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Living from Within – Trusting Intuition & Releasing Expectations with Tara Mae Temple · The FEEL Podcast: Women’s Empowerment, Emotional Wellness and Self-Leadership with Melissa Crook

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  Hello, Melissa Crook here from the Field Podcast.
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  So glad to have you here with us this week On today's episode on
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  the Field podcast. We've got Tara May Temple with
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  this with her episode titled being from Expectations to
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  empowerment. Tara May Temple's journey when
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  learning to live out of your own expectations, start asking
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  yourself questions to get you to know yourself better and know
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  what you truly desire. Think of this as you sit in
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  silence, meditate, journal, pray, or any other acts that
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  allow you to consider the expectations of your authentic
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  self so that you know that what you are asking of yourself is
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  truly coming from you and not other people's expectations or
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  other narratives that you heard that aren't actually what you
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  desire. And then you got to communicate
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  those as well to those around you.
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  We hope this helps you engage today with this episode with our
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  friend Tara May Temple from expectations to empowerment, her
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  journey. Thanks so much for being with
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  us. Hello field podcast audience.
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  Welcome back this week. I have a friend here with me
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  today that if you listen to our radio show in 2024, you will
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  have heard her voice and she joined me on a really couple of
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  really intentional conversations in the fall and we'll talk more
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  about that later. So she is not new to the
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  network, but she's new to the podcast.
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  Met her through our good friends at Pod Match.
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  Thankful for all the connections I'm able to make there.
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  Tara Temple is here today. Tara, welcome to the Field
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  podcast. Well, thank you, Melissa.
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  It's so great to be here. I'm excited to have a
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  conversation with your listeners and you I.
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  I I am too. I this is going to be, this is
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  going to be great and you're going to have so much to say.
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  Your story ties in so succinctly with what it is we talk about
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  here. And Tara describes herself as
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  kind, spiritual, loyal, passionate and caring.
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  And those things really come through.
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  I've had the opportunity to talk to you a few times already via
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  our platforms, and those things really come through as people
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  listen to you. You're very insightful, you're
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  very intuitive, and so I'm really excited to share your
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  voice, your resources, and your story here with us today.
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  I think you're just going to have so much to say about these
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  talking points, but let's get right into it.
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  I'm excited. I am looking forward to giving
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  people up there a bit of inspiration, especially
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  especially right now in our world.
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  I know everybody needs it. Yes, yes, so true, so true.
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  And Tara's joining me from the Ontario spot of Canada, our good
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  friends to the north, and she's trying to stay warm up there
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  right now as we're recording in the winter time.
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  It's so cold. So yeah.
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  So I'm thankful to have her voice here with me today.
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  But Tara, talk to me about, let's start with your journey
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  with prioritizing self-care in your life.
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  This is something you had to go through some bumps to realize
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  how important it was to you. So talk to me about your journey
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  with self-care. Yes.
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  So I'd say about 5-6 years ago, I, you know, I'd like to do
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  things like yoga and exercise, but sometimes that would drop
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  off the radar, especially with raising a young child.
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  So I was very, I would prioritize being a mother 1st
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  and take care of my family and being a career woman at the same
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  time. So I was in the corporate world
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  at the height of my career in fundraising and marketing.
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  And basically I, you know, I had my dream job.
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  I thought, you know, I was making a lot of money, pretty
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  much the most money I've had, I ever had in my, the span of my
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  career. And I was starting to develop
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  people. I had a team that was underneath
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  me and I was the leader. So I thought what a, what a
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  great way to make a living. You know, I'm doing, I'm working
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  for hospital, I'm helping raise money.
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  I love this because I'm helping people indirectly, you know,
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  helping to save lives indirectly by raising money for healthcare.
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  So I thought, you know, that that was all great and
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  everything, but it got to the point where I was just not
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  feeling right in my body. I felt very, I was feeling sick,
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  overrun, burnt out, you know, stress building up while having
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  to manage career and family. So we got to a point where I did
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  have a health scare during the peak of my career.
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  Obstacles were piling up everywhere in terms of dealing
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  with people at the office. And no matter what I did to find
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  solutions to conflict, solutions to misunderstandings and
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  solutions to just working better with people, nothing seemed to
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  be working. It seemed like the universe and
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  God was telling me, you know, like you're not meant to be
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  here. It didn't feel like it was the
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  right place for me. I felt, I felt like, you know,
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  like I'm meant to be some, somewhere else.
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  My heart wasn't in the job I was.
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  I got to the point where I was like, oh, why am I, why am I
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  feeling miserable like this? And so I, I was going through
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  some health stuff and I realized, you know, like I need
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  to step back and really assess what's happening here.
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  And, you know, if I don't have my health and I can't think
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  straight and there's brain fog and it's affecting all my
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  systems, my mind, body and spirit.
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  If I don't do something to fix this right now, then not only is
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  my career in jeopardy, but my family and my relationships are
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  also in jeopardy. So I need to make, I had to make
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  that realization. And I thought, you know, where
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  would my family be without me? So basically had to prioritize
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  my family 1st and health. At the start of 2020, I made
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  changes, really assessed my environment and decided to leave
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  my career, although that was bittersweet, leaving income on
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  the table, deciding to relocate and get out of the city and live
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  somewhere in a small town where, you know, there wasn't so much
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  noise pollution and it didn't feel chaotic and like it was
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  suffocating my soul. Yeah.
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  So I really undergoed, like, a really intense self discovery
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  when we did move. And I always say things happen
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  for a reason. It was around the time the
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  pandemic was starting Lock down was on his way and we're we're
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  just saying we need to get out of here.
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  We didn't know how we're gonna make it happen.
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  But I'm a very spiritual and person that believes in God and
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  in faith. So I thought it was our destiny.
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  You may might as well pursue getting out of the city in
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  however way we can. So we looked at our options.
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  We, we sold their place in the city and then moved down here
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  and I got in touch with nature again, got in touch with how I
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  was feeling in self-care. And, you know, I, I realized I
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  started showing up a lot more differently with my family.
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  I wasn't so short or angry when I began to take care of myself.
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  So I made lifestyle changes and prioritize my health as well.
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  And, you know, it wasn't easy because that was out of my
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  comfort zone. Like I was a career woman for
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  several years and, you know, wanted to have that stability
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  and income for my family. But you know, everything was
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  pretty much showing up in my past telling me you're meant to
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  go somewhere else. And through that journey, I
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  found my love for writing again. It really got into the
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  publishing world and helping other non fiction authors edit
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  their books and along the journey during the pandemic into
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  I think it took me two or three years to write my own story.
