:29
  being
• 4:30
  resourceful,
• 4:30
  capable,
• 4:31
  and
• 4:31
  self-sufficient,
• 4:33
  and
• 4:33
  I
• 4:33
  don't
• 4:34
  wanna
• 4:34
  miss
• 4:34
  that.
• 4:35
  And
• 4:35
  at
• 4:35
  the
• 4:35
  same
• 4:35
  time,
• 4:36
  here's
• 4:37
  where
• 4:37
  it
• 4:37
  gets
• 4:37
  complicated.
• 4:38
  When
• 4:39
  independence
• 4:39
  is
• 4:40
  the
• 4:40
  only
• 4:40
  example
• 4:41
  you've
• 4:41
  ever
• 4:42
  seen,
• 4:42
  it
• 4:43
  stops
• 4:43
  being
• 4:44
  a
• 4:44
  choice
• 4:45
  and
• 4:45
  it
• 4:45
  becomes
• 4:45
  a
• 4:46
  default.
• 4:47
  It
• 4:47
  becomes
• 4:48
  the
• 4:48
  automatic
• 4:49
  response
• 4:49
  to
• 4:50
  every
• 4:50
  hard.
• 4:51
  Thing.
• 4:52
  Every
• 4:52
  heavy
• 4:53
  season,
• 4:54
  every
• 4:54
  moment
• 4:55
  when
• 4:55
  you
• 4:56
  need
• 4:56
  support
• 4:57
  and
• 4:58
  you
• 4:58
  don't
• 4:58
  realize
• 4:58
  it
• 4:59
  when
• 4:59
  it's
• 4:59
  happening
• 4:59
  because
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  just
• 5:00
  keep
• 5:00
  doing
• 5:01
  what
• 5:01
  you've
• 5:01
  always
• 5:02
  done,
• 5:03
  you
• 5:03
  keep
• 5:03
  carrying,
• 5:04
  you
• 5:05
  keep
• 5:05
  figuring
• 5:06
  it
• 5:06
  out
• 5:06
  and
• 5:06
  showing
• 5:07
  up
• 5:07
  strong
• 5:08
  because.
• 5:09
  That's
• 5:09
  all
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  know
• 5:10
  how
• 5:10
  to
• 5:10
  do
• 5:11
  now,
• 5:11
  friend.
• 5:12
  Let
• 5:12
  me
• 5:12
  just
• 5:12
  be
• 5:13
  honest
• 5:13
  about
• 5:14
  something
• 5:14
  because
• 5:15
  I
• 5:15
  think
• 5:15
  we
• 5:15
  need
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  give
• 5:17
  independence.
• 5:18
  Its
• 5:18
  flowers
• 5:19
  too.
• 5:19
  Okay?
• 5:20
  Because
• 5:20
  listen,
• 5:21
  there
• 5:21
  are
• 5:22
  perks
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  doing
• 5:23
  it
• 5:23
  all
• 5:23
  on
• 5:24
  your
• 5:24
  own,
• 5:24
  okay?
• 5:25
  And
• 5:25
  if
• 5:25
  we
• 5:25
  don't
• 5:26
  acknowledge
• 5:26
  that,
• 5:27
  then
• 5:27
  we're
• 5:27
  not
• 5:27
  being
• 5:28
  fully
• 5:28
  honest.
• 5:29
  Because
• 5:29
  when
• 5:29
  you
• 5:29
  are
• 5:30
  doing
• 5:30
  it
• 5:30
  on
• 5:30
  your
• 5:31
  own,
• 5:31
  you
• 5:32
  get
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  do
• 5:32
  it
• 5:32
  your
• 5:33
  way.
• 5:35
  I'm
• 5:35
  talking
• 5:35
  Frank
• 5:35
  Sinatra,
• 5:36
  my
• 5:37
  way.
• 5:39
  I'm
• 5:39
  talking
• 5:39
  usher
• 5:40
  my
• 5:40
  way.
• 5:44
  There's
• 5:44
  no
• 5:44
  consulting,
• 5:45
  no
• 5:46
  negotiating,
• 5:46
  no
• 5:47
  compromising
• 5:48
  on
• 5:48
  how
• 5:49
  things
• 5:49
  get
• 5:49
  done,
• 5:50
  when
• 5:51
  or
• 5:51
  by
• 5:52
  who.
• 5:52
  You
• 5:53
  make
• 5:53
  the
• 5:53
  call,
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  execute
• 5:55
  the
• 5:55
  plan.
• 5:56
  You
• 5:56
  do
• 5:56
  it
• 5:56
  exactly
• 5:57
  the
• 5:58
  way
• 5:58
  you
• 5:58
  want,
• 6:00
  it's
• 6:00
  done,
• 6:01
  and
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  move
• 6:01
  on.
• 6:02
  And
• 6:02
  friend,
• 6:03
  as
• 6:03
  someone
• 6:03
  who
• 6:03
  has
• 6:04
  been
• 6:04
  very
• 6:04
  particular
• 6:05
  about
• 6:05
  how
• 6:05
  things
• 6:06
  get
• 6:06
  done,
• 6:07
  that
• 6:07
  is
• 6:07
  genuinely
• 6:08
  one
• 6:08
  of
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  gifts
• 6:09
  of
• 6:09
  independence.
• 6:11
  But
• 6:11
  here's
• 6:12
  what
• 6:12
  that
• 6:12
  gift
• 6:13
  cost
• 6:13
  you.
• 6:14
  And
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  need
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  to
• 6:15
  really
• 6:15
  sit
• 6:16
  with
• 6:16
  this.
• 6:17
  It
• 6:17
  is
• 6:18
  perpetually
• 6:19
  exhausting,
• 6:21
  not
• 6:21
  sometimes
• 6:22
  exhausting,
• 6:23
  not
• 6:23
  occasionally
• 6:24
  exhausting.
• 6:24
  I'm
• 6:25
  talking
• 6:25
  perpetually
• 6:27
  exhausting.
• 6:31
  Because
• 6:31
  there
• 6:32
  is
• 6:32
  no
• 6:32
  off
• 6:33
  switch
• 6:33
  friend.
• 6:34
  There
• 6:34
  is
• 6:34
  no
• 6:35
  handing
• 6:35
  it
• 6:35
  off.
• 6:36
  There
• 6:36
  is
• 6:36
  no,
• 6:37
  Hey,
• 6:37
  can
• 6:37
  you
• 6:38
  take
• 6:38
  this
• 6:38
  for
• 6:38
  a
• 6:38
  minute?
• 6:39
  Because
• 6:39
  you
• 6:40
  have
• 6:40
  created
• 6:41
  a
• 6:41
  world
• 6:41
  where
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  are
• 6:42
  the
• 6:43
  only
• 6:43
  one
• 6:43
  who
• 6:43
  can
• 6:44
  do
• 6:44
  it.
• 6:44
  Where
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  are
• 6:45
  the
• 6:45
  only
• 6:46
  one
• 6:46
  who
• 6:46
  does
• 6:46
  it
• 6:47
  right
• 6:48
  where
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  are,
• 6:48
  the
• 6:48
  only
• 6:49
  one
• 6:49
  who
• 6:49
  shows
• 6:50
  up
• 6:50
  the
• 6:51
  way
• 6:51
  it
• 6:51
  needs
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  be
• 6:52
  shown
• 6:52
  up
• 6:52
  for.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:53
  that
• 6:53
  world
• 6:54
  as
• 6:54
  beautifully
• 6:55
  constructed
• 6:56
  as
• 6:56
  it
• 6:56
  is,
• 6:57
  it
• 6:57
  was
• 6:58
  never
• 6:58
  meant
• 6:58
  to
• 6:58
  be
• 6:59
  a
• 6:59
  permanent
• 7:00
  address.
