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Field Tripping Episode 32 · The Body Love Construct

• 0:01
  Welcome everyone to another episode of the Body Love Construct, where we have intelligent opinion based conversations around reconstructing the generational conditioning that has influenced Black women's narratives about themselves.
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• 1:12
  USBAudio1: Hi, Tina.
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  USBAudio1: Hi, Lisa.
• 1:14
  USBAudio1: So, what should we talk about today?
• 1:16
  USBAudio1: You know, I think we should just do something a little fun, but, but still on theme, because I think it'll apply to.
• 1:25
  USBAudio1: Our physical and social cells.
• 1:29
  USBAudio1: Since we, you know, we're all about mental, physical, emotional, it could be actually be spiritual too.
• 1:34
  USBAudio1: But really, I think it's more physical, emotional, well, maybe it's all over now that I'm getting ready to spew that off.
• 1:40
  USBAudio1: Anyway.
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  USBAudio1: When you were young, when you heard the words field trip, what was your reaction to that?
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  USBAudio1: First of all, celebration.
• 1:49
  USBAudio1: Oh, my gosh.
• 1:49
  USBAudio1: Yes.
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  USBAudio1: Wherever I'm in like the classroom or usually it's the classroom.
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  USBAudio1: And so it was always good.
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  USBAudio1: Even before you found out where you were going to go, just the fact that you were leaving.
• 1:58
  USBAudio1: Was fun.
• 2:00
  USBAudio1: I know.
• 2:01
  USBAudio1: It was a chance to get out of school, get on the bus.
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  USBAudio1: You know, Couldn't cut up too much, but you can cut up a little bit on.
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  USBAudio1: It's on the way to wherever you are going.
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  USBAudio1: And then you got there and we had to behave, but it was always a lot of fun.
• 2:15
  USBAudio1: Yeah to go on a a field trip because it was a day out of the school.
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  USBAudio1: Hey.
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  USBAudio1: Yes.
• 2:22
  USBAudio1: Yes.
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  USBAudio1: So, you know, when, when I was younger, I In any field trip was good to me, but I think as, as we grow older, We sort of lose that field trip kind of mentality.
• 2:33
  USBAudio1: I mean, we don't, so it really.
• 2:35
  USBAudio1: You know, the, when I thought about So thinking about what to talk about.
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  USBAudio1: Is what kind of field trips do you go on now?
• 2:43
  USBAudio1: Well, I'm so fortunate.
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  USBAudio1: To have a boss that takes us on mostly field trips at my job.
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  USBAudio1: That's good.
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  USBAudio1: Everybody else in the building is jealous of us because they see us come in and then run out the door.
• 2:56
  USBAudio1: And the last field trip we went to.
• 2:59
  USBAudio1: We did a we went to the Navy Memorial.
• 3:02
  USBAudio1: And cause, so we always does something that's educational and possibly historic.
• 3:06
  USBAudio1: And usually it's on theme too, like when the month is, and I don't remember why we went to the Navy Memorial and then we went to.
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  USBAudio1: The escape room.
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  USBAudio1: For fun.
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  USBAudio1: And had a blast.
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  USBAudio1: And the thing about it, that's good as it is a team building type of thing.
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  USBAudio1: And you do need to keep doing it because we got a few new people and I didn't really know them.
• 3:27
  USBAudio1: They sit all the way across the room, so I don't talk to them as much.
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  USBAudio1: So yeah, we get, we actually got to go in there and do things together.
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  USBAudio1: So.
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  USBAudio1: That was one and then a different one.
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  USBAudio1: We went to The African-American history and culture.
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  USBAudio1: The blacks black Sonian.
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  USBAudio1: The black Smithsonian.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, okay.
• 3:49
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, wow.
• 3:51
  USBAudio1: That's nice.
• 3:52
  USBAudio1: Well, that's local, that's a local thing.
• 3:54
  USBAudio1: And I think that was always the attraction where we went on either a local something or someplace.
• 3:59
  USBAudio1: If we got to go out of the state of New Jersey, because that's where I live when I was in grammar school and junior in high school.
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  USBAudio1: So field trips were usually in Jersey somewhere, but if we got to go to Pennsylvania, that wasn't.
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  USBAudio1: Big deal.
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  USBAudio1: No, it's funny.
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  USBAudio1: I'm from Pennsylvania and it was a big deal to go to New Jersey.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, wow.
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  USBAudio1: I mean, you know, thinking back, you know, some of those chips, definitely when we went out to the country, to the farms and that sort of thing, you know, what Jersey looks like, and I'm sure a lot of people listening, know what Jersey is like.
• 4:33
  USBAudio1: There's a lot of, especially south Jersey.
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  USBAudio1: Well, maybe not now, but when I first moved to Jersey, which was in 1963, You know, when you came across the bridge Delta, Delaware Memorial bridge and went into New Jersey, it was nothing but farm.
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  USBAudio1: Country down there.
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  USBAudio1: It seems pretty much like that still.
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  USBAudio1: I mean, I don't see a whole lot of city life.
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  USBAudio1: I mean, there's some suburbia.
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  USBAudio1: So from, from the highway is maybe that's the view I'm talking about.
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  USBAudio1: I never went off of the highway when I was younger in that area to see what was beyond what I saw from the highway.
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  USBAudio1: But it was very.
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  USBAudio1: You know, Feels a wheat and corn in Jersey mean Jersey tomatoes.
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  USBAudio1: They had a great.
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  USBAudio1: You know, vegetables.
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  USBAudio1: As in Jersey, so always would talk about Jersey corn, summertime tomatoes.
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  USBAudio1: Yeah.
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  USBAudio1: Tomato paste.
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  USBAudio1: Yeah.
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  USBAudio1: Arizona or something like that.
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  USBAudio1: Yeah, but I know we went on a field trip to great adventure.
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  USBAudio1: Great adventure.
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  USBAudio1: Okay.
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  USBAudio1: For, for everybody who doesn't know, it's a six flags park.
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  USBAudio1: And it was the most ghetto place ever.
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  USBAudio1: Okay.
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  USBAudio1: Even back then, this was in the 1970s.
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  USBAudio1: The one in Jersey.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, yeah.
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  USBAudio1: When it first, when they first started opening.
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  USBAudio1: It was ghetto from day one.
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  USBAudio1: Okay.
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  USBAudio1: We had to go through metal detectors before metal detect.
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  USBAudio1: I think we had to go through a metal detector before they were at the airport.
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  USBAudio1: Okay.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, well, I don't, I don't remember.
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  USBAudio1: I remember going to great adventure because it was a gong be a great adventure.
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  USBAudio1: It was like a big deal then?
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  USBAudio1: Yes, because there was nothing like it.
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  USBAudio1: I mean, I come from DC, as I've probably mentioned, I'm a native Washingtonian.
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  USBAudio1: And I think when I was younger, it was Glen echo amusement park.