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  I wrote a teaching memoir about the lessons that I've learned in
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  my life and how can I develop these strategies to help other
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  women and other people achieve in our peace.
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  And by writing that story out, you know, sharing my wisdom
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  through the messages in that book, I really hope to inspire
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  other women to know that, you know, it's within your reach to
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  find your potential and your peace.
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  So I knew deep in my heart, since I was a young girl, I've
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  always wanted to help people suffer less.
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  And I just know that it's my mission to be here, to put my
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  message out and my story out, to help others.
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  Wow, wow. So powerful and a lot of courage
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  wrapped up in that. I want because you walked away
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  from a very well paying, very financially stable job.
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  And so many times we just keep pushing through because we're
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  afraid. We're afraid and we don't listen
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  to the cues our bodies giving us.
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  Your story is so deeply entrenched in taking care of our
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  emotional and physical health, our mental, emotional,
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  spiritual, all those pieces you've just described that
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  talking point and we talked about here very succinctly and
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  the direct tie it had to your Wellness and yourself care.
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  What is it that you think gave you the what?
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  What in your background gave you that wisdom and insight to know
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  you needed to listen? Because so many times as women,
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  we don't, we keep pushing the voices away.
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  So talk to me about your your ability to really respond to
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  that. Yes.
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  So growing up, I, I seen a lot of my caregivers, a lot of women
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  self abandoned themselves for the sake of the family cooking,
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  you know, working, making an income while taking care of the
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  household and raising children. And I've seen how much self
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  abandonment can weigh on, you know, family members, mental,
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  emotional, spiritual and physical state.
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  I've seen a lot of them have health scares as well.
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  So when seeing that, I've seen a lot of suffering in that way.
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  And when you know is I come, well, my caregivers come from a
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  generation where they're just used to caring for others.
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  They put their family 1st and I highly regard that and admire
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  that. But what they didn't know is
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  they didn't have the tools and you know, the knowledge that we
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  share so freely today that was within within our fingertips.
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  They don't they didn't have it back then.
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  So they don't know any any bad about self regulation and taking
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  care of your health and not self abandoning.
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  And also they didn't know boundaries.
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  Boundaries were not existent. Exactly.
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  Speak to that. Speak to the boundaries piece
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  here, or the lack thereof. Yes.
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  So basically what what I saw is like when when I saw, you know,
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  friends or family members that had lack of boundaries, I pretty
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  much witnessed a lot of, you know, strife.
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  You could tell that they're overwhelmed and weighed down and
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  that it was creating tension and resentment between
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  relationships. Yeah, and that builds up over
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  time. And when you don't know how to
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  create a healthy boundary, you're really self abandoning
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  yourself. And that can get you into a lot
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  of health issues in their conflict.
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  And you don't have Peace of Mind.
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  You're, you're constantly on the go taking care of everyone else
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  and putting everyone's needs first.
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  So it's, it's definitely something I wish my older
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  generations of women in my family knew how to do better.
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  And yes, and, and it's only because I say that because I
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  care about them and I feel bad that they didn't have access to
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  the content and resources about living healthy and putting
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  yourself first. Yeah, absolutely.
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  And you just tied in beautifully our first three talking points
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  and how they're connected, how they're interrelated, the power
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  of them. And just, you know, breaking
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  generational cycles is such an important piece of what you saw.
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  Like, I've seen this, how this plays out.
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  This is not a road I'm going to continue down for myself.
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  I knew when I was younger I wanted better.
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  Now I've got a chance to do something about it.
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  So I'm going to take the necessary steps, maybe as scary
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  as they mean, but I know I don't want to end up where I saw their
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  lives go with that continual self abandoned.
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  Would it cost your health? Would it cost your
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  relationships? There's so many tie insurance to
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  that. And that's all part of our
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  self-care. I'd say often self-care is
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  healthcare. It's caring for yourself.
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  Yes, we like to do the nice fun things, the spas and the and the
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  bubble baths and that. All those things are great, but
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  it's beyond that. It's tending and listening to
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  your body when it's giving you clues and looking at your, the
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  generations that are older than you and.
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  And like, oh, wait a minute, I see what's happening here.
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  I'm going to learn from this. I'm going to do better for
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  myself, which is then going to be better for my child because
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  she, yeah, she's going to see this as possible.
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  And I'm going to not, you know, so thank you for all of that.
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  That was really so well explained.
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  So talk to me about your own boundaries.
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  You've got to this point. You realize you need to make
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  changes. You moved.
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  You've got back out to nature. Talk to me now about where when
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  you decided to make these moves, these are big moves, how to be
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  about communicating this need to do this to your family because
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  you're like, OK, guys, we're we're heading now we're getting
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  out of the city, your workspaces.
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  Talk to me about that establishing those because she
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  said it's all boundaries are for our self preservation.
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  They're so we don't abandoned ourselves.
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  They're not walls. They're not these brick, bricks
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  and mortar. They're they're guideposts and
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  spaces where we are able to protect our time and our
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  bandwidth to make sure we can fill our cups and come back as
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  our healthiest, most authentic selves in all the spaces we
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  inhabit. But what was it like
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  communicating this to people? Oh, yeah.
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  So basically, you know, what I was, I got to a point where I
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  was so consumed with making myself and my family happy and
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  joyful and healthy that it no longer, you know, took up my
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  mind space about what others would think about this
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  situation. You know, I I say, you know, let
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  it be. I used to be the type of person
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  many years ago before I healed. We're worried about what others
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  thought. Yeah.
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  But, you know, we're in the state of the world when the
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  pandemic was just beginning and people were afraid for their
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  lives. So people were uncertain, right?
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  So people were stuck in their own fear, in their own, you
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  know, insecurities and uncertainties that my husband
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  and I just need to move ahead on this plan.
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  And we felt so comfortable about it.
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  And we thought, you know, we're doing this for our daughter's,
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  our daughter's future and for our family's future.
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  So it was really, you know, something that we just went full
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  steam ahead on, and I'm so thankful for that.
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  So it took some planning, but we like to plan and you know it, it
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  took some exploring during a time when it was very dark for
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  people. People were getting sick,
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  people, a lot of lives were lost.
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  I acknowledge that suffering when it was happening, but it
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  felt like almost like the twilight zone where, yeah, you
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  know, you don't know what's going to happen in the world.
