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242. Right Now is Your Power · Your Enriched Self

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Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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Speaker 1: to your Enriched Self podcast. I'm your host, milein Noir.
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Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and what
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Speaker 1: that means is I am looking out for you. I
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Speaker 1: know that you live a life where you seldom get
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Speaker 1: an opportunity to spend time managing your thoughts. And that's
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Speaker 1: what this podcast is platform is all about, is to
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Speaker 1: help you become more of your enriched self. And that's
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Speaker 1: going to require some intentional action, right. It's going to
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Speaker 1: start with managing your thoughts. And as you manage your thoughts,
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Speaker 1: it helps to manage your words, and those words then
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Speaker 1: become the action and the activity that you take into
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Speaker 1: your day, take into your life. Because I know if
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Speaker 1: you're listening to this podcast, you want to be the
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Speaker 1: best version of yourself and it all starts with your thoughts. So,
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Speaker 1: if you are new to this podcast, I want to
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Speaker 1: welcome you to your Enriched Self family. I know that
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Speaker 1: you were brought here on purpose, for a purpose. And
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Speaker 1: if you are a repeat listener, if you have been
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Speaker 1: listening to the podcast, we are almost five years on
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Speaker 1: the journey, and I tell you what I could not
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Speaker 1: have done it without you. We are celebrating episode two
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Speaker 1: hundred and forty two today, and yes, we are celebrating
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Speaker 1: because around here in these podcast streets, we celebrate life.
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Speaker 1: We celebrate moments, we celebrate wins, we celebrate big, small,
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Speaker 1: me the opportunity to celebrate by sharing, by liking, and
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Speaker 1: being part of the conversation to become more of your
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Speaker 1: enriched self. Now, if you know you know, one of
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Speaker 1: the things I do on this podcast each and every
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Speaker 1: week is I make a deposit into the bank of you,
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Speaker 1: and I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are
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Speaker 1: a great way to start your day and to command
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Speaker 1: your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I release what
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Speaker 1: I cannot control. I release what I cannot control. I
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Speaker 1: release what I cannot control. Now, let's get ready for
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Speaker 1: this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self Podcast. I
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Speaker 1: remember when COVID nineteen hit the scene on the world
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Speaker 1: stage and the impacts it had on our individual and
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Speaker 1: collective lives as a culture, as a world, as a nation.
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Speaker 1: One of the things I remember distinctly during that time
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Speaker 1: is I spent a lot of time alone. Of course
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Speaker 1: we were social distancing and all of the things that
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Speaker 1: went along with that, but I remember being intentional during
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Speaker 1: that season of finding quiet moments, holy moments, moments where
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Speaker 1: although I have a family at home, I would find
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Speaker 1: time to be alone, and during that time it allowed
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Speaker 1: me to I would say, empty my mind, get quiet,
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Speaker 1: get grounded. There's so many different ways. I remember how
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Speaker 1: beautiful it was just to sit outside. Of course, I
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Speaker 1: was working from home back then, and get up in
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Speaker 1: the morning and hear the birds chirping and really enjoy
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Speaker 1: that and be in that moment. And I don't have
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Speaker 1: as many moments like I had then that I do now,
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Speaker 1: But I think it all starts with intention. And so
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Speaker 1: as I was thinking about this episode, I was thinking
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Speaker 1: about what can I do to change or be the
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Speaker 1: change in my life that I want to experience, because
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Speaker 1: I want to experience more of those moments where I
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Speaker 1: can empty my mind and get quiet. If I were
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Speaker 1: to ask you how often are you actually here? What
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Speaker 1: would be your answer? Yeah? I pause because I want
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Speaker 1: you to think about that question. It may sound confusing,
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Speaker 1: but what tends to happen, and what I found happening
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Speaker 1: is when I am in my moment where I can
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Speaker 1: get quiet. I'm replaying something happened. Have you found yourself
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Speaker 1: being in a moment of quiet, of silence, of disconnect,
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Speaker 1: But now you're replaying something that's already happened. Or maybe
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Speaker 1: you're in a space now you're stressing out about something
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Speaker 1: that hasn't even happened yet. Right You're focus on some acts,
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Speaker 1: some activity that's coming up that hasn't come up yet,
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Speaker 1: and you're stressing out about it. And so what this
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Speaker 1: episode is intended to do is to ground you back
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Speaker 1: into the now so that you can be fully present
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Speaker 1: as your life is actually happening right now. The truth
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Speaker 1: is so many of you, and I include myself in that,
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Speaker 1: are living everywhere, living everywhere, but in the present moment.