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  USBAudio1: And then when I lived, when we first moved to Jersey, Well, well, not when we first moved to Jersey, but when we moved from south Jersey to a Northern part of Jersey, there was a.
• 6:26
  USBAudio1: Fair that used to come to this parking lot.
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  USBAudio1: And.
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  USBAudio1: The store was called great.
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  USBAudio1: Eastern Lord have mercy.
• 6:33
  USBAudio1: I am dating myself.
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  USBAudio1: But it was right.
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  USBAudio1: It.
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  USBAudio1: It was right on route 22 in, for those of you who know Jersey route 22 is treacherous, but route 22 is where.
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  USBAudio1: Two 80 Easter was, and it was really literally right up the street from where we lived.
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  USBAudio1: If I was talking in present day, I'd say it was walking distance.
• 6:49
  USBAudio1: But when we were that young, I was like, it's not walk-ins do you have to get in the car?
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  USBAudio1: It really wasn't that far.
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  USBAudio1: But they will always, every, there was annually.
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  USBAudio1: Fair that came there with lots of rice.
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  USBAudio1: So this is all before these huge theme parks started.
• 7:01
  USBAudio1: Popping up.
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  USBAudio1: And that became, you know, yes, you want it to be able to, if your class was going to great adventure, it was a major thing.
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  USBAudio1: And now you can't get me to go to any of them.
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  USBAudio1: Oh, no, you can't pay me to go.
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  USBAudio1: I may go some, something like maybe Bush gardens, especially I hadn't, I never got to go to the one in Tampa, which is the dark continent, but you can't pay me to go to great adventure.
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  USBAudio1: Cause if it was like that, then.
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  USBAudio1: Look how it is.
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  USBAudio1: Probably is right now.
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  USBAudio1: And it was a great adventure because I went there.
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  USBAudio1: We stayed there till late at night.
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  USBAudio1: And what happened was.
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  USBAudio1: I went on some ride with my friends that.
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  USBAudio1: Takes you upside down.
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  USBAudio1: So I gave my friend, my glasses to put in her bag.
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  USBAudio1: And we had run into these, this huge group of Puerto Rican kids that were a lot of fun.
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  USBAudio1: So I'm with them.
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  USBAudio1: And we all with them and, and she took my glasses and we get off the ride and she's gone.
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  USBAudio1: I can't see a damn thing.
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  USBAudio1: Like glass.
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  USBAudio1: I.
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  USBAudio1: I could see better than, but I couldn't really do anything.
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  USBAudio1: So I just hung out with this group.
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  USBAudio1: They just took me all around until at the end, we kind of approached.
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  USBAudio1: The D the way out.
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  USBAudio1: I ran into my friend.
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  USBAudio1: I was like, you'll see.
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  USBAudio1: See, this is crazy.
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  USBAudio1: I'm never doing that again.
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  USBAudio1: That was an another kind of adventure, but, you know, I think thinking back on.
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  USBAudio1: Field trips and those things.
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  USBAudio1: And bring it into present day.
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  USBAudio1: I just remember how much of a social activity that was.
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  USBAudio1: So, you know, we talk about the social body.
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  USBAudio1: You know, you were interacting with people.
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  USBAudio1: And meeting people as kids and having either with your friends in the, you meet some other kids.
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  USBAudio1: And it was this huge social.
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  USBAudio1: And so for me, I look at all that as you know, how was I socialized?
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  USBAudio1: How was I brought up, you know, as I brought up.
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  USBAudio1: In isolation or not in.
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  USBAudio1: Certainly not.
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  USBAudio1: I mean, I had siblings, but we had friends and lots of friends and we did things and went places and you know, and then we went with our school pizza.
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  USBAudio1: You know who we were in class with.
• 9:01
  USBAudio1: To do something new discovering and exploring new things, physical because you had to walk around and do stuff.
• 9:07
  USBAudio1: Yeah, there was physical, emotional, because it was exciting.
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  USBAudio1: It brought up some, you.
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  USBAudio1: You know that your adrenaline was rushing and, you know, There was this whole euphoric place of, Ooh.
• 9:17
  USBAudio1: Wow.
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  USBAudio1: We're going to do something.
• 9:19
  USBAudio1: And as I got older, you know, I wondered You know, Giving ourselves now as older people, older adults giving ourselves permission to do these kinds of quote unquote field trips and what it looked like looked like, and I don't necessarily mean travel.
• 9:34
  USBAudio1: He's traveled to me as another whole nother thing.
• 9:37
  USBAudio1: Right.
• 9:37
  USBAudio1: The field trip is you don't have to really pack a whole lot of anything, you know, maybe.
• 9:42
  USBAudio1: So food and lunch or something.
• 9:44
  USBAudio1: But when you mentioned, you know, your job.
• 9:47
  USBAudio1: And going someplace.
• 9:49
  USBAudio1: I did not.
• 9:51
  USBAudio1: Go on any field trips in some of my earlier positions.
• 9:55
  USBAudio1: I didn't start doing that until I think when I was working in Europe, it definitely, when I was here in the, in the city, in the district, Working at the hospital, you know, I definitely want it.
• 10:07
  USBAudio1: My staff.
• 10:09
  USBAudio1: To go places.
• 10:10
  USBAudio1: And so we definitely went on field trips locally.
• 10:14
  USBAudio1: Some of them.
• 10:14
  USBAudio1: Yes.
• 10:14
  USBAudio1: You did have to pack a bag.
• 10:15
  USBAudio1: Maybe it was overnight, but we tried to do things locally that really were educational, but also social.
• 10:22
  USBAudio1: And a chance to.
• 10:24
  USBAudio1: Because we were in the healing.
• 10:27
  USBAudio1: Energy kind of place with what we were doing.
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  USBAudio1: It also gave everybody a chance to.
• 10:34
  USBAudio1: Do some reflection.
• 10:35
  USBAudio1: So it was emotional.
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  USBAudio1: It was Good.
• 10:37
  USBAudio1: It was spiritual at times.
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  USBAudio1: And so I think that on, you know, Locally doing it.
• 10:43
  USBAudio1: So then.
• 10:44
  USBAudio1: I don't.
• 10:46
  USBAudio1: I think now for me a field trip.
• 10:49
  USBAudio1: Getting in the car and driving across the bridge to Virginia.
• 10:53
  USBAudio1: And I, I have a hotel.
• 10:55
  USBAudio1: So this is, it's not a vacation.
• 10:57
  USBAudio1: It's more like a staycation.
• 10:58
  USBAudio1: So maybe that's kind of a field trip of another kind.
• 11:00
  USBAudio1: It's not the long vacation where you're packing in staying, but.
• 11:05
  USBAudio1: My staycations are local and go to a hotel and soak in a soaking tub and just have, you know, 24 hours.
• 11:14
  USBAudio1: Of being away.
