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ARE YOU OK? · The Karen Kenney Show

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  Hey you guys, welcome to the Karen Kenney show. I'm really
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  happy to be here with you, and mostly I'm happy for the
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  opportunity to connect with you. You know, I never take that for
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  granted, that there are actual humans out there who decide to
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  spend part of their day with me, and whether I'm going with you
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  on a walk, like you're walking your dog or your kids in the
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  stroller, or you're just out there with your weighted vest
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  on, or whatever you're doing, or you put me on when you're in the
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  car, I'm surprised, like at least once a week, I'm surprised
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  when somebody will off handedly, say to me, yeah, that episode
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  where you talked about and I'll say, Wait, you listen to my
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  show. So I honestly super duper appreciate it. And look, there's
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  some heavy shit going down on the in the world. And when isn't
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  there, you know? And I thought about it. I thought about it
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  long and hard. I have plenty to say. I have plenty to say about
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  all the different kinds of violence that have been
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  happening in the world. I have a lot of thoughts about a lot of
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  things, and when I thought about getting into it today, I
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  thought, You know what? I want to do something, and I want to
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  share something that actually lit my hat up, and it's
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  something that I wanted to share with you, not that the other
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  conversations aren't important, because they are. And I just, I
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  always just say I trust, I just trust my inner in a teacher, and
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  I trust the divine intelligence that's trying, that tries to
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  come through me and my knucklehead. So this is what I
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  want to talk to you about today. Um, I may have mentioned on an
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  episode a long time ago, and I did a post about it somewhere.
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  Sometime I wrote about this. I know I did, but back in college,
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  I went to Boston University and back at BU I you know, we're
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  freshmen. When you first get into college, like, of course,
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  at that age, you think you know everything. You kind of have
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  your head up your ass, but you don't really know it yet. But
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  you know, everybody's trying to figure out, like, who they are
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  and their identity and what their thing is. And I had a
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  friend who was taking some psychology classes. I think we
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  all took psychology, like, our freshman year as one of the
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  electives, or whatever. But she was, like, really into it. And
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  so she would always come up to us, and she would look at us,
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  and she'd say, how are you like, how are you doing? And she'd be
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  like, especially as a little Masshole, right? I'd always be
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  like, fine. And she'd be like, and she would stop, and she'd
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  like, squint her eyes, and she'd nod her head, and she's and I'm
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  doing it right now. If you're watching this, you can see me
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  doing it. She would like, really look at you and, like, tilt your
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  head and squint her eyes and say, but how are you really and
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  it like used to drive me crazy, right? Well, fast forward. Fast
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  forward. Here we are today, and I can deeply, deeply, deeply
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  appreciate the powerful impact of that simple question. And I
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  was just reminded of this because I came across that that
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  in Australia, the second Thursday of September, there is
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  a day that is called i, u, O, K, day. Are you okay day? And it
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  always falls on the second Thursday of September. So the
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  date sometimes changes. This year, it fell on September 11,
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  and I thought, just what a perfect day for this to land on,
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  for so many different reasons. And the premise of this, this
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  organization, are you okay? The Are you okay? Kind of
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  foundation, or whatever, was started by a guy whose father
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  had taken his own life, right? He had died by suicide, and he
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  got inspired, of course, by that tragic loss, like something
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  like, I think his father took his own life in like, 2009 and
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  then however many years later, as an adult, you know, who now
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  had children and stuff like that. He decided to create this
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  organization. And the premise and the heartbeat of it is, you
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  ask people now, so they use the letter, this is a hot letter for
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  me to say, Ah, it's a literally think of it like this, the
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  letter, ah, the letter U, and then okay with the question
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  mark, right? Are you okay? And what I love about this
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  organization is that they encourage people to reach out to
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  others around them and ask this question, like, are you okay,
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  checking in with people? Right? It's encouraging people checking
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  in with people, and especially when, and this is one of the
