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245. Time's UP · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: I have a question for you. If you were a
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  Speaker 1: landlord and you had a tenant who wasn't paying rent,
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  Speaker 1: and as a matter of fact, they had maybe a
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  Speaker 1: few months of rent that they had not paid, what
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  Speaker 1: would be your next move. This is not a trick question.
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  Speaker 1: I think many of you would say, I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: have to evict that tenant. Why there's the evidence they
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  Speaker 1: have proved themselves unworthy, unreliable, and unwilling for whatever reason
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  Speaker 1: to not keep the contract. They're breaching a contract they
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  Speaker 1: made because more than likely you had them sign a
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  Speaker 1: lease agreement or a rental agreement that they would pay
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  Speaker 1: at a certain day every single month, and right now,
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  Speaker 1: for several months, they have not made that payment. And
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  Speaker 1: so now you are left because you're still responsible for
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  Speaker 1: this property, the maintenance of it, taking care of the
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  Speaker 1: bills that are part of this property that you own.
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  Speaker 1: But the person that you came into agreement with that
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  Speaker 1: you guys, and that person signed the dotted line to
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  Speaker 1: say yes I will, is now not responsible and responding
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  Speaker 1: to the things that are part of that contract. I
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  Speaker 1: think you would do that meaning evict that person, without
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  Speaker 1: feeling like you are a bad person, because what you're
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  Speaker 1: doing is you're keeping them accountable to what they legally
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  Speaker 1: agreed to. And that's how things work when you come
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  Speaker 1: into agreement with things. So I think we all can
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  Speaker 1: agree that that would be the move. But let me
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  Speaker 1: ask you this. What happens when you have thoughts in
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  Speaker 1: your mind that are wicked, that step on you as
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  Speaker 1: a person, that remind you of maybe a moment of
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  Speaker 1: shame or weakness, or even a failure. Why do you
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  Speaker 1: allow those thoughts to stay and live in your mind?
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  Speaker 1: Rent Free? I'm asking you because if we apply the
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  Speaker 1: same principle for that tenant who refuses to pay, is
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  Speaker 1: adding no value, causing you, the landlord, lots of pain,
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  Speaker 1: lots of challenges that are unnecessary. Why wouldn't you do
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  Speaker 1: the same for those thoughts in your mind that should
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  Speaker 1: be evicted but you haven't taken those steps. I want
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  Speaker 1: to talk to you about those tenants that are living
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  Speaker 1: in your mind, rent Free, and I know you know
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  Speaker 1: what they are. I know you know the things that
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  Speaker 1: are plaguing you. I know you know the things that
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  Speaker 1: make you feel terrible about yourself. I know you know
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  Speaker 1: those things that stay on repeat. But you can't afford
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  Speaker 1: that anymore. Remember this is a tenant, think of them,
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  Speaker 1: whatever that thought is, whatever that particular tenant is, that
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  Speaker 1: is drowning you, that is literally burying you in your
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  Speaker 1: own property. For a long time, for me, that was fear.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, fear was a tenant that had hooked
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  Speaker 1: me in. It had stuck its claws in me. It
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  Speaker 1: had stayed overwhelmingly, way too long in my life. Would
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  Speaker 1: not leave, would not budge, and continued to anchor me
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  Speaker 1: lower and lower. I just couldn't lift myself up with
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  Speaker 1: this heavy anger of fear. It didn't serve me. It
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  Speaker 1: kept me back. It stagnated me. In some cases, it
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  Speaker 1: even prevented me from doing something that would be really
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  Speaker 1: important and significant to my future. There were steps I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't take. There were places I wouldn't go, There were
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  Speaker 1: rooms I wouldn't sit in. There were moments I would
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  Speaker 1: stay silent because it had its grips on me, and
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  Speaker 1: perhaps it has its grips on you. You won't do
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  Speaker 1: the thing, you won't say the thing, you won't be
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  Speaker 1: the thing, or be the person or become because you're
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  Speaker 1: afraid of what other people will say, of how horrible
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  Speaker 1: you could look if this happens of how terrible you
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  Speaker 1: might sound if you say it, and so you just
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  Speaker 1: remain silent. And this tenant has its tentacles gripped on you,
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  Speaker 1: and there's not a way for you to move or
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  Speaker 1: go or grow or become, And so you stay silent
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  Speaker 1: and you stay stagnated and you're not growing. That's one
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  Speaker 1: tenant I can tell you about, and I'm sure you
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  Speaker 1: have others too. I think the other one for me,
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  Speaker 1: and this it's gonna sound like an oxymoron, but I
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  Speaker 1: love a good challenge. I love a good challenge, and
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  Speaker 1: I love to get you to think about things in
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  Speaker 1: different ways. The other one for me was yes, and
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  Speaker 1: there is power and yes. But sometimes when you give
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  Speaker 1: away a yes, it's going to cost you. And there's
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  Speaker 1: some yeses that are so expensive you are now bankrupt
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  Speaker 1: because you've been robbed by that yes. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about, over committing yourself, saying yes way too frequently,
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  Speaker 1: way too easy, and giving it away to everybody, like
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  Speaker 1: your Oprah giving away the car back in the nineties.
