How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex

Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman · Jun 10, 2026 · 10m

Do you ever feel like you're observing yourself during sex instead of actually experiencing it?

Maybe you're wondering how you look. Whether you're pleasing your partner. Whether you're attractive enough. Whether you're doing everything "right."

Meanwhile, the very connection and pleasure you're longing for slips further out of reach.

If you've ever felt disconnected from your body during intimacy, you're not alone. So many people, especially women, have been conditioned to evaluate themselves from the outside rather than experience themselves from within. We become focused on how we're being…