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257. YOu got ANTs · Your Enriched Self

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends from all across the globe, and welcome
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  Speaker 1: to the Urine rid Self Podcast. I'm your Hostmilee Noir.
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  Speaker 1: I am an emotional wellness and empowerment coach and what
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  Speaker 1: that means is I am looking up for you. I
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  Speaker 1: understand that our thoughts shape our lives, they shape our world,
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  Speaker 1: they shape our experiences, and so it's so important to
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  Speaker 1: manage your thoughts and that's what we do here on
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  Speaker 1: the Your Enriched Self Podcast. And speaking of thoughts, do
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  Speaker 1: you know how many thoughts you have a day? Yes,
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  Speaker 1: we have over fifteen thousand thoughts a day. And guess what,
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  Speaker 1: eighty percent of those thoughts are negative. And I think
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  Speaker 1: that's why this podcast, this conversation is so important. And
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  Speaker 1: this week I want to bring back in rotation one
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  Speaker 1: of my favorite, absolute favorite episodes called Killing Ants, Killing
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  Speaker 1: Automatic Negative Thoughts. Like I said, eighty percent of your
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  Speaker 1: thoughts are negative, and I want you to be aware
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  Speaker 1: of that, and not just in the sense of having
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  Speaker 1: the thoughts, but I want you to catch them. I
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  Speaker 1: want you to challenge them, and I want you to
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  Speaker 1: change them. And once you get into that habit, you
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  Speaker 1: can begin to practice it and let the repetition of
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  Speaker 1: what you're doing to remove those thoughts, to eliminate those
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  Speaker 1: negative thoughts, be part of your mental pattern, because just
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  Speaker 1: like I talked about in this episode, if you allow it,
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  Speaker 1: it can become an infestation of every room of your
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  Speaker 1: mind and it absolutely will change the outcome of your life.
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  Speaker 1: I want to thank you for being on this journey
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  Speaker 1: of the Your and ritch Self podcast. What are you're
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  Speaker 1: joining today for the first time? I know you were
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  Speaker 1: brought here on purpose, for a purpose, and if you
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  Speaker 1: are a repeat listener and you've heard this episode, it
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  Speaker 1: is worth a listen again. So thank you in advance
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  Speaker 1: for listening, for tuning in, for being part of this
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  Speaker 1: community to become more of your enriched self. Now, before
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  Speaker 1: we get started with this episode, there's something that I
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  Speaker 1: do each and every week, and if you know, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I make a deposit into the bank of you, and
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  Speaker 1: I do that by way of affirmations. Affirmations are a
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  Speaker 1: great way to start your day and to command your mourning.
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  Speaker 1: And this week's affirmation is I am not obligated to
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  Speaker 1: believe everything. I am not obligated to believe every thought
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  Speaker 1: I think. I am not obligated to believe every thought.
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  Speaker 1: I think I am not obligated to believe every thought.
