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The Seven Blocks to Breakthroughs 2/7: Name Your Weight. The Truth Frees the Path. #TakeActionTuesday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome, beautiful souls.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're listening to the Sweet Spot here on Take Action Tuesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: We made it through Monday.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you may recall, we're doing a series this week called The Seven Blocks to Breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Seven Blocks to Breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yesterday, Monday, Making Moves Monday, we talked about the first block, the lie that we tell ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, we discussed that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh today, today on Take Action 2, Say Beautiful Souls, we're taking the next step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because once you see the lie, the next question is: where did I settle because of it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did I settle?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I've been telling myself a lie.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this one is important because we've got to look in the mirror.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it takes a little bravery and courage.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you unlock it like this, you go to your next level.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the way it works.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the thing: me and you.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we're talking to somebody who is settling, even if it's ourselves, that person is not weak.
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  SPEAKER_00: They have settled because somewhere along the way they just got tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: Somewhere along the way, they got discouraged or they got talked down to, they were underestimated, they got hurt, something happened, and eventually they felt like they had to settle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Settle and be safe rather than take a risk and hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: But today, what is today?
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  SPEAKER_00: Today is Take Action Tuesday, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And because it's Take Action Tuesday, we're going to dig up and excavate what's underneath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because every single one of us has a place where we shrunk to fit, where we played small.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a job that didn't match our gifts and we stayed there.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a relationship where we didn't speak up or didn't say what we really wanted to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: We dimmed our voice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a dream that we talked ourselves out of.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe there's a version of you that you abandoned so that you can keep the peace with everybody around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're not who you really are.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're playing it safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Settling is not about smallness, though.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about protection, and that's the key.
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  SPEAKER_00: When we settle, we're really trying to protect ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's take action Tuesday, so we've got a problem.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've got to take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm gonna ask you a question.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's rhetorical.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to answer it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I protecting myself from now?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the rhetorical question for you to just sort of think through.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, here on The Sweet Spot, we love talking about the brain and we talk about brain science because the brain is important.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's what determines your thoughts, and in many ways, along with your heart, it creates your reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: So your brain has a system called the salience network, the part that kind of tags things as safe, or if they're dangerous or important, it's tagging things.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you've lived through disappointment or rejection, it's the salience network in your brain that makes a decision and makes you become either overprotective or hesitant.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's because of your salience network that you treat anything uncertain as a threat.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why people stay where they don't belong.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or they stay quiet when they should be speaking up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or they choose familiar pain over unfamiliar possibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us would rather stay with the pain that we are dealing with rather than take the risk to find out what's out there because we don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not weakness, that's natural wiring in the brain to avoid threat.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like we said yesterday when we were talking about the default mode network, the DMN, the brain can learn safety again.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not it's plastic, it can do things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you don't have to be stuck here.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't have to be stuck here.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain can learn safety again, and because we're mind, body, and spirit, the spirit already knows its time, it already knows things.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ancient wisdom gives us clues and tells us how to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Speaking of the ancient wisdom, in Isaiah, the book of Isaiah, in the ancient wisdom, Isaiah 54, verse 2, one of my favorites.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the message Bible interpretation, it's not the classic.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like the message Bible because it's so clear to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It said it says this: clear the ground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clear the ground for your tent.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make your tent large, spread it out and think big.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's in the ancient wisdom.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make your tents large, spread out, think big.
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  SPEAKER_00: Clear the ground.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't shrink, don't hide, don't lower your expectations to match the fear in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: You think big today, you make room for your tent today, expand.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what that means?
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  SPEAKER_00: That means your life was never meant to stay in the places where you're settling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Real talk.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me ask you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did you settle because you forgot who you were?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did you stay small because the lie felt louder than your truth?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where have you been surviving instead of living?
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  SPEAKER_00: If I were um listening into Wolf Fraser, I would say, where have you been surviving instead of thriving?
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  SPEAKER_00: Surviving and thriving.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I digress.
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  SPEAKER_00: You only you would know the answer to these questions where you've been playing small, where you've not been your truth, your true self.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know the answer, your spirit knows the answer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today it's about naming it so you can reclaim it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Name it and reclaim, name and reclaim.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man, I'm in the I'm in the rhyming mood today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I might break out into some rap if we keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, my friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, here's your challenge.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to write down one thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Write this sentence down.
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  SPEAKER_00: I settled when I chose blank instead of who I truly am.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't edit it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I settled when I chose to do blank or chose to be blank instead of I truly am.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to spend a moment with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did I settle?
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't edit it, don't polish it, just name it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where I settle.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because clarity, my friend, is courage.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you have clarity, you can get courage.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if this episode spoke to you today and if you're feeling, hmm, I'm gonna do a little workaround where I'm settling, share it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Share it with someone who's been shrinking.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone who you think might be settling without even noticing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And make sure you come back tomorrow for more breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not just any Wednesday.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's Win It All Wednesday here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Alright, and tomorrow's question is a great one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love this question.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I actually want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you know how many of us don't never ask ourselves that question?
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  SPEAKER_00: What do I actually want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not what your job wants, not what your your your family wants, not what your friends want, not yeah, not what fear told you to want.
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  SPEAKER_00: What do you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: So tomorrow tune in and we build on that question as we build your new life, as we get through these seven breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Uh, beautiful soul, be amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.