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75. How to Stop & Solve Overwhelm · Power Talk with Katelin Power

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  [SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to Power Talk with Caitlyn Power.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm Caitlyn, a certified clinical hypnotherapist who helps you clear out the BS of conscious beliefs that have been keeping you from reaching your goals.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I show you how to upgrade your identity into the most confident, the filled you that you were always meant to be.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're ready to stop playing small and joint transformative conversations around mindset, manifestation, business, wellness, and here from the eight girls that are out there living their dream lives, I'm so excited to have you here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Let's get started.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Hi, friend, and welcome back to Power Talk.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Something just happened where I thought, this is it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was thinking about what I'm going to record today and asked kind of set the intention for that to come through.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And my housekeeper came this morning and did a really fabulous job of cleaning the whole house that looks sparkling clean, and I go over to the refrigerator.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and I don't even remember what I think I was just getting water out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as I'm doing that, I noticed that a little sauce container that like a Chipotle grama that was for my burrito that I last night, I put the rest in the refrigerator because I liked that sauce and I could use it for something else that I'm eating this week.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I noticed that the top wasn't fully on like the lid,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I was grabbing it from the bottom in the top, and somehow I still dropped it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So this thick Chipotle Prima, that's like a, it's a orangey type color.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Those all over the fridge and down on the floor, that was just cleaned, like, just cleaned.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I did yell out the S word.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: you know, in case you guys have kids in the car, the essay tried t-word, and I went to grab paper towels, and in my head, I'm going, I just, like, I definitely have a perfectionist tendency which you might know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You've been around here for a minute, and that bothers me that it just was cleaned.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if I was about to have my house cleaned or clean it myself, and
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I knew it was already like needing to be cleaned, that wouldn't have bothered me as much as having the house just cleaned, just cleaned hours prior that bothers me more and looking at this reflection.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This is the part that I kind of wanted to break down because I was talking to one of my mentorship clients the other day.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I think that sometimes we can feel like someone that might be teaching this work like me is looking into every single reflection as soon as it happens right away and that's not the case for me and I can only speak for myself that I am not a 10 out of 10 where I'm able to.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: looking to every single reflection like this, every single second that this is happening because like everyone else, I do have a job and I have things going on outside of the job and I'm not going to often go through and find it right then and there.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I do look back on things and when I have a second because that also feeds into self love of right there in that moment is not the best time for me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not what I need right now.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do I need right now when the sauce flies
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  [SPEAKER_00]: with the fridge open and it's on the floor and it's on the fridge door and it's on the freezer door below it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: What do I need right then?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For me, the Caitlin that does not like a mess needs to immediately clean that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's what's going to make me feel better right away.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I go, what do I need right in this moment?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: it was to clean it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what I'm going to give myself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I think we can kind of confuse this sometimes and go, okay, well, if I was the best of the best at using my intuition and getting the most upgrades in life all the time and really listening to higher self in every moment, I would immediately drop everything right then and there and look into the reflection.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and I'm going to speak for myself and just let you know and that helps my client to know that's not the case for me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not looking into every single thing as soon as it happens because also there's times that we are having a conversation with someone maybe in the car driving somewhere your partner or your best friend and you're going and doing an activity.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And yes, can you look into things on the go totally?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you're in a conversation with someone like I'm not going to be rude and stop the conversation or enjoy that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's stop enjoying that quality time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to then inappropriately, then my perspective, go in and go, okay, well, where's my upgrade here and find the decode of the reflection?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to personally do that myself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I like to be really present where I'm at.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And to me, that is not being present if I'm literally in the ethers, talking with myself and getting that precise decode of that situation.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then the tool that I need to
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to shift it into completely program in the opposite to get that upgrade in my manifestation field.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm personally not going to do that nine times out of ten if it's in a situation like that where to me that is not.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: appropriate.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's not something I treat others how I'd like to be treated.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I do my absolute best with that and I'm not going to be doing that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If we were listening to music, not talking, the music's blasting and I can go in and look at that while I'm in the passenger seat and not driving because again, I'm probably not going to be in the ethers while I'm driving.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Then yeah, I would look in really quick and see what that is and higher self now looks into things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: with me, meaning I don't need to, in the beginning of training my intuition, I really had to sit down in a very sterile environment of having everything set up so perfectly for me to get my absolute best precise result.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't need that anymore because of the training that I've done.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's also looking out like where you're at with things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and knowing that you totally just can earn your right to have that happen where you're instituting things on the go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So often, I'll already have the just of what happened that kind of comes in as a download where I'm not digging to find it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then later, I would go in and specifically put the pieces together, which is precisely what I'm doing in this sauce example
