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Episode 702: No Contact Not Working? Do THIS Next! · The Art of Love With Lucia

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  One of the top three questions my clients often ask me, besides
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  what you think my chances are of getting my ex back, is what else
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  can I do besides no contact? And this of course makes me
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  laugh because I'm giving you the most powerful tool in the X fact
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  toolbox and yet you still think it's not enough.
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  I understand it's because of your anxiety along with the
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  illusion of action. You're not used to doing
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  nothing, so you think that taking action is what's going to
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  get your ex back. So if you're in no contact and
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  it doesn't seem to be working, what else can you do?
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  Stay tuned and you'll find out. Hi, this is Lucia with the Art
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  of Love. I'm a dating and relationship
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  expert specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
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  over your ex. And welcome back my beautiful no
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  contact Army. Have you been a good little
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  soldier? Well, if you have, then you have
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  not only downloaded my app Silencio, but you've given me
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  either a review or a rating or both and you just go to the App
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  Store or Google Play and it'll take you 30 seconds and I would
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  really appreciate it. And if you too would like to
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  join our no Contact Army, just hit the subscribe button and the
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  bell notification. And to read our no Contact Army
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  manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
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  can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
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  OK, so you're thinking that no contact didn't work because you
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  haven't heard from your ex. The first thing you need to ask
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  yourself is how long have you been in no contact?
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  I know that every day feels like 100 days, but if you haven't
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  been in no contact long enough for it to work, then of course
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  it's going to look like it didn't work.
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  It didn't do its magic. And I see people in the comments
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  section all the time saying well I've been in no contact and I
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  haven't heard from my ex. And then I say well how long
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  have you been in no contact? And they say 3 weeks.
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  That's way too soon. I've done a video on when you're
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  most likely to hear from your ex titled the 60 day no contact
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  rule and I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner and
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  basically the majority of people will hear from their ex between
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  days 45 to 60 after they start no contact.
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  So that's 6 to 8 weeks. Yes, I know that's a long time,
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  but that's just how long it takes.
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  So if it hasn't even been 60 days, then there's no way that
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  you can say that no contact didn't work.
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  And even then, if you're dealing with an avoidant, or if this was
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  the second breakup, or if you kept breaking no contact, or so
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  many other variables, it will most likely take even longer
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  than 60 days. Also, are you even doing no
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  contact correctly? Do you keep breaking it?
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  Are you still looking at their stories?
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  Are you talking to mutual friends about how miserable you
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  are and that you want your ex back?
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  If you're doing any of those things, you're breaking no
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  contact, so of course it's not working.
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  No tool is going to work if you're not using it correctly.
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  So I suggest you check out my video on the rules of no contact
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  to make sure that you're doing it correctly.
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  And I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner on
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  YouTube in the videos because you're if you're on YouTube and
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  you're listening to the podcast version, there is no link as
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  someone asked. So you'll have to hop over to
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  the video section. Now keep in mind that they could
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  very well be thinking about you every day and missing you and
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  wanting to reach out, but something is stopping them.
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  Maybe it's because usually you were the chaser in the
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  relationship and they figure that at some point you're going
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  to reach out even though they dumped you.
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  Or maybe they're in a rebound right now.
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  And in that case, you'll have to wait until that rebound is over
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  before they'll think about reaching out to you.
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  And of course, I did a video on rebounds and I'll put the link
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  in the upper right hand corner. Next we have to define what not
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  working means. So if as time goes by you become
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  stronger and you realize that actually you don't even want
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  your X back, that they weren't the right person for you, that
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  you deserve better than no contact, absolutely work.
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  It may not have worked to get your ex back, but it worked to
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  get you back. And that's more important.
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  Losing someone is difficult, but losing yourself is even worse.
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  And when you get yourself back, you'll finally be able to
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  clearly see that they weren't the right person for you.
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  Possibly, and you're able to make a more rational decision
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  about whether you would even want to get back with them or
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  not. My client was in no contact for
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  seven months when his ex finally reached out after not sending
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  even 1 little breadcrumb the entire seven months.
