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How to Tame Your Inner Dragons of Judgement and Inferiority · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi. It's Adam here and in this
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  episode of The Hypnotist, you'll be listening to a hypnosis
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  session created for a client that had feelings of low self
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  worth, a lot of feelings of judgement and in in a dialogue
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  that a lot of people have, which is very, very critical judge
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  mental and very harsh. And the inspiration for this
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  session was a combination of the client that I was working with.
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  But it. Was a book that they were
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  reading and it was from an author called Doctor Ayman
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  Daniel Amon and the book is called Your brain is always
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  listening Tame the Hidden Dragons.
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  And if you've listened to this podcast before, you'll know how
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  much I love metaphors. And I've used Dragons as a
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  metaphor for anxiety before. But what I liked about learning
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  more about this book is that it uses different types of Dragons,
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  about 16 different Dragons, to represent different parts.
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  So whether you look at parts as ego states or internal family
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  systems or just separate resource states, giving them a
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  different label can be quite helpful to working with them.
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  And as I was working with this client, of the 16 Dragons, there
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  were four Dragons that they really resonated with that
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  linked to things like loneliness, judgement, feelings
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  of low self worth. And when you listen to this
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  hypnosis session, you'll hear how there is a form of nested
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  loops and stage disassociation meeting these Dragons.
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  But the Dragons change and partly through sub modalities
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  like color and proximity and brightness, but also through
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  their mannerisms and their posture and their expressions
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  and things like that. So even though we talk about
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  four Dragons in this hypnosis session, in reality.
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  There's 8. There's the Dragons when they
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  meet them and the Dragons that they become once they've been
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  tamed. And I didn't realize that the
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  author that Eamon was talking about taming these Dragons.
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  A lot of people use the metaphor of slaying a dragon, but
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  actually it doesn't make sense to destroy or slay a part,
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  particularly if that part has a positive intention.
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  Much better that you turn an enemy into an ally.
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  So if you can relate to feelings of inferiority or low self
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  esteem or. Loneliness or.
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  Feelings of there's a harsh critic inside of you, then I
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  think you'll benefit from this session.
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  Like most of my sessions, it was created for an individual
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  client, so if you like the idea of working with me directly
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  bespoke to you and your needs, there will be a link in the show
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  notes that you can schedule a free consultation call.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and.
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  Enjoy the session. Take.
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  A deep breath in and as you breathe in, just imagine
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  breathing in a wonderful feeling of calm and.
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  Relaxation. And as you exhale, feel you are
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  releasing any sensations of tension, worries, or stress.
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  Just feel it leaving your body in your outward breath,
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  breathing in a wonderful feeling of resourcefulness, and exhaling
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  whatever is holding you back. I want you to position your body
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  in a way that makes it possible for you to feel two or three
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  times more relaxed than you currently do.
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  Maybe loosen the muscles there in your neck or your shoulders,
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  relax your jaw and position your body in a way where your arms
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  and legs can feel limp, loose and heavy, releasing all
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  tension. Breathing in a wonderful feeling
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  of relaxation and exhaling tension.
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  The deeper you breathe, the more relaxed your body becomes and
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  the more relaxed your body becomes.
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  Feel that your imagination is awakening like a sleeping
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  dragon. Imagine it.
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  Start to awaken. I want you to think of what it
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  would have been like to be perhaps 5 or 6 years old.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing someone reading a story.
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  A fairy tale of Knights and Dragons and castles and
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  kingdoms. Imagine someone reading a story
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  in front of a fireplace and nobody knew you were there.
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  Imagine how you would feel just to walk up, sit down, cross your
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  legs, and aloud your imagination to follow the story as you
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  imagine sitting comfortably by the warm glow of a crackling
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  fire. Imagine the tone of voice of a
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  storyteller weaving a tale. And maybe the story begins with
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  a brave knight, one whose armour reflects the sunlight like a
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  mirror. And this night was setting out
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  on a quest. And this night had been given a
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  task, a noble and daunting challenge to journey into the
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  heart of a mystical land and confront four Dragons, each
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  guarding a part of the Night's Kingdom that had fallen into
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  shadow. But as the storyteller
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  continues, you realize something unusual about this tale.