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to pull like Prima, exploding out everywhere.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And again, you have to laugh at yourself, I mean, I like to laugh at myself, where it was, I had a hand on the bottom and the top.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And this is like a little to go container.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: How?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Did it fly out of my hands?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You have to laugh at how brilliant these reflections are where it's the kind of impossible happening, the impossible becomes possible in these moments for us.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that should also show us to when you're wanting to create something, when you're intentionally manifesting something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You see how this happens all the time, where you're like, how?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: to let fly out everywhere the way that it just did remind yourself of this in these negative times as well as the positive of when we're trying to create something that we're wanting and going, how would that even be possible?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We do it all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We do it all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As this is happening, so I go, I say my little escort out loud because to me, that was getting that anger, frustration, emotion out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That was what I needed to just expel that out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I would like to say that that's not required maybe, you know, there's different ways of getting an emotion out as we know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And there's really cool ways that we can do this for these emotions that are starting to build up like my source of emotion process.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's in thought and of you.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That is my go-to.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's
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  [SPEAKER_00]: gal is that process but in something like this we also can let it go and that's something just a side note that I've noticed that men do freely often when I'm around the men in my life I find that they will easily let out their frustration in that moment whether it's you know
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And letting it out, I was hanging up this picture frame in my house with my dad.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: He was just visiting and when he comes in a town, I always have fun activities for us to do as you can probably see on my Instagram story a lot of you might be laughing along right now because you see the house projects that we get up to when he comes into town.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: The last time he was here, we redid my entire fireplace together of white washing the whole
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  [SPEAKER_00]: the whole thing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So this was minimal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This was minimal to hang some frames.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And as we're doing it, there was this one frame that I had that was so irritating of having the two things that you hang on so you need to make a wire in order to hang it instead of having the one thing that you can put the nail in, you would have to make a wire.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So he made the wire, we were having to match it to the other one and it was just a frustrating process where when you would think we'd have it,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: nail would fly off or whatever would go on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And he easily I was noticing that he would just express his frustration in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And not any big way, but like I was saying like the, uh, you know letting your frustration out where I find for I'll speak for myself.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But I also find with women around me, we typically
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  [SPEAKER_00]: stuff down that feeling because we felt like that's not appropriate to react that way or it might unsettle people around me like that might be unsettling for other people around me if I just yelled out real quick in that moment that would make them feel not as comfortable.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's my thought process that I have around it and I noticed that even though I don't like to hear someone yell out in that moment I realized it's because of this internal programming that I have that I don't feel
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't feel like I can just yell out like, oh, like it first second to let that out or even go like, whoops, or whatever when you drop something, I personally imply it because I find that a reaction is not desired, if you will.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know if that's from working in an office for so many years and corporate that I had that that wouldn't be office etiquette.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not sure I've looked into where that was drilled in and it doesn't matter because I realized in those moments that we were hanging the picture frames that I would like to start allowing myself to have a reaction and to actually let out the motion that moment because what you see is that when it's let out in that moment, we do this as kids.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We will start crying or
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  [SPEAKER_00]: stomp or foot or do whatever we need to just let it out of the body in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: As soon as you just like clencher fist and and hold them and then release, you get that release so that you're not like me who didn't do these things for so long that this built up in my system as we know through it started happening in panic attacks last year.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I had to create and design these emotional tools like the source of emotion process and like the energy at examing and these things that I created because of the fact that they were building under the surface because it was so normal to me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, that is my norm to not react.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So how am I supposed to realize that irritation is building on irritation, which is building on irritation?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If I don't really even allow myself to feel things and release emotions because
