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227. Difficult IS the beginning · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, Happy New Year, and welcome to twenty twenty six
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  Speaker 1: Affirmations are a great way to start your day and
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  Speaker 1: to command your morning. And this week's affirmation is I
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  Speaker 1: can do hard things until they become easy. I can
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  Speaker 1: do hard things until they become easy. I can do
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  Speaker 1: hard things until they become easy. Now, let's get ready
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  Speaker 1: for this week's episode of the Your Enriched Self podcast. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: here's my truth. I've been having and poking a bit
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  Speaker 1: of fun about the people who are in the New Year,
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  Speaker 1: New Me category, meaning they are starting a new journey,
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  Speaker 1: particularly at the gym, because you know, these last few
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  Speaker 1: days of the year, I've watched the gym volume be
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  Speaker 1: very low at random hours. You know, I've been able
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  Speaker 1: to work from home, so I've been going at different times,
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  Speaker 1: and it's just been interesting to see that in just
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  Speaker 1: a few short days, that dynamic, that volume at the
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  Speaker 1: gym will change. And so I was poking a little
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  Speaker 1: fun about the new Year and New me people in conversation.
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  Speaker 1: But I realize something in that poking for a lot
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  Speaker 1: of those people. And I know there's some statistics I've
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  Speaker 1: talked about them here on this podcast, meaning you know,
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  Speaker 1: as people get started in the cycle of new year
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  Speaker 1: and going into a new thing, typically you know, fitness, finance, faith,
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  Speaker 1: whatever step they want to take, and those are big steps,
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  Speaker 1: right when you want to start your fate journey and
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  Speaker 1: really want to get into a relationship with God, when
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  Speaker 1: you want to get your finances together, because we know
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  Speaker 1: that everything requires you to have financial structure and capability
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  Speaker 1: to do things, to make purchases, and of course fitness.
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  Speaker 1: You know, health is wealth, So all of those areas,
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  Speaker 1: and of course family, all of those areas are fundamental.
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  Speaker 1: And if you've not had a good relationship with your family,
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  Speaker 1: or you've not been in a relationship with God, or
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  Speaker 1: you don't have a good relationship with money, and you're
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  Speaker 1: struggling with your own relationship with self so that you
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  Speaker 1: can get on a fitness journey that you can sustain,
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  Speaker 1: it sounds like a lot of difficulty. And that's what
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  Speaker 1: this episode is all about. Every pillar, whether it be fake, family, fitness,
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  Speaker 1: or finances, it requires a difficult beginning before it becomes sustainable.
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  Speaker 1: And I want this episode to help you see that differently,
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  Speaker 1: that difficult is the beginning. It is not a sign
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  Speaker 1: that you're doing it wrong. Difficulty at the beginning is
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  Speaker 1: not resistance. It's confirmation, hear me out. It's confirmation that
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  Speaker 1: you're doing something new. You're doing something new. Think about
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  Speaker 1: the first time you started your first the job that
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  Speaker 1: you are on now, or your very very first job.
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  Speaker 1: It was challenging. The truth is, we have been conditioned,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm trying to uncondition you or recondition you to
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  Speaker 1: believe that the excitement of the new job, the excitement
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  Speaker 1: of the new relationship, the excitement of saving the money
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  Speaker 1: at the beginning should carry you through the end. The
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  Speaker 1: truth is, friends, excitement will fade quickly. The difficulty is
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  Speaker 1: going to show up because our habits, our body. We're
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  Speaker 1: being asked to do something different that is not familiar
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  Speaker 1: to your body, that is not familiar to your habits.
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  Speaker 1: To save money the way you're trying to radically save money,
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  Speaker 1: to show up for yourself at the gym, the way
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  Speaker 1: you want to do that more consistently, to be more
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  Speaker 1: obedient to God when you're being asked to do and
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  Speaker 1: be what He's asking you to do and be these
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  Speaker 1: new steps that you are taking that you are embarking upon.
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  Speaker 1: Yes they will be awkward, Yes it will be slow. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it will be uncomfortable. Yes to all of that. And
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  Speaker 1: guess what, that doesn't mean you're incapable. That just means
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  Speaker 1: that in the moment, in the season you're in, you
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  Speaker 1: are unseasoned, meaning you're not experienced with that thing yet.
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  Speaker 1: Because experience requires time and effort. That's how you get there.
