Latest / Age Like a Badass Mother / Ep. 52: Proven Practice to Release Negative Energy and Manifest Your Deepest Desires: Renowned Psychic Deborah Graham
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- 0:00This week is a fun and lighthearted episode with Deborah Graham, the star of the TLC series The Psychic Matchmaker, where Deborah shares six secrets to manifest wealth and success.
- 0:11Plus, she does a little reading for a guest.
- 0:14She is a character.
- 0:16You're going to love her, but she actually shares some really intriguing information.
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- 0:56Well now enjoy Deborah Graham.
- 0:59Hi friends, I'm Lauren Bernick and I'm flipping the script about growing older.
- 1:04My guests have been influencers since before that was even a thing.
- 1:09Welcome to the anti Anti-Aging podcast.
- 1:13Welcome to age like a badass mother.
- 1:19For more than 30 years, Deborah Graham has been predicting people's innermost thoughts and dreams, looking for answers.
- 1:25She is a professional spiritualist advisor and psychic matchmaker.
- 1:30As the star of the TLC series The Psychic Matchmaker, Graham is known throughout the US and in 150 countries.
- 1:38In 2023, she launched her podcast, The Psychic Connection with Deborah Graham.
- 1:43She also hosts a show on Sirius XM network by the same name.
- 1:47Today she's going to talk to us about manifesting health, wealth and success and do some readings.
- 1:53For more information, please visit psychic Deborah graham.com.
- 1:58Hello, welcome so much for having me.
- 2:01I really appreciate it.
- 2:03This is exciting.
- 2:03I really appreciate, man, me too.
- 2:06So, you know, I, I usually mark my podcasts explicit, but I just want to warn anybody who's driving around with kids like this might not be the one that they want to listen to, because, I've listened to Deborah.
- 2:19She is free flowing.
- 2:21And, I say it like it is.
- 2:23I give you what I call the good, the bad, the ugly, and then, like, call it a Deborah Graham enema.
- 2:27In between.
- 2:30Okay, I'm ready for my enema.
- 2:32T so should we.
- 2:36Do you want to start by doing readings, or do you want to start by questions?
- 2:40Whatever you want me to do, however you want to role.
- 2:42I'm here for you.
- 2:44Look. Well, let me just ask you a couple questions first.
- 2:46But how how did you first know that you were psychic?
- 2:49Well, I like to say it's a blessing and a curse because it's something I've been born with.
- 2:55I've been doing this for, oh, my God, almost 40 years now.
- 2:58And it is a third generation.
- 3:01It was my grandmother, my mother and me.
- 3:02So of course, when I started seeing things or having premonitions, like, most people would be like, take them to the psychiatrist, put them on, you know, some kind of medication to stop that because they're crazy in there elucidating.
- 3:13No, my mom, my grandma actually promoted it.
- 3:16They were like, okay, she has the ability to feel, to see, to no, to whatever.
- 3:20And the older I got, the stronger it became.
- 3:23So it came through visions.
- 3:23It came through dreams.
- 3:26I would speaking to loved ones that I've never met before.
- 3:29I've never met my grandpa.
- 3:31And I knew you know, what he looked like.
- 3:33I would say things.
- 3:33I would be talking to him.
- 3:36Of course I would see some things that were bad.
- 3:38I would say like, oh my God, the next door neighbor's house is going to catch on fire.
- 3:41I seen this vision and of course, a few days later it happened and it wasn't me, I'm telling you.
- 3:46So like crazy premonitions like that would happen.
- 3:49And then the older I got, it just became so much more potent.
- 3:52And this is within my life's work.
- 3:53And my life's purpose is to help people connect.
- 3:57I like to call myself the human weed whacker, the human.
- 4:02Why is the human weed whacker?
- 4:04So many people have so much cluttering in their life that they can't seem to get away from their own weeds, and what they do is they put these blockages in front of them, whether they're looking for love or finances or trying to raise their vibration or they just feel emotionally stuck.
- 4:19I basically help them muddle through that not only on a physical level, but a spiritual level, because I'm able to see your future and actually bring it into the present tense.
- 4:29So that's why I call myself a human weed whacker.
- 4:31I basically clear the way so they're able to be whole, perfect and complete, and actually root their self and start all over again.
- 4:38Because to me, there's no problems. There's only a solution.
- 4:41Oh, I like that.
- 4:42I like that there's only a solution.
- 4:44I, I was going to ask you if you had, you know, your mother or your grandmother or somebody else who is psychic in your family because I have found that that sort of is usually the case.
- 4:54And, I think when I was little, I lived in, like, a very haunted apartment in New York.
- 5:00It was like a pre-war, and I could see things.
- 5:03And it scared the crap out of me because that energy comes in.
- 5:08And whether you're connecting with a loved one or another spirit, but you got to remember where there's good, there's bad, you're going to feel those things.
- 5:14So you had a lot of psychic premonitions, and you should continue that spiritual journey because people who are clairvoyant or empaths, as I am connected, you don't want to block that.
- 5:25And it it's sometimes a bit scary, but you want to encourage it and use that, because if that can help you move forward and get to the next level in life, then that's basically a gift from God.
- 5:35How do you I, I feel like I definitely shut it down.
- 5:38And I remember talking to my mom about it and she said that, you know, she has it too.
- 5:42I have a lot of visits or what I dreams, you know, that are visits from from loved ones.
- 5:48And, as a matter of fact, I've told this story that, my stepfather, after my stepfather passed, I was close with him, and he came and he visited me in a dream, and he said, tell your mother I love her and tell her the paper she's looking for are in the filing cabinet.
- 6:03So I told my mom the next day and she goes, I already looked in the filing cabinet.
- 6:08I'm like, well, look again.
- 6:08And she's like, oh, here they are.
- 6:11Wow. See, Laura, that's telling you you're connecting with your higher self in your collective soul.
- 6:15So you have a very strong third eye.
- 6:17And because it is in your family's lineage, it's in your DNA.
- 6:21It's like you're born with this.
- 6:23You know, all of us have a premonition, like meaning like you have a gut feeling like, oh, that doesn't feel right.
- 6:28But sometimes we don't listen to our guts and we go through it and then we're like, oh, should listen to my own intuition.
- 6:33That's your own intuition.
- 6:33That's your guitar.
- 6:36That's the energy to connect you to God and God, conscience or spirit or whatever you call it.
- 6:40But so many of us don't pay attention, and you did.
- 6:44So you need to continue that.
- 6:45That's probably part of your journey.
- 6:45What you're doing right now.
- 6:48Yeah. How did how do you develop that?
- 6:50Well, you have it and then you just continue growing it.
- 6:54That means you listen.
- 6:55You pay attention to the signs, just like you told your mom, and you had that vision about those papers.
- 7:00That's what you asked.
- 7:01You asked the universe, what do you call them?
- 7:03Allah, master, teacher, creator.
- 7:04I like to call it the committee and ask them to help you, guide you.
- 7:08See, so many people get stuck in their relationships, or stuck in their job, or stuck in their fears that they can't seem to get out of their own head, that they actually hold onto that fear and that's why I call it the guitar.
- 7:20Because the guitars, the energy, the connections to spirit, it's the energy of the awakening consciousness.
- 7:25And when you're opening up that third chakra, the third chakra is your belly button.
- 7:30And that's the color yellow.
- 7:32So visualizing the color yellow 3 to 4 minutes at night, opening it up and asking your spirit guides to help you and lead you and teach you or learn you, whatever it is that you're here to basically explore and learn.
- 7:44That's the best way that I could really say it.
- 7:46Okay, through meditation, I do that with meditation.
- 7:49Sometimes I'm trying.
- 7:50I'm trying to, be more open to it because I think I, I really scared myself when I was a kid.
- 7:55Yeah, I'm glad you had it, Laura.
- 7:58And you know another thing?
- 7:59Meditation.
- 8:00People think that it has to be chimes and bells, and it has to be all this, like, fancy stuff. It does not.
- 8:05You can take a walk in the woods.
- 8:07Heck, you could do it in the shower, man.
- 8:09Just clear your mind.
- 8:11Set still and inhale and exhale.
- 8:15Breathwork is so important.
- 8:17And that's another thing I teach people breathing, energy clearing and just really finding their source of energy because that's what it's about.
- 8:25Even health is, you know, you know, wellness unless you can cure yourself from any cancers, diseases.
- 8:31I mean, heck, the doctor told me earlier in the year that I had lupus and I was like, screw that.
