Perfectionism Isn't Strength — It's the Exhausting Weight of Carrying Too Much Alone

The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi · Feb 9, 2026 · 44m

You hold everything together. You do it well. And you are absolutely exhausted from the standard you have set for yourself that never quite gets met no matter how hard you try. Perfectionism feels like discipline from the inside but it functions like a prison — a constant inner critic measuring every action, every output, every moment of rest against an impossible standard. Dr. Susan Landers works specifically with the women carrying that weight — and what she shares about silencing the inner critic, what true rest actually means versus what most perfectionists call rest, and how to set…