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're minimal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For me, logically I go, I dropped a little sauce container on the floor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't worth my reaction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: This isn't worth frustration or anger.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that again is my programming of also some of that kind of toxic positivity that I was reading about and when I was trying to learn about manifestation about.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: six years ago, I think I really dove into all the books, the experts, everything else, be positive, be positive, be positive.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that reaction is not positive, but I didn't realize that me exerting out that energy and just releasing the motion in that little sport.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: However, long it takes to just say a cuss word or to go, ah, like, you know, those things, really quick, that gets it out and then it's not building building building.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's animals do this, they shake it off when they run into something where they're irritated, you'll see them shake it out of their body because they know that if you hold it in there, this is going to build.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: We know this is kids, we know this primally, there's that I'm
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  [SPEAKER_00]: not do.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're like me, where you realize, oh, that's not socially acceptable or not preferred or desired.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I don't do that anymore.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then just like anything with repetition and my learns that now we don't react to those things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I've proudly said that before of you will never know.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: if I'm having a negative emotion in a moment because of so many high pressure kind of high visibility jobs I've had in companies and even with people that are in the public eye as my bosses where I've had to not have that reaction like that served me and it was something that I was kind of applauded for and I applauded myself because it was something that again it was deemed socially
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  [SPEAKER_00]: light and also like a bonus that if we're in a meeting or something where to happen, and even like with some of my more visible work environments of going on a red carpet or the paparazzi situation not obviously taking pictures of me, but when I'm standing next to someone and I'm the bi-product of that, it is helpful for me to not have a reaction on my face to have a
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I have proudly said before, like, you'll never know when I'm having a reaction where I have friends, one of my best friends has one of the most emotionally reactive faces.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I love that about her and it's something we've laughed about so many times because we've been in situations where something was being said or done where we're like, oh, rose or like, no.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's written all over her face like her eyebrows are completely.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: down, if you know what I mean, like, um, scrunched and her mouth starts to move as if she just tasted something wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And you'll know right away and you know what her reaction is, you know, she's listening or she's not listening and it's hilarious because it's, and she's authentically herself and it authentically feeling based on what she's experiencing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's what I'm saying is there's pros and cons to everything, and that might not serve her.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Maybe in some professional experiences I don't know, but for me it did serve me to not have a reaction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So even if I have been hurt by something or disgusted or angry, you're not going to see it on my face, because over time I train my face to not react in that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And it's something that I'm unlearning because I would like to authentically have my face.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: react to things and to show my body that it's okay to have the emotions even when they're negative which again no emotion is positive or negative really there's pros and cons to everything and allowing us to have those feelings allows us to not have them build build build and explode the way that mine did so that's something that I've actively been working on and even like I was saying just how to click with this within this last week with my dad visiting
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  [SPEAKER_00]: He's making a like frustration sound because that doesn't feel great to my nervous system.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like it's just hanging in picture.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why are we making noises about it?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But then I went, huh?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Why does that make the uncomfortable?
• 15:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, because I don't feel comfortable to do that myself and I wish I did.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: and I wish that I let things, I wish I let myself feel them in that moment so that I wasn't dealing with them weeks and months and many, many months later, we're now, this is a big problem in my life the way that it did last year and now I have these really amazing tools like I mentioned so with the source of emotion process, I do that typically two to three times a week even if I'm not feeling anything because like I was saying,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I haven't known that I'm angry or frustrated or sad until it gets bad, where until it's too big and overwhelming, I haven't been picking up on the small indicators and listening to myself, and I've been not prioritizing myself in those ways.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: of allowing myself to feel those things when it's not a big deal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Because again, dropping the sauce thing on the floor isn't a big deal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I still do, I think I should be having a temper tantrum about dropping the sauce no.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm not saying that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: There's balance here.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Just letting out a small sound in my body or shaking it out of my body or stopping my foot or something just to let the energy out.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can see how it would be let out as quickly as it came, how they allowed myself to do that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's something I've been working on.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And now because I do that regularly with this first effort motion process, it doesn't build the way that it did.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I'm not having those panic attacks and those things are not happening.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But this is usually how this is like a small day-to-day action I can be doing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In addition to my gorgeous tools that are more potent of meaning in the emotion you've had even if it's been building building building that will take that out and process it in a healthy way so that it doesn't keep hurting you that you get the goals and everything else but how about I do that and now I'm someone that actually allows himself to feel emotions.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: in their day-to-day, which, again, I've been working on for a while, but as I work on things, and as you know from doing this work, if we've worked together on things, if you've been working on tools, and courses, and things like this, you can see that they click at different levels.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You think, oh, no, I really understood that I got it, but then you start using it in practice, and then these things and these concepts and the universal laws and this gold of what your