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  Speaker 1: I think. I'll say this, you do have the power
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  Speaker 1: to challenge your thinking, choose a better thought, and create
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  Speaker 1: a more enriched life. Now, let's get ready for this
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  Speaker 1: week's episode that Your Enriched Self podcast. But I want
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  Speaker 1: you to recall with me a time when you went
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  Speaker 1: to an outdoor event, maybe a barbecue or picnic, that
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  Speaker 1: everybody's having a good time, and then somebody turns around
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  Speaker 1: and says, oh my gosh, there's ants all over your food,
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  Speaker 1: and the great delectables that you brought to the picnic
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  Speaker 1: that were brought to the barbecue are no longer something
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  Speaker 1: you can eat and enjoy. It kind of happens all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden. You know, one minute, you're enjoying the day,
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  Speaker 1: you're enjoying life, and all of a sudden, you have
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  Speaker 1: this infestation of ants. That infestation sometimes comes in as
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  Speaker 1: negative thoughts, and so today I want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: you about killing ants automatic negative thoughts, and that's how
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  Speaker 1: they come in, Just like those ants at a picnic
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  Speaker 1: that come out of nowhere. You can be enjoying life
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  Speaker 1: and living your best and then all of a sudden
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  Speaker 1: you have this moment where these thoughts just crowd your mind. Now,
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  Speaker 1: according to the National Science Foundation, we have approximately twelve
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  Speaker 1: thousand to fifteen thousand thoughts a day. But here's a
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  Speaker 1: startling thing. Eighty percent of our thoughts are negative. It
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  Speaker 1: really fascinates me that we are walking around with an
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  Speaker 1: unhealthy ratio of thinking. Our thoughts are oftentimes the thing
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  Speaker 1: that again guides our actions. We talk about that every
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  Speaker 1: week on the podcast. So if your thoughts are eighty
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  Speaker 1: percent negative, what are your actions looking like? So I
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  Speaker 1: was doing a study about this theory. And there's a
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  Speaker 1: doctor by the name of Daniel g. Amen and he
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  Speaker 1: wrote a book called Change your Brain, Change Your Life.
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  Speaker 1: He says, if you get your brain right, your mind
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  Speaker 1: will follow. And so for him, he puts how your
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  Speaker 1: brain basically sources negative information into four cornerstones. The first one,
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  Speaker 1: and I think we've all been there, is regrets of
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  Speaker 1: the past. And I've talked about this before, where we
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  Speaker 1: just get into the woods the should have, Kulda would have?
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  Speaker 1: Why didn't I should have? I could have? I would have?
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  Speaker 1: And so we have these regrets that kind of hold
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  Speaker 1: us down. That's what number one. The second one is
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  Speaker 1: failure or fear of failure. This is all the what ifs. Well,
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  Speaker 1: what if I go out there and I look like
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  Speaker 1: a fool. What if I go out there and they
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  Speaker 1: laugh at me? What if? What if? What if? And
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  Speaker 1: we never exercise the what is? What is that I
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  Speaker 1: have now? Right? So again those negative thoughts just crowd
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  Speaker 1: in and we focus on all the what ifs, the
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  Speaker 1: what ifs of failure. The next one, and this is
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  Speaker 1: one that I think everyone suffers with because all we
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  Speaker 1: all have different cohorts of friends and family, and when
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  Speaker 1: you look around the culture, it seems like certain things
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  Speaker 1: are celebrated. And if you don't have that certain thing,
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  Speaker 1: and you can't compare yourself to that certain person or
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  Speaker 1: certain group of persons, then you have this unhealthy comparison.
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  Speaker 1: And that's another way, right, because you're so focused on
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  Speaker 1: everybody else's glory and everything else that everybody's doing, that
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  Speaker 1: you're not even looking at your uniquely designed path. There
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  Speaker 1: is a group of people that you were designed to serve.
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  Speaker 1: You have a unique story that only you can tell
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  Speaker 1: to that group of people. But again, the unhealthy comparison
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  Speaker 1: is another weight, another one of those cornerstones that weigh
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  Speaker 1: us down. With these negative thoughts, and then the final
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  Speaker 1: cornerstone is blame. With this one, it's a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of both, right, it's a mix of blaming other people.
