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Panties, Emeralds, and Gifts Nobody Asked For · Shawna and LaLa: Life Beyond The Mic

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  Speaker 1: From the heart of the city, where the beat meets
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  Speaker 1: the rhythm of your day. It's shawna m. What's up.
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  Speaker 1: at Shauna and Lalla. You could follow me on Instagram
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  Speaker 1: at the real Shauna May.
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  Speaker 2: And check me out at Bella Underscore Lalla one two five.
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  Speaker 1: It is a new year. I cannot believe it. Last
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  Speaker 1: year just flew on by.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they always say it. Time is going faster and
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  Speaker 2: faster the older we get. I feel like the world
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  Speaker 2: must be spinning faster, even though they say it's not really,
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  Speaker 2: but it feels like it.
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  Speaker 1: It definitely does. Christmas was you know, not that crazy
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  Speaker 1: for me? Thank God? But you turned forty.
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  Speaker 2: Throw in my mouth. Yeah, I'm forty now I am
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  Speaker 2: not in my thirties anymore. And now I feel like
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  Speaker 2: I'm at an adult age. Like forty is an adult age, right,
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  Speaker 2: because you know, Sean and I don't think we're adults,
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  Speaker 2: but I think I'm getting to that age where like
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  Speaker 2: I have to say I'm an adult. We're adult ish,
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  Speaker 2: we're adult ish. We love that. Yeah, I turned forty,
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  Speaker 2: and I was really I was really depressed. I get
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  Speaker 2: depressed when I think of the number. What do I
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  Speaker 2: I don't feel forty. I don't know if I look forty.
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  Speaker 2: People say I don't look forty. But that's good, right,
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  Speaker 2: it's a good thing. I don't look it, I don't
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  Speaker 2: feel it, so that's good. It's just that number. Number
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  Speaker 2: is the problem.
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  Speaker 1: So what did you get for your birthday? Is on Christmas? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so you always get like screwed.
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  Speaker 2: I hate my birthday. I mean, in one sense it's cool.
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  Speaker 2: Another sense, it's a little bit annoying because every time
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  Speaker 2: I make a doctor's appointment or any business or that
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  Speaker 2: I have to give my birthday, I know exact what
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  Speaker 2: they're gonna respond on, like like birthday, I'm like twelve,
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  Speaker 2: twenty five, eighty five, oh a Christmas baby. Every single
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  Speaker 2: time it's like without fail, and I'm like yep. And
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  Speaker 2: then the next question, without fail, So do you get
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  Speaker 2: double the presents or do you get jipped? And then
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  Speaker 2: I say, oh, I get jipped a lot of times.
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  Speaker 2: But my immediate family usually gives me, you know, they
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  Speaker 2: give me two gifts, So it sucks as a kid.
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  Speaker 2: My mom tried to make it nice. But I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what a birthday feels like because I'm celebrating it
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  Speaker 2: with how many other people in the world and in
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  Speaker 2: my own house, and I'm now, since I was seventeen,
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  Speaker 2: I've been hosting Christmas cooking. So it's not like a
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  Speaker 2: day to relax, you know what I mean. So I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what a birthday feels like. It's just, oh,
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  Speaker 2: it's Christmas. I'm focusing on Christmas, and I'm focusing on
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  Speaker 2: everyone else gifts and getting everyone else gifts, and so
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  Speaker 2: it's not a fun birthday. I should you know, it's cool.
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  Speaker 2: It's the most rare birthday, they say, but it's not. Eh, whatever,
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  Speaker 2: But what did I get? I'm gonna last say this.
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  Speaker 2: My husband is great with gifts, always if. He's a
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  Speaker 2: really good gift giver, always has been. He's not one
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  Speaker 2: of those men that don't know what to do or
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  Speaker 2: buy you, like just a card.