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These things are not to just get something.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: These things are to change who you are and who you are, changes the world.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why you're here in this soul path in this lifetime.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if I'm someone now that can learn to be someone who doesn't
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  [SPEAKER_00]: push aside their emotions because it's not worth it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's basically what I'm saying to myself if I go, well, you shouldn't be upset about dropping that.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: It's literally not a big deal.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's me saying, okay, well, you're not worth it, Caitlin.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: In a small way, and we know those small small things are the small things that build and they become the things that are bigger things.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: going back to the sauce on the floor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: My knee jerk reaction was actually to yell out a cuss word, which is new for me.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So that was something that I was actually proud of in that moment, where I went, I just reacted the way that my dad did and the way that I mentioned, I've been noticing with men in my life,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: that they don't feel any sort of way, and I'm just talking about my experience, but they don't feel apologetic or worried about how they're releasing their emotion in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Again, a small moment, it's not like they're screaming.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But just something to like sometimes I have noticed so kind of like below out to breath or just like, you know, and that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And then they're good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: You can see it leaves their potty and then they're actually doing better than I was and I didn't even say anything or do anything.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm now kind of tense.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: of like the hanging the frame or whatever it was that I'm that we're doing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're driving and something happens on the road where someone cuts in front of you, I'm kind of tense now because I never released the motion.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They were like, oh, you know, DICK or whatever.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And now they're good.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Now they're singing along.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: They're bopping along to the music.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm sitting there tense because I'd never let it go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So I was actually proud of myself on that moment for saying that because you can see that now my behavior is changing.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That I actually did let it go.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I released that anger on my body so quick that I immediately thought,
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Caitlin, how is this the best thing that has dropped this sauce?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Like, how is this better than if I had not dropped the sauce?
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And I know that that sounds crazy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're not new here, you know that this is normal for us.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But in these moments, I've been really wanting to upgrade.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: in the way of a small moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I want to make sure that I'm not just doing my tools when I do my tools, but that I'm someone that in those individual moments, I'm someone that's reacting as the Icarol.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And the Icarol does yell out when they're frustrated.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If that's the best thing for you, the Icarol does what you need in that moment.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: And so something that's really cool is because I got the anger out so fast and I was so proud of myself for having that be my knee jerk reaction.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Then I immediately was able to go to that tool of how this is actually better than how I not dropped it and to a sane, normal person that operates in the world, that sounds crazy.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously, it's not better to have dropped that all over made a mess than dropped it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: But because it happened and because of the way that I decide to live my life of the
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I make it so that if it's not how I planned, then it was better than how I planned, and obviously everything is working out for me and better than I could humanly expect it.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So if that happened, then that did happen to my benefit.
• 21:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: and it's only me going that's not what I wanted and we also need to recognize we think that we didn't have a plan in that moment you're going like well I didn't have a plan in that moment but you did because if you didn't have a plan in that moment you wouldn't have been upset about the sauce.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: falling on the floor.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: For me, my plan obviously was now my house is clean and my house is going to stay clean and nothing like I'm going around the day of like my house is clean, my house is clean.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm happy, happy, happy because I had not felt that way.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Then the sauce, like we were talking about, if my house was like it was yesterday, we're again, it was needing a cleaning.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: That's why
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So my house needed a cleaning.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: If it had dropped yesterday, I would not have had the same response.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: So obviously my internal plan that I'm not consciously aware of is the house's clean and now it stays clean.
• 22:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: And that's why I was upset.
• 22:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: So when we go, okay, I was upset.
• 22:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can see it that you had a plan for whatever just happened to not happen or for something different to happen and that's why you're upset.
• 22:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: When you can then recognize, oh, this went against the plan that I had set for today or this month or for right now in this relationship or whatever it is that you're upset about, you go, oh, okay, I had a plan I didn't realize that and that first step right there is iconic because when you notice, oh, that's why I'm upset.
