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🌟 Unlocking Growth: Compete with Yourself · Peace in a Pod

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  Hey, hey, Soul tribe, welcome to peace in the Pod.
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  I'm Loretta. If you're new here, welcome.
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  And to my OGS Soul tribes, welcome back.
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  As you all know, my channel is a little different from other
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  channels and I know that this podcast may not be for everyone
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  and that's fine. My messages will reach the
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  people that they are meant for. And if these messages don't
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  resonate with you, please do not, you know, try to force
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  anything. But all I'm saying is that, you
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  know, peace and the pot is for you.
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  If you support and you are trying to live as your authentic
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  self with this channel, you get real experiences and emotions
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  without any judgment. I come as I am and I share what
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  I've been through with the hopes of being able to help others get
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  through similar experiences. We all go through things in
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  life. I mean, that's just life, life
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  and some people handle things better than others.
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  Some people are still learning how to handle certain
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  situations. But when you have people who
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  struggle with whatever experiences they're going
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  through and they see someone else, one of their friends or
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  family members, whoever, Co workers, and it seems like those
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  friends, family members, Co workers are living like their
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  best life compared to the struggle that they are going
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  through. And it can be a little dangerous
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  when you start paying too much attention to other people's
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  lives versus your own 'cause when you start keeping tabs on
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  how things are going for them, what you may not know as you're
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  getting a surface level view of what's going on with them.
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  You don't know what's going on behind closed doors.
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  You don't know what's going on in their heart, in their head.
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  And if you start comparing your life to someone else's life,
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  you're kind of setting yourself up for disappointment.
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  Comparison keeps you stuck in a cycle of guilt or shame or even
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  jealousy and it continues to separate you from your
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  blessings. It can put you in this place
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  where it keeps you small. You feel like someone is out
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  shining you, doing better than you and that's not a good place
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  to be in. And only reason I bring this up
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  is I've been seeing like some X friend acquaintances popping up
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  like fake profiles on certain social media platforms that I'm
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  on. And it's just weird to me
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  because I'm not friends with these people and the people's
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  names that are popping up in these fake profiles, I'm not
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  even friends with them or wasn't friends with them.
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  We weren't like mutual and it's just weird to me that people who
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  chose to no longer be my friend are so busy trying to see what
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  I'm up to. And it's just like, don't worry
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  about what I have going on. Focus on yourself.
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  Focus on what you're doing, where you want to be in life,
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  and let that be your driving force.
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  Stop trying to see if I'm doing bad or stop trying to wish bad
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  upon me because I know you're not wishing me well.
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  I know you're not people. I have the type of personality
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  that people love to hate. I have this energy, and it's not
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  just my personality. It is literally my energy.
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  I have this energy that brings the truth.
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  It reveals the truth out of people.
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  I, I don't, it's hard to explain, but I'll talk about
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  things with people. And the way that I speak, it
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  kind of like brings things to the surface, like some
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  insecurities that some people have or it highlights the people
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  who enjoy my energy. It highlights things that
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  they're like, Oh yeah, I could you know what?
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  I didn't think about that. And they start looking at ways
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  that they can improve their life.
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  But not everyone receives it the same way.
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  There are people who want to stay where they are in life, who
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  are happy and content where they are, and they don't want any
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  better or change. They are just like, this is what
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  I'm going to do. I'm going to do this.
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  I don't need your input and me, I'm not out here trying to
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  change people's lives to make them do anything better or to
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  make them want better. I simply want to live a happy,
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  joyful, peaceful life and I have to break out of the societal
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  norms in order to get there. So I don't compare my life to
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  what other people are doing because people will show you
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  whatever they want to show you on the surface level and you not
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  know what's going on in the background, what's going on in
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  their head, what's going on in their hearts.
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  You don't know. So to compare your life to
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  whatever they're presenting to you, you don't really know
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  what's going on. So me, I just focus on me and
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  whatever I can do to improve my life and get myself to a place
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  where I feel that I'm being fulfilled in life and not just
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  falling in line and, you know, working for the man.
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  I do what's best for me and my future.
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  I know that there will always be people that don't want to see me
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  do good. There are people out there, they
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  just don't want to see you see you see you do good.
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  It doesn't matter if you're a good person and make, you know,
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  try to do things to help people. There are people who
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  legitimately don't want to see you do get it.
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  And, and, and for them to be that focused and determined to
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  like try to control or stop you or wish that upon you, like
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  that's just they're putting a whole lot of energy where they
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  should not be putting energy. And when people start behaving
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  that way, I pull my energy back. But I know that there are people
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  who don't want to see me do good.
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  I've learned to accept that and keep my distance from those
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  individuals. More than likely they will try
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  to talk. You know, people will try to
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  talk you out of situations if they're still, if they're in
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  your friend circle. There are people who, if they're
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  comparing their life to yours and you're talking about
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  progressing and making these changes that will be you feel
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  will be beneficial for you and they start trying to talk you
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  out of it. Then there's a good chance that
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  there's some kind of, I don't even know the right word.
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  They, they want to have it to where everything's fine how it
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  is. Why are you trying to change it?
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  And then it's like, oh, so now you think you're better than me
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  because you wanting to go and pursue something else.
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  And they just some people just feel like you're trying to
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  outshine them because you want to do better.
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  I can't really explain it because I'm not on that side of
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  the the spectrum. I'm on the side where I want to
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  like improve my life. So I don't, I can't really
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  explain the how and why and what's going on with the people
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  who, who tried to talk you out of improving and and progressing
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  because I don't really, I don't really fully understand why they
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  are the way that they are. But I do know that there's,
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  there's an energy of them feeling some kind of way about
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  you wanting to do better and be better.
