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They Know EXACTLY How to Get a Reaction Out of You (S5) S38:E5 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Morley.
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  I'm a serial entrepreneur.
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  I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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  You know, friends, have you ever dealt with
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  someone who seems to get under your skin?
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  Maybe it's one comment, one accusation, one text,
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  or even a certain tone of their voice.
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  Before you realize what's happening, you're reacting exactly
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  the way they expected.
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  Today, I'm changing that.
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  You may not control what somebody else does,
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  but your reaction still belongs to you.
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  Let's get into our 30 points, shall we?
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  Number one, your reaction is still yours.
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  Yeah, the reaction is still yours.
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  So someone may provoke you intentionally, but the
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  response is still yours.
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  I think that's a very important thing for
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  us to understand.
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  And that doesn't excuse their behavior.
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  It reminds you where your power really lies.
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  You may not control the trigger, but you
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  can learn to control what follows it.
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  Number two, stop handing people the remote control
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  to your emotions.
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  If somebody can press one emotional button and
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  instantly change your behavior, you've given them tremendous
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  influence over you.
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  Take the remote back immediately.
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  Their words don't need to determine your entire
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  emotional state.
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  Number three, pause.
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  Before giving somebody the response they expect, a
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  pause can change everything.
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  When somebody expects immediate anger, don't automatically deliver
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  it.
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  Give yourself a few seconds to decide whether
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  the response forming in your mind is actually
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  the response you want to give.
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  Number four, not everything deserves an immediate reaction.
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  Urgency is often emotional rather than real.
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  A text can wait.
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  An email can wait.
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  Even a conversation can sometimes wait.
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  Immediate responses, guys, are not always better responses.
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  Number five, silence can be a decision.
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  Silence doesn't automatically mean weakness, fear, or agreement.
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  Sometimes silence means you've consciously decided that a
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  conversation doesn't deserve more of your present energy.
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  Number six, stop matching somebody else's chaos.
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  If someone becomes loud, insulting, or unreasonable, you
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  don't have to join them there.
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  Their chaos doesn't require your participation.
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  Stay grounded in the person you want to
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  be.
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  Their volume doesn't determine yours.
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  Number seven, someone getting louder doesn't make them
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  more correct, and it doesn't require you to
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  get louder to maintain control over your own
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  tone.
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  Instead of allowing theirs to set it for
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  you.
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  Number eight, choose your response before emotion chooses
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  it for you.
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  Interesting to ponder that thought for a moment.
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  Strong emotions can make decisions very, very quickly.
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  Give yourself enough time for judgment to catch
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  up.
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  Ask what response will actually help instead of
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  simply satisfying the emotion of the current moment.
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  Number nine, you don't have to attend every
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  argument.
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  Not every invitation deserves acceptance, including invitations to
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  fight.
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  Sometimes the smartest response to an unnecessary argument
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  is simply refusing to participate.
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  Number 10, stop defending yourself to people committed
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  to misunderstanding you.
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  It's like their whole life is to just
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  misunderstand you and others.
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  There are times when more explanation won't create
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  more understanding.
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  If somebody has already decided what they want
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  to believe, endless defending yourself may only drain
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  you.
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  Number 11, your energy doesn't need to answer
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  every accusation.
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  Don't feel like you're on trial because you're
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  not.
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  An accusation doesn't automatically create an obligation to
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  respond.
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  Decide whether your answer will clarify something meaningful
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  or merely extend a conflict that isn't going
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  anywhere.
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  Or if it's going somewhere, it's just going
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  in circles.
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  I think sometimes words get people to think
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  a certain way, but it may not be
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  the right way.
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  Do you know what I mean?
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  Hopefully that makes sense to all of you.
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  I think sometimes people are on their own
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  path, right?
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  They don't necessarily mean to get in your
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  way, but they do because, well, they don't
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  have an option.
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  They say if it's not option A, well,
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  then it has to be option A.
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  Like I'll do whatever I have to get
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  option A, but that might not be the
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  smartest thing.
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  Number 12, learn when explanation becomes wasted effort.
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  There's an interesting caveat.
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  Healthy communication requires people who are willing to
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  listen.