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  Speaker 1: You know, sometimes as we go through life, there are
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  Speaker 1: people involved on our path, and I think sometimes it's
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  Speaker 1: easy to become a victim of your story. And I'm
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  Speaker 1: challenging you today, I'm reminding you of what these things are,
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  Speaker 1: but challenging you today to not be a victim of
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  Speaker 1: your story. It's your story, you get to craft it
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  Speaker 1: how you want. But when we have this cornerstone of blame,
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  Speaker 1: we tend to find people in the storyline or in
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  Speaker 1: the store, on the storyboard that we can put and
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  Speaker 1: cast blame upon. But guess what, that doesn't do anything
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  Speaker 1: to help your story elevate to the next level, because
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  Speaker 1: that's what you want to do, So blaming someone is
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not the way to do it. The other part
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  Speaker 1: of blame is blaming yourself. If something already happened, I
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  Speaker 1: get it, I've been there. You know you blame yourself.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's the worst form of blame there is,
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  Speaker 1: because you just keep putting yourself back in that story,
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  Speaker 1: and that's how we get these repeat stories. In our
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  Speaker 1: life cycle, and when things happen, we just keep telling
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  Speaker 1: that same story and telling that same story, and then
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  Speaker 1: we're caught up in this cornerstone of negative thoughts. No
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  Speaker 1: wonder how our thoughts cycle is filled with eighty percent
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  Speaker 1: of negative thoughts. That's really really wild. Today we are
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  Speaker 1: gonna kill those automatic negative thoughts, and how we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: do that. I refer all this back to doctor Amen,
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  Speaker 1: and in his book, he talks and identifies nine different
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  Speaker 1: negative thoughts, or what he calls ants, these automatic negative thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: And today I'm just going to really exercise or talk
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  Speaker 1: through three of them. But today we'll explore what we
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  Speaker 1: should do when these thoughts come about. So let's dive in.
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  Speaker 1: The ants are broken down into two sections. One is
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  Speaker 1: just kind of like your regular ants, and then the
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  Speaker 1: other section is killer ants. Right, those biting, red ants,
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  Speaker 1: the ones that sting. I know that you can automatically
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  Speaker 1: think of a stinging thought that leaves pain after you
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  Speaker 1: get done thinking about it. That's what I'm talking about
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  Speaker 1: when I talk about the killer ants. Those will kill
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  Speaker 1: your thoughts, your visions, your dreams faster than the regular
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  Speaker 1: ants will. Some of those answer are just nuisances, right,
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  Speaker 1: if you can get rid of them, learn the lesson
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  Speaker 1: that you came to learn or that you were to learn.
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  Speaker 1: So think about it like this, going back to the picnic.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe we didn't cover the food, maybe we didn't put
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  Speaker 1: it high enough. But the next time we have that picnic,
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  Speaker 1: the next time we have that barbecue, more than likely
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  Speaker 1: we would have picked up the lesson of what not
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  Speaker 1: to do for next time. And so that's your basic ants.
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  Speaker 1: But these killer ants, right, there are three major ones,
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  Speaker 1: and today we'll talk about one and I'll identify them
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  Speaker 1: each for you. So again we're talking about three of
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  Speaker 1: the different types of ants. The first one is the
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  Speaker 1: all or nothing thought. What that means is, say, for example,
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  Speaker 1: you are on an exercise regimen. You decided that I'm
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  Speaker 1: starting on Monday. I don't know what it is about Mondays.
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  Speaker 1: What about the weekends? We don't want to start right
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  Speaker 1: because on the weekends we turn up. Let's just be honest.
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  Speaker 1: But you decide on Monday morning, I'm starting my workout regimen.
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  Speaker 1: I'm starting the Monday after the new year. And here
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  Speaker 1: comes the Monday after the new year, or maybe next Monday,
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  Speaker 1: and you don't start. You see that as a done deal,
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  Speaker 1: all or nothing. I was supposed to start on this day.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't start on this day. It's a fail. There's
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  Speaker 1: no redemption, there's no coming back, there's no starting point.
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  Speaker 1: Everything is done right then and there. That's the all
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  Speaker 1: or nothing mentality. And we can change that and we'll
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  Speaker 1: talk about the ways we can uproot those negative thoughts. Right.
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  Speaker 1: So that's one of those six regular ants, and then
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  Speaker 1: we'll talk about the killer ants, right, the ones that
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  Speaker 1: stay and bite. The other one is and this is
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  Speaker 1: one that listen, we all do this one. We think
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  Speaker 1: with our feelings. Are you guilty of it? I'll wait,
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  Speaker 1: put your hand up, because I'm putting my hand up.
