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Full Purpose Living 4/7: The Ones Who Win Are the Ones Who Don't Stop #TrustYourselfThursday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: What's up?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's up, fam?
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome, welcome back to the Sweet Spot here.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is Trust Yourself Thursday here on the Sweet Spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been in an amazing series.
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  SPEAKER_00: We've been dealing with purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: This series is called Full Purpose Living.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's right, full purpose living.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we've been looking at purpose from all the various angles, and your feedback has been just amazing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm really getting it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody is tied into purpose at some level.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to start today, Trust Yourself Thursday Sweet Sparter by checking in with you, not just as your host, not just as a board-certified psychiatrist, but as your teammate, your partner here in this game of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: As someone who's been on this journey with you and in the game all week with you, how are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Really?
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  SPEAKER_00: What's up?
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  SPEAKER_00: How are you doing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because look, Thursday is the long middle of this week that always arrives.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's yeah, hump day and Wednesday and win it all Wednesday, but Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, it can be a grind.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fire from Monday is still there, but it's quieter.
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  SPEAKER_00: The map we picked up on Tuesday is still in your hand, but the path can feel longer than you expected.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wednesday's practice helped, but you woke up this morning and the work is still there, and the results might still be a bit quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And somewhere underneath all of that, a question can form for many of us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I sure about this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I gonna make it here?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is this gonna work out?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if this doesn't go right?
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  SPEAKER_00: That question is not weakness.
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  SPEAKER_00: That question is Thursday, and it's why we have Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that question doesn't need more information, more planning, or more proof.
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  SPEAKER_00: What it needs is trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why we've got Trust Yourself Thursday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you get that now?
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, and I want to sit with you just for a moment inside of trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because trust is the piece of full purpose living that many of us skip right over.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: We find the passion like we talked about on Monday, or we find the understanding like we did on Take Action Tuesday, we build the resilience like we found on Wednesday, and uh yeah, then we try to grind and grit our way through the long middle here with determination alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the thing about determination is that it can run out here on Thursday, and what doesn't run out when you build it right is trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: That doesn't run out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Determination can kind of sometimes run out, but trust, trust is something that you can always have.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust that work you're doing, trust it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust that the work you're doing matters even when it doesn't show yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trust that the person you're becoming is worth the time this whole thing is taking.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're working on something and it hasn't happened and it's sort of taking a long time, trust it, trust it, sweet spotter, trust the person you're becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's worth the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: And trust that the purpose that we named on Monday, the thing that we're passionate about that we talked about on Monday, was real, and that it's still pulling you forward, even on a day when you can't feel the pull.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some days you wake up and you don't feel the pull, and you've got to trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: That kind of trust is not passive, it's one of the most active things a human being can practice, and it is the thing that turns persistence from grinding into growing, and that's the word I want to talk to you about today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Persistence.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the key.
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  SPEAKER_00: Perseverance and persistence.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what you have to anchor your trust in, and the ancient wisdom does not back down on this.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the book of James, it says, the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let perseverance finish its work in you, so that you may be mature and complete, lacking nothing.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to hear what James is really saying here in the ancient wisdom, because it changes everything about how you relate to the long middle part of the week here.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's not saying that testing is punishment and he's not saying stay in the hard thing because suffering is noble.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What he's saying, beloved, is that the testing is the mechanism.
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  SPEAKER_00: The long middle, the quiet, uncertain days when nothing seems to confirm that you're on the right path.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is not the obstacle to full circle and to full purpose living.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the process by which full purpose living is built inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it happens when nothing is confirming it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, when it feels like zero is happening, that's the mechanism, that's the process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, the obstacle becomes the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're built during those moments of uncertainty, when you choose to move forward regardless of what you see or don't see, when you just know that you know that you know, when you've decided that you're going to be persistent and perseverant and you're not backing down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, yeah, it grows in you when you stay in the game, when you stay the course.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had a great friend, Robert Robinson.
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  SPEAKER_00: God rest his soul.
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  SPEAKER_00: What a wise and powerful friend of mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he would always tell me, stay the course.