• 7:01
  Okay?
• 7:01
  I
• 7:01
  wanna
• 7:02
  tell
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  about
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  very
• 7:03
  specific
• 7:03
  kind
• 7:04
  of
• 7:04
  moment.
• 7:05
  You
• 7:05
  might
• 7:05
  even
• 7:06
  know
• 7:06
  exactly
• 7:06
  what
• 7:06
  I'm
• 7:07
  talking
• 7:07
  about.
• 7:08
  It's
• 7:08
  the
• 7:08
  moment
• 7:09
  when
• 7:09
  you
• 7:10
  are
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  middle
• 7:11
  of
• 7:11
  everything,
• 7:12
  you're
• 7:12
  carrying
• 7:13
  it,
• 7:13
  managing
• 7:14
  it,
• 7:14
  holding
• 7:14
  it
• 7:14
  all
• 7:14
  together,
• 7:15
  and
• 7:15
  something
• 7:16
  shifts,
• 7:17
  something
• 7:18
  cracks.
• 7:18
  Just
• 7:19
  slightly.
• 7:20
  And
• 7:20
  in
• 7:20
  that
• 7:21
  crack,
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  catch
• 7:22
  a
• 7:22
  glimpse
• 7:23
  of
• 7:23
  something
• 7:24
  that
• 7:24
  takes
• 7:25
  your
• 7:25
  breath
• 7:25
  away,
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  realize,
• 7:27
  oh.
• 7:28
  This
• 7:28
  isn't
• 7:29
  strength.
• 7:29
  This
• 7:30
  is
• 7:31
  survival.
• 7:32
  Not
• 7:32
  because
• 7:33
  you
• 7:33
  couldn't
• 7:33
  handle
• 7:34
  it,
• 7:34
  but
• 7:35
  because
• 7:35
  you
• 7:36
  never
• 7:36
  really
• 7:36
  had
• 7:37
  a
• 7:37
  choice
• 7:38
  and
• 7:38
  friend.
• 7:39
  When
• 7:39
  you
• 7:39
  are
• 7:39
  in
• 7:40
  the
• 7:40
  thick
• 7:40
  of
• 7:40
  it,
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  cannot
• 7:42
  see
• 7:43
  it.
• 7:43
  You
• 7:43
  genuinely
• 7:44
  cannot
• 7:45
  because
• 7:46
  when
• 7:46
  you
• 7:46
  are
• 7:46
  in
• 7:46
  survival
• 7:47
  mode,
• 7:47
  it
• 7:47
  looks
• 7:48
  like
• 7:48
  strength.
• 7:49
  It
• 7:49
  feels.
• 7:50
  Like
• 7:51
  strength
• 7:51
  people
• 7:52
  around
• 7:52
  you,
• 7:53
  they
• 7:53
  call
• 7:53
  it
• 7:53
  strength.
• 7:54
  And
• 7:55
  so
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  keep
• 7:55
  on
• 7:56
  going,
• 7:56
  you
• 7:56
  keep
• 7:57
  carrying,
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  keep
• 7:58
  doing
• 7:59
  what
• 7:59
  survival
• 8:00
  requires,
• 8:02
  It
• 8:02
  is
• 8:02
  only
• 8:03
  when
• 8:03
  you
• 8:03
  put
• 8:03
  it
• 8:03
  down
• 8:04
  when
• 8:04
  life
• 8:05
  gives
• 8:05
  you
• 8:05
  the
• 8:06
  gift
• 8:06
  of
• 8:06
  being
• 8:07
  able
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  set
• 8:08
  it
• 8:08
  down,
• 8:08
  even
• 8:09
  for
• 8:09
  just
• 8:09
  a
• 8:09
  moment
• 8:10
  that
• 8:10
  you
• 8:11
  look
• 8:11
  back
• 8:12
  and
• 8:12
  you
• 8:12
  see
• 8:12
  it
• 8:12
  clearly
• 8:13
  for
• 8:13
  what
• 8:13
  it
• 8:13
  was.
• 8:15
  That
• 8:15
  may
• 8:15
  even
• 8:16
  be
• 8:16
  when
• 8:16
  the
• 8:16
  tears
• 8:17
  come,
• 8:18
  not
• 8:18
  because
• 8:18
  you're
• 8:19
  broken,
• 8:20
  but
• 8:20
  because
• 8:20
  you
• 8:20
  finally
• 8:21
  realize
• 8:22
  how
• 8:22
  long
• 8:23
  you've
• 8:23
  been
• 8:23
  doing
• 8:24
  something
• 8:25
  that
• 8:25
  was
• 8:25
  never
• 8:26
  meant
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  be
• 8:26
  done
• 8:27
  alone,
• 8:29
  and
• 8:29
  you
• 8:29
  grieve
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  little.
• 8:30
  For
• 8:30
  the
• 8:31
  woman
• 8:31
  who
• 8:31
  had
• 8:31
  to
• 8:31
  be
• 8:32
  that
• 8:32
  strong
• 8:33
  for
• 8:33
  so
• 8:33
  long,
• 8:34
  I
• 8:34
  asked
• 8:35
  for
• 8:35
  help
• 8:36
  from
• 8:36
  a
• 8:36
  specific
• 8:37
  handful
• 8:38
  of
• 8:38
  people.
• 8:39
  I
• 8:39
  mean,
• 8:39
  very
• 8:40
  specific
• 8:40
  and
• 8:41
  everything
• 8:41
  else
• 8:42
  I
• 8:42
  did
• 8:42
  on
• 8:42
  my
• 8:43
  own.
• 8:43
  That
• 8:44
  heavy
• 8:44
  lifting
• 8:45
  especially,
• 8:46
  that
• 8:46
  was
• 8:46
  always
• 8:47
  mine
• 8:47
  and
• 8:48
  mine
• 8:48
  alone.
• 8:49
  I
• 8:49
  thought
• 8:50
  that
• 8:50
  was
• 8:50
  just
• 8:51
  who
• 8:51
  I
• 8:51
  was.
• 8:52
  I
• 8:52
  thought
• 8:53
  independence
• 8:54
  was
• 8:54
  my
• 8:54
  identity,
• 8:56
  my
• 8:56
  superpower,
• 8:57
  the
• 8:58
  thing
• 8:58
  that
• 8:58
  made
• 8:59
  me.
• 8:59
  Me
• 9:01
  and
• 9:01
  that's
• 9:01
  until
• 9:02
  I
• 9:02
  met
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  started
• 9:03
  dating
• 9:04
  my
• 9:04
  husband
• 9:05
  and
• 9:06
  everything
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  thought
• 9:06
  I
• 9:07
  knew
• 9:07
  about
• 9:07
  myself.
• 9:08
  Got
• 9:08
  a
• 9:08
  brand
• 9:09
  new
• 9:09
  lens.
• 9:10
  Friend.
• 9:10
  I
• 9:11
  wanna
• 9:11
  tell
• 9:11
  you
• 9:12
  about
• 9:12
  what
• 9:12
  happened
• 9:13
  when
• 9:13
  my
• 9:13
  husband
• 9:14
  came
• 9:14
  into
• 9:15
  my
• 9:15
  life,
• 9:16
  because
• 9:16
  this
• 9:16
  is
• 9:16
  the
• 9:17
  part
• 9:17
  of
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  story
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  don't
• 9:18
  think
• 9:18
  I've
• 9:19
  ever
• 9:19
  fully
• 9:20
  told.
• 9:20
  When
• 9:21
  he
• 9:21
  came
• 9:21
  in,
• 9:22
  he
• 9:22
  didn't
• 9:23
  just
• 9:23
  show
• 9:23
  up
• 9:24
  as
• 9:24
  a
• 9:24
  partner.