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  Speaker 1: You are guilty of thinking with your feelings. You want
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  Speaker 1: me to give you some evidence. Here's some evidence. You
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  Speaker 1: know what. I feel like I'll never find love. We're
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  Speaker 1: not thinking with the information we have. We're not going
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  Speaker 1: with the what is, We're going with the you know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think this is gonna work out. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I will never find a good job. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like this entrepreneurial process, this entrepreneurial journey, is not for me.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I can't do this. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I can't create this event from scratch. That's thinking with
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  Speaker 1: your feelings. Imagine that if you allow your feelings to
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  Speaker 1: guide everything that you did. And some of us have
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  Speaker 1: some crazy feelings, we'll get up in the morning, going
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  Speaker 1: back to the first example and say I don't feel
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  Speaker 1: like working out. If I said to myself, I don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like working out, I will never work out because
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  Speaker 1: my feelings never feel like working out. I'll just be
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  Speaker 1: honest with you. So I go with consistency. I've been
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  Speaker 1: doing it for so long, I'm not gonna stop now.
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  Speaker 1: But this thought process of thinking with your feelings, this
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  Speaker 1: is one of those ants you got to kill when
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  Speaker 1: you get it, and we'll talk about how to do
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  Speaker 1: that here in a minute. And the last one, now,
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  Speaker 1: this is one of the killer ants. These are the
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  Speaker 1: ones that sting that bite after they occur. You know
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  Speaker 1: how it is if you've ever been bitten by ants, Listen,
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  Speaker 1: the killer ants. Not the ones that crawl around and
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  Speaker 1: make a mess and they just feel ichy when they
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  Speaker 1: get on you. The ones that come on there, come
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  Speaker 1: on your skin to wreak havoc, to leave you with
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  Speaker 1: that bite and sometimes leave you with a mark. And
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  Speaker 1: leave you with pain. Now, some of you may be
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  Speaker 1: too young to remember Miss Cleo, but back in the
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  Speaker 1: nineties when there was psychics galore, there was this one
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  Speaker 1: psychic called Miss Cleo and she would fortune tell your life.
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  Speaker 1: But with this killer ant, you're being Miss Cleo, predicting
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  Speaker 1: all the demise that's gonna comeface you, all the worst scenarios, right,
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  Speaker 1: your fortune telling everything bad that's going to happen to you.
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  Speaker 1: You never look at the good, and it hurts and
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  Speaker 1: it immobilizes you. And that's what happens if you've ever
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  Speaker 1: been spitten by an ant. It immobilizes you. You have
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  Speaker 1: to stop. You gotta rub that thing out. You cry sometimes. Listen,
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  Speaker 1: it's real. That pain is real. And so when you're
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  Speaker 1: predicting your worst, you live in that. Remember, whatever you
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  Speaker 1: focus on expands. Do you really want a prediction that
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  Speaker 1: your future is already in demise before you step out
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  Speaker 1: the door in this day? Do you really want that
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  Speaker 1: to be the story you get to tell? Because you
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  Speaker 1: are the only one that get to tell your story.
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  Speaker 1: You are the common denominator for your life. Okay, So
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  Speaker 1: we've been talking about these ants, and I know you
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  Speaker 1: are just ready to start killing some ants. So let's
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  Speaker 1: do that. That's our next step. So we know what
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  Speaker 1: the ants are. Now this ain't this isn't all the
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  Speaker 1: ants that are out there. Remember he has nine different ants.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about two in the regular category, and that
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  Speaker 1: those killer ants. They are three killer ants. So let's
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  Speaker 1: talk about how we explore these negative thoughts when they
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  Speaker 1: come up. Well, first of all, you know they're going
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  Speaker 1: to come up because they invade your space, just like
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  Speaker 1: the picnic. You're minding your business, drink in your drink,
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  Speaker 1: your adult beverage, maybe your lemonade, whatever it is you're doing,
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  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden you look around and get
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  Speaker 1: something sweet, a sweet treat, and the ants have had
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  Speaker 1: their way with your meal, had their way with your treats.