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  So I felt like I was, you know, let's just go for the stream of
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  getting a house out of the city and, you know, living in a
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  totally different environment. It's kind of like pressing
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  reset. And in a time where people were
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  clicking reset on their lives during lockdown, we were pretty
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  much resetting everything. So that was very helpful to do.
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  And then in terms of the boundaries, like you said it,
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  it's so true that you need to protect your time and your
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  safety. And that needs to be
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  communicated clearly with family and friends, you know, and
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  overtime, like when you first Start learning how to instill
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  those boundaries, you're going to feel a little bit guilty at
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  first, as I did, because you're so used to like not thinking,
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  caring about your own feelings that that self abandonment.
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  Yes, it feels uncomfortable because you're putting that
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  boundary in place. But at the same time you feel
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  guilty because you feel like you're living leaving those
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  people in the dark, kind of just saying the hell with you.
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  But you do it in a nice way, in an assertive way.
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  And you make it very simple without having to explain
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  yourself and learning just to say no as a complete sentence.
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  And you know, just being clear about what you want, like for
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  example, at night after I have my nightly shower and dinner's
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  over and everything, my family knows not to go into my room
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  after I have my shower because they know that's my meditation
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  time. So I just said to them, you
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  know, I'd like to make a simple request that you guys don't come
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  in the room while I'm doing my meditation.
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  That's my time to refuel my, my mind, body, spirit.
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  So they know that. I love that.
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  That's a great example. That is a really great example
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  and the way you say it, and I love how you talked about don't
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  need to over explain. I need to do for the my this for
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  my Wellness, my health. Those that authentically care
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  about you and want you to be well are going to come around.
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  Even if it takes some time for them to get used to the new
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  boundary, they will come around because they want you to be well
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  too. If they if they don't come
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  around that, that might be an indication of a different
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  boundary around that relationship.
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  I mean, these are all opportunities to learn about
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  that. And I think for so many people,
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  and it's sad to me, and I think what I'd love to see us get past
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  by using these frameworks that you and I are talking about here
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  and that we talk about on the podcast regularly is time and
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  time again, not only personal like roadblocks that we run into
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  with our health. But for so many in the world,
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  and especially I think in North America and Europe, it took this
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  massive catastrophic event of a of COVID to get people to sit
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  down long enough to consider that they might need a reset.
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  That they might need to look at how they're spending their time
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  and who they're giving their time to valuing these
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  relationships because all of a sudden people were being lost
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  that no one ever thought they were going to be losing in that
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  time span. So it, it really forced us to
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  face some hard truths. I would love us to get to a
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  point where it doesn't take something really difficult or
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  catastrophic in your life personally or on a world scope,
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  global scope, to make us sit back and listen.
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  Let's put these frameworks in in place now.
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  Let's value ourselves and our relationships and our life
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  enough now to not need to hit this.
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  But because you go back to how you saw women operating as you
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  grew up, the scripts we get as little girls, I mean, we get
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  these collectively as women. But then there's another level
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  depending on your background, your faith space, your
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  ethnicity, your socio economic space, all these things, you
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  know, play into the depth and the intensity of these messages
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  that you that we get about taking care of with everyone
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  else and prioritizing yourself is selfish and all these really
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  backwards ways of thinking. But when they're so ingrained,
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  it's really hard. You talked about feeling guilty
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  at first. It's really hard to get that
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  mind shift going. And it takes time and practice
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  to convince your nervous system or no, this is good.
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  We're on a good path here. And it also takes people time.
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  It didn't operate that way and may not understand it and may be
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  fearful of your choices and what they mean instead of realizing,
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  no, this is actually healthy. And just because we've always
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  done it that way doesn't mean it's the healthiest way to go.
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  Exactly. And you want a good point there.
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  Because you know. What you're so right about
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  people like the older generations being stuck in their
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  ways and having traditional ways of thinking, not being really
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  open to anything, almost like being close minded, not in a bad
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  way, but just being used to what they're used to.
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  So something someone does something of a younger
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  generation, their family that is out of the norm, not within
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  their expectations, that's definitely going to throw them
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  off. But you know, if you're
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  authentic to yourself, you're being true to your heart, your
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  soul, and you're doing it for the good of your own mental
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  health and well-being. And, you know, sometimes you're,
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  you're going to disappoint people, but you have to realize
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  that's part of life. And if they're going to be
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  disappointed in in what you're doing to make yourself better,
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  then they're just going to have to stay that way.
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  And you're going to have to, you know, let go of you know what
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  they're thinking about you. Yeah.
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  So when you let go of what others, how others perceive you,
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  that creates more space and freedom for you to who you are
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  in this world. You're not fitting this mold of
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  what they want you to be. And then, you know, if you start
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  to shed those expectations of our different roles that we play
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  and not hold on to them so much like, Oh my gosh, I'm, I'm a
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  daughter, like, you know, I'm a grandchild and I'm not
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  fulfilling my responsibilities as as those roles, that puts
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  more pressure on you as a person.
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  And if you just take the pressure away and don't take
• 25:14
  your try not to take your roles too serious seriously, even
• 25:17
  though it is important to take care of your family and and be
• 25:21
  caring, don't do it at the expense of your own mental,
• 25:26
  emotional and spiritual physical health, right?
• 25:29
  Yes, yes, you said that so well, so good.
• 25:34
  And this really has enabled you to really show up
• 25:37
  unapologetically for yourself and now you're supporting and
• 25:41
  providing resources to other women to do so.
• 25:45
  But it's that when I, when we are well, then it's better for
• 25:49
  everybody else. And we need to really start
• 25:52
  shifting our mindsets as a culture to see that when we're
• 25:58
  taking care of ourselves and prioritizing our Wellness,
• 26:01
  everybody wins. And if you view it as a loss,
• 26:05
  then that's something you need to work through.
• 26:07
  Like if someone is pushing back or not responding well to these
• 26:11
  changes, it's not your responsibility to change their
• 26:14
  mind. It's not responsibility your
• 26:17
  energy exactly to force. Them into something they're not
• 26:21
  ready for, that's their work to do.
• 26:23
  But that doesn't mean you shouldn't move forward with what
• 26:27
  you know is healthiest for yourself.
• 26:29
  So really well said on that. Talk to me about that
• 26:34
  unapologetic piece you mentioned earlier, the freedom that when
• 26:38
  you release other people's expectations and, and you
• 26:42
  release those things that you have been trying to live by to
• 26:46
  keep everybody else well but abandoned yourself, it really
• 26:50
  does free you up to to be authentic to you.