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  Speaker 1: He's a good rapper too.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, he's amazing at rapping. Like he raps
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  Speaker 2: like he should work at Hallmark or some sort of
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  Speaker 2: gift wrapping place. Yes, yes, they are big on their
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  Speaker 2: wrapping paper. It has to have the right feel, has
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  Speaker 2: to be the right thickness, and it's just perfection. And
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  Speaker 2: mine looks like a cat wrap the present. It just
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  Speaker 2: missing pieces, uneven edges. Sometimes I've even I ran out
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  Speaker 2: of wrapping paper, so I took another different wrapping paper
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  Speaker 2: and filled in the gaps, you know. Like so it's
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  Speaker 2: a mess. So this year is my fortieth, and my
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  Speaker 2: husband kept saying, this is a big birthday. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know what to do for you. I don't know what
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  Speaker 2: to get you. I don't know what to get you
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  Speaker 2: constantly and I'm like, listen, all I want is a
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  Speaker 2: vacation to the Cayman Island or some other island. That's
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  Speaker 2: all I want. He's like, you don't want to party.
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  Speaker 2: I said, I love parties, but if I have to
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  Speaker 2: choose between a vacation and a party, I'll choose a
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  Speaker 2: vacation because that's seven days or eight days of amazingness
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  Speaker 2: versus one day, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I kept telling him them that, and he kept
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  Speaker 2: saying it, and I'm like, is he not getting the
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  Speaker 2: point that I just want a vacation. So Christmas came
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  Speaker 2: and he had a lot of gifts under the tree
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  Speaker 2: for me. I was like, wow, you know, there's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of presents there, and as I opened them, each
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  Speaker 2: gift was a pair of underwear. Oh underwear, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: They're like from Victoria's Secrets. Open the next gift, Oh underwear, okay,
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  Speaker 2: next gift, Oh gloves, Okay, thank you, babe. Open the
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  Speaker 2: next gift underwear. So long story shirt. He got me
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  Speaker 2: ten pair of underwear from Victoria's Secrets, four bras from
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  Speaker 2: Victoria's Secrets, gloves, a bunch of socks like cozy fuzzy socks,
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  Speaker 2: and oh which I like, the hoodie and that's great.
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  Speaker 2: They're all thoughtful gifts, like you can never run out underwear, right.
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  Speaker 2: But then I was like, Okay, you know, I was
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  Speaker 2: expecting something big for my fortieth.
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  Speaker 1: But gifts are shift good.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know, and I love him. I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to make him sound bad, but just I think he
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  Speaker 2: was just so stressed out that he didn't know what
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  Speaker 2: to do. And then my birthday gift, when the cake came,
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  Speaker 2: it was a jewelry box and I don't wear jewelry
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  Speaker 2: besides earrings, and it was a beautiful bracelet from Ky's
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  Speaker 2: Jeweler with emeralds and diamonds. And again I don't wear jewelry,
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  Speaker 2: and I just looked at it, like, what, this is gorgeous.
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  Speaker 2: But why would he think I would want a bracelet
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  Speaker 2: or wear a bracelet. I never wear bracelets. I never
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  Speaker 2: wear bracelets.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't even wear necklaces really, you know. So it
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  Speaker 2: was just a little weird, but I was Me and
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  Speaker 2: Sean were just laughing because it was all underwear. Like
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  Speaker 2: every gift I opened, I was like, oh underwear, Oh
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  Speaker 2: and oh bread underwear, Oh underwear, penguins on a cute things. Oh.
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  Speaker 1: Man.