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  parts that I love about it, because the requirement on this
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  pot, your pot, if you participate in this, is you have
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  to be awake enough and pay attention enough to recognize
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  that maybe somebody has been a little off lately, maybe you
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  notice a change in their demeanor or their mood. Food or
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  their energy or whatever. You know how you just know when a
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  person you know, or a person you work with, or a person you go to
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  class with, or whatever, the thing is, you just maybe get a
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  hit, like, I don't know, they might be struggling, they might
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  be suffering. So number one is you gotta be able to be aware of
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  your environment, like, like, get out of your own little
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  bubble and pay attention to the people, the animals, the things
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  around you, right? Enough and pay attention enough that you
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  can clock. Oh, yeah. So and So seems a little down. So and So
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  seems a little quiet. So and So seems a little off. Like,
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  whatever the word Your word is for that, right? And what one of
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  the things I loved about, first of all, I just love that they
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  asked this question. And also they're reminded that while
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  there is an i u okay day, we can ask this of each other anytime,
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  any day. You know what I mean. But what's beautiful is that
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  they recognize that some people may not feel comfortable asking
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  these questions, or may not feel equipped to ask these questions,
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  or might be afraid that, what if they get an answer of like, No,
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  I'm not okay, and they feel like they're not prepared, or
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  whatever. And one of the things that they do is they talk about
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  it, and, you know, one of the things that I took away from it
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  is the realization that a meaningful, and that's the key
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  word, like a meaningful, so we don't just ask it flippantly,
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  like, are you okay? Like, and then move on with your life,
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  right? It's how a meaningful conversation can really, really
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  make a difference. How being willing to ask the question,
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  even if it's awkward, even it's a little uncomfy, even if you're
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  a little nervous about it, that you take the time to like do
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  this, to pay attention and then to ask. And because they know it
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  can be hard for people to bring these kinds of things up, they
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  give you simple steps, right? And it's four simple steps of
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  how to do it. And these four simple steps can totally change
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  a life. And I know that some people, and they have, like, a
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  lot of stats and a lot of resources. We're going to talk
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  about that, but I know that a lot of times people think that
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  they're like, I don't want to be nosy, I don't want to butt in. I
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  don't want to like, place myself, maybe where it's not my
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  place, blah, blah, blah. But the research shows that when you
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  consistently check in with people, when you consistently
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  ask them, like, how are you doing? I noticed this, are you
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  okay? These kinds of things actually help people to feel
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  grateful. People state that, that they feel grateful, that
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  they feel supported. They feel like they matter. They feel like
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  they've been seen. They feel like somebody actually wants to
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  hear them and listen to them. They feel cared for. And let me
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  tell you, this
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  my last episode. I was talking about how we are so disconnected
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  right now. Everybody's in their own little bubble. So many
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  people are just like in their own world, thinking about
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  themselves, not looking up from their devices, not checking out
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  what's going on. And there's a lot we know that there's a lot
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  of separation and division and shit that's going on in this
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  world. And for a lot of people do not feel like they belong,
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  that they matter, that they are seen, that anybody notices that
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  maybe they're off or different or whatever, and it's such a
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  simple thing to be able to ask somebody, you know, like, are
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  you okay? How are you doing? I noticed this, and, you know,
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  that's why there's a joke that sometimes goes around and
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  sometimes, like, you know, with women in people, especially who
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  I know that are considered like strong people or the strong ones
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  you know, we sometimes will jokingly say, hey, check on your
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  strong friends. We see we see it in memes. We sometimes see
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  therapists, you know, do content online, saying like, hey, check
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  on, check on the people that you tend not to worry about, right?
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  Because people are not always going to raise their hand or
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  shoot a text or call you or whatever and say, Hey, I'm
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  struggling. Hey, I'm suffering. Hey, this thing is going on, and
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  I feel overwhelmed and I don't know how to handle it on my own.