• 11:16
  USBAudio1: And I always feel like I've been somewhere.
• 11:18
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 11:18
  USBAudio1: Because I go by myself or, you know, I take all my candles and do that, have a whole ritual and stuff that I do, but it's just such a relaxing and it really does recharge me emotionally.
• 11:29
  USBAudio1: It is not a social thing.
• 11:31
  USBAudio1: This is definitely not a social, not a social body activity.
• 11:35
  USBAudio1: This is all about spiritual and emotional so that I can really recharge myself and get away.
• 11:42
  USBAudio1: You know, I do give myself permission and those of you who are listening, you know, you need to write yourself a permission slip.
• 11:48
  USBAudio1: Like we used to get when we were a kid.
• 11:50
  USBAudio1: You had to have a permission slip to go somewhere, but now we're old enough to ride our own permissions lips.
• 11:55
  USBAudio1: So people don't take advantage of that.
• 11:58
  USBAudio1: I know people who just don't do anything.
• 12:01
  USBAudio1: Yeah, you're right.
• 12:02
  USBAudio1: And sometimes I take it for granted because I'm always just thinking of something to do.
• 12:07
  USBAudio1: And not realizing that there are a lot of people out here.
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  USBAudio1: They just don't think of it.
• 12:11
  USBAudio1: It's not like they can't, it's just not going in there.
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  USBAudio1: You know, cross their mind.
• 12:15
  USBAudio1: And not really thinking about what benefits they could reap from it.
• 12:19
  USBAudio1: It's just not, well, it is fun, but it's more than fun.
• 12:23
  USBAudio1: And serves more purposes than just amusement.
• 12:26
  USBAudio1: And that's why it's kind of important.
• 12:30
  USBAudio1: We, and I remember at another one of our podcasts, you mentioned going out and you wanted to go out and a surf.
• 12:39
  USBAudio1: And do surfing and I think you and I share.
• 12:42
  USBAudio1: Water and comment, but not the same.
• 12:46
  USBAudio1: Because I think with the vassal.
• 12:48
  USBAudio1: The last of fire is somewhat.
• 12:50
  USBAudio1: Let me make sure I'm saying it right.
• 12:52
  USBAudio1: Is a person who finds calm, peaceful, exhilaration, and communion being close to the ocean.
• 12:58
  USBAudio1: So it accomplishes both of us, but in different ways, because I like the comms and you want to get out there and serve.
• 13:04
  USBAudio1: Which I so admire, but you know, I think that it's funny.
• 13:07
  USBAudio1: That there are shared interests with people for different reasons.
• 13:12
  USBAudio1: And it's all about, you know, what do you see in something or how do you use.
• 13:17
  USBAudio1: Let's say the ocean, the water to satisfy, or to address something about.
• 13:23
  USBAudio1: Being away.
• 13:25
  USBAudio1: And how that services your body and what parts do you know?
• 13:28
  USBAudio1: Is it mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, or social in how you approach it?
• 13:32
  USBAudio1: So, yeah, I had a very spiritual Apifany when I went to surf camp, one time in the Dominican Republic.
• 13:40
  USBAudio1: Now, I didn't know anything about reef breaks.
• 13:43
  USBAudio1: Hm.
• 13:44
  USBAudio1: I only knew about ShoreBank brakes, like here on the east coast, they, the waves come in and they break on the shore.
• 13:49
  USBAudio1: Do.
• 13:50
  USBAudio1: No, not there.
• 13:51
  USBAudio1: So we had this, when we out there somewhere to the reef.
• 13:56
  USBAudio1: The coral reef and then surf that way.
• 13:58
  USBAudio1: And, and I was just like completely taken aback.
• 14:01
  USBAudio1: Like I'm not ready for this.
• 14:03
  USBAudio1: I'm just not ready for this, but I went out there and it was hard to get out there because the waves are breaking all the way.
• 14:10
  USBAudio1: And you just got to, by the time I got out there, I was exhausted and I was just laying on the surfboard.
• 14:15
  USBAudio1: Looking at the pretty fish, because it was on a reef.
• 14:17
  USBAudio1: Looking at the pretty roughish underneath me.
• 14:20
  USBAudio1: And and then I surfed a bit and it was, it was very challenging.
• 14:25
  USBAudio1: And I remember the surf.
• 14:27
  USBAudio1: Coach saying, stop, trying to fight against the ocean.
• 14:32
  USBAudio1: And just go with the flow.
• 14:34
  USBAudio1: And at that moment, I thought, oh my gosh, this kind of translates into everything else in my life.
• 14:39
  USBAudio1: Why I'm always having a war and a fight and, you know, trying to tear it down and, you know, I could just find a way to go with it.
• 14:48
  USBAudio1: And the reason why for the ocean is because it will defeat you.
• 14:53
  USBAudio1: Yes.
• 14:54
  USBAudio1: But I was th I was in a struggle trying to get out out there.
• 14:56
  USBAudio1: And so when I realized that I was like, oh, okay.
• 15:00
  USBAudio1: That's a whole different, more relaxing.
• 15:02
  USBAudio1: I mean, it just changed everything.
• 15:04
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 15:05
  USBAudio1: What's it, you know, I think it's funny.
• 15:07
  USBAudio1: It's not funny.
• 15:08
  USBAudio1: I think it's really interesting how we can.
• 15:11
  USBAudio1: The things that we enjoy doing.
• 15:13
  USBAudio1: There's other things that come with it.
• 15:15
  USBAudio1: So you enjoy being, but you have a lesson that you learned there with being out in the water.
• 15:21
  USBAudio1: And understanding that stop fighting, you know, And it translates to the rest of your life and how you maneuver.
• 15:30
  USBAudio1: And there's always something, or there's always a lesson.
• 15:32
  USBAudio1: I think in the things that we do, we just have to be open for what that lesson is going to be.
• 15:38
  USBAudio1: And sometimes it's, this is not the thing for you.
• 15:41
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 15:42
  USBAudio1: And sometimes you just keep missing.
• 15:44
  USBAudio1: The message.
• 15:45
  USBAudio1: And then one day.
• 15:46
  USBAudio1: W there is right now.
• 15:48
  USBAudio1: Because who knows how many times I missed that message before.
• 15:51
  USBAudio1: Going with the flow.
• 15:52
  USBAudio1: I th I, you know, I believe that we've all been processed to not go with the flow that there's something.
• 15:59
  USBAudio1: Frivolous about those words.
• 16:02
  USBAudio1: We've talked about this before on the pockets too.
• 16:04
  USBAudio1: And that's one of my things that I talked about for this year is that I'm just going with the flow.
• 16:11
  USBAudio1: I'm not resisting.
• 16:13
  USBAudio1: What comes before me.
• 16:16
  USBAudio1: Because there is a reason why it's being presented to me and I need to figure out what that is, the information or the answer may not.