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  Speaker 1: And that's how these negative, automatic, negative thoughts do. They
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  Speaker 1: come in out of nowhere. So the first thing you
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  Speaker 1: do is when you notice them, you need to recognize
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  Speaker 1: it's here. You need to write it down and talk
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  Speaker 1: back to it. I know it may sound a little craykray,
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  Speaker 1: but eighty percent of our thoughts are negative. That's Craig Cray.
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  Speaker 1: So guess what you have work to do when you
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  Speaker 1: leave this podcast you need to spend some time with
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  Speaker 1: your thoughts and write down the thoughts. I actually did
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  Speaker 1: this exercise a few years ago. I thought it was
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  Speaker 1: really interesting when I first learned about the percent of
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  Speaker 1: negative thoughts that we have, the ratio of our thoughts
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  Speaker 1: to the negative thoughts we have. I spent probably thirty
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  Speaker 1: minutes and I just wrote down everything that was coming
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  Speaker 1: to my mind in that moment. And that might be
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  Speaker 1: an exercise that you want to do. Do it for
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  Speaker 1: five minutes, do it for ten minutes. Try it and
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  Speaker 1: you'll see that the things that just flash in your
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  Speaker 1: mind how quickly negativity And once you start one negative thought,
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  Speaker 1: it just snowballs into the next one, and the next one,
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  Speaker 1: and the next one and the next one and next
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  Speaker 1: thing you know, you're on this crazy, big, growing, expanding
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  Speaker 1: rollercoaster of negative thoughts. And it's not going to stop.
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  Speaker 1: If you've ever seen a snowball, it's going to crash
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  Speaker 1: before it actually stops. I know it sounds crazy, but
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  Speaker 1: if you go back to episode which one was it
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  Speaker 1: when I talked about fear, where fear invaded my life,
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  Speaker 1: I had to talk fear out of there. And so
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  Speaker 1: what I've been doing and I'll be honest with you.
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  Speaker 1: If you think I'm Craig Cray, well you haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: anything yet because I talk to my negative feelings. I
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  Speaker 1: talked to the negative thoughts that come up, and it's
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  Speaker 1: so important to do that. Let me give you an
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  Speaker 1: example of someone who did that and rebuke the whole thing.
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  Speaker 1: If you remember, in the Bible, there is a story
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  Speaker 1: about calming the wind. So the Disciples and Jesus they
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  Speaker 1: were on sea, and Jesus was down in the stern,
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  Speaker 1: you know, resting on his comfort pillow, and here comes
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  Speaker 1: a major storm. Winds are thrashing the boat left and right.
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  Speaker 1: Water is just banging against the boat and coming into
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  Speaker 1: the boat. And the disciples are like, we're gonna die.
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  Speaker 1: We're literally gonna die. The fear creeps in, the doubt,
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  Speaker 1: creeps in all the negativity. Right here they are. They
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  Speaker 1: have all these ants on the boat, right, it's all
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  Speaker 1: or nothing. It's either we live or we die. It's
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  Speaker 1: either oh my God, I think we're gonna die. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like this is the end for us. Feeling and
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  Speaker 1: then also fortune telling that's it, we're done. And then
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  Speaker 1: one disciple decides to go down and tell Jesus, what
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  Speaker 1: do we master? We're up here, we're getting ready to die.
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  Speaker 1: What are we gonna do? And Jesus, with the most
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  Speaker 1: calmness about him, he says to the storm, be still.
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  Speaker 1: And that is the first example that I I know
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  Speaker 1: of where someone spoke to the storm in their life.