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  A lot of people kind of suck at asking for help, asking for
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  support, and they're not going to be the one to bring it up. I
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  can't tell you how many conversations I've had with
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  people when I ask them, Well, if you're struggling, or if you're
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  suffering in some way, and why, why don't you ask for help? And
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  some people will say asking for help makes me feel weak. It's
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  not what we did in our family. But one of the things I hear all
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  the time is, I don't want to be a burden. Life is already so
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  fucked. So many people are going through hard things. Everybody's
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  got their own problems. I don't want to be a burden. I don't
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  want to add on to that. It. So one of the beautiful things we
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  can do for each other, one of the gifts that we give to each
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  other is we go first. We are courageous enough to go first
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  and to ask the question, and I'm going to share with you, like
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  their four steps that they recommend, and like how they
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  kind of do it, which is, I think, super, super, super,
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  fantastic and but I'm also going to share this, this criteria,
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  excuse me. Hold on, excuse me. The criteria that you might want
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  to check in with yourself about first before you ask this
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  question is you have to make sure you know how they always
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  say, like, when you're on a plane or something like that old
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  saying, like, you gotta put your own mask on first, right? So I
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  think of it like this, like you've gotta make sure that you
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  are in the right place yourself to actually be available, to
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  actually be helpful, so that your offer to be helpful doesn't
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  end up becoming harmful, right? So some of the things that they
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  recommended this, you gotta ask yourself this, these three
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  questions, am I ready, right? Am I ready to have this
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  conversation? What's my energy level? Like? Like, what's my
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  headspace? What's my mindset like, you know, right now, am I
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  willing? Like, am I, am I open for business? Right? As I often
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  say, am I, am I able to genuinely listen? Am I gonna be
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  like, be looking at my watch the whole time or check it on my
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  phone the whole time? Like, what's my headspace like? Am I
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  available? Am I open for business? And can I give as much
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  time as might be needed? Because, look, somebody might,
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  if this conversation might wrap up pretty fast, and they'll say,
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  You know what, I am struggling. I am having a hard time, but I
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  have so much support from my sweetie or my friend, or, you
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  know what, I have a strong family support system, or, you
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  know, I just started going to therapy, whatever. So they might
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  really appreciate it and say, I know I have, I've been off my
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  game a little bit, but I promise I'm getting support and like,
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  that's it. That's the time, right? But somebody else might
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  need a little more time to kind of process things and talk about
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  things, and, you know, to warm up to like being open and
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  vulnerable, right? Vulnerability does not come wicked easy for a
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  lot of people. You know what I mean. So that's the first thing.
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  Am I ready like, Am I ready to be a good listener? Am I ready
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  to be present? Am I in a good head space? So I'm not doing
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  this, and now I'm going to feel overwhelmed and like modded
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  like, you're not going to matter yourself, because you're just a
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  people pleaser and you're codependent and you're trying
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  to, like, you know, like, do more than you're actually
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  capable of doing. Okay. Then the second question they suggest is,
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  am I prepared? And it's like, and these are the questions they
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  said, Ask yourself, Do I understand that if I ask how
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  someone's gonna going, how someone's doing, the answer
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  could be like, No, I'm not doing okay. Like, if you ask somebody,
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  are you okay? And they say, like, No, I'm not. Are you
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  prepared? Do you also go into it knowing that your job is not to
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  fix anybody, right? You can't. I mean, sometimes, yeah, maybe
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  their problem is they're hungry, and you can buy them a sandwich.