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  Now, unfortunately for his ex, he had met someone two weeks
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  earlier and he decided that he preferred her and they're
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  actually still together to this day and it looks like they're
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  going to get married. So in this case, in this case,
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  it's actually good that no contact didn't quote UN quote
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  work because it allowed him to move on and meet his future
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  wife. So no contact absolutely did
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  work because it kept his ex away until he could meet someone who
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  was better suited for him. So if after listening to all
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  this, you're still one of those people who will not rest until
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  you absolutely do something besides no contact, OK, here are
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  two things you can do that will, let's say, motivate your ex to
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  reach out to you. The first one is to manifest a
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  text from your ex which I've done several videos on.
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  And for those who don't think it's possible, I want to show
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  you this screenshot from a non believer.
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  And he said either all of you are lying and he's talking to
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  the people who left comments underneath the video saying that
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  they had heard from their ex after doing the meditation.
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  Lying about getting the text or the chia is Kreskin.
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  I'm not Kreskin. And for those of you who are
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  wondering who the heck is Kreskin?
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  He was a mentalist similar to who David Blaine is today.
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  Well if you see below that comment, two days later he
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  writes Well well, well, I owe you an apology.
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  She texted me asking how I am. I just love it when people are
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  non believers and then they prove themselves wrong.
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  So why not try it? What do you have to lose?
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  So I'll put the link to the video on how to manifest a text
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  on the upper right hand corner on the YouTube video section,
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  not the podcast. And then the second meditation
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  is the one to call your energy back from your ex.
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  Whether you realize it or not, your ex can still feel your
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  energy and feel you hanging on. And often when you call your
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  power back, they feel it and they reach out.
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  No contact isn't just about cutting off communication, it's
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  also about shifting from a place of waiting to a place of moving
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  on with your life. The minute you generally detach,
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  your energy instantly shifts, and quite often your ex will
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  feel that shift. This is why people often report
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  hearing from their ex when they finally let go and moved on.
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  But if you're not yet at the point where you can let go, you
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  can at least call your energy back with this meditation and
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  your ex will still feel it and will still feel like you are
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  moving on. And I have some screenshots of
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  that from some comments under the video.
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  And one said texted me a day later after almost 3 weeks.
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  And then the other one says, my ex reached out after two days,
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  two days after I did this meditation, after 106 days of no
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  contacts. So over three months, it can't
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  be a coincidence that all of a sudden she does this meditation
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  to let go and the X pops up. OK, so I'll put the link to that
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  video in the upper right hand corner.
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  And if you have my apps Silencio, both meditations are
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  available in the premium version of the app.
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  And then finally, keep in mind that if you don't hear from them
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  at a certain point, you can reach out to them.
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  Yes, that's right. However, I suggest that you do
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  it under certain guidelines, which are either nine months
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  have gone by since you've been in contact or you're emotionally
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  not attached to the outcome. So you're not emotionally
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  attached, meaning if you reach out and you get back together,
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  great. And if you don't get back
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  together, that's fine too. You're neutral, you're
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  Switzerland. But don't lie to yourself about
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  being ready and not being emotionally attached to the
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  outcome just so you can reach out to them.
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  I will definitely not do it any sooner than six months.
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  However, if you're still emotionally attached, you can
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  try after nine months, but be prepared to possibly be
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  rejected. And I don't know if I can put
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  any more links to videos, but if I can, then I will put the link
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  in the upper right hand corner. But otherwise you can search it.
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  It's called yes, you can break no contact.
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  So now I want to hear from you. How long have you been in no
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  contact? And do you feel like it's
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  working or not? And in the meantime, if you
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  would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
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  theartoflove.net/coaching and we will send you the rates.
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  They're not on the website. And the direct link to that is
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  underneath every single video and podcast.
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  If you found this video helpful, I would appreciate if you would
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  episode. And then finally, remember, love
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