• 26:53
  You got back to your writing. You got back to helping others
• 26:57
  with their writing. You've got resources via books
• 27:00
  and journals now available for women.
• 27:03
  When talk to me about that transition of like, wait a
• 27:07
  minute, I am not only helping myself here by making these
• 27:11
  changes, I can help others too. And that's really always been
• 27:15
  within me. Talk to me about moving into
• 27:17
  that space. Yes, it's, it took a lot of self
• 27:22
  discovery, but when I began writing my story and the lessons
• 27:26
  I've learned throughout different points of my life, I,
• 27:30
  I realized this is just not for me to keep.
• 27:32
  This is for me to teach other people through my website,
• 27:37
  through social media and through these podcasts, ways in which
• 27:43
  she could really find inner peace.
• 27:47
  And it's my mission to do that because I, I care about people
• 27:51
  and I see the suffering that people experience.
• 27:54
  I feel that energy of, you know, struggles that people go
• 27:58
  through. And pretty much we have
• 28:03
  universal themes that we all go through in our lives, whether
• 28:07
  that be grief, identity crisis, relationship issues with either
• 28:14
  friends or family or, you know, parental relationships and also
• 28:21
  like self identity issues as well.
• 28:25
  And, you know, power, status, wealth and, you know, ego,
• 28:30
  everyone has a dark side and a good side.
• 28:32
  So I realized, you know, this is something I really need to
• 28:36
  disseminate and find a framework to find simple ways and simple
• 28:40
  strategies that people can, you know, implement in their lives
• 28:44
  in small steps to find just a little bit of peace if they're,
• 28:49
  you know, not ready to go on a full healing journey.
• 28:52
  Because there's little bits and pieces and glimmers of hope in
• 28:56
  our everyday journey. And if you just, you know, do
• 28:59
  something for yourself that makes you joyful without
• 29:03
  worrying about what others are going to think of you, or if
• 29:07
  without worrying about being judged and just doing it things
• 29:10
  for yourself, that creates a lot of freedom and peace.
• 29:16
  So yeah, I'd love to write about strategies on how to help people
• 29:20
  cope with these different life challenges in different stages
• 29:25
  and phases of their life. And it's all all about mindset
• 29:30
  reframing, assessing your environment to promote healing,
• 29:35
  and having compassion for yourself and others.
• 29:38
  So if you make a mistake, please don't beat yourself up over it.
• 29:42
  This is all part of being human and learning our lessons along
• 29:46
  the way on our path to evolution and growth.
• 29:50
  So I'm doing what I'm doing as a mission to bring unity to people
• 29:54
  because there's so much division, especially in this
• 29:58
  world of how politics are unfolding and people, you know,
• 30:04
  being displaced from climate change and the recent wildfires
• 30:09
  and not only California, but other parts of the world as
• 30:12
  well. Yeah.
• 30:14
  You know, it's just we're not going to have the outside
• 30:18
  external things to comfort us. We have to rely on our our inner
• 30:24
  strength and how we deal with ourselves.
• 30:28
  And if we can love ourselves and love others, that can really go
• 30:34
  a long way in helping you feel like you could thrive.
• 30:39
  Yeah. And get through anything.
• 30:41
  Because as we've seen with these people being displaced from
• 30:45
  their homes at this time in the world, it's, you know, it just
• 30:52
  shows that, you know, you've built a life.
• 30:54
  It can get knocked down again. We could go through rough bottom
• 31:00
  and lose everything. But if you work on building your
• 31:04
  inner peace and strength and loving yourself and loving
• 31:09
  people around you, it can go. It can help you rebuild again.
• 31:16
  So, and that's what people need to know.
• 31:18
  We can't rely on outer things, but you have to rebuild your
• 31:22
  life. Yes, that firm foundation within
• 31:26
  you. Thank you so much.
• 31:27
  That was so good. You spoke to that so well and
• 31:29
  that goes really nicely into coming back to your why in your
• 31:33
  values. You allowed your why in your
• 31:36
  values to be shaped and formed and to build a life that fit
• 31:41
  into that, that aligned with that, that felt authentic to
• 31:45
  that. You recognized when this
• 31:48
  corporate job and his life in the city is not in alignment
• 31:52
  anymore, even though you, the the organizations you were
• 31:54
  working for was doing really philanthropic work.
• 31:58
  So sometimes I think it's important to point out that just
• 32:01
  because you're doing a good thing, there may be a time that
• 32:05
  it comes in, it's not the right good thing for you to be doing
• 32:08
  anymore. And really circling back to what
• 32:11
  you, what you value and, and start looking at what's my why
• 32:16
  behind this. You determined my why behind
• 32:18
  staying here has been this stability, but this stability,
• 32:23
  financial stability is costing me and every other area of my
• 32:27
  life. So I've got to get aligned with
• 32:29
  those values and you were kind of partner supporting you in
• 32:33
  that, which is huge. But talk to me about your why in
• 32:37
  values journey and how that informs you.
• 32:42
  Yes, so basically I, I thought about like, sometimes I'm only
• 32:48
  human too. So I, I like to ask questions
• 32:50
  about how can I live a better life or what can I learn to, to
• 32:57
  help me navigate a certain situation.
• 32:59
  So I'm always getting curious and asking myself how can I
• 33:03
  improve my personal development and growth?
• 33:07
  And, and I, I try to put myself in other people's shoes.
• 33:11
  What, what would they want to know on about their lives and
• 33:17
  how can they navigate their situations as well.
• 33:21
  So my why values always goes back to thinking about humanity.
• 33:28
  How can we suffer less? How can we do away with inner
• 33:32
  conflict? How can we live less from a
• 33:37
  state of feeding our egos and instead of coming and living
• 33:43
  from a spiritual place where we're compassionate and caring
• 33:47
  about not only ourselves, but others.
• 33:51
  And you know, it's, it's always life is complicated,
• 33:56
  relationships are complicated. But hearing other people's
• 34:01
  stories and reading about different ways of how to
• 34:07
  navigate certain situations, I just like to go on explorations
• 34:12
  of, you know, how can I develop this different content to put a
• 34:17
  message out there that will make someone's day a little better.
• 34:21
  So it's, it's baby steps. It's not throwing a big
• 34:24
  framework at somebody and saying, you know, this is how
• 34:27
  you get to inner peace. It's a, it's a huge journey and
• 34:32
  it'll be an, a healing journey every day till the day you're no
• 34:37
  longer here on earth. So try different modalities.
