Latest / The STA Clinician Podcast / Ep.286 'Communication Skills For MSK Clinicians Part 3: Explaining Diagnoses' with guest Ben Whybrow
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- 0:00You're listening to the STA Clinician Podcast, connecting clinicians across healthcare.
- 0:16Evening and really how you doing? Welcome to episode 286 of the STA Clinician
- 0:21Podcast, formerly known as the Sports Therapy Association Podcast.
- 0:24My name is Matt Phillips.
- 0:26I'm creator of runchecklive.com. And as always, this episode is being recorded
- 0:29live on the Sports Therapy Association YouTube channel and Facebook page at
- 0:34eight o'clock UK time on a Tuesday.
- 0:37So we arrive at part three of the focus this month on communication skills for
- 0:42MSK clinicians in an episode entitled Explaining Diagnoses.
- 0:47Very shortly, I will be joined by Ben Wybrow, who is clinical communication
- 0:53skills facilitator at Norwich Medical School, specialist physiotherapist in
- 0:57an NHS pain clinic, and also host of the Excellent Clinical Communication Podcast.
- 1:02It's not called the Excellent Clinical Communication Podcast,
- 1:05it's just called the Clinical Communication Podcast, just in case you're Googling
- 1:08that now. And I do wholeheartedly recommend it.
- 1:11Ben's going to be diving very shortly into the art and science of explaining
- 1:14diagnoses clearly, confidently, and compassionately, exploring key skills for you, the MSK clinician.
- 1:21Before that, I must, as always, give a huge thanks to my guest in part two last
- 1:26week, which was entitled Awkward Conversations with Richard Shorter,
- 1:30who's an expert in sports, parenting and business leadership conversations.
- 1:35Richard is the founder of nonperfectdad.co.uk.
- 1:38Amazing website and Instagram feed. I really encourage you to listen to it if
- 1:41you're into communication. Not if only you're a dad, but if you're a dad as
- 1:44well, it's going to be extra meaningful.
- 1:47And yeah, Richard supports organizations and parents in enabling them to work
- 1:49effectively together for the best outcomes of the children.
- 1:53And in the episode, Richard provides some fantastic tips on how to deal with
- 1:56the awkward conversations that can arise during clinical consultations in which
- 2:00children and young athletes are accompanied by their parents or carers.
- 2:04The episode explores the power of asking permission, fencing the conversation,
- 2:08using whiteboards, card prompts, even think lollipops are mentioned at one time,
- 2:11not for the kid, for the adults, and de-escalation techniques to help keep the
- 2:15child at the center of care, which is what it's all about.
- 2:18Available as always on YouTube and all popular podcast apps.
- 2:22And if you do watch it and enjoy it, do please leave a rating and a review just
- 2:25to help it reach more people.
- 2:27Which is what this show is all about. Right then, back to tonight's episode,
- 2:32explaining diagnoses with my special guest, Ben Wybrow. Let's bring him up.
- 2:41Hey Ben, how are you doing? I'm all right. Thank you, Matt. How are you? I'm very well.
- 2:45Thank you. Thank you very much for coming back. Not your first time on the show.
- 2:47Really appreciate it. But I'm just, Matt, I'm always grateful to spend a Thursday,
- 2:50no, not even Thursday, I'm a Tuesday.
- 2:52I'm getting ahead of myself. Tuesday evening with you.
- 2:56Yeah, very happy to speak to you. Thank you very much. Yeah,
- 2:59actually, I'm going to say it first of all.
- 3:00I'm really excited because you're coming to Therapy Expert this year,
- 3:02aren't you? Yes. Or Therapy Show.
- 3:05Yes, Therapy Show now. I owe you a great deal of gratitude for some recommendation.
- 3:13And what can I say? Very excited. This is my first time, full disclosure.
- 3:17Looking forward to the change, I think. There's big things coming this year, from my understanding.
- 3:23Tell me how it's going to look. Looking forward to all the people meeting them
- 3:26coming. And yeah, I've got to do two talks in one day, which I don't know why
- 3:30I decided to do that, but there we go.
- 3:33It'll be good. Really good. It's going to be, and I don't mean it's a sick or
- 3:37frantic way or anything, but it's going to be all the better for having you
- 3:40there and your calm, dulcet tone just grace the floor.
- 3:42Have you mentioned already what you're going to be doing? Yes,
- 3:44you have been signed up for two.
- 3:45Just to let people know, the listener is up on the screen. If you join us on
- 3:48YouTube, then you can see, well, you can kind of see what's on there.
- 3:51But you're going to be there on day one.
- 3:54Yes. Which is the 25th of November, 2026. at 10.30 in the clinical skills lab
- 3:58with how to make rehab plans that start and last.
- 4:03I did this with Ben Cormack and he was writing it down because he had no idea
- 4:06what he was doing. So he said, thanks, Matt. This is the first I've heard of
- 4:08it. So I'm sure you know already exactly what you're doing.
- 4:11And then on the same day, 3.30, get a bit of a break. We're going to be back
- 4:14in theater A for chronic widespread pain, determining differential diagnosis
- 4:20without the guesswork. Yeah.
- 4:23Liam lit up when I offered him that and said, this is this new exciting thing.
- 4:28And yes I've never seen someone go oh so much so yes that's that's the new thing
- 4:33I'm sure there's been talks about I think you may have even done them talks
- 4:36about behavior change in the past,
- 4:38so well be in the morning but yeah the new what is it chronic widespread pain
- 4:42differential diagnosis guide that's out this year then more in depth in the
- 4:47afternoon hopefully in a more exciting way than maybe other pain talks will
- 4:52be in the past we can make it more interactive etc
- 4:55so yeah i'm very excited that's really cool and
- 4:58it's nice a shout out to liam oh my
- 5:01god his surname's gone for me now oh liam liam
- 5:05liam richardson um who's the
- 5:08content manager who's back this year after a little bit of an absence hiatus
- 5:12of working behind the scenes yeah he's back so it's really cool i have been
- 5:15going on him for years to get you along and you're in so it's all good right
- 5:19then so i'm explaining diagnoses i'm interested what because we had a little
- 5:25chow offline and said, we're talking about communication, which is your bag.
- 5:27And I love everything you do on the podcast and what you share.
- 5:32And what in particular, we could have talked about anything,
- 5:34but what made you think, what about explaining diagnoses, Matt?
- 5:38Well, I think the first thing was you had multiple people coming on to talk
- 5:41about behavior change this month. So we thought, let's not go with that topic.
- 5:45I think it's something we take for granted, right? We just often assume,
- 5:50oh, I'll just tell them and then that's it.
- 5:54And in reality, And as not just you and I, but other people have touched on
- 5:58in the past, it can be a lot more complicated than that.
