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- 0:00Speaker 1: If you know me, you know that I am all
- 0:02Speaker 1: about gratitude. And I heard a quote many years ago
- 0:06Speaker 1: that forever changed the way I see and experience my day,
- 0:10Speaker 1: and that is that nothing new comes into your life
- 0:14Speaker 1: unless you are grateful.
- 0:16Speaker 2: For what you have. Now.
- 0:18Speaker 1: When I heard that quote from Michael beckw With, it
- 0:21Speaker 1: helped me to realize and reshape how I would appreciate
- 0:26Speaker 1: the moments that I would have. And so that's why
- 0:29Speaker 1: I come on this podcast once and again to remind
- 0:32Speaker 1: you the importance of gratitude and taking moments, making moments
- 0:38Speaker 1: to be grateful. So I want you to be intentional
- 0:41Speaker 1: the remainder of this month, really the remainder of this year,
- 0:46Speaker 1: to make room for gratitude. Think about the moments this
- 0:50Speaker 1: year alone that have brought you joy. Even those moments
- 0:54Speaker 1: that have brought you pause, those moments where you had
- 0:58Speaker 1: to kind of go off to be alone by yourself,
- 1:02Speaker 1: those are moments of gratitude. Those are moments that you
- 1:06Speaker 1: were learning something, that you were living through something, moments
- 1:10Speaker 1: that now you can share as a testimony to someone else.
- 1:14Speaker 1: Those moments aren't lost. And that's what gratitude allows you
- 1:17Speaker 1: to do, is to look at those moments as raw
- 1:20Speaker 1: as gritty as they were, and recognize there's beauty, there's goodness,
- 1:24Speaker 1: and there are gifts in that, and that's what this
- 1:27Speaker 1: is all about. Hello, my friends from all across the globe,
- 1:49Speaker 1: and welcome to the Orines Self Contact. I am your host,
- 1:54Speaker 1: Maleine Noir. I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach
- 1:59Speaker 1: and here on this we talk about mindset fusion topics,
- 2:04Speaker 1: because everything that you do today, everything that you will
- 2:08Speaker 1: ever do, starts with your thoughts. Your thoughts then inspire
- 2:13Speaker 1: your words. Those words spoken lead to your action and
- 2:18Speaker 1: the activity that you're going to take and make out
- 2:20Speaker 1: in this world. And so I want you to be
- 2:24Speaker 1: more of your enriched self, and in order to do that,
- 2:28Speaker 1: it starts with enriching your thoughts. And so that's what
- 2:32Speaker 1: we do each and every week on a podcast. So
- 2:34Speaker 1: I want to welcome you. If you are new here,
- 2:37Speaker 1: I know that you are brought here on purpose for
- 2:40Speaker 1: a purpose, and if you're a repeat listener, I want
- 2:43Speaker 1: to thank you for being on this journey of enriching yourself,
- 2:48Speaker 1: enriching your lives and sharing this journey and the wealth
- 2:52Speaker 1: of what we do here on the podcast with your
- 2:54Speaker 1: friends and family. Now, before we get into the episode,
- 2:58Speaker 1: Each and every week, I'm a deposit into the bank
- 3:02Speaker 1: of you, and I do that by way of affirmations.
- 3:08Speaker 1: Affirmations are a great way to start your day and
- 3:14Speaker 1: to command your mourning. And this week's affirmation is I
- 3:23Speaker 1: am grateful for the good people in my life. I
- 3:30Speaker 1: am grateful for the good people in my life. I
- 3:37Speaker 1: am grateful for the good people in my life. Now,
- 3:44Speaker 1: let's get ready for this week's episode of the Your
- 3:48Speaker 1: Enriched Self podcast. This week, I'm excited to bring you
- 3:55Speaker 1: a timeless classic from the archives on guests, what gratitude?
- 4:02Speaker 1: And Yes, gratitude has a purpose yesterday, today, tomorrow and forever.
- 4:16Speaker 1: It is time for you to take a breath. When
- 4:19Speaker 1: was the last time you just did some deep breathing
- 4:24Speaker 1: on purpose? So that's what we're gonna do. We're gonna
- 4:27Speaker 1: start off by taking some time to mellow it out.
- 4:31Speaker 1: I know what week this is, I know what's ahead.
