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When Your Boyfriend Won't Go Down On You · The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

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  Hi everybody, and welcome to the dr.
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  Psych mom show, today, I'm going to be talking about why you
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  should really not marry a man who won't go down on you with
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  certain restrictions. Of course, obviously every
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  situation is different. Most situations are not very
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  different than this, but by which, I mean, that my advice
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  will not usually very from that. Not that most guys won't go down
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  on you because as I will discuss, most guys will go down
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  on you but there are Certainly variations on a theme and women
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  who think differently etcetera. So I will cover that as much as
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  possible within my basically 15 to 20 minutes of talking before
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  that please do subscribe. Most recently, I discussed when
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  men do not like what their wives where and all the reasons I
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  mean, it's a cigar is never just a cigar as Freud said, right?
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  Or rarely. And so, usually, this indicates
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  larger issues at play in the marriage.
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  The Sex life, Etc. All right, so I did a video on
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  do, marry a man who won't go down on you and after everybody
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  got done yelling at me, who didn't look at the second video,
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  which was Stone LED. Do marry a woman who won't go
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  down on you because I mean, that's I think the same thing
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  but like, you know, everybody comes out of the woodwork they
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  don't even look at the other videos that are like, you just,
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  you know, ours have such a double standard, you know, the
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  feminist, blah, blah blah, blah blah anyway so no neither
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  person. They should marry somebody who
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  won't go down on you but, and if you want, I'll discuss that in
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  this one, too. Just for the hell of it.
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  Although, it's different, everything isn't the same for
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  both genders. So, you know, if you get your
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  your, if you have extra time, you can always read my post.
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  Why? I don't only give gender-neutral
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  advice which applies to this, as well as any other situation
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  where people are getting all hysterical about that.
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  I don't say exactly the same thing for men and women.
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  So, so why should you not Marry a man who won't go down any
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  first of all? I'm going to assume you're a
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  woman who likes a guy going down on.
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  You, are you maybe sighing favorite thing?
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  I talked about this in the man going down on women podcast.
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  But within the honeymoon stage, you would like somebody who
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  would go down on you at least sometimes fine.
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  Don't marry a man who won't do this?
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  It is if you want it. Why in the hell would you marry
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  a man? Who won't do it?
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  I mean, I know why and I have empathy for that situation which
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  is low self-esteem and a tendency to put your head in the
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  sand about problems and about red flags.
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  You saw probably a very selfish man growing up.
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  You don't have Great Hopes And expectations about men in
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  general. So you're one of the women who
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  was trained by usually a mother that if a man doesn't beat you
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  and doesn't drink, then he's a good man.
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  And be happy with what you get, because men usually suck.
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  So many women who have had very bad experiences with men.
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  Train the dog, their daughters this way, because they love them
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  and they honestly want to protect them and they want they
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  know that the girls going to want a family and unfortunately
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  that has to be with a man and men have these limitations from
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  the mothers perspective and she wants the girl to at least not
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  get into a situation where she is getting abused.
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  So after that, really anything is fair play because men are
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  dogs And that's what the woman thinks.
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  And that's how she trains her daughter many, many, many women
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  are in this situation. So, and also, there are men, of
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  course that are in the situation where a man thinks that women
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  are terrible and demeans the boy's mother and he grows up
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  thinking that women suck. So, I mean, you know what's good
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  for the goose, Etc. Both of these people are in
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  terrible situations that mean that they are going to have
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  difficulty with relationships later on.
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  So, in this specific case, what the woman thinks, she doesn't
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  really seem to understand that most men, Would love to go down
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  on a woman like three times a day, you know, like the minimum
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  and it would end. This is like what the majority
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  of men according to research. I did a video that.
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  So I remember the statistic, I don't remember.
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  The statistic was like over like 95% of men or something like
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  going down on women. So if you keep finding the ones
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  who don't, that's got to say more about you, you're the
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  common denominator. There you are drawn to more
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  selfish and rigid men and or Lola.
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  Do men because those are the three kind of men that don't
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  like to do it selfish, rigid and low libido.
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  So low libido or very high. Well, low libido goes with like
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  squeamishness. So also do marry a man that
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  needs you to shower before sex if he wants to shower because
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  he's you know, anxious that you won't find him as appealing,
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  fine. Let him shower.