- 6:03There's various things that can influence how much is taken in,
- 6:06how it's interpreted, how someone feels about it.
- 6:11It's like reassurance. We are getting reassumed about reassurance when actually
- 6:14it's a lot more complicated than that.
- 6:16And when we're trying to give bad news, we assume we just give it and it's again more complicated.
- 6:20So I was thinking, what's something easy that we could get our teeth into in
- 6:25an hour that hopefully gives people simple suggestions that they could then
- 6:30do tomorrow with anyone they see.
- 6:33I'm not talking about any specific joints tonight or any specific pathologies.
- 6:37This could be with everyone you see tomorrow. Hopefully, there'll be something
- 6:40you can take from tonight.
- 6:42That's great. And that's actually, that's a nice segue into what I was going
- 6:44to say, actually, because we've talked about,
- 6:47although this podcast is for all healthcare professionals, which is why we changed
- 6:51the name into the STA Clinician Podcast, there will be some people who will
- 6:56be saying, but I'm not allowed to give a diagnosis.
- 6:58I don't know how familiar you are with the fact, but it's a weird one.
- 7:01Technically according to what literature you read if you're
- 7:04not an allied health professional then you shouldn't be using the
- 7:06word diagnosis or diagnoses there was
- 7:09a there was a talk about this therapy show last year
- 7:12because some people would argue that's ridiculous it's a
- 7:15working diagnosis it's not the same as where you go to a medical diagnosis where
- 7:19the doctor says yes you've got this and so as a sports therapist although you're
- 7:23not a an allied health professional if you are kind of level four or above then
- 7:27you should be able to use the word diagnosis but in this case It's just to clarify
- 7:31when you do talk about diagnoses,
- 7:33that's not necessarily something really serious, is it? You could be talking about anything.
- 7:37Give me an example of what we could cover.
- 7:40Well, I was thinking about this earlier. It could be very specific.
- 7:43So you could be talking about a Achilles tendinopathy, right?
- 7:47You're saying, I think this tissue is, and whatever's happened in their story,
- 7:50which we'll come to, but I think that tissue is the issue, calling that.
- 7:55Or you could be vague and you could be talking about just back pain or neck
- 7:59pain. And that's, again, we know is influenced by various things and that's
- 8:03not as specific to one direct tissue.
- 8:05You know, there's certain conditions that you are saying from a medical perspective,
- 8:10you have this label of MS or diabetes or there's a specific pathology.
- 8:17But that being said, there's also tons of diagnoses out there with specific
- 8:21terms, or it is vague, right?
- 8:24Obviously, in pain service, we see lots of fibromyalgia or hypermobility-related stuff.
- 8:30You know, it's a term, but symptoms are different for each individual.
- 8:35You could apply that across the board for other range of conditions for mental health stuff as well.
- 8:41So I don't know what the actual definition of diagnosis is, to be fair.
- 8:45But it is broad and i
- 8:49think people listen to this whether you're making it or
- 8:52you may be more likely seeing someone where
- 8:55they've already got a certain diagnosis but then they've just been given this
- 9:00handout or paperwork and said you got this go and see this person well that
- 9:06was it and they may want to know more so it's a it's a it's very vague as a
- 9:12term i think I don't know all the rules and regulations,
- 9:15but I would have no problem if I sent a family member to see a sports therapist
- 9:20or someone and they said about a certain diagnosis,
- 9:24providing I thought, well, that's
- 9:25probably within their scope if it's musculoskeletal, then yeah, why not?
- 9:30That's great. Good. So hopefully that's clarified anybody who's thinking this has not to do with me.
- 9:34It could be like you say. I love the way, I must admit, inside I celebrated
- 9:38when you have got a huge amount of experience working with pain and you're a
- 9:42specialist physiotherapist in NHS Pain Clinic.
- 9:45And yet we've got you in tape now saying the issue is in the tissue,
- 9:48which I think is fantastic.
- 9:51I've got a great sound bite there. I'm always looking up in that.
- 9:56Knowing you, I'm sending that straight to Bonnie and Mark. But knowing you,
- 10:00I think that's part of you, is it?
- 10:01You are not as fixed into boxes and categories.
- 10:06You're more a case of, hold on, who's in front of me? Then I'll decide what
- 10:09language I'm going to use. Yeah.
- 10:11I mean, we have to be very careful with, obviously everyone talks about terms
- 10:17and not want to be nocebic and using the scary terms and all that stuff.
- 10:21And it used to be back in the day, we'd all have these patients
- 10:24where they've been told they have the degenerative box or torn
- 10:28this or wear and tear that and that was it and there was all very nocebic and
- 10:32doom and gloom and then over the years we have quite trying to normalize all
- 10:37that stuff you know paint a more biopsychosocial picture etc interestingly there
- 10:43is i think there is a middle ground and there's always going to be certain people where.
- 10:48Whatever term you're using, even again, even if it's influenced by various things,
- 10:53can be validating to people, no matter what it is.
- 10:58And I've found, you know, over the years, going through people scans,
- 11:02you can say they've got the normal changes for their age.
- 11:05It's nothing to, that's going to be life-threatening. It's nothing that they
- 11:08shouldn't do. We try to normalize, et cetera, et cetera.
- 11:13I have seen it in people where if you go too far with that they then start to
- 11:18feel invalidated to a degree,
- 11:21not I'm saying that's wrong but as you were trying to hint at there you're trying
- 11:25to meet the person where they're at,
- 11:27and there will be some people who we all see who for whatever reason from their
- 11:34past experience or their own knowledge or their upbringing or whatever it is
- 11:37they're more that kind of structurally biomedically minded it.
- 11:43And there will be other people who are very happy to be
- 11:45not in that box i mean we try not to
- 11:48put people in box of course everyone's you know variable we
- 11:52have our own influences etc i think
- 11:55the there's always i say it's a ton of patients but there's always this kind
- 11:59of goldilocks over these explanations between the the kind of biomedical structural
- 12:05bit if you will and then the biopsychosocial holistic bit where if i've got
- 12:11someone in front of me who's very,
- 12:14structurally minded you know let's say they have some findings on the scan how
- 12:18relevant it is up for debate but if i launch straight into about oh well you're
- 12:23telling me you know your sleep's off there and you know you're you have lots
- 12:27of stress and without acknowledging that bit first.
- 12:33I can tell at times it might not land well so
- 12:37even if there's i think there's literature
- 12:40around this particularly i remember reading in hiv of all
- 12:43things but if you do the more technical
- 12:46bit first even if it's not the major driving
- 12:49factor that at least
- 12:52then gives you some validation to then get into
- 12:55the maybe it's the bigger parts of the psychosocial elements where
- 12:58relevant of course everyone we see is going to be
- 13:01variable across some people will have big biological drivers
- 13:04we should make clear on that there will be some where there's stuff going on
- 13:07of course there's definitely not so i i think there's this we have to be careful
- 13:14everyone talks about making sure the pendulum doesn't swing too far don't they
- 13:17matt so i think it's that meeting that person where they're at with the explanation and then,
- 13:25Wherever you feel you need to go, just edging there gradually over time.