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  SPEAKER_00: Robert was talking to me about perseverance and persistence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every day you and I choose to trust what we started, every day you show up for the purpose you named on Monday, even when the scoreboard might be quiet, you're becoming someone with the inner depth to actually live that purpose fully.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is why this matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this long middle section, this long difficult road, the time when nothing is happening for you, when you don't see results, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're still becoming someone in that moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is the way, it's not in the way, it is the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's what your brain is doing, is doing during that process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every time you return to the work when the work hasn't rewarded you yet, sweet Sparter, every time you choose to keep going based on trust rather than confirmation, your brain builds what the researchers call self-efficacy, your own internal evidence that you are capable of doing hard things over time again and again.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, self-efficacy doesn't come from success alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, no, no, it comes from watching yourself persist through certain through uncertainty, and I've seen you do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know a lot of you guys out there, and I boy are you persistent, boy do you have perseverance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, from keeping promises to yourself when no one else is watching, and when nothing external is confirming the promises that were made to you and you still keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, yeah, you have been accumulating trust inside of you, and it builds up over time, it's becoming the foundation of everything else you do, yeah, and it leads you to having a level of freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, Rumi, the poet, and you know, I quote him a lot here, he's just so awesome.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rumi said, Take someone who's not looking to be richer, take someone who's not afraid of losing, or who hasn't the slightest interest in their own personality or what happens to them in that way, they're free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take someone who doesn't keep score, who's not looking to be richer or afraid of losing, who has not the slightest interest even in their own personality, their own ego, they're free.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: About where you are right now in your full purpose journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the scoreboard hasn't moved, sometimes the recognition hasn't come.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the confirmation you've been praying and waiting for has not arrived.
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  SPEAKER_00: And every time you check the scoreboard, it's reading like zero or it's quiet, and something in you is wondering whether you should keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what Rumi is telling us with that quote?
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  SPEAKER_00: That you're not tied into the score, you're rooted in purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: When someone is so rooted in their purpose, so deeply trusting of what they're called to do, that the scoreboard stops being the measure of their worth, they keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're persistent and they persevere because they trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: They keep going because the going itself has become inseparable from who they are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll say it again.
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  SPEAKER_00: You keep going because going itself has become inseparable from who you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is what full purpose living actually looks like when it's fully grown, when it's grown up.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the way you get there is exactly where you are right now on Thursday, grinding through, choosing trust yourself Thursday over confirmation, choosing trust over confirmation, choosing to keep going before the scoreboard catches up to the work you've been putting in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every day, sweet spotter, every day, sweet building.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you make a choice, you make that choice, you move closer to the freedom Rumi is describing.
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  unknown: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nipsey Hustle had a quote.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't remember the whole thing, but the line is the marathon continues.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel those words.
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  SPEAKER_00: The marathon continues.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a sprint, it's a marathon, and you're in it to win it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, a marathon runner doesn't check the scoreboard every mile, they trust their training, they trust their body, they trust that the preparation they put in before the race, before race day, is still working.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even in the miles when the legs are heavy and the finish line is nowhere in sight.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be like a marathon runner.
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  SPEAKER_00: Know when you have to breathe to reframe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember those terms?
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: So look, you've been training all week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monday, you built your Y.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tuesday, you faced what's been in the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wednesday, you practiced what to do when the pressure hit.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was your training, and today, Thursday, the mile, the mile that gets hard is when you show how much you trust it.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your perseverance and your persistence show up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's the truth about persistence that nobody tells you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Persistence is not about how long you can grind, it's not about how much you can endure, it's not even a measure of your toughness.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what it is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Persistence is the daily practice of trusting what you cannot see.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trusting that the seeds are growing even when the ground looks the same.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trusting that the work is working even when the results are quiet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trusting that the person you're becoming, sweet builder, that the person you're becoming is worth every day of this long track we're on, this long middle section here that we're in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when you trust like that, when you root your persistence in something deeper, deeper than the results, you stop grinding and you start growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is full purpose living.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about the arrival, it's about what you're becoming.
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  SPEAKER_00: So today I want you to finish this sentence.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing I'm choosing to trust today, even without proof, is and you fill in the blank, and then go living.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monday you found the fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: Tuesday you picked up the map.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wednesday you learned what to do when the road gets hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today, trust yourself Thursday, you decide to trust the road anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: For science, for soul, and for success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Come back tomorrow to the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I trust you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe in you, and I know you're gonna finish strong with me tomorrow on Friday.