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  Maybe you can fix that. But it doesn't mean if they're an
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  unhoused person, that you can continue to like, do that,
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  right? We can't fix everybody's problems. Some things we can
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  fix. Maybe you can connect them with somebody. Maybe you have a
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  resource that they need. Like, yeah, but it's, it's like,
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  sometimes you might not be able to, and do you accept also that
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  just because you're ready to talk and you're ready to ask,
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  and you're ready to be available and present. They might not be
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  able to they may not be ready for it yet, or they might not
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  see you as you know, somebody that they trust, or a safe place
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  for them, for whatever reason. You know. So, number 1am, I
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  ready? Number 2am, I prepared for whatever could happen? You
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  know, as a result of asking this question, and number three, this
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  is really, really, really important. This is wicked
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  important, just in general. Did you pick your moment? You got to
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  pick your moment. So have you chosen a good time and a place
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  to actually have this conversation? Did you choose a
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  place that's relatively private? Is it kind of quiet, maybe,
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  right? Like, is it comfy, right? You don't want to be, like,
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  putting somebody on the spot, like, in a really public place,
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  especially if they're you feel like there might be tears, or
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  there might be emotion, or there might be, like, whatever's going
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  to come up, right? Have you figured out a time that would be
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  good for them, not just you, also you got to keep them if I
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  raise a good time for them to chat and again? Have you made
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  sure that there's enough time for the both of you to have this
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  conversation like these things are like, wicked important as
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  well. Okay, so here's just to now look some. Of you might be
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  listening, and you might be like, I already know how to do
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  this. Well, then maybe this, this episode, isn't for you, but
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  it might be for somebody else. It might be a good one to pass
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  on to your children, right? Kids these days, teenagers these
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  days, young ones. They are going through some stuff. I mean, all
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  you got to do is go online, look at the news, whatever it is, a
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  world of fucking violence and madness and insanity, and a lot
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  of people, again, are not in the habit of looking outside of
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  themselves and checking in on other people. It is somewhat of
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  a loss at form. And so you might have kids who like, want to get
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  better, learn how to be better friends, learn how to be better
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  listeners, like whatever. I think this is a really, really
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  powerful and fun way. I just thought it was so lovely when I
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  heard about this that there was an Are you okay day. I thought
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  it was so fantastic. I'm like, I got to share it with you. So
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  maybe this is something that you can share with somebody else if
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  you feel like you're already an expert at this. All right, okay,
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  so here are their four steps for how to go about asking this
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  question and having this kind of conversation. And they call it
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  Alec, a, L, E, C, easy way to remember this, right? So the
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  first thing is that you ask. You ask them in your own words,
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  don't be a weirdo, right? You ask them in your own words,
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  like, Hey, how you doing? Or, Hey, are you doing okay? Or,
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  Hey, I noticed, just wanted to check in with you, right? So
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  number one, you ask, are you okay? Excuse me. The second
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  thing is, you want to listen.
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  You don't want to just like, like, there's active listening,
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  right? There's all different kinds of words about this. In
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  fact, I wrote it down. I might do a whole podcast about this.
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  Socrates called it like, I think, reflective listening,
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  whether we call it conscious communication, active listening,
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  mirroring whatever, seeking to understand blah, blah, blah,
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  when we listen, we want to be really good listeners. And
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  you're listening without judgment, you're listening with
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  your presence, like you're being present. You're not acting
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  distracted, you're not checking your watch, like you're actively
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  listening. You are giving them your time. This is one of the
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  greatest gifts you can give to people. Is ways of showing love.
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  One is paying attention. Number two is giving them your time,
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  but be present. Don't be like a body lights on but nobody's
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  home. Active listening. Let them know that you're hearing them,
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  you know what I mean, and then the third step right is
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  encourage action, so you can ask them things like, you know,
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  what's the and we do this. Sometimes, I do this sometimes
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  when I work with clients, especially if we're doing some
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  sort of if people are, like, highly procrastinating or can't
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  take steps forward, or sabotaging, or whatever. And you
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  know, we might get down to what's the next smallest right
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  step you can take. What's the next smallest step? Like, is
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  there a step that you can take, a small step that you can take
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  that could help? Is this anything that you've dealt with
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  before? Have you found that you've been through this before?
