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Nested Loops of Healing - Reframing Trauma into Lucky Escapes · The Hypnotist

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Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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genuine. Issues.
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Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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Hi, it's Adam here. You're about to listen to a
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hypnosis session all about reframing trauma but also future
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worries, and I was working with a.
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Client that had. Memories that would haunt them
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about moments of betrayal or injuries or.
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Moments where? People that they thought they
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could. Trust either rejected.
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Them or. Tried to damage their.
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Reputation and these would haunt them and make them feel very
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stressed and very anxious, and they would also have thoughts
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about moments. Of horrible.
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Injuries like being impaled on railings or having a broken knee
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and because. Of that.
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That would send their body almost into a shock response
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where they would start shaking and and getting very anxious and
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it would ruin their ability to concentrate or even sleep.
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These things were. Happening now, what this session
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does is it uses elements of. Nested loops and levels of
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disassociation. It has an element of stage.
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Disassociation also known. As the element of a phobia
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technique, but it's actually used here for trauma and also
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submodality shifts. Submodalities is a term used in
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NLP to describe changing certain variables within a sensory
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predicate. So for example, if it's a visual
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memory, it might be seeing it smaller or bigger, brighter.
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Or darker colour. Black or white?
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Zooming in, zooming out, and what tends to happen with
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clients is that when you change certain submodalities, it can
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dial down the emotional intensity.
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Pretty quick. What can also happen is a form
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of reframing where you give something a different meaning,
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and what I found working with this client is a lot of these
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horrible traumatic things that happened seem to me as an
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outsider, like lucky escapes. They find found out who they.
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Who they can trust, who their true friends are.
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A relationship that didn't work out actually would have been a
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lot worse if they would have turned that into a marriage than
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if it just broke up at the point where it did.
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And even physical injuries, some of those injuries could have led
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to death and they didn't. So by giving it the frame of
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lucky escapes or near misses, that's an empowering frame that
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actually they could interpret that is that they're now here
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for a reason and this client was doing a very important job
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impacting people in very positive ways.
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And the injuries that they were worrying about don't have to be
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premonitions or warnings. They could just be scary
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thoughts that pop into their head, but they're not real.
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And again, when you give it a different meaning, like it's a
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prank, it's a misinterpretation. Actually, it's not even
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happening to them. Again, it can dial down the
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emotion quite a lot, so if you have traumatic memories from the
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past or intrusive thoughts that feel quite scary, you might get
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some value from this session. Please be aware though that the
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specific suggestions are built for the client that I was
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working with and they might not be so relevant for you.
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It's unlikely, for example, that you have intrusive thoughts
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about being impaled on railings or breaking a kneecap.
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That particular client I was working with did have those
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feelings. So you can just hone into any
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suggestions that are helpful. Ignore anything that isn't quite
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right, And at the same time, if you like the idea of working
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with me directly, there will be a link in the description where
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you're able to schedule a completely free consultation
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call to explore working with me. That would be over Zoom.
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It's about 30 minutes long. I can explain how I work and how
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I price what I do, and then it may be the case that we end up
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working together. For now though, find a quiet,
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comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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breathe in, breathe in that calm feeling of relaxation.
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And as you exhale, just allow your eyes to close if they
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aren't already connecting you to that inward focus where it
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becomes easier to focus on the sound of my voice.
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Breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension.
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Each breath takes you deeper and deeper.
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Relaxed. And as you breathe in and
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breathe out, slow down the breathing deeper, slower,
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longer, and you might begin to notice a profound sense of calm
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starting to wash through your body, like a tide rolling softly
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over the sand. Almost like each breath creates
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distance between what was and what is, between memory and this
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moment. And you don't have to try to
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relax or chase relaxation, just be open to allowing it to find
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you a calm curiosity, expanding with every breath as your body
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recalibrates into a feeling of safety and security.
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And as your muscles relax, your mind begins to open like a lens,
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able to zoom in and zoom out, to focus and refocus.
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And maybe you're learning that perception itself is flexible,
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that old thoughts that are the same thoughts.
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It's not a prerequisite. Things can and do change.