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Speaker 1: That is probably why you feel stuck. You feel overwhelmed,
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Speaker 1: and you're in a cycle of overthinking. I don't want
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Speaker 1: to talk about overthinking today, but we will talk about
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Speaker 1: that today. I want to talk about the power of
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Speaker 1: now and how significant shifting your focus to what is
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Speaker 1: in this moment can completely change how you think, how
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Speaker 1: you move, and how you live. And I know that
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Speaker 1: sounds big and bold, but it is. There's a book
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Speaker 1: by Ecker totally. It is called the power of Now,
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Speaker 1: and he talks about and illustrates in the book how
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Speaker 1: there are people who live trapped in two different kind
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Speaker 1: of illusions. One illusion is the illusion of the past,
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Speaker 1: so they're always focused in on identity, regret, pain, and
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Speaker 1: their stories. And then there is the person in the
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Speaker 1: illusion of the future that is controlled by anxiety. They
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Speaker 1: focus on controlling the narrative, controlling everything that's coming up
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Speaker 1: and all of the what if, what if? What if?
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Speaker 1: What if? And if you know? You know, they're not
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Speaker 1: thinking about what if all goes well, they're often thinking
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Speaker 1: about the opposite of that. The truth is your life
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Speaker 1: exists in the present moment. So that's what I want
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Speaker 1: to engage with in today's conversation is to help you
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Speaker 1: step in to your power, and your power is now.
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Speaker 1: Here's what needs to happen. First of all, there has
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Speaker 1: to be an awareness. You can't change anything that you're
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Speaker 1: just unconsciously aware of, right, So it can't be an afterthought.
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Speaker 1: You must have an awareness so you can break the cycle.
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Speaker 1: Here's what I mean by that. If you are overthinking,
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Speaker 1: it's coming from a place where you have not spent
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Speaker 1: time as I say on this podcast, managing your thoughts.
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Speaker 1: So your thoughts are almost running wild and they're actually
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Speaker 1: going through this continuous loop. It's going to be important
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Speaker 1: in terms of the awareness that the moment you observe yourself.
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Speaker 1: So you're managing your thoughts now that you are thinking,
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Speaker 1: you want to create the space between you and the
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Speaker 1: thinking that can simply come by you saying just because
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Speaker 1: I'm thinking it, right, that's your thought. There's a space between.
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Speaker 1: That doesn't make it true. That doesn't make it helpful
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Speaker 1: or useful to me now, because the truth is you
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Speaker 1: have And we talked about automatic negative thoughts. This was
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Speaker 1: one of my I would say episode season year one
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Speaker 1: of the podcast. I talk about ants, automatic negative thoughts,
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Speaker 1: And in that episode we talk about how we have
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Speaker 1: about eighty thousand thoughts a day and eighty percent of
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Speaker 1: those thoughts are negative automatically right. And so so that
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Speaker 1: begs the idea right here that says, just because I'm
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Speaker 1: thinking it, it doesn't make it true. So if you
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Speaker 1: agree to every thought that you have process in your mind,
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Speaker 1: and you believe that that thought even though it has
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Speaker 1: not been proven, even though there is no evidence, you
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Speaker 1: just know that because it came into your mind that
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Speaker 1: it is actual facts, which is not true. It's more
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Speaker 1: feelings and more looped thoughts. You start to create a
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Speaker 1: narrative that tells you that this thing is true. And
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Speaker 1: so that's why you need to create an awareness of
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Speaker 1: it and give a space between the thought and the
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Speaker 1: actual truth of it. And the truth is, it doesn't
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Speaker 1: make it true because you thought of it. Okay. The
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Speaker 1: other piece of this conversation is that we must be
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Speaker 1: in the present. The present is where your activity lives.