• 9:25
  He
• 9:25
  showed
• 9:26
  up
• 9:27
  as
• 9:27
  a
• 9:27
  safe.
• 9:28
  Place
• 9:28
  and
• 9:29
  friend.
• 9:29
  I
• 9:29
  had
• 9:30
  never
• 9:30
  experienced
• 9:31
  that
• 9:31
  before.
• 9:32
  Not
• 9:32
  like
• 9:33
  that,
• 9:33
  not
• 9:34
  in
• 9:34
  that
• 9:35
  particular
• 9:36
  way.
• 9:36
  He
• 9:37
  welcomed
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  heavy
• 9:39
  lifting.
• 9:40
  He
• 9:40
  invited
• 9:41
  me
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  share
• 9:41
  it
• 9:41
  with
• 9:42
  him.
• 9:42
  He
• 9:42
  created
• 9:43
  this
• 9:43
  sense
• 9:44
  of
• 9:44
  safety
• 9:45
  that
• 9:45
  I
• 9:45
  genuinely
• 9:47
  didn't
• 9:47
  even
• 9:47
  know
• 9:48
  was
• 9:48
  available
• 9:49
  to
• 9:49
  me.
• 9:50
  And
• 9:50
  slowly,
• 9:51
  slowly,
• 9:53
  I
• 9:53
  started
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  put
• 9:54
  things
• 9:54
  down.
• 9:55
  Now,
• 9:55
  friend,
• 9:56
  how
• 9:56
  slowly
• 9:57
  is
• 9:57
  still
• 9:58
  very
• 9:58
  much
• 9:58
  up
• 9:59
  for
• 9:59
  debate.
• 9:59
  Okay.
• 9:59
  It
• 10:00
  depends
• 10:00
  on
• 10:00
  who
• 10:00
  you
• 10:00
  ask
• 10:01
  him
• 10:01
  or
• 10:01
  me,
• 10:05
  but
• 10:05
  that
• 10:05
  is
• 10:05
  neither
• 10:06
  here
• 10:06
  nor
• 10:06
  there.
• 10:06
  Okay.
• 10:06
  I
• 10:07
  digress.
• 10:10
  But
• 10:10
  that
• 10:11
  is
• 10:11
  when
• 10:11
  it
• 10:12
  hit
• 10:12
  me.
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  had
• 10:13
  been
• 10:13
  carrying
• 10:14
  all
• 10:15
  of
• 10:15
  this,
• 10:16
  not
• 10:16
  because
• 10:17
  I
• 10:17
  wanted
• 10:17
  to,
• 10:18
  but
• 10:18
  because
• 10:19
  I
• 10:19
  had
• 10:20
  to,
• 10:20
  because
• 10:21
  there
• 10:21
  was
• 10:21
  no
• 10:22
  one
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  trusted
• 10:23
  enough
• 10:24
  to
• 10:24
  hand
• 10:24
  it
• 10:25
  to.
• 10:25
  And
• 10:26
  to
• 10:26
  be
• 10:26
  honest
• 10:26
  with
• 10:27
  you,
• 10:27
  it
• 10:28
  was
• 10:28
  my
• 10:28
  responsibility
• 10:30
  as
• 10:30
  a
• 10:30
  mom.
• 10:31
  But
• 10:31
  even
• 10:32
  being
• 10:32
  a
• 10:32
  mom
• 10:33
  is
• 10:33
  still
• 10:34
  a
• 10:34
  shared
• 10:34
  parental
• 10:35
  experience.
• 10:37
  And
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  be
• 10:38
  really
• 10:38
  honest,
• 10:39
  the
• 10:39
  idea
• 10:40
  of
• 10:40
  needing
• 10:41
  someone
• 10:42
  and
• 10:42
  having
• 10:43
  them
• 10:43
  not
• 10:43
  show
• 10:44
  up.
• 10:45
  There
• 10:45
  were
• 10:45
  so
• 10:45
  many
• 10:45
  times
• 10:46
  it
• 10:46
  felt
• 10:46
  more
• 10:47
  dangerous
• 10:48
  than
• 10:48
  just
• 10:48
  doing
• 10:49
  it
• 10:49
  myself.
• 10:50
  I
• 10:50
  never
• 10:51
  wanted
• 10:51
  to
• 10:51
  feel
• 10:52
  like
• 10:52
  a
• 10:53
  burden,
• 10:53
  and
• 10:54
  that's
• 10:54
  why
• 10:55
  I
• 10:55
  only
• 10:56
  really
• 10:56
  relied
• 10:57
  on
• 10:57
  a
• 10:57
  specific
• 10:59
  handful
• 11:00
  of
• 11:00
  people
• 11:00
  to
• 11:00
  help
• 11:01
  me.
• 11:01
  Because
• 11:02
  I
• 11:02
  wanted
• 11:02
  to
• 11:02
  make
• 11:02
  sure
• 11:03
  that
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  was
• 11:03
  never
• 11:04
  a
• 11:04
  burden.
• 11:05
  So
• 11:06
  I
• 11:06
  shouldered
• 11:06
  a
• 11:06
  lot
• 11:07
  of
• 11:07
  things
• 11:07
  quietly,
• 11:08
  competently,
• 11:09
  gracefully,
• 11:10
  and
• 11:11
  I
• 11:11
  called
• 11:11
  it
• 11:11
  strength.
• 11:12
  But
• 11:13
  when
• 11:13
  he
• 11:13
  said,
• 11:14
  let
• 11:14
  me
• 11:15
  carry
• 11:15
  some
• 11:15
  of
• 11:16
  this
• 11:16
  for
• 11:16
  you,
• 11:17
  and
• 11:18
  I
• 11:18
  actually
• 11:19
  let
• 11:19
  him,
• 11:20
  I
• 11:20
  realized
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  had
• 11:21
  been
• 11:22
  in
• 11:22
  survival
• 11:22
  mode
• 11:23
  on
• 11:23
  repeat
• 11:24
  for
• 11:24
  years,
• 11:25
  and
• 11:25
  it
• 11:26
  was
• 11:26
  never
• 11:27
  meant
• 11:27
  to
• 11:28
  be
• 11:28
  that
• 11:28
  way.
• 11:30
  It's
• 11:30
  in
• 11:30
  this
• 11:30
  space.
• 11:31
  You
• 11:31
  realize
• 11:32
  your
• 11:32
  nervous
• 11:33
  system
• 11:33
  has
• 11:34
  been
• 11:34
  in
• 11:34
  fight
• 11:35
  or
• 11:35
  flight
• 11:35
  for
• 11:36
  years,
• 11:37
  and
• 11:37
  this
• 11:38
  was
• 11:38
  never
• 11:38
  meant
• 11:38
  to
• 11:39
  be
• 11:39
  the
• 11:39
  permanent
• 11:39
  position
• 11:41
  of
• 11:41
  your
• 11:41
  nervous
• 11:41
  system.
• 11:42
  It's
• 11:43
  only
• 11:43
  when
• 11:43
  you
• 11:43
  don't
• 11:44
  have
• 11:44
  to
• 11:44
  carry
• 11:45
  it
• 11:45
  all
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  you
• 11:46
  realize
• 11:47
  you
• 11:47
  were
• 11:48
  only
• 11:48
  carrying
• 11:49
  it
• 11:49
  because
• 11:49
  you
• 11:49
  had
• 11:50
  to,
• 11:50
  not
• 11:51
  because
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  wanted
• 11:52
  to,
• 11:52
  not
• 11:53
  because
• 11:53
  it
• 11:53
  was
• 11:53
  the
• 11:53
  best
• 11:54
  way,
• 11:54
  but
• 11:55
  because
• 11:55
  it
• 11:55
  was
• 11:56
  the
• 11:56
  only
• 11:56
  way
• 11:57
  you
• 11:58
  knew
• 11:59
  and
• 11:59
  friend.