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  If you're explaining the same thing repeatedly to
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  someone who refuses to hear it, recognize when
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  your energy could be better used elsewhere.
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  Yeah, I think that's one that a lot
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  of people just don't, they don't understand or
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  get.
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  Number 13, stop allowing provocation to dictate behavior.
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  Provocation is designed to produce a reaction.
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  When you automatically react, the provocation worked.
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  Interrupt that sequence and decide how you want
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  to behave now in this current situation, okay?
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  And I think this is a lot of
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  things that happen is people learn how to
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  push other people's buttons.
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  They're like, oh yeah, I got the secret.
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  But really, they might know how to control
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  that person, but one thing they don't have
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  is they don't have their trust and respect.
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  Number 14, emotional control is a form of
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  strength.
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  Control doesn't mean suppressing every feeling.
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  It means recognizing the feeling without allowing it
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  to make every decision.
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  You can be angry and still remain very
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  deliberate.
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  And I think sometimes when people try to
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  act in a certain way, others try to
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  put them down, and there's no need for
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  that, okay?
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  No need for that.
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  And if that's the case, then that can
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  change a lot of people.
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  That's a very interesting thing to think about.
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  Number 15, give yourself time before you respond.
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  There's no race.
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  Sometimes 10 minutes changes your perspective.
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  Sometimes an hour does too.
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  You don't have to respond while you're experiencing
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  the strongest version of an emotion.
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  And that's actually the worst time to respond
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  because if you respond then, you're probably not
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  gonna have things very soft.
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  I think that can be a big problem
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  for a lot of people.
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  And I say that to you because most
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  people just don't understand why things happen like
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  this or why they're moving like this.
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  And hopefully that means something to you about
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  what's going on, about why people are acting
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  the way they are, right?
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  Maybe what you're asking yourself is, how do
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  I become better without causing a big challenge?
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  Sometimes it's just trying to understand where I
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  need to go, what I need to do.
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  You know, sometimes it's a feeling.
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  And then when we get that feeling, we're
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  like, oh, wait a minute.
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  I can actually do something different now because
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  I've been on that side of the counter
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  before.
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  Number 16, guys, don't send the message while
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  you're furious.
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  You see, you've probably written something while you're
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  angry.
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  And that looked very different later, didn't it?
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  Whoa, what did I just write?
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  Write it if you need to, but don't
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  dare automatically send it.
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  Give yourself enough time to decide whether those
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  words represent you.
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  And I bet you're gonna figure, it might've
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  been a little too harsh in those words.
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  Wow, good thing I actually didn't send that.
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  That's a very important thing, guys.
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  Very, very important thing.
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  Make sure the words really represent you because
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  if they don't, you're gonna have regret.
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  And nobody wants regret, do they?
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  I don't think so.
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  Nobody wants regret.
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  So number 17 is please step away before
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  making permanent decisions.
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  You've got time before you make decisions.
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  You've got time before you cast the mold.
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  You don't need to do it just because
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  somebody says, oh, you better do this.
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  That's usually the worst time to do it,
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  just to be quite honest with you, right?
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  So number 17 is step away before making
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  permanent decisions.
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  Temporary emotions can produce permanent consequences and some
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  very serious regret that you're gonna not wanna
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  look back at.
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  Before ending something, sending something, quitting something, or
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  making another major decision, create enough distance to
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  think clearly about it before you, let's say,
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  very harshly make that decision.
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  Because later you're gonna be like, oh, wait
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  a minute.
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  I really didn't mean that decision, right?
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  I didn't mean that decision.
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  I didn't think about the consequences that were
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  in that decision.
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  Number 18, guys, please stop confusing reaction with
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  action.
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  Reaction happens automatically.
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  Action is intentional.
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  So let me give an example.
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  You're at the stove and it's really hot
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  and your hand's about to touch you like,
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  whoa, I pulled away, right?
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  That's a reaction.
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  That's not an action.
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  I intentionally moved my hand.
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  That happened so I didn't burn myself, right?
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  Whoa, right?
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  Everything needs to be intentional.
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  One is driven primarily by the moment, like
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  the fact you might burn yourself, while the
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  other considers what happens afterward.
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  Aim for deliberate actions.
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  I'm not gonna tell you they're easy.