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  It's an anxiety issue more than anything, or maybe you even like
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  when he showers all right fine. But if he needs you to shower
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  because like, he doesn't like your natural smell, No.
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  I mean first of all this research indicating that he's
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  supposed to like your natural smell on a pheromone level, that
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  indicates your compatible. Also it goes along with
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  squeamishness and being grossed out.
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  You need a man who's grossed out by your body.
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  I mean that is just a situation that sets you up to feel bad.
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  Like all the time women who are in low libido, Matt marriages
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  with low libido men and I talked about this in an earlier podcast
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  very early in season 11 of my first few podcasts.
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  About when women have a higher sex drive in their husband, they
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  feel honestly even worse than the men do in that situation
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  because their situation is unusual.
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  It's less usual. So, it's about a third of the
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  couples that I see. The woman has a higher libido,
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  but I don't think that that's, I think that's higher, probably
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  than it is in the normal population because it, you know,
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  I'm a therapist I see people with problems, right?
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  So, usually, it's not an every situation, obviously, as you
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  could tell from It being a third of the couple's, I see in there
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  being books about it, like the sex-starved wife by Michelle
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  wine or Davis, which I recommend.
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  But anyway, there are these situations, of course, where
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  women want more sex than the husband.
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  Don't get into them, it's Amanda's.
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  And like, to go down on you. It's basically, like he's
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  wearing a t-shirt saying I will have a low libido and be
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  difficult and or self-centered and or rigid after marriage and
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  probably I already am. It would be a lot of words on
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  the t-shirt and you're ignoring it because of your own issues
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  that you didn't go to therapy for So, if a man doesn't like to
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  go down and you basically give him one more try, I don't know.
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  Maybe had a sinus infection. Maybe the guy can't breathe out
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  of his nose. I don't really know, but a man
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  should want to eat you up. He should love you so much that
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  he just wants to devour. You should be so attracted to
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  you. So I talked about this in my
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  podcast, like a man needs to think his wife is really hot for
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  things to work. So there are there must be in
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  the world I guess some men that think their wife is really hot.
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  That won't go down on them because they just have Low
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  libido, but if they have a low libido, do they really think the
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  wife is really hot? It's like a philosophical
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  question. Like the tree dropping in the
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  forest, right? You know, if no one's there to
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  hear it. So, do you like hot indicates
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  like this sexual piece to it? A man could think his wife is
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  pretty or beautiful and not want to go down on her, but he's not
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  going to think she's hot and not want to go down on her, I don't
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  even know if he has the capability to think.
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  Any woman is hot in that way, if he He's like, grossed out by
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  bodily functions. He's not probably a guy that
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  like, goes around, you know, having like a strong Primal sex
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  drive and if you are a woman with a healthy libido, holy
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  shit. Like this is, this is Baseline
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  to get a low libido, man. It's like you gotta go through
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  like a hundred men to find a little bead.
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  Oh man, you know, especially like in the honeymoon stage.
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  So it's it's also, you know, it's almost hard to find these
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  men. So Then if you are finding them,
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  make sure that you get rid of them because you don't need to
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  be in this situation. It's not like you're looking for
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  like a man who's like, I don't know what, you know, like makes
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  a million dollars a year and he's over six feet tall and he
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  is a thriving, you know, business and he has a Porsche
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  that's not what you're looking for.
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  You're literally looking for a man that wants to eat.
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  Pussy. I mean, like, you know, it's
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  hard to find one that doesn't so it's very, very difficult to
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  see. Why besides extreme low
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  self-esteem and this negative view about men, a woman would
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  put up with this, he can't love you enough to compensate for not
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  loving sex and your body. If you are a woman with an
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  average to high libido, now, now there's always corollaries if
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  you are a woman with a low libido and you really know
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  yourself, it's like your second marriage.
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  A lot of my people are a fellow second marriage, people, or
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  really are dating, before a second marriage.
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  I got a lot of those. You know, that follow me because
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  I'm wonderful and also, because I was divorced and remarried
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  happily. So, the, you know, I get people
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  who was interesting, you know, since y'all seem to, like, when
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  I go on my tangents, I've heard that, I don't know why, but
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  that's good because I will do that anyway.
