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215.Conquering Expectations | A Lesson in Sports Psychology · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

• 0:01
  Hey, Kathie Owen here and welcome to Kathie's Coaching podcast.
• 0:05
  Today, something a little bit different, because I'm actually presenting you today with my icebreaker motivational speech backed in sports psychology, and I got a lot of awesome feedback from my Toastmasters group, and in fact, this video today has some of that feedback inserted into it.
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  So without further ado, let's get into the video.
• 0:39
  Kathie: Expectations are a funny thing, and I don't mean funny.
• 0:44
  Kathie: Ha ha.
• 0:45
  Kathie: I mean, funny, peculiar.
• 0:49
  Kathie: I mean, we expect to win the big game or win the big speech contest, or have our favorite team win the big game.
• 0:56
  Kathie: We might even expect our children to follow certain paths, but today I invite you to look at expectations differently'cause they can actually limit you.
• 1:14
  Kathie: My love of sports started many, many years ago.
• 1:19
  Kathie: I grew up here in the Houston area.
• 1:21
  Kathie: But there's something you must know about me.
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  Kathie: I was raised by a very intelligent man.
• 1:29
  Kathie: My father possesses a PhD in mathematics.
• 1:34
  Kathie: Not only that, he went on to teach math at the University of Houston, go Cougs.
• 1:41
  Kathie: But he didn't just teach any math.
• 1:44
  Kathie: He taught graduate mathematics.
• 1:48
  Kathie: Did you know that to get a PhD in math, you have to prove a theory no one else has ever proven.
• 1:56
  Kathie: Yeah, my dad graded that stuff.
• 2:02
  Kathie: Communication between me and my father was kind of off.
• 2:07
  Kathie: I mean, me and math, we don't get along, but there was something.
• 2:12
  Kathie: I remember growing up going to college football games with my father and watching the My favorite team, the Houston Astros on television.
• 2:24
  Kathie: I quickly learned the strategies of the game, why players stood, where they stood, what was going on inside the game, how the athletes were performing under such immense pressure.
• 2:37
  Kathie: Communication with my father was spot on.
• 2:44
  Kathie: Allow me to explain the time I decided to declare my major at the University of Houston.
• 2:50
  Kathie: I decided I was going to study psychology, but when I told my father being the intellect that he was inte, he said, psychology.
• 3:02
  Kathie: What in the world are you going to do with that?
• 3:07
  Kathie: Talk about expectations.
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  Kathie: Little did either of us know I would go on to use that degree every single day of my life.
• 3:19
  Kathie: I quickly fell in love with sports psychology.
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  Kathie: I studied the athletes, how they performed under such immense pressure.
• 3:28
  Kathie: I mean, there's wins, there's losses, there's injuries, there's the off season, there's training, there's practice and practice, and more practice.
• 3:38
  Kathie: And then there's expectations.
• 3:41
  Kathie: I mean, you have expectations of yourself.
• 3:43
  Kathie: You have expectations from your coaches and expectations from the fans.
• 3:48
  Kathie: They can change at any given moment.
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  Kathie: Sounds a lot like life, don't you think?
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  Kathie: In December of last year, I came across a book called Inner Excellence.
• 4:08
  Kathie: An athlete was caught reading it on the sidelines during a professional playoff football game.
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  Kathie: The announcers actually ridiculed him for reading this book on the sidelines.
• 4:20
  Kathie: I mean, who did he think he was reading a book during a football game?
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  Kathie: I mean, what he's supposed to be paying attention to his teammates or the strategies that were taking place.
• 4:33
  Kathie: Hmm.
• 4:33
  Kathie: I had to get this book.
• 4:36
  Kathie: I quickly read it and devoured it, cover to cover.
• 4:40
  Kathie: It's all about sports psychology, and that lights me up like a firecracker.
• 4:53
  Kathie: The author of that book actually coined the title to my speech today.
• 4:58
  Kathie: He coaches professional athletes.
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  Kathie: He was a professional athlete himself, and he coaches them on handling expectations like we're talking about today.
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  Kathie: And there's three things that I want you to take away from this message today and handling your expectations.
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  Kathie: First of all, there's wisdom.
• 5:24
  Kathie: I mean, we need discernment to understand our limiting beliefs and what we should be expecting.
• 5:31
  Kathie: I mean, should is a dirty word.
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  Kathie: And then there's courage for, it's going to take courage to actually perform at your top notch because there's gonna be days when you just don't feel like it.
• 5:50
  Kathie: And that takes courage.
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  Kathie: And then there's love.
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  Kathie: The greatest of these is love For if you can even love your opponent, you will understand that those expectations actually can limit you.
• 6:16
  Kathie: Let's go back to my father.
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  Kathie: For, I learned all three of these things through him.
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  Kathie: I learned to have the wisdom and understand that psychology was everything to me.
• 6:33
  Kathie: I also learned to have courage and face those obstacles that are only obstacles.
• 6:39
  Kathie: They're on the way to your path to success.
• 6:43
  Kathie: And then of course, there's love.
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  Kathie: Love is the greatest of all.
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  Kathie: So my friends today, I invite you to drop expectations for when you do, you might just find how you can handle anything.
• 7:04
  Kathie: Like I said, expectations are a funny thing.