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  But when we're deliberate, people around us, they
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  start to know.
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  They start to realize that we're a different
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  kind of person.
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  I think that's a very important thing.
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  And the more we think about that, the
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  more we can ask ourselves another question.
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  Deliberate, intentional, what is that?
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  So I am consciously acting in a way
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  that it's gonna make an impact, but I
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  know it's gonna positively hopefully affect my future.
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  You know, there were some shows on yesterday
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  about kindness.
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  And there was one on today, lots of
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  people go to a car dealer and they're
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  not dressed in their, let's say their nine
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  or 10 clothes.
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  Well, they did another experiment.
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  And this experiment was different.
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  They went there.
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  Kid was maybe just out of college.
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  Came in all, you know, bad clothes.
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  And they're talking to everybody.
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  And sales guy says, hey, well, what took
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  you so long to get down here?
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  He's like, I'm gonna be honest.
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  I don't know anything about Lamborghini.
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  I don't even know anything about the dealership.
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  But you know, I'll be honest, I was
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  really curious about this car.
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  And I'm really thinking about it because I
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  think I want this car.
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  Well, man, that's great.
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  What's been keeping you?
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  I guess I was a little scared.
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  And now I decided to finally just take
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  the plunge.
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  Number 19, guys, respond according to your values.
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  Ask yourself this question.
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  What kind of person do I wanna be
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  in this situation?
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  Your response should reflect your standards, not simply
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  mirror somebody else's behavior.
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  I know other people have tried to do
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  that.
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  And they're like, oh, wait a minute.
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  That's not what I wanted.
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  I did what he did, or I did
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  what she did.
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  But that wasn't the path that I wanted
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  to take, right?
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  That wasn't the path that I wanna take.
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  And I think that can become a problem
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  for a lot of us because we're like,
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  well, if I follow this recipe, then that
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  means I'm gonna get exactly what I want.
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  No, response needs to reflect your standards, not
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  someone else's.
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  Number 20, guys, let somebody else's behavior reveal
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  them, not change you.
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  When somebody behaves poorly, that's not a reflection
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  on you.
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  Let that provide information about them and who
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  they are.
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  Don't allow their behavior to transform you into
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  somebody you don't recognize.
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  Number 21, protect your dignity when emotions rise.
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  Conflict can tempt us to say things we
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  would never be caught saying.
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  Protect your dignity at all costs.
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  When the conversation ends, you still have to
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  live with the way you handled yourself and
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  the way you treated others.
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  That's a powerful thing.
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  Number 22, stop becoming somebody you dislike during
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  conflict.
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  You're fine every other time, but why is
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  it during conflict, you don't like yourself?
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  You become somebody different.
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  I think that's an important thing to realize.
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  And as we realize this, we're gonna say,
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  wait a minute, I think I've grown, I
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  think I've changed, right?
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  Winning, ladies and gentlemen, isn't worth becoming cruel,
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  reckless, heartless, disrespectful, deceitful.
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  If conflict repeatedly brings out a version of
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  yourself you don't like, change how you participate
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  in it.
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  Change how you show up.
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  If a decision comes to mind, you're like,
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  wait a minute, that's not who I am.
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  Why am I thinking that?
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  Don't beat yourself on the head.
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  Just say, okay, let me shift the thought.
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  And then that won't be so apparent that
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  you wanna do that.
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  Number 23, guys, being calm doesn't mean being
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  weak.
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  You could be completely calm and still be
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  completely serious.
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  Strength doesn't require shouting.
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  Sometimes the most powerful response is delivered clearly,
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  cleanly, calmly, and without unnecessary drama.
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  I know so many people that wanna paint
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  a picture with drama.
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  They feel drama's gonna get them the limelight.
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  But you know what drama does?
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  Drama just gets them more disrespected, more disrespected,
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  more disrespected.
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  That's a big problem, guys.
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  Why?
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  I think it comes down to the fact
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  that most people will think something, but then
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  they won't change because they don't understand.
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  I know a lot of you are saying,
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  well, this doesn't make sense.
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  And it may not until you're actually in
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  the situation, okay?
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  Number 24, you can be firm without becoming
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  cruel or a monster.
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  Boundaries can be direct, guys.