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  Speaker 2: But I did something kind of bad. I just he
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  Speaker 2: asked me, do you like the bracelet? If you don't
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  Speaker 2: like it, you could return it. And I didn't say
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  Speaker 2: that I didn't because it was gorgeous, really gorgeous. I
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  Speaker 2: just said, well, babe, like I just wanted to go
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  Speaker 2: to He's like, I didn't know what to get. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I just want to go to Cayman Islands. So he
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  Speaker 2: ended up booking the trip and we're returning the bracelet,
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  Speaker 2: and I said, yeah, I'm not going to expect both
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  Speaker 2: from you. I said, let's use that bracelet. Because the
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  Speaker 2: bracelet was a few hundred dollars. Let's use that as
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  Speaker 2: to pay for some meals or excursions in the Caymans
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  Speaker 2: and we all have fun together. And so yeah, we're
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  Speaker 2: going to the Caymans next week for my fortieth.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I'm just looking now, your nails are emerald green.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. When I put the bracelet on, he's like, look,
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  Speaker 2: they match your nails. And I love the color emerald.
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  Speaker 2: I love that green. I know you don't.
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  Speaker 1: That's your birthstone, right, it's my burststone. And I got
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  Speaker 1: a emerald burststone necklace from my cousin this year. This year. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: oh geez, she said to me. I walked in on
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  Speaker 1: Christmas Eve and she said, well, what is your bursts stone?
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  Speaker 1: And I said Emerald? Why And she's like I was
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  Speaker 1: just wondering and I said you know that. I said,
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  Speaker 1: you bought me a necklace one other time and she's
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  Speaker 1: like yeah, I just couldn't remember. And then she hands
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  Speaker 1: me the gifts, you know, and I'm opening them and
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  Speaker 1: the emerald necklace was from her.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, so we both got that emerald. Yeah, like, thank
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  Speaker 2: you beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, but the reason he picked the emerald
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  Speaker 1: bracelet is because Kay's jewelers said that it represents.
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  Speaker 2: Oh forty the number forty either fortyn verse three forty.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if that's true, but that's what the
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  Speaker 2: guy told him. And it was beautiful, a beautiful, delicate bracelet.
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  Speaker 2: But I you know, and he's like, you're gonna wear
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  Speaker 2: it every day?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, this is so delicate. I would break it
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  Speaker 2: at work or with the kids. Like I can't wear
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  Speaker 2: it every day? Well, that's you know, I want you
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  Speaker 2: to wear it every day. I can't, babe. That's like
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  Speaker 2: a going out to a fancy I don't know something,
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  Speaker 2: you know, dinner or whatever. So it just men are
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  Speaker 2: so cute sometimes, and he tried, and I am appreciative.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't like I was being a brat. When once
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  Speaker 2: he came to me and said how much he spent
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  Speaker 2: with on the bracelet, I just said, he goes, is
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  Speaker 2: that good enough? Or do you want to do something else?
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  Speaker 2: I said no, I just wanted a vacation. So it
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  Speaker 2: was him who pushed, like, okay, let's book the vacation
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  Speaker 2: and he gets to experience that too. I get to
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  Speaker 2: be with my children, and then, you know, it's something
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  Speaker 2: that I think. I always say experiences and memories are
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  Speaker 2: more important to me than material stuff because they last,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and so I'm really happy. I'm excited to
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  Speaker 2: go next week and get out of this freaking cold
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  Speaker 2: and yeah, go back to my favorite island in the
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  Speaker 2: whole world.
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  Speaker 1: Well did you organize everything? Wait?
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  Speaker 2: Organize what my underwear?
