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If You Need It, You Don't Want It - Hypnosis to Break Wine Dependency · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here now. This is a hypnosis session all
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about reducing wine consumption and I was working with a client
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that had made massive. Progress that reduced.
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The amount of. Wine.
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They were drinking based on our first session, but in between
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the first session and this session they were able to use
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the. Time as reconnaissance on their.
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Own life and they figured out that actually there were certain
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times where they felt like they needed a drink and that was.
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If they were. Very stressed if they were
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anxious about something they had.
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To prepare. For the next day, if they were
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going through tough moments of moments.
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Of sadness or. Overwhelm.
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Or if there were social gatherings that were happening
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in the evening in a midweek, they would feel like they needed
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it. So the essence of.
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This hypnosis is. A new belief system and a belief
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system can be a rule based belief system.
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A rule based belief system is something that goes along the
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lines of if A then B and lots of people.
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Have unconscious. Rules.
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If people annoy me, I'll speak my mind.
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You know, that's the kind of belief system that people may
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have. If this, then that, this belief
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system is the idea that if I need wine, then I don't want
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wine. And that's really important
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because it doesn't mean that wine can never be drunk.
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Ever again. It specifically addresses the
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idea of needing it, and needing it is what leads to dependency.
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And a lot of these stories that link to needs are just
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narratives and they're not true. And I've, I've heard people say
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I. Need a drink That's.
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Clearly not true. It is not a biological need.
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What they're saying is is that they feel like they need it, not
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that they actually need it. And when you actually.
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Call the bluff. Of a false belief system and you
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say, actually the truth is I don't need it, I just want it.
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Then that feels empowering. But if it feels like a need.
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Then. Suddenly it's not on the table
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anymore. It's no longer possible and it
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forces a better relationship. And this can work in lots of
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different things as well. I've worked.
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With gamblers. And if they feel a compulsion to
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gamble, a great thing is if it if it feels like I have to
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gamble, I'm not gambling at all. You know, if I feel a craving
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for a certain food, well, I won't eat it at all.
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And it becomes a polarity response.
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Where the more. Intense the emotion, the more
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defiant you become, and that's the very essence of what makes.
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It work so. This is specifically about
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drinking wine and reducing the amount of wine.
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But the. Concept behind this can apply to
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lots of different things and if you like the idea of working
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with me directly, but to focus on your particular.
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Thing rather than wine. Or even if it is wine specific
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circumstances that relate to you and your life, have a look in
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the descripcion of this episode and there's.
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Various ways that you can learn about how to.
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Work with me for now though. Find a quiet, comfortable place
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where you won't be distracted or disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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your eyelids to close. And as they close, position your
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body in such a way where relaxation is natural, where
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letting go of tension feels effortless, but it becomes
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natural for you to drift into that place, that place of deep
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relaxation, where thoughts become ideas, ideas become
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beliefs, and beliefs become naturally the way you look at
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the world. So when you breathe in, breathe
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in deeper than you normally would.
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And as you exhale, allow the outward breath to continue for
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longer and just allow it to feel like it's releasing any stress,
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any worries, any anxiety, like it's the release valve of a
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pressure cooker, just allowing it to escape.
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So much so that each breath takes you deeper and deeper,
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relaxed. And the deeper you breathe, the
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more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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the deeper you breathe. And as your body relaxes, your
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imagination awakens to an enhanced level.
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And I want you to drift back to a memory, a place in nature, a
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place that is picturesque, of rivers and waterfalls, of
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landscapes, and just allow yourself to float back as I
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countdown from 5 to 1, floating back to that place, only this
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time you have the entire place just for you. 5 Floating up from
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your body. 4 Just imagine flying like an elegant bird gliding
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over oceans. 3 drifting, flying, floating.
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And just imagine you're getting closer to that incredible place
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in the world, that place of nature. 2 Drifting down and then
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one as you touchdown, you're wearing whatever clothing is
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appropriate and suitable to be in that place.