- 13:29That's easy when you're people like you and I who can see them repeatedly and we can take those steps.
- 13:35It's harder for certain colleagues who, let's say, work in a kind of a first
- 13:40contact or advanced practice or one-off role where you're seeing them once.
- 13:45And then you're going to have to break that news of whatever the thing is and the explanation.
- 13:49Maybe it's different to what they're expecting and you
- 13:52have to tell them because you're not going to see them again to try and work
- 13:55them up and along to that bit um what do you think i'll check you out i was
- 14:02wanting my opinion under the host mate i don't think anything this is all about
- 14:06your hour but i just but yeah that's a great answer but i just i think for me you personify,
- 14:12in the way you speak just the or you
- 14:15stand for how we do need to be a chameleon we need to react
- 14:18according to the person in front of us and it's dangerous when we have these rules and
- 14:22it just made me laugh when you said that because i can imagine other people just go ben
- 14:25why bro they're on the phone now he just said issues in the tissue can you
- 14:28come on that's so outdated oh my god that's so 20 but it explains what needed
- 14:33to be explained and it did a good job so it's it's good i can't wait to see
- 14:37a therapy show it's gonna be really healthy there for people to listen to you
- 14:40right i've got talking of not what i want to think because i've got questions
- 14:44i want to ask you but this is your,
- 14:45you've chosen to do this explaining diagnosis.
- 14:48So where should we start? Where would you like to start?
- 14:51I think there's one thing that I said this last time and I'm here as well.
- 14:55If people forget everything else and just remember, you've got someone in front
- 14:58of you and you and I always talk about ice questions, right?
- 15:03The E is the expectations.
- 15:04You always should ask someone what they expect.
- 15:07And the I is the impressions of what they think is going on.
- 15:10There'll be some people, if you ask the impressions question.
- 15:15They'll just give an answer and then you may likely think, yeah,
- 15:18that's right, probably.
- 15:21So essentially with any explanation you want to know in advance what do they
- 15:25know what do they want to know what do they need to know,
- 15:29if you've got that person who's said simple example we said about Achilles tendinopathy
- 15:35earlier so let's say they come in and say oh I think yeah it's my Achilles tendon,
- 15:39and you do your assessment and you think yeah I actually think it is,
- 15:43then you can ask them well what would you like to know about that because they already know that,
- 15:49they're right from your assessment in theory so you can ask them if they want
- 15:53to know anything else about the diagnosis but i think i remember bonnie and
- 15:59i saying this last time actually the irony of working the pain service is that i explain pain less.
- 16:07People have various things online they can look up we've got ai these days they'll
- 16:10potentially have seen other people before you so they may already have an idea
- 16:15and if it's right and if they're already on the right page then it's more a
- 16:23question of what do they want to know about it,
- 16:26there may be things they need to know but that's rare right the need to knows are more for if you're,
- 16:33offering someone certain types of treatments that are quite invasive and they're
- 16:36coming to risk and you're having to wear up the pros and cons and all that jazz
- 16:38or if you're discussing serious pathology or you know breaking bad news and
- 16:44stuff like something they need to know but in our world it's very,
- 16:50not common that there's things they need to know okay it's not it's not like
- 16:55we have essentials if it's a safety thing fine like you know the corda quiet stuff occasionally but.
- 17:02Sometimes you know we can almost over explain there's a risk that you could
- 17:09come to me with your achilles tendinopathy you've you said i think it's an issue with my achilles tendon,
- 17:14i could be doing my assessment i think yeah it probably is just overloaded it
- 17:17but i'm thinking out of my head, I could then start talking about,
- 17:23oh yeah, Matt, you're right with that diagnosis.
- 17:24What happens is that, you know, when that Achilles of yours has been over,
- 17:29you know, you stretched it quite a lot in that exercise, you did a lot more
- 17:32running than you were doing.
- 17:33And I think, you know, those little muscles, fibers, they start to get overworked
- 17:38in the cycle and I lose you essentially.
- 17:41When actually all you wanted to know is how do I get better?
- 17:45Essentially when i ask them what they want to know a lot of the time i'm not
- 17:48saying this is you know this is my gospel or anything like that but most people
- 17:53if they have an idea of what's going on and you agree they generally just want
- 17:56to know what can i do to get better you can answer any additional questions
- 17:59they have but i'll be honest with you most of the time they don't
- 18:02it's only a minority people that come with a giant list of things like so i've got this diagnosis of,
- 18:08I don't know, it's hypermobility, let's say,
- 18:12HSD, and I want to know, da-da-da-da-da-da-da, fine. But.
- 18:18I think we have to be careful and mindful of what do they really actually just want to know.
- 18:23And also remembering that there's very little that people remember from an appointment,
- 18:28right? So was it 20% if that, something like that?
- 18:31So they're going to remember very little of your explanation.
- 18:37And you and I were discussing this last week. And actually, the key thing we
- 18:41want them to take away is a feeling, right?
- 18:44Feeling of hopefully safety or hope
- 18:48or able to move forward whatever the
- 18:51feeling is reassurance something like that because they
- 18:54ain't going to remember those words there's that lovely phrase from Maya Angelou's they
- 18:56don't remember what you say what you did but they do remember how you feel how
- 18:59you made them feel so hopefully whatever we're going to do in that explanation
- 19:04if there needs to be much of one it's hopefully help them feel whatever it is
- 19:09safe reassured positive hopeful able to move forwards.
- 19:15So I just waffled there for three minutes. That was a terrible way of me explaining
- 19:19because I should be breaking it up into chunks.
- 19:22No, that was great. It was beautiful. Really nice. And it so encapsulates,
- 19:28I don't want to say a lot of what clinicians do wrong, but what clinicians could do so much better.
- 19:34I love the, do you think the fact that clinicians do go into this long explanation,
- 19:42even if they haven't been asked about it, even if the client is not going to
- 19:45remember most of it, do you think it's part of a security thing where it's part
- 19:48of this clinician seeing themselves as like a fixer, as an operator, as part of their role?
- 19:52So what's wrong with the today is? Is it part of that to make them feel more confident? Maybe.
- 19:57I don't know if there might well be literature out there on it about why certain
- 20:04clinicians feel they need to.
- 20:06It will, of course, be different for different people.
- 20:10By the time people get to me, they've often had the diagnosis.