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  Speaker 1: So my recommendation for you, just as doctor amends, is
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  Speaker 1: to talk to that thing. Write it down, recognize it,
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  Speaker 1: know what it is, write it down, and then talk
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  Speaker 1: to it. And you don't have to have a whole
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  Speaker 1: long conversation because what Jesus did was simply say be still,
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  Speaker 1: and that was it, and we need to talk to
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  Speaker 1: the storms in our life. The next one is when
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  Speaker 1: you stop that storm. When you say to stop, you
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  Speaker 1: want to have a corrected thought. So again let's go
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  Speaker 1: back to our gym example. You want to start on Monday,
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  Speaker 1: You get ready on Sunday, you put your clothes out,
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  Speaker 1: you do what everybody says to do, have everything ready,
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  Speaker 1: so it's a no brainer in the morning. That's one
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  Speaker 1: of my tips that I tell people. If you want
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  Speaker 1: to get on a regular regimen of workout, put your
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  Speaker 1: stuff out the night before. You put your stuff out
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  Speaker 1: the night before the next day, you get up and
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  Speaker 1: your feelings start telling you I don't feel like it today.
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  Speaker 1: Instead of saying I'll learn nothing in that moment, say
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  Speaker 1: you know what, I didn't make it today, but I
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  Speaker 1: can do it later on tonight or or I didn't
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  Speaker 1: make it today, I can get up tomorrow morning and
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  Speaker 1: do it. So you want to take that thought, take
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  Speaker 1: that moment, recognize that, yeah I didn't do it. Yeah
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  Speaker 1: I thought with my feelings. Okay, I recognize it. I
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  Speaker 1: wrote it down. I could go do something about it.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what the second one says, stop it and
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  Speaker 1: then correct the thought. That's the thing we have to
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  Speaker 1: correct the thought. Find a thought to replace the thought
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  Speaker 1: that led to our cornerstone of negative thinking. And finally,
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  Speaker 1: id your aunt? Id it know which one it is?
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  Speaker 1: You're going to start, and I'm going to leave the
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  Speaker 1: show notes for docta Amen's study, and you are going
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  Speaker 1: to start to recognize these fortune telling thinking with feelings
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  Speaker 1: and all or nothing type ants that come into your
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  Speaker 1: life as automatic negative thoughts. Id it? That's the first
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  Speaker 1: thing they say in anything that you want to overcome.
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  Speaker 1: For people that deal with alcohol or any type of addiction,
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  Speaker 1: the first thing they tell them is to recognize, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I did it, I am a whatever, whatever that addiction is.
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  Speaker 1: You say that first, and then you proceed with working
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  Speaker 1: to kill it the daily work. And here's the thing
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  Speaker 1: we've all dealt with ants. They don't just go away.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes they come back even after you've done all the things,
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  Speaker 1: So you have to keep working at killing it, iding
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  Speaker 1: it and going from there. I know we're coming to
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  Speaker 1: the end of the year, but I want you to
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  Speaker 1: do this work. Spend anywhere from five to thirty minutes
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  Speaker 1: just analyzing your thoughts. Let your thoughts run wild, because
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  Speaker 1: that's what they're gonna do anyway, but let them run
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  Speaker 1: wild on purpose. Recognize what it is that's coming in,
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  Speaker 1: write it down, talk back to it, replace it, or
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  Speaker 1: correct it with the right thought or a thought that
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  Speaker 1: will carry you in the direction that you need to go.
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  Speaker 1: And then id it and kill it for good. That
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  Speaker 1: is your work this week. That is your work before
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  Speaker 1: you wrap up the year. I know it's Christmas time
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  Speaker 1: is holiday time, and we just want to enjoy. But
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  Speaker 1: if you don't kill these ants today, you're going to
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  Speaker 1: live with them over and over again, and you're going
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  Speaker 1: to continue to manage these negative thoughts. Like doctor MN said,
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  Speaker 1: if you get your brain right, if you get these
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  Speaker 1: things right, your mind will follow. And it's time for
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  Speaker 1: us to not let ourselves be guided by our feelings,
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  Speaker 1: but do the work. Manage your thoughts and you can
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