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  These Dragons cannot be defeated with swords or violence.
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  They are not beasts to slay, but forces to understand, to tame
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  and to transform. And maybe this journey of the
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  night in this magical Kingdom awakens a thought within you
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  that the true victory comes from within through wisdom, courage
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  and compassion. So imagine being there,
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  listening to that story. But sometimes when you get
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  immersed into a good story, you can't help but start to take on
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  the role of the main character. So don't be surprised if you
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  find yourself stepping into the tail as though the firelight has
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  pulled you into its warm embrace.
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  Perhaps you no longer see the knight with his armour that
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  reflects the sun, but feel that you are the knight wearing the
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  armour and it fits you perfectly.
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  The sword in their hand becomes your sword, but feel it's as
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  light as air, a symbol of strength, not a weapon of
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  violence. Feel that you are the knight
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  now, and maybe you're standing at the edge of a vast and
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  enchanting forest, ready to meet the Dragons.
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  But notice the absence of fear. No anxiety, just pure courage.
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  With each step forward, the world around you grows clearer,
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  brighter, and more vivid. Perhaps as you journey deeper,
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  you hear a low growl. Before you stands the first
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  dragon, it's scales dull and cracked, it's eyes filled with
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  sadness. This is the inferior and floored
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  dragon, whispering words of inadequacy in comparison.
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  And maybe it tells you that you are not enough, that others are
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  doing so much better. But you do not raise your sword.
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  Instead, you take a deep breath and step closer.
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  You notice the dragon scales reflect your own image, but it's
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  distorted, like looking into a broken mirror.
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  And maybe with calm bravery and courage, you speak to the dragon
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  and tell the dragon I see you. You are not my enemy.
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  You are my teacher. You have shown me where I need
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  to find my own light. As you reach out, the cracks in
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  the dragon scales begin to glow, the distorted reflection smooths
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  into clarity and start to see yourself as you truly are.
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  Strong, capable, and whole. Not perfect, but more than good
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  enough. The dragon bows see it lower its
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  head towards the ground in a submissive act, letting you know
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  it now works for you rather than controls you, it's growl
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  softening into a purr as the enemy has become your ally.
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  You say goodbye to this dragon, knowing it will be with you when
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  you need it, and further into the forest you hear a hiss and
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  feel a sharp wind. The second dragon appears, tall
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  and stern with piercing eyes. This is the Judge Mental Dragon,
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  it's claws tapping impatiently, pointing out flaws in everything
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  it sees. But you do not flinch.
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  You stand tall and meet its gaze, staring straight into the
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  Dragon's eyes, noticing that it's harsh words echo voices
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  you've heard before, perhaps in your own head.
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  I have spoken about others with compassion, you tell the dragon
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  Judgement. You have protected me in the
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  past, but I no longer need your sharpness.
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  I choose kindness, encouragement, understanding for
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  myself and for others. See the Dragon's Pierce sharp
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  eyes start to soften, turning into kind, kind eyes, and see
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  the best in people, continuing to judge but judging in a
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  positive way, seeing the best in everyone.
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  And as you speak, the Dragon's claws soften into feathers, all
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  of those harsh pointy features melting into gentleness.
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  It nods and steps aside, now a guardian of fairness and
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  positive evaluations rather than harsh criticism, and as you
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  leave, hear the words with a different tone, telling you how
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  brave you are, how strong you are, giving you words of
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  encouragement and pointing out all of your most positive
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  qualities. As you leave that judgmental
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  dragon behind, you continue beyond the forest, now in a dark
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  valley, where you encounter the third dragon, it's form massive
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  yet way down, it's wings folded as though too heavy to fly.
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  This is the hopeless and helpless dragon, whispering of
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  despair and the impossibility of change.
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  Time has been wasted, what's the point?
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  It's not worth trying anything. But you notice something else.
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  A tiny spark of light in its eyes, a faint glimmer of who
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  this dragon was before, a glimmer of hope buried beneath
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  its despair. Imagine kneeling before the
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  dragon and telling the dragon, I see the burden you carry, but I
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  am stronger than you think I am, and together we can and will
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  rise. You place your hand on its great
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  wings and they begin to unfurl. The dragon takes a deep,
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  shuddering breath, and with your encouragement, you remind the
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  dragon of its greatness, its qualities.
