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- Podcast episode 27: Hey, it's Dexter, creator of Ruboot Player One and host at the Checkpoint. And today's question is what do happy people do differently every day? What do happy people do differently every day? Now I'd like to consider myself a happy person. And the one thing I do every day, now I don't know how differently this is, because I know of some people that do this. But every day I do a journal and part of that journal is a gratitude piece. It's actually right at the end of my journal and all it says is three things that I'm grateful for. And I fill them out. And if I fill it out truthfully, aside from just giving, you know, the default answers each day, if I really think about what makes me happy and write it in there. And it doesn't have to be an essay. It literally is just a line. Sometimes it's even a couple of words. and on occasion it's just one word. But when I fill that out, the rest of the day for me is pretty easy. It it acts as a springboard to improve my mood. If I do wake up a bit, I I don't know, left of center, and I get to that point of the morning where I'm writing this out. It it get my it gets my my mood elevated because I have to think, well, what am I grateful for? Is it the family? Is it my life? Is it my situation? Is it the opportunities I have? Is it spirituality? Is it my guides? is it numerology? Is it spirituality? Is it my dog? Is it my family? Is it my friends? Is it the fact that I'm doing something that I enjoy? Is it my work? Is it the clients that I've had for some close to 20 years? Is it the run that I just went on? Is it the weather that is really good? Is it the new shoes that I bought in order to do this run? Is it the time that I just ran because it's really fast? There are just so many things that I can fill in. And and in doing that, it does actually give me it gives me a boost to my to my mood. Makes me happy. And on top of that, it acts as a bit of a fail safe, a backstop. It it It's almost like a I I I pin these comments in a imaginary pinboard in my head. And whenever I I get into a weird mood during the day, let's just say that, you know, I might get jealous of somebody because of posted something on Instagram or whatever, or something happens and I'm having to spend money for something that I wasn't expecting, or a client does something that I didn't agree with, you know, just something that knocks my happiness. a little bit out the way that I could fall back on those things. Fall back on the things that I wrote in that morning. And it it kind of puts me back into the right state. That's definitely one thing that I do. what else do I do that is different from everybody else? At least that keeps me happy. I talk to people every day. I chat to them. I send them messages. I tell my kids I love them. I I reach out to friends that I might not have spoken to in a while. I speak to friends that I do all the time. It it helps. And I'm honest with them. If I'm having a bad day, I'll tell them. If I'm having a great day, I'll tell them. If I need help, I'll tell There's a a sense of ease and of flow and of not so much looking for help or a handout or a solution. It's just acknowledgement that, you know, I'm having a bit of a weird day. Sometimes I might come back with some advice, sometimes I'll come back with a meme, sometimes a joke. And and that kind of keeps me happy as well. And the thought of that, of knowing that I have some really good friends, some good family that I can tap on the shoulder and just say, Hey, you know, things are pretty average around here. And for them coming back to to lift my spirits. Sometimes it it's in a way that is meaningful, other other times it's like abuse in the form of love, which I know that some people do that. And and I kind of dig that too because that's just who they are, and it makes me love them even more. So that's a lot of fun. I I do this. I am a person that likes to talk to themselves and try and articulate the thoughts of my head into words because I can talk about them and I can listen to them and I can analyze them in a bit of a weird way. And I find that I do that pretty regularly if I'm feeling a bit down. And I'm not saying I'm down all the time, but it's just one of the avenues that I can exercise if I am feeling in a particular weird way. So I always find that that helps. I guess that's the equivalent of of talking to people as well. But sometimes there are things that are best said alone. You know, you can get into particular detail or you can draw on a specific type of information that can be shown when you're doing this sort of stuff. So I do that as well. What else would I do? I I spend a lot of time with my thoughts as well. I recorded a video earlier about going in a And spending time and looking in the mirror, I find that the more I do that, the more I learn to, and you know, it it is kind of cliche to say this, but I get to learn to love myself a bit more because I get to see who I am. And if I'm not happy with the way that I'm showing up to other people and to myself, I can I can change it or I can work towards changing it. I can study the the ways in which I might come across to people and I've done that multiple times where, you know, I've had a conversation with a person and in the heat of the moment, like I said what I said, not really without thought. It was a knee jerk. It was it was a debate of sorts, you know, and I've had to think about it and realize that I that I was wrong. And I've spoken to the person, I said, look, I'm I'm sorry for what I said, I didn't mean it. It was it came out like this. And the times that I've done it, I've found that for the people that I've done it for, or had it with, I guess, it's it's improved friendships and subsequent, you know, conversations a lot more open and honest. So that makes me happy as well, is being able to look in and critique myself at a level that isn't abusive, where I can say to myself, I need to work on this part of me. I need to basically maybe dial down that bit. I need to listen more. I need to allow people to express themselves. I need to, you know, stop cutting them mid sentence. I need to make sure I listen to them first before I, you know, reply and jump in. I need to make sure that I also take into account what they're saying and not just bombard them with my opinions. So that allows me to to operate in a way that I'm happy with. And when I'm aware of those times where the old decks may have jumped the gun and I've corrected myself and after the fact I've been able to think about it. That makes me happy. And the more that I do it, the less I've had to really go back and assess because I've done so much work that it's it's almost becoming automatic now. Look, there's still times when depending on what's being discussed and and you know how many other times things have been repeated and the you know them not changing or me not changing, you know, it's still gonna happen, but it's much less and less now. So that definitely makes me happy. what else? exercise. Absolutely. You know, there's something about emptying the tank, so to speak, running, doing weights, like a hard yoga session. Th there's something to be said about doing that and having a sense of clarity after it. I don't know if it's for everyone. I know it is for me. I know that I could start a run with a a busy head, a lot of thoughts going through my mind and and and sort of not really wanting to go for the run, but at the same time not really knowing which way I should pick on a particular, you know, question or situation. And I'll go for the run. Sometimes the thoughts come in and sometimes I'm listening to things and sometimes I might be not listening to anything at all. But you know, there'll be times when there'll be nothing in my head during the run. And the way back, after the run, after I finished, there is some clarity there. A little bit more clarity. There's obviously some energy that's been expelled. And I think that tends to calm me down physically and mentally. I'm trying to recover, I'm trying to get oxygen, my muscles are resting, including my brain. My brain's just like, okay, let's just take everything easy now. And let's see what what we can do now based off this state. So exercise keeps me happy. Strangely. And even though I know that the internal conflicts that I have on going for a run every morning is the same thing. But that's part of life and that's fun. So those are some of the things that that I do differently. I wouldn't say it it's differently from other people. I know lots of people do the same thing. I meditate in the mornings, I do journaling, I you know I exercise in the morning and I think a lot of that sets me up for a good day. Not saying it sets me up for a happy day, but it just sets me up for a good day. And if things happen during the day that tend to knock me around a bit, I already have a good base to start with. And I've got some tools in place to kind of bring me back, bring me back to Zen. So that's it from me. and I answer questions like these every Wednesday online. With a really cool group of friends. And if you'd like to be part of it, drop me a comment. That comment being catch up. If you do that, I'll send you the link and you can answer these questions too. That's it for me. I'm Dex from Reboot Player One and the checkpoint, and I will see you on the next question. Thank you.