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  Speaker 1: Well, isn't that what he said? Like, aren't you going
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  Speaker 1: to organize? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that was the other funny part of it. So
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  Speaker 2: I bought him a bunch of different things, like headphones,
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  Speaker 2: a gym bag, stuff for working out, you know, jim clothes,
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  Speaker 2: and he was organizing his expensive gym bag I bought
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  Speaker 2: him with his headphones and this laying it out, and
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  Speaker 2: he like looked up at me, and I was saying,
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  Speaker 2: He's like, aren't you going to organize your gifts? I
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  Speaker 2: said what? And he's like, I'm organizing in the gifts
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  Speaker 2: you gave me, you know, I'm putting them together. I'm excited.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, you don't seem excited. I said, for my
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  Speaker 2: underwear and mittens. Would you like me to organize my
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  Speaker 2: ten pair of underwear and my mittens. He's like, I
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  Speaker 2: didn't get you mittens. I got you gloves. I said, okay,
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  Speaker 2: So I said, how would you exactly like me to
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  Speaker 2: uh get excited and organize my my panties is there?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Should I create a special draw off from them? And
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  Speaker 2: he started laughing. You know, I was being funny. I
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  Speaker 2: wasn't being a beach. But he's like, oh, shut up,
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  Speaker 2: shut up. I was like, no, I'm being serious right now.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't have anything to organize. I don't
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  Speaker 2: have anything to like kind of like put together like
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  Speaker 2: you're doing. And he's like, okay, okay, but he was
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  Speaker 2: serious when he's like, aren't you gonna put your stuff
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  Speaker 2: together and organize it? Aren't you excited? I'm like, uh, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what you want expect me to do
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  Speaker 2: with all these underwear and bras. But I could figure
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  Speaker 2: something out to jump up and down, try him on
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  Speaker 2: to a little like fashion show for you. I could
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  Speaker 2: do that. But god, oh boy. But yeah, so that
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  Speaker 2: was that was Christmas and it's just funny.
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  Speaker 1: You know, men are funny. Well, I mean, at least
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  Speaker 1: you got sexy gifts. I didn't get much better meat
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  Speaker 1: tenderiser and her cheese greater. I can't believe that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know why you're why they would get you
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  Speaker 2: your Mom would get you a meat tenderizer.
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  Speaker 1: She said, because every time that she makes a steak
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  Speaker 1: or makes you know, dinner, she always says, do you
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  Speaker 1: have a meat tenderiser down there? I don't have one?
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  Speaker 1: And I say, no, I don't have one, and she says,
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  Speaker 1: So she got one for me, a gift for her basically,
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  Speaker 1: and cheese greater because she was reading that the cheese
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  Speaker 1: that comes in like Kraft Mazzarella shredded cheese, it's not
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  Speaker 1: real cheese.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, that's true, it's fake. Yeah, so.
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  Speaker 1: She got a cheese grater so I could grave my
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  Speaker 1: own treaded cheese.
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  Speaker 2: That's amazing, thanks Mom.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and I also got this horrible virus. We don't
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  Speaker 1: know what it is, but I've been sick for now
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  Speaker 1: three weeks.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, she's been suffering pretty bad. It's been it's
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  Speaker 2: it's been bad. And let me tell you, guys, it's
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  Speaker 2: been bad because when I'm spending time with her, we're
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  Speaker 2: doing stuff for the show, her virus makes her gag. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: So we were driving from Westchester, so that's an hour
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  Speaker 2: and twenty minutes drive that we were on and the
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  Speaker 2: whole time Seana had a gagging fit. So for like
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  Speaker 2: an hour.
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  Speaker 1: Seana was I was so bad. I was throwing up.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, yeah, and I'm driving on the highway
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  Speaker 2: and theank got her. Mom was with us because I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what I would have done. I almost crashed.
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  Speaker 2: I'm on the Bear Mountain and if you've been on
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  Speaker 2: the Bear Mountain, it's very dangerous. You're like very bumpy bumpy.
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  Speaker 2: It's dark, and she's gagging in my back seat. I'm
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  Speaker 2: nauseous because you know when you hear someone gag, it
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  Speaker 2: makes you want to throw up.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, no, I know.
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  Speaker 2: It was a drive from hell. I'm like, you need
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  Speaker 2: to get this figured out because this was this is crazy.
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  Speaker 2: It was horrible for her. I feel bad for you
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  Speaker 2: showing up. I'm sorry, But for me as driving, I
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  Speaker 2: was like having an anxiety attack.