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  Speaker 1: I think everybody's seeing that you get a car, you
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  Speaker 1: get a car, or you've heard of it, and you
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  Speaker 1: give everybody your yes, and it becomes a very expensive
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  Speaker 1: transaction because at the end of that transaction you get nothing,
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  Speaker 1: well you know what, you know what you get, You
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  Speaker 1: actually get drained, you get bankrupt, and that's mentally, physically, financially, spiritually.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it can cost you more than that. That's a
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  Speaker 1: challenging one because oftentimes people say yes. When you say yes,
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  Speaker 1: you open yourself up, you allow yourself to experience new
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  Speaker 1: things because you're saying yes to something. I'm just saying
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  Speaker 1: everything should not get your yes, and those yes decisions
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  Speaker 1: can be fit expensive experiences and outcomes for the yes
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  Speaker 1: may vary. You've got to think about how this tenant,
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  Speaker 1: this free agent of just doing everything. I mean, think
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  Speaker 1: about the tenant that invites everybody to come live with
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  Speaker 1: them because they can't say no. They say yes to everyone.
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  Speaker 1: But you're building does not. Your contract does not allow
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  Speaker 1: for seven people to live in a two bedroom. But
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  Speaker 1: this yes tenant keeps inviting people, keeps allowing people, keeps
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  Speaker 1: saying yes to any and every person that asks for
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  Speaker 1: a handout, not realizing that good deed to help someone
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  Speaker 1: in need. But it's violating the contract, it's breaking a
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  Speaker 1: state law, it's putting people in physical harm when you
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  Speaker 1: have a place that doesn't accommodate seven. It accommodates three
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  Speaker 1: or four, but you now have seven living in a
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  Speaker 1: place design for less than that. That's the cost that
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  Speaker 1: you pay when you go and you give away your Yes.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying not to say yes. I'm saying, be
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  Speaker 1: intentional about not drowning yourself in the debt of these tenants.
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  Speaker 1: I give you examples of the damage that happened to
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  Speaker 1: me and the damage that can happen for you to
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  Speaker 1: you if you don't acknowledge what tenant in your life
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  Speaker 1: isn't paying rent, and I need you to actively replace
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  Speaker 1: it with something that does. For me, the opposite of
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  Speaker 1: fear was turning to my faith and being very aware
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  Speaker 1: that there's a spirit of fear, and I didn't have
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  Speaker 1: to experience that because I had faith in the process,
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  Speaker 1: faith on my journey, faith in my creator. Those were
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  Speaker 1: the things that allowed me to unplug, to evict that
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  Speaker 1: spirit of fear and live in faith, live in trusting
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  Speaker 1: my process and knowing that I can count it all
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  Speaker 1: joy and that I can trans form my mind through
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  Speaker 1: this faith journey. On the other hand, the yes, what
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  Speaker 1: is the opposite of yes? Yeah, No, there are going
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  Speaker 1: to be instances, circumstances, situations, and even persons that it
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  Speaker 1: would be best if you said no to protect your peace,
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  Speaker 1: to protect your time, to protect your mindset. Again, it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean you say no to everything, but discernment, wisdom,
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  Speaker 1: knowledge and understanding will help you get there and do
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  Speaker 1: it in such a way to help you evict the
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  Speaker 1: things that no longer serve you and allow and embrace
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  Speaker 1: those things that do serve you. So this week, your
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  Speaker 1: challenge is to pick a toxic thought that has plagued
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  Speaker 1: your mind and your space and your life. And do
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  Speaker 1: you know what you need to do? Evicted? That's your work,
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  Speaker 1: that's your responsibility. Get it done. I hope you enjoyed
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