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Speaker 1: The present is where your activity lives. I'll say it
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Speaker 1: this way. The present is your present. It's your presence
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Speaker 1: that means I have this great gift of life in
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Speaker 1: this moment. I mean when you think about the fact
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Speaker 1: that you're alive, and you think about statistically the lifespan
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Speaker 1: and statistically the people that die every minute of the day,
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Speaker 1: and we still get to take in the air. The
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Speaker 1: present is a present and the present requires your presence.
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Speaker 1: You need to be aware that you are here, right,
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Speaker 1: So you're reflecting on the past or planning from the future,
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Speaker 1: doesn't allow you to be present, doesn't allow you to
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Speaker 1: appreciate the present that you have, which is life. Right,
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Speaker 1: you throw out when you are not in the present
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Speaker 1: moment gratitude. And what I'm asking you to do in
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Speaker 1: this moment is to experience the gratitude of now that
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Speaker 1: you have the now that you can act. You can
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Speaker 1: you can act in the now. You can now the
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Speaker 1: past has already passed. You cannot take activity to the past.
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Speaker 1: The future hasn't occurred yet. You cannot create activity to
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Speaker 1: the future because you're not standing sitting living in it.
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Speaker 1: But the present is where you live, and that is
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Speaker 1: where you can act. When you overthink, it honestly thrives
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Speaker 1: into inaction. There's no action happening in thinking. It is
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Speaker 1: the constant looping of thoughts. They don't serve you, they
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Speaker 1: are not true, and you just continue to have them
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Speaker 1: looped in. And that's where the anxiety and all of
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Speaker 1: those things start to come in, because you're just looping.
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Speaker 1: So here's what you ask yourself. This is how you
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Speaker 1: trigger your mind in another form by asking yourself this question,
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Speaker 1: what can I do now? What can I do today?
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Speaker 1: What steps can I take now? What steps can I
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Speaker 1: take today that keeps you present, that keeps you acting
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Speaker 1: on things you can manage you can't manage yesterday. And
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Speaker 1: you can't yet manage tomorrow, but you can today. And
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Speaker 1: that's what this is all about. This is where you
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Speaker 1: build habits that help you day in the present moment. Finally,
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Speaker 1: I need for you to understand, and I think a
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Speaker 1: lot of you understand this. This is something that I relish,
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Speaker 1: I appreciate, and this is what I want for my life.
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Speaker 1: I want peace, and I believe everyone listening to the
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Speaker 1: sound of my voice wants to have peace in their life.
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Speaker 1: I will tell you how you don't have peace in
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Speaker 1: your life. When you don't have peace in your life,
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Speaker 1: it's because you're not accepting what's happening. You're not accepting.
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Speaker 1: You're going to achieve peace when you accept. That's how
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Speaker 1: you achieve piece. You accept what is happening now. You
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Speaker 1: cannot reject or spend time rejecting the past because it's
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Speaker 1: already passed, and you can't reject or even accept, for
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Speaker 1: that matter, the future. So what you can do to
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Speaker 1: a chief piece is to have acceptance, not control, because
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Speaker 1: what happens is your overthinking is disguised as I wanna
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Speaker 1: control the narrative. I wanna control what's gonna happen. So
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Speaker 1: you try to replay your past, and you then begin
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Speaker 1: to obsess over your future to try and predict what's
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Speaker 1: gonna happen. Cause if I do this, then this is
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Speaker 1: gonna happen and I and then you keep going through
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Speaker 1: these untrue statements. And I've told you this before and
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Speaker 1: I'll say it again. When you repeat a statement, when
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Speaker 1: you repeat words, maybe somebody says you're a mean person
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Speaker 1: or you're an extrovert or introvert. When you start repeating
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Speaker 1: those thoughts, whether out loud, but especially in your mind,
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Speaker 1: which is where all your thoughts live. That's where all
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Speaker 1: your ideas come from. Everything starts in the mind. So
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Speaker 1: when you continue to loop that thought, loop that phrase,
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Speaker 1: loop that word, it becomes part of your belief system.