• 34:42
  And I encourage that. I, I come from, you know, a
• 34:45
  religious background of Roman Catholic, and I'm still true to
• 34:48
  my religion this day, but I'm more so spiritual.
• 34:53
  And I, I really think that people can find their way if
• 35:00
  they're just open to trying different modalities, trying
• 35:05
  different ways of healing and just seeing what works for you.
• 35:08
  Yeah, yes. And everyone will find something
• 35:12
  different. But there's always a path to
• 35:14
  feeling a little better and healing any trauma that I mean,
• 35:18
  that you have and you can get there.
• 35:21
  It seems hard at first, but if you put in a little bit of work
• 35:26
  and find a support network like you're podcasting your
• 35:30
  community, Melissa and Racing Layers Network, women really
• 35:35
  need that. And you know, sometimes women
• 35:38
  don't always have the support system in their own lives.
• 35:41
  That when you can reach out and and be a part of a community
• 35:45
  like yours where women are uplifting each other and not
• 35:49
  bring each other down and trying to teach each other different
• 35:54
  lessons, I think we can come together and and build this
• 35:59
  unity that we need right now in our world.
• 36:02
  Yeah. So yes.
• 36:05
  Thank you so much for that. Thank you for the affirmation
• 36:07
  and thank you for the wisdom. You have so much wisdom about
• 36:10
  this. Your curiosity really drives
• 36:13
  your learning it your passion does your your caring does you
• 36:17
  are set. You're you're naturally
• 36:20
  empathetic. Like that's really built into
• 36:22
  you're naturally intuitive and that really drives how you
• 36:27
  proceed with yourself, with others, what you offer, what you
• 36:31
  share, and what you continue to learn.
• 36:34
  And what you said is so true. Stay with it ladies.
• 36:38
  There are ways and places and things that you can do to find
• 36:43
  that peace and that contentment. It is a journey.
• 36:45
  It is not an overnight fix. We are not here to here's five
• 36:50
  ways to reach inner peace in the next six weeks.
• 36:53
  That's not going to happen. It's a it's a continual journey,
• 36:58
  but it's that willingness to go on it.
• 37:00
  Be curious, be kind, be empathetic and, and, and, and
• 37:05
  learn from each other. That was just so beautifully
• 37:07
  laid out and that is you. Your values are like you just
• 37:12
  described your values right in there, like all those things or
• 37:17
  what you value and what drive you.
• 37:19
  That was really beautiful. Thank you so much for that.
• 37:21
  We've talked a little bit about this already, but living out of
• 37:25
  your own expectations versus others, you have moved into
• 37:29
  this, you've seen the value of it.
• 37:31
  You've seen what it was costing you to try to meet all these
• 37:35
  other expectations. You've seen what it's cost the
• 37:38
  generations before you. You have now moved into this
• 37:41
  space where this it's a, it's a value of yours in many ways to
• 37:45
  live from that, that authentic place.
• 37:48
  So talk to me about that journey and getting to you the space
• 37:53
  where you really do live authentically there and how you
• 37:56
  help others to get there as well.
• 37:59
  Yes, so so the journey could be 1 where you feel lonely for a
• 38:04
  while because you're you're excavating all these this
• 38:08
  different messaging and content to help you grow as a person.
• 38:13
  But it's kind of, you know, like going on a spiritual retreat for
• 38:18
  myself that very much felt like it.
• 38:22
  I'd ask questions, I journal, I'd say my prayers everyday to
• 38:26
  look for answers. Whenever I was experiencing an
• 38:31
  issue or a problem, I would journal about about it.
• 38:36
  And it had, you know, the answer wouldn't appear right away.
• 38:40
  Sometimes they wouldn't, you know, I'd have to ask this
• 38:42
  question to myself every day either, just in my own head as
• 38:47
  I'm going through the day. How, how am I going to get
• 38:50
  answers to this problem? And you know, how am I like, how
• 38:58
  do I navigate the situation? So I'm always asking questions
• 39:02
  through my prayer, through my meditation, and just in my head
• 39:06
  throughout the day. And I found that through healing
• 39:10
  journeys, you do need to ask yourself these questions so that
• 39:14
  you can get to a point where you feel comfortable in your own
• 39:17
  skin and you're being steered in the direction that you're meant
• 39:21
  to be and meant to go. Everyone has a destined path
• 39:26
  that they're meant for. And I encourage you to look out
• 39:30
  for those signs that are telling you to go in another direction.
• 39:33
  If something's falling away in your life that you know, you
• 39:37
  don't expect it to go away and but you're trying to hold on to
• 39:41
  it, that's a sign that it's, you need to let that go and move on
• 39:46
  to a different path in your life because doors are always closing
• 39:50
  and, and people don't realize, OK, you know, like, why did
• 39:55
  this? Why is this opportunity falling
• 39:57
  away? It's because the universe and
• 40:00
  God has something greater in store for you.
• 40:04
  So it's just being open to science.
• 40:06
  Be very open to what you're feeling intuitively.
• 40:10
  Sometimes you'll feel that in your gut.
• 40:13
  Sometimes you'll, you'll ask yourself a question.
• 40:16
  You'll just feel an inner knowing in your heart whether
• 40:20
  that thing is right for you or not.
• 40:23
  And sometimes there could just be signs of, you know, you
• 40:27
  overhear someone speaking in public or on on a podcast or on
• 40:33
  TV, or you read a book and you know, like a message just really
• 40:38
  lands for you. And that took it's leading you
• 40:41
  on the path to to heal, to not be afraid of healing.
• 40:47
  And you know, don't don't let your fears get the best of you
• 40:52
  because love is stronger. And if you feel alone and
• 40:56
  isolated while you're going on a healing journey, that that's OK
• 41:01
  because you're never really alone.
• 41:02
  If you believe in spirituality, you do have guys and angels
• 41:06
  looking over you to help you through.
• 41:11
  So it can feel like a lonely journey at first to heal.
• 41:14
  And you know, when you know it's the right time to do that for
• 41:19
  you, you won't be worrying about what other people's expectations
• 41:24
  are of you. You'll you'll feel free.
• 41:27
  It feels very liberating. And you know, a spiritual
• 41:31
  awakening is you know, it's the greatest gift that you can give
• 41:35
  yourself. It is to heal your inner beans
• 41:38
  and move on with your life and go for what you're really meant
• 41:43
  to be doing in this world. Yeah.