• 12:00
  I
• 12:00
  went
• 12:00
  from
• 12:01
  being
• 12:01
  scared
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  put
• 12:02
  it
• 12:02
  down
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  being
• 12:04
  safe,
• 12:05
  to
• 12:05
  put
• 12:05
  it
• 12:05
  down,
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  that's
• 12:07
  what
• 12:07
  allowed
• 12:07
  me
• 12:08
  to
• 12:08
  finally
• 12:09
  flow
• 12:10
  into
• 12:10
  my
• 12:11
  soft
• 12:11
  girl
• 12:12
  era,
• 12:13
  and
• 12:13
  I
• 12:13
  love
• 12:13
  it.
• 12:17
  when
• 12:17
  I
• 12:17
  really
• 12:18
  set
• 12:18
  it
• 12:18
  down,
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  wasn't
• 12:20
  scared
• 12:20
  anymore.
• 12:21
  I
• 12:21
  was
• 12:22
  ready.
• 12:23
  Now,
• 12:24
  this
• 12:24
  is
• 12:24
  the
• 12:24
  part
• 12:25
  you
• 12:25
  really
• 12:25
  need
• 12:26
  to
• 12:26
  hear
• 12:26
  because
• 12:27
  I
• 12:27
  think
• 12:28
  this
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  going
• 12:29
  to
• 12:29
  set
• 12:29
  somebody
• 12:30
  free
• 12:30
  today.
• 12:33
  There
• 12:34
  is
• 12:34
  a
• 12:34
  difference
• 12:34
  between
• 12:35
  a
• 12:35
  healthy
• 12:36
  independence
• 12:37
  and
• 12:37
  independence
• 12:39
  as
• 12:39
  a
• 12:39
  trauma
• 12:39
  response,
• 12:40
  and
• 12:41
  knowing
• 12:41
  that
• 12:41
  difference
• 12:42
  is.
• 12:42
  Everything
• 12:44
  healthy.
• 12:44
  Independence
• 12:45
  says
• 12:46
  I
• 12:46
  can
• 12:46
  trust
• 12:47
  myself.
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  can
• 12:48
  rely
• 12:48
  on
• 12:49
  me.
• 12:49
  No
• 12:49
  matter
• 12:50
  what
• 12:50
  happens,
• 12:51
  I
• 12:52
  will
• 12:52
  always
• 12:53
  have
• 12:54
  my
• 12:54
  own
• 12:54
  back.
• 12:55
  I
• 12:55
  look
• 12:55
  out
• 12:56
  for
• 12:56
  me.
• 12:57
  I
• 12:57
  take
• 12:57
  care
• 12:58
  of
• 12:58
  me.
• 12:59
  I
• 12:59
  love
• 13:00
  me
• 13:01
  and
• 13:01
  I
• 13:01
  love
• 13:01
  myself
• 13:02
  too
• 13:02
  much
• 13:03
  to
• 13:03
  accept
• 13:04
  anything
• 13:05
  less
• 13:06
  than
• 13:06
  what
• 13:06
  is
• 13:07
  mine.
• 13:08
  That
• 13:08
  is
• 13:08
  healthy
• 13:09
  friend.
• 13:09
  That
• 13:10
  is
• 13:10
  beautiful.
• 13:11
  That
• 13:12
  is
• 13:12
  something
• 13:12
  to
• 13:12
  be
• 13:13
  proud
• 13:13
  of
• 13:14
  and
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  protect.
• 13:15
  But
• 13:16
  independence
• 13:17
  as
• 13:17
  a
• 13:17
  trauma
• 13:17
  response,
• 13:18
  that
• 13:19
  sounds
• 13:20
  different.
• 13:20
  That
• 13:21
  sounds
• 13:21
  like
• 13:22
  this
• 13:22
  is
• 13:22
  the
• 13:22
  only
• 13:23
  way.
• 13:23
  It
• 13:24
  will
• 13:24
  always
• 13:25
  be
• 13:25
  this
• 13:25
  way.
• 13:25
  I
• 13:26
  can't
• 13:26
  trust
• 13:26
  anyone
• 13:27
  to
• 13:27
  help
• 13:27
  me.
• 13:28
  Nobody
• 13:28
  can
• 13:29
  do
• 13:29
  it
• 13:29
  the
• 13:29
  way
• 13:29
  I
• 13:30
  can.
• 13:31
  Or
• 13:31
  if
• 13:31
  I
• 13:31
  need
• 13:31
  someone
• 13:32
  and
• 13:32
  they
• 13:32
  let
• 13:32
  me
• 13:33
  down,
• 13:33
  it'll
• 13:33
  break
• 13:34
  me.
• 13:35
  So
• 13:35
  I
• 13:35
  just
• 13:36
  won't
• 13:36
  need
• 13:36
  anyone.
• 13:37
  Friend,
• 13:38
  do
• 13:38
  you
• 13:38
  hear
• 13:39
  the
• 13:39
  difference?
• 13:40
  One
• 13:41
  is
• 13:41
  self-trust,
• 13:42
  the
• 13:42
  other
• 13:43
  is
• 13:43
  self-protection
• 13:45
  at
• 13:45
  the
• 13:45
  expense
• 13:47
  of
• 13:47
  connection.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:49
  this
• 13:49
  is
• 13:49
  one
• 13:50
  of
• 13:50
  those
• 13:50
  truths
• 13:51
  you
• 13:51
  just
• 13:51
  have
• 13:51
  to
• 13:52
  sit
• 13:52
  beside
• 13:53
  and
• 13:53
  really
• 13:54
  take
• 13:54
  it
• 13:54
  in.
• 13:55
  When
• 13:55
  you
• 13:55
  are
• 13:56
  in
• 13:56
  independence
• 13:57
  as
• 13:57
  a
• 13:57
  trauma
• 13:57
  response,
• 13:59
  There
• 13:59
  are
• 13:59
  sacrifices
• 14:00
  being
• 14:01
  made,
• 14:01
  real
• 14:02
  ones,
• 14:02
  and
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  are
• 14:03
  paying
• 14:04
  the
• 14:04
  price
• 14:05
  for
• 14:05
  every
• 14:05
  single
• 14:06
  one
• 14:06
  of
• 14:06
  them.
• 14:07
  The
• 14:07
  price
• 14:08
  is
• 14:09
  exhaustion,
• 14:10
  the
• 14:10
  loneliness,
• 14:11
  and
• 14:11
  disconnection
• 14:12
  from
• 14:13
  deep
• 14:13
  relationships.
• 14:15
  The
• 14:15
  inability
• 14:15
  to
• 14:16
  receive
• 14:16
  love
• 14:17
  fully
• 14:18
  is
• 14:18
  a
• 14:18
  price,
• 14:19
  the
• 14:19
  constant
• 14:20
  tension
• 14:21
  in
• 14:21
  your
• 14:21
  body
• 14:22
  from
• 14:22
  never
• 14:22
  fully
• 14:23
  resting
• 14:24
  is
• 14:24
  a
• 14:24
  price
• 14:26
  and
• 14:26
  friend.
• 14:27
  You
• 14:27
  have
• 14:27
  been
• 14:27
  paying
• 14:28
  that
• 14:28
  price
• 14:29
  for
• 14:29
  so
• 14:29
  long.
• 14:30
  It
• 14:30
  just
• 14:31
  feels
• 14:31
  normal.
• 14:32
  But
• 14:32
  normal
• 14:33
  doesn't
• 14:33
  mean
• 14:33
  necessary.
• 14:35
  And
• 14:36
  necessary
• 14:36
  doesn't
• 14:37
  mean
• 14:37
  forever.