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And I want you to imagine, imagine the river is there, the
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landscape is there, the waterfall is there.
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And I want you to get a feeling that here in this place, a place
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within your imagination, is a place where change can take
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place, that can build on the very foundations that have
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already been laid. That can enable you to make
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refinements, subtle amendments and changes and distinctions
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that enable you to enhance what is already good and reduce what
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is no longer necessary. Imagine staring into the
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waterfall, seeing the river moving over and through that
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rock with a certainty that has nothing to do with effort.
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There is no motivation required for water to flow down the
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waterfall. It simply flows because that's
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what it does. It doesn't need to be convinced
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to move. It doesn't hesitate at the edge.
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It goes where it goes with complete and unhurried
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authority. Imagine floating up to the edge
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of that waterfall, hearing the rhythm of the sound of water
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cascading down. And I want you to get a sense, a
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sense of how you feel in that state of mindfulness where you.
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Activate a. Version of yourself that needs
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nothing to feel. Well, they're in that moment.
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Nature itself was enough to deal with stress or anxiety or
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worries. Sometimes what we already have
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is more than enough to provide everything.
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Clarity, stillness, groundedness.
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So here in this place, your mind is open to new ideas.
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They can change things in a wonderful direction.
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And I want you to think of someone, either yourself or
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someone you knew. They twisted their ankle or
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broke their leg years ago and then it healed completely.
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But just imagine there was a period of time where they were
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using crutches to move around. But I want you to imagine that
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person that at one point did need the crutch continues to use
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the crutches when there is no need for them anymore.
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Their ankle, their leg has long since healed, and yet they
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continue to hobble around using those crutches.
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Not because they need the crutch.
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Because they believe. The story.
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That they need the crotch. That somewhere along the way the
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crotch became part of the routine because it helped once
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there was a belief that it will continue helping.
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And I want you to entertain the possibility that for a while,
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maybe longer than you think, wine has been that crunch for
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you. Logically, you know, it's not a
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solution to stress, not an actual resource.
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It's a prop that got picked up in the evening and came to feel
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like part of the ritual of winding down, while the very
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stress it was supposed to address was simply postponed,
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intact, waiting on the other side of the glass or perhaps the
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next morning. Some people believe that the
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body keeps the score. And I want you to think of that
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data that you've been seeing. Sleep analysis, energy levels,
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readiness scores, improvements in running and fitness.
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What if they're telling you the truth, the same story clearly
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and consistently, but your body performs better, recovers
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better, and feels more itself on those mornings after the nights
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that you've been using that crotch that you don't actually
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need anymore? The crotch that we can call wine
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was never doing what it appeared to be doing.
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It was making things a little more blurred for a few hours and
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then returning them unchanged while taking something from the
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sleep and the energy and the clarity, paradoxically would
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have handled the stress far more effectively.
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Let's plant a seed of an idea that wine is a crotch that you
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no longer need. Your body has been showing you
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the proof for months. You don't need the crotch in the
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same way that a child may need stabilizers on a bike to learn,
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but it would be ridiculous to keep those stabilizers on a
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bike, and they can ride the bike without it.
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And what if there's a single principle that resolves almost
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every difficult moment around wine, and your unconscious can
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receive this now as something that operates automatically
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below the level of conscious deliberation, an intuitive
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compass. That Orient's instantly and
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reliably the idea, the concept, the principle is simple.
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If you feel like you need it, then you don't want it.
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Think about that. If you feel like you need it,
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the need, that means you don't want it.
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Because the need tells you you're treating it like the
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crotch. And if you use it like a crotch,
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you'll start believing you need the crotch even more.
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And this isn't a restriction, a forbidden rule.
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It's a distinction, the most important distinction available.
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At the very point when a stressful evening arrives, a
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difficult presentation looms or an emotionally heavy day finds
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its way to the end, you already know deep down that genuinely
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wanting wine is a different experience entirely.
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It feels different. The ease of a celebratory Class,
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A beautiful meal when exploring parts of the world and
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discovering new great varieties and flavours, and where the wine
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adds something to an experience that was already good.