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  Speaker 1: It was. It's so bad. And what's the worst part
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  Speaker 1: about it is the doctors are just like, eh, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: to go to the er. No, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 1: the er because the last time I went to the
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  Speaker 1: er for the same thing, they said follow up with GI. Well,
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  Speaker 1: here I am following up. I'm trying to follow up.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody's calling me back. It is insane. We actually showed
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  Speaker 1: up there the one day, Yeah, and twice. You have to.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what we wanted to talk about in this episode,
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  Speaker 2: is medical burnout. It happens, and how how how much
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  Speaker 2: can you advocate for yourself and fight when you know
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  Speaker 2: Shawna has reached that point, It's like what else can
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  Speaker 2: I do? It's in the doctor's hands at this point.
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  Speaker 2: And unless you show up there and like physically, like
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  Speaker 2: I need to speak to the doctor right now, even
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't guarantee help, you know what I mean. And
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  Speaker 2: it's very it's horrible. It's horrible.
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  Speaker 1: It is, you know. And he's a great doctor. I
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  Speaker 1: love him. He does call back, however, you know, he
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  Speaker 1: wasn't getting the messages. That was. He did call me
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  Speaker 1: at ten dirty at night the well three weeks ago
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  Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, I just got your message.
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  Speaker 2: That you called.
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  Speaker 1: He said I was out for the holiday, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and he sent me for blood work. He sent me
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  Speaker 1: for an ultrasound, you know, but okay, great, the blood
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  Speaker 1: work shows I have an infection. Okay, so what now?
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  Speaker 2: What now?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know the ultrasound I couldn't get in for
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  Speaker 1: two weeks because of the holiday. Okay, Well, what if it,
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  Speaker 1: you know, subsided by then it didn't. It's getting worse.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, okay, we tried on three different medications.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Can I make an appointment with you to
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  Speaker 1: come in and see you personally? Oh? No, the doctor
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  Speaker 1: doesn't have any openings until May. I call this specialist
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  Speaker 1: down in Westchester. Oh, he doesn't have any openings till August.
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  Speaker 1: What am I supposed to do?
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  Speaker 2: And then nothing? There's nothing you can do.
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  Speaker 1: They want you to go to the er. That's what
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  Speaker 1: they keep saying to me. Go to the er, Go
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  Speaker 1: to the er. No, I'm not going to the er
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  Speaker 1: and spending eight hours there just so that they could
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  Speaker 1: tell me to follow up with GI that there's nothing
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  Speaker 1: they could do, and then contract the flu or the
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  Speaker 1: pneumonia or the superflu that's going around or covid or whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Like I already know two people that died from the flu.
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  Speaker 1: I know.
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  Speaker 2: It's really it's scary right now. So don't want to
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  Speaker 2: put yourself in that situation just for them to not
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  Speaker 2: even help you. Like if they're gonna help you and
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  Speaker 2: something was gonna be solved, and it's like, all right,
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  Speaker 2: I'll take the risk. But to take the risk knowing
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  Speaker 2: one hundred percent of the ER is just gonna brush
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  Speaker 2: you off, and that's not it's not worth it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know it's not a dire emergency. I
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  Speaker 1: mean if I was literally dying bleeding now or whatever, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I would go to the er. Yeah, but there's more
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  Speaker 1: patients that are sicker that need the attention more than
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  Speaker 1: I do.
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  Speaker 2: And the ER always they never help you unless you
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  Speaker 2: are dying, bleeding, something severe going on, because we've seen
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  Speaker 2: it before, they just don't. It's like if you're sick,
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  Speaker 2: just have a fever, they're really they're like, eh, follow
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  Speaker 2: up with your primary, you know, like they don't want
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  Speaker 2: to do any more testing. So it's really a waste
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  Speaker 2: of time, and we're wasting their time and other patients time.
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  Speaker 2: So I hate that that is always a response.
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  Speaker 1: Go, well, they did that with GEO and he ended
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  Speaker 1: up having a severe.