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  And there were some things that helped and ask them to like,
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  maybe like, can you remember the things that were helpful now, if
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  they share something that is outside of your realm of ability
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  to handle it or to help or whatever, like, you have to
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  recognize, I always say, recognize what's outside of your
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  scope of expertise or your ability to help somebody. The
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  next step, and this is for me, part of being prepared is, can
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  you help them find some resources, right? Can you help
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  them to get support? If you are not the person who can do that,
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  right? There are times when somebody might come to you and
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  say, Hey, I'm struggling with this. And I'll often say to
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  people, well, I'm not an addictions counselor, right? We
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  can talk about X, Y and Z, but if you're really looking for X,
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  Y and Z, you know, like this particular and it could be
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  anything. I'm just using that as an example, you know, I tend to
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  try and understand where I can be helpful and where my desire
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  to help can actually be harmful if I don't actually have the
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  skill set or the tools or whatever, or the expertise,
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  right? Okay? And then the fourth one is to check in. So we just
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  don't like one and done it. We don't just like check in with
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  people. Have them bring up all these emotions and then just
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  never check in with them again. So the check in is repeating,
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  like circling back, right? My friend and I, my best friend,
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  Katie and I, we call it kangaroo. I'm going to kangaroo
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  with you tomorrow. We'll kangaroo tomorrow. We always
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  say, right? So it's like, are you going to kangaroo with them?
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  Are you going to check? Oh, that's so interesting. Actually,
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  this is Australian that this Are you okay? Organization is
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  Australian. The kangaroo is a spiritual team on the job. And
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  so it's like, you know, checking in with them, so that it's not
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  just like a one off or a one and done, right? So that they know
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  that you care, and that you're actually there, that you didn't
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  just ask to be polite, you actually give a shit right? To
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  be consistent, to follow up. This is really, really
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  important, and it's such a simple thing, you know? And I
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  was thinking about this, I'm like, What's something really
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  simple that we can do to spread more love in the world? And I
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  just thought this fits the bill. This is so powerful, and it's so
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  impactful, and it's, it's such a small, tiny, little thing, and
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  it is four simple steps that could change somebody's life,
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  you know, and so much about this is, what's so beautiful about it
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  is they offer so many resources. So this is so great again,
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  especially if you're a parent if you have children, but in any
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  area of life, I was really blown away. I was really impressed. I
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  can tell that this organization did their homework, and they
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  really, really care. So I'm going to spell out the website
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  for you, and it's the letter, Ah, right? Ah, like, is rabbit,
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  ah, U. Write the letter U, and then the letters O and k. So
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  this is the website. It's ah, U, O, k.org, O, I, G, dot, a, U,
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  and they have so many resources, like, if you want to have this
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  conversation for with somebody, you work with a co worker,
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  there's like work resources, there's educator resources,
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  because what else could be better than than teaching these
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  skill sets to little kids? So for teachers and educators as
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  educator resources, there's community resources. There's
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  ways of talking to your mates or your mob, as they sometimes say
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  in Australia, how to be, how to be a better friend. And it's
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  like hashtag, better friending. You know what I'm saying? This
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  is so fantastic. There's a resource for if you're part of a
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  sports team or a sports community, right? There's
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  LGBTQIA plus resources. There's neuro divergent resources like,
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  how do I maybe ask this questions with my friends who
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  are neurodivergent, right? There's resources for people who
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  are going through grief and experiencing grief. There's one
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  for relationships. There's one for people who are having
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  financial stress and checking in with them, right? There's one
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  for people who maybe live in rural areas who are out there
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  remotely and don't get checked on a lot. There's one for
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  seniors. There's one for people who speak a different language.
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  I was like, holy shit. I was so deeply impressed by this. And I
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  hope, if you're still listening, that you actually do this. I
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  hope you take me up on this opportunity. And that's what I'm
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  doing here today too, is I'm checking in with all of you and
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  asking you, are you okay, and if you're not okay, do you have
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  somebody you can talk to? Can you reach out to somebody? Do
• 22:30
  you have a support system of some kind, a sibling, a friend,
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  a pastor, a coach, a teacher, somebody so that you, you know,
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  get to understand that you're not alone. And the thing is, is
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  that a lot of people you know, like, how do I say this? I'll,
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  like, talk to pretty much anybody you know what I mean.