• 23:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: I had a plan and this didn't go according to plan.
• 23:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then you can go, got it.
• 23:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's why I'm upset.
• 23:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: Obviously allowing yourself to have that emotion, not bypass it.
• 23:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: But for me, going the immediate thing I want is to be cleaned immediately, immediately, immediately, immediately.
• 23:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: So luckily, the paper towel is right there.
• 23:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: In another thing that I wanted to point out is when I look at a mess in a spill, I can easily get overwhelmed because like we've discussed, my brain doesn't like it.
• 23:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: My brain
• 23:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: in any area of life, none of it.
• 23:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't like a mess because of what I've learned through all of my clients that have come to me with overwhelmed, which it happens a lot and it makes sense because we are overwhelmed on a sensory level every day of everything coming out of us all the time with phones and technologies social media and we're overwhelmed by the state of the world that we're overwhelmed.
• 23:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: by just things going on that now factor into our business, even like AI or whatever else that's now coming into our industries and everything.
• 24:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: We're overwhelmed a lot.
• 24:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: We're overwhelmed by our families, where it's, it happens a lot.
• 24:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: I know how to tackle overwhelm and I know how to resolve it.
• 24:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I've seen it happen with clients when they do the work that I yourself gives.
• 24:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: It works every time, but often we are programmed to do the opposite, which is looking at the whole mess, looking at the whole spill.
• 24:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: And in this case, even when how I started this episode with the reflections of going, how am I ever going to get on top of all these reflections happening?
• 24:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: That is an overwhelmed reflection.
• 24:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: So when you solve the overwhelmed, you're actually going to solve a lot of the reflections that came up in the overwhelmed, which is amazing.
• 24:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: It doesn't feel that way, but it's awesome because if you saw the overwhelm, it's like imagine that you just tackled like 15 of your reflections at once.
• 24:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: A lot of them will resolve because they're actually showing you that you're overwhelmed.
• 24:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: So with this, you can look at the whole spell.
• 25:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: So remember, it's on the door.
• 25:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: It like where it felt was like on the door, on the freezer, on the outside of the fridge, and on the floor.
• 25:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: So it's like a mass mass mass.
• 25:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if you look at it,
• 25:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: When I looked at it, what I do, because if I get overwhelmed, I just go to this app.
• 25:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: So, here you go.
• 25:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're welcome.
• 25:20
  [SPEAKER_00]: With this, and remember, with these episodes, this is something that a client would pay over a thousand dollars just to get this.
• 25:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: So, if this is something that you feel like, oh, that's unnecessary.
• 25:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone gets overwhelmed, and it's on you to take the gold and actually take it and run with it in the way that, like I was saying, you can bring this into every moment of your life.
• 25:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: and have something that normally would have sent you and then sent you your morning off on a trajectory of being something that's not desired that then turns into a bad week that turns into a bad month, a bad year.
• 25:53
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's easy for us humans to get on a spiral.
• 25:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: It happens all the time myself included and that's why I'm giving you this.
• 25:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: So,
• 25:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: Definitely take this for what it is and see that this is a tool that is at least worth a thousand dollars and I'm going to make it so easy so that you don't even realize that this is what it is and your brain will take it on and go oh yeah remember the sauce all over Caitlyn's fridge so we see that it's a whole mess if you look at the mess as a whole.
• 26:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: But if I actually clump it down into actual clumps of this mess, there were four clumps meaning it was on the floor.
• 26:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's one clump.
• 26:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: There was on the door of the freezer.
• 26:29
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's two clumps.
• 26:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then it was on the top of the freezer from inside the fridge.
• 26:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's three clumps.
• 26:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then it was on my leg, it spotted up my leg and I was wearing shorts and it didn't get on to my shorts.
• 26:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: But it was on my leg.
• 26:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's four clumps of mass if you look at it that way.
• 26:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: So for me in those moments because this does happen often where I look at a mess I get overwhelmed and then I neatly cut to this.
• 26:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if I can clump it down and think of this, this is not, I'm just, I'm not telling you about my mess and my kitchen for no reason.
• 27:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: If you're overwhelmed financially or in your career or with your kids or with your schedule, look at this and go, oh, I need to clump it down.