• 14:38
  I
• 14:38
  truly
• 14:39
  give
• 14:39
  it
• 14:39
  up
• 14:39
  to
• 14:40
  every
• 14:40
  single
• 14:41
  woman
• 14:41
  whose
• 14:42
  circumstances
• 14:43
  forced
• 14:44
  her
• 14:44
  independence.
• 14:45
  For
• 14:46
  every
• 14:46
  woman
• 14:46
  whose
• 14:47
  strength
• 14:47
  was
• 14:48
  not
• 14:48
  a
• 14:48
  choice,
• 14:49
  but
• 14:49
  a
• 14:49
  requirement
• 14:50
  for
• 14:50
  every
• 14:51
  woman
• 14:51
  who
• 14:52
  did
• 14:52
  what
• 14:52
  had
• 14:52
  to
• 14:52
  be
• 14:53
  done,
• 14:53
  because
• 14:54
  there
• 14:54
  simply
• 14:55
  was
• 14:55
  no
• 14:55
  other
• 14:55
  option.
• 14:56
  I
• 14:57
  see
• 14:57
  you.
• 14:58
  I
• 14:58
  honor
• 14:59
  you,
• 14:59
  and
• 14:59
  I
• 15:00
  am
• 15:00
  so,
• 15:01
  so
• 15:01
  proud
• 15:02
  of
• 15:02
  you.
• 15:03
  And
• 15:03
  I
• 15:03
  wanna
• 15:04
  say
• 15:04
  this
• 15:04
  so
• 15:05
  gently.
• 15:06
  Independence
• 15:07
  is
• 15:07
  a
• 15:07
  beautiful
• 15:08
  dance.
• 15:09
  It
• 15:09
  really
• 15:09
  is.
• 15:10
  It
• 15:10
  is
• 15:11
  wonderful
• 15:12
  to
• 15:12
  be
• 15:13
  and
• 15:13
  to
• 15:14
  have,
• 15:15
  and
• 15:15
  I'm
• 15:15
  not
• 15:15
  asking
• 15:16
  you
• 15:16
  to
• 15:16
  give
• 15:17
  it
• 15:17
  up,
• 15:18
  I
• 15:18
  am
• 15:18
  asking
• 15:19
  you
• 15:20
  to
• 15:20
  hold
• 15:20
  it.
• 15:21
  Differently
• 15:22
  because
• 15:23
  independence
• 15:24
  also
• 15:24
  comes
• 15:25
  with
• 15:25
  a
• 15:25
  responsibility
• 15:26
  friend,
• 15:27
  A
• 15:27
  responsibility
• 15:29
  to
• 15:29
  build
• 15:30
  your
• 15:30
  village,
• 15:31
  to
• 15:32
  find
• 15:32
  your
• 15:32
  people,
• 15:33
  to
• 15:34
  create
• 15:34
  the
• 15:35
  community
• 15:35
  where
• 15:35
  you
• 15:36
  collaborate,
• 15:37
  share
• 15:37
  resources,
• 15:38
  depend
• 15:39
  on
• 15:39
  each
• 15:39
  other,
• 15:40
  and
• 15:40
  support
• 15:41
  one
• 15:41
  another
• 15:41
  in
• 15:42
  return.
• 15:43
  Yes,
• 15:44
  you
• 15:44
  can
• 15:44
  do
• 15:45
  it
• 15:45
  on
• 15:45
  your
• 15:45
  own,
• 15:46
  but
• 15:46
  that
• 15:47
  is
• 15:47
  not
• 15:47
  a
• 15:47
  long-term
• 15:48
  plan
• 15:49
  friend
• 15:50
  and
• 15:50
  truth
• 15:50
  be
• 15:51
  told,
• 15:51
  the
• 15:52
  people
• 15:52
  in
• 15:52
  your
• 15:53
  life
• 15:53
  who
• 15:53
  love
• 15:54
  you,
• 15:54
  they
• 15:55
  wanna
• 15:55
  help
• 15:55
  you.
• 15:56
  They
• 15:56
  want
• 15:57
  to
• 15:58
  support
• 15:58
  you
• 15:59
  because
• 16:00
  they
• 16:00
  love
• 16:00
  you.
• 16:01
  They
• 16:01
  don't
• 16:01
  wanna
• 16:01
  see
• 16:02
  you
• 16:02
  struggle,
• 16:03
  and
• 16:03
  they
• 16:03
  don't
• 16:04
  see
• 16:04
  you
• 16:04
  as
• 16:05
  a
• 16:05
  burden.
• 16:06
  I
• 16:06
  really
• 16:07
  need
• 16:07
  you
• 16:07
  to
• 16:07
  hear
• 16:08
  me
• 16:08
  on
• 16:08
  this
• 16:08
  friend.
• 16:09
  No
• 16:09
  one
• 16:10
  sees
• 16:10
  you
• 16:11
  as
• 16:12
  a
• 16:12
  burden.
• 16:14
  You
• 16:15
  are
• 16:15
  not
• 16:16
  a
• 16:16
  burden.
• 16:18
  And
• 16:18
  I
• 16:19
  know
• 16:19
  your
• 16:19
  heart.
• 16:19
  You
• 16:20
  would
• 16:20
  never
• 16:20
  put
• 16:21
  a
• 16:21
  burden
• 16:22
  on
• 16:22
  another
• 16:22
  person.
• 16:23
  Let
• 16:24
  people
• 16:24
  love
• 16:24
  on
• 16:25
  you,
• 16:25
  friend.
• 16:25
  Okay?
• 16:26
  Let
• 16:27
  people
• 16:27
  love
• 16:27
  you.
• 16:28
  And
• 16:29
  here's
• 16:29
  another
• 16:29
  thing
• 16:30
  I
• 16:30
  really
• 16:30
  need
• 16:30
  you
• 16:30
  to
• 16:30
  hear.
• 16:31
  It
• 16:31
  is
• 16:32
  really
• 16:32
  hard
• 16:33
  to
• 16:33
  welcome
• 16:33
  in
• 16:34
  what
• 16:34
  you
• 16:35
  really
• 16:35
  want
• 16:36
  when
• 16:37
  you
• 16:37
  are
• 16:37
  just
• 16:38
  trying
• 16:38
  to
• 16:39
  keep
• 16:39
  your
• 16:39
  head
• 16:40
  above
• 16:41
  water
• 16:42
  deep
• 16:42
  connection.
• 16:43
  Real
• 16:44
  genuine
• 16:45
  soul
• 16:46
  filling
• 16:46
  connection.
• 16:47
  Cannot
• 16:48
  find
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  landing
• 16:49
  place
• 16:50
  in
• 16:50
  survival
• 16:51
  mode.
• 16:52
  There's
• 16:52
  no
• 16:52
  room
• 16:53
  for
• 16:53
  it.
• 16:53
  Your
• 16:54
  armor
• 16:54
  is
• 16:55
  too
• 16:55
  thick,
• 16:56
  the
• 16:56
  walls
• 16:56
  are
• 16:57
  too
• 16:57
  high,
• 16:58
  the
• 16:58
  independence
• 16:59
  is
• 17:00
  too
• 17:00
  bold.
• 17:01
  This
• 17:02
  is
• 17:02
  why
• 17:02
  community
• 17:03
  is
• 17:03
  so
• 17:04
  important,
• 17:05
  not
• 17:05
  just
• 17:06
  nice
• 17:06
  to
• 17:06
  have,
• 17:07
  not
• 17:07
  just
• 17:07
  a
• 17:07
  bonus.
• 17:08
  It
• 17:08
  is
• 17:09
  essential
• 17:10
  because
• 17:10
  you
• 17:10
  were
• 17:10
  never
• 17:11
  meant
• 17:11
  to
• 17:11
  do
• 17:12
  this
• 17:12
  alone
• 17:13
  permanently.