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  Speaker 2: Stomach parasite yeah, on bacterial whatever he had. The ER
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: brushed it off and I said, can you do testing,
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: can you do the blood work?
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: No?
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: No, he just he probably has a stomach bug. And
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: thenk god, my mom got you know that was them.
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: I knew it was gonna happen. My in laws took him,
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: if you remember, and I told him not to. I said,
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: they're not going to help him because I was away
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: and he had one hundred and four or five fever
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: and the r wouldn't help him. So I took him
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: to the urgent care the next day and lo and behold,
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: he had a very rare, very bad parasite a bacterial
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: parasite or whatever it's called, from food poisoning that he
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: picked up in a restaurant and the health department, New
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: York State Health Department had to call me and it
• 16:46
  Speaker 2: was very severe. So it's like, you have to advocate.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: We always say to advocate for yourself, for your children,
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: for your loved ones. And the er is not the
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: place to go unless you're freaking bleeding out and you know,
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: have an heart attack.
• 16:59
  Speaker 1: So yeah, it's true and even done, they might not
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: help you.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: So yeah, like you know, we got on the hell
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: topic here, but we really want to talk about New
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Year's resolutions. It's that time of year where you know,
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: everyone's putting on their Facebook and their social media and
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: New year knew me setting their goals, setting their resolutions,
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: which is great, it really is, but we realize, like
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: traditional New Year's resolutions, they really don't work or work
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: for everyone.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, And because you don't follow them, you.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Don't follow them. And they're usually built on pressure and
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: not like alignment and change. So most resolutions always come
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: from a place of I should fix myself, like losing
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: more weight, be more disciplined, stop doing this, stop doing that, right,
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: and like oftentimes we root them in guilt or comparison
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: or oh I want to be like that person, and
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: that's not good. That's not going to make a resolution stay.
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: So January also, if you think about it, it's not
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: a neutral starting line for everyone. What does January come after?
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: We were just talking about it the holidays, right, Yeah,
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: it comes after it's a big financial and emotional and
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: physical exhaustion period of time in your life, especially if
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: you're a parent, and so you're going through all that,
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: and then it's dark, it's cold, it's probably the lowest
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: energy time of the year. And then we're asking ourselves
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: through all this, let's make a massive life change, right now,
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: let's change. It's really like, let's go at it when
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: our nervous systems are already fried, you know what I mean?
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, But I see when you know, you just got
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: to jump in and do it. I get that part,
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: and I also get the fried part, you know.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: I did last year the no spend month or whatever,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: and I did really well for like four or five months. Yeah,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: and then I was just like a screw it, you know.
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: But that's something though. There.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: You know, you did it. I did it. I did
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: really well with it. It was it was really hard too,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: because we're so used to just having what we want instantly. Yeah,
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: and you know I had to many times say all right,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: it's on sale, it's a good price. I want it,
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: but I don't need it, yeah, you know. And that's
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: the same thing like with our our food shopping. It's
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: always like all right, you know, I have that at home,
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: but you know it's ninety nine sons, let me grab
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: that now.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But that's but these these are benefit This is
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: a positive thing. That's what we should be doing, is
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: making these small changes and not expecting it to be
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: like drastic. Like you said, you tried it, it worked,
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: so that's that's a bonus point. That's that's a win,
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, And a lot of people and a
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: lot of people they failed their resolutions because they give
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: up or they they see I can't do that forever
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: and then they just quit. But you have to. You
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: got to celebrate the small wins. And that's what we're
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: we're here to say, is like with the New resolutions,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: with the New year resolutions.