• 41:45
  Oh yeah. Gosh, so good.
• 41:48
  You're really good at this. You're really good at eating
• 41:50
  touch on things so well and you had to trust yourself in that.
• 41:54
  And I think that is not. It's one thing to get the
• 41:57
  messages, it's another thing to trust them.
• 42:01
  How have you learned to trust that and not?
• 42:06
  And I think sometimes we just get to a point like, I can't
• 42:08
  live like this anymore. I have no other choice but to
• 42:12
  listen to this and trust this and move forward because staying
• 42:15
  where I'm at is not working. Is that how it worked for you or
• 42:18
  was there a different path to really learning to trust
• 42:21
  yourself? Yeah, that's a great question,
• 42:24
  Melissa. And I love that because if
• 42:27
  you're deeply intuitive and you learn how to harness that
• 42:31
  intuition within yourself, you really know, like for me, it was
• 42:36
  a lot of nudges and bread crumbs and signals and signs that I was
• 42:41
  getting to lead me down the path to pursue my writing again, to
• 42:46
  write a book, you know, for example, wherever I went or
• 42:51
  wherever I go to this day, I'm, I'm getting signs that are
• 42:56
  telling me to still, you know, pursue this journey of being a
• 43:00
  writer and an author and getting my word out there.
• 43:05
  So it's just, it's a constant reminder.
• 43:08
  It's like this radio frequency where you're getting these
• 43:12
  messages spoken to you and it doesn't ever shut up.
• 43:18
  Like it's like on constant repeat.
• 43:21
  And I think, you know, like if you tune into that, the universe
• 43:26
  and God always has a way of communicating with you.
• 43:30
  So try to tune into that harness.
• 43:32
  I know if some people haven't cultivated that yet, do some
• 43:37
  research and see how you can cultivate that a little bit
• 43:40
  more. And it's a recent topic I talked
• 43:44
  about in my recent free newsletter that ioffer on my
• 43:46
  website, if you want to subscribe to it, is finding a
• 43:51
  spiritual solution to your problems.
• 43:54
  And this involves following your inner knowing and looking for
• 43:58
  these these signs and messages that come through to you on a
• 44:04
  loop. And that's how you know it.
• 44:07
  It just sits right with you. If you can have here a message,
• 44:10
  it'll sit with you and I'll just feel right.
• 44:13
  And that's how you know that's the path to go down.
• 44:16
  Some people having need to learn how to cultivate it.
• 44:20
  And I encourage it. Yeah.
• 44:22
  I'm. So glad you brought up that
• 44:24
  cultivation piece because because of the fast-paced
• 44:27
  society we live in, we live much of our lives disassociated from
• 44:30
  our bodies. We just go, go, go, go, go and
• 44:33
  push it, push it back. And so it does take some time.
• 44:37
  Sit down, pause, give yourself space to actually TuneIn to what
• 44:45
  your body is trying to tell you what your spirit, your soul is
• 44:50
  trying to speak to you and take some time and it, and it does
• 44:54
  take a commitment to cultivate it once you do.
• 44:57
  And it's president's there, it's present, you know, and I mean,
• 45:03
  and I can attest to that because I've gone on my own journey.
• 45:06
  Like, I know it's just up to me to be like, oh, yeah, OK, I'm,
• 45:10
  I'm feeling this and this. And it'll keep nudging you.
• 45:13
  It'll get your attention in ways you can't ignore until you
• 45:18
  acknowledge it. But yeah, I want to.
• 45:19
  I'm so glad you brought up the cultivation piece, because if
• 45:23
  you're like, I'm not getting anything, I'm like, when's the
• 45:24
  last time you sat down and quieted your mind?
• 45:27
  Do you set aside any time in your day, your week, to do that,
• 45:32
  to allow this to develop and grow?
• 45:36
  Exactly. And then I love that you brought
• 45:38
  that up because it's in that silence.
• 45:41
  Once you ask yourself those questions, I you're looking for
• 45:44
  answers to issues you're facing and you want to be able to solve
• 45:48
  them. Ask yourself those questions in
• 45:51
  moments of silence. That's the most powerful time to
• 45:55
  do that and just listen to your senses and, and what you're
• 45:59
  feeling and even look at your dreams and, and seeing, you
• 46:05
  know, like what pops up for you and your dreams.
• 46:07
  Maybe there's something there, there's a message there that can
• 46:11
  really be insightful to helping guide your next steps.
• 46:16
  So just just be fully aware, try to develop your awareness
• 46:21
  because the answer, sometimes they say the answer is within
• 46:24
  you and all around you. You just need to find it.
• 46:30
  Yeah, and give ourselves space to notice it.
• 46:32
  I mean, honestly and also somatically pay attention to
• 46:36
  your body, where you're carrying things.
• 46:38
  We carry so many of these things in our bodies and when we don't
• 46:42
  give ourselves time to sit and notice that, you know, that
• 46:46
  plays a role too. So thank you so much for that.
• 46:48
  So good. All right, accepting the layered
• 46:51
  aspects of ourselves. These are all the parts and
• 46:54
  pieces of our life, our story, our character traits that make
• 46:59
  up who we are. And I really feel like it's an
• 47:03
  important piece of the journey to really acknowledge those
• 47:06
  layers, accept those layers. We don't have to love all of
• 47:09
  them, but we need to acknowledge them and and realized that we're
• 47:13
  human and, and, and those are all parts and pieces of us.
• 47:18
  Talk to me about your layers journey.
• 47:21
  Oh, I'm a very, there's a lot of layers here and a lot of layers
• 47:26
  I needed to kind of release from through through this healing
• 47:32
  journey. I had a lot of because they're
• 47:36
  in the basically, I think with my layers like anger, it was
• 47:43
  definitely one of them like thinking.
• 47:46
  And before I got completely healed, I had a lot of anger
• 47:50
  and, and not knowing why, you know, as I think I bottled
• 47:58
  things up for so long before I had healed.
• 48:01
  And that's where the anger stems from because it never got
• 48:04
  released. And it's a really difficult
• 48:07
  emotion to deal with because you don't want anyone getting in
• 48:12
  your way when you're, or being anywhere near you when you're
• 48:15
  angry that way, because you don't want to make that
• 48:18
  relationship rupture in any way. So I encourage people, if
• 48:23
  you're, if you're dealing with some sort of anger emotion, you
• 48:28
  know, it's, it's going to the safe space where you close the
• 48:31
  door and you, you know, maybe scream into a pillow or
• 48:34
  something, you know, and kick is kick and scream in your in your
• 48:39
  bed or something, something like that.