- 20:14Occasionally I'm giving a new one, but very rare. Most of the time they've seen
- 20:18ex-professionals multiple times and they've got this diagnosis, whatever it is.
- 20:22And then they might want to know about why and how this all came to be.
- 20:26We can talk for that, use the story, etc.
- 20:30But I'm sure there are, and especially when people like are coming through early
- 20:37or may just have not been exposed to the kind of things that you and I have,
- 20:43where we might feel obliged to say, I'm the expert here, I must then show my
- 20:51expertise and my knowledge by explaining this.
- 20:57Even with the risk of potentially making them feel worse yeah so true, it's very good,
- 21:04and it can change so much like you say if you.
- 21:07Put your focus on i'm going to affect how this person feels as
- 21:10opposed to i'm going to tell this person exactly what's wrong with them
- 21:13and what the literature says then geez you're
- 21:16so much helping that person in front of you much more
- 21:19we've got david halter in the house of course david thank.
- 21:22You much for joining us david he's listed in.
- 21:25Order i want to go to his second one we'll do his first one first david says.
- 21:29Kudos ben um of course we can identify oh
- 21:32he was backing up your issue i can't wait
- 21:36to send that to a clip kudos man of course we can identify obvious issues
- 21:39in the tissue stress fractures are a good example yes everyone is bps
- 21:42the blend is different in everyone listen first seek
- 21:46to understand very nice and then with regards
- 21:48to what we were saying just now i think david's put it
- 21:51very nicely as he does people always remember how they felt
- 21:54listen be responsible to them not for them
- 21:57there's a there's there's a t-shirt in the making be responsible to
- 22:00them not for them nice very cool
- 22:04i like that david thank you very much and nicky mansfield has
- 22:06all you got people talking now nicky mansfield has also added
- 22:10here i'm sure i've lost a few clients at their first appointment intending
- 22:13to help them move past some of the civic paradigm they've been
- 22:16told in the past but it hasn't landed right and i've invalidated their
- 22:19stories yeah i mean can i give you an example yeah
- 22:22i remember seeing someone fairly recently who you
- 22:25know had some changes on their scan that you might expect
- 22:28but they'd been given this
- 22:31impression from a someone not
- 22:34in my service to elsewhere but had a much
- 22:37more senior title than me much more qualifications you know very specialist
- 22:43etc more long more qualified than me and this person had already been through
- 22:48the mill with their pain and not getting anywhere and this person then turned
- 22:53around and said you know what yeah your bones here They're bone on bone.
- 22:57We just need to replace everything, basically, in a surgery.
- 23:02And I could easily, if a person comes in to me, we do this, you listen,
- 23:07as you do, you take the story, you go for all the usual things.
- 23:11And I could try and edge into about mentioning one of these other factors at
- 23:17play that I think people have tried to mention.
- 23:20But again, we were talking about earlier, where are they?
- 23:23Are they at one end of the kind of line to where you are thinking?
- 23:29This person then has this offer of a surgical thing
- 23:33that will well that's been potentially sold to
- 23:36them as it will cure right will solve their
- 23:38issues even though the evidence and everything else was not the
- 23:42best idea and i could
- 23:45touch on a few things but i know that if i went
- 23:48full-blown how can i call this biopsychosocial addressing
- 23:52all the elements is that person in
- 23:55of me really going to a want to take it
- 23:58in or b care if they've been then given this option earlier
- 24:01of it's all right have the surgery you'll be
- 24:04fixed so this is
- 24:07the unspoken of explanations everyone talks about using analogies
- 24:11and making it simple blah blah blah which is
- 24:14true but the thing we don't talk about enough of
- 24:17is timing of it because we're
- 24:21given a couple examples already there where you can be right
- 24:25scientifically evidence-based right but wrong in their eyes that makes sense
- 24:32because beliefs of course go across the whole spectrum you know we all have
- 24:37different beliefs of different things some which are backed by data and some which are not.
- 24:43And i think you know we have to we said earlier meet them where they're at i
- 24:49could have gone into a whole,
- 24:50if I wanted to be that person you talked about earlier, the clinician who feels
- 24:54need to explain everything to show off their expertise, try and get that person
- 24:57to buy in potentially, right?
- 24:59I could have gone into the whole explain pain spiel.
- 25:03And I didn't do it, so I don't have the foresight to know what would have happened,
- 25:07but I can predict in my mind that it probably wouldn't have ended well.
- 25:11So we have to be mindful, not just of, yes, the words we say,
- 25:15we don't want to be scared, scared with the words, make sure it's all safety.
- 25:18But we want to make sure it's the right time for them.
- 25:23You know, this is where the validation bit comes in.
- 25:26And even if you want, you know, you're right,
- 25:30it doesn't always mean that telling them the right stuff, not the right stuff,
- 25:36but what's evidence-based, you
- 25:38know, what should in theory be correct and helpful might not always land.
- 25:45Very cool. Definitely makes sense, the timing. Okay, so far, this is great.
- 25:50It's just turned hard past. So excited we got in a half hour.
- 25:53So we've looked at, don't, for want of a better word, just vomit out everything
- 25:57you know about the diagnosis because it's not what the person in front of you
- 26:02might need to hear. It could make them worse.
- 26:05And also, yeah, that links in with the timing as well.
- 26:09And even though you know you're right inside, I think a lot of therapists who
- 26:13kind of want to be evidence-informed and they feel the need.
- 26:16I know I did in the early days of, you know, your goal in this life is to correct
- 26:21the patient when they say something wrong because you believe it's going to hurt them.
- 26:24But yeah, you could be hurting them by focusing on what you want to say instead
- 26:28of them. So that's cool. Very cool.
- 26:30Okay, what's next? What next have you got on your list? Some of the obvious
- 26:34things we've touched on there.
- 26:36Many people have said before, keeping it simple, right?
- 26:40A simpler explanation, generally the easier it's going to be remembered.
- 26:44Now, simple is variable.
- 26:45What simple is to you and I is different to someone else, different to another person.
- 26:50So you can go more technical if you think they want it.
- 26:54You can literally ask them. We've got this basic information, but we have it more.
- 26:59We can go more technical if you'd like. I would say if they are already coming
- 27:03in using technical language,
- 27:06You can try, but that doesn't always guarantee they actually know what it means, necessarily.
- 27:11They may have looked stuff up on AI or whatever, and they're trying to use big
- 27:17fluffy words to potentially give the impression that they know a lot.
- 27:22But in reality, they might not.
- 27:24But generally, the general rule of thumb is, and plenty of people have said
- 27:26this before, the simpler the better.
- 27:28People talked about analogies before, right? But the key thing with analogies
- 27:32is it needs to be relatable to them.
- 27:37There's no point using an analogy that you love if they don't know what it means, fundamentally.