- 8:36I'm not accepting that not having lupus because I had a flu back around December, earlier than December, November, and it triggered all these autoimmune diseases, like ridiculously like I'm talking like, you know, rashes on my body, hot sweats flashing, burning.
- 8:54Weakness, body aches, muscle aches.
- 8:56I mean, you name it.
- 8:57I was like, I'm not accepting it all. DOH! My RNA came back positive and they tested me and they were like, okay, it looks like you got lupus.
- 9:05I'm like, nope, delete, delete, delete cancel cancel.
- 9:08Clear.
- 9:08Of course, I do work with very powerful, intentional healers.
- 9:11And they were like, we're clearing it up.
- 9:13And of course it took a regimen of, you know, extra sizing, taking care of yourself, setting your mind intentions.
- 9:18And guess what?
- 9:19I did five tests, no lupus. I'm clear.
- 9:21I'm back to normal.
- 9:23And they still haven't been able to diagnose me and tell me, well, this is what you have.
- 9:27I was like, that was a frickin psychic attack.
- 9:30I do not accept it.
- 9:31And I cleared it out.
- 9:32It's the same thing with any illnesses.
- 9:35You can release it, but if you give in to its power, it can actually create other health issues.
- 9:41So I released it.
- 9:43Wow. I mean, that's crazy.
- 9:45So if somebody has, like, a bad diagnosis, they could just.
- 9:48Of course. Absolutely.
- 9:50It's up to you whether you want to step into your power and live or you want to allow that energy to take control and of course, you know, going and taking your right supplements, your, you know, going to your doctor.
- 10:02I believe in eastern, I believe in Western, I believe in it all, and I believe in the power of prayer.
- 10:06Prayer is your key ingredient.
- 10:08And listening again to that third chakra.
- 10:11We're going to talk about this a lot because that third chakra is your awareness, your action, your acceptance.
- 10:17It's kind of like you're planning a seed to a new beginning, because when you start to allow those old traumas and those old fears and those old emotions, you're going to pedal backwards and basically go back right to where you were.
- 10:28Basically, you know, in the sewer pipe. You don't want that.
- 10:33That's an you know, what?
- 10:34We've talked about the mind body connection a lot on this podcast, and I firmly believe in it.
- 10:40I think that it's it's incredible to know how much your health is really in your hands.
- 10:43It's it's almost scary.
- 10:46Yeah it is.
- 10:46And you should use your ability.
- 10:49I mean, my gosh, you have it.
- 10:50You could do that in your show as well.
- 10:53You have this I feel it.
- 10:55You've been born what they call like that veil, that golden aura.
- 10:58And you do have three loved ones. Lord, they're watching over you.
- 11:01You have two males and a female watching over you. Okay.
- 11:04And these are blood related.
- 11:05So it could be, you know, father, grandfather, whoever it is, they're stepping into your power and they're holding your space, and then you have this female energy that's watching over you as well.
- 11:15And that means that you might, from time to time, see dimes, nickels, quarters, pennies on heads.
- 11:21You'll know that it's telling you to move forward.
- 11:23And if you see them on tails, it means take a step back.
- 11:25But pay attention to the numbers seven, seven, eight, eight like nine, seven, eight, nine like it's interesting.
- 11:32709 those are your master numbers, you know?
- 11:36Okay, look, let me show you this.
- 11:38If for those of you who are watching on YouTube, I did your math, your soul, your soul contract decoded and seven seven and eight eight are like primary things.
- 11:49And therefore, there you go. It's all about.
- 11:51Isn't that funny that you just said that? Seven, seven and eight.
- 11:54I mean energy's tap it.
- 11:54I tapped into your energy.
- 11:56You allowed me to and it comes through.
- 11:58It's just, you know, we're wired to connect.
- 12:01That's how people used to communicate.
- 12:03You know, back in the caveman days, if you go back, they didn't have cell phones.
- 12:06We didn't have all this database.
- 12:08We're so connected and yet we're so disconnected.
- 12:10Go back to the basics, listening to your intuition.
- 12:13And don't give up on love.
- 12:13Love never gives up on us.
- 12:16Why should we give up on it? Right.
- 12:18And stuff.
- 12:19Yes yes, yes.
- 12:21Can you speaking of can.
- 12:23Okay, so I have my friend Kim on with us today.
- 12:25We normally don't have other people, but Kim's here.
- 12:28Can you give Kim a little read?
- 12:29Absolutely, Kim.
- 12:31So just set two intentions, whatever they may be.
- 12:33Love, money, sex.
- 12:34Quite frankly, I don't give a their your their your intention and, give me just your month and date if you don't mind.
- 12:40So I could go deep into your soul.
- 12:41Just month and date only seven September 19th. Woo! You're going through a lot of trial and error right now, but it shows that you're going to get through this about 6 to 8 months, unfortunately.
- 12:54But as you go through this, Kim, you're finally going to see the light at the end of the tunnel because it's kind of been like this black cloud, no offense around you, and it's coming in for other people.
- 13:03It's not something. It's someone. Okay.
- 13:06Do you think you might know who that person could be?
- 13:08That you need to kind of clear out of your energy field because they're in your energy right now?
- 13:12I don't know, maybe my ex-husband, I was getting ready to say because it could be an ex, because I feel like that energy is enabling you.
- 13:19Right?
- 13:19And I feel like once you can clear that and even go, he's not a bad person.
- 13:23He just wasn't your person.
- 13:23Do you get what I'm saying? Right.
- 13:26But he's still sucking on your titties, girl.
- 13:28He's still sucking on that energy field. No! Get him off your titties because your energy is not able to move on.
- 13:35Do you see what I'm saying?
- 13:35So, yeah. Have to go back.
- 13:37You just talked about it with Laura.
- 13:39You got to go back to the ghetto.
- 13:40Because to get us the energy to connect you to God and God consciousness.
- 13:43But it's also to give you that moment and really be connected to you are connected. Now the great news is I do see two rings.
- 13:50How many times you've been married? You're misleading to three.
- 13:54Well, one months came in wham bam thank you ma'am, because one just was like a bat out of hell because it's only showing two.
- 14:00Yes. So was one really short?
- 14:03One was very short.
- 14:04There you go.
- 14:04So maybe we don't need to continue looking for somebody to be there for you.
- 14:09You need to be there for them, you know, for yourself and for them and helping them.
- 14:13Because I really believe that you're calling right now, Kim, is to help other people.
- 14:18You're a people person helping people.
- 14:20In fact, you should have your own business.
- 14:21Have you consider that at all?
- 14:23I used to, I used to, so maybe that's something you want to step back into your power.
- 14:27You know, I feel like the last five years in.
- 14:30No offense, I feel like you've been kind of sort of in the middle of the ocean.
- 14:34No paddle, no engine.
- 14:35You just kind of like there. It's.
- 14:37I don't feel, Kim, that you're really at a happy place or an unhappy place.
- 14:41I feel like you're just kind of like in a in between.
- 14:43Would you agree or disagree?
- 14:44Be honest, fully agree.
- 14:47And I feel that spirit is leading you.
- 14:49I feel like that rekindle flame.
- 14:51I feel like that love is coming in okay.
- 14:53I feel a partner.
- 14:54So I do see a lover. I do see a friend.
- 14:56I do see a companion.
- 14:57So basically you're going to get those cobwebs out of your second chakra, if you know what I'm saying, in your girlfriend.
- 15:03And I feel that love is there, but I feel like you're still holding on.
- 15:07You have a frozen heart. Do you mind me asking you why is that? Kim?
- 15:11Because I her thoughts?
- 15:14Yes. I'm afraid to get hurt.
- 15:16Did he betray you? The ex.
- 15:20In which way did he betray you?
- 15:21Because there's betrayal there.
- 15:23Yes, yes, yes.
- 15:24All of them have betrayed me in many, many different ways.
- 15:27So you have the loser magnet on your forehead.
- 15:30I'm sorry, Kim, you're attracting this because there's no frickin way that you keep attracting that kind of vibration.
- 15:36Do you get what I'm saying? So, yeah, you have to work on that.
- 15:39You have to stop. Yeah.
- 15:40Fixing everybody. It's okay to be there for them.
- 15:43As I said in the beginning, but it's not okay to allow them to take your power because I feel like they've deflated you.
- 15:50You were like this beautiful, big, fluffy balloon.
- 15:52And now, excuse me, I'm burping most psychics get chills, I burp, so I apologize.
- 15:57That's a winner. Winner chicken dinner.
- 15:59And because of that, cam, you're not allowing yourself to move forward because you are a deflated frickin balloon.
