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The Seven Blocks to Breakthroughs 4/7: Try the Next Brave Thing. Trust Builds in Motion. #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings, beautiful souls.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome back to the sweet spot here.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have reached Trust Yourself Thursday, and I'm so proud of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've done it, you've done it, you've done it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are in Trust Yourself Thursday here on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: We love Trust Yourself Thursday because sometimes during the week it's super important to remember that you can trust you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, I'm the host of The Sweet Spot, and I trust you're having a great time with me here as we tackle the seven blocks to breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're up to block number four, believe it or not, on our seven-day journey, and we've really had some great insights.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you haven't listened to the other three blocks that we've been listening to, I'd like you to go back and really just spend some time if you have a moment to just get a grasp on what we've talked about.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll just tell you briefly on Monday, we talked about block number one, which was the lie that we can be living or the lie that we've been told.
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  SPEAKER_00: On Tuesday, Take Action Tuesday, we talked about the broken place where we settled and how that can become a block.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go listen to that one, it's very clear.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then on Win and All Wednesday, yesterday, we reclaimed ourselves and we reclaimed our goals by saying, hey, what do we actually want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Go back and listen.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today on Trust Yourself Thursday, my friends, we move into one of the bravest questions of the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: What will I try next?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not what you will perfect, not what you'll master, just what will you try?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because trust isn't built in your thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people think that.
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  SPEAKER_00: They think that that's where trust is built.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're partially right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust is built when you take a step.
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  SPEAKER_00: So trust is built in your steps.
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  SPEAKER_00: And today's block is around the fear of trying.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why we asked the question.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why we asked the question, what will I try next?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not just the fear of trying, it's the fear of trying again.
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  SPEAKER_00: People aren't really afraid of starting, in my view, having talked to so many people and counseled so many people.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're not really afraid of starting.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're afraid of starting while being scared.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're afraid of trying while they're doubting.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're afraid of moving before they feel ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what the deeper fear usually is, and that's what I tend to work with when we do coaching and counseling.
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  SPEAKER_00: But here's the quiet truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your confidence doesn't grow from success.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know where it grows?
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  SPEAKER_00: From the attempts you make to be successful.
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  SPEAKER_00: The attempt itself is what gives the confidence, and many of us miss that.
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  SPEAKER_00: One small step taken with even the shakiest hand builds more trust than a thousand hours of talking about it and thinking about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is where your transformation begins, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: So wherever it is, you've got to try.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to make the step.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in neuroscience, you know, here on the sweet spot, that's what we do, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: In neuroscience, trying may matter even more than getting it right.
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  SPEAKER_00: There I said it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me break that down for you in a way that feels more human, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: There's a learning circuit in your brain, and it's centered around a structure we've talked about before, the ACC, I don't know if you remember it, it's the anterior cingular cortex and the dopamine system.
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  SPEAKER_00: These two systems create this kind of learning circuit, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And they light up every time you attempt something new.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not when you succeed.
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  SPEAKER_00: It lights up more when you're attempting to do something new, not when things are perfect, but when you're trying.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep trying, keep going at it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's the truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain doesn't activate your growth circuits through perfection, it activates them through participation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It loves to participate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every attempt, even if it's a messy one, even if you've messed up, it didn't work, it gives your brain new data.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your fear signals, they get quieter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your confidence circuitry, it strengthens, and your sense of agency defense.
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  SPEAKER_00: You watch your athlete prepare and practice, they go at it again and again.
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  SPEAKER_00: By the time we see them, they are so good at it that it looks so easy and effortless to make that shot.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so easy and effortless to dive off this diving board and do all these flips to score the goal, to get the ball into the net.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: To catch the ball in the end zone, to make the perfect tackle, all of that, all of that is through attempting things and trying it over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't see the practice how hard they work.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't see how hard that surgeon works on tying knots and making things uh perfect in their practice so that they can get out there and really be flawless.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, every attempt, even messy ones, gives your brain information and data and it makes the brain more efficient.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your story will shift from I'm not ready to I can handle this if you practice, if you make movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your story will shift to I can trust myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying, not succeeding, trying is what rewires your system for courage.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've got to try.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you make it or you don't make it, try.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the deeper psychological layer.
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  SPEAKER_00: We talked about it yesterday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Motivation isn't created by the finish line, motivation is created by what?
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  SPEAKER_00: Movement and meaning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that from yesterday?
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  SPEAKER_00: Meaningful movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you take a step forward, anything that you're trying to do in life, you take a step forward, and that step points you towards something that matters to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain says, aha, we're gonna go in this direction, this is what we're gonna do.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a secret of the most skilled masters to take action and movement and make it work for you before you're even ready.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes movement without meaning is draining, it's just activity.
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  SPEAKER_00: But movement tied into meaning, that's when your spirit and your brain say together, hmm, this is us.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is who we are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ha! Let's go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying something aligned with what you want is what signals your entire nervous system to work with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're becoming who we said we're gonna become, is what the brain hears and sees and feels.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can't trick this brain too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: It knows.
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  SPEAKER_00: It knows if you're just sitting there talking and just talking in circles and ain't really doing anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the ancient wisdom frames it like this in Psalms 37-23.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take the first step.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you walk with me, I'll show you the next one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Psalm 3723.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take the first step.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you walk with me, I'll show you the next one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hmm.
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  SPEAKER_00: That matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know why it matters?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because in the ancient wisdom, the Most High God really hands out the entire blueprint.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of us wish he would, but he doesn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: He hands out a step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Moses got a step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember him?
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  SPEAKER_00: Abraham got a step, Ruth got a step.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta take a step, a step of faith.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, I love it, I love it.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Science, soul, and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every story, my friend, of transformation begins with a simple, imperfect movement.
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  SPEAKER_00: A simple step.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the step is what activates the path, not what you're thinking, not what you're dreaming.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's important.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the step, you gotta take the step.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it going to the doctor?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it calling that person that you're mad at?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is what activates your transformation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me ask you gently: what is one small thing you can try next that moves you closer to the life you want?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not the whole plan.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not the whole lead.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just one step.
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  SPEAKER_00: One email, one boundary, one new habit, one act of belief, one attempt, even if it's messy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you now understand that trying is the is the whole thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is courageous.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta try.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is spiritual, trying is courage, trying is neurological.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is how you teach yourself that you're trustworthy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So finish this sentence and we're done.
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  SPEAKER_00: The next small thing I'm willing to try is, and then you fill that out.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the next small thing you're willing to try today?
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  SPEAKER_00: What fear rises in the moment when I tell you that?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's gonna hold you back?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's the story you're gonna tell yourself, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, and when you try, let's say you're trying, no matter how it goes, I want you to pause and honor the fact that you try.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying is proof of your growth.
• 10:51
  SPEAKER_00: This is Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been listening to The Sweet Spot.
• 10:56
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for going on this journey with me around the seven blocks to breakthroughs.
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• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: Listen, tomorrow, tomorrow, hmm, wow, tomorrow is uh finish strong Friday.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_00: And we're gonna ask another question for the block.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I avoiding?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the thing you avoid the longest is often the thing that frees you the fastest.
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  SPEAKER_00: See you tomorrow, beautiful soul.