• 17:15
  So
• 17:15
  today
• 17:16
  I
• 17:16
  wanna
• 17:16
  invite
• 17:17
  you,
• 17:17
  if
• 17:17
  you
• 17:18
  are
• 17:18
  the
• 17:18
  woman
• 17:18
  whose
• 17:19
  independence
• 17:20
  has
• 17:20
  stretched
• 17:21
  from
• 17:21
  strength
• 17:22
  to
• 17:22
  survival,
• 17:23
  I
• 17:23
  invite
• 17:24
  you
• 17:24
  to
• 17:25
  be
• 17:25
  open.
• 17:26
  Open
• 17:27
  to
• 17:27
  allowing
• 17:27
  people
• 17:28
  to
• 17:28
  support
• 17:29
  you,
• 17:30
  open
• 17:30
  to
• 17:30
  allowing
• 17:31
  people
• 17:31
  to
• 17:32
  love
• 17:32
  on
• 17:32
  you.
• 17:33
  Open
• 17:33
  to
• 17:34
  putting
• 17:34
  some
• 17:34
  of
• 17:34
  it
• 17:35
  down
• 17:35
  and
• 17:36
  seeing
• 17:36
  what
• 17:36
  happens
• 17:37
  when
• 17:37
  you
• 17:37
  do.
• 17:38
  Because
• 17:38
  friend,
• 17:39
  you
• 17:39
  deserve
• 17:40
  it.
• 17:40
  Not
• 17:41
  someday,
• 17:42
  right
• 17:43
  now,
• 17:43
  exactly
• 17:45
  as
• 17:45
  you
• 17:45
  are
• 17:46
  where
• 17:46
  you
• 17:47
  are.
• 17:48
  You
• 17:48
  deserve
• 17:49
  to
• 17:49
  be
• 17:49
  held.
• 17:50
  You
• 17:50
  deserve
• 17:51
  to
• 17:51
  be
• 17:51
  supported.
• 17:52
  You
• 17:53
  deserve
• 17:54
  to
• 17:54
  put
• 17:54
  it
• 17:54
  down.
• 17:57
  Hey
• 17:57
  friend.
• 17:58
  Okay,
• 17:58
  real
• 17:59
  talk
• 17:59
  for
• 17:59
  a
• 17:59
  second.
• 18:00
  If
• 18:00
  today's
• 18:01
  episode
• 18:02
  has
• 18:02
  got
• 18:02
  you
• 18:02
  in
• 18:02
  your
• 18:03
  feelings,
• 18:05
  if
• 18:05
  you
• 18:05
  are
• 18:05
  sitting
• 18:06
  there
• 18:06
  like,
• 18:06
  okay,
• 18:07
  she
• 18:07
  is
• 18:07
  talking
• 18:07
  directly
• 18:08
  to
• 18:09
  me,
• 18:10
  then
• 18:10
  I
• 18:10
  really
• 18:11
  want
• 18:11
  you
• 18:11
  to
• 18:11
  grab
• 18:11
  the
• 18:12
  Main
• 18:12
  Character
• 18:13
  Energy
• 18:13
  Journal
• 18:13
  Prompts,
• 18:14
  because
• 18:14
  here's
• 18:15
  the
• 18:15
  thing,
• 18:15
  we
• 18:16
  can
• 18:16
  have
• 18:16
  all
• 18:17
  the
• 18:17
  awareness
• 18:17
  in
• 18:17
  the
• 18:18
  world,
• 18:18
  but
• 18:19
  if
• 18:19
  we
• 18:19
  don't
• 18:19
  actually
• 18:20
  do
• 18:20
  something
• 18:21
  with
• 18:21
  it,
• 18:22
  we
• 18:22
  just
• 18:23
  keep
• 18:23
  going
• 18:23
  in
• 18:23
  circles,
• 18:24
  friend,
• 18:24
  and
• 18:25
  I
• 18:25
  don't
• 18:25
  want
• 18:25
  that
• 18:25
  for
• 18:26
  you.
• 18:26
  These
• 18:27
  prompts
• 18:28
  are
• 18:28
  going
• 18:28
  to
• 18:28
  help
• 18:28
  you
• 18:29
  get
• 18:29
  honest
• 18:30
  with
• 18:30
  yourself
• 18:30
  in
• 18:31
  the
• 18:31
  most
• 18:31
  loving,
• 18:32
  grace-filled
• 18:33
  way
• 18:33
  possible.
• 18:35
  No
• 18:35
  tough
• 18:35
  love,
• 18:36
  no
• 18:36
  shame.
• 18:37
  Just
• 18:37
  you,
• 18:38
  your
• 18:38
  journal
• 18:39
  and
• 18:39
  some
• 18:39
  really,
• 18:40
  really
• 18:40
  good
• 18:40
  questions
• 18:41
  that
• 18:41
  are
• 18:41
  going
• 18:41
  to
• 18:41
  help
• 18:42
  you
• 18:42
  figure
• 18:42
  out
• 18:42
  where
• 18:43
  survival
• 18:43
  mode
• 18:44
  has
• 18:44
  been
• 18:44
  running
• 18:45
  your
• 18:45
  life
• 18:45
  and
• 18:45
  what
• 18:46
  it
• 18:46
  actually
• 18:46
  looks
• 18:47
  like
• 18:47
  to
• 18:47
  put
• 18:48
  it
• 18:48
  down,
• 18:49
  friend,
• 18:49
  I
• 18:50
  made
• 18:50
  these
• 18:51
  just
• 18:51
  for
• 18:51
  you
• 18:52
  for
• 18:52
  this
• 18:53
  moment.
• 18:53
  For
• 18:53
  the
• 18:54
  woman
• 18:54
  who
• 18:54
  just
• 18:54
  heard
• 18:54
  something
• 18:55
  that
• 18:55
  cracked
• 18:56
  something
• 18:56
  open
• 18:57
  and
• 18:58
  needs
• 18:58
  somewhere
• 18:59
  to
• 18:59
  go
• 18:59
  with
• 18:59
  it,
• 19:01
  the
• 19:01
  link
• 19:01
  is
• 19:02
  in
• 19:02
  the
• 19:02
  show
• 19:02
  notes,
• 19:03
  grab
• 19:03
  it.
• 19:04
  I
• 19:04
  promise
• 19:04
  you
• 19:05
  you
• 19:05
  need
• 19:06
  this
• 19:06
  right
• 19:06
  now.
• 19:06
  So
• 19:07
  let's
• 19:07
  get
• 19:07
  back
• 19:08
  into
• 19:08
  it.
• 19:10
  Okay
• 19:11
  friend.
• 19:12
  You
• 19:12
  know
• 19:12
  what
• 19:12
  time
• 19:12
  it
• 19:12
  is.
• 19:13
  It
• 19:13
  is
• 19:13
  the
• 19:14
  time
• 19:14
  for
• 19:14
  our
• 19:14
  favorite,
• 19:15
  the
• 19:15
  Self
• 19:16
  Love
• 19:16
  two
• 19:17
  step.
• 19:17
  And
• 19:17
  you
• 19:17
  know,
• 19:18
  I
• 19:18
  brought
• 19:18
  the
• 19:19
  remix
• 19:19
  today,
• 19:19
  so
• 19:20
  stay
• 19:20
  with
• 19:20
  me
• 19:21
  because
• 19:21
  step
• 19:22
  three
• 19:22
  is
• 19:22
  everything.
• 19:25
  Step
• 19:26
  one,
• 19:26
  recognize
• 19:28
  the
• 19:28
  survival
• 19:29
  mode,
• 19:29
  friend.