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  Irrespective of, if you like it, but it's, I had thought that
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  people would actually that it might, my business might take a
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  hit from divorcing and it's been the opposite.
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  It's like really shows how the people are pretty smart.
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  From my perspective, it gives me a lot of faith in humanity
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  because a lot of people specifically want somebody who's
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  been through an experience, where a marriage didn't work out
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  because that person they feel can understand them better.
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  Then couples therapist, whose marriage didn't work out.
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  And it's interesting to think about it because it's really
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  true based on what I've seen myself because there are people
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  that just like by luck, they meet the right person, it's kind
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  of like with your kids, right? You Know yourself, if you have
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  multiple kids, there's one of those kids that you have, that's
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  so good and easy. Just so easy to deal with that.
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  If that had been your only child, you would think you were
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  fucking awesome parent. Oh my God, that you should teach
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  parenting classes. But then, you have the other
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  couple of kids, you know? And then you're like, oh, I
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  guess I'm just an average parent, you know, we all have
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  our problems because, you know, this kid doesn't behave, this
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  kid, doesn't listen, this kid doesn't do homework, whatever
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  the case may be, right? Or they are upset all the time.
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  There. You know, have have this problem
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  or that problem especially if they get into teenage years,
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  kids have all these kind of issues.
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  And at that point, you know, most people get kind of humble
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  about their parenting. Unless they lucked out with this
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  perfect calm, even temperament child, and then they overstate
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  the case, I omit must be due to my parents, you know, really you
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  lucked out, you know, to have a child.
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  That's so easy. That's usually a temperamental
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  Factor parents. It can help but a calm
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  temperament is a calm temperament It so and an
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  obedient sort of child's. No, begin sort of child.
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  So, anyway, the case is, is very similar for.
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  If you've been a couples therapist, you could have lucked
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  out in one marriage, you never know, you know, so you could
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  have lucked out in one marriage. We don't know if that person has
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  had any marital problems. So it's interesting because I
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  myself if I were going to like see a therapist, a couples
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  therapist I when I think about it would want somebody who had,
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  I why I knew had experienced a marital problem.
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  So it's very interesting to think about That way and that
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  had absolutely nothing to do with this.
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  But back to the topic at hand, this is a free podcast this
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  episode. So I feel like I should talk
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  about what I want, you know, but the point being, you cannot
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  understand what it would be like to be somebody in a different
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  situation. If you've never been in that
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  situation, that was basically I think my point, maybe it wasn't,
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  but it sounds good now. So if you've only been with, Old
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  self centered men, who have some kind of problem with you and
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  your body and your sexuality and your vagina and whatever else.
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  You can't picture, what it would be like to be with Joe average
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  who loves vaginas because he's like, just a normal dude that
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  just loves a vagina. And so you need to get out of
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  the situations where a man has any problems with your body and
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  you need to go into the situation where a man does not.
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  I think also I was talking about, there are women with very
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  low libido. Yeah.
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  Hear that. Well, that was a really good
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  one. That I came up with on the spot
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  to get back to to to make it seem like that example had a
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  point. But now I remember the actual
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  point, which was people know themselves after their first
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  marriage, they know themselves a hell of a lot better than they
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  ever did. And I was talking about that's
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  why people follow me after their divorce, But but so there's a
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  lot of women who are, like, listen, I'm really just not that
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  sexual. I'm really not a listen to dr.
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  Psych mom, she talks about a man wants to devour you.
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  And I'm like, holy shit. I don't want that.
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  Get that away from me. I want a nice.
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  Mannion, I want somebody to travel with, I want somebody to
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  go to restaurants with my first marriage ended because my
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  husband was always begging me for sex.
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  I don't ever want that much fucking sex.
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  So if that is, you then go. You are the one who's looking
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  for the needle in the haystack of the man who doesn't want to
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  go down on you. You are the one who is looking
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  for the man who doesn't care if you orgasm or not and doesn't
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  really care for you orgasms or not.
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  And you should probably if this is you and you're like my God
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  this is me and some women are then you should date older.
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  Because I'll tell you get out of your marriage, your mid-30s,
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  your mid-40s, go 10 15, 20 years older.
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  There's a natural decrement and testosterone.
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  And those guys have a lot more time to.