• 48:41
  Make it a safe space and release those emotions.
• 48:45
  And they say if you shake it out, those emotions get released
• 48:50
  as well. So there's different coping
• 48:53
  things that you could do to really release your body of what
• 48:57
  you're holding on to. And they say it's healthy to
• 49:01
  feel anger. So if you're feeling it, don't
• 49:04
  shove it down, don't suppress it.
• 49:06
  Definitely find a way of letting it out in a Safeway way.
• 49:10
  Yeah. So yeah, go screaming.
• 49:13
  So a pillow, go for a walk in nature.
• 49:16
  And they say screaming is really, really, you know,
• 49:20
  therapeutic for you. And if, if that doesn't work,
• 49:24
  there's I'm sure there's a whole other host of strategies you
• 49:27
  could do to believe setting or whether it be journaling,
• 49:32
  listening to music and just letting yourself feel it for a
• 49:37
  while so that you can process it and then let it go.
• 49:41
  So that is one that that one of those complex layers I don't
• 49:46
  like to have because I almost feel like it's shameful to have
• 49:50
  that anger. And then I think to myself, oh,
• 49:53
  why? I have nothing to be angry
• 49:55
  about. What is that?
• 49:57
  Where's that coming from? So I asked myself these
• 49:59
  questions and then I think back to, oh, well, maybe it's because
• 50:05
  you bottled things up for so long and now it's time to find
• 50:08
  ways to release these things. So it's very complex.
• 50:14
  And that that was a hard emotion that I had to deal with through
• 50:18
  my healing journey and find a way to purify my mind, body and
• 50:23
  soul of that. Because that anger can fester
• 50:28
  and, you know, find its way into your cells and not make you feel
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  so great. So yes, yeah, those were one of
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  the emotions that I had difficulty with.
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  And I know others. Others do too.
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  Yeah, I'm so glad you brought up the anger piece because there's
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  so many misguided notions about anger.
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  Anger is a clue. It is a clue to let you know
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  that something needs to be processed, moved through,
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  handled, and also that there's can be multiple ways to approach
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  that. But you got curious.
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  You moved out of judgement in shame and got curious instead
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  and started asking yourself questions so you could get to
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  the why. And so then you could release
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  it. I mean, and I think that's such
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  an important part of the process.
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  I have had to deal with anger as well from different things in my
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  story. And my therapist would say she's
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  like, all right, we've talked about this today.
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  EMDR is a of therapy that I've used.
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  We've used him here, but there's a lot stored up in your body
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  still. So I want you to take a pillow
• 51:34
  and find a wall that you can hit with it.
• 51:37
  Find an anger room somewhere. Some cities have anger rooms
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  where you go in and blocks and kick things because you need to
• 51:45
  it or the screaming. But your body, even if you've
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  identified the why and maybe talked about some things and
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  done some different notes, your body still needs to release it.
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  So thank you for those examples. And, and it's such, I think
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  anger again, is just one of those really misunderstood
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  emotions about what's appropriate about also
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  remembering too, that there's, there's some kinds of anger that
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  can really motivate you to make changes in your own life, in
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  society and whatnot. So channeling it, but don't
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  bottle it up, don't try to hide it, don't be ashamed of it.
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  Your body can't carry it forever.
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  And it's going to come out in a really unpleasant way, whether
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  you're snapping your partner's head off or whether it manifests
• 52:35
  itself physically in some kind of a going back to that mental,
• 52:39
  emotional, physical health connection.
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  So thank you so much for sharing that and your vulnerability in
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  that, because that's something I think a lot, a lot of people
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  experience, but they don't know how to approach or they don't
• 52:51
  want to approach because of stigmas that they've heard in
• 52:54
  their lives about anger. Yes, of course.
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  And I've heard that the stigmas can get in the way.
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  So yeah, to find different avenues of of letting it go and
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  releasing it, it's a game changer.
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  It really is. Help you, you know, make space
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  for more important things in your life.
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  Absolutely it does. It clears out space.
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  You would literally feel a physical lift off of you when
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  you release that. I mean, I know for me and my
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  experience, I do. Thank you so much for that,
• 53:23
  Tara. All right, in living out feel,
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  finding empowerment, embracing layers, which is what you are
• 53:29
  doing. Talk to me about how that has
• 53:33
  impacted your relationship with yourself as well as your
• 53:37
  relationship with other people. OK, so I think nowadays I give
• 53:44
  myself more grace. I I used to be the type of
• 53:47
  person that would beat myself up or put so much pressure on
• 53:51
  myself to succeed, almost to a point of where you don't like,
• 53:56
  you get down on yourself for making a little mistake or, you
• 54:00
  know, not being perfect in a certain way.
• 54:04
  But when you start letting go of those expectations of yourself,
• 54:08
  you give yourself compassion and just meet yourself where you
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  are, you know, makes life so much easier.
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  You don't feel like there's a burden on your shoulders and
• 54:20
  you're just letting yourself be. You're going with the flow of
• 54:23
  life. You know, it's all about being
• 54:27
  and living in the present moment.
• 54:29
  And if you can master that and learn how to really just embrace
• 54:34
  the present moment and love yourself where you are, even if
• 54:40
  you made a little mistake, that's okay.
• 54:42
  That's part of being human. Yeah.
• 54:45
  So coming to a full acceptance of myself and being aware of
• 54:50
  what my flaws are and where I need to improve and just being
• 54:55
  honest with myself and trusting that I could take care of these
• 54:59
  things, You know, it leads to a much easier, more peaceful life
• 55:05
  in a sense because you're taking it easy on yourself.
• 55:09
  And when you're easier on yourself, that that really
• 55:12
  creates healthier relationships around you, as I know it has for
• 55:17
  me with my family. You know, I'm not expecting 10
• 55:21
  million things of my family because, you know, when you have
• 55:25
  a partner, you're, you're not relying on, you know, on them to
• 55:30
  make you joyful. We're 100% responsible to make
• 55:34
  ourselves happy. They're only one person and
• 55:36
  can't, you know, carry the load of being responsible for our
• 55:41
  happiness. So I think being a little
• 55:45
  lighter on expecting, not really expecting too much of our family
• 55:50
  members, I think that is a really big game changer in terms
• 55:56
  of creating more harmonious relationships.