- 16:06Do you understand that?
- 16:06Do you feel some time just, like, look like there's no energy in your body anymore?
- 16:11Well, yes. Yes, and I do.
- 16:13I have been out of my power in the relationships.
- 16:16There is differences in age and finances and social standing.
- 16:20And so I was so I'm looking for more of coming out of my shell and figuring out I haven't single and living by myself almost, you know, pretty much for three years.
- 16:29So that's okay.
- 16:31So the last five years pushing but pushing that forward.
- 16:34Right. So when did you get the divorce?
- 16:37The divorce legally maybe like a year and a half ago.
- 16:40But I've been on my own for three years. Okay.
- 16:42But you knew up until about five years ago I need to get out of here.
- 16:45Because if I don't, I'm going to be screwed loose and tattooed.
- 16:48Yes, that's what you're saying.
- 16:50And because of that, Kim, it's okay to have fun.
- 16:53So maybe necessarily we don't need a ring in a brace.
- 16:56We don't need to be married. Okay?
- 16:57But we can have a partner because maybe you're just not marriage material anymore.
- 17:01Been there, seen it, done it.
- 17:02No offense.
- 17:03And not everybody's meant to be married.
- 17:04That's an okay thing. Him.
- 17:06But yeah, at the same reality, I feel that as you are opening up and you're awakening your energy, the stars are in line, okay?
- 17:15And those stars are coming up.
- 17:16Believe it or not, it shows September 23rd, September 23rd of 2025.
- 17:21So those numbers are coming in like numerology energetically, it's about you stepping back into your power, starting another business.
- 17:28Yeah, and don't let your life rule you.
- 17:31You got to rule it.
- 17:32You got to take the bull by the horns, girl.
- 17:35And you got to use the word I can do it.
- 17:37Does that resonate?
- 17:39Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, I'm an artist.
- 17:41I've been working on my artwork. Good.
- 17:43So you are still doing your own work because you're doing your business?
- 17:46Because it's there. It keep showing it.
- 17:47And that's your creative energy.
- 17:47You're like a cat by the way.
- 17:50That's your totem spirit.
- 17:50You like your four corners.
- 17:54Oh my gosh.
- 17:55Can you explain a little more about that?
- 17:57Well, that means that you're a cat.
- 17:58You have nine lives and that is your totem spirit.
- 18:00That's your energy. Okay.
- 18:01I want to call you like the cat lady, okay? That's your energy.
- 18:04That's your vibration.
- 18:06And because of that, you're you're you're not the type of person that likes people to come up at you right up in your face all the time.
- 18:12You don't have to be touched, hugged all the time.
- 18:14You want love, but you like your four corners.
- 18:17Does that resonate?
- 18:19Other people would say, but I mean, I've met somebody now who I really am enjoying getting good, no good and take time and make time.
- 18:27Don't rush into anything.
- 18:29This is the year of the opening.
- 18:31This is your year of action.
- 18:33This is your year of acceptance, Kim.
- 18:36But it's really your year to forgive the ex, okay?
- 18:39And that's something you're going to tell me?
- 18:41I've forgiven him.
- 18:42No, you have it.
- 18:43I'm sorry. Right.
- 18:44Okay, okay, I see, so you're right. You're right.
- 18:46And I feel that what you need to do now, there's this spiritual note wishing anybody any bad.
- 18:51We're not doing any kind of weird voodoo shit because I don't believe in any of that.
- 18:52This all comes from Spirit and God.
- 18:55But what you want to do is take a piece of paper and anybody, you know, listening to your show right now, Laura, they could do the same thing if they're going through an emotional relationship, a detox or clearing.
- 19:06Take that person's name with red ink on a piece of paper, white sheet of paper, and start from the bottom.
- 19:13Most people start writing from the top to the bottom.
- 19:17I want you to go, Kim.
- 19:18From the bottom, going upwards.
- 19:20Write his name nine times.
- 19:22Going away like you're releasing him.
- 19:24You're basically saying thank you for not being the person I needed you to be.
- 19:30Thank you for being right.
- 19:30Unloving, unwanted.
- 19:32Thank you for being the narcissist.
- 19:33Thank you for being the betrayal.
- 19:35And thank you for allowing me to step into my power and live and let live and let go.
- 19:41So you're going to write those, you know, affirmations because this is the thing that's happening.
- 19:45I'm not even asking you.
- 19:46I'm telling you. Does that sound right?
- 19:49What not? Yes, I'm sure.
- 19:51So when you get that, Kim, you start writing and releasing.
- 19:55Then what you do is you take that piece of paper after you wrote his name and you said those nine affirmations connecting with your soul, your contract.
- 20:02So basically, you're thanking him for being a jerk.
- 20:03Okay. Don't look at the bad.
- 20:03Look at the positive.
- 20:06Because, hey, you weren't the person I needed you to be.
- 20:08I wanted something that I was in love with.
- 20:10The thought of wanting to be in love.
- 20:10Maybe not necessarily you.
- 20:13And I thought you were the one, but you weren't the one.
- 20:15And that's okay, because now I'm working and feeding back into my own energy.
- 20:19So then you take that piece of paper, fold it up, put it at the foot of your bed, do not put it at the head.
- 20:26The reason why, Kim, if you put it at the head of your bed, you're actually bringing his energy back in.
- 20:31You don't want that.
- 20:31So put it at the head.
- 20:33Leave it there for nine days because nine is a master number in Yiddish, nine and nine is 18.
- 20:38So it's all about a spiritual mitzvah, a cleansing, a healing, a clearing, getting rid of the old worn out.
- 20:43So put it at the foot of the bed, leave it there for nine days at the end of the nine days you could do two things with it.
- 20:49You could cut it up, flush it down the toilet, or you can actually take it and bury it back into the earth, ashes to ashes and dust to dust.
- 20:55So you're basically sending him almost like energetically out of your way, but you're forgiving him, but you're also forgiving yourself and saying, give us a lesson, Kim.
- 21:05This is what it's about.
- 21:06This is what I do on the Psychic Connection podcast with Deborah Graham.
- 21:09This is why people call me.
- 21:09They ask me for advice.
- 21:12They ask me for help because like I said, and, you know, going back to Laura, what is a weed whacker?
- 21:16I just basically gave her a weed whacker. Yeah.
- 21:19You did okay. Oh my gosh. Amazing.
- 21:22That's good.
- 21:23Thank you.
- 21:24Can you, can you do you have any questions Kim.
- 21:27Well, you know, that was really good.
- 21:29Thank you so much.
- 21:30I don't know if you see anything else or have any last parting words.
- 21:33The main thing is love the one. You're with yourself.
- 21:36Because no man, no woman, no one will ever give us what we need unless we give it back to ourselves.
- 21:41And I do feel this reconnect the flame so this guy could be in the running act.
- 21:44I feel good about him.
- 21:45I like this person energetically so.
- 21:47But I really feel like it's really your year to step into your power about your work.
- 21:52To me, this year's more about work and power and energy more than love.
- 21:56It's okay to have love, but I really want you to step back into your work.
- 21:59And because you're an artist in your collective and yeah, you know, you're credible and you love what you do and you are the cat person because you do have those cats.
- 22:07You're like a lion, okay?
- 22:08You're a tiger, you're a lion.
- 22:10And no matter what, cam, you always come up on always all fours.
- 22:13You're a lover, not a fighter.
- 22:15You have such great energy, by the way, and I feel like your heart actually heals people.
- 22:20Like, the energy is amazing, you know, and it's all connecting with nature.
- 22:24So that's that's your cat energy.
- 22:26You have to be out there in the woods, girl.
- 22:27So get out there and go put your feet into the earth, take those shoes off and really ground yourself in the first chakra.
- 22:33That is the root and I like it.
- 22:35Okay, thank you for your advice.
- 22:37It thank you and listening.
- 22:38I appreciate you coming on the show, Laura.
- 22:40Or you can you'll get 50% off.
- 22:42Just mentioned that we were on Laura show and you're going to get your own one on one psychic reading.
- 22:47Or if you ever want to just come on the podcast, The Psychic Connection with Deborah Graham and give us some feedback.
- 22:51We want to learn. We want to hear.
- 22:52Yeah. What you what's happening?
- 22:53And come back to Laura too and let us know what's happening, okay?
- 22:56Yeah. People can, call in to your show.
- 22:59Absolutely great readings and then readings and if they want to do it and they can also whatever they feel right.