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  Speaker 1: You don't just show up with the time and effort
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  Speaker 1: under your belt. We would love that, wouldn't we. You
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  Speaker 1: got to put in the work. And I know this
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  Speaker 1: is gonna sound cliche, but you gotta enjoy the journey.
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  Speaker 1: Every journey has meaning. And whatever journey you're on, if
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  Speaker 1: you're trying to tackle all of those pillars fitness, finance, fate, family,
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  Speaker 1: somewhere along the line, you are going to be clumsy.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna fall, You're gonna make a misstep, a mistake.
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  Speaker 1: That's all part of all things working together. I love
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  Speaker 1: that scripture in the Bible because what that scripture does
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  Speaker 1: is it pulls away only good things work together. No,
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  Speaker 1: all things work together. That means the good, the bad,
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  Speaker 1: the indifferent, the ugly, the challenging, all of it, all
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  Speaker 1: of it works together. The difficult things, All things work together.
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  Speaker 1: And as soon as we recognize and realize and embrace
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  Speaker 1: that idea, embrace that scripture, embrace those words. Live like
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  Speaker 1: all things work together. We're gonna feel the weight and
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  Speaker 1: the pain of difficulty, and you don't have to feel
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  Speaker 1: it all the time. Yes, it's part of the journey,
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  Speaker 1: but it doesn't have to be felt every single step
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  Speaker 1: of the way. I just want to repeat this because
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  Speaker 1: it's worth repeating. Hard difficult doesn't mean wrong. Hard means new.
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  Speaker 1: So as you move into your January and you start
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  Speaker 1: your journey at the gym, don't listen to the people
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  Speaker 1: like me were poking fun about new year, new me energy.
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  Speaker 1: I know that January is the month where everybody wants
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  Speaker 1: to get started, as you should. It's a new season,
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  Speaker 1: it's a new year. This is time for new things.
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  Speaker 1: Embrace those new things that will be difficult. But as
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  Speaker 1: I mentioned at the top of this conversation, January is
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  Speaker 1: where the excitement is. You know, people get the outfits
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  Speaker 1: and they start working the schedule and they start going
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  Speaker 1: through the motions of getting to the gym, and that
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  Speaker 1: is feeling good, and that excitement is on for a
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  Speaker 1: while because really you're feeding off the energy of the
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  Speaker 1: other people in the gym that are new to and
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  Speaker 1: you're seeing them be new, and you're experiencing these things
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  Speaker 1: together statistically, as I was mentioning earlier February, is where
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  Speaker 1: the difficulty tends to arrive. The consistent pattern of getting
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  Speaker 1: up or going after work, the consistent pattern of saying
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  Speaker 1: no and staying home instead of going out and spending money,
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  Speaker 1: the consistency of being in your devotional every day, of
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  Speaker 1: being intentional about time with family. Those things start to
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  Speaker 1: reveal which of you understand the process. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to understand that this is where the rubber meets the road.
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  Speaker 1: The other thing I want to say is that the
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  Speaker 1: challenge isn't in your way. The challenge you're facing, you
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  Speaker 1: will be facing is the way. It's Think about yourself
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  Speaker 1: walking down a road and you see a sign and
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  Speaker 1: you know you need to go in that direction. That
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  Speaker 1: is the direction that you know that you know you
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  Speaker 1: need to go, And you have the option of that
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  Speaker 1: moment to decide to turn away from that challenge and
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  Speaker 1: go in the opposite direction, even though you know the
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  Speaker 1: opposite direction is not where you're supposed to be. Even
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  Speaker 1: though you know the opposite direction, you've been there you've
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  Speaker 1: done that, you've traveled that way, you know what it's like,
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  Speaker 1: so nothing about that will be challenging or difficult. So
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  Speaker 1: you have some peace in that knowledge. So what are
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  Speaker 1: you gonna do. Are you gonna go back to where
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  Speaker 1: you were, where you know what you're familiar with, what's
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  Speaker 1: quote unquote easy, or will you see challenge as the
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  Speaker 1: way I hope this conversation is allowing you to see
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  Speaker 1: that challenge isn't in your way, Challenge is your way
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  Speaker 1: to go. So at the beginning of this challenge, you're
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  Speaker 1: not gonna feel the results. You're gonna have to have
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  Speaker 1: a capacity to deal with what you need to deal with,
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  Speaker 1: what you need to face, what you need to overcome.
