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193. Embrace the Fall · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I'm sure you're familiar with hearing or even saying life
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  Speaker 1: has its ups and downs, and I would venture to
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  Speaker 1: say that we spend a lot of time talking about
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  Speaker 1: those ups. We sure have a lot to share when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to the ups. But what about the season
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  Speaker 1: of down? When you're down? What does it look like
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  Speaker 1: for you to be down? What does it look like
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  Speaker 1: when you are facing the floor, You're not at the top,
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  Speaker 1: You're not in the ups, You're in the downs. What
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  Speaker 1: does that look like for you? I think it's important
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  Speaker 1: for us to tell a beautiful story in the ups,
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  Speaker 1: but it's important for us to know our story in
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  Speaker 1: the season of the downs. Hello, my friends from all
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  Speaker 1: across the globe, and welcome to the Your Enriched Self Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I am your host, my Lee Noir. I am an
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  Speaker 1: emotional wellness and empowerment coach. And what does that mean?
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  Speaker 1: That means that I am here to help you navigate
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  Speaker 1: your mindset. I think we hear a lot about pivots
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  Speaker 1: Every idea, every thought, every goal, every plan, Everything that
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  Speaker 1: you are going to achieve in this season of your life,
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  Speaker 1: There is a seed that you are planting right now,
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  Speaker 1: And so it is so important to maintain that garden
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  Speaker 1: of your mind. And that's what I get to do
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  Speaker 1: you know one of the things that I do each
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  Speaker 1: and every week is I make a di posit into
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  Speaker 1: the bank of you, and I do that by way
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  Speaker 1: of affirmations. Affirmations are a great way to start your
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  Speaker 1: day and to command your mourning. And this week's affirmation
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  Speaker 1: is I am learning and growing from this experience. I
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  Speaker 1: am learning and growing from this experience. I am learning
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  Speaker 1: and growing from this experience. Now, let's get ready for
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  Speaker 1: this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcasts. So
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  Speaker 1: I eluded at the top of the podcast that we
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  Speaker 1: were going to be talking about the downs, and boy
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  Speaker 1: do I have a story to tell time for you.
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  Speaker 1: So this week, as I've mentioned on this podcast a
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  Speaker 1: multitude of times, I have and have been participated in
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  Speaker 1: a boot camp for the last year plus. And so
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  Speaker 1: this year is the third boot camp for twenty twenty five,
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  Speaker 1: and we just started on the past week here and
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  Speaker 1: one of the days of that boot camp, well two
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  Speaker 1: of the days are assessment days. On that assessment day one,
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  Speaker 1: we do a series of workouts, push up, sit ups,
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  Speaker 1: things of that nature to understand and assess where we are,
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  Speaker 1: so we kind of have that ground zero and then
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  Speaker 1: move into those final weeks of assessing us at the end.
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  Speaker 1: The other assessment that we do is a run assessment.
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  Speaker 1: So we run a two mile route and it is
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  Speaker 1: a challenging route. I must say, it is very hilly,
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  Speaker 1: but we are in Georgia, so what do you expect?
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  Speaker 1: But it is a significantly challenging route, and I want
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  Speaker 1: to improve my run. So I had been doing a
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  Speaker 1: lot of pre work to get my muscle memory in
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  Speaker 1: place so that I can achieve some new goals and
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  Speaker 1: get some personal records out there so that I can
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  Speaker 1: accomplish some goals, some personal fitness goals that I have
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  Speaker 1: for myself. And so that's kind of a backdrop to
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  Speaker 1: what this is where I was. So here I am
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  Speaker 1: five am with the five Am Run crew, and we
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  Speaker 1: are getting ready to do our two mile assessment. Now
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  Speaker 1: I am finishing the run, and I'm kind of excited
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  Speaker 1: because I feel different about how this run is going.
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  Speaker 1: And I have a pacer with me, and we're pacing
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  Speaker 1: and it's helping challenge each of us to do our
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  Speaker 1: best and to keep up with each other. And I
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  Speaker 1: am about a quarter mile to the finish line and
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  Speaker 1: I fall. I literally fell. That was not on my
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  Speaker 1: BINGO card for that assessment. It was not on my
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  Speaker 1: Bingo card for my run. It was not a my
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  Speaker 1: Bengo card or any card for myself, and it was
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  Speaker 1: I I can't even say it's low motion. But a
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  Speaker 1: few things happened in that moment. For one, I obviously
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  Speaker 1: I hit the ground and they say you feel no pain,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't think I felt pain. I just was
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  Speaker 1: really startled that I had just fallen. And so my
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  Speaker 1: pacing partner she checked in on me, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: just keep going. And I had a choice in that moment.