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And I want you to imagine drifting to a place in nature,
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maybe a beach, maybe an open field, maybe a forest.
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But I want you to imagine there is a door there in nature.
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Not connected to a building, just a door.
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and you can notice the frame and the door and the material and as
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I count down from 5 to 1, you will imagine what it would be
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like to put your hand on the handle.
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Open the door, walk through the. Door and down some stairs into
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your own private theatre. Five hand on the handle 4
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turning the handle, 3 opening the door.
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Two walking through the. Door and one closing the door
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behind you. And imagine walking down a
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staircase down into your theatre where each step takes you deeper
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and deeper, relaxed. And as you walk down the stairs,
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feel that relaxation taking place.
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Feel that wonderful feeling of ever increasing relaxation,
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almost like your nervous system is calming down, resetting,
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finding peace and balance. And then imagine at the bottom
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of that staircase, walking to a comfortable chair in that
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theatre, a private theatre, you have it all to yourself.
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It's dark, it's quiet, it's comfortable.
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And this theatre isn't for actors, it's for movies.
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To see that large screen in front of you, on the screen
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ahead, old memories of what once were traumatic moments begin to
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play. Moments that once felt harsh,
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unfair, upsetting. But this time, you're not in the
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film. You're watching it calm, safely
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there from the audience, and maybe it's a memory of physical
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pain, like an accident. Or maybe it's a memory of
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emotional pain, like a break up, a betrayal, reputation, damage.
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But as you watch, you realise you're not just the audience,
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you have the control as to how you perceive this memory, this
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movie. And you can adjust the sound,
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dim the lights, even shrink down the screen to make it smaller.
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You can even pause it mid frame if you wish.
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Change the perspective. You can even animate it.
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Turn that memory into a cartoon, and as you observe, you start to
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realise these scenes are not happening to you anymore.
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They're just images. Moving images, stories and
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echoes of moments long since past.
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Keep your physical body there in the chair, but then imagine your
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imagination floating up to the projection booth and maybe you
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can see the projector like an old fashioned projector with
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reels of film spinning, gently, feeding the light through the
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lens. You have even more control now,
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even more than the director, because you can manipulate time
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itself. You can slow the memory down,
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you can reverse it or just snip away the parts that no longer
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serve you. I want you to imagine you are
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not just the director or the editor, but also with the power
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of special effects. And you can turn the scene into
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black and white or bright colours or something surreal.
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Or you can add music that completely changes the meaning,
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introduce absurdity. And each time you do it, imagine
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scratching acd of that old memory so that it doesn't quite
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play right anymore. And with each creative change,
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the emotional charge lessens, the body grows still, the heart
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slows down, and the mind remembers that these are just
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memories, representations of the past, not the past themselves.
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And now float up as though you're rising through the
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ceiling of that theatre, drifting higher and higher until
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you can see all the screens of your life playing at once.
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And maybe see every memory that you once considered traumatic.
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Moments that once defined your fear of pain.
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Things that led you to question whether you can trust other
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people. But from this higher place,
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looking down at all of those screens, you can see the through
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line connecting them all, A strand that connects all of
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these narratives. What if each 1A fork?
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In the road. The point that created a
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parallel universe, but in your reality, each one was a lucky
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escape, a near miss, a gentle nudge steering you towards
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wisdom, experience and resilience.
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And what once felt like punishment or unfairness or
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injustice could now be perceived as protection.
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What once felt cruel now seems curiously kind, because you got
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something from every one of those moments.
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Perhaps awareness, empathy, depth, or a level of wisdom only
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possible through experience. And I want you to imagine going
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up even higher, accessing a different dimension, and from
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even higher still you become the witness.
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Not the body, not the mind, but the consciousness watching it
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all unfold. And here there is no threat,
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only understanding, only patterns revealing their
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purpose. And you see that your mind
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created certain warnings, not to torment you, but to protect you.
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They were the smoke alarm, not the fire.
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And now that you've learned to see them as warnings, not
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premonitions and not threats, your body can respond
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differently. No need to react, no need to
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feel fear, trepidation. They can quiet down and you can
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thank them sincerely and allow them to rest.