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  So they don't want to have as much sex and they want to go
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  travel and see the world and go to dinner.
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  So, a lot of women with low sex drives really do, go for these
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  older men purpose because they don't have the sex drive of a
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  younger man that couldn't possibly have sex twice a day.
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  They don't even remember back when they could do that.
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  And yet any guy, Guy. That is a divorced man.
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  In his mid 30s, mid 40s. Well, when they're back out on
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  the market they want to have sex like 10 times a day if they can
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  so and and by the way, any guy wants have six ten times a day
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  he probably wants to go down on you the 20 times a day to.
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  So the point is here, it's hard to find a man that won't go down
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  on you. If you've managed to find one of
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  them throw him right back into the dating pool because he can
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  swim around and find the low libido woman.
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  If you are not a little to be do, woman do not get rid of Of
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  your ability to feel desired by a man.
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  And this correlates very much with feeling desired by a man,
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  you have to know that they want you.
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  They want your body, they want to have sex with you, right
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  after you go to the gym, they want to have sex with you in the
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  morning. They want to sex with you in the
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  evening. They don't need any, any
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  showering. They don't need any anything,
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  they just want to eat you up. If that sounds appealing to you,
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  there are many men who just want to eat you up in every way that
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  you can imagine. Now, since the men are listening
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  for about the women who won't go down on them, Don't marry a
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  woman who won't go down on you. Oh my God, would you be able to
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  save money long term on couples counseling?
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  Holy shit. If you just, wait it out, not
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  marrying the woman who won't give you head?
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  Of course, you shouldn't do this.
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  Now the difference is that women?
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  Sex drive, you could say it with me, drops precipitously during
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  monogamy in a way after the honeymoon, stage after that, one
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  and a half to three years and particularly after kids with
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  age, perimenopause etc, etc. Women have higher rates of
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  depression and Xiety they go on birth control.
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  They do all sorts of shit. Their bodies.
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  Do not aren't the same after childbirth.
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  All sorts of shit happened to women.
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  Men can't predict it. They can if they listen to me
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  about and I have a podcast on 10 signs that your spouse will stop
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  liking sex after marriage and kids, who you can do it more,
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  you can predict it more than you think and get a woman with a
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  physical touch, love language. But there are more women that go
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  down on the guy before marriage and don't like it later.
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  Later on in marriage, then men in that situation.
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  Men, sex drive does not drop the same way.
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  So if he doesn't like going down on you before marriage, he is he
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  never gonna like going down on you and if she doesn't like
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  going down on you before marriage she's never gonna like
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  going down on you but then there's these other two options
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  the woman who does and the man who does and out of those the
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  man who does like going down on you before marriage will always
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  like going down on you after marriage and last time I mean he
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  ages he gets like a low testosterone.
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  Depress something like that. But you know in general, the sex
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  drive doesn't go down the same way.
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  But for the women it does. So there were more men that are
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  in a situation where they remember getting blowjobs and
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  now they don't get them anymore, then women in that situation.
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  Now let's just be real here. Before we blame women too much.
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  There are always signs and I'm not blaming the man because he's
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  a young guy with the fuck does he know he hasn't listened to my
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  podcast yet. It really only came out in
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  January, although we could have been reading my stuff since 2014
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  but probably was Isn't so the point is here, the man can have
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  signed. So here's the sign, she doesn't
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  ever initiate really going down on you.
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  If she does, she's proud of herself as though.
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  She just, you know, Ada Cricket or something like, you know, on
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  a Survivor show. She does it for like things like
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  your birthday but not usually, she doesn't swallow.
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  This is very big. If she doesn't swallow before
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  marriage, the whole penis is going to be disgusting to her
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  after marriage. She needs you to shower like
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  three. Today or honestly even just
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  right before sex every single time I brush your teeth and
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  floss and put on cologne and like you know, I don't even know
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  what put on a hazmat suit. She's squeamish.
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  I mean, this is like stuff. I've talked about in Greater
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  detail in the literal podcasts and post on 10 signs.
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  Your wife will stop liking marriage after kids.
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  But if she goes down on you but it's cursory.
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  If she doesn't love it, she gotta love it during the
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  honeymoon stage for her to even do it after the honeymoon stage.