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When it enhances, then that's not a need, that's simply a
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choice. Needing wine is a completely
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different quality. The particular pull of it
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arriving before you've even made a choice.
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The sense that the evening cannot quite begin without it,
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that you wouldn't feel right if it wasn't there, That something
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will be harder or more uncomfortable to navigate
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without it. And this feeling is the crutch
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talking. But now you know what it sounds
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like how it speaks. I'll need this.
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I can't get through this without it.
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The moment you identify it as the crutch, well, then the
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compass turns immediately and clearly, maybe through in a
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dialogue or a sensation in your chest or your gut.
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This is the crutch, not the choice.
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If you feel like you need it, and you know you don't need it,
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and you don't want it either. A need is a psychological trick.
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There's very few things you actually need.
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You need oxygen or you will die. Just a few minutes without
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oxygen is enough for you to no longer exist, and a few days
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without water shows that that is also a true need.
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And a few weeks without food, or perhaps just a few days without
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good sleep. These are your real needs.
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Ask yourself the question, could you live for a decade without
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wine if you needed to? You know there's people that
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don't drink wine at all and they're fine.
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Therefore you've got irrefutable evidence that nobody needs wine.
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That's why this unconscious boundary works, because if it
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feels like you need it, that's the very reason why you don't
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want it. Not because you don't like wine
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or want wine. It's the dependency.
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You don't want that. If you need it, then you don't
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want it, and your unconscious can hold each of those
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situations that have previously pulled you towards the crutch.
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And meet them with a different understanding.
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General stress. At the end of the day it's fine
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just to be present with yourself.
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Pre presentation anxiety, you're fine.
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A small wave of anxiety can help you prepare more, and those
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emotionally heavy days, things that connect to sadness,
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overwhelm. I want you to get a sense that
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those genuinely difficult days are enhanced by actually
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feeling, and you are someone who can feel hard things without
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being destroyed by them. You've done it many times before
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and you can do it again. Sitting with the feeling and
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knowing you can cope actually leads to growth decisions,
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insights that enhance your life. And those social evenings, maybe
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on a midweek? Well, this is where your
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internal compass is most useful. You already know that if the
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same gathering was at lunchtime, you wouldn't even think of
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having a drink. Therefore, your unconscious
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knows how to act as if it's a lunchtime gathering even if it's
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in the evening. Because with different time
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zones across the world, that is true.
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It is lunchtime somewhere. Always.
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Crutch was never doing what you thought it was.
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Your body has been showing you the proof for months.
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This has been an echo. An echo of something that at
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some time did actually help. But you don't need that help
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anymore. If you feel like you need it,
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you don't want it. I wonder where that compass is
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within you, That automatic, reliable, intuitive feeling that
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steers you in the right direction.
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Genuine choice is available. If you're choosing to drink
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because you want to, not because you need to, then drink a glass
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of wine with a meal, a celebration, a social gathering
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where you know that you don't need to drink if you don't want
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to. All of it enables you to feel
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you're in control. And I want you to imagine.
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Imagine seeing yourself in the weeks that follow.
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You want to have that first evening when you're stressed and
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not drink anyway. You want to be invited to that
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social gathering on a Wednesday or Thursday knowing that you'll
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go and not drink at all. You want to have that first
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tough day and know know that you don't need to drink to get
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through it. If you're unconscious, feels
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that you have more than enough resources to no longer need that
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old crutch that was never working, well, let me know by
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nodding your head. That's it.
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So there you are by the waterfall, by the river.
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Just float up into the sky and feel like you're floating all
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the way back. But when I count from 1:00 to
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10:00, you will return fully connected and calibrated into
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your body, fully present in the moment, sensations returning to
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arms and legs fully, fully connected.
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So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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your toes. Connect and calibrate.
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That's it here and now as I count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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awaken you. Starting to count. 123 Waking up
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456, More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes, 910. Wide awake.
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Wide awake. Wide awake.
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