• 19:30
  You
• 19:30
  gotta
• 19:30
  get
• 19:30
  honest
• 19:31
  with
• 19:31
  yourself
• 19:31
  about
• 19:32
  this
• 19:32
  one.
• 19:32
  Open
• 19:33
  up
• 19:33
  your
• 19:33
  journal
• 19:34
  and
• 19:34
  answer
• 19:34
  this
• 19:35
  question
• 19:35
  without
• 19:36
  editing
• 19:36
  yourself.
• 19:37
  Where
• 19:38
  in
• 19:38
  my
• 19:38
  life
• 19:39
  right
• 19:39
  now
• 19:40
  is
• 19:40
  my
• 19:40
  independence.
• 19:42
  Operating
• 19:42
  from
• 19:43
  survival
• 19:43
  mode
• 19:44
  instead
• 19:45
  of
• 19:45
  strength.
• 19:46
  What
• 19:47
  am
• 19:47
  I
• 19:47
  carrying
• 19:48
  that
• 19:49
  I
• 19:49
  was
• 19:49
  never
• 19:49
  meant
• 19:50
  to
• 19:50
  carry
• 19:51
  alone?
• 19:52
  Write
• 19:52
  it
• 19:52
  all
• 19:53
  out,
• 19:53
  friend.
• 19:53
  Don't
• 19:54
  filter
• 19:54
  it.
• 19:55
  Don't
• 19:55
  minimize
• 19:56
  it.
• 19:56
  Just
• 19:57
  name
• 19:57
  it
• 19:58
  because
• 19:58
  you
• 19:58
  cannot
• 19:59
  put
• 19:59
  down
• 20:00
  what
• 20:00
  you
• 20:00
  haven't
• 20:01
  acknowledged
• 20:02
  you're
• 20:02
  holding.
• 20:03
  Step
• 20:04
  two,
• 20:04
  identify
• 20:05
  one
• 20:06
  open
• 20:06
  door.
• 20:07
  Now
• 20:07
  take
• 20:08
  what
• 20:08
  you
• 20:08
  just
• 20:08
  named
• 20:09
  and
• 20:09
  ask
• 20:09
  yourself
• 20:10
  where
• 20:10
  is
• 20:11
  the
• 20:11
  one
• 20:11
  place
• 20:12
  I
• 20:12
  can
• 20:12
  invite
• 20:13
  support
• 20:13
  in
• 20:14
  right
• 20:15
  now?
• 20:15
  One
• 20:16
  thing
• 20:16
  I
• 20:16
  can
• 20:16
  put
• 20:16
  down,
• 20:17
  one
• 20:18
  person
• 20:18
  I
• 20:18
  can
• 20:18
  trust
• 20:19
  with
• 20:19
  even
• 20:20
  a
• 20:20
  small
• 20:21
  part
• 20:21
  of
• 20:21
  this
• 20:22
  load.
• 20:22
  One
• 20:23
  door
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  can
• 20:24
  open
• 20:25
  to
• 20:25
  let
• 20:25
  someone
• 20:26
  in.
• 20:27
  Friend.
• 20:28
  It
• 20:28
  doesn't
• 20:29
  have
• 20:29
  to
• 20:29
  be
• 20:30
  everything.
• 20:31
  Just
• 20:31
  one
• 20:32
  thing,
• 20:32
  one
• 20:33
  door,
• 20:33
  one
• 20:34
  moment
• 20:34
  of
• 20:35
  choosing
• 20:35
  connection
• 20:36
  over
• 20:37
  carrying.
• 20:38
  That
• 20:38
  is
• 20:39
  where
• 20:39
  it
• 20:39
  starts.
• 20:40
  And
• 20:40
  step
• 20:41
  three
• 20:41
  is
• 20:42
  the
• 20:42
  you
• 20:42
  step.
• 20:43
  And
• 20:43
  this
• 20:44
  is
• 20:44
  where
• 20:44
  you
• 20:44
  get,
• 20:44
  still
• 20:45
  get
• 20:45
  quiet
• 20:46
  and
• 20:46
  ask
• 20:47
  yourself,
• 20:48
  what
• 20:48
  is
• 20:48
  my
• 20:49
  heart
• 20:49
  telling
• 20:50
  me
• 20:50
  to
• 20:51
  do
• 20:51
  next?
• 20:52
  Not
• 20:53
  what
• 20:53
  survival
• 20:54
  mode
• 20:54
  would
• 20:54
  do,
• 20:55
  not
• 20:55
  what
• 20:56
  your
• 20:56
  fancy
• 20:57
  armor
• 20:57
  would
• 20:57
  do.
• 20:58
  What
• 20:58
  does
• 20:59
  the
• 20:59
  woman
• 20:59
  who
• 21:00
  knows
• 21:00
  she
• 21:01
  deserved
• 21:01
  to
• 21:02
  be
• 21:02
  held
• 21:02
  and
• 21:03
  supported
• 21:04
  do
• 21:04
  next?
• 21:06
  And
• 21:06
  that
• 21:06
  is
• 21:06
  the
• 21:06
  next
• 21:07
  right
• 21:07
  aligned
• 21:08
  step
• 21:08
  for
• 21:08
  you,
• 21:08
  friend.
• 21:09
  Trust
• 21:10
  her.
• 21:10
  She
• 21:11
  has
• 21:11
  always
• 21:12
  known.
• 21:13
  Now
• 21:14
  lemme
• 21:14
  pour
• 21:15
  into
• 21:15
  you
• 21:15
  real
• 21:15
  quick
• 21:16
  because
• 21:16
  I
• 21:17
  need
• 21:17
  a
• 21:17
  moment
• 21:18
  before
• 21:18
  we
• 21:18
  close
• 21:19
  because
• 21:19
  I
• 21:19
  wanna
• 21:20
  speak
• 21:20
  directly
• 21:21
  to
• 21:21
  the
• 21:22
  woman
• 21:22
  who
• 21:22
  has
• 21:23
  been
• 21:23
  strong
• 21:24
  for
• 21:24
  so
• 21:25
  long.
• 21:25
  She
• 21:26
  forgot
• 21:26
  what
• 21:26
  it
• 21:26
  felt
• 21:27
  like
• 21:27
  to
• 21:27
  rest.
• 21:29
  You
• 21:29
  have
• 21:30
  been
• 21:30
  carrying
• 21:30
  so
• 21:31
  much
• 21:32
  with
• 21:32
  so
• 21:32
  much
• 21:32
  grace,
• 21:34
  so
• 21:34
  much
• 21:34
  quiet
• 21:35
  strength
• 21:36
  that
• 21:36
  most
• 21:36
  people
• 21:37
  have
• 21:37
  no
• 21:38
  idea.
• 21:40
  How
• 21:40
  heavy
• 21:41
  it
• 21:41
  actually
• 21:42
  was,
• 21:42
  and
• 21:43
  I
• 21:43
  just
• 21:43
  want
• 21:44
  you
• 21:44
  to
• 21:44
  know
• 21:45
  that
• 21:45
  was
• 21:45
  not
• 21:46
  weakness,
• 21:47
  nor
• 21:47
  was
• 21:48
  it
• 21:48
  failure.
• 21:49
  That
• 21:49
  was
• 21:49
  a
• 21:49
  woman
• 21:50
  doing
• 21:50
  what
• 21:51
  she
• 21:51
  had
• 21:51
  to
• 21:51
  do
• 21:52
  in
• 21:52
  the
• 21:52
  season
• 21:53
  she
• 21:54
  was
• 21:54
  in,
• 21:55
  and
• 21:55
  she
• 21:55
  did
• 21:56
  it
• 21:56
  beautifully.