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  Speaker 1: I could have limped my way through. I could have
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  Speaker 1: allowed my mental state to take over and make me
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  Speaker 1: a victim of that fall. Or I could just finish
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  Speaker 1: with the same momentum power finish that I had planned
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  Speaker 1: to finish with. And so I chose the latter. I
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  Speaker 1: chose to finish strong, and I did. I finished strong
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  Speaker 1: to the point that I did have a personal best
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  Speaker 1: on that day, and I didn't expect that to happen.
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  Speaker 1: I did not expect a personal best that day because
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  Speaker 1: I had spent time down and I had to get
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  Speaker 1: up and get moving again. And it was really interesting
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  Speaker 1: for me to talk about this or share this story
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  Speaker 1: with you know, friend's family and even share it on
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  Speaker 1: this podcast because there was a time in my life
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  Speaker 1: that I did not embrace the fall. A story like
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  Speaker 1: this would have buried me. At least that's what I thought.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I processed falls or misses or mishaps. I
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  Speaker 1: saw them as fatal. But something happened with this fall.
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  Speaker 1: It was almost as though this was an orchestrated fall.
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  Speaker 1: It almost had to happen to me. So first of all,
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  Speaker 1: give this message, but also learn something along the way.
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  Speaker 1: And those are the things I want to share with
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  Speaker 1: you today. But when my body hit the ground, something
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  Speaker 1: beautiful happened in my soul. I discovered that a fall
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  Speaker 1: is not fatal. In fact, I would challenge you to
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  Speaker 1: know this going forward, that when you fall, because it's
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  Speaker 1: not if we are going to fall, know that it's
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  Speaker 1: probably likely the most important part of your journey. Again,
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  Speaker 1: I am embracing that mindset. I'm embracing that thought because
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  Speaker 1: I'm learning from what happened to me on that run route.
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  Speaker 1: The first thing I will say is the fall is feedback,
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  Speaker 1: It's not failure. And as I mentioned, there was a
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  Speaker 1: time in my life where when I fell, when I
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  Speaker 1: had a moment where things did not go well and
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  Speaker 1: I was in my downs, I felt as though I
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  Speaker 1: was weak, and falling is not a sign that you
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  Speaker 1: are weak. In fact, what I learned when my body
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  Speaker 1: hit the ground and my soul opened up was falling is,
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  Speaker 1: in fact a sign that you are in motion. That's
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  Speaker 1: why I felt I was moving, I was up, I
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  Speaker 1: was out. I was trying to accomplish something. I had
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  Speaker 1: a goal in mind, and that's what falling is. And
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  Speaker 1: now what happened with this fall is that the fall
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  Speaker 1: is a disruption, but what opened up is a self
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  Speaker 1: awareness that came from that moment of the fall. Because
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  Speaker 1: now I can embrace the fall. I now know that listen,
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  Speaker 1: even after you fall, you can finish strong. And again,
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  Speaker 1: as I mentioned, I had a personal best that day.
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  Speaker 1: I've had days where I thought I was running and
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  Speaker 1: doing my personal best and I did not do my
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  Speaker 1: personal best. But the day I fell is the day
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  Speaker 1: I did my personal best. The awareness and the self
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  Speaker 1: awareness that's happening that has happened over the last few
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  Speaker 1: days has been magical. So I had to ask myself,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna challenge you when you fall and maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're not gonna literally fall, but you're gonna have a
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  Speaker 1: moment where things put you in the downs. I want
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  Speaker 1: you to ask yourself this question. What is that moment
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  Speaker 1: trying to tell you about yourself? Trying to tell you
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  Speaker 1: about your pace? Right? I was at a certain pace,
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  Speaker 1: And what is it trying to tell you about your path?
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  Speaker 1: Because I think you're gonna realize that when you have
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  Speaker 1: that fall, you're living. You're not standing still. You're in motion,
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  Speaker 1: and that's what life is all about. If we're gonna pivot,
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  Speaker 1: if we're gonna move, if we're gonna learn, we have
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  Speaker 1: to be in motion. And when you're in motion, there
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  Speaker 1: is a possibility you are going to fall. And that's
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  Speaker 1: okay because you can still get up and get going again.
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  Speaker 1: And that's my next point. You get to decide what
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  Speaker 1: happens after the fall. As I mentioned, it's not if
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna fall, it's when you're gonna fall. So that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of the universal law, right, I don't make the
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  Speaker 1: stuff up. The thing about the fall is staying down.
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  Speaker 1: That is the optional part. You get to decide. And
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  Speaker 1: last week we talked about you are one decision away
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  Speaker 1: from your win, and it really resonates this week because
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  Speaker 1: I was a decision away when I decided to get
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  Speaker 1: up and get back in the race, you can and
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  Speaker 1: decide to do that. It was the difference between a
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  Speaker 1: setback and a stop. And I had the option to say,
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  Speaker 1: am I gonna stop here and just limp my way
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  Speaker 1: through it? Or feel sorry for myself or become a victim,
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  Speaker 1: or am I gonna say, Okay, well, set back, but
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  Speaker 1: let me finish with the best momentum, the best that
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  Speaker 1: I can give in this moment, And sometimes the best
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  Speaker 1: you can give in that moment after the fall is
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  Speaker 1: eighty percent, might be fifty percent, but if you can
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  Speaker 1: put that percentage to work, you can reinforce the power
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  Speaker 1: within yourself to rise again, to be great again, to
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  Speaker 1: try again, to move again. So the question is how
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  Speaker 1: will you choose to respond the next time you fall?