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  No can mean no.
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  You can disagree, end a conversation, or remove
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  yourself from a situation without deliberately trying to
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  hurt somebody.
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  I think that's important, guys.
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  Number 25, control what belongs to you.
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  Your words, your choices, your actions, your boundaries,
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  your attention, and behavior belong to you.
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  That's where your effort should go.
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  Control what is actually yours to control.
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  Number 26, guys, release what doesn't.
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  You cannot control another person's thoughts, behaviors, attitude,
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  or interpretation of you.
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  Stop exhausting yourself trying to manage things that
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  don't belong to you.
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  But what you can do, ladies and gentlemen,
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  is you could change how you react.
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  You could change how you show up in
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  the world, okay?
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  And by doing that, that's going to have
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  a very big, big impact.
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  An impact that I think is going to
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  make a huge change.
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  Okay, a very, very huge change.
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  And that change might be the difference to
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  whether you become a success or not.
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  Number 27, stop allowing difficult people in your
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  life to determine your character.
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  That's not their job.
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  Someone else's bad behavior shouldn't become permission for
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  your own.
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  Your character matters most when maintaining it becomes
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  difficult.
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  I think a lot of people say things
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  that they're going to do, but then when
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  it becomes difficult, they change the story.
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  They change, well, their level of commitment.
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  From being very committed to being, well, barely
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  even able to show up if they do
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  even show up.
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  Number 28, your response always becomes your story.
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  What somebody did becomes part of their story.
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  How you respond becomes part of yours.
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  Remember that before allowing somebody else's behavior to
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  write your next chapter for you, it's your
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  choice.
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  It's your life.
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  Don't let somebody else dictate who and how
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  you should become or do something.
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  Number 29, choose reactions your future self won't
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  regret.
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  Think for a moment beyond the next 30
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  seconds.
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  Can you do that?
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  Sure.
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  Tomorrow, next week, right?
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  Next month, next quarter, next year.
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  Will you actually respect how you handled this
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  moment right now?
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  Give yourself, that is your future self a
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  response.
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  You can stand behind today.
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  And then number 30, please take back control
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  of how you respond.
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  This is where everything comes together.
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  You don't need control over another person to
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  regain control of the situation.
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  Start with yourself.
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  Your response is yours to choose.
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  Some people may know exactly how to get
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  a reaction out of you because they've watched
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  your patterns.
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  They know where your buttons are.
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  They know how to press them.
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  They know the subject that irritates you most.
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  They know the accusations that make you defensive.
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  They know the words that get your blood
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  to boil, that gets you angry.
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  But knowing your buttons doesn't mean they have
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  to keep controlling them.
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  See, the next time you feel yourself being
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  pulled into that familiar reaction you don't want,
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  pause.
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  Ask yourself what the other person expects you
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  to do.
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  Then ask a more important question.
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  What do you actually want to do?
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  Maybe you respond calmly.
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  Maybe you establish a boundary.
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  Maybe you say, you'll discuss it later.
• 23:17
  Maybe you walk away.
• 23:19
  Maybe you don't respond at all.
• 23:21
  Silence doesn't make you weak, guys.
• 23:24
  Calmness doesn't make you weak.
• 23:26
  Refusing to participate in somebody else's chaos doesn't
• 23:30
  make you weak.
• 23:34
  It means you're becoming more deliberate about who
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  controls your behavior.
• 23:38
  And that's a pretty big step in your
• 23:40
  life.
• 23:41
  And remember, emotional control doesn't mean accepting disrespect.
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  You can stand up for yourself anytime.
• 23:47
  You can say no.
• 23:50
  You can remove somebody from your life.
• 23:52
  You can make difficult decisions.
• 23:54
  Right now, the difference is that you're making
• 23:58
  those decisions rather than allowing someone to provoke
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  them out of you.
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  There's a big difference.
• 24:04
  Don't give another person that much control.
• 24:06
  Let their behavior reveal their character.
• 24:10
  Let your response reveal yours.
• 24:14
  Protect your dignity.
• 24:16
  Protect your energy.
• 24:19
  Protect the person you've worked so hard to
• 24:22
  build and become.