• 27:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: I need to clump it down and see there's actually four clumps here and I can start with the first clump.
• 27:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: So with this and the word clump is starting to not be desirable.
• 27:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: well for sections for section.
• 27:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I took the paper towel and I first started with my first section, which I decided was my leg because if I didn't get my leg first, when I leaned down to get the rest, that first section is going to get on my outfit and now I'm going to have five sections.
• 27:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So
• 27:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: I went and washed it off of my leg.
• 27:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then I went to the fridge part and I got it off the fridge.
• 27:45
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's the second.
• 27:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then I went to the third.
• 27:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: Then I went to the fourth and the fourth one took a lot more paper towels because there was a lot on the floor and then I went and got my cleaner.
• 27:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then I went through and cleaned every section that was
• 27:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: previously having the total like drama everywhere.
• 28:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: So do you see how I just did one thing at a time?
• 28:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And every time I took the first thing, I was like, okay, well now it's not on me anymore.
• 28:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: You know, off my leg, it's not on me anymore.
• 28:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, well now it's not on the fridge part anymore.
• 28:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, well now it's not on the top of the freezer and you can see that the mess is getting cleaner and it's becoming so manageable.
• 28:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: Where I'm like, well, I like I literally am giving myself my flowers of going like,
• 28:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: like even intentionally needing to do that now, but because I've done this so many time with overwhelm, it goes there.
• 28:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: It immediately is celebrating me of good job.
• 28:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: First one's done.
• 28:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, it's not on anymore.
• 28:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: Great.
• 28:37
  [SPEAKER_00]: That makes me feel so much better.
• 28:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: Celebrating myself as I go.
• 28:39
  [SPEAKER_00]: The second one.
• 28:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
• 28:40
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, it's not on the fridge anymore.
• 28:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: Wonderful.
• 28:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now we have the freezer part and now we have the floor part.
• 28:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm celebrating myself mostly subconsciously as I'm going because I'm not even really realizing that I was doing that until I'm looking at it now because of this is now a habit so everyone can do this and now you can be someone that's celebrating your progress every step that you go because step one like I said was just as important as step four of cleaning the rest of the mess because again it would have been all over my outfit how they not done step one.
• 29:13
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we can see how each step is just as important as the total final one of going, I completed it, you know, I cleaned the whole house or I organized my finances, or I got the kids scheduled together that those really good.
• 29:26
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's just as important every step that you do, but we often only celebrate the last step.
• 29:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: So looking at this, I was able to break it down.
• 29:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then as I'm doing this, I'm actually thinking of myself and I started saying it out loud because I started thinking it
• 29:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: I start pointing out why this was actually better that I spilled the sauce than how I not spilled the sauce.
• 29:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I'm intuitive things the way that I always do now, but not even meaning to in this moment.
• 29:55
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going, what?
• 29:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I don't even, if you don't,
• 29:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: have intuition, what should you do?
• 30:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: But take it off the table if I didn't have intuition.
• 30:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm going to logically start going, well, why could this have been the best?
• 30:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: And just going any reason that you can find?
• 30:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then you're going to start seeing like, oh, these actually make a lot of sense.
• 30:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: So the first thing I was looking at was, okay, well, what if that to put like from a was actually bad?
• 30:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because I only used a little bit of it last night.
• 30:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And because I had another
• 30:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: What if that totally crumount was bad and my higher self just saved me because that's something I would do if I was looking at my human and they're about to eat something that was going to get them food poisoning or an upset stomach or whatever I would totally fling it out of their hands.
• 30:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: So what if that actually had gone bad and I didn't know and so that's perfect because I literally would have eaten that later this week too.
• 30:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: That is perfect.
• 30:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: I went straight in the trash so that's perfect.
• 30:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: It could have just saved me from that going about time seeing this out loud.
• 30:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: It also told me to slow down because had I been not moving so fast.
• 30:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: This probably wouldn't have happened.
• 30:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I liked being more present and I do find that I sometimes move too fast.
• 31:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: So oh great reminder.
• 31:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: That's another great one the third one.
• 31:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: I looked at what was my third one.
• 31:06
  [SPEAKER_00]: There was actually so many.