• 56:00
  Yeah. Oh, that was so well said.
• 56:02
  Thank you for that. Yeah.
• 56:03
  We are responsible for ourselves.
• 56:06
  No one else is responsible for us and we are not responsible
• 56:10
  for others happiness like so they and it makes you come in
• 56:14
  when you don't. It takes the pressure off of the
• 56:17
  relationship too, to be something it was never meant to
• 56:20
  be. Yes.
• 56:22
  Yeah. So good, so good.
• 56:25
  Oh my gosh, so good. OK, we are getting down to the
• 56:28
  rapid fire here. Name 5 activities that nourish
• 56:33
  you. OK, so definitely podcast.
• 56:38
  I love listening to a good podcast.
• 56:40
  That's that really brings me a boost of motivation every day.
• 56:44
  So I try to make sure that's a very list of of different
• 56:49
  people's perspectives. Yeah.
• 56:51
  So if you're a big podcast fan, go listen to Melissa's Embracing
• 56:56
  Layers Field podcast. It's really helpful.
• 57:01
  And then #2 definitely writing. I love doing that meditation
• 57:07
  clears my cobwebs and you know, very noisy thoughts in my mind
• 57:13
  and then walks in nature and prayer talking to God.
• 57:18
  So those are my top five that I love to do and I incorporate
• 57:23
  pretty much everything of all of those every day.
• 57:27
  Awesome. I love that.
• 57:28
  So good. I love that so much.
• 57:29
  All right, 5 words on how you want to feel the next six
• 57:33
  months. OK, Joyful, fulfilled.
• 57:39
  Rejuvenated, excited and accomplished.
• 57:44
  OK, awesome. All right, Tara, tell people
• 57:48
  where they can find you and follow you.
• 57:49
  This will be on our website listeners.
• 57:51
  It's already there on our radio show page.
• 57:53
  It'll be on our resources page that's connected to the podcast.
• 57:57
  Just go to embracinglayers.com and look at that resources page.
• 58:01
  But tell people right now and give them a chance to.
• 58:04
  If they want to write it down right now, they can do that.
• 58:07
  Yeah, sure. So you can follow me on
• 58:10
  Instagram. I'm at Tara Mae Temple, which is
• 58:14
  spelled TARAMAETEMPLE. Or you could find me on Facebook
• 58:22
  at Tara Mae Temple. So you'll find that I post
• 58:26
  positive and motivational messages to really give you
• 58:29
  inspiration during this time of unrest, so encourage you to
• 58:33
  visit those. And then I also have a free
• 58:36
  newsletter you can subscribe to on my website for uplifting
• 58:42
  content on how to achieve harmony.
• 58:45
  So basically my website istriplew.terrasuiteawakening.com.
• 58:53
  So basically it it can serve you in many ways if you're looking
• 58:58
  for a little bit of support in your life on how to be more
• 59:01
  peaceful and joyful. And if you're looking for
• 59:06
  different strategies on how to solve a problem in your life, I
• 59:11
  wrote a recent newsletter about different ways you can solve
• 59:16
  those issues and find the answers you're looking for.
• 59:19
  So subscribe now and I'll, I'll have that in your inbox.
• 59:24
  And then you'll notice on my website if you're needing
• 59:27
  support with your healing journey, I'm also a mentor in
• 59:30
  that capacity. So I develop a personalized plan
• 59:35
  based on your needs, on what you need help healing with.
• 59:40
  So there's a form on the website and I determine if we're a good
• 59:43
  fit to work with one another. And I'm there to support you
• 59:48
  with a plan. So those are different ways you
• 59:52
  can work with me. OK, that's fantastic.
• 59:55
  I'm also going to share in our show notes and on our resources
• 59:59
  page will be the link to where Tara and I were together on the
• 1:00:04
  radio show in the fall of 2024. We had a great conversation
• 1:00:08
  about the value of knowing your character traits, not
• 1:00:12
  identifying yourselves by your roles and your titles.
• 1:00:15
  It was a really, really good conversation.
• 1:00:17
  Highly recommend you go visit that as well.
• 1:00:20
  That'll be linked there. Tara, thank you so much for your
• 1:00:23
  time today. You are a blessing.
• 1:00:25
  In the world. And I'm so happy to know you.
• 1:00:28
  Oh, I'm so happy to know you too, Melissa, and your show and
• 1:00:32
  your words of wisdom are helping so many people.
• 1:00:35
  So never stop doing what you're doing.
• 1:00:37
  And I encourage you to, you know, take a listen to all
• 1:00:42
  Melissa's shows because she's she's finding strong and really
• 1:00:47
  great role models and in the women community and you can
• 1:00:51
  learn a lot. Yeah, thank you.
• 1:00:53
  I know I I learn a lot every week.
• 1:00:55
  I mean, I'm thank you so much for your words of support and
• 1:00:58
  affirmation. I and this is what it looks
• 1:01:01
  like, ladies, to support each other unapologetically.
• 1:01:04
  There's room for all of us to do this work and have these
• 1:01:07
  conversations, and it's necessary to have all of us
• 1:01:11
  involved so we can bring everybody into this community of
• 1:01:14
  taking care of ourselves well and knowing that prioritizing
• 1:01:18
  our Wellness is good for us and for everybody that we're in
• 1:01:22
  association with. Exactly.
• 1:01:25
  And that's once you take care of yourself, that's when you get to
• 1:01:28
  a place of inner peace. So don't stop caring for
• 1:01:31
  yourselves. Yes, yes, absolutely,
• 1:01:35
  absolutely. Thank you again for your time
• 1:01:37
  today, for your authenticity, your vulnerability, your
• 1:01:40
  empathy, and your passion and care for women.
• 1:01:43
  I appreciate it so much. Audience members, take good care
• 1:01:48
  of yourselves this week. Sit into the quiet, give
• 1:01:51
  yourself some time, listen to those nudges.
• 1:01:54
  Trust yourself. Are you aligned in living
• 1:01:58
  authentically for how you were designed to live?
• 1:02:02
  Take it, take it. Take a step back and take a look
• 1:02:05
  at that. You're worthy of that.
• 1:02:07
  The world needs that from you as well and and your relationships
• 1:02:12
  will thrive when you are showing up with the right people that
• 1:02:16
  value you as much as you value yourself.
• 1:02:20
  So take some time for that this week.
• 1:02:22
  Take good care and have a great week.
• 1:02:28
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