• 16:24
  USBAudio1: Be right there.
• 16:25
  USBAudio1: But I think it's coming.
• 16:27
  USBAudio1: Going with the flow does not mean you're not getting work done.
• 16:30
  USBAudio1: It does not mean you're not being productive.
• 16:32
  USBAudio1: It means that you can.
• 16:35
  USBAudio1: As you're talking about waves, you ride the wave.
• 16:37
  USBAudio1: You know, maybe it's moving up and you're dead.
• 16:40
  USBAudio1: You're going up and up and you are.
• 16:42
  USBAudio1: Working on the same thing, then all of a sudden that may happens and you may have to shift and go do something else on the wave goes down and you just go with that and do what comes.
• 16:51
  USBAudio1: Before you, that is almost every day, some days for me.
• 16:54
  USBAudio1: With, like, I have a plan.
• 16:56
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 16:57
  USBAudio1: And then my plan is, or what I have on the calendar is just not getting done.
• 17:03
  USBAudio1: And I have stopped.
• 17:04
  USBAudio1: I stopped doing that craziness of.
• 17:06
  USBAudio1: Oh my God, I can't get this done.
• 17:07
  USBAudio1: I need to get it's like, okay.
• 17:09
  USBAudio1: Move it, and then maybe, sometimes it's not supposed to be on the calendar at all.
• 17:13
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 17:14
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 17:15
  USBAudio1: And then I just finally we'll take it off.
• 17:16
  USBAudio1: And that to me is, is the lesson.
• 17:19
  USBAudio1: There is like, If you keep moving something all the time, you keep moving.
• 17:24
  USBAudio1: Which is supposed to be doing.
• 17:25
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 17:26
  USBAudio1: Maybe it's not the right time.
• 17:27
  USBAudio1: Or maybe it's not the right time.
• 17:28
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 17:29
  USBAudio1: I think that the, the concept of going with the flow.
• 17:33
  USBAudio1: That is.
• 17:34
  USBAudio1: All about what the soft life is.
• 17:36
  USBAudio1: Because it's not surrender.
• 17:39
  USBAudio1: I mean a lot of us as black women think that it's the soft life means that you have to just stop everything and be.
• 17:47
  USBAudio1: You know, a blob and don't do anything, but that's not true.
• 17:50
  USBAudio1: It just means thinking of different ways, you have to be more creative and more open-minded.
• 17:56
  USBAudio1: Two ways to get to whatever it is that you're doing at that time.
• 18:00
  USBAudio1: Like when I was trying to get out there.
• 18:02
  USBAudio1: You know, to the reef, it wasn't, don't try to get out there.
• 18:06
  USBAudio1: It was, there's gotta be, there's an easier way to do this.
• 18:09
  USBAudio1: Besides you just fighting the wave.
• 18:11
  USBAudio1: Getting kicked back every single time.
• 18:13
  USBAudio1: And so that's the thing that I really hope that if you're listening, you understand that soft life.
• 18:19
  USBAudio1: That's why I really didn't necessarily like the word soft in the beginning.
• 18:22
  USBAudio1: Cause it seems like, it seems like you're being passive or a lot of the stereotypical things that they associate with femininity, but it's not at all.
• 18:32
  USBAudio1: Right.
• 18:32
  USBAudio1: Because you can, you can win wars by.
• 18:37
  USBAudio1: Changing the way you think about it and going a less aggressive route.
• 18:42
  USBAudio1: It might be negotiation.
• 18:44
  USBAudio1: It might be, you know, it could be anything.
• 18:47
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 18:47
  USBAudio1: I think, you know, My.
• 18:51
  USBAudio1: When we have this conversation about self life, you know, mine is slow living.
• 18:55
  USBAudio1: And slowly, it's the same thing.
• 18:56
  USBAudio1: I think that people think, oh, that means you just, you know, everything is stopping and it doesn't mean that it means you are.
• 19:04
  USBAudio1: Paying more attention to everything.
• 19:07
  USBAudio1: It's almost like Zen.
• 19:08
  USBAudio1: It was in living, which is what I use, maybe used to call it.
• 19:11
  USBAudio1: Maybe slow life, just.
• 19:12
  USBAudio1: Is it living or is it slow living?
• 19:14
  USBAudio1: Is Zen living?
• 19:15
  USBAudio1: It's, it's being a little more mindful of what's in front of me and just taking the time to really work through things without trying to multitask.
• 19:25
  USBAudio1: Right.
• 19:25
  USBAudio1: I think maybe that is just the antithesis of slow living is, you know, multitasking.
• 19:30
  USBAudio1: We don't want.
• 19:32
  USBAudio1: You're not, you're not multitasking.
• 19:33
  USBAudio1: If you're doing slow living, maybe even sucks.
• 19:36
  USBAudio1: Life is monthly.
• 19:37
  USBAudio1: Tasking thing is, is just, I can't do it anymore.
• 19:41
  USBAudio1: Honestly.
• 19:42
  USBAudio1: I've tried there's sometimes.
• 19:43
  USBAudio1: Yeah, I do.
• 19:44
  USBAudio1: When I get a bit late in the morning, I'm all crazy.
• 19:47
  USBAudio1: And I'm trying to do 10 things at once, but.
• 19:49
  USBAudio1: For the most part.
• 19:50
  USBAudio1: I really pay attention to what I'm working on or what I'm doing at that particular time.
• 19:57
  USBAudio1: And also when I'm out in nature.
• 20:02
  USBAudio1: Which I guess I was doing this, the living a long time.
• 20:04
  USBAudio1: I think when I got a camera again, My life slowed down tremendously because I will spend hours out with the camera in a garden.
• 20:13
  USBAudio1: I will spend.
• 20:15
  USBAudio1: Many many, many minutes are countless Ms.
• 20:17
  USBAudio1: On one flower or pedal or something.
• 20:19
  USBAudio1: So.
• 20:21
  USBAudio1: That to me is.
• 20:23
  USBAudio1: Just the way it just needs to be.
• 20:26
  USBAudio1: And I think about, so the contrast to back to Field trips.
• 20:29
  USBAudio1: There was all this energy.
• 20:31
  USBAudio1: That worked around a field trip.
• 20:33
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 20:34
  USBAudio1: And now it's like, oh, Hmm.
• 20:37
  USBAudio1: Thinking about a future.
• 20:38
  USBAudio1: I don't know if I would have the energy to get out of the bus and do all that craziness.
• 20:42
  USBAudio1: I mean, listen, I've been, I I've been on field trips with my girlfriends.
• 20:45
  USBAudio1: I said, I had to think about this.
• 20:46
  USBAudio1: As we're, as we're talking to you, we have been on field trips.
• 20:49
  USBAudio1: We have spent the night somewhere.
• 20:50
  USBAudio1: So maybe a field trip now is, is about going.
• 20:53
  USBAudio1: And you may spend the night maybe again, not.