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  Speaker 1: Make it.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: Don't make it an all or nothing, you know, do
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: small little things. Even if it's one day a week
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: you're walking, that is a great resolution. You're not holding
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: yourself onto these crazy standards and you can get that done.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: And if you don't, oh right, then we're push it
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: to next week.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so we have even if you work out ten
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: minutes a day.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, little things. And I think that's why that will
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: make your resolution stick. If you don't do this all
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: or nothing or this drastic change, you can slowly build
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: up to more. Like say, hey, you know what my
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: new year's resolution is one day a week to walk,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: a one day week to work out, or two days,
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: and then from there you build instead of saying my
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: new year's resolution is to be in the gym five
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: days a week and walking three miles every day and
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: not eating drinking soda and not eating that. If you
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: put all that stress on yourself, you're more likely to
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: fail and more likely to just feel burnt out and
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: stressed from it. You know, we have to be gentle
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: with ourselves and provide flexibility for ourselves and take it
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: little by little. Any change, no matter how small, is
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: a positive thing. And you don't want to keep shaming
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: yourself because that will kill the momentum. So just say,
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: if you fail at it, okay, I'll do it tomorrow.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Give yourself that way out. And these are tips to
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: help yourself stick to your resolutions and make these healthy changes,
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: because that's what's important. And you know, resolution culture will
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: always assume is everyone has the same starts from the
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: same baseline, everyone has the same energy, the same resources,
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: health and support, and that progress is linear when it's not,
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: when real life says some days you're surviving, right, not optimizing.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: Some days healing is in a straight line. Rest is productive,
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: and your capacity changes with the seasons, with your stress,
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: your health and life events going on. So it's never
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: just one size fits all for it, you know. Yeah,
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: we can't try and force a perfect version of it.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: And everybody is different, and real growth happens in micro moments,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you know, choosing water instead of soda and going for
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: a walk instead of just maybe running and saying no
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: when you're normally overextended.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: That's a big one for me. That's one of my
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: goals is to learn to say no. Stop being people
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: a people pleaser. That's I'm a very bad people pleaser
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: and it it ends up just hurting me in the end.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: So that's a that's a good goal for all of
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: us to have, and it stresses you out. Yeah, one hundred.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: But I forgot to ask, what's your New Year's resolution?
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: This year?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: I would say, I really want to get more healthier.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: I want to you know, I've done good, but I
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: want to start working out a little bit more.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, being more active, that's a good one.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard. It's hard. That's what my goal is.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: I turned forty and I'm like, you know what, now
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: that I'm an adult, I have to I want to
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: get strong. I want to. I don't want to be
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: My husband always says, do you want to be that
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: old person who can't pick up their grandkids, who can't
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: walk up a flight of stairs, who can't, you know,
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: get up off the floor if you fall, And he's right,
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: you know, So I want to incorporate weight training into
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: my even starting out with one day a week. I
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: hate working out. I absolutely hate it, so do I.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: I don't have the dedication, the termination. As soon as
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: I feel a little bit uncomfortable, I'm like, eh, I'm
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: stopping and I need to kind of push through that.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: So set a goal of one day a week doing
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: it and grow from there. And that's all we can do.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: Set a small goal and then you can grow. You know,
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: you have weights at home, yep, and.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: My mom that's what she used to do. She used
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: to take like three or five pound weights and every
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: single morning she would work out before going to work
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: for like an hour.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just right in the living room. Yeah, you don't
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: need a fancy gym. And that's what we have to
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: also realize. We don't need a fancy gym membership, expensive one.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: You don't need all these classes. Their YouTube is free,
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: Pinterest is free, there's workouts on there. And you could
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: even use water jugs. My sister so to use five
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: gallon water jugs and or the milk jugs, you know,
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: and she would lift them. So you can make it work.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: It doesn't cost money to get healthier. Or you can
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: go for walks and wear some weighted wristbands and leg
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: bands on your legs. So it's all about whatever is
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: easiest for you, because when it's easy, that helps you
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: stick to your resolutions. And yeah, so you guys have
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: any resolutions that you have, you want to post them
• 24:29
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• 24:31
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• 24:34
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• 24:36
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• 24:38
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• 24:40
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• 24:42
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