- 4:35Speaker 1: It is tiss the season for all of the things
- 4:37Speaker 1: to happen. But we're gonna tiss this moment, okay, and
- 4:42Speaker 1: take a moment to breathe. So we're gonna take a
- 4:46Speaker 1: deep breath in an exhale. Do it one more time,
- 4:55Speaker 1: deep breath in, exhale, and let's just do it one
- 5:04Speaker 1: last time. A deep breath in, take it really really
- 5:08Speaker 1: deep this time, go deep and exhale. I don't know
- 5:20Speaker 1: about you, but that made me feel a ton better.
- 5:24Speaker 1: That is a moment of gratitude. That is a moment
- 5:27Speaker 1: of thanksgiving. And I wanted to gift you with that
- 5:29Speaker 1: because we don't take and make these moments enough. And
- 5:34Speaker 1: that's why this week's episode is so timely, it's so relevant,
- 5:38Speaker 1: it's so important, and I want you to make gratitude
- 5:43Speaker 1: part of your daily experience and take those breaths and
- 5:47Speaker 1: take a moment to be grateful for the fact that
- 5:50Speaker 1: you can take a breath. I mean, statistically, we know
- 5:54Speaker 1: that there are people dying every day, certainly all throughout
- 6:00Speaker 1: the day. People are leaving this realm of reality and
- 6:04Speaker 1: going somewhere else, and so it's so important that we
- 6:08Speaker 1: take the moments that we get, and we get this
- 6:10Speaker 1: moment we get to be here. So if it's not
- 6:13Speaker 1: enough to be grateful, if it's not enough to be thankful,
- 6:16Speaker 1: there's science behind it, and I want you to get
- 6:18Speaker 1: behind those statistics. I want you to get the scientific
- 6:21Speaker 1: benefits of gratitude, thankfulness, gratefulness, all of those things. And
- 6:27Speaker 1: that's what we're going to get into this in this
- 6:28Speaker 1: week's episode. You're probably listening to this episode on your
- 6:33Speaker 1: way to work, on your way home from work, on
- 6:37Speaker 1: your way to the grocery store, on your way to something,
- 6:40Speaker 1: or maybe you're at home. That might be the best
- 6:42Speaker 1: case scenario, to just be at home chilling or just
- 6:46Speaker 1: relaxing and not giving yourself a moment not to do anything,
- 6:49Speaker 1: whatever it is that you're doing. Here's the thing about it.
- 6:53Speaker 1: I want you to think about it like this. This
- 6:55Speaker 1: is the first little mindset hack of the episode. I
- 7:01Speaker 1: want you to think, I get to do this. I
- 7:05Speaker 1: get to put my feet up while I listen to
- 7:08Speaker 1: this podcast. I get to sit here and listen to
- 7:11Speaker 1: this podcast. I get to drive in my car going
- 7:15Speaker 1: to the store listening to this podcast. I get to
- 7:22Speaker 1: there's so many people right now who don't have their
- 7:26Speaker 1: own place, that are struggling in life one way, shape
- 7:31Speaker 1: or another. We get to do this, and I want
- 7:37Speaker 1: you to start finding those moments every day to be
- 7:41Speaker 1: grateful things, to be grateful for, scenarios, to be grateful for, yeah,
- 7:47Speaker 1: you're driving into work, but you have a job, you
- 7:51Speaker 1: have a career, you have an opportunity, you're able to
- 7:54Speaker 1: provide for your family. All in that I get to
- 7:59Speaker 1: be here, I get to go to work. And I
- 8:02Speaker 1: know that's hard when there's traffic and there's all the
- 8:05Speaker 1: different elements of the morning or the afternoon when you
- 8:08Speaker 1: have to get home, but you still get to do it.
- 8:11Speaker 1: And we need to get into the mindset of living
- 8:16Speaker 1: for thankfulness. We need to get into this mindset of gratitude.
- 8:20Speaker 1: So my question for you today is are you living
- 8:24Speaker 1: a life of thankfulness? Your work this week, while on
- 8:29Speaker 1: the podcast and most definitely when you leave the podcast
- 8:32Speaker 1: is to have intentional thankfulness. And what that simply means
- 8:37Speaker 1: is look for reasons to be thankful. We live in
- 8:41Speaker 1: a culture where we look for reasons to be offended.