- 23:04Because let's not everybody is as brave as Kim was today to kind of, like, launched yourself out because, again, I never know what's going to come out.
- 23:11But of course, if you're open your bold and you're up to that type of thing because we listen the stuff that goes on on my show, I can't make this stuff up if I want it to.
- 23:19I mean, the stories are insane.
- 23:21I mean, the stuff that I hear, I have heard, I don't think there's one thing that I have not heard.
- 23:25I mean, people calling about love relationship, a missing child.
- 23:30I mean, I've had it all, guys.
- 23:32Yeah, all of the above.
- 23:34You know, I've, I've had people call me talking about their constipation, man.
- 23:38I mean, I'm telling you, it's a one stop shop, baby.
- 23:40It's a Happy Meal deal. Oh, wow.
- 23:43So that's really putting yourself out there.
- 23:44Can you give me a little.
- 23:46Can you give me a little reading? Yes.
- 23:47Let me tell you something right now, Laura.
- 23:49You're where you need to be right now.
- 23:51Your door is where it needs to be.
- 23:51You know, you're writing books.
- 23:54I don't know if you've done this already, but, yes, I'm writing and you're going to be writing to helping other people, too.
- 23:59So you're going to be coached.
- 23:59Do you need my birthday?
- 24:01I'm already in your energy field.
- 24:02Yeah, you gave me that.
- 24:03When I can step into your power and your three loved ones came in number, I said to two males in the female.
- 24:08Yeah. So I want to know who those three people are.
- 24:11You know, it's probably it's grandfather.
- 24:13I already know that.
- 24:13That's a great grandfather.
- 24:15That that's. Is it a maternal or paternal?
- 24:18No, it's a it's matures like blood related.
- 24:21Yeah. 100%. Right.
- 24:22So this has got to be like your mom's.
- 24:22Mom's like your mom, mom, grandfather like father.
- 24:27My mom's father. Okay. Yeah.
- 24:29Your grandfather would be your your mom's dad.
- 24:33That's it. My mom.
- 24:34Dad. Yeah. Okay. There and and then there.
- 24:37And then there's a male also, like a father figure coming in, together with my father.
- 24:42Yeah. Yeah, I think so.
- 24:43Something to you?
- 24:44Did you not have a great relationship with your dad?
- 24:46I don't mean to go so deep and large, because I really feel this love and connection with the stepfather. Really strong.
- 24:51Yes. He was.
- 24:53You know what?
- 24:53I've just recently become close with my dad.
- 24:56I know, because my later years.
- 24:58And he's realized all the crap he's put you through and others through.
- 25:01And no offense, girl, I say it like I see it.
- 25:03Sure.
- 25:03No, I yes, but my stepfather.
- 25:06I would have considered that. Your father.
- 25:09Yeah.
- 25:09And your and your dad on this earth right now.
- 25:11I think that this is a karmic contract.
- 25:13Hey, just accept it for who he is.
- 25:13He was a great sperm, for sure.
- 25:16Because if it wasn't for him, your ass wouldn't be here, right, girl?
- 25:19Yeah. So right on that note.
- 25:20That's fabulous.
- 25:22And because you have this very deep soul.
- 25:24And by the way, your parents didn't even choose you.
- 25:26You chose them. Okay?
- 25:28This was, I believe, in love.
- 25:29You coming back, and you've had so many lives.
- 25:31I keep seeing the numbers three, three.
- 25:33Okay. So you've had 33 past lives here, Laura.
- 25:36And I feel that as you kind of were going through this awakening, this moment, it's almost like you're connecting back with that three year old little girl. It's amazing. Okay.
- 25:45So you know, you you've done whatever you've done corporate America, you've done this, you've done that.
- 25:50You're kind of a mishmash.
- 25:51You know what I'm saying?
- 25:52I you know, you're just kind of like, you know, took this and that and just kind of threw it in a, in a pot and just kind of made it your own.
- 25:58But this is what's helped you at this point right now.
- 26:01Be the overachiever, not the underachiever.
- 26:03Okay.
- 26:04But I'm going to tell you the next three months again, there's your three.
- 26:07I want you to look both ways before you cross, okay?
- 26:10Look at your life as a red light.
- 26:12There's a green light that means go.
- 26:16There is a red light.
- 26:17It means stop.
- 26:19And then there's a yellow light.
- 26:20It means proceed with caution.
- 26:22So the next three months, I need you to proceed with caution.
- 26:24And every decision, everything you do.
- 26:27Because I do feel like there is some negative forces around unhealthy energy.
- 26:31So that means keep your hands on the wheel even when you're driving.
- 26:34But I really want you to proceed with caution.
- 26:36I need you to take a deep breath in, and then learn to release and exhale that energy.
- 26:42And don't let toxic energy take control.
- 26:46Do you know what I'm saying?
- 26:47Because you're stepping into this power, but you have three months of kind of going through this cycle of kind of weirdness.
- 26:52Do you know what Mercury Retrograde means?
- 26:55Yeah, I do, yeah.
- 26:56Do you want to explain retrograde is when all the planets start to pay backwards, they're basically spinning backwards because it's making you go through a life review.
- 27:05It's not Mercury retrograde, but in your world, the next three months is going to be Mercury retrograde.
- 27:10So you're going to feel like things are going backwards.
- 27:12And because of that, you're going to feel that emotional disconnect, but also connect it.
- 27:19And as you're releasing old energy, you're coming into your new energy.
- 27:23So writing that book is going to be really amazing because it's really your story and your energy.
- 27:30It's you really unleashing that fire of that power.
- 27:34And because this is the year of the snake, it means shedding.
- 27:37So this book is actually more about you than others, but it's actually going to help you step into your power.
- 27:42And then you'll be writing more books and then helping other people kind of get their groove together to step into their power, if that makes any sense.
- 27:50It does.
- 27:50And, you know, I'm writing the first draft and it's such a shit show right now.
- 27:54It's like, you know how it is.
- 27:56It's just, yeah, it's such a swirling pile of crap right now that, do you have any advice for that or, you know, same thing.
- 28:04Clearing your thoughts.
- 28:05I would take your two right index finger.
- 28:07So let's just say your right hand and you want to get your two index fingers, and you want to tap right here for 3 to 5 minutes before you start stepping into editing, you know, putting it together, going to the next chapter.
- 28:19So really your energy, your own to wishing is more channeling the book instead of thinking, this is what I gotta put in the book.
- 28:26No, I never do that.
- 28:28My first book, I popped that out in six weeks.
- 28:30Listen, guys. Right.
- 28:31Somebody told me years ago, I went and, you know, did this expo that I was a keynote speaker.
- 28:36And I'm going back like, guys, I'm talking 25 years or more, okay?
- 28:41And he looked at me and he start channeling me, and he said, you're going to write a book and you're going to be blah, blah, blah all over the world and doing all this wonderful thing.
- 28:49I'm like, well, I don't know how much more time I'm going to have to give away.
- 28:52And I said, ha ha ha.
- 28:52I said, you're wrong.
- 28:55I'll never write a book because I can't frickin spell.
- 28:57I'm dyslexic, you know, I can read, but I can't spell, you know, published out to books.
- 29:02You know, it was all channeled.
- 29:04So exactly what he said happened, you know, internationally.
- 29:07What a TV show, radio show, you know, published author, same people who used to do Chicken Soup for the soul is my publishing company.
- 29:13So, you know, all these things just manifest.
- 29:16And I'll tell you what I have to do.
- 29:18I have to surrender.
- 29:19Surrender.
- 29:20And I have to let go and let God and let spirit in order to allow my power to come in and just, just kind of like, just go with it, you know, there's no highs, there's no lows.
- 29:30And when you just kind of go with the flow and manifest, don't stop believing.
- 29:35Just like that song Don't Stop Believin, you got to keep that energy going there, Laura.
- 29:41And when you got that vibration, you're just like a big old vibrator.
- 29:45Baby. And feeling that energy.
- 29:48And right now, I think you need to take a break, honestly.
- 29:52Okay, so the best thing that I can tell you intuitively right now, Laura, is to take a break, take a step back and just really focus on your energy and your third chakra.
- 30:01I know it's all about the guitar today because it's all that rebirth process, right?
- 30:05And once you step in alignment, then that book could just come so naturally.
- 30:08You'll call me and say, Deborah, you were so right.
- 30:10It just happened so easy and naturally, because nothing should be that hard when something's meant to be, it should just flow naturally and organically.
- 30:20And if there's roadblock after roadblock after roadblock, somebody upstairs, the universe, the metaverse, as I like to call it, a committee is actually trying to tell you.