• 21:58
  But
• 21:58
  friend,
• 21:59
  that
• 21:59
  season
• 22:00
  does
• 22:00
  not
• 22:00
  have
• 22:01
  to
• 22:01
  be
• 22:01
  forever.
• 22:03
  You
• 22:03
  are
• 22:03
  allowed
• 22:04
  to
• 22:04
  put
• 22:04
  it
• 22:04
  down.
• 22:05
  You
• 22:05
  are
• 22:06
  allowed
• 22:06
  to
• 22:06
  need
• 22:07
  people.
• 22:08
  You
• 22:08
  are
• 22:08
  allowed
• 22:09
  to
• 22:09
  be
• 22:09
  held
• 22:10
  to
• 22:11
  stop
• 22:11
  surviving
• 22:12
  and
• 22:12
  start
• 22:13
  actually
• 22:14
  living
• 22:15
  the
• 22:15
  softness
• 22:16
  you've
• 22:16
  been
• 22:17
  afraid
• 22:17
  to
• 22:17
  step
• 22:18
  into.
• 22:19
  It
• 22:19
  was
• 22:19
  never
• 22:20
  a
• 22:20
  threat
• 22:21
  to
• 22:21
  your
• 22:21
  strength.
• 22:23
  It
• 22:23
  was
• 22:23
  always
• 22:24
  the
• 22:24
  reward
• 22:25
  for
• 22:25
  it.
• 22:26
  You
• 22:26
  earned
• 22:27
  the
• 22:27
  soft
• 22:28
  girl
• 22:28
  era
• 22:29
  friend,
• 22:29
  even
• 22:30
  when
• 22:30
  you
• 22:30
  didn't
• 22:30
  have
• 22:31
  to
• 22:31
  earn
• 22:31
  it
• 22:32
  every
• 22:32
  single
• 22:33
  day
• 22:33
  of
• 22:34
  carrying
• 22:35
  prepared
• 22:35
  you
• 22:36
  for
• 22:36
  the
• 22:36
  season
• 22:37
  of
• 22:37
  being
• 22:38
  carried
• 22:39
  and
• 22:39
  you
• 22:39
  deserve.
• 22:41
  Every
• 22:41
  single
• 22:41
  beautiful
• 22:42
  moment
• 22:43
  of
• 22:43
  it,
• 22:43
  friend.
• 22:44
  Independence
• 22:45
  is
• 22:46
  a
• 22:46
  superpower
• 22:47
  and
• 22:47
  so
• 22:48
  is
• 22:48
  knowing
• 22:49
  when
• 22:49
  to
• 22:49
  put
• 22:49
  it
• 22:50
  down.
• 22:50
  You
• 22:51
  were
• 22:51
  built
• 22:51
  for
• 22:52
  more
• 22:52
  than
• 22:52
  survival.
• 22:53
  You
• 22:54
  were
• 22:54
  built
• 22:54
  for
• 22:54
  connection,
• 22:56
  for
• 22:56
  community,
• 22:57
  for
• 22:57
  deep
• 22:57
  soul,
• 22:58
  filling
• 22:59
  love.
• 23:00
  And
• 23:00
  support
• 23:01
  that
• 23:01
  you
• 23:01
  didn't
• 23:01
  have
• 23:02
  to
• 23:02
  earn
• 23:02
  or
• 23:03
  perform
• 23:03
  for.
• 23:04
  So
• 23:04
  recognize
• 23:05
  when
• 23:06
  survival
• 23:06
  mode
• 23:07
  has
• 23:07
  taken
• 23:08
  the
• 23:08
  wheel,
• 23:09
  build
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  village,
• 23:10
  open
• 23:10
  the
• 23:11
  door,
• 23:11
  let
• 23:12
  people
• 23:12
  in
• 23:13
  and
• 23:14
  know
• 23:14
  that
• 23:14
  putting
• 23:15
  it
• 23:15
  down
• 23:16
  is
• 23:16
  not
• 23:16
  weakness.
• 23:17
  It
• 23:17
  is
• 23:18
  the
• 23:18
  bravest
• 23:19
  thing
• 23:19
  you
• 23:20
  may
• 23:20
  ever
• 23:21
  do.
• 23:22
  And
• 23:22
  I'm
• 23:22
  so
• 23:22
  proud
• 23:23
  of
• 23:23
  you,
• 23:23
  so
• 23:24
  friend.
• 23:24
  Make
• 23:25
  sure
• 23:25
  that
• 23:25
  you
• 23:25
  go
• 23:26
  and
• 23:26
  listen
• 23:27
  to
• 23:27
  the
• 23:28
  companion
• 23:28
  YouTube
• 23:29
  video.
• 23:30
  It'll
• 23:30
  be
• 23:30
  up
• 23:30
  later
• 23:31
  today.
• 23:32
  The
• 23:32
  link
• 23:32
  to
• 23:32
  the
• 23:33
  channel
• 23:33
  is
• 23:33
  in
• 23:33
  the
• 23:34
  show
• 23:34
  notes
• 23:34
  And
• 23:34
  friend,
• 23:35
  if
• 23:35
  this
• 23:35
  episode
• 23:36
  hit
• 23:36
  home,
• 23:37
  I
• 23:37
  wanna
• 23:37
  know
• 23:37
  all
• 23:38
  about
• 23:38
  it.
• 23:38
  And
• 23:39
  since
• 23:39
  YouTube
• 23:40
  is
• 23:40
  exactly
• 23:41
  where
• 23:41
  I'm
• 23:41
  hanging
• 23:41
  out
• 23:41
  these
• 23:42
  days,
• 23:42
  make
• 23:43
  sure
• 23:43
  to
• 23:43
  comment
• 23:44
  on
• 23:44
  the
• 23:45
  video
• 23:45
  and
• 23:45
  tell
• 23:46
  me
• 23:46
  what
• 23:47
  are
• 23:47
  you
• 23:47
  ready
• 23:47
  to
• 23:48
  put
• 23:48
  down
• 23:49
  because
• 23:49
  we
• 23:50
  are
• 23:50
  celebrating
• 23:51
  every
• 23:51
  single
• 23:52
  woman
• 23:52
  who
• 23:52
  makes
• 23:53
  that
• 23:53
  decision
• 23:54
  today.
• 23:55
  Okay,
• 23:55
  friend?
• 23:56
  Ooh,
• 23:57
  yes.
• 23:58
  Friend.
• 23:59
  Remember,
• 24:00
  you
• 24:01
  are
• 24:01
  not
• 24:01
  an
• 24:02
  extra
• 24:02
  in
• 24:03
  somebody
• 24:03
  else's
• 24:03
  story.
• 24:04
  You
• 24:05
  are
• 24:05
  the
• 24:05
  main
• 24:06
  character
• 24:06
  of
• 24:06
  your
• 24:07
  own
• 24:07
  story,
• 24:08
  so
• 24:08
  go
• 24:09
  be
• 24:09
  her,
• 24:10
  the
• 24:10
  one
• 24:10
  you
• 24:11
  have
• 24:12
  been
• 24:12
  becoming.
• 24:13
  She
• 24:14
  has
• 24:14
  been
• 24:14
  waiting
• 24:14
  on
• 24:15
  you
• 24:15
  to
• 24:15
  live
• 24:16
  out
• 24:16
  loud.
• 24:17
  No
• 24:17
  matter
• 24:18
  what
• 24:18
  comes
• 24:19
  your
• 24:19
  way
• 24:19
  together,
• 24:20
  we
• 24:20
  can
• 24:21
  encourage
• 24:22
  over
• 24:22
  everything.
• 24:24
  Love
• 24:24
  you
• 24:24
  friend,
• 24:25
  and
• 24:25
  sending
• 24:25
  you
• 24:26
  great
• 24:27
  big
• 24:27
  virtual
• 24:28
  hugs.