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  Remind the dragon. That it can and will be the best
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  it's ever been. So see that dragon rising into
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  the air, perhaps the first time it's flying in years.
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  See, it's soaring upwards. The once heavy wings now carry
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  both of you as you imagine yourself on the back of that
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  elegant elevated dragon, flying through the mystical lands.
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  Imagine flying high above the valley, seeing the Kingdom from
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  high up above, seeing the vast possibilities ahead.
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  This dragon will take you to new heights, to new places, to new
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  possibilities. And just as you reminded the
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  dragon of who it really is, so the dragon will do the same
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  thing for you, giving you that spring in your step, that chin
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  up, that feeling that you can conquer the world.
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  The dragon drops you off beside a still lake, nodding to you
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  before flying off back to its valley.
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  And before long, the last dragon appears.
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  It's form is shadowy and translucent, it's voice a soft,
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  echoing whisper. This is the loneliness and
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  isolation dragon, perhaps reflecting your deepest fears of
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  being disconnected, unseen, unheard, or alone.
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  But you're not afraid of the dragon.
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  None of them. As you step closer, you notice
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  something strange. The Dragon's form changes,
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  mirroring your movements. You realize it's not separate
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  from you, it's a part of you. This dragon, like you, craves
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  connection. It was afraid of loneliness,
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  afraid of rejection, afraid of not being good enough, but only
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  because the connection was desired.
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  Look into the eyes of the dragon and with a steady voice tell the
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  dragon, I choose to reach out, I choose to connect.
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  I will take the risks for love and for connection, first with
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  myself and then with others, acknowledging that nobody can
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  love you more than you love and accept yourself.
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  Loneliness. You no longer have power over
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  me. And notice how quickly the
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  Dragon's shadowy form solidifies into a glowing radiant light.
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  It becomes a bridge across the lake, inviting you to step
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  forward on it's tail, walking across it's back.
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  And as you get to the other end of the lake, you jump off it's
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  nose and turn around. This dragon wasn't trying to
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  keep you alone, it was trying to protect you from emotional pain.
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  And now that you know that, this dragon will be the voice of
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  connection, No longer isolation, nudging you to connect with
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  friends, form new social circles, develop relationships
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  by loving and accepting yourself.
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  This dragon, like the three others, are now allies.
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  The voices in your head will change, becoming more
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  encouraging, supportive. They will build you up rather
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  than knock you down. They will encourage you rather
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  than urging you to hold back. With four Dragons inside your
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  mind, you are unstoppable. On the other side of the lake,
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  you realize that all four Dragons have returned, now tamed
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  and transformed, all smiling, all friendly, all allies
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  standing behind you to support you.
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  They are no longer sources of fear, but symbols of your growth
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  and transformation. The inferior and floor dragon
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  now shines with the truth of your worth, the Judge Mental
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  Dragon carries the wisdom of kindness, the hopeless and
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  helpless dragon reminds you of your power to rise again, giving
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  you resilience, and the loneliness and Isolation dragon
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  glows with the promise of connection and self acceptance.
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  As you say goodbye to your 4 Dragons, you find yourself by
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  the fireplace, hearing the storyteller end the story by
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  saying that the knight returned a hero to the Kingdom, taming
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  the untamable Dragons. You can't help but smile,
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  feeling that just as the night has changed, something inside
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  you has changed too. So hold on to that thought, that
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  feeling. But this wasn't just a story,
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  but a magical spell that creates change.
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  And I wonder if when you return to your inner Kingdom, your
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  reality, take those Dragons back with you, take a deep breath in
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  through your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers and. Wiggle your toes.
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  Connect fully into the here and now as I now count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken feeling a shift,
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  hearing those voices of positive positive words and feeling a new
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  level of self-confidence and self acceptance.
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  You may even notice a spring in your step, a different energy, a
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  different tempo, a different frequency that will create
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  wonderful self fulfilling prophecies.
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  Starting to count to awaken you 123.
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  Waking up 456. More alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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