- 30:29Whoa. Take a step back and let's connect.
- 30:32So we are connected and figure out what is that one little blockage.
- 30:37And once you release that, you're going to get released from it.
- 30:39And then there's the book is just going to fly.
- 30:42Yeah I agree, I've written things before and it was almost like I was just listening and then typing.
- 30:47Right.
- 30:48And I have a lot of the book that I really like the, the part of my life story, but I'm trying to weave in the lessons.
- 30:55And your life story.
- 30:57Yes it is.
- 30:58That's what is it?
- 30:58It's about that and that all coming out girl.
- 31:01Winner, winner.
- 31:01Chicken dinner. Get her done. Yes.
- 31:03You were absolutely right about that.
- 31:05And then I'm trying to braid through the lessons that I've learned from the podcast.
- 31:09And so that, But I think you're right.
- 31:12I need to take a sip.
- 31:13What got you into wanting to do a podcast? What?
- 31:15What channel are you into that you know, we love hearing those.
- 31:17You know, the interesting thing is that I found out I had heart disease, my heart chakra.
- 31:26I had heart disease, and I reversed my heart disease by following a whole food place there you go.
- 31:31So you did it.
- 31:32Oh my God. Yeah.
- 31:32Winner. Chicken dinner. That's.
- 31:35That happens.
- 31:36You have to take sometimes a step back or go through something in order to realize I'm here to help other people.
- 31:43I'm here to share my story and tell people.
- 31:45I went through a let down, you know, you had heart disease and you reverted it.
- 31:49And look at you.
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- 32:39the six secrets that you have to manifest health, wealth, and success.
- 32:43So maybe let's move into let's go into that.
- 32:45The first thing is to raise your financial vibration.
- 32:50That is number one.
- 32:50That is the key ingredient.
- 32:52Get off that loser magnet thinking I'm poor.
- 32:56Stop hanging around poor people. Change the energy.
- 32:58Punctuate your life. Clear it out.
- 33:00Give yourself the spiritual enemas we talked about.
- 33:02Number one.
- 33:03Number two, actually take your future and start manifesting it as it has already happened.
- 33:11So write down key things that you want.
- 33:13I want to be successful, I am successful, I am this, I am that.
- 33:17So using your all, your I am.
- 33:18Because when you put that intention, all of it comes together.
- 33:22Most people do a really bad thing where they'll go and they'll say, I need more money.
- 33:26You don't want to do it like that.
- 33:29You want to just say, I want to manifest wealth, health and happiness.
- 33:33So when you're stable mentally and emotionally, you're able to give that energy back.
- 33:37So that's, you know, key number ingredient number two.
- 33:39Number three is to put a plant either in your office or in your, waiting room or in your office area or in your area in your home when you're first walking in a monetary.
- 33:52Because what that does is it actually helps raising the vibration.
- 33:56And also having live plants in the house too.
- 33:57That's like super key ingredient.
- 34:00So number four is to have crystals.
- 34:03I have crystals everywhere.
- 34:05I have like big ones, small ones.
- 34:07Clear crystal quartz is the crystal of choice because the clear crystal quartz brings clear intention.
- 34:14So, you know, whether you want to go out and purchase one by one, I also channel them.
- 34:18You could go to psychic Deborah graham.com, and you can purchase them there. Whatever works for you.
- 34:22But always having a clear crystal quartz in your home or in your office and also in your pockets.
- 34:27I always keep like a clear crystal quartz.
- 34:29A lot of people like wearing them and that's fine.
- 34:31But what I don't like is, is when people actually go and touch them and they're like, oh, how cool. Well, that was your energy.
- 34:37And somebody just actually got in your space.
- 34:38So I would clear it by smudging it with either sage or palo santo, or using frankincense or throwing it in the freezer, believe it or not, overnight that actually recharge it.
- 34:48So that's, you know, ingredient number four, number five is to release the old trauma that you've been through.
- 34:56That's super important.
- 34:57So almost writing a Dear John letter to yourself, kind of how we told Kim, releasing the old worn out and look at all your failures, writing them down, sending them back into the earth.
- 35:06Now that one needs to go into the earth, it's super important to release that.
- 35:09Put it same thing.
- 35:11You know, nine things.
- 35:12Release them.
- 35:13Let go of them, put them at the head of, you know, at the foot of your bed.
- 35:16Send that energy out.
- 35:17And then nine days later, you cut it up and throw it down into the earth, ashes to ashes and dust to dust.
- 35:23But then what you do is you start writing down nine intentions you want to manifest.
- 35:28So whether that be, you know, a healthy business, financially, you know, because as we're going through this whole financial like, oh my God, what's happening?
- 35:38This is the greatest time right now to invest.
- 35:41Believe it or not, people think, oh my God, I'm scared.
- 35:43Why would you buy when things are high by now?
- 35:46Because things are only going to go up.
- 35:46You're buying a house.
- 35:49Interest rates have been lower.
- 35:49That was the time to buy.
- 35:51People were so afraid that they wouldn't buy.
- 35:54But when those interest rates go back up, I mean down, and then the prices go back up, you're basically at the same place.
- 35:59So live out of your fears, get out of your head, get in touch with your gut and then number six, this is the most important one is to always listen to your gut, listen to your own intuition, and follow your dreams.
- 36:12Don't give up on your dreams because your dreams will never, ever give up on you.
- 36:16And that's what it's all about.
- 36:17It's all about living, learning, and loving.
- 36:20But most of all is trusting.
- 36:22When you trust the one you're with.
- 36:24And there is no impossibilities.
- 36:25Everything is whole, perfect and complete.
- 36:27And that's how I look at life to me.
- 36:29There's no problems, there's only a solution.
- 36:32And when people are trying to blame you for something that didn't go wrong, right, or the way they wanted it to, that's okay.
- 36:38That was part of a karma, you know, kind of like going back to Kim.
- 36:41She went through that betrayal.
- 36:43She went through all those things in her past.
- 36:45But Kim had to go through that in order to get her power back.
- 36:48So sometimes, you know, a lesson learned is a lesson aren't?
- 36:51And there they are.
- 36:52Yeah. Wow.
- 36:54That's that's a lot to take in. So.
- 36:58Yeah. How do you how do you I feel like, you know, going back to relationships that a lot of people ignore red flags.
- 37:07And I feel like you also, I didn't tell you this.
- 37:10I was also a matchmaker.
- 37:11We have something in common that, Yeah, my mom and I.
- 37:15This is back before the internet.
- 37:17I had this business with my mom.
- 37:20Well, it was my business, and she was like the facilitator.
- 37:24So it was a group blind date.
- 37:24It was called Eight Friends out.
- 37:26And we'd match up for men and for women.
- 37:29We take them to dinner.
- 37:30And my Jewish mother was like the person who facilitated the dinners.
- 37:33I did it, too. But she was hysterical, you know?
- 37:36I mean, she she would tell people how it was, let me tell.
- 37:39And that's really what it is, is common sense, you know, go back to the old regimen.
- 37:44Yes. We're so connected and yet we're so disconnected right now in our world that we're trying to, you know, find that perfect relationship.
- 37:52And then we keep swiping left and swiping right.
- 37:55Sometimes you just got to go out on those three dates within three months and have no sex for three months.
- 37:59That means just hug them, touch them, kiss them.
- 38:02But don't put the lizard in the lily pad.
- 38:04Or the lizard and the lizard and the lily in the lizard.
- 38:06You know, you got to kind of just get it done, girl.
- 38:08You got to go deep. You got to go large.
- 38:10But it's kind of like a chocolate cake.
- 38:12And I think you could agree with that.
- 38:13The more you wait, the more you're going to appreciate it.
- 38:15But if you just dive into something so quick, so fast, you know, it may not be so indulgent.
- 38:20So I always tell people to take it one step at a time and get out there and you know, date, go out, you know, enjoy life.
- 38:26So no sex for three months of dating.
- 38:30What do you think about that one, Laura I think that that's good.
- 38:34You know, I mean, especially God.
- 38:37I mean, I know it seems like a long time, but also I get that I didn't have sex with my husband for a really long time, but when we were dating.
- 38:45But we were I was so young.
- 38:46I was only like I was only 15 when I met him and he was 20.
- 38:49And so, you know, talking about, past lives.
- 38:55I feel like when I met him, it was like I.
- 38:57I've known him. Yeah.
- 38:58You knew him for a hundred lives.
- 39:01Yeah, yeah, a million.