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Speaker 1: It becomes part of your belief system. That's why your
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Speaker 1: real power is to accept what is. That's how you
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Speaker 1: achieve peace. You accept what is. It's like someone being
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Speaker 1: upset that it's raining outside. You can't change that it's raining.
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Speaker 1: Maybe you had plans to go out, you wanted to
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Speaker 1: be outside that day. Maybe you we're going to the beach.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. There are so many examples of something
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Speaker 1: that you cannot control that now because you're refusing to
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Speaker 1: accept that, Okay, it's raining today, maybe I'll make my
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Speaker 1: plans for later today when it's not raining, or maybe
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Speaker 1: I'll make it for another day. You spend more time
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Speaker 1: being upset and overthinking how everything is ruined, this day
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Speaker 1: is not going well. One moment now, one activity, and
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Speaker 1: you have now set in motion a series of thoughts
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Speaker 1: that has you stressed out. And you could achieve that
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Speaker 1: piece if you simply just accepted what is now. Acceptance
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Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean agreeance, right, maybe someone maybe someone spilled
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Speaker 1: something on your face, Richard. Maybe you're out in public,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, and now you're freaking out because everybody's
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Speaker 1: going to see the stain on your shirt, and you
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Speaker 1: have to do a presentation and you got to be
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Speaker 1: on camera, and all these different things are coming through
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Speaker 1: your mind, right, and now you're focus more on what
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Speaker 1: has happened to you. You haven't accepted it. It doesn't
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Speaker 1: mean you have to agree with it. It doesn't mean
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Speaker 1: that you like that this person has done this. But
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Speaker 1: you're just accepting it so you can move on. You
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Speaker 1: can achieve the peace in the now, and you can
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Speaker 1: move on, and then you'll get into your future state.
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Speaker 1: But you got to be here now. It doesn't mean
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Speaker 1: you're passive. You're present or being present doesn't mean you're passive.
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Speaker 1: It means you have clarity before you take action. So
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Speaker 1: you accept that someone spills something on your shirt. Now
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Speaker 1: you need to go, Okay, what can I do? Let
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Speaker 1: me see if somebody has a tied pen or a
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Speaker 1: wipe or whatever. Now you can get clear after you've
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Speaker 1: accepted that this is what happened. Now you can get
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Speaker 1: clear on what you need to do, and then you
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Speaker 1: take action. Right, it's helping you be more responsible with
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Speaker 1: your response, if that makes sense. Right, then you're you
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Speaker 1: can choose. After you accept what is, you can choose
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Speaker 1: then how to best respond. Because you have peace, you
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Speaker 1: are at peace. So I hope you understand that being
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Speaker 1: in the now is your power. I know people talk
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Speaker 1: about I have a superpower, have a superpower. Your superpower
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Speaker 1: a lot of times are the most simple things. And
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Speaker 1: that simple thing is your life isn't happening in the past,
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Speaker 1: Your life isn't happening in the future. Your life is
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Speaker 1: actually happening right now. So instead of trying to figure
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Speaker 1: it all out, how about this focus on your next step?
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Speaker 1: That means that you be here, not all in your head,
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Speaker 1: not all into next week or next month, not all
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Speaker 1: into last year, or last week or the last hour,
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Speaker 1: but be here, move with intention again, find the place
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Speaker 1: of peace, get into a place of acceptance, and act accordingly,
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Speaker 1: act responsibly, and trust that when you do that you
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Speaker 1: will get the clarity from your action. You will not
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Speaker 1: get the clarity from your overthinking. So I want you
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Speaker 1: to focus on that today. I want you to really
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Speaker 1: release control over the things you cannot that's, and get
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Speaker 1: grounded in the moment you're in. Find that quality time
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Speaker 1: with yourself, the quality time with your thoughts, a moment
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Speaker 1: to empty your mind and find your ability to be
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Speaker 1: at peace because the moment you're in now, that is
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