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  Like, I'm not, like, weird about, like, starting
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  conversations with people. And because of I think of my
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  personality and also what I do for work and stuff. People can
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  go pretty deep pretty fast with me, and I'm comfortable with
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  that. Not everybody is right. So some people might feel like I
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  don't want to intrude, or it's rude to butt into people's
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  business or whatever. But you guys, we all need each other.
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  This is how we're going to get through the madness of this
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  human experience, the insanity that is this being a fucking
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  human on this planet today is we need each other, and for
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  somebody to really turn to you and look at you and see you, and
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  to put this much time and effort to picking the right time,
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  picking the right place, asking the question, thinking, ask,
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  asking those three preparatory things. You know, am I ready? Am
• 23:40
  I prepared? And did I pick the right moment? All this is going
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  to like. It shows this individual that they do matter,
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  that what they need does matter, that what they're feeling does
• 23:52
  matter, that they are loved, that they are cared for. You
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  know what I mean? It's like, what a beautiful gift to
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  somebody, and if nobody has done it for you, and if you feel like
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  you're the one who's always the one asking that question, just
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  know that I'm asking you right now, how you doing? Are you
• 24:09
  okay? And you can answer me if you want to. You know what I'm
• 24:14
  saying. People often do write to me and tell me how they're
• 24:16
  doing, especially if they're having a tough time and again. I
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  just thought this was so lovely and so powerful. And I hope that
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  you ask somebody. And you know, sometimes we have to ask
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  ourselves this question. Sometimes maybe other people are
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  all up in their business, their own business, and they're not
• 24:35
  paying attention to you at all. And sometimes you have to stop
• 24:38
  and get really honest with yourself. And you ask those
• 24:40
  younger parts of you inside too. And you say, Hey, how you guys
• 24:43
  doing in there? You okay? Because some days we are not
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  okay. You know what I'm saying, some days are tougher than
• 24:50
  others. And I just thought again that this is a beautiful little
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  thing. And so the four steps again are number one, ask number
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  two, listen. Number three, encourage action. Shin right the
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  E, and then number four is check in Alec, a, L, E, C, and I hope
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  this has been helpful to you. I know a lot of people out there
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  are not feeling okay right now for multiple reasons. There is
• 25:14
  so much there is so much pain, there is so much hatred, there
• 25:19
  is so much separation, there is so much violence, there is so
• 25:24
  much violence, there is so much that is going on. And we are a
• 25:27
  part of, we are part of a lot of what I would call like really,
• 25:32
  really sick systems, really sick systems and a sick society. And
• 25:38
  if we're not careful, we're all just going to get sicker with
• 25:41
  it. And this is one of the ways where we can stop and choose to
• 25:45
  do something different, choose to be an alternative to what,
• 25:50
  what social media is like, showing up for us, right? Like
• 25:53
  all, just all the insanity. And I just think this is a nice way
• 25:57
  to practice kindness and compassion and care and love. So
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  that's what I'm going to leave you with for right now. And I
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  hope you're doing okay, and if you're not doing okay, I hope
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  that you can have a listening ear, a kind, compassionate ear,
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  and remember, if you're going to ask this question, the goal is
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  to listen without judgment, to listen with curiosity and with
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  deep compassion. Okay, so one more time, it's the letter i, u,
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  O, k.org,
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  dot A, U, and they have amazing resources. And even though their
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  their date for over September 11, we can do this anytime we
• 26:36
  want to. So maybe your are you? Okay? Day will be when you hear
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  this podcast and you choose to ask this of somebody that you
• 26:45
  care about or have been noticing might seem a little off or like
• 26:49
  they're suffering or struggling, because we all need each other
• 26:52
  to get through this thing called life. You know what I'm saying?
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  All right, you guys, thanks for tuning in. I appreciate you. I
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  care about you. I love you. You Do matter. You Do matter, and
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  you always have. You always have. And so wherever you go out
• 27:06
  into the world, may you leave the animals, the other people,
• 27:10
  the place, the environment, and yourself better than how you
• 27:13
  first found it. Wherever you go, may you and your energy and your
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  presence and your love and your question of i, u, O, K, be a
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  blessing. Bye.