- 27:45So just make sure that whatever analogy you're trying to use to achieve the
- 27:50feeling of safety or positivity or hope or whatever it is, they need to be able to relate to it.
- 27:58I think it's completely unrealistic for people to have 10 000 analogies in their
- 28:03back pocket that whenever you have a builder or an electrician or whatever to
- 28:06come in front of you you then,
- 28:09pull out your relevant i don't know jockey analogy
- 28:12and use that that's not cool but ideally something that most people can understand
- 28:18that's why the good old alarm analogy of pain most people grab because everyone's
- 28:22got a house alarm or car alarm right so generally the more general and easier
- 28:28to understand the better.
- 28:30And plenty of people have also said this before, that the analogy needs to be
- 28:35not scary, not nocebic, things like, well, I say this, but hopefully not that
- 28:42people say the jam donut analogy for discs too much anymore.
- 28:46Or other ones, I don't thankfully hear too many things that make me cringe these days.
- 28:51But just whatever it is, it needs to be an analogy that has a positive feeling attached.
- 28:58Yeah, what do you think?
- 29:01I'm trying to back to you. Well, you know what I'm doing there,
- 29:05Matt. I know exactly what you're doing.
- 29:10Analogies. So, could you give me an example of where you are trying to explain
- 29:15a diagnosis and you think an analogy would help, first of all?
- 29:22So, the one we use, when people often ask us,
- 29:26I wish I had a question for you, what people often ask us about well with this
- 29:32pain they've got they say about what's going on they'll have this label whatever
- 29:37the pain is so we'll use an example of fibromyalgia here they've got this label,
- 29:43got an idea of what the symptoms are because they have them and someone's gone
- 29:46through the screening criteria, asked them the questions, they've gone, yeah, yeah.
- 29:50So they have an idea of what the condition is, but they may not know why.
- 29:56So if I roll this along with you, Matt, let's say you've been given the label and you want to know why.
- 30:02And there's been bits of talk from
- 30:05other people you've seen about the nervous system and about it being sensitive
- 30:08and a bit alert right and you've got this message about you know things giving
- 30:14us messages when they should and etc but you turn to me and say well why right
- 30:21why is going what's happened to cause all this,
- 30:24so something i will use and we do this in both individual and with our group
- 30:29programs is something i call the cocktail analogy and i'll literally draw a cocktail glass,
- 30:38on a board or on a piece of paper and i'll
- 30:41ask them what's your favorite cocktail so matt what is your favorite
- 30:44cocktail if you have i think what someone did
- 30:47make me the other day i don't normally drink but if i'm on a mission because
- 30:50it's something like new year's eve and i need to numb myself against social
- 30:53anxiety then i think i'll go for what's it called an old-fashioned is it an
- 30:57old-fashioned i wasn't an old-fashioned oh no it's history right who's here
- 31:04i'm nicky Nikki, you can tell us what an old-fashioned display is.
- 31:06I think it's a mixture of whiskey and rum and bitters, and then you set light
- 31:11to it and make it smoky or something, yeah. Fine. So...
- 31:16Let's take that old-fashioned. Sorry, you did ask me. No, no,
- 31:19no, no. I should have said margarita. You could have said sex on the beach.
- 31:24That's another story we'll say. So the old-fashioned, I'll draw the cocktail
- 31:29glass and put those ingredients into the whiskey and the rum.
- 31:32And next to that, I'd write activity levels, sleep, work, and then a few other
- 31:39ingredients there that are in part of your life.
- 31:43Now matt if i could give you anywhere
- 31:44in the world to go and drink this old-fashioned where would you go.
- 31:49Does it have to be a place? This sounds such a bad person to use role play with.
- 31:55Okay, now just say something simple, Matt. Okay, I will. I'm probably in a nice
- 31:59Tudor-style hotel in the country somewhere in the evening.
- 32:05It's quiet. So you're in your Tudor-style country fancy hotel.
- 32:12It's 6 p.m. in the summer. Sun's out, slowly going down, but nice and warm.
- 32:17Waiter comes out with the old-fashioned puts it down in front of you little
- 32:21umbrella there on top glistening you're about to go drink it and this is going
- 32:26to be your cocktail of life,
- 32:29but just before you do i'll come along and i'm going to add some salt some sambuca,
- 32:39add some um let's go for ginger beer
- 32:42as well how's that
- 32:45going to taste i'm sorry who are you what you do in my
- 32:47hotel to start but you just let's say it's not good yeah
- 32:51i'm not happy might even harm you potentially i
- 32:54don't know so the then what we do is i'm right next to those new ingredients
- 33:00i've written there so the pain itself there might be the less social interaction
- 33:07you've had because your pain not want to go out as much there may be what i
- 33:11call nocebic effect We said about that earlier,
- 33:14but iatrogenic effects, which is where you go to see a healthcare person and
- 33:17they make you feel worse. Yeah.
- 33:21But all that in turn might then affect your sleep, which might affect your workability,
- 33:24might affect your activity levels, etc., etc., etc.
- 33:28And at the same time, I would draw this. So I haven't said this yet,
- 33:31but visual is an excellent way to help someone understand something as well.
- 33:39Because probably I think it's the least effective way of learning something
- 33:42is by sitting down and someone just talking at you.
- 33:45Most effective way is to learn it and teach it back.
- 33:48But adding at least a visual that could be
- 33:51i'd like to draw it could
- 33:54be a relevant picture where again it's not scary okay
- 33:58not of like some you know
- 34:01you type into google sometimes you just want to look at a bit
- 34:04of say about knee arthritis you see these bones coming together
- 34:07and they're rubbing all that stuff you don't want that so a
- 34:10relevant and hopefully appropriate picture videos
- 34:13again same thing but with a bit of a visual because
- 34:16you know what's that phrase a picture's worth a thousand
- 34:19words or something so i draw that
- 34:22at the same time with the words together that
- 34:26gives the impression it's all these factors together
- 34:29that are then influencing each other and a cocktail if
- 34:32we all think of a cocktail it's this mix of ingredients right most people
- 34:35can relate to a cocktail or even if they don't drink they like tea
- 34:38hopefully or a mix of something so it's this that's one example we i use with
- 34:44both individual and group it takes a bit of time as you heard me say there but
- 34:51if i can draw it and use their personal things that they've said along the way.
- 34:58So you may have told me in your story that you went to see someone and you didn't
- 35:02feel listened to well i put that in the ironic bit you may tell me your sleep's
- 35:06rubbish i could put that next to that you may tell me you're feeling more stressed
- 35:09or your mood's not as good so i can put that in as well.
- 35:14And that's just one example that I think, not that I've had any direct feedback
- 35:19after I've done it in written form, but from my understanding,
- 35:23what I can see, they seem to get the concept, at least.