• 24:24
  And when somebody tries to push that familiar
• 24:27
  hot button again, remember that they don't control
• 24:31
  what happens after they push it.
• 24:34
  You do.
• 24:36
  So you might say, well, John, how do
• 24:37
  I handle that?
• 24:39
  If you know somebody's about to push the
• 24:41
  button, don't respond.
• 24:46
  It might be difficult, but trust me, you
• 24:48
  can do it.
• 24:49
  And when you stop responding, they're going to
• 24:51
  stop basically accusing you.
• 24:54
  They're going to stop pushing the button.
• 24:55
  They're like, oh, it doesn't work.
• 24:56
  The button's broken.
• 24:59
  That doesn't bother me anymore.
• 25:01
  Whether it does or doesn't, it doesn't bother
• 25:02
  me anymore.
• 25:03
  You're going to get them to think that,
• 25:04
  and then they're going to stop it.
• 25:07
  You control what happens, ladies and gentlemen.
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  You're the one.
• 25:11
  You're the pilot.
• 25:12
  You're the one in command of your life.
• 25:14
  You are your creator.
• 25:18
  You're your creator.
• 25:18
  You create the world.
• 25:20
  And I know sometimes when we ask for
• 25:23
  things, they don't exactly come in the moment
• 25:25
  or second we want.
• 25:27
  But I've learned that if we're intentional, if
• 25:30
  we're grateful, and we're consistent, and keep showing
• 25:33
  up, life does get a little bit easier
• 25:37
  each day.
• 25:39
  Until eventually, we reach our goals.
• 25:43
  And then we realize everything we've done was
• 25:47
  all worth it.
• 25:49
  It all led up to this amazing moment
• 25:51
  in our life.
• 25:55
  This amazing moment.
• 25:56
  This moment that's changing who we are right
• 25:59
  before our very eyes.
• 26:01
  Okay?
• 26:02
  That's the key, guys.
• 26:04
  That's the ultimate key.
• 26:07
  And maybe you're looking at this, you're saying
• 26:09
  to me, hey, John, I deal with this
• 26:12
  every day.
• 26:12
  My way of handling it is to just
• 26:15
  walk away.
• 26:16
  That's fine.
• 26:18
  But I don't want you to do something
• 26:20
  that's going to cause you to lose energy
• 26:22
  in your life.
• 26:24
  Right?
• 26:26
  Let this roll off your back like cold
• 26:29
  or warm water in a shower.
• 26:34
  It has no value.
• 26:35
  When you detach from something, that thing has
• 26:40
  no more control or value over you.
• 26:42
  Does that make some sense?
• 26:43
  I mean, I hope it does.
• 26:45
  When you're in a situation, you're like, oh
• 26:46
  my gosh, I actually get this.
• 26:48
  Now I know how this happens.
• 26:50
  Yeah, you know what happens.
• 26:53
  Ladies and gentlemen, if you don't know who
• 26:54
  I am by now, allow me to introduce
• 26:56
  myself.
• 26:57
  I am John C.
• 26:59
  Morland.
• 26:59
  And this has been another amazing, powerful episode
• 27:03
  of the ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life
• 27:05
  show.
• 27:08
  The show right now, ladies and gentlemen, is
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  in its fifth year.
• 27:12
  In just a few more months, we'll be
• 27:15
  wrapping up the fifth year.
• 27:16
  We'll be starting S6, season six.
• 27:20
  I thank you so much for choosing to
• 27:22
  spend this precious time with me.
• 27:25
  Please make the decision right now to take
• 27:28
  back control of how you respond in life.
• 27:31
  And don't ever let somebody else's chaos decide
• 27:35
  who you're going to be.
• 27:37
  I think sometimes we do this because we
• 27:40
  feel like we're under pressure.
• 27:42
  And if we don't, well, we're going to
• 27:45
  be left behind.
• 27:47
  You're not.
• 27:48
  That's just the pressure of people trying to
• 27:50
  get you to do what they want.
• 27:52
  That's their coercion.
• 27:54
  That's their creative manipulation.
• 27:57
  Ladies and gentlemen, please do check out BelieveMeAchieved
• 27:59
  .com.
• 28:00
  I'll see you on another show real soon.
• 28:01
  Be well, everyone.