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  So if she's just doing it for you and to be a pal, During the
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  honeymoon stage. She's not going to do it after
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  the honeymoon stage. So then why cut yourself off
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  from it? A man wants a woman who wants to
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  eat him up? Also, you know, and all the ways
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  and while her sex drive will go down after marriage, it doesn't
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  have to die after marriage. If you think about it that
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  you're trying to get a high sex drive woman and of course since
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  today I'm talking about all sorts of extra things, many men
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  than have to get out of their own head about having a woman
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  who is basically somewhat close to a virgin before.
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  That her more never liked sex until him cause then she ain't
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  ever going to like, sex after the honeymoon stage with him.
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  Because she's not a person who likes sex.
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  She doesn't have a sexual identity.
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  She's not one of the many girls who were reading Cosmo articles
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  on how to give a better, blow job.
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  She's one of the girls that was reading some other magazine you
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  know that was not about that. And so you got an and of course
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  why two guys then stay with a woman who has a low sex drive
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  even in the honeymoon. Stage because they don't think
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  they can get somebody else. And I talked about this, a lot
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  in the gentleman eunuch podcast, so between the tendency to put a
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  woman on a pedestal there in the honeymoon stage.
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  They are, they don't understand that their romantic feelings
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  will drop as the woman sex drive drops after a honeymoon stage,
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  the man's tendency to romantically idealize, the woman
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  drops, and at that point, all you got is, you know, nice woman
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  who you're raising kids with that won't have sex with you.
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  This is not too romantic. So, with that first you like, oh
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  my God, she's so Lovely. She's such a paragon of beauty
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  and virtue. It's okay that she looks at my
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  penis with disgust and she manages to put it in her mouth
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  for 1.5 seconds. It will get better after
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  marriage and of course, look at how beautiful and radiant she
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  looks. Yeah, okay.
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  It's not going to be like that after marriage, right?
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  Then it's just going to be like, we're going to be banging your
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  head into the wall thinking. Why did I not see it as a sign?
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  When she would say, to me, things like oh we can't have
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  sex, two days in a row. We can have sex two weeks in a
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  row Oleg. Yeah, let's go on the many, many
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  vacations to my family. Where we know that we can't have
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  sex because we're going to be in different rooms or sleeping on
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  the floor. Oh yeah, it's my period.
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  I know is my period. Last week.
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  I have a really long period and I'm certainly not talking about
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  women that unfortunately had very long periods.
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  I'm talking about the ones, we can't do it the week before and
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  then you can hardly do it the week.
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  After they somehow Miss telling you, it it ends, you know, so
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  they can get some extra days on both.
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  So if you've been ignoring these signs in a woman that you're
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  dating, don't ignore them. Nobody deserves to be.
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  If they are a high libido person who value sex, you don't deserve
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  to be with somebody who doesn't want to do, pretty core aspect
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  of what you want to do. Really, you know, it's the truth
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  and so people don't like the truth sometimes but the truth is
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  that you can usually almost 95 five percent of the time tell
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  what the sex life is going to be like after marriage from what
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  it's like before marriage. The woman could have been having
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  more sex with you. I'm sure she was but she wasn't
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  as into it as like you would have liked even then in the
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  great majority of cases that I see and of course libido drops
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  obviously it drops but people don't really deaf change their
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  love language super much. So a woman that was like more
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  cuddly, more loving, more kissy and Tai Chi, that brought up
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  fantasies that. Initiated sex does not usually
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  drop to nothing unless of course you did something terrible to
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  her or She's suffering from terrible depression or she's
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  literally fucking nursing a baby or she went through menopause
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  and which case even very highly sexual women can go down to
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  nothing just as a man who's very high libido can go down to
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  nothing of his testosterone goes away.
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  So anyway, we covered a lot here today and there are a lot of
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  which I assume was irrelevant to the main topic but relevant to
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  your larger life which is what I try to do.
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  I try to look at this as a holistic sort of exercise.
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  And please do, subscribe. Join my Facebook group if you
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  like talking about these topics because quite honestly, the
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  people in my group are very interesting and like talking
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  about these topics and we do not only talk about sex if that's
• 22:15
  why you're not joining. We talk about all relationships,
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  family, parenting, Etc issues. All right, y'all talk to you
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  soon. Bye bye.