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  Speaker 1: You need capacity to do that. Going the other way
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  Speaker 1: won't get you the capacity, because you know what's on
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  Speaker 1: the other side, you've already dealt with it. The confidence
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  Speaker 1: in this challenge, in these difficulties that you deal with
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  Speaker 1: that you will be faced with, will be in the doing,
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  Speaker 1: not in the walking away from You've got to do
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  Speaker 1: it to get through it. The truth about it is
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  Speaker 1: that struggle, the struggle we face in those moments of
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  Speaker 1: this comfort challenge, difficulty, that's where discipline is actually being developed.
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  Speaker 1: That's where your identity and your confidence again comes from
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  Speaker 1: the doing, not from the comfort. Confidence doesn't come from comfort,
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  Speaker 1: It comes from the struggle, comes from the challenge, It
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  Speaker 1: comes from the difficulty. It's just like training a muscle.
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  Speaker 1: I've been working on that over the last couple of
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  Speaker 1: weeks as I'm getting ready to start boot camp again.
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  Speaker 1: But I've been saying local, going to the local gym
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  Speaker 1: and working on progressive overloads. And what happens in progressive
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  Speaker 1: overload is that as you do the exercise, you increase
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  Speaker 1: the weight, and as you increase the weight, you go
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  Speaker 1: to what you call failure. And when you do that,
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  Speaker 1: you're challenging or you're training the muscle to go and
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  Speaker 1: push past the point that you were comfortable with on
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  Speaker 1: your last attempt. And that that's how muscles grow through
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  Speaker 1: that resistance, and that's how you're gonna grow. You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: grow through this resistance. But the thing is you've got
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  Speaker 1: to go through it to grow through it. I know
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  Speaker 1: people talk about showing up for themselves. I've talked about
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  Speaker 1: showing up for myself, but I have to get uncomfortable first,
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  Speaker 1: because motivation is not gonna last. You can talk, you
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  Speaker 1: can listen to this podcast and get inspired and motivated
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  Speaker 1: by it. But what's going to last is to show
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  Speaker 1: up and show up consistently, and show up often, and
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  Speaker 1: just keep showing up. The problem is if we go
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  Speaker 1: back to the sign that says challenge. When people see
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  Speaker 1: that sign, and they may see it once and they're like,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, I got through it, Okay, they build
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  Speaker 1: a little resistance and they keep going. The thing is,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna see another sign. I don't know if I
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  Speaker 1: told you that part, but you'll see the first one
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  Speaker 1: that says challenge. You might get over it, you might
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  Speaker 1: get through it, you might bust bust it down. But
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  Speaker 1: then when you go through for a while down the road,
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  Speaker 1: they're a few miles, then here comes another challenge. And
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  Speaker 1: that's how life. Life's as people say. And what happens
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  Speaker 1: is most people go, I already dealt with a challenge
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  Speaker 1: a couple miles back there, I'm not doing another one,
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  Speaker 1: and they quit. They quit too early because they mistake
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  Speaker 1: difficulty for a warning. They see that challenge now as
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  Speaker 1: a warning. You see, this is why I shouldn't have
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  Speaker 1: gone down this way, because here comes this thing again.
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  Speaker 1: I know I shouldn't. No no no no no no no no.
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  Speaker 1: Recognize that that thing is part of the plan. It's
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  Speaker 1: part of the working out so that you can build
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  Speaker 1: the capacity. Because at first, it's not about results. Nobody's
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  Speaker 1: measuring the results of how often you go to the gym.
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  Speaker 1: You're learning how to start this habit, to sustain it,
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  Speaker 1: to do it when you don't feel like it. I've
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  Speaker 1: said it before and I'll say it again. Your feelings
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  Speaker 1: will fail you. The fact is, you know this is difficult,
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  Speaker 1: and you can push through that difficulty. You know why.
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  Speaker 1: I know you can because you've done it before. You've
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  Speaker 1: absolutely done it before, and you can certainly do it again.
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  Speaker 1: So I want you to know that that challenge, sign
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  Speaker 1: that difficulty, it's not a detour. It's time to train.
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  Speaker 1: That you're training ground so you can build that capacity,
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  Speaker 1: build that strength, and grow in ways that you know
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  Speaker 1: you need. So I want this to resonate with you,
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  Speaker 1: and here's how we're gonna do it. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to start asking this question, what is this hard thing
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  Speaker 1: building in me? And stop asking yourself why is this
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  Speaker 1: so hard? I hope you enjoyed this week's episode of
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