- 35:27I'm just trying to give the feeling of, it is influenced by multiple things.
- 35:32Okay, this is more than just my back, or it's more than just my joint,
- 35:37or just my nerves, or whatever it is. trying to give the feeling of okay there's
- 35:42more to this than just you know what's in my body,
- 35:47Very nice. No, that's great. And for me, even though I knew kind of,
- 35:53obviously I know you're setting me up for something, I couldn't help but feel
- 35:56drawn in because you involved my, you invited me to create the story with you.
- 36:02Yeah. I was thinking of what I do actually like, so suddenly all my senses are
- 36:05like thinking, oh, that tastes nice and my ears are open.
- 36:07So that's a really good idea. Have a generic one, but which you can make personal. Yeah, very powerful.
- 36:14I like it. And Nicky, I'm like Nicky thinking you used to manage a pub or something,
- 36:18didn't you, in another life? But yeah, she says, that's right, Matt.
- 36:21Fireworks optional, though you must have had a posh one. I made that up.
- 36:24I've never been in a Tudor hotel with somebody serving me old-fashioned.
- 36:28I just needed to give him this answer quick.
- 36:30Yeah, very nice idea. Thank you.
- 36:32Brilliant. Maybe that's an idea for the summer.
- 36:35Say again? Maybe that's an idea for your summer holiday. I think it's an idea
- 36:39for Thursday night at a therapy show.
- 36:42I think that's what we're going to find now.
- 36:45Wonderful. This is great. It's giving people so many ideas. Don't forget,
- 36:48I'd also, if you have joined us live, then maybe if you've had a problem explaining
- 36:52a particular diagnosis,
- 36:54or maybe you're working on something at the moment, thinking I've got to tell
- 36:57this person, I'm not quite sure how they're going to react this way,
- 36:59then feel free to put some questions in.
- 37:00And that includes if you listen to the podcast let the i always say
- 37:03let the conversation continue even though the live recording is over if there's
- 37:06any ideas and you're watching this episode maybe on youtube or listening to
- 37:09it jump over to youtube and stick it in there and i personally have a look at
- 37:12those threads and i will pass something on to ben and see if we can get some
- 37:16feedback so let the conversation continue right then what next do you want to
- 37:21say about well what i have been doing
- 37:23and you've but you've thankfully been without me even having to do it that much
- 37:27is checking your understanding along the way.
- 37:31So it's all very well and good to whatever however much you are or not going
- 37:37to save your explanation you're,
- 37:40checking their understanding of what you said you
- 37:43don't literally have to be like right repeat back exactly the
- 37:46words i've said blah blah blah because they're not going to and that's
- 37:49a bit weird you can do the kieran
- 37:53o'sullivan test many people have talked about you say after
- 37:56you've finished i know you're going to go home and speak to your other half
- 37:59later what will you tell them from what we've discussed today that's fine but
- 38:05an easy one really and again it's more about the feelings then the data is we've
- 38:12said it a couple of times what are your thoughts right,
- 38:16because fundamentally they're not going to remember most of the words you say,
- 38:20that cocktail analogy you use they're not going to remember most of the words
- 38:23that I've written up there all the ingredients blah blah blah.
- 38:27But if you ask them about their thoughts well yeah I can see that that's related
- 38:32to me then that might give you the impression that they're you're getting some
- 38:34empathy at least that you're showing that you're understanding what they're going through,
- 38:38it may also give you an impression that if they don't agree with you and that's
- 38:42fine too because you get an idea of how they feel about it.
- 38:48Some people just go, yeah, fine. And that's fair enough. You can't force people to...
- 38:55You know, give their full thoughts. But some people will say, oh, yeah, I get this.
- 39:01And I'll do about that. And they'll kind of keep the convo going, so to speak.
- 39:06So checking understanding, please don't do the drill, Sergeant, of does that make sense?
- 39:13Because you will always get, yeah, sure. And it doesn't make sense.
- 39:17That's really nice. That really fits in with, although it's not kind of like
- 39:21solely motivational interviewing, but it fits in with what Ola was saying.
- 39:24And even rich last week with open-ended questions
- 39:27and things if you really want to give someone a chance to say
- 39:30how they feel about it then it needs to be a how or why or when
- 39:33and who and that sort of stuff rather than like a closed-ended question like
- 39:36you just said do you understand does that make sense and it's weird isn't it
- 39:39because i think again it kind of ties in with how you started off with clinicians
- 39:42who are feeling that they're getting the money to deliver information and the
- 39:47more i can talk to you the more i'm going to give you the more i'm worth my money when really,
- 39:52the money they're paying is for you to go how do you feel
- 39:54about that and then just shutting up yeah for a minute or two depending on you
- 39:58know what your goal is and i think clinicians need to realize that your worth
- 40:02is when you're not talking sometimes and that's a real foreign kind of concept
- 40:07for some clinicians to get well that what you're saying how do you feel about that,
- 40:13they may have grasped the diagnosis already they may know what is going on they've
- 40:19looked it up they're fully on board, you know, they've got the concept. Yeah.
- 40:24But how they feel about it may be very different. You know, you can clarify
- 40:30what they know. They may know a lot about their condition.
- 40:34They may have looked up in advance and someone just said, yep, that's right.
- 40:37But that doesn't mean necessarily they feel they can manage it or that they
- 40:42feel empowered or that they can trust you, whatever it is.
- 40:46Because it's those feelings that will dictate the future, not just how well
- 40:52they understand it or not.
- 40:54You know you could give someone all the again i'm saying this from a pain side
- 41:01but you give someone all the kind of understanding pain neuroscience stuff right
- 41:05and all the facts and they can you can force them to sit down and learn it until
- 41:08they can score perfectly on a test,
- 41:11that does not mean they're going to feel that they can manage their condition
- 41:14better it just means they know some facts facts don't change feelings necessarily.
- 41:21If it did our world would be a very different place i'm sure we wouldn't have,
- 41:25people doing half the things that affect our health.
- 41:30So this is really, I guess, one of the key things from all this.
- 41:33Apart from, you know, knowing what they know first, what do they really want
- 41:37to know, how can we influence those feelings from the explanation?
- 41:42And as you rightly said, that may be saying very little.
- 41:47They may just want to vent that they've been given this diagnosis and they ain't happy about it.
- 41:54Doesn't mean they think it's wrong necessarily. They may think, yeah, I can see that.
- 41:58I can see what's just happened, but they may be, you know, just need some time.
- 42:02We talked about timing earlier.
- 42:04You don't, if they've got it, is it then the right time to actually even try
- 42:09and help them manage it if they're still in this potential grief phase, depending on what it is.
- 42:13If it's a very big diagnosis, that could be life-changing or different to what they thought.