• 20:56
  USBAudio1: Nights and nights nice.
• 20:57
  USBAudio1: Which is, oh, it's an overnight sort of thing.
• 20:59
  USBAudio1: And I've been through the field trips where we go somewhere and get in a van or something.
• 21:04
  USBAudio1: And it's crazy.
• 21:06
  USBAudio1: It's just crazy.
• 21:07
  USBAudio1: It's a lot of fun and it's high energy and, you know, It's.
• 21:12
  USBAudio1: Adult it's adult field trip.
• 21:16
  USBAudio1: With no supervision.
• 21:19
  USBAudio1: And no monitors.
• 21:21
  USBAudio1: What was it?
• 21:21
  USBAudio1: You know, we had a parent that went parents that wouldn't know.
• 21:24
  USBAudio1: Well, some of it.
• 21:26
  USBAudio1: Well, one of my friends has been on somebody.
• 21:28
  USBAudio1: As a parent, but most of us are not parents at all.
• 21:30
  USBAudio1: So we don't have any.
• 21:34
  USBAudio1: Whatsoever.
• 21:35
  USBAudio1: So that's always fun to do it, but you know, it's but even you know, field trip to the movies is fun.
• 21:40
  USBAudio1: You.
• 21:40
  USBAudio1: You know, it's like, there's all these little things.
• 21:42
  USBAudio1: And so I think what we're talking about is finding those things that you can do.
• 21:51
  USBAudio1: They don't have to be like me say it doesn't have to travel anywhere.
• 21:54
  USBAudio1: It could be in your own town.
• 21:57
  USBAudio1: Around the corner could just be just somewhere, but find those things that you love or that.
• 22:02
  USBAudio1: Call out to you and go do them.
• 22:04
  USBAudio1: We're so fortunate that we live in a city.
• 22:07
  USBAudio1: I mean, we could never exhaust all of our possibilities here in the city.
• 22:12
  USBAudio1: Of field trips, but I guess even if you lived out some out further, even in a rural area, there still are places and things that happen, whether it's, you know, a farm or like, I think about Virginia, they had the rate caverns.
• 22:25
  USBAudio1: We went there one time.
• 22:27
  USBAudio1: And saw this, the lag mites and the slacks, the nag.
• 22:30
  USBAudio1: Tight sir.
• 22:31
  USBAudio1: Oh, those tapes in the cave.
• 22:35
  USBAudio1: And so it doesn't matter really where you are.
• 22:38
  USBAudio1: There's going to be some things you just have to look for them.
• 22:41
  USBAudio1: Well, you know, if you're here in the DMV area, certainly there's I know channel four, there's a guy on that that talks every Wednesday about things that are happening around the city.
• 22:53
  USBAudio1: And I think you can get it in via email and they probably have an IgE account or whatever that talks about Africa is name, but all the different things you can do around the city.
• 23:02
  USBAudio1: But.
• 23:04
  USBAudio1: We all have Mo I guess a lot of people, I won't say all have a phone.
• 23:08
  USBAudio1: You can Google.
• 23:09
  USBAudio1: There's so much to do.
• 23:11
  USBAudio1: I do know, thinking of.
• 23:13
  USBAudio1: Cups of my mind is now real enrolling back to field trip.
• 23:17
  USBAudio1: And what that meant my girlfriends and I got in the car.
• 23:20
  USBAudio1: And rode up.
• 23:22
  USBAudio1: In Maryland, too.
• 23:25
  USBAudio1: Winery.
• 23:26
  USBAudio1: And, you know, did it, and I'm not a wine drinker.
• 23:30
  USBAudio1: But I organized the trip.
• 23:31
  USBAudio1: We went, went to the name is escaping me.
• 23:34
  USBAudio1: It'll come to me in a second.
• 23:36
  USBAudio1: Up in, in Maryland is you're going north now.
• 23:39
  USBAudio1: Ellie's now.
• 23:41
  USBAudio1: I can't.
• 23:42
  USBAudio1: So it's course because I want to talk about it.
• 23:44
  USBAudio1: I can't.
• 23:45
  USBAudio1: But in any anyway.
• 23:48
  USBAudio1: No, that's the other way.
• 23:49
  USBAudio1: Anyway.
• 23:50
  USBAudio1: We went up and had lunch and then we drove up to this winery.
• 23:53
  USBAudio1: And some of my friends that were on the field trip definitely drank wine.
• 23:58
  USBAudio1: So they were going to do the wine tasting and I decided to do the wine tasting.
• 24:02
  USBAudio1: I'm like, okay.
• 24:03
  USBAudio1: Why did you come up here?
• 24:04
  USBAudio1: I mean, it is beautiful and you could sit and.
• 24:08
  USBAudio1: You know, it was just lovely and it was a beautiful day.
• 24:11
  USBAudio1: So I did the wine tasting and it was interesting because I hadn't had, what's called Mead wine, which is processed with honey.
• 24:18
  USBAudio1: I didn't know anything about that.
• 24:20
  USBAudio1: And so they have made wine and other kinds of wines and you could go look at the beehives and all this stuff that they have there.
• 24:25
  USBAudio1: But I fell in love with this peach cobbler meat wine.
• 24:29
  USBAudio1: That is so cool.
• 24:32
  USBAudio1: It was a field trip that paid off.
• 24:36
  USBAudio1: And it made me do something different.
• 24:37
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 24:38
  USBAudio1: It encouraged me to try something.
• 24:41
  USBAudio1: That I really didn't think I wanted to do, but two of my girlfriends were doing the tasting and I was like, wait, I want you to just go do it.
• 24:48
  USBAudio1: And you're there.
• 24:49
  USBAudio1: Yeah, I'm here, you know, what's the big deal and I'm glad I did because it introduced me one to something I didn't know about.
• 24:56
  USBAudio1: And then to, to something I just love that is, is so good.
• 25:00
  USBAudio1: So good.
• 25:01
  USBAudio1: But those kinds of things, you know, either alone or with other people, Field trips can be.
• 25:08
  USBAudio1: Either.
• 25:09
  USBAudio1: Again by yourself or with some other people or a couple of people.
• 25:13
  USBAudio1: Huh.
• 25:14
  USBAudio1: Or your kids or your kids or somebody?
• 25:17
  USBAudio1: Anybody.
• 25:18
  USBAudio1: Well, we're kind of talking about adult.
• 25:20
  USBAudio1: Field trips.
• 25:22
  USBAudio1: Maybe not the kids.
• 25:24
  USBAudio1: Not little kids.
• 25:25
  USBAudio1: Maybe not the kids.
• 25:26
  USBAudio1: This is the chance we're really talking about a field trip now.
• 25:30
  USBAudio1: That gives you time for yourself.
• 25:33
  USBAudio1: Or, and, or with other adults to do something maybe you haven't done before or something that you really enjoy.