- 8:46Speaker 1: Oftentimes we find those reasons, and quite frequently we act
- 8:51Speaker 1: on those reasons when we find them. What if we
- 8:54Speaker 1: did the same with thankfulness. What if we were intentional
- 8:59Speaker 1: about finding moments, reasons opportunities to be thankful and expressing
- 9:05Speaker 1: them as such. For example, when you wake up each day,
- 9:11Speaker 1: what are the thoughts that you have about the things
- 9:13Speaker 1: that you are thankful for. I know for me, one
- 9:16Speaker 1: of the first things I think about is I can
- 9:18Speaker 1: get up and move. A few years ago, a family
- 9:22Speaker 1: member of mine had a tragic incident that forever changed
- 9:28Speaker 1: how she would have to deal with mobility. And it
- 9:32Speaker 1: was in a crucial time of her life. There was
- 9:34Speaker 1: a lot of family life events happening, and it slowed
- 9:39Speaker 1: down her ability to move and navigate through her life,
- 9:42Speaker 1: something that she was used to. And I know she's
- 9:45Speaker 1: not the only person. There are many people that are
- 9:48Speaker 1: dealing with or have dealt with, mobility issues. And so
- 9:52Speaker 1: I remember once I was walking up Stone Mountain and
- 9:55Speaker 1: I started thinking about her, and quite frankly, a core
- 10:00Speaker 1: her of mine had a similar injury. Believe it or not,
- 10:03Speaker 1: she was in a position that compromised her mobility so
- 10:07Speaker 1: she could move around the way she was used to.
- 10:11Speaker 1: And so when I was taking that walk up Stone Mountain,
- 10:13Speaker 1: which for me, I don't know about you, but it's
- 10:15Speaker 1: always a challenge for me to go up the mountain,
- 10:19Speaker 1: And every time I wanted to complain, or thought about complaining,
- 10:24Speaker 1: or looked at the challenge ahead, I thought about the
- 10:27Speaker 1: people like her, like this coworker, like this family member
- 10:31Speaker 1: and maybe even like you right now, where mobility is
- 10:34Speaker 1: a challenge was a challenge, and so we.
- 10:37Speaker 2: Get to.
- 10:39Speaker 1: It's all about recognizing those moments. And I don't know
- 10:45Speaker 1: if you've ever done this. I tried this before and
- 10:48Speaker 1: it works. This is another mindset hack. I'm just gonna
- 10:52Speaker 1: be throwing out these mindset hacks throughout the episode. This
- 10:55Speaker 1: is another mindset hack. Count your blessings. And I know
- 10:59Speaker 1: people say it, they say counter blessings, You should count
- 11:03Speaker 1: your blessings. I'm talking about literally counting your blessings, getting
- 11:07Speaker 1: a piece of paper, a pen, and writing out all
- 11:11Speaker 1: the things that you were blessed with. You don't have
- 11:14Speaker 1: to do it over the course of your life or
- 11:16Speaker 1: the last ten years or this last year, but do
- 11:19Speaker 1: it for this week. Do counter blessings of this day.
- 11:24Speaker 1: I was able to get up, I was able to
- 11:26Speaker 1: get to work, My family is doing well. You're not
- 11:31Speaker 1: rushing to the er. Listen. I had to do that
- 11:33Speaker 1: a few weeks back at a family member that I
- 11:36Speaker 1: had to be in the er with. And I'm still
- 11:39Speaker 1: counting my blessings because what I thought was an emergent
- 11:43Speaker 1: situation or could have been life threatening turns out it
- 11:47Speaker 1: wasn't thankful grateful, And I think we don't take a
- 11:52Speaker 1: moment to count our blessings. We tend to look at
- 11:56Speaker 1: the things that we don't have or the things that
- 11:59Speaker 1: didn't go well. But keep in mind there are many
- 12:03Speaker 1: avenues in this life where things can go. Yes, I
- 12:07Speaker 1: ended up in the er, but the reality is my
- 12:10Speaker 1: family member was okay. I was able to take them
- 12:12Speaker 1: home with me. There are people that don't get to
- 12:14Speaker 1: do that. They go for what they think is a
- 12:18Speaker 1: routine and then there's some surgery or some requirement, or
- 12:22Speaker 1: some ailment or some disease that no one accounted for.
- 12:26Speaker 1: That's how quickly life can change for us. And so
- 12:29Speaker 1: that's why we need to spend time in this space.
- 12:32Speaker 1: That's why this episode is so important. It's a heartfelt
- 12:35Speaker 1: episode for me. So if I go down the road
- 12:37Speaker 1: to passion, it's because I've been there, done that, and
- 12:40Speaker 1: I recognize the beauty. And now I want to show
- 12:45Speaker 1: you the science behind gratitude. So there was a study
- 12:51Speaker 1: in two thy twelve about the benefits of gratitude and
- 12:56Speaker 1: physical health. It talked about the things that people who
- 13:01Speaker 1: are grateful experience. Number one, less aches, and pains. Who's
- 13:09Speaker 1: gonna sign up for that?