• 31:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: I think I said like five out loud.
• 31:10
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my third one was
• 31:12
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, what if my cleaning professional maybe didn't get this part of the floor or didn't like maybe this part of the floor because it's right in front of the fridge was dirtier than one pass of, you know, I don't know what they did.
• 31:24
  [SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't watching them, but to clean the floor, what if this needed like three passes with the cleaner and towel and this might have only gotten one pass with a month.
• 31:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: I don't know.
• 31:36
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this is actually perfect that now I'm wiping this up with cleaner, which with me, I clean it all up.
• 31:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: I do the cleaner, use the towel, and then I do cleaner again, so this just got like a total scrub.
• 31:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And my fridge got a total scrub.
• 31:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: And my cleaner actually doesn't go in and clean the inside of my fridge.
• 31:54
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now these parts of my freezer and fridge are cleaner, actually, then they were hired to me spilling the sauce.
• 31:59
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we can see how this is actually happening.
• 32:01
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then one of my fourth reasons, I believe, was the fact that I actually, I was so proud of myself that my brain went straight to like, wait, but how is this actually the best?
• 32:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: How is this actually better than I could have planned and this working out for me better than I could have thought of?
• 32:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: I've measly saw the fact that I started default team there instead of before, I would have only done this with bigger things and kind of the in retrospect.
• 32:25
  [SPEAKER_00]: Instead of in the moment going like,
• 32:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no.
• 32:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: This is better because everything is happening for me.
• 32:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: So this happened for me too.
• 32:32
  [SPEAKER_00]: We often are going to look at things in retrospect, especially with even programming gorgeous neuroscience tools like ingredients.
• 32:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: We might go, oh, that was actually better and later.
• 32:41
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like the next day we're looking at it.
• 32:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: And instead of in the moment going.
• 32:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Okay, this seems like it sucks.
• 32:46
  [SPEAKER_00]: Let me fill the things and then go, how could I prove that this was actually better for me?
• 32:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: Because now when I do this in this small moment of me dropping the sauce, we can see how these are going to happen these programs in my brain are going to happen going throughout all of my day.
• 33:02
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now I'm programming in those universal laws in my life that I've decided that now all people events circumstances opportunities are going to have to react to, oh, things go even better for her than she could have imagined.
• 33:16
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everything is actually working out for her.
• 33:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now that we can see how those opportunities and people and circumstances that are better than I could have actually humanly thought are now going to be attracted to me.
• 33:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now that's how my life is going.
• 33:30
  [SPEAKER_00]: So we can see how in those moments, you can't have that be your programming and be what you're putting in of like these big things and in retrospect, but then when things happen to you go like, no, no, no, that's not what I planned and I don't like it.
• 33:44
  [SPEAKER_00]: Well, that goes against all this gorgeousness that you've been programming into your fields.
• 33:48
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you're doing so great, but now this is going up against that.
• 33:51
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so you could have be having the maximum amount of results.
• 33:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking too fast.
• 33:57
  [SPEAKER_00]: The maximum result, but you're not because you're kind of canceling out things throughout your day of going like, why didn't want that?
• 34:04
  [SPEAKER_00]: I didn't want that.
• 34:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now your field's going, okay, well, sometimes she creates things that she wants that are amazing and better than she could have humanly conjured up.
• 34:14
  [SPEAKER_00]: And then other times it goes to shit.
• 34:15
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what you're putting in your field.
• 34:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: So that's what I've been working on.
• 34:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I like to give you these upgrades as I go and when I'm having these clicks here and all my substock is where I'm doing that of like, as they're coming in and this was one that was really cool because we can see how just in that one thing of my original reaction going, I don't want that but then going see the minute.
• 34:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: That was kind of great that I just let myself feel my feelings and then like what are all the reasons of why this could have actually been better in having those moments and then a six reason on top of that is now I have the perfect podcast episode to actually demonstrate something clearly with an example that your brain can get behind.
• 34:56
  [SPEAKER_00]: Like I can see my fridge even if you don't know what my fridge looks like.
• 35:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: You can see a fringe, you know what that looks like and you can see like an orangey type of sauce and know that.
