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Gratitude Unlocked 5/7: When Gratitude Becomes Your Second Wind. #FinishStrongFriday · Dr. Derek H. Suite MD - The SuiteSpot

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  SPEAKER_00: Greetings and welcome! Greetings and welcome back.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: You made it, you made it to the end of the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, by Friday, we have all been kind of through the weekend, we've been tested, haven't we?
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  SPEAKER_00: The body's a little tired, the schedule's full, the noise is loud, there's the weekend in front of us, the feeling is, eh, we should just coast.
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  SPEAKER_00: And most people kind of start letting go and they start coasting.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's not you, is it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh no, not here.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because this is finished strong Friday, and we don't just back down and leave things undone, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not on Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh no, no, no.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet, your host, your board-certified psychiatrist and performance strategist here, who's more than just some doctor that likes to play around with science and medications.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a student.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am a student.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a student of life like you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm trying to figure it out.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is this intersection between science, soul, and success?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm having a lot of fun doing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today we're unlocking the final link in our gratitude chain.
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  SPEAKER_00: How gratitude fuels our finishing strong.
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  SPEAKER_00: How it will fuel our determination, our resilience, and our power to complete whatever we started.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because gratitude is never soft.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people think that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You hear gratitude, you hear power of thanks, you know, and it kind of sounds eh soft, but it's not passive at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about sitting back and saying, I guess that's enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude is a discipline, it's a discipline of remembering what's still worth fighting for.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your body says I'm done, your spirit says no.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your spirit says thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: When your body says quit, your spirit, filled with gratitude, says, I've got some extra fuel in the tank.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful for this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it helps you be motivated to go on.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the power of gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what scientists call this?
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  SPEAKER_00: They call it resilience activation when you shift into gratitude during stress or fatigue.
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  SPEAKER_00: A part of your brain called the anterior singlet cortex, the ACC.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the part of the brain that manages conflict and endurance.
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  SPEAKER_00: That part of the brain that manages your conflicts and helps you uh endure, that part of the brain lights up when you are being grateful, when you're practicing gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: It syncs with the CEO of the brain, the prefrontal cortex, and it brings your focus back online.
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  SPEAKER_00: The body literally reorganizes around that purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, look, if you're feeling spatzed out, if you're feeling a little confused, if you're feeling like giving up, you feel like you know what, I can't go on anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop for a second.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's your amygdala, that's your limbic system, that's your prehistoric brain, that it's just pushing you to the edge.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start taking a deep breath.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let it out and find something to be grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember the 10 fingers?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe do five today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five fingers.
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  SPEAKER_00: What am I grateful for on each finger?
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  SPEAKER_00: When you shift into gratitude thinking, you will find energy, you will find a different perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body literally reorganizes itself and you become more focused.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why gratitude and perseverance always travel together, they work together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude stabilizes your emotions, believe it or not.
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  SPEAKER_00: The science shows that when you practice gratitude, you can sustain your effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: They studied athletes who practice gratitude, they worked harder, they found a reason to push.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know why?
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  SPEAKER_00: When they were feeling grateful, they had more purpose, they were more aligned.
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  SPEAKER_00: One uh kind of benefit that they get is that their heart feels so much bigger in their minds, and yet it pumps more blood because it feels that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what that does?
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  SPEAKER_00: It carries them over the finish line.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the ancient wisdom, you know, we always love ancient wisdom here on the sweet spot.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ancient wisdom backs this up.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ancient wisdom puts it this way: let us not become weary in doing good.
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  SPEAKER_00: For at the proper time, we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's in Galatians 6 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's not just about reward, reaping the harvest, it's about a rhythm.
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  SPEAKER_00: You gotta keep showing up, you gotta keep doing your reps, you gotta keep going to practice, you gotta keep making your bed every morning, you gotta keep doing the right thing, keep trusting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because growth takes time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let us not become weary in doing what we have to do and doing the good things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You see, gratitude reminds you that every unseen act still counts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in the ancient wisdom, it goes a little further.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, this ancient wisdom, they're never short on the advice, but it's always so good.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's hard to believe that these things were written 2,000 years ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in James 1, it says this consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, when you face trials, challenges, obstacles of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Joy, really, in the middle of my trial?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what gratitude gives you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's gratitude's highest form.