- 39:03I totally I totally can see that because you guys are twin flame soulmates.
- 39:07And this is your forever, not your. For now.
- 39:09I just think it's all about you right now.
- 39:11Just working on your path, your career, working on your book.
- 39:15And I feel like that's your that's kind of like your key to success.
- 39:18But what I love, love, love about you is that you share your power.
- 39:24You share your energy.
- 39:24You know, you're teaching people.
- 39:26And I mean, look at you, you know, winner, winner chicken dinner.
- 39:28You been with the same man since 15 years old.
- 39:31Okay. Yeah.
- 39:32How many people can actually say that in the matchmaking world?
- 39:35And I think there's a few out there we could actually say that, you know, they claim to be the best, but are they the best?
- 39:40Because the proof is in the pudding and they just don't have it.
- 39:43But when you have that relationship and you have that partnership, like my marriage was arranged, okay.
- 39:49We had the big Fat Greek Wedding and you know, this together with, you know, three kids, four grandkids.
- 39:54And, I mean, we've been married for over 30 years now, and that's what it's about.
- 39:57And when people see that unity and that relationship, they know that, okay, you've done it for yourself.
- 40:04You can do it for others.
- 40:05And I've matched, you know, thousands of people over my lifetime.
- 40:08And, you know, that was great that you did that.
- 40:10Oh my God, you should step back into that power.
- 40:12Maybe that might be your second book, girl.
- 40:15Oh dear God, it was so much fun though I loved it, it was really it and it was quite successful.
- 40:20We still have people that are married to this day from that.
- 40:23So yeah, it is amazing.
- 40:26But what I was saying about is that I feel like people ignore red flags and not only ignore red flags that you teach people how to treat you.
- 40:37And I feel like, some people are not good about that.
- 40:42What do you what do you say about that?
- 40:43Well, people think that if I'm exactly what that person is looking for, then that person's really going to want me or love me.
- 40:50I always say, you know, ignore the red flags.
- 40:52Meaning that if that person speaks way too much about their self and they say, you know, I'm this, I'm that, and I've tried everything and I give it to my ex and that person was just horrible.
- 41:02And they're just complaining.
- 41:02I usually say, run! Well, you still got your head attached to your body because that's a complete narcissist, okay?
- 41:09And you don't want to be with that energy, you know?
- 41:12And if somebody is telling you again in a red flag that I really like you, but I wish you were blond and, you know, you're a brunet, you know, or I wish you would wear, you know, that show so much and cover your legs or some guy say, you know what, I want you to show more.
- 41:25If you want to do that, then by all means do it.
- 41:29But don't do it for someone else, you know, do it for yourself, you know.
- 41:34And don't listen to somebody's negativity.
- 41:37Because if you bring that negativity in from a past relationship or a past life or a past karmic connection, now you're going to bring that negativity into your life, and you're going to lower your vibration and lower your frequency.
- 41:48So you want to do what's going to make you feel good, and you want to see yourself with that person, like 30 years down the road and knowing that that is a true soul connection.
- 41:59How do you how do you know that though.
- 42:00How do you is it just something you feel.
- 42:02Is it again trusting your gut that going out with the person is really tough right now?
- 42:08Because the problem is there's too many choices because before like look you knew your guy 15 years old, you guys connected together, you knew we're connected.
- 42:17We're going to be together.
- 42:17We're going to make this work.
- 42:19People do not do that.
- 42:21They're like, soon as one thing goes wrong, I'm going back on the dating website, and they'll do that purposely because they want to either piss off that person or they're just not so into you, you know?
- 42:32Because if somebody's really interested in you, they're going to make effort, they're going to make effort.
- 42:38And if they don't call you back, I say within 3 to 4 days after seeing them the first time.
- 42:43And that person is just not into you, you know?
- 42:45And if they're making up excuses about, oh, I'm busy or I can't make it, you know, people got stuff going on, I get it.
- 42:53But if it's happening more than three times, that's a that's a red flag.
- 42:56And that's another reason to run.
- 42:58But when you feel a love with a person and you feel this true love twin flame, it's you're going to know it.
- 43:05I can't explain it to you.
- 43:06It's kind of like to say, well, you knew you had heart disease.
- 43:08You knew you had a heart attack.
- 43:09It's like love is the same thing.
- 43:09You know, you just kind of.
- 43:11It hurts. It frickin hurts. It does.
- 43:14And you feel this energy.
- 43:16And sometimes people are not ready for a commitment right there and then.
- 43:21So I always tell people, be patient, be patient.
- 43:25Something weren't working on his word, waiting on, you know, maybe you found somebody and maybe they're not necessarily available right now, but be friends with them.
- 43:31Keep it in the friend zone.
- 43:33Continue dating. Going out.
- 43:33It's like a pair of shoes.
- 43:35If they don't fit, don't wear them right.
- 43:39I yes, I agree, I actually just told that to somebody that she really likes this guy, but he's not available right now.
- 43:46And I was like and she really feels something for him.
- 43:48And I was like, well, just kind of, you know, stay in touch, just let him do what he needs to do.
- 43:54And it might be something down the road, like if she's really feeling it right.
- 43:58Exactly, absolutely.
- 44:00And that was great advice, you know, because she's feeling it and she's like, wow, I'm having a connection or they're feeling it or whatever the case may be, but that person can not necessarily give you what you need.
- 44:12It's about having that patience.
- 44:14And don't put pressure on somebody and be like, you know, you're not calling me, you're not doing this.
- 44:18You're not doing this. Well, you know what?
- 44:19Nobody can stand up 100% to everybody's expectations.
- 44:23This is a big one, too.
- 44:25And a lot of people are like, oh, I didn't realize I have to do that.
- 44:28I'm like, well, that's what it's like.
- 44:29And of course, you know, I think Laura, you could agree with me 100% on this, even though you're super busy, you know, trying to be, you know, everybody's go to person working doing.
- 44:37But you take time to make time for your husband.
- 44:39Correct.
- 44:40Of course, people have to realize a relationship.
- 44:45It's not 90% all about you, you, you and you give 10%.
- 44:48It is a 5050.
- 44:50That is the key problem that I have.
- 44:52Do you know, many people say, yeah, well, I don't want a relationship then.
- 44:55Well, then I'm not willing to give up 50% of your time and maybe got gotta stop going to your 40s and maybe you're not going to constantly go out as much as you want it to go out.
- 45:04Because if you're going to make time to take time, you have to be willing to give that person time and effort and energy to really connect together.
- 45:12Because the truth of the fact is, if you want them to make time for you, you have to set aside time.
- 45:18Just like a calendar.
- 45:20You have a spa day, or you have a meeting, or you have a phone call.
- 45:24You make time for your spouse, whatever that is.
- 45:27And sometimes you got to give a little head to get ahead or you got to give it up.
- 45:30That's right, that's right. Go deep, go large.
- 45:32That's why we've been married over 30 years.
- 45:36Love it.
- 45:38You know, it's like a dog.
- 45:39If you don't frickin feed it, that is going to go find something else.
- 45:42The ying yang. Get it?
- 45:44Oh, God. Help! But you know what? Okay, so you're funny.
- 45:51You're funny?
- 45:52Yeah.
- 45:52I just feel like, I back back to, you know, teaching people how to treat you, though.
- 46:01I feel like with some people, they get into these relationships and they let these people, they try to be too accommodating, and the person's not giving them what they need.
- 46:11And sometimes you have to walk away, and you just have to be willing to stand up for yourself.
- 46:16Advocate for yourself, walk away and say, you know what, I really love you, but you are not treating me well and I have to treat myself well, right, and walk away.
- 46:26Don't you think that that makes somebody really stuck?
- 46:30That's kind of what happened with me and my husband.
- 46:31I mean, even though we were very young, I think there was such a big age difference at such a certain point.
- 46:37Now there's, you know, nothing between us but five years when you're very young.
- 46:42I mean, it was until I was really, like 19 years old that he took me seriously because I was a little kid.
- 46:48And, you know, I did. I had to tell him, look, you treat me like shit.
- 46:51You're a terrible boyfriend.
- 46:51I don't want to see you anymore.
- 46:53And he's like, well, not your boyfriend. There you go.
- 46:55And I was like, well, you are to me.
- 46:57And so, you know, it was that kind of thing.
- 46:59It's almost like you have to have a breakup and then a make up to really connect.
- 47:03And again, it's about patience right there. You did it.
- 47:05You see the proof is in the pudding.
- 47:06You did it, girl.