- 13:10Speaker 2: Me?
- 13:12Speaker 1: They have a better help report about feeling healthier. They
- 13:16Speaker 1: also are intentional about taking care of their health, and
- 13:21Speaker 1: they exercise more often. It's almost like the more grateful
- 13:26Speaker 1: you are, the more you take care of these paces
- 13:28Speaker 1: in your life. So these people are more prone to
- 13:32Speaker 1: do more exercise, they do more regular doctor check ins,
- 13:37Speaker 1: there's a greater sense of self awareness. These are all
- 13:42Speaker 1: the benefits of gratitude. They care about their bodies, and
- 13:50Speaker 1: big one, it contributes to enhanced life longevity. I mean,
- 13:57Speaker 1: let's just stop and pause right there. That's just the
- 13:59Speaker 1: phizzy equal benefits of gratitude. Let's talk about the psychological
- 14:05Speaker 1: and the mental benefits. Number one, it reduces a multitude
- 14:13Speaker 1: of toxic feelings, reduces toxic feelings, increases happiness, reduces this depression. Also,
- 14:25Speaker 1: this person is absorbed by putting themselves in opportunities to
- 14:31Speaker 1: challenge themselves with fulfilling activities and finding ways to meet
- 14:37Speaker 1: set and meet new goals. And in general, this person
- 14:42Speaker 1: learns how to be more grateful. These are all great
- 14:50Speaker 1: reasons and benefits around gratitude, and I want you to
- 14:56Speaker 1: hold on to that. I mean, who's not going to
- 14:59Speaker 1: show up up to get the benefits of their physical,
- 15:04Speaker 1: mental health, and psychological health just from practicing gratitude. Now,
- 15:11Speaker 1: I know we talked about the benefits, but let's talk
- 15:13Speaker 1: about the practical things that you can do to help
- 15:18Speaker 1: get those benefits, to reap those benefits. So let's talk
- 15:23Speaker 1: about three ways to express gratitude. And we're gonna break
- 15:26Speaker 1: it down into past, present, and future. And we're gonna
- 15:29Speaker 1: take it from a positive perspective. I know when we
- 15:33Speaker 1: think about for many of us, when we think about
- 15:35Speaker 1: the past, we always go back to the negative things, right,
- 15:38Speaker 1: We go back to the negative moments in time. Even
- 15:41Speaker 1: when you think about history, right, we always go back
- 15:43Speaker 1: to the negative things. When you think about the present, again,
- 15:45Speaker 1: you're looking at how bad your current situation is. And
- 15:49Speaker 1: when we think about the future, we have so much uncertainty,
- 15:51Speaker 1: so many unknowns, and it makes us so increases our anxiety.
- 15:56Speaker 2: But let's take.
- 15:58Speaker 1: A pause, just like we did at the top of
- 16:00Speaker 1: the episode, from a past perspective, recall some of the
- 16:06Speaker 1: positive memories, some of the things that you can be
- 16:10Speaker 1: thankful for, some of your past blessings. Maybe it's the
- 16:15Speaker 1: relationship you are in right now. And I'm not talking
- 16:18Speaker 1: about your physical relationship or your sexual relationship. It could
- 16:23Speaker 1: be the relationship you have with yourself. As we evolve
- 16:27Speaker 1: and get better at being in relation with others, I
- 16:31Speaker 1: think it starts with us being in relation with ourselves.
- 16:34Speaker 1: And I know for me, my relationship with my spouse
- 16:38Speaker 1: got better when I started getting into better relationship with myself.
- 16:43Speaker 1: And so again it starts with looking back at where
- 16:47Speaker 1: was I in that past situation and what were some
- 16:51Speaker 1: of those past blessings that got me to this point now.
- 16:55Speaker 1: And speaking of this point now meaning the present, express
- 16:58Speaker 1: gratitude for looking at those moments in time right now
- 17:04Speaker 1: that you don't take for granted. I remember a couple
- 17:09Speaker 1: years ago, actually last year, my whole family was down
- 17:13Speaker 1: during COVID, and I know families right now that are
- 17:16Speaker 1: dealing with the flu and all these different you know,
- 17:19Speaker 1: trifecta of pandemics that are happening in the community, in
- 17:24Speaker 1: the world, and in your own household. And right now,
- 17:27Speaker 1: if you are breathing and you don't have a stuffy nose,
- 17:30Speaker 1: a runny nose, watery eyes dealing with COVID or some
- 17:34Speaker 1: other respiratory something that's going on right now in this moment,
- 17:39Speaker 1: be grateful for that. So be grateful, express gratitude for
- 17:44Speaker 1: the moment you're in now. And then finally the future.