• 25:39
  USBAudio1: I know lots of people do the spot thing.
• 25:42
  USBAudio1: I used to be a spa spa girl.
• 25:44
  USBAudio1: I had an incident in a spot.
• 25:46
  USBAudio1: This kind of kept me from it, but.
• 25:49
  USBAudio1: That used to be, you know, the getaway for may.
• 25:51
  USBAudio1: You.
• 25:52
  USBAudio1: Go go to this bar, be there for hours.
• 25:55
  USBAudio1: You know, sit in the relax room and drink tea and do all that.
• 25:59
  USBAudio1: And then get in, get in the Whirlpool before I do all kinds of, and then come home later and Zen out.
• 26:05
  USBAudio1: If I didn't go find a hotel room and just flat out after.
• 26:09
  USBAudio1: Yeah, that's what we do.
• 26:11
  USBAudio1: King's spa.
• 26:12
  USBAudio1: Yes, I am Korean bath house kind of place.
• 26:16
  USBAudio1: And I love it there.
• 26:17
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 26:18
  USBAudio1: And a lot of my friends liked that I it's.
• 26:20
  USBAudio1: It's not for me.
• 26:21
  USBAudio1: It's too.
• 26:22
  USBAudio1: A spot for me has a more intimate feeling.
• 26:25
  USBAudio1: And I know there's lots of great treatments.
• 26:27
  USBAudio1: I've heard nothing but great things about it.
• 26:28
  USBAudio1: Honestly.
• 26:29
  USBAudio1: It sounds fantastic.
• 26:30
  USBAudio1: It's just not.
• 26:32
  USBAudio1: When I got introduced to a spot was such a intimate.
• 26:35
  USBAudio1: It was a really intimate thing.
• 26:37
  USBAudio1: So.
• 26:39
  USBAudio1: That is like, Hm.
• 26:40
  USBAudio1: That's like a playground.
• 26:43
  USBAudio1: It's like a big old playground.
• 26:45
  USBAudio1: I am not going to the spot to be hanging out and doing, I, it, you know, it's spot is.
• 26:50
  USBAudio1: Yeah, I guess again, and this is, you know, how people want to do things.
• 26:53
  USBAudio1: A spot to me is quiet.
• 26:55
  USBAudio1: And that seems very social.
• 26:58
  USBAudio1: It can be spa world, the other one.
• 27:01
  USBAudio1: Th the one that's been there for a long time.
• 27:03
  USBAudio1: That's more like that.
• 27:05
  USBAudio1: Children are allowed and it's more noisy.
• 27:07
  USBAudio1: Hmm, this one, although I've never been in there on the weekend and the weekend.
• 27:11
  USBAudio1: Only been there weekdays, so it could be different, but no children are allowed in there.
• 27:16
  USBAudio1: So it's significantly quieter and you see a lot of people who go there by themselves.
• 27:21
  USBAudio1: Or in, you know, small groups of people.
• 27:23
  USBAudio1: So it's not quite the same.
• 27:25
  USBAudio1: It's not as intimate as Like A really nice spa, but it's a bath house.
• 27:30
  USBAudio1: So it's a little different.
• 27:32
  USBAudio1: This one has the big pool on the roof.
• 27:35
  USBAudio1: Which I love.
• 27:36
  USBAudio1: I mean.
• 27:37
  USBAudio1: My friend thinks I'm out of my mind because I had her going.
• 27:41
  USBAudio1: In the pool when it was 40 degrees, but.
• 27:44
  USBAudio1: I said it was like, forget the fact that you have to run out of there.
• 27:49
  USBAudio1: Right.
• 27:50
  USBAudio1: That's just a minor thing.
• 27:53
  USBAudio1: No, I think it's fun.
• 27:54
  USBAudio1: I think The pandemic kept us from having any kind of anything.
• 28:00
  USBAudio1: And people are getting back into.
• 28:03
  USBAudio1: What are these things?
• 28:04
  USBAudio1: And it's.
• 28:06
  USBAudio1: I don't know whether it's a slower, fast process for people.
• 28:08
  USBAudio1: I can't, I can't really gauge what's happening.
• 28:10
  USBAudio1: I do know.
• 28:12
  USBAudio1: That the travel industry has really started, has really picked up again.
• 28:18
  USBAudio1: So people are taking.
• 28:19
  USBAudio1: More elongated trips as opposed to field trips.
• 28:23
  USBAudio1: Because they can now, because that was taken from us.
• 28:28
  USBAudio1: For so long people, just like, I want to get out of here.
• 28:31
  USBAudio1: Yeah, the getting on a plane now with all the craziness.
• 28:34
  USBAudio1: Every time I look at the news or some crazy thing on a plane happening, I'm thinking.
• 28:39
  USBAudio1: Do I, what is it next time I really want to get on plane.
• 28:42
  USBAudio1: And go any anywhere, but you know, that's a whole nother story, but There's there is a lot to do.
• 28:49
  USBAudio1: Wherever you live.
• 28:51
  USBAudio1: And it was just really getting out and finding new ways to enjoy life.
• 28:58
  USBAudio1: And thinking about, you know, what kind of field trips did you like as a kid?
• 29:04
  USBAudio1: Or what did field trips mean to you?
• 29:06
  USBAudio1: And then figuring out what it field ship might look like.
• 29:09
  USBAudio1: Now, if you're not already doing it.
• 29:11
  USBAudio1: Figure out.
• 29:12
  USBAudio1: You know, something, it doesn't have to cost money.
• 29:14
  USBAudio1: Field ship can be going to the next.
• 29:19
  USBAudio1: State or, and finding a museum.
• 29:22
  USBAudio1: And then having lunch, or maybe not having lunch with, if you're not wanting to spend money.
• 29:26
  USBAudio1: And if the museum doesn't have to think about these things.
• 29:29
  USBAudio1: I forget, you know, I've been I'm back in DC and I've been back for so long that you don't pay to go.
• 29:34
  USBAudio1: A museum here.
• 29:35
  USBAudio1: I lived in New York for nine, almost 10 years.
• 29:37
  USBAudio1: And you had to pay to go to the museum.
• 29:39
  USBAudio1: So it's a different situation.
• 29:41
  USBAudio1: So you don't want to drive to New York for your field trip.
• 29:43
  USBAudio1: If you want to be free.
• 29:45
  USBAudio1: Because the museum do you have to pay for there?
• 29:49
  USBAudio1: But there are some, I On my Instagram feed, I have seen so many fun things.
• 29:55
  USBAudio1: In places that like in New York and I'm a big tea person.
• 30:00
  USBAudio1: And I saw this thing in New York where this is big pink bus and they serve tea on this bus.
• 30:04
  USBAudio1: So you get on and you get on with your friends, but there's other people on it.
• 30:07
  USBAudio1: It's not your bus.