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  SPEAKER_00: You ever sit with somebody who's really grateful and they have like a cancer diagnosis or they've been through some tragedy and they seem to have all this joy, that's gratitude at its highest form.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's saying, I don't enjoy the pain, but I'm grateful for what it's producing in me.
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  SPEAKER_00: That mindset turns pressure into growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: That mindset is that of a winner.
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  SPEAKER_00: That mindset you can't mess with.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's the psychology behind it.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you focus on what's still working, you increase two chemicals, neurochemicals, serotonin and dopamine, the brain's motivation and mood chemicals, and they act like internal fuel stabilizers.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, your brain is different when you are practicing gratitude, and when you have more serotonin and more dopamine than the next guy or the next gal, that's gratitude making your determination and perseverance stronger, more sustainable, you're not frantic.
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  SPEAKER_00: It moves you from willpower to spirit power, and you can't mess with spirit power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody knows that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how do you live that out, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You're an athlete, you're a high-level performer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Finishing strong means finding gratitude for the grind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every rep, every setback, every lesson, everything that you earn in that sweat.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude makes your efforts sacred, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you're a leader, maybe you're a business person.
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  SPEAKER_00: Gratitude is remembering that every hard week still shaped you for the better.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even when you didn't see it happening in the moment, you look back and you recognize that which didn't kill me made me stronger.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nietzsche was right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for you parents out there, for you caregivers, it's about giving thanks for the patience you didn't think you had and realizing that love itself is endurance in disguise.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have so much to be grateful for, and we have a lot to be grateful for because you exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're a caregiver, you're a hero.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you better be caring for yourself, okay?
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_00: I don't mean caregiver just for the other guy or the other gal, I'm talking about caregiver for you too, self-care.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's getting into tomorrow, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Tomorrow is self-care Saturday, so I'm getting ahead of myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So going back to gratitude, okay, anyone who's walking through adversity right now, is it stress from finances, is it stress from somebody on the job?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it the relationship stress?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it sickness or illness?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what finishing strong is?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about saying, I'm grateful because I'm still here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful because God is on my side.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful because I have come through many dangers, toils, and sneers.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful because goodness and mercy, they're following me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful because even though I'm walking through a valley right now, maybe even in the shadow of death, I'm not finished yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have gratitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's an attitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know what I just did?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I'm secreting a whole lot of oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, all the happy and positive chemicals are flowing through me right now because I'm walking in gratitude with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's happening to you too.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm promising you it's happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh man, I'm just too happy right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take a breath with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it, and just let it out slowly.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, sometimes that's the only deep breath we take for the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to remember when you do that breath, that deep breath, and you inhale, I want you to think about everything you have done to push through this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then when you exhale, I want you to just exhale the thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Inhale everything you've done.
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  SPEAKER_00: Exhale the thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: That breath is how perseverance feels.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's quiet, it's steady, it's focused, it's determined, it's gratitude in motion.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of my favorite definitions of perseverance is this long obedience in the same direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: Long obedience in the same direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to keep pushing.
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  SPEAKER_00: This isn't glamorous, but it's glorious.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's choosing to show up, to keep showing up, to keep loving, to keep grinding, to keep knocking on the door.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you remember what's been given and you believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember that athlete who makes believing his thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: You believe in what's still gonna work, you believe in what's still working, you believe in what's still growing.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's how gratitude works.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's faith disguised as consistency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because gratitude isn't how you just end the week, it's how you complete it, and it's how you turn your exhaustion into meaning and discipline, into joy.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_00: Remember, gratitude doesn't just help you start strong, it teaches you to be a stronger finisher.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Dr.
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  SPEAKER_00: Derek Sweet.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is Finish Strong Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are locking in.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're doing this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if this talk on finishing strong made sense to you and spoke to you and resonated with any part of you, I ask you to share it with someone you care about.
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  SPEAKER_00: See you tomorrow for Self Care Saturday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can't wait.