- 47:06Winner, winner. Chicken dinner.
- 47:10That's so funny.
- 47:11I can't believe you had an arranged marriage.
- 47:13Yeah, it's really interesting.
- 47:14Yeah. And my dad and mom, they were arranged to.
- 47:16My dad. Married my mom.
- 47:17Believe it or not, this is crazy.
- 47:18But he was 13 years old, and she was 19.
- 47:20Yeah, way back in the day.
- 47:22Yeah. Crazy. Wait, they got married at that age?
- 47:25Crazy. Wait. Yes.
- 47:26A 13, 13 years old.
- 47:28Is that crazy or what?
- 47:29That's like, I guess today it's called.
- 47:33What is it called? Abuse?
- 47:35You know, I think it's called statutory rape grooming.
- 47:38I don't know, believe it or not.
- 47:40Yeah, they did it back in the day.
- 47:41And I guess my grandfather was super sick and he wanted to see his son married.
- 47:47And they did an arranged marriage.
- 47:49And then they had me at 14 years old and they stood together until they died.
- 47:53I mean, literally, wow.
- 47:54They stood together. They made it work.
- 47:56And, you know, those arranged marriages sometimes that's kind of what I do.
- 48:00I kind of see what I see and, you know, of course, I always tell you, you got to be at least 18 years old to give me a call to connect with me.
- 48:06We don't do 13, girl, but you got to be at least 18 years old to ask the question, get the answer, and also be connected, or get a reading or the whole thing of connection.
- 48:15Okay.
- 48:15But the truth is, when you do have somebody helping you to kind of like look through and say, this is a waste of time and energy, you know, but you know, you have a karmic contract, complete that with that person, then move on and find the person that you're supposed to be with.
- 48:30You know, life is short, you know, because when you're gone, you don't want to have to come back and do this again because life is short, like today.
- 48:37We're here, tomorrow we're going.
- 48:37And we say this all the time.
- 48:39But how many of us actually take action to step into our power?
- 48:43Not many.
- 48:44We say it, but we don't do it.
- 48:46So this is the year of yes.
- 48:47This is a yes year, believe it or not, because it's 100 year ascension changing of all these planets.
- 48:53As you know, they've lined it up, Sam. Burping again.
- 48:56It's so powerful energy burping on the trees.
- 48:58Yeah.
- 48:59And they all lined it up and they all came together at a very high vibration.
- 49:04And it's all about changes.
- 49:05It's all about stepping into your power.
- 49:07It's about everything just channeling and changes.
- 49:10Because if we didn't go through changes, let's just go back to caveman day.
- 49:13We wouldn't have cars.
- 49:14We wouldn't have planes.
- 49:14Heck, we wouldn't have electricity, right?
- 49:17So we have to go through changes and, you know, back in the day and even now, we're still not wanting change.
- 49:22But unfortunately, we need change.
- 49:24People need to use their voices.
- 49:25People need to open their self up to make changes because we're ascending right now like a major ascension in this year of 25.
- 49:33So this is the year of yes, yes I can yes I am, yes I will.
- 49:36So as you're in this year and all the planets are aligning, they're actually giving us a gift to actually work on our own intentions, on what we came here to learn.
- 49:45You know, don't worry what other people are doing to you or what's happening even in your workforce, because there's so much adult bullying that goes on right now.
- 49:52I get a lot of house calls too, and there's so many people that are just upset, like, why is this person treating me like this?
- 49:59No, why are you allowing them to treat you like this?
- 50:02It's not them.
- 50:03You're letting them do that.
- 50:04So step away from that energy.
- 50:06Step into your power and be yes for you, not for them.
- 50:10So the planets are in alignment for things to happen for us this year, 2025.
- 50:17Yeah, this is a major ascension year.
- 50:19It's like a whole hundred years of changes.
- 50:22It's like a whole nother major shift.
- 50:25And of course, you know, you know, got to be a psycho psychic like me to say it is pretty black and white and it's changing.
- 50:32But as things are changing, it's about people connecting deeper together and fighting for their for their belief system and what they really want.
- 50:40Interesting.
- 50:42And you know, I just want to go back like a little bit more to manifesting your, your, your health.
- 50:50Because deep do you believe in.
- 50:55So you do believe in going to the doctor and getting like mammograms.
- 50:59And yes, I do all that kind of stuff.
- 51:01Absolutely.
- 51:02But but I also but then in you taking care of yourself and taking care of whatever the situation is. Yeah.
- 51:07I went to no joke when I was having the situation.
- 51:10I went to no joke about 30 or 40 doctors.
- 51:12I mean, I went to like, you know, the head of, like the chief of staff of like 50 years at tech and me, and he's like, there's something here.
- 51:20But unfortunately, I don't know what it is.
- 51:23So, you know, you need to go to another doctor, try this. Right, that.
- 51:26And then finally I said, after going to so many doctors there, like we we think it's this, but we don't know it is.
- 51:33I says, you're actually going to tell me you want me to take a prescription or take a medication on assumption.
- 51:39And basically you're treating symptoms not actually what it is.
- 51:42And they said, you know, I says thank you, but no thank you.
- 51:46So that's when I step back into my power meditating, clearing, doing energy work myself and with my healers.
- 51:52This is what I do.
- 51:53And, you know, acupuncture, eating healthy.
- 51:55I am a firm.
- 51:56Listen, I'm going to say truthfully, the first two months, that whole thing with the celery juice thing, I was like that thing is not doing anything.
- 52:05I felt more swollen and my urine was smelling.
- 52:07I was like, what the hell is this?
- 52:09This is disgusting.
- 52:10But I have to tell you, it took so many talks out of my body.
- 52:15It works. It really does work.
- 52:18Is it going to be your key ingredient to work?
- 52:20No, but it worked.
- 52:22And so juicing celery juice every yet celery juice I do lemon juicing.
- 52:27I, you know, meditate. I clear my energy.
- 52:30I clear out all the bad stuff that's around me.
- 52:33I put a shield around me whenever I'm entering a room with a, you know, a client or whatever it may be, because people may not think or know that they're being energetically attacked by something or someone.
- 52:43So I always have to protect my energy because I go deep and large.
- 52:45I'm very different than most psychics or mediums.
- 52:49I don't look at you, I become you.
- 52:51So most people just read the energy around what's going on and they don't actually go into the soul.
- 52:57I actually go into the soul and I become your energy.
- 53:00And a lot of people don't like that.
- 53:02I tell people, my warning is, you may not hear what you want to hear, but you're going to hear what you need to hear, you know?
- 53:07And again, it's all about stepping back into your power and really just recharging the energy.
- 53:14And that's what it's about. So oh yeah, I definitely believe.
- 53:16And the eastern in the western 100% firm believer in all of that.
- 53:20I go every year.
- 53:21Even Joe, you know, a doctor may say, I've had clients come into me say, I just had a mammogram. I'm like, listen to me.
- 53:28I'm not a I'm not a doctor, but I'm a spiritual, mental, spiritual, intuitive and looking into your soul.
- 53:35I like to say I'm like, a radar going through your body for like, 30s and scanning you, right?
- 53:40Because that's how quick the information comes. It's like boom, boom, boom.
- 53:43And I have to get it out and I'll tell them I see something.
- 53:46I'm not a doctor, but I see something, so just go back.
- 53:50So of course they'll be like, this is going to sound crazy.
- 53:53I went to a psychic, I had a reading.
- 53:55She said, there's something there.
- 53:55And I said, well, we just did it.
- 53:57We don't see anything, but let's check the check.
- 53:59And unfortunately, I've been right here, okay?
- 54:02So always if something doesn't feel right, do something.
- 54:06Say something.
- 54:07You know, go to your doctor's, check yourself out.
- 54:09Don't wait for yourself to just be like, oh, don't go away.
- 54:12You have to put effort.
- 54:12You got to take care of yourself.
- 54:14And I don't care how great and shape you are physically.
- 54:17It's the mental. It's the energy.
- 54:19Yes, it's an energy.
- 54:20I call it like a bad disease, the energy.
- 54:25And so just concentrating on bringing in positive energy and cleansing yourself, palo santo and smudging and meditating and, and then can you also write down your affirmations for health?
- 54:40Yeah.
- 54:40That way the affirmation health issues, throw them in the negative and throw them in the pool. Get rid of it.
- 54:45Release it, throw it in the toilet, flush it out, let go.
- 54:49So how do you do that again?
- 54:50You write them all day.
- 54:52You're just like I told Kim earlier.
- 54:54She needs a pen.