- 42:18Are they so focused and,
- 42:20how can I say, absorb with the feelings of that, that actually they need to
- 42:25go through that first before they then try and move forward with explanation
- 42:29about how they can actually manage it. Might not be the right time for that.
- 42:33Very cool. Very good. I'm just going to ask you as well to stop juggling with
- 42:37your microphone. Sorry.
- 42:39I'll hold it. It sounds like you're kind of sitting there. I can't believe a
- 42:42man of your professionalism is still... I remember the last time you joined
- 42:45us, you were holding this microphone in your hand. I'm still holding it,
- 42:47yeah. Yeah, I need to get a stand. I know what to get you for Christmas.
- 42:49I think it's also worth pointing out that clinicians really don't appreciate sometimes,
- 42:55that even though your client or patient is looking at you
- 42:57and kind of nodding in their head
- 43:00especially if they're in pain they're not listening to
- 43:03them watching your mouth and just thinking oh I'm going to do this evening I'll
- 43:06tell you what I'm probably going to do is take two paracetam and they're not and
- 43:09they're not listening so I think giving them that chance you're
- 43:12not trying to catch them out but giving them identifying that is
- 43:15so important as a clinician and it doesn't the other important thing
- 43:18i wanted to add was if you do check for understanding and
- 43:22you realize they haven't been listening to you at all then you've
- 43:25got to avoid the anger yeah i think it's a natural human reaction of yeah i
- 43:30can't believe i've just given you such a great whole cocktail thing and you
- 43:33didn't need a word so how i'm interested in how i'm sure that's happened to
- 43:37you before you've had people just staring at you and then they haven't been
- 43:39listening to you haven't taken any in yeah and you realize it how would you
- 43:43react if that happened should you react,
- 43:47i guess what you don't want to do is exactly what you said there and be like
- 43:50come on i just explained this to you so don't notice that you know the einstein
- 43:55quote is you know doing the same thing expecting a different result is the insanity
- 43:58isn't it so don't just do the same thing over again because we didn't land the
- 44:01first time i ain't gonna land the second time.
- 44:05I you know if you've if you've asked them what are your thoughts and actually
- 44:10get the impression and haven't really heard it or actually the focus has been elsewhere.
- 44:18It's a good question because,
- 44:20I'm trying to think of a time that's happened and nothing has come into my mind,
- 44:24but what would I do if that happened?
- 44:26Maybe I'd say, if that's clearly not landed, maybe they're not interested.
- 44:31They're not going to magically become interested if you say it a different way, probably.
- 44:34So I might almost try and move it along a bit. So what else would you like to
- 44:37know? What else would you like to discuss?
- 44:42Because none of us, unless there's a tiny amount of clinicians on stage that
- 44:47can be very entertaining, but in a clinical environment, No one's so entertaining
- 44:51that we can, you know, graph someone's attention like they're watching a movie. Okay.
- 44:56You know, we may just mean that they've.
- 45:01Weren't interested in that necessarily or other thoughts
- 45:04had popped up and actually would they like to discuss something else
- 45:07or you know it's an
- 45:11interesting one because i always answer i'm trying to literally think i mean
- 45:14i did put your thought of it i mean for me the reason i ask it
- 45:17is because i do a lot of work i work with neurodivergent individuals
- 45:21and i've got the facebook group and one of the traits of
- 45:24being new divergent is if you
- 45:27do if you're having a problem assimilating the
- 45:30information going in it could be because you're focusing on someone else i
- 45:33do speak to individuals who have these problems conditions where they're it's the
- 45:36other way around the patient is talking and and the individual
- 45:39is basically just looking at maybe a little on their cheek and staring
- 45:42at him yeah and then suddenly the client stops
- 45:45and you're like and so it works both ways but you
- 45:48might have a patient as well who just really is
- 45:51not at this current moment taking what you're saying the things
- 45:54we talk about is if that happens you've got
- 45:57to realize that it's probably to do with
- 46:00the environment something to do with the environment an external factor
- 46:03is not making this a nice place for
- 46:06this patient to assume its information so it could
- 46:09be something's going on rather than getting angry so you need to change the
- 46:12environment maybe or think is it the wrong time yeah or do we need to get on
- 46:16with something else maybe to have this conversation while we're doing some movement
- 46:19or something needs to change so it was a bit of a loaded question for you i'm
- 46:22sorry about that i just about you saying about the neurodivergence something I've done a few times now.
- 46:29Which I think has helped if you have someone who's come in who's got the diagnosis
- 46:33or thinks they have the diagnosis.
- 46:36I've usually asked before we've even finished the subjective part.
- 46:41What's the best way to help them if we need to explain things or discuss things
- 46:44what's the best way for them to take it in or for them to try and grasp it usually
- 46:49a lot of the answer is just say it simply and to the point but I find that helps,
- 46:55with that just you know in advance rather than kind
- 46:58of trying to judge it off them and their character etc i
- 47:02think it's something i've found more recent that just and i think they like
- 47:06being asked as well so yeah that's just a quick thought about because you said
- 47:11that's great and you had an amazing conversation not long ago with rosie section
- 47:15which was a really good episode that was part of the clinical communication
- 47:19wasn't it yeah i can't remember what number it was.
- 47:23I mean all of your episodes on clear communication are marvelous
- 47:26and in actual fact what i quite like is
- 47:29again i don't know if i'm being on the spot but have you had any
- 47:32particular either recent conversations on the podcast that
- 47:35have really had an impact on you or you've got favorites of all time and
- 47:38please don't say when i was on just be a lie but is there
- 47:41any which kind of as a professional communicator educator
- 47:44yourself is there any which stick in your mind which you think wow that was
- 47:47just such a valuable episode i think
- 47:50the ones that i've done that the one
- 47:53that has done the best by far and it
- 47:57probably is because peter o'sullivan shared it is from last year with ian cowl
- 48:02and we discussed about reassurance and that i think because it was no it's reassurance
- 48:09is one of those things that again we just assume we've done in a way like we,
- 48:16it's under it's under researched even compared to things like therapeutic alliance and,
- 48:23empathy and stuff like that there's not a lot out there on reassurance in general
- 48:28so I think that was kind of,
- 48:30valuable i also what was surprised me and again i whether it was again because
- 48:38it's quite a novel thing it's growing more talked about these days but kate's
- 48:44surname who's gone from me my top of my head at the moment but we did a how to teach episode.
- 48:51And that was actually the fifth most downloaded of the year and there was no video,
- 48:58and we're going to do How to Teach 2 soon. But it surprised me how many people
- 49:04were interested in that.
- 49:08And I thought, well, we'll do this, but I did that more for my own personal
- 49:11interest and thinking, oh, you know, this is teaching, but most people just
- 49:16want to know about the conditions and whatnot.