• 35:05
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now your brain is understanding these concepts in a way that you actually can take on instead of sitting in a class of having the power point presentation with all my bullet points or whatever, going like in situations, you need to react this way and the brain going like, okay, yeah, I get that, but then and that was brilliant, whatever.
• 35:23
  [SPEAKER_00]: But then you walk out the class and your brain doesn't know how to actually take it and use it in your life.
• 35:28
  [SPEAKER_00]: So now when something happens, where actually when I was getting ready for my birthday and all my girlfriends were coming over, we're going on this boat.
• 35:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so I'm kind of rushing to get ready.
• 35:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: And the house was really hot and it was a very, very hot day.
• 35:42
  [SPEAKER_00]: And so I'm kind of like sweating everywhere and trying to get ready fast so that I can go sit in front of the fan for a while before.
• 35:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: Everyone's arriving and before we get going so I don't just sweat off all the makeup I put on and as I'm putting my clear eyebrow gel on and brushing up my eyebrows so that they don't like go everywhere and go to get my eyebrow gel and I'm going through my makeup back click, you know, putting everything on, click, click, click and as I do it I just
• 36:08
  [SPEAKER_00]: push it through and it's black and I looked down and my eyebrow gel has a very very similar packaging to my mascara.
• 36:18
  [SPEAKER_00]: So I literally ran my black mascara through my eyebrows, which you know, got on my face obviously my forehead and my eye stuff of like at eyeshadow on and I'm like so I have to go through and get it off and if you've never done that before,
• 36:34
  [SPEAKER_00]: It's like the mascara is like gloopy and now it's in your hairs and then your hairs are darker on that side than the other and so you're like trying to get it up with it also brought up my face product that I had on like on my forehead and my eye shadows so I had to like re fix all of that as I'm going the next time that's something happens like that I want you to think of this think of the mascara and my eyebrow gel or my eyebrow it wasn't my eyebrow gel.
• 37:00
  [SPEAKER_00]: and think of the should probably crumble all over my fridge and think of these things and go, oh yeah, this isn't what I planned.
• 37:07
  [SPEAKER_00]: I'm bringing awareness to the fact that I had a plan and I didn't realize I had one.
• 37:11
  [SPEAKER_00]: I see now why I'm upset because that went up against my plan that I either conscious that you're subconsciously had.
• 37:17
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now it makes sense why I'm upset.
• 37:19
  [SPEAKER_00]: I can let myself feel upset with that.
• 37:21
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now I can also go and see how are all the reasons why this is actually
• 37:27
  [SPEAKER_00]: the best outcome and better than the one that I had planned in my head, or you might have actually had a full plan.
• 37:35
  [SPEAKER_00]: And why could this actually be better?
• 37:38
  [SPEAKER_00]: And starting to adjust this so that now you are someone that, I mean, you can see how amazing this is that you're not going to let things spin out a control of like, oh, this was a horrible morning.
• 37:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: Oh, horrible afternoon and everything else.
• 37:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: And now you're someone that lives this life because these day-to-day moments happen this way, we're able to balance yourself out right then and there, you're able to see how your world is happening for you and then everything's working with you, your intuition, your higher self-god, the universe is all working for you, in your favor, better than you had.
• 38:09
  [SPEAKER_00]: And you're going to start seeing that this builds up in compounds to having like a great day and a great week and a great month and a great year and a great years and a great life and you can see how This works beautifully magically gorgeous laid together with the neuroscience tools that you're using because now even in that 5% of the conscious of your day-to-day actions
• 38:31
  [SPEAKER_00]: You're now all working that all runs along together and you can see how with repetition this does become part of your subconscious programming your defaults or habits and this is what I wanted to share with you today.
• 38:43
  [SPEAKER_00]: So if you're going to do this with me and have great with me, please send me a DM Caitlin dot power on Instagram.
• 38:47
  [SPEAKER_00]: I love love hearing for you.
• 38:49
  [SPEAKER_00]: from you.
• 38:50
  [SPEAKER_00]: And if you wanted some more upgrades as well as the new upgrades that are coming through on sub-side every single week, I'll leave some of those below.
• 38:58
  [SPEAKER_00]: And I will see you back here in two Tuesdays for another episode of Power Talk Tuesday.
• 39:03
  [SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for being here.