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  But I, I, I just when people start talking like, you know,
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  why would you do this? Or you know, it doesn't, you
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  know, it sounds crazy to do that.
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  When people start trying to talk me out of goals, dreams and
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  visions that I have for myself. Those are the ones that I slowly
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  keep my disk. I got to start back in a way
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  because I don't need people who are trying to keep me where I
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  am. If I want to progress, you don't
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  have to progress with me, but don't stop me from progressing
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  and then get mad at me because I want better for my life.
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  If you don't, that's fine. Stay there and I'm going to go
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  ahead and move forward. But some of those people, they,
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  they, you know, some people might try to sabotage your,
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  your, your path. Sabotage, block whatever they
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  can. So I'll say this, the last HR
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  position I was in, I, I had, I had two different supervisors.
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  They're both females. For some reason, female,
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  they're, they tend to get bothered by my energy a lot more
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  than male supervisors. I don't know what they got going
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  on, but they need to work on it. But anyways, I I genuinely felt
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  like the last supervisor was trying to like sabotage my
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  career. She was trying to like taint my
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  reputation. I think both of them were and
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  throughout my entire background. This is like military and
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  civilian. I've had three female
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  supervisors, a total of three that felt some kind of way
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  toward me. And it didn't matter what I did.
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  It didn't matter how much work I was producing, it didn't matter
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  how much I was helping people, how much I was volunteering.
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  It didn't matter what I did. They always found something to
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  come at me with. And you know, initially the
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  first time it happened, I didn't really know what was going on
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  because I wasn't really like tapped in like internally to
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  myself. I was more of like viewing
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  everything from a surface level. And I'm just, you know, so it's
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  always that one I didn't really learn anything from.
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  But the last two is where things started changing.
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  I started having some revelations and start doing some
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  internal work and realizing that there was some things about me
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  that I was I kind of lost myself.
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  So I was faced put in these these positions to kind of face
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  certain things to bring those characteristics and those parts
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  of me up and out. And it worked because because
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  those ladies, they challenged me to the core.
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  It took everything in me to remain professional, I'll say
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  that. But those women, I felt like the
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  last one, she really tried. She tried her darndest to
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  sabotage my path and she wanted to feel like she was like in
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  control, like she had the power. But what she doesn't realize is
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  I control my life. Honey, you can do whatever you
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  want. You could feel like you have the
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  control and you can make me feel, you know, small.
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  Or you could keep throwing around that you're a supervisor.
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  None of that means anything to me because I control my destiny.
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  Me and God, honey, not you as a supervisor.
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  So it's like people think that they're stopping you and
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  blocking you and they don't realize it's not up to you.
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  It's not up to you. You might cause a couple delays,
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  but it's not up to you where I'm going to end up in life.
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  And some people don't realize that they have no control over
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  where other people's growth will be and progression will be in
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  life. But because of their jealousy or
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  envy or I don't know, whatever it is that they got going on, to
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  me, it always comes off as a little bit of jealousy.
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  There's some insecurities that whatever they got going on
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  inside that they need to work on.
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  Get that shadow work done. Stop taking it out on me.
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  But all I'm saying is be cautious of judgment of those
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  seen as less than, like they see themselves as less than, and be
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  cautious of envy of those seen as more than, such as my
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  previous supervisor. People will try to project
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  whatever it is they got going on internally onto you.
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  If they haven't healed and dealt with whatever they have going
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  on, it's going to come out and you can feel it and you can see
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  it. But those are the people that
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  you just have to keep a distance from because you can't allow
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  their energy to change what it is you have going on.
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  People will try to distract you, sabotage, block, all of it if
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  they're not in a place where they're healed and ready to move
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  forward. And they don't have to be.
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  They have things that they need to work on whenever they choose
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  to work on it. If they choose to or not, that's
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  up to them. We all have free will.
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  But all I'm saying is there always be someone that doubts,
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  mocks or questions your success, but that is not your concern.
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  Compete with yourself, not with others and some people don't
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  understand that they want to keep an eye on what everybody
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  else got going on and they're losing focus, which is should be
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  on them. Stop worrying about what
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  everybody else doing. Just remember what God has
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  promised you is not subject to the opinions or judgment of of
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  others. And they will feel and share and
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  say and do everything up under the sun, but it's not up to them
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  where you're going to end up. And that's what they need to
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  realize. So you just have to be mindful
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  and, and, and not allow those types of individuals to distract
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  you from where you're destined to be.
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  Like I said earlier, comparison is a deeper joy.
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  It keeps you in this stuck cycle of guilt, shame or jealousy, and
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  it continues to separate you from your blessings.
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  And it keeps you small. Just understand that everyone
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  has their own journey, which always unfolds in divine timing.
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  Your time will come. Stay focused on you and your
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  goals. Put all your energy into you and
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  don't allow the haters to stay and steal your energy and your
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  joy. And remember, unhealed people
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  will not support or celebrate your wins.
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  Healed people will. And to the haters, 'cause I know
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  you're listening. If I'm minding my business and
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  you minding my business, who is minding your business?
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  Who minding your business? Nobody.
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  Bottom line is compete with yourself and not with others.
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  And on that note, I'ma wrap this up.
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  Thanks for tuning in to Peace and the Pod.
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  I'm Loretta and I will catch you guys next time.
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  Bye. Thank you all so much for tuning
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  Bye.