- 49:18But no, that one did surprisingly well. It had no video. Compared to most of
- 49:23them, it has some video that goes out too.
- 49:25That's really cool. That was episode 44 with Kate Purcell. There we go.
- 49:30I think I caught that. Yeah, really good. And it's something we've talked about
- 49:33on the podcast as well. On our courses as healthcare professionals,
- 49:36we're not taught to teach.
- 49:38We're not taught how to be educators. We're not taught to recognize things like
- 49:42that. We are taught still to be fixers, basically. Things need to change.
- 49:45But yeah, massively important. So it's not surprising if you are looking for
- 49:48CPD, then somewhere along the lines of communicating or teaching would be a good place to start.
- 49:53Don't just look for more ways to do things to people. You've probably got loads of them.
- 49:58Okay, that was a good one. Okay, thank you for that. Right, it's five minutes to the hour.
- 50:05We've already talked about you coming to a therapy show, so we're really looking forward to that.
- 50:10Just in case you have joined us and you've missed the beginning of it,
- 50:13then if you are coming to a therapy show this November 25th and 26th,
- 50:18then Ben is going to be speaking on the 25th, 10.30, in Clinical Skills Lab,
- 50:24and then at 3.30 in Theatre A. So do catch Ben then.
- 50:30Anything else going on in your life in between now and then,
- 50:32Ben? What have we got going on?
- 50:34Anything you can talk about? That I can talk about? Yeah. There's a surprise
- 50:38next month, but that's a surprise. I can't tell you about that yet.
- 50:40I thought you made a face of.
- 50:42Never play poker. But that'll be it. Once you see it, there'll be no people
- 50:46know what it was, know what it is. But otherwise...
- 50:50I've got to do another, the Northeast Musculoskeletal Society Conference.
- 50:54That's in the end of September in Durham.
- 50:58I've got a couple of webinars tomorrow
- 51:00on the widespread pain differential diagnosis with clinical physio.
- 51:06And just that guide that we talked about at the beginning, that will become
- 51:12an article at some point.
- 51:14Let's send it somewhere. and
- 51:17otherwise just trying to spread the
- 51:20good word matt just like you are i do a grand job in
- 51:23that as well in fact i saw if anybody's interested
- 51:26in just stimulating thought and having something to
- 51:29think about during the day your your feeds are fantastic i think
- 51:31the last one i saw today was the therapist explained
- 51:35to the guy about how much he should be drinking oh which is
- 51:38really cool i mean you put some wonderful material out there and you
- 51:41just and you don't again you're you're delivering what you've said in
- 51:44here you're not giving people the answers you're just saying to people what do you think
- 51:46about this yeah you know and it's it's um some
- 51:49really good which leads me into if people do want to follow you and and
- 51:52contact you is i know you're on instagram yep um is that a good place people
- 51:56to follow you yeah instagram and then linkedin i do have the x account but like
- 52:02a lot of people it's just not being used that much anymore yes that's weird
- 52:07isn't it instagram and And Instagram,
- 52:10you are B-Y-Brow Physio.
- 52:12So that's B-W-H-Y-B-R-O-W Physio.
- 52:15And then on LinkedIn, it'll be your name. And then the Clinical Communication
- 52:18Podcast available on all popular podcast apps, including Apple Podcasts and
- 52:23Spotify and all that kind of jazz.
- 52:24So definitely worth checking out. Some really great episodes on that.
- 52:28Some really interesting conversations.
- 52:30Right, Magic. So thank you so much, Ben, for giving me the time. That kind of flew by.
- 52:35Next week, people, thank you for everyone who joined us live as well. I really appreciate it.
- 52:39Next week, if you're listening to the podcast and want to join us live for the
- 52:41final episode of this series on communication skills and mental conditions,
- 52:45my special guest is going to be Serena Simmons, fantastic educator, psychology school.co.
- 52:50She will be introducing us to the psychological patterning process.
- 52:55Which I imagine is quite a new thing that she's come up with after years and
- 52:58years and years and years of specializing in behavior change.
- 53:03She's now suddenly realized, hold on, hold on, hold on, we're missing a little bit here.
- 53:06We're jumping into trying to change someone's behavior, and we might be missing,
- 53:09not with all clients, but with some clients missing something else,
- 53:12which she has come up with as psychological patterning process.
- 53:14So it's going to be a nice end to the episode. I'm looking forward to it.
- 53:17If you do want to join us live, I recommend it. Serena's a fantastic educator.
- 53:20We had Serena Simmons at the Exmouth ST School Conference,
- 53:24and we're so well received such a fascinating character who also has a side
- 53:29hustle of forensic or psychology forensics for serial killers which is always
- 53:34a conversation at the pub afterwards,
- 53:37so yeah join us for that if you fancy that will be again as always on YouTube
- 53:41and on Facebook at 8 o'clock UK time and this case Tuesday May the 26th we'd
- 53:46love to see you some of that thanks to everyone who joined us live David Poulter
- 53:49thank you for your words of wisdom as always I think he's what country has Dave joined us from today.
- 53:54There should be a little piece of advice. Isn't it Aziz? Where's the Aziz?
- 53:57From the Azores. Brilliant Chan Inver.
- 54:00Azores? Sounds Spanish, maybe. Maybe Spanish. Or maybe South American.
- 54:03Or could be French. I don't know. I don't know. I'm sure we'll find out very quickly.
- 54:06But David says, Galician should strive to be good receivers,
- 54:09not transmitters. It's great. It's good analogy in itself, isn't it?
- 54:13Most have it the wrong way round. He also told us it was Kate Purcell.
- 54:17He's just so on the ball. He doesn't stop. And he's probably doing this after
- 54:19a 100-kilometer ride on the stationary one.
- 54:23Amazing. Nicky Manson says, Smashing chat. Smashing chat. Thank you, gents.
- 54:28Gary Benson says, Thanks, Ben. Looking forward to meeting you at the therapy show later this year.
- 54:33And thank you, Gary. And thank you for coming back already with,
- 54:35yeah, we know it's called the Azores, Dave. We don't know where it is. It's in Portugal.
- 54:39Is it Portugal? I've just looked it up, yeah. Oh, well done.
- 54:43It all seems too far off. All right. Thanks, everyone, for joining us live.
- 54:46I really appreciate your time.
- 54:48Thank you, Ben. Thank you. I'm sure we will talk before November,
- 54:51but again, we haven't met in person before, have we? I don't think no no no
- 54:54fantastic I'm looking forward to meeting you so cool but yeah we'll talk again
- 54:58soon thanks again likewise,
- 55:00Everybody, join us next week if you can. Until then, make sure you take care
- 55:04of yourselves and take care of each other. We shall see you later. Bye-bye.