• 30:09
  USBAudio1: And it's it's full tea service.
• 30:11
  USBAudio1: Wow.
• 30:12
  USBAudio1: And it drives around the city.
• 30:13
  USBAudio1: I don't know what else it does.
• 30:15
  USBAudio1: It drives around the city and you can get on and have tea.
• 30:18
  USBAudio1: And I think it's so.
• 30:19
  USBAudio1: Looks so fun.
• 30:20
  USBAudio1: So my feeling is okay, these are the things I know you have to pay for that, but it's stuff to do.
• 30:24
  USBAudio1: And then I saw that in Bryant park, in New York, they have these ice bumper cars.
• 30:31
  USBAudio1: Oh, well, you can go do bumper cars.
• 30:34
  USBAudio1: And the thing is until March 2nd.
• 30:36
  USBAudio1: And so my second yet, Right now it's too.
• 30:39
  USBAudio1: But it was in prior part from January 12th and March 2nd.
• 30:41
  USBAudio1: And I have.
• 30:42
  USBAudio1: Put a picture in my phone, which I just showed Lisa and her eyes just went right out of her head.
• 30:47
  USBAudio1: I need to be there too.
• 30:48
  USBAudio1: It looks like so much fun.
• 30:49
  USBAudio1: But it's like, okay, this is like my destination.
• 30:52
  USBAudio1: I want to go to New York.
• 30:54
  USBAudio1: And do these things that weren't there.
• 30:55
  USBAudio1: When I used to live there.
• 30:58
  USBAudio1: Like these are all these fun, crazy kinds of things.
• 31:02
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 31:03
  USBAudio1: So this won't be a field trip.
• 31:04
  USBAudio1: This will actually be a Jew a little, this will be more than a field trip.
• 31:07
  USBAudio1: Cause obviously it would be staying.
• 31:09
  USBAudio1: At least in New York, probably in Jersey with my sister when I go do this.
• 31:12
  USBAudio1: But it definitely, I think I will be able to drag a couple of my girlfriends.
• 31:16
  USBAudio1: From TC to go do some fun stuff.
• 31:18
  USBAudio1: If not meet up with some friends in New York and do them because there's just so many little things.
• 31:24
  USBAudio1: And those of you who have Instagram, I don't know what you follow, but definitely look at some travel.
• 31:29
  USBAudio1: Things too.
• 31:30
  USBAudio1: Two.
• 31:31
  USBAudio1: Follow.
• 31:32
  USBAudio1: If you're looking for ideas and things.
• 31:34
  USBAudio1: There's a hiking group that goes in the Shenandoah.
• 31:38
  USBAudio1: I'm not gone, but that's one of the things that I have on my list to do.
• 31:41
  USBAudio1: And I think that's fairly free for the most part.
• 31:44
  USBAudio1: I don't think you have to pay for it.
• 31:45
  USBAudio1: Just go into, unless there's a fee to get into the park, you'd probably as minimum, right.
• 31:49
  USBAudio1: But that seems nice to me because it's, it's a way to exercise that isn't yeah.
• 31:55
  USBAudio1: Exercising at the gym.
• 31:57
  USBAudio1: Yeah, I, again, I mean, when you go on some of these things, you're using your physical body, so it is about again, All of this.
• 32:05
  USBAudio1: Conversation about field trips and moving is thinking about, you know, how does it.
• 32:11
  USBAudio1: Affect your body.
• 32:13
  USBAudio1: And there is, you know, there is, if you, if you're walking, it's physical, if you're moving around, if you're running or do whatever it's physical or.
• 32:20
  USBAudio1: You're doing, maybe you're going to do a physical activity.
• 32:23
  USBAudio1: Maybe that is the end game for the, if you're going on your field trip to go surf, you will be doing.
• 32:31
  USBAudio1: and I'll be coming in watching you.
• 32:33
  USBAudio1: From the beach under my umbrella.
• 32:38
  USBAudio1: The most I'll be doing is maybe making a sand castle.
• 32:41
  USBAudio1: If not just sitting and enjoying the view.
• 32:45
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 32:45
  USBAudio1: But I think, you know, it's the.
• 32:47
  USBAudio1: Again, Make make time for yourself.
• 32:51
  USBAudio1: It's really the point of this whole conversation is that, and make time for things we may have not have touched too much on spiritual, but there are spiritual addings you can go on as well before.
• 33:00
  USBAudio1: Or if you're a nature person.
• 33:03
  USBAudio1: Trust me.
• 33:03
  USBAudio1: If you're out in nature, it's a spiritual experience.
• 33:06
  USBAudio1: Just open yourself to let it be that.
• 33:09
  USBAudio1: And take time to one of my friends, wrote some bit about hugging a tree and everybody sort of chuckles about that kind of stuff, but.
• 33:16
  USBAudio1: You know, if you ever looked at a tree and tree bark and the difference in tree bark is.
• 33:21
  USBAudio1: It's just the whole thing and people don't pay attention.
• 33:24
  USBAudio1: To this nature that's around us that has been destroyed.
• 33:27
  USBAudio1: Eh, every day and it's going away.
• 33:30
  USBAudio1: I remember when I moved back to DC, there was so much green space here.
• 33:34
  USBAudio1: And now there is an apartment building on everything.
• 33:38
  USBAudio1: Ding dang corner.
• 33:39
  USBAudio1: Where there was a sign that says, keep saying west green and he probably signed up and put a building there.
• 33:44
  USBAudio1: Right.
• 33:45
  USBAudio1: Bill, I thought that was going to say, cause they were, seemed to be preserving.
• 33:47
  USBAudio1: It is greens.
• 33:49
  USBAudio1: And it was a huge space here.
• 33:51
  USBAudio1: In Southwest DC and they put a book a massive, and it's not even an attractive building.
• 33:57
  USBAudio1: That's pretty ugly.
• 33:58
  USBAudio1: It's pretty ugly.
• 33:59
  USBAudio1: And you know, all these buildings that they've thrown up DC, as I'm sure it's happening around the country has undergone.
• 34:07
  USBAudio1: More than just gentrification.
• 34:09
  USBAudio1: But they have redone this city as again, I'm a native Washingtonian come as a child.
• 34:14
  USBAudio1: I landmark things.
• 34:15
  USBAudio1: I I'm very visual.
• 34:17
  USBAudio1: And coming back here to Howard.
• 34:20
  USBAudio1: It wasn't, there were things that had changed, but not so much.
• 34:22
  USBAudio1: But when I came back.
• 34:24
  USBAudio1: What is it?
• 34:24
  USBAudio1: 23.
• 34:25
  USBAudio1: Plus years ago at this point.
• 34:28
  USBAudio1: It was things had changed.
• 34:30
  USBAudio1: Of course.
• 34:31
  USBAudio1: But in the time that I've been back, yeah.
• 34:33
  USBAudio1: It's 23 years is a long time.