- 17:47Speaker 1: And again, so many people get anxiety about the future,
- 17:50Speaker 1: like what's going to happen to me? Like what's going
- 17:52Speaker 1: to go on with my job opportunities or my business
- 17:55Speaker 1: or you know, my career, all the things that are happening,
- 17:59Speaker 1: my family, relationships, my finances, my health. Everybody's thinking so
- 18:05Speaker 1: far ahead. What if you just had a positive thought
- 18:08Speaker 1: process about your future. Pause for the cause, and the
- 18:12Speaker 1: cause is gratitude. Have a moment of reflection to know that, Listen,
- 18:19Speaker 1: I started something and I'm so optimistic. Let's keep this
- 18:23Speaker 1: thing going till the end of the year. Let's finish strong.
- 18:27Speaker 1: And so again I just want you to think about
- 18:30Speaker 1: just practical things you can do, past, present, and future
- 18:34Speaker 1: to improve and increase your attitude of gratitude. As we're
- 18:40Speaker 1: wrapping up this episode, I want to leave you with
- 18:43Speaker 1: a few ways that you can cultivate an environment of gratitude.
- 18:50Speaker 1: And number one is, and we talked about this earlier,
- 18:54Speaker 1: count your blessings. So take out a sheet of paper,
- 18:56Speaker 1: get a pen, and number at one to ten, maybe
- 18:59Speaker 1: just with ten blessings, five blessings. Write them out, because again,
- 19:04Speaker 1: we get so trapped in this world, especially when you
- 19:08Speaker 1: look around and it looks like everybody's blessed with more things.
- 19:12Speaker 1: Focus on your blessings. Count your blessings. Count the blessings
- 19:16Speaker 1: of this day, Count the blessings of this week, Count
- 19:19Speaker 1: the blessings of this month. However you need to do it,
- 19:22Speaker 1: spend some time counting your blessings. I promise you when
- 19:25Speaker 1: you emerge from that exercise, you are going to feel
- 19:28Speaker 1: immensely better about what you have going on in your
- 19:31Speaker 1: life right now, not past, not future, but you're present.
- 19:37Speaker 1: The other thing to do is, and this is a
- 19:41Speaker 1: wonderful exercise, there has got to be one person that
- 19:46Speaker 1: you can write a thank you note to. And I'm
- 19:48Speaker 1: not talking about sending them a text message or doing
- 19:53Speaker 1: some digital thank you, which I know.
- 19:55Speaker 2: Is the way our world works.
- 19:58Speaker 1: But you will brighten some one's day if you go
- 20:02Speaker 1: to the dollar tree which is now a dollar twenty five,
- 20:06Speaker 1: or you pull out one of the thank you cards
- 20:09Speaker 1: and I know you bought a little box up because
- 20:10Speaker 1: I know I have several of those, and you handwrite
- 20:14Speaker 1: someone the mail carrier. It can be somebody like that,
- 20:18Speaker 1: or it can be someone that had a significant impact
- 20:22Speaker 1: on you with you, a friend that stood by you,
- 20:26Speaker 1: a person that picked up the phone, a person that
- 20:28Speaker 1: checked in. I don't know. There are multitude of ways
- 20:32Speaker 1: and reasons for you to create a thank you note.
- 20:35Speaker 1: Why not do it? Not only will you feel good
- 20:39Speaker 1: to pour into that cup, but you will be a giver.
- 20:45Speaker 1: And in this world of takers, we need more givers.
- 20:49Speaker 1: So please please be the giver. But I know there's someone,
- 20:54Speaker 1: is what I'm saying. There's someone in your life, a coworker,
- 20:57Speaker 1: a friend, a neighbor that you can write and pen
- 21:01Speaker 1: a thank you card for. So that's what this week's
- 21:05Speaker 1: episode is all about. I wanted you to get the
- 21:08Speaker 1: science behind gratitude. I wanted you to appreciate this process
- 21:13Speaker 1: of thankfulness and gratitude because we often miss it. So
- 21:18Speaker 1: take some time this week with yourself, find reasons to
- 21:21Speaker 1: be grateful, be intentional about it, and keep that consistency going.
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