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  Speaker 1: That's the question. How will you choose to respond rather
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  Speaker 1: than react the next time you fall? And finally, what
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  Speaker 1: falling will do comfort cannot I'm gonna repeat that what
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  Speaker 1: falling can and will do for you, your comfort and
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  Speaker 1: your comfort zone can never. I always have said to myself,
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  Speaker 1: especially in seasons when I feel like I am in
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  Speaker 1: the comfort zone. And I call the comfort zone a hotel.
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  Speaker 1: It is that plush, five star space. And I'm not
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  Speaker 1: leaving because it feels too good here to leave out
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  Speaker 1: and go somewhere where it's not gonna be as comfortable.
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  Speaker 1: It might be a two or three star. You know,
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  Speaker 1: there might be some amenities. And that's what the comfort
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  Speaker 1: zone does. It traps you in this place where you're
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  Speaker 1: so comfortable you are not moving, and so falling is
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  Speaker 1: literally the opposite of that comfort zone. Falling is going
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  Speaker 1: out there and realizing it's not five star and there
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  Speaker 1: are holes in this process, and there are holes in
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  Speaker 1: this life, and they are challenges that come up, and
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  Speaker 1: they're obstacles that are here. And oh, by the way,
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  Speaker 1: I just fell again. But that's because you're out there
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  Speaker 1: in the world. That's because you're taking on challenges. That's
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  Speaker 1: because you're willing to struggle. Because that struggle brings strength.
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  Speaker 1: Think about the gym workout and the exercises using weights,
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  Speaker 1: right that struggle to do that set tells you that
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  Speaker 1: you need to strengthen yourself a little bit more. So
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  Speaker 1: you're strengthening. I built some strength, some mental strength when
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  Speaker 1: I fail, because now I know what I can accomplish
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  Speaker 1: after I fall. I can't get that from the comfort zone.
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  Speaker 1: I might get that five star review, I might get
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  Speaker 1: the sweet sheets and everything else that comes with it,
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  Speaker 1: the massage, but I am not going to get that
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  Speaker 1: mental growth that I need need to go to the
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  Speaker 1: next level to do the next thing, to be my
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  Speaker 1: best self in this world. The other thing that happened
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  Speaker 1: for me in this season of fall or downs is
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  Speaker 1: that I got so humble. I found such great wisdom
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  Speaker 1: that I'm willing to share here and I've shared with
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  Speaker 1: others as well, Like, we should not be a victim
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  Speaker 1: to the fall. And again, you may not be falling
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  Speaker 1: in a physical sense. There may be areas in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe financially you're taking a hit, you know, maybe spiritually
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  Speaker 1: you're taking a hit. But you can decide that there's
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  Speaker 1: something here for you to take away from it. You
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  Speaker 1: will realize now that you have a new grit that
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  Speaker 1: will only come from the fall. You're not gonna get
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  Speaker 1: a grit built in a comfort zone. Here's all I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna encourage you to do. I go to encourage you
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  Speaker 1: not to hide your fall. I want you to harvest
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  Speaker 1: the fall. Now I say that because this was the
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  Speaker 1: first time for me, and like I said, I've been
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  Speaker 1: in positions like this before, and there was a version
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  Speaker 1: of me who would have been mortified that anyone even
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  Speaker 1: knew or anyone mentioned it or anything of that nature.
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  Speaker 1: I would have been mortified if someone knew that I
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  Speaker 1: had taken a fall. Why Why though, Because I had
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  Speaker 1: not been emotionally strong enough to embrace all of this
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  Speaker 1: goodness about falling. And so that's where the wisdom part
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  Speaker 1: comes in. That's where the ability to grow from a
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  Speaker 1: fall comes in. And so I'm gonna encourage you not
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  Speaker 1: to hide your fall. I mean, I've told a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of people, maybe some people even listening to this episode
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  Speaker 1: about my fall, maybe not in such a way as
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  Speaker 1: I'm painting it here, but I've definitely expressed the fact
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  Speaker 1: that that was an experience that I had, and I
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  Speaker 1: decided in that split second moment to go and go
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  Speaker 1: with energy, go and finish strong, and that's exactly what
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  Speaker 1: I did. What I want you to know is that
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  Speaker 1: every fall has the potential to fertilize your future, every
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  Speaker 1: single one of them. The question is are you willing
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