• 34:35
  USBAudio1: It is completely a different city.
• 34:37
  USBAudio1: I don't recognize in my memory and my.
• 34:41
  USBAudio1: Head, I still can go around a corner and expect to see something I knew was there.
• 34:46
  USBAudio1: And it's no longer there sometimes.
• 34:47
  USBAudio1: The corner is no longer there.
• 34:49
  USBAudio1: Yeah, because they have melded it into a sidewalk.
• 34:52
  USBAudio1: Now these, the bike lane things.
• 34:54
  USBAudio1: So the city is very different.
• 34:56
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 34:57
  USBAudio1: But it's just, it seems sad, but I guess nothing really stays the same.
• 35:02
  USBAudio1: No, I mean, and I understand that, but I th I think for me It's the fact that we're losing.
• 35:10
  USBAudio1: Land for people to just enjoy.
• 35:13
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 35:14
  USBAudio1: You know, in New York they have central park in the middle of the city.
• 35:17
  USBAudio1: They're never going to pay, but with that, of course, they took that land.
• 35:20
  USBAudio1: Some of it from black folks.
• 35:23
  USBAudio1: But we will get into that either.
• 35:24
  USBAudio1: But the bottom line is there's a huge space for people to go, but that's the one greenspace in Manhattan.
• 35:30
  USBAudio1: I think down the other end.
• 35:32
  USBAudio1: There's something with here.
• 35:34
  USBAudio1: We have the mall.
• 35:36
  USBAudio1: So that's our green space.
• 35:37
  USBAudio1: And again, it fills up with people, but yeah.
• 35:40
  USBAudio1: I'm thinking about Morton.
• 35:41
  USBAudio1: The neighborhoods there's no more.
• 35:44
  USBAudio1: Space.
• 35:44
  USBAudio1: We here in Southwest where I live.
• 35:47
  USBAudio1: There's a, the duck pot is still there.
• 35:49
  USBAudio1: But that's not green, it's paved, but at least the pond survive.
• 35:53
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 35:53
  USBAudio1: Enough trees and they have trees.
• 35:55
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 35:56
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 35:56
  USBAudio1: At least it survived.
• 35:58
  USBAudio1: Because that could have been wiped out too.
• 36:00
  USBAudio1: Taken for space to build on.
• 36:01
  USBAudio1: They built all around it.
• 36:04
  USBAudio1: And I mean all around.
• 36:07
  USBAudio1: There was nothing there before.
• 36:08
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 36:08
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 36:09
  USBAudio1: I was like all these, it was just that one apartment building on the corner.
• 36:13
  USBAudio1: And then the townhouses up sixth street, but you know, it's really, really changed.
• 36:18
  USBAudio1: It's just a really different city and I'm sure again, wherever you might be listening from your area has changed too, but.
• 36:25
  USBAudio1: I encourage you also to find where the greenspaces are, find where nature's, because, you know, there's the hideaway here in DC hill Hillwood estates, where I go take my little self and enjoy the flowers and we've got other.
• 36:38
  USBAudio1: Another place here.
• 36:40
  USBAudio1: There's a monastery here.
• 36:42
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 36:43
  USBAudio1: I'm ne yes.
• 36:44
  USBAudio1: And I went there before and it was Quincy it's up the street from Quincy.
• 36:48
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 36:49
  USBAudio1: I was like, what?
• 36:50
  USBAudio1: In DC.
• 36:51
  USBAudio1: You would never know.
• 36:53
  USBAudio1: My grandmother used to take us there.
• 36:55
  USBAudio1: When we were kids.
• 36:56
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 36:56
  USBAudio1: So I know exactly where it is.
• 36:58
  USBAudio1: It's off, it's a Quincy street and I think the cross street is either 13th or 14th.
• 37:06
  USBAudio1: But I used to bake for the Ronald McDonald house.
• 37:10
  USBAudio1: Ronald McDonald house when it was on Quincy.
• 37:13
  USBAudio1: And it was right up the street from there.
• 37:14
  USBAudio1: And I remember, I didn't realize where I was and one day I just went up, then I'm like, oh my God.
• 37:18
  USBAudio1: You know, that that memory is like, oh wait, this is the monastery.
• 37:22
  USBAudio1: You know, so it's really beautiful, but you look around in your cities, I'm at what I'm in Sacramento.
• 37:28
  USBAudio1: We stayed in a hotel and.
• 37:31
  USBAudio1: Across the street.
• 37:32
  USBAudio1: Was this huge park.
• 37:36
  USBAudio1: It was right down from city hall.
• 37:38
  USBAudio1: It was a, and I remember spending.
• 37:42
  USBAudio1: Ours.
• 37:44
  USBAudio1: Looking at all because the trees are different there.
• 37:47
  USBAudio1: And so, you know, looking at the bark and feeling the bark on the trees and looking at the different flowers.
• 37:52
  USBAudio1: You know, again, sort of, I don't want to run off the path too far.
• 37:55
  USBAudio1: When run to that path to the park.
• 37:57
  USBAudio1: But there's what we're getting at is there's just so much to explore and you have to figure out what that is and what do you like, you know, find out what that is.
• 38:05
  USBAudio1: And we're not talking about taking chips to go shopping.
• 38:09
  USBAudio1: Yeah, we're not talking about a field trip to shop because this is really more about.
• 38:14
  USBAudio1: Your body in a different way again, physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially.
• 38:19
  USBAudio1: And did I get them all emotionally?
• 38:21
  USBAudio1: Yep.
• 38:22
  USBAudio1: So.
• 38:23
  USBAudio1: Find out what you like.
• 38:25
  USBAudio1: Go take a field trip.
• 38:26
  USBAudio1: Yup.
• 38:27
  USBAudio1: Let's try something new, whatever, just do it.
• 38:30
  USBAudio1: Or if you don't like it, then travel.
• 38:34
  USBAudio1: We can talk about travel another day, but you know, that's the thing, you know, if travel is your thing, you may say, you know what?
• 38:39
  USBAudio1: I don't need filters.
• 38:40
  USBAudio1: I travel and my feeling is, go with it because I have traveled.
• 38:43
  USBAudio1: And I love that too.
• 38:46
  USBAudio1: The most.
• 38:46
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 38:47
  USBAudio1: It is nice to go someplace.
• 38:49
  USBAudio1: And experience a different culture.
• 38:52
  USBAudio1: And land altogether.
• 38:53
  USBAudio1: That's another story.
• 38:54
  USBAudio1: That's another conversation.
• 38:55
  USBAudio1: It might be a few conversations.
• 38:58
  USBAudio1: Yeah.
• 38:58
  USBAudio1: So as we always close today, we'll get it right.
• 39:01
  USBAudio1: Generational body love is like generational wealth.
• 39:03
  USBAudio1: We must pass it on.
• 39:05
  USBAudio1: All right, bye.