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And now take on that perception for being in the theatre and
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this time see on the screen not something that has happened, but
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just a thought that comes up every now and then.
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A damaged knee or perhaps an accident there on the railings
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on that metal fence. And those same alterations you
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made to your memories can also be used with those thoughts of
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things that haven't even happened.
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Imagine zooming out, seeing that knee like you're on the moon,
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seeing that knee from a telescope, and notice how it
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feels insignificant. Or perhaps imagine those
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railings where the railings are not made of iron or metal, but
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soft rubber or even marshmallows.
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I want you to see that when you change the content, the
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perception, and even the meaning, what once caused an
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intense visceral reaction now dials all the way down to
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something harmless. I want you to imagine they're in
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the theatre, looking at those thoughts through the eyes of
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Salvador Dali. Have certain things bend like a
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melting clock, or happen in strange, absurd, surreal ways.
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And as you do so, the thought loses all of its power.
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And I want you to get a feeling. The way focus goes, energy flows
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and you've only focused on a tiny glimpse of a thought of
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what there is a tiny possibility of happening.
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But when you look at before and after, if in doubt, zoom out.
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You could see then these things could have entirely different
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connotations. Imagine seeing that broken leg,
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but it's not your leg, it's the leg of a mannequin.
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Or perhaps see that body on the railings and it's not you.
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It's an elaborate prank designed to fool someone.
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When you change the meaning, you change the emotions.
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When the past becomes a lucky escape and a premonition of a
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warning becomes something silly and insignificant, you get to
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dial down all of those intense emotions.
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And I want you to imagine doing that.
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Now. Imagine seeing a dial, A gauge,
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a button of some kind that you can dial down the emotional
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intensity. You've extract the wind,
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extracted the wisdom from the past, but you don't need to hold
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on to any emotions. I want you to get a sense.
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Then, because you've extracted the wisdom, you can dial down
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the emotions. And a warning is not a warning
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if it isn't real. A threat that was a joke,
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misinterpreted, had no real danger.
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Only the connotation made it feel that way.
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Because if your unconscious is trying to protect you, allow it
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to protect you in you useful ways.
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And the best way your unconscious and body can help
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you is to help you sleep better to dial down the amount of
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adrenaline and cortisol. To release you.
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From a prison of fatigue and drained energy.
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Because when you are alert, energized and vitalized, you can
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mitigate risks more easily. You can make quick decisions to
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avoid undesirable outcomes. So ask that part that's been
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warning you, trying to protect you, if it's willing to protect
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you in a new way by helping to quiet down that fight or flight
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response, enable you to relaxed and heal and rest, And in doing
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so, give you the clarity, the cognitive bandwidth to evaluate
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more genuine risks, not false alarms.
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And once that part agrees, I want you to see those traumatic
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thoughts changing all by themselves.
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A broken knee might see you stretching, see you exercising
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in a particular way. An image of you on a railings
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might mean you decide not to drive while tired or to avoid
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certain places. And we need to get a feeling
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that when you are alert and vibrant, bad things are more
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easily avoided because you retain all the wisdom from your
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past and with it the ability to avoid previous pitfalls.
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And what if those near misses, those lucky escapes, were
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essential to protect your future self?
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And as you extract that gratitude, that feeling of being
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aligned with your intuition, then it's time to leave the
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space above the theatre, the projection booth and even the
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seats all merging to become one. All parts working to keep you
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safe, relaxed and in that place of positive focus.
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All parts combined. Now start to leave the theatre,
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climb up the stairs, open the door and find yourself out there
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in nature. And as you do so, feel that
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something has shifted, Less troubled by your past and less
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worried about your future. Feel resourceful, empowered, a
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new sense of ease and comfort. And then allow yourself to float
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all the way back to your present.
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Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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nose. And as you return, you realize
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this has been a journey within your imagination, a journey of
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thoughts within thoughts, dreams within dreams, and ideas within
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ideas. And as you.
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Return, connect and calibrate. Start to feel more optimistic
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about the future, knowing that very soon you'll be sleeping
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better and feeling rejuvenated and energized once more.
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Starting to count to awaken you 123.
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Waking up 456. More alert 7. 8 Open your eyes.
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Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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