- 54:55Get a get a white sheet of paper.
- 54:56Get some red ink because the red is the first chakra.
- 54:59So that's basically rooting you and grounding you.
- 55:01So you're basically standing on your own intentions in your own power.
- 55:04So it's a power source of energy and vibration.
- 55:07You write down those intentions on releasing those otherwise like starting at the bottom of the page, going up, going, and basically just saying, I'm releasing this.
- 55:17I'm not accepting this.
- 55:17This is not accepted.
- 55:20My body in my cell and my energy, I'm going to revert it and release it and let it go.
- 55:26And then, you know, you just write it down.
- 55:27Whether it's a health issue, you're dealing with emotional issues, even if it's something going on with your kids.
- 55:33I've healed my own kids from traumas and stuff.
- 55:35Like my mom came to me, God bless her soul.
- 55:38I didn't even know this, but my daughter thought right after she had her baby that she had a virus.
- 55:42She didn't have a virus.
- 55:43My mom came to me and told me basically, that there was something going on inside of her body.
- 55:47She needed to get to the hospital ASAP.
- 55:49So at 530 in the morning, I woke up at a dream.
- 55:526: 00 I called my daughter.
- 55:536: I said, you don't have a virus, you're going to the hospital right now.
- 55:576: I said, your grandmother came to me in the dream.
- 55:596: And I always say, when the dead speaks, you better frickin listen.
- 56:026: So I was like, wow, what is happening here?
- 56:056: And of course, I wasn't there with her.
- 56:076: But she went to the doctor and she had a, five millimeter kidney stone lodged, and she was going sepsis.
- 56:156: And the doctor said, Thank God she came here.
- 56:176: She could have been dead in two hours, or her organs all were failing.
- 56:206: Yeah. No, it was that her whole body was failing.
- 56:226: She just thought she had a really bad virus.
- 56:246: So you got to pay attention.
- 56:266: Pay attention to your body, you know?
- 56:286: Listen, the doctors can do only so much, but you have to do so much to.
- 56:336: It's kind of like, you know, what's that story where the guy, he was on top of a roof, there was a flood, and he said, God, you're going to save me, right?
- 56:416: So, you know, somebody came with a boat.
- 56:426: He says, nope, God saving me.
- 56:426: Somebody came with a car.
- 56:456: Whatever the case may be. Nope.
- 56:466: God saved me.
- 56:476: So then he died and he said, God, what the heck?
- 56:496: Why didn't you save me? Well, I put people in your path.
- 56:526: I was there trying to help you, but you just didn't pay attention.
- 56:556: So God, Allah, master, teacher, creator, the committee will always lead you.
- 57:006: But you have to also do your own work too, you know?
- 57:026: And even doctors, they can help you, but you got to pay attention.
- 57:056: You know, it's kind of like you go to a doctor, they eat better, eat healthier.
- 57:096: Absolutely.
- 57:106: I believe that, but I think a lot of it is more mental than physical.
- 57:146: And then when you get the mental, the physical, the weight will just go off.
- 57:176: It'll come off the way. Don't come off, the anxiety will go away.
- 57:206: Or if you're having to have weight gain, you know, because of whatever it is, trauma.
- 57:236: A lot of people don't know about this.
- 57:256: This is a big kicker.
- 57:266: It's sometimes is in our families lineage.
- 57:296: It's in our DNA. Yes.
- 57:306: And it sometimes can be an ancestral energy that's basically attached to you or some kind of karma that you've dealt with.
- 57:366: And that's another thing I do is energy clearing to help people basically figure that out.
- 57:406: And the normal physician can't do that.
- 57:436: So sometimes you have to figure out intuitively what's happening.
- 57:486: Right.
- 57:486: That's that's yes, I believe that that that's like a karmic thing.
- 57:536: And and you hold on to it. Yeah.
- 57:546: And you have to do what a cord cutting or a clear. Yeah.
- 57:576: So there's all sorts of things that you could do that going through.
- 58:006: It depends what the situation may be like.
- 58:036: What is that person, what is happening?
- 58:056: What is again intuitively what is happening inside of your body that you have to purge out.
- 58:126: And then, you know, a lot of us don't want to have to come back in our next life and do it again.
- 58:166: But unfortunately, if you don't get it right in this life, you will have to come back to do it again in order to clear that energy and go through transformation.
- 58:236: That's why meditation, breath work, inhaling, exhale, hug a tree.
- 58:266: Those are the things I tell a lot of people I know.
- 58:286: It sounds insane.
- 58:296: No, aside from the tree.
- 58:316: Well, listen, trees have life.
- 58:336: There's energy.
- 58:346: And it's like it's the trees out there in the wilderness.
- 58:376: You know, when one tree is sick, the other trees nurture them, that they're rooted. Yes.
- 58:416: Through the root system. This is like.
- 58:426: Yes. Look, the universe has a way of healing every single thing.
- 58:466: So why can't we do that as human beings?
- 58:486: Why can't we heal ourself and heal others?
- 58:526: I think you're absolutely right.
- 58:536: Yeah.
- 58:536: The mind is a huge thing and I think just writing it down like you said.
- 58:576: Now when you write down your list on your white paper with your red pen, do you have to also keep it at the foot of your bed for nine days to the one that's negative?
- 59:066: The negative list goes at the negative one the back foot of the bed, the for nine days, nine days.
- 59:116: And then you cut it up and you burn it.
- 59:136: Burn it is okay that I would say do. Of course.
- 59:166: Don't hurt yourself. Report yourself.
- 59:176: But yeah, also the other way to do it too, you can flush it into top.
- 59:226: Can you just say and it goes anything positive positive goes that your head okay.
- 59:276: Do you also still do it in red.
- 59:296: Of course.
- 59:296: Because you're setting intention.
- 59:306: Do you still start at the bottom.
- 59:326: Well you know it's interesting you said that you would start from the top to the top. Okay. That's what I thought.
- 59:376: Bringing forward the intentions forward towards you.
- 59:416: You know, when do you want to release you start from the bottom. Let go.
- 59:446: Let spirit release that.
- 59:466: The ones that you want to actually bring in and the awareness you want to start from the top to the bottom.
- 59:536: And then you put that at the head of the bed.
- 59:546: So you're moving that energy upwards and forward and towards you.
- 59:576: You're actually setting those intentions okay.
- 59:596: And then just keep them with you as you're manifesting.
- 1:00:026: Yeah.
- 1:00:026: You know, and that you don't get rid of that because you're positive you want to keep that you're positive thing calm.
- 1:00:086: And you know, I would set those intentions.
- 1:00:106: I always tell people right about the new Year to set those intentions.
- 1:00:136: That's what I teach a lot of my, you know, clients, whether they're doing a workshop, whether they're doing healing, whatever it may be, or just the general reading, and they need some information on that.
- 1:00:206: I'll tell them to get their self like their happy box and put all their happy memories in.
- 1:00:256: And then you have your negative thoughts like, oh, I'm really angry today.
- 1:00:286: Write them down with a little sticky note, put them in there.
- 1:00:316: And then once a month, take that little box, tear it up and put it into the art.
- 1:00:346: Let it go.
- 1:00:366: Because you know what?
- 1:00:366: Chances are, 30 days from now, you're not going to be so pissed off at what you are pissed off at.
- 1:00:426: That's good.
- 1:00:436: Well thank you.
- 1:00:446: I hope that, people will reach out to you. It it's.
- 1:00:476: What is it again? Their psychic.
- 1:00:496: Psychic, Deborah graham.com.
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- 1:00:526: If you want to book your own one on one psychic reading.
- 1:00:546: And also they're going to get 50% off.
- 1:00:566: Just mentioned they were on the show with Laura and they will get the 50% off one on one okay.
- 1:01:016: If they want to be a live guest on the Psychic Connection podcast again, you can stream it anywhere, any place, any time.
- 1:01:066: They could go also to psychic Deborah Graham and just say, I want to be a live guest on Deborah's podcast.
- 1:01:116: Then we'll sign you up.
- 1:01:136: That's awesome.
- 1:01:146: Thank you so much for all you have shared.
- 1:01:176: Amazing. Laura. It's been fun.
- 1:01:196: Love your energy and I hope to get back with you sometime.
- 1:01:216: Girl oh, I would love that.
- 1:01:236: Thank you. Peace be with you. Take care.
- 1:01:266: You too. Bye.
- 1:01:286: Thanks for listening, friend.
- 1:01:296: From my